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Practical and Simple Decision-Making & Problem-Solving Toolbox

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Lessons in This Class

    • 1.

      Why should we develop Decision-Making Skills

      4:34

    • 2.

      4 ways we make decisions

      6:32

    • 3.

      7 Phases in decision making

      7:07

    • 4.

      Obstacles in decision making

      9:57

    • 5.

      Decision making TOOL 1

      3:12

    • 6.

      Decision making TOOL 2

      7:08

    • 7.

      Decision making TOOL 3

      3:44

    • 8.

      Decision making TOOL 4

      6:32

    • 9.

      Decision making TOOL 5

      3:54

    • 10.

      Decision making mistakes - MISTAKE 1

      3:15

    • 11.

      Decision making mistakes - MISTAKE 2

      2:52

    • 12.

      Decision making mistakes - MISTAKE 3

      2:14

    • 13.

      Decision making mistakes - MISTAKE 4

      2:04

    • 14.

      Decision making mistakes - MISTAKE 5

      2:47

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Hello lovely people and welcome to your Practical Guide to Effective Problem Solving and Decision Making in Life and Business.

As a psychologist and life coach, I created 8-week training to help my clients to overcome life obstacles and improve their personal development skills. 

This class is actually one week of that training and it will help you to develop Decision-Making and Problem-Solving skills. It contains 5 very effective decision-making tools and techniques, as well as the 5 most common mistakes we make in the decision-making process. 

Decision making is not easy and it is one of the most important skills we can learn. Scientists say that in one day we make an average of about 35,000 decisions ( that's a lot :) )and if we are not skilled, it is not good for us.

When we struggle with decision making that makes us feel stressed, anxious, frustrated, self-confident becomes low, we feel less capable, we feel we have no control over ourselves and our lives.

Do you feel this way too?

If you do, don't worry, it's not your fault, you just didn't get the right tools and techniques. In this course you will learn exactly that ... you will get the tools you need to effectively make decisions and solve problems.

What will you learn?

  • How decision making affect on our life, stress level, emotions, and behavior

  • Why decision-making skill in important

  • 4 ways we make decisions

  • How to think clearly

  • How and why do we make decisions we make (decision-making process)

  • 7 phases in the decision-making process

  • What are the obstacles that we have in the decision-making process

  • How to overcome obstacles in the decision-making process

  • What are the 5 most common Decision-making mistakes we made

  • How can you recognize those mistakes to avoid those mistakes

  • What are the 5 most effective tools in the decision-making process

  • and more...

All these tools you can apply to your life, your personal development, relationship development, and business.

I hope you will enjoy and improve your life

Welcome to this journey,

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Self Clarity Academy By Sanja Stojanovic

MA Psychology Professor, Writer, Creator

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1. Why should we develop Decision-Making Skills: Decision making, how decision-making is connected with stress, and why this skill is so important. Scientists say that in just one day, we have to make about 35 thousand decisions. In just one day. Some simple decisions like, what should I wear today? What should I eat today? Should I go with the taxi? Should a goal with a boss to some more complex and sometimes really tough decisions, like decisions like Go, will they stay in some relationship? Really say, in a marriage, will I still work at that job? That I work? So our whole day is full of decision making. And decision making is a mental process. So it's really exhausting when we don't know how properly to do this. And that's why this keel is so important. Because when we are not able to make some decision and it makes us feel really nervous. It brings so much nervousness. It brings so much tangent in every, in our everyday is like some task that we have to do, but we don't know how to do. And then with a lie decision-making. And it brings the stress in every they of our life. And that provokes some really negative feelings like anxiety, depression, disappointment, low self-esteem creates some bad picture about yourself. There are so many people who now DOM believing their self and their not able because of that, believed there are not able to meet the decision. And then the result is really low self-esteem for asleep. That leads to some kind of depression. There are some cases like that. So decision making is really important skill to learn if we want to get rid of stress. Because it's something what do we have to do every day? And because there are some great tools and techniques that we can actually use to mean those decisions, better. Decisions, better. Okay? So in this section, I would like to teach you some interesting tools and techniques that are based on science. And some of them will be really like usual you heard about now. And some of those tools and techniques would be taken from some organizational models, some medical models. So what is important here is that you will have the set of tools and you will be able to pick which one you will use when you have to make the decision. Okay? So every, every tool is basically a liable on every every decision and every area of life that you have to me. Okay? So literally got, when we finish this section on when we learn about all those tools and techniques and methods of decision-making, is that you will not be so stressed. You will be able to make decisions in a proper way. To make decisions much faster, you will get more self-esteem and you will be more confident. So this skill is a life skill is not just something that you have to do when you are at work or when you have to do only interrelationship. So it's something that you should develop constantly. Decision-making skill is a life-skill. Okay? So if you're ready, let's go. 2. 4 ways we make decisions: How do we make decisions? There are a couple of ways that we use. We all use in this decision-making process. And one of them is by intuition. And that intuition is based on our previous experience. And our brain is doing that very, very fast, that sometimes we're not even aware of that process. But even a tiny decisions like what's shampoo you will buy today? Or which, which path you will your children, you're going somewhere. It all it's all based on some previous experience and some informations that we had. It's a mix. It's like like our brain is constantly listing all the similar experiences and negative experiences, positive experiences, and that's how you make the decision. The perfect example of this one is like marketing. Reclaimed. Commercial cloud will be on Italian, I guess. So commercial. How they work and why you choose that shampoo over that one. Because you saw that shampoo on the television and somebody told you that shampoo commercial, somebody told you that shampoo is the perfect one. And especially if that person is somebody who's famous, then you will trust that person. And when you are trying to pick between those two shampoos, your brain will trying to find the information about those. So that one that doesn't have the commercial will not be an option. Because the another one is something that you know, you heard about it, you saw it. You you already familiar, that is familiar for you. So that's why your brain will pick that shampoo because what is familiar is much more safe. I gave you the example of this shampoo. But when I speak about this, I think about so many different areas in life. So many different things in life. So no, just when you go to the store. Okay. It's much more complicated and complex. Making decision, according to intuition is based on some patterns that we created according to our experiences in the past and those experiences that were successful. Next one is decision-making by measuring. So it's when we have some options and then we have some informations, and then we simply wait. What are the consequences? What are the, what is good about this? What is good about this? What is negative voters with, is negative about this. So we have two input, so much time to pick. But it's a little bit complicated when we have more than two options. So here we are analyzing and we're gathering information. Next way. How we make decisions is by asking for help. Sometimes when we are not able to make some decision, then virally on some other people. And that's like when you are literally ask someone else or when you are Google like experiences with that shampoo. Ok, we will use the shampoo for, for example. So we have dealt in our own decision and this could depend on our personality and our past. So we are trying to ask other people, we want to see other options. We want to see other people's opinion. And this is somehow also like distancing from the consequences and obligations. So we usually use this one when we have some tough decision to make, when the decision is very important on or when that decision is about some other people, not just about our life, okay, so that's the moment when we want to involve other people in this process. And the last one is testing the options. This is something that companies usually do, but something that people in real life are not able to do constantly, okay, sometimes we have possibility to test some options, Sometimes we don't have time to do that. For example, if you have to be between two jobs or tomb universities at the moment, okay? So you just have to try that one option or you don't even have any chance to test all possibilities to see what is good. This option batter. What will happen if this option is is test that. So we test options. And then at the end of this process, we just take the best option that we can. So when you see all these ways that we use to make a decision, you will maybe notice that you use all of them according to specific situation or specific decision that you have to meet. So if you're ready, we can go to the next lecture and see what are some phases of decision-making process. 3. 7 Phases in decision making : Let's talk about phases in decision-making. We have seven basic phases in decision-making. And those phases are for basically every, every decision that we have to make. And let's talk about how that process goals. So the first thing that is happening in this process is that we are thinking about the decision that we have to we have to identify that decision, we have to clarify. We have to make it really clear. What is that thing that we have to make a decision on? For example, the decision that I have to make is which university I will apply for or which job I will apply for, or am I going to move to another country, or I will stay in my country? So in this process and moment, we have to make it clear. Like what is the goal? What is that? I think one thing that have to be made at the end of this process, and this happens like really fast. We already know, what do we have to think about? What should we, what should we decide on? Okay? And next phase is gather informations. So gathering information is the second thing that we all are doing. After we clarify, what is it? And we usually do that right now on Google. But the point of this one is to gather all possible informations about the thing that we have to decide on. If we have, for example, to pick between two universities, we will gather informations like about boats. If we want to buy one thing, for example, some vacuum cleaner, we will gather informations about it. What is important here is that we have to think rationally and we have to gather all information's positive informations and also negative informations. So this is also the moment when we implement other people in this process because we are trying to find the experiences of other people with this product or thing that we also want. And that's the moment where we may make males make the mix of other peoples experiences in our own experience. Next phase, identify alternatives and options. So what is logical after, after the step number two is that we have some options. If you want to buy the vacuum cleaner after you're gathering information. So you will have, for example, five that you liked. Okay, so here we have to identify and ride down and see clearly what are the options that we have. Next, weight the evidence. When we have options, the next thing that we have to do is to weight. Okay? First we start with 1075 options, but we always, no matter how options we have at the beginning, we always come to that two options at the end, because decision-making is basically, basically picking one thing, OK? Picking just one thing over some other alternatives. So we are creating alternatives. And in this moment, we are waiting. And we are trying to see which one is better for us. And in this process there are so many things that are included. Heath, emotions, plans, fear, hope, previous experience, wishes for future. So that's why this step is really complicated. And that's why decision-making is not something that is easy. Ok, so next phase is choose among alternatives. This is phase number five, and here it's time to use something and to choose the alternative. This is the moment when we have clearly older alternatives, all the options, we have probably sometimes two best options. And it's time to pick just one. Next phase when we pick just one is to take an action. So when we picked one option in this process is time to test, to do something, to go to that university, to buy that whacking cleaner, to try that shampoo, to move to another country. So in this moment, that is the time that we are basically doing something from home. And during the pandemic corona 19 I'm sorry if you hear something that because of this young boys, you and I have another one that was my son's or I hope you will understand because I'm recording this during the dynamics. So we are all in the current him probably as you are right now. And the last step is ok, so you don't want to go anywhere. So the last step is to review the decision and review the decision is to see what have we done and is our decision is good or not. If it's not, we can restart the program and we can restart with the decision making process. So let's go to another lesson. What 4. Obstacles in decision making: When we list all those phases and when we say like, OK, this is the process of decision-making, it sounds easy. You have seven steps. You just have to sit and you just have to go through that seven steps and you will make good decisions. But in reality is not so easy, is not like that. Because we are human beings and we're not computers, we're not robots. And we have emotions, we have wishes, we have memory, we have other people among us. We have so many different things that can be some factors that can make our decision-making process very hard. In this lecture, we will going to talk about that. Some problems that we can face with when we are trying to make the decision. Some obstacles and some factors that can affect on our decision-making process. So the first obstacle, and the first factor is lack of informations. If we don't have some specific amount of informations, it will be really tough for us to make decision because we will not feel confident to make that decision, will not feel enough knowledgeable to to make that decision. We will not feel competent to make that decision. Even at the other hand, we have that people who make decisions against this, who don't have informations, but they are so much secure in their self and they have so much confidence and they make decisions even if they don't have like, um, a couple of valuable informations about something that I have to decide on, and that leads to some wrong decisions. So that is the first obstacle when we are not able to gather informations or when we skip this step in that process of decision-making. So we have to pay attention, we have to come down and we have to sit down. And we have to gather informations if we want to make a good decision. Next obstacle, personal characteristics. So personal characteristics are really important. They really determine our complete life and also the decision-making process. So what does it mean when I say like personal characteristics? So it means that if you have to decide about one thing and you have find different people. And if you observe the process, you will see they will make the same decision, okay? But in a five different ways. And why is that? Because we all have different personal characteristics based on some previous experience. In, of course, based on our childhood, you know, about your rational beliefs that we create when we are children. That creates my picture of myself. And according to my picture of myself, I will have some specific approach to decision-making. So what does it mean? It means that if I'm insecure, if I have a lot of lack of motivation, if I have lack of self-esteem because of something that happens in my childhood, that mean that this will be it will be very tough for me to make a decision. And if you have some another person who had only mostly positive experiences in life and have so much self-confidence, that person will go through this process very faster than me, and that person will make that decision very faster than me. So there are so many factors that effect on how we think about ourself. And how we think about ourself really affect on how are we going to make decisions? Is that process, in that process the tough for us with that process be really easy for us, okay? In the citizens, lack of motivation, lack of self-confidence. Those are all factors that can affect in our decision-making. But what we can do about that is to just be aware of that in, somehow remove those personal characteristics. And imagine that we are very rational and without emotions and without past and without all those negative feelings and thoughts about ourself and make decisions in that way. How you will learn. I will give you some tools and techniques. But right now, let's see what is the next obstacle. So personal characteristics are the factor that is inside, we can say. And the next obstacle is the pressure from outside. It's when we have some deadlines or when we have some people who are making us too, asking us to hurry up, who put the pressure on us? And when we have to make some decisions, when we are not ready in this process is so first trading because we feel so nervousness and pressure because we don't have maybe time to get all the informations. We don't have time to think about all the possibilities, think about all the options. And this obstacle is really, really tough and really affect on a stress level. Preconception. Preconception is another obstacle and it's really, really usual. What is happening here is we have preconception about the new things. You remember when we were speaking before, how we choose something's according to our experience. And here we don't have experience. When we don't have experience with something, personal experience, we have pre-conception. And if that preconception is really negative, it is a problem. But also if that preconception is positive, okay, when we are so happy about something, but we don't have like the right amount of information about it or experience that also could lead to some wrong decision that we make. And the other part of this is that we have a fear of the consequences that we will get when we made certain decisions. We are so afraid of the consequences. And that's why we decide not to make the decision. And there's one sentence that I I repeat constantly and I think I repeat every time when I, when I speak about decision-making and aids, we always make the decision. Even when we are not making the decision. I was speaking about this in my course, ten steps to permanent happiness. And it is really easy to understand. If you're in a bad relationship and you have this preconception and you're really afraid what will happen if you end this relationship and you quit? You wit, of decision-making, you are thinking like, okay, I don't know what will happen. So I will not make the decision to leave and to end this relationship. But you're making the decision that you will stay in that relationship. So even when we choose not to do something, we always choose to keep with something that we are doing when decision-making is about changing something. So if we don't change, we will stay in the same position. And that's also the option. That's also the alternative, and that's also the decision. So that's why decision-making is so important skill. Because even if you're not as making decision, you're making the decision. Everything you do, everything you think your life is decision-making in according to those decision, decisions, you are creating your life. Ok? So if you understood this well, I think we're ready for the next lesson. 5. Decision making TOOL 1: Let's start with tools and techniques. So we have some really simple tools and we have some, a little bit more advanced tools for decision-making. And you will see during, during this process like which one will be the good for some decisions that you have to make. But you can apply all of them basically to any decision that you have to make. As the first one will be the simplest one and it's the one that you guys all know, and it's pros and cons. So we have to make one decision. And then we make the chart. We write pros and cons. And then we start with writing. So what are all good things and positive things about this decision? So if the question is, should I move to another country or should I stay in this country? We can say, what are the pros and cons if I move to another country? And then you can list all the positive things that will happen. On other sides. You will write noun, All the negative things in the negative sides of this. So in this specific case, we can say, I will see a new country, I will meet. I will matter new people. I will travel the world. I will find out some possibilities and as some negative things and negative sides of this decision. You can write like I will be far away from home. I will be far from the people I love, from my family. I will miss them. So in life, we always have this two sides. There is always something good. And there was always something that, there's always something positive and there is always something negative. And that's why it's hard to decide. But when you sit down in where you list all of this, you can pick the thing that have more this positive, positive information, send positive sites. So now let's see what is your decision that you have to make? Download the PDF file, and you can immediately start with these two lists. All press was all cons. And if you have two options, if you had three options. So you can use this model for every simple option that you, that you have. An at the end, you can wait. Which one has the most positive sides? 6. Decision making TOOL 2: Next, Decision-Making Tool is one of the best decision-making tools, and it comes from the philosopher Rene Descartes. You probably heard about him. So he created that Renee, the kurtosis square. That is really valuable in decision-making process. And it's really easy to use and you can use it really fast. It doesn't take so much time and so much steps. So it's based on four simple questions that you have to ask yourself, that you have to insert. And then when you answer those question, you will have the complete picture of what will happen. And you will know, is that something that you want? So let's start. This model have four questions. And the first question is, what will happen if this happens? Next question, what will happen if this doesn't happen? Question number three, what won't happen if this happens? And the last question, what want happen? If this doesn't happen? Maybe this sounds a little bit confusing when you first read. But those are important questions. And now we're going to use one example. We can use the same example, okay? Should I go to move to another country, or should I stay here with my partner? Let's assume that's a problem because your partner don't want you to go to another country and don't want to. So maybe you have to break up with that partner if you want to go and chase your dreams. So let's ask the first question of this, renewed the cartels square and let see what will happen at the end. So first question is, what will happen if this happens? The answer could be, I will, my dreams will come true. I will become very great doctor. For example, you want to move to Germany to, to become a doctor or you want to go to USA to become an actress, model, lawyer. So if this happens, if I go to another country, I will have a chance to achieve all my goals, to achieve my dreams. And I will end my relationship, my partner will broke up with me. Next question is. What will happen if this doesn't happen? So in this case, we can say, if I don't go to Germany, if they don't go to USA, nevermind, Let's just Germany for example. I will maybe not achieve all my goals. I will maybe not have so many chances to level up in some category of my life that I want in career. But I will stay with my partner, I will keep my relationship. I will be with my family members, they are here. And maybe I will start a family. So let's answering the third question of this square. What will happen if this happens? What will happened? If this happens? So if I go to Germany, I will not stay in a relationship with my partner. I will lose the love of my life. I will not start a family soon. And you can think about some other, other options according to your specific problem. Number four, what won't happen if this doesn't happen? So if I don't move, if I don't go to another country, what doesn't happen? I will not lose my partner. I will, I will not lose the love of my life. In this case. I will not create the some gorgeous career, huge courier. I will not be rich, for example. Ok? I will not do anything that is connected with your case. So right now when you have this four answers or several answers, you will see all the possible consequences of your possible action. And by seeing the consequences, you will be able to clearly see what is that consequence and situation that shoe don't want your live. And from this moment you can go with that elimination process. You will see four scenarios, maybe more. But for scenarios, how your life will be if you make the decision or if you don't make the decision, or if you make one decision, or if you make another decision. So you will be able somehow to see the future. And now you can eliminate all those situations that you don't want. In the end, you will end up with the one that you like the most. And that will be simply your guide. Your guide, and that will tell you what is the right thing to do. So I hope you like this one. This is one of my favorite tools in decision-making process. It's a detailed but simple, really simple, but at the same time detail. And it's simply touch every, every single, single area that is important in decision-making process. So download the PDF file and test this Decision-Making Tool. And you can write me to tell me like, how do you like it? Let's go to the next one. 7. Decision making TOOL 3: Next decisionmaking tool is called growth model, and it stands for Goal, reality, options or obstacles. And real. This model is really good for all problem-solving and decision-making situations. So you can use it when you have some specific problem or when you have to make some decisions. So let's explain a little bit more every letter and every step. So we have four steps. And the first one is goal. So I have to identify what is my goal here. And let's use the same example. My goal is to go to Germany and work as a doctor and build the career. Next letter is reality. What is the reality in the moment? So according to this example that we choose, we can say the reality is that I have a chance to go, but there are some emotional things in other people's opinions that will maybe stop me from this reality is that I'm really under the stress, but the reality is that I have a chance to meet my goal. Next letter is Options and obstacles. So according to our example here we will write the obstacle is my relationship. My partner doesn't support me in this. So the obstacle is that if I choose the career, I will maybe lose my partner, my log relationship. So this is just one obstacle. And in your case, you can always name as much obstacles and options that you have. And the final, final phase and final step is will. And this is the key moment. And that is the question, what will I do? And this is the moment when you are about to make the decision. So you see the previous letters and you measure, you can weight. Also, you can combine some decision-making tools like if you're using this one in this moment, you can include pros and cons tool because right now you have obstacles and options. So in this moment you can combine and you can use that pros and cons Decision-Making Tool. And that will help you to finally do what is, what do you have to do? Ask yourself the question, What I will do? And that's the final step of this model, as you see is it's really short model and I think it's for some maybe smaller decisions that you, that you have to make. And it could be really, really useful, but you just have to practice. Okay, so let's go to another one. 8. Decision making TOOL 4: And here is the first very professional decisionmaking tool, and it's called PDS. And it's mostly used in health care. So it's assigned space model, and it stands for plan, do, study, act. This decisionmaking tool you can use when you have to decide about something that is maybe a little bit complicated. Something that you need time for. Simply any decisions that are maybe a little bit tough for you. So let's speak about every letter is for plan. This is something that you also can use for some projects, okay, not only on decision-making. And here, plan, it means really to sit and plan, to be really detail. To gather so many informations, to think about consequences, to think about future, to really pay attention. So here you can write to set goals, to think about obstacles, to think about everything. So maybe we can say that those three previous decision-making tools that we have, they are in this phase of this decision-making tool. So plan, gathering information is thinking about the future, thinking about consequences, thinking about thinking about positive and negative things. Thinking about our self, thinking about our life, thinking about simply really sitting, planning and thinking. Next step is act. So you see how fast it goes, plan and act. But it's because this is detailed. You will spend more time in this planning section. Next phase is, do you see how it goes here really fast like plant do. But it's not like that because you will spend more time in this planning process is not like you sit and then five minutes plan five minutes til five minutes act. Now. So you use this one for really important and when decisions are problems that you have. So in this second part, like do is that you are gathering informations, you're defining the problem. So it's like you're starting to practicing your plan. Like you're testing. Yes, you're basically testing all of those things that you have planned. Also, they use this step two for analysis, okay, so they're analyzing their testing, the plans, and they're analyzing. So here, what they do in companies and in health care, they're comparing the current situation in analysis with the predictions. Because in the first step when we were speaking about planning, we had some predictions. So in the third byte, it's the moment to compare predictions with the current moment, is the moment to summarize everything. So you can go to the next level and act. So that's the moment when you basically already decided that your option is good and that you will implement that, that you will use that. Or if that option was not good, you will try something else. You'll start over again and you will try some other options. You will try with some other, other decisions. In short words, we can say it's like I think and I planned something and get her some specific informations. I test that option. I compare how was how is the connection between my first land and this situation right here? And if it works, I will just continue, I will implement that. Or if it's not good, I will quit and I will start over again with some, another planet. So let's try to implement our example with the girl who would like to go to Germany to become a doctor here. So her plan, yes, it involves so many things like previous studies and the like, all all the things that she she would like to do there. And the second thing would be her for her to test that. So maybe some internship or to spend a couple of months there, ok. And the third would be like to summarize the experience with the previous plans. And at the end, like the step number four, it will be like her decision, like I will go this is it. This is really good decisions. So I'm going to germinate and I will win that doctor that I planned eight years ago. Or it's not what I wanted is not what I I thought it would be. It's not like I I imagined, so I will quit this one and I will try something else. So he's not so easy in life, but I wanted to share this professional decisionmaking tool, VQ. Maybe it will be useful for you in some process of decision-making. But try tested, download the PDF file and test. 9. Decision making TOOL 5: Here is one simple and very powerful technique. It comes from the SEC EG Toyota. I hope that I said the name and surname right. At this technique is so powerful and it is like you are your own therapist. Ok? This technique means like ask five, why? Weiss? Ok. So you have to decide something when you have some problem or doubt, you have to ask the question why five times? While you're answering, you will end up with some prolly very rational answer. Okay, so let's try with, with some example. I want to go to Germany. Why? I want to go to Germany to become a doctor, but I'm not sure that's a good a year. I have problem with Mubarak. Why? Because I wanted to become a doctor, but my partner doesn't support that why? I wanted to become a doctor because that's something that is respectful and I want to be respected. Why? I want to be respected because I don't feel respected. Why? I don't feel respected because my parents were constantly criticizing me at when I was a child. So here it was like you or her. This our example had a personal therapist. So she came to this simple answer. And it's really deep. I mean, it's the questions are simple, the tool is simple, but it goes really deep in our subconscious, lets you some another example. This is example for someone who suffer from social anxiety. I don't want to go out. Why? There are so many people. And I'm afraid why? Well, I'm afraid that I will lose control and that I will had a panic attack in that I will fall down and that's scary. Why isn't scary? Well, that scared because I will maybe, maybe pass out and that I'm really not safe there. And why you think that's unsafe? Well, I don't know because I will be there there will be so many people. Oh, wait, so many people, so somebody could help me eat. That really happens. So in this circle of my social anxiety, I M safe outside. I'm not safe inside. A much safer outside. So what am I trying to say here is that this to help us to realize some irrational thoughts and beliefs that we have in our mind. And it sounds simple but is really powerful. And please test it, download the PDF file and test this tool. And it's really great because you're you don't need any papers. I mean, you can do that anytime, anywhere. Just asking the questions in your hat, just ask the five why's, and you will get the right answer. 11. Decision making mistakes - MISTAKE 2: Confirmation. This mistake means that at the beginning of decision-making process, we somehow, as we said, we have one information so we can rely on that one information or, or we can probably decide already subconsciously something we can we can just cheer up for, for, for some option. Okay. And then we are, when we gather those informations, when we're in that phase, gathering information, we are somehow trying to gather informations that are complimentary with our options that we like the most. For example. And that's the way we will never be objective. And if you want to make a good decision, you have to be objective. Ok? That's why you ask other people when you are subjective and you ask other people so they will tell you objectively. So if you make this mistake, it can lead you to really, really wrong decision. Because in decision making process, we cannot involve only emotions and our wishes. We have to involve some other other specific things. If we, if we want to make a good decision. So this mistake confirmation, like subconsciously, you're shining to find positive things of something. Let's give an example. You want to buy some vacuum cleaner and you like the yellow one. You don't like the red one. And only because that color that you love, you will try to find on the internet and Google you will type like positive sides of the yellow vacuum cleaner. Even if you will hear so many good things about red one, you will. You don't want to hear that, okay? You want confirmation that your wish is good. So you are trying to gather positive informations for your option in this example for the yellow vacuum cleaner. But take a big picture and think about this one and how many times in your life who made this mistake? Take your time and think about it. Because you have to like value everything and you have to gather a positive and negative informations for the option that you have. If you want to make a good decision. 12. Decision making mistakes - MISTAKE 3: Making a decision when you are emotional. But this is the mistake that is so often in our lives because emotions are the part of our lives in there, here, everyday, in their changing constantly, any of you are not learning about emotional intelligence. You could have problems. It's really important to learn about emotions. To learn how to control them, how to work with them, how to treat them because they are at the driving seat. So making the decision while you are emotional is a huge mistake. Anytime you're angry, anytime you are sad, anytime you're hungry, anytime you're disappointed, anytime you're anxious. Don't need decision, please. Because you will regret when we made the decision, when we are really emotional, we usually regret so many breakups under the really huge emulsions. And after two days, they're back again. So sometimes we will not have a chains to get back. We will not have the plan B, the backup plan, will not have the chains to do it over again or to reverse our words or our decisions. So that's why it's really important not to make this mistake. So when you feel emotional, just grow to some other place. Stop, stop for a second. For a day. Don't make decision. Weight your letter motions to calm down and then sit and then go through the process of seven steps of decision-making. 13. Decision making mistakes - MISTAKE 4: Next mistake is called like finding the perfect decision. Because of this mistake, we quit our decision-making process. We quit of finally the final product. Because this means over analyzing, trying to find all the possible informations and its effect in psychology that as much as options you have. So if you have three options or five options, it will be easier for you to choose. But if you have 152050 options, it will be so hard for you to pick the right one and you will quit. So that's the fact in psychology. So trying to find the perfect decision. It is characteristic, it is based on the personal characteristic. For example, people who are perfectionist, who have a huge fear of making mistakes, they are over analyzing. And it takes so much time. This process spread so much. And it is really overwhelming. It is really, really stressful. So that's why you have to understand that. You have to catch this moment in your life when you see the tour procrastinating that you are that you are just trying to find farms to every, every option that you have. It's time to say to yourself, okay, see, this is the mistaking decision-making process and I will just relax slow bit. And I will understand that there is no perfect solution. There is not the perfect decision. So I will just make some decision and see how it will go. 14. Decision making mistakes - MISTAKE 5: In the last mistake is making the decision according to my wish. So this is basically, we are subconsciously and sometimes really consciously, we're pushing the decision into the direction of our wish. So this is the moment when you are not including some other specific things in this decision-making process and you relay only on what you want. And this is a characteristic of kids, in the characteristic of teenagers. But it's something that you can practice and that you can become aware. And in order to make better decisions, let's give an example. You have to pick between art school and law school, okay? So in this moment your wish is to be an artist. You really want that. But you know that you will not earn money and that you will not be able to feed your family. You will be able to do that with a law school, but you are led by only by your wishes and you will go to the art school. Then if you're aware of this mistake, ok? And if you want to be mature and make good decisions, you have to realize this, this childish mistake. It involves some negative emotions. Maybe you will be sad because you will have to just say goodbye to some dreams, say goodbye to some wishes. But in order to come true some, another maybe bigger wishes. And in this specific case, when say, you will put your family, your future family, above your wish to be an artist and you will go to law school because you have a higher goal to create family and to feed that family into give your kids the possibility to have some very, very great life. So you will go to some medications, ok. So it takes a little bit sacrificing. But for now it's important just to realize when we are making this mistake, to recognize. So you will be able to solve that and you will be able to make better decisions.