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1. 01 Welcome Everyone: Welcome, thanks for checking out my new course of their
demeanor series. This is the second course
focused on habits. The first is focused
on self-discipline, and the third is
focused on behavior. What are you going
to learn today? Well, we're going
to cover a lot of grounds in 30 minutes. And first we're going
to focus on what is a good productive habits, really the shortcut that it is. Then we're going to see how it influences
your life trajectory, which is central
in all of my work. We're gonna see how
identity-based habits help you to form a new,
a better identity. We're going to take
a look at how we can measure all this change because, you know, we can't change
what we can't measure. We're gonna make plans, a lot of plans together. There is a lot of principles
coming with this class. You can download it. You can have to do the work. And we're going to focus also on discovering what is
the habit formula. And finally, we
will see what are the two most important
things that you need to put together in order
to really starts to change. If everything
sounds good to you. Keep watching and let's
see you on the other side. Thank you.
2. 02 What is a Habit to Begin With?!: What's a habit to begin with? And even though that seems
like a silly question, it is not a habit
is how I define. It's a shortcut that
was designed to save your bandwidth so that you
could focus on other tasks. That doesn't mean a right desks. That just means other tasks. It is an evolutionary
process that is actually favorable because it means that you can free
up more than that. Accepts that. Our brain was not designed
for this kind of world. Our brain was not designed for handling this kind of many,
many, many distractions. In this modern, modern world. With such an environment, our habits simply can
go easily haywire. Usually this is why we
get so many bad habits. It's because this was not designed to handle
those distractions, so much distractions,
so much things that you can do instead of doing
what you should be doing. Basically, a habit
is a good thing. It's a shortcut. However, we need to be aware
of how many distractions we have around us in our environment that
can produce bad habits.
3. 03 What is Your Current Life Trajectory: What's your current
life trajectory? I really loved that question. I'm always asking myself, am I doing right now the
0.1 person that I need to do today in order to
make my life better. I do not believe in
one person per day. It's huge. Actually, one person per day, I believe in 0.1% per day. White because good habits, finally, eventually they
make time your ally. By the habits, Obviously, they make time your enemy. 0.1 person per day
means in three years, you will be a completely
different men if you can do one
person per day. Well, that's great. That means that you
achieve it in one year. But I believe in 0.1%. I believe that the success that you want to
achieve in your life is simply the product of daily
good, positive habits. And what's a good habit to be, needs to be defined
precisely here. What I mean by a good
habits, it is intentional. It consistently produces the
positive result you seek. And it doesn't involve a
massive act of willpower. Otherwise, it's not a habit. It's something that you are
forcing yourself to do. Ultimately. You're not gonna stick to it. A good habit, it has
to be intentional. It has to produce consistently
the results you sick. And it doesn't involve
massive act of willpower. This is what is the
good life trajectory. And my concern is always, where is my life heading instead of the current
results that I have, I'm really more concerned
by my life trajectory. This is I. You should really concern yourself not so much
with the results, but more with the trajectory.
4. 04 Focus On Building a New Identity: Focus on building a new
identity may sound difficult, emits, it may sound difficult
to achieve, but it's not. For me. The idea is not
complicated to understand. Maybe the achievement of it will require some
time and some work. Of course. Building identity-based
habits is making you, is what makes you focus
on the end goal before focusing on what
you should do right now With I'm the type of guy. If you tell me, you know what, you need to climb that mountain, I will go and climb
the mountain. Want to know why until I reach the end and
then I will ask, unfortunately, this is how I lost quite a number
of years of myself. It's not the right approach. Instead, just first, decide
the person you want to be. Then show it to your self
consistently enough. With small wins. The big lie is we need to
achieve immense results. Yes. On a big enough scale of time, Yes, I would like to
achieve huge things. But our brain, the way we are wired here, we need consistency. We need small wins
in order to give us the push to keep on
showing up every morning. Take simply the exercise
that is downloadable, which is entitled Who
do you want to be? Do it with us. Pause, and I will be here. Let's assume you've paused it. Now, the most essential idea behind this
identity-based habits is, I believe each and every habits. We do more than 200
choices per day. Per day. Each of these choices
are simple decisions. They each cast their
votes for an identity. Either don't want
that you don't want, or don't want that
you are building. Simply that each and every from the 200 decisions that you
are taking every single day. That's for me, this is
mine boggling really. The most essential
idea is this, is, this habit is casting
a vote for or against the identity that
I am trying to build here.
5. 05 You Can't Change What You Can't Measure: You can't change what
you can't measure. This is something that we
have from Peter Drucker. I think it is central, central in every change, any change that you are
making in your life, it is going to be central. First. You need to be aware of your habits before
you can change them. It's simply, it's, it, it is simple to understand. At least it is
requiring an awareness, an awareness that a constant
awareness without judgment. That's when things get
complicated without judgment. I believe that if you picked a bad habit along the
way during your life, It was probably
that you needed it. At some time in your life. You needed that
habits in order to cope with stress of some sorts. Maybe you can't remember it, but it is the reason you you took that habit
in the first place. It was not meant to do harm
except that it went haywire. And suddenly, of course, suddenly when I say suddenly, I mean four or five
years late years later, you look at that habit and it's making its wreaking
havoc in your life. You don't understand
why anymore, because you cannot connect
how it all started. But still, it is taking your life trajectory
in a bad place. So what are your current habits? Basically, that's the question. Just take a moment. Take the exercise
that is downloadable. And we are going to look
at two things here. We're gonna take a look
at good and bad habits. Because we are not, I mean, every human being is not, It's all good, It's not all bad. Never. There are some things
that you are doing frequent basis that is doing
something good in your life. First of all, we are going
to take a look at this. And I really, and I strongly suggests really to
follow your day. You have a schedule, a weekly scheduled to download. 30 minutes by 30 minutes. Take a look, write it down
for every 30 minutes, what you are doing. Why 30 minutes? Because it makes, we'd like to believe
that we are achievers. We like to believe
that we are doing grand things all the time, all day everyday, and that's
why we don't have time. I certainly believe that
for for a while in my life. I don't believe that anymore. Thing is, we have a
few moments where we are really doing
deep hard work. The rest of the time. We are not doing the work
that we should be doing. It's not always bad work simply
because we need to rest. But maybe if you are
watching this course, maybe you would like to push the envelope and look really
at what you are doing. Take the time to do the the
activities and keep watching.
6. 06 Let's Start To Make Plans: Let's start to make plans. There is a big debate
in the field of habits. It goes like that. Can, can we get rid of
bad habits altogether? Or should we focus on integrating a good
habit in instead? The really, my personal view on it is it depends on the
kind of person you are. If you were someone that
have great character, that's really a life
bends to your will. Like my father. My father stopped
smoking in one day. He got me. That was the reason. At some point he just
looked at his kid and said, You know what, I don't
need it anymore. He put his last cigarette
and that was it. He never smoked again. I believe this kind
of person they take they can really
get rid of a habit. Just like that. I personally myself,
I am not like that. I am not this kind of person. Mytype, MyType is more
the kind of inserting new good habits that I can
really take care of and make, make those habits grow. And what is happening is the bad habits starts
simply to fade away. That's how I That's how I
do with my life and that's how I am advising you to do. One, bring awareness
to the bad habit. This is how I do things. We have already spoken about it, but it's so central
that we need, we need to repeat its first, bring awareness to the
bad habits and then implements a new good habit. I will take, I will take this, this smoking cigarettes example. Once again, Allen Carr wrote basically the book about stopping to,
stopping cigarettes. Except that all the
book, basically, if you bring it to
simple stuff really, it's simply bringing awareness to what you are
doing at the moment. You are doing it. Basically. First. If you want to stop cigarette, just pause for ten minutes. If you can. If you can't pause
for five minutes, and if you can't pause
for two minutes. But the pause is
extremely important. It is telling your brain, Hey, I am in control and I'm not doing whatever my
body needs me to do. I am in control. What it tells also
is I am powerful. I can do it. If I don't smoke immediately, I'm not going to die. Then go to smoke. But be very aware of
each and every path. One. What is it doing
in Maya, in my body? I am feeling it. It's nice. I am feeling myself resting. That's nice. Second, what
is it doing in my body? This feeling of nice
is a little bit less. You see what you are
doing is you are focusing on what is really
happening in your body. By just doing that, what happens is by
half of the cigarette, you will just realize that
actually you don't need more than this
half to feel good. And maybe after some time, you will want to just throw that have that
You didn't smoke. The goal is simply
not to stop smoking. The goal is to make you healthy, to put in your subconscious and unconscious that
you are the kind of person that takes
care of her body. That's it. When you build those kinds
of identity-based habits. For sure, you will have results.
7. 07 What is The Habit Formula: What's the habit formula? I believe. And this is actually a well-documented
people who make a specific plan for when and where they will perform
anything new habit wherever. They tend to stick
to what they wrote. This is why I so much believe in the power of
journaling, by the way. Now let's take,
let's take a moment. You have an exercise
to download. It is called What's the plan? Take a moment and just write down whatever you think
of the planet you will, you will have the time afterwards to correct
this if need be, thinking, assign, pause it. Welcome back. If you
want to master a habits, the key is always, always,
always repetition. It's not perfection. It's repetition. It's repeating again
and again and again. The same behavior. Thing is it's never
exactly the same behavior. The behavior tend to
change just a little bit, and hopefully it tends to
improve just a little bit. And we actually know
the magic number. It's 4, 4% percent of
improvement on what's current puts you puts you on the edge of
your comfort zone. And it is very important. You are not out. So stress is still
tolerable, tolerable. But you're not sitting
in the middle of your confidence zone, sitting
quietly, comfortably, waiting for the perfect
conditions to show themselves, which is obviously
never gonna happen. It never happened to
anyone in this world. I don't think really. Basically, it's boils
down to a formula. This formula comes from the book Atomic Habits
of James Clear. I just, I just love it. It's so I'm just going to read it simply
because I think it is. It is perfect and it is
written in the downloadable, so don't write it, is there? So you have two ways of
implementing a habit. First, it is by intention. Basically, I will do X, I will behavior
whatever at the time. Put the location. I will behavior at
Time in location. Then you have the other formula that is coming from BJ Fogg. The habit stacking formula, which is basically after
my current habits. I will do the new habits. And I am particularly fond of the habit
stacking formalin. For me it works. Wonder, wonder. Simply because I am a
man of routine already. I do certain things
at certain time. And if I just need to put
a new habit in my stack, it will require
from me less work than simply to work to create
a completely new stack, which is maybe not your case, but at least it is
working for me. And that's why I really like it. If you, if you take the time to carefully and intentionally
crafts those new habits. There are downloadable. You already thought of it, we are going to think
even more about it. But if you take the time to put those new habits
in your stack, it's incredible what
you can achieve.
8. 08 Two Most Important Things : The two most important
things to put together from all this course. And those ideas are so central that they
need to be repeated. Each and every habit. Like a vote, is a vote for or against to your
desired identity. You did, hopefully you
did the exercises. We looked at what you want to build and
who you want to build. Now you know that
each and every of your daily habits
is casting a vote. If you find out
that it is casting votes mostly against
your new identity, it's time to correct. It's not time to judge. Like we said before, there was a reason you took those habits
in the first place. So no judgment, just
change. That's it. The second thing, it
is, repetition is key. So much believe in this. I so much believe in this. Repeats, repeats,
repeats. And why? Because changes happen
as an iterative process. No matter what we
like to believe. Change is an iterative process. Our brain, our brain is
made so that we tend to discard simply what happens. Once in a while. We are not
built-in here for that, except if it is big. If it involves huge
emotions, that's true. And that needs to be repeated. But our brains mostly is, tends to discard what
happens frequently. Repetition is what
tells our brain. Focus. Now this is important
to my well-being. That's extremely important. Unfortunately, our brain doesn't
know what is well-being. It just repeats what is
good for its survival. We have through repetition. We are telling it. Now this is good for us. If it's good for my well-being, It's good for your survival. And this is how we slowly
but surely change.
9. 09 Quick Last Word: Quick last word. Thank you. Thanks a
lot for following this new course of
the demeanor series. It is the second course. This one is focused on habits. First was focused
on self-discipline, and the third is
focused on behavior. Just type my name
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please read this course. It is, it means so
much for my work, it means so much
for what I'm trying to do because also it's the best way to get the word
out and take charge for you. Your daily habits. And this kind of, this course hopefully puts
people on the right trajectory of building the life that they want for
themselves. Thank you. Thanks a lot. You take care.
Mohamed Semeunacte, Father, Husband, Entrepreneur.
