Better Discipline: Go From Needing Motivation to Being Disciplined

1. 01 Welcome Everyone: Hi, thank you for joining us in this new course series. Make the switch as a course sequence focused on changing your mindsets. And after focusing on the whole growth mindset versus fixed mindset, and how you can change your beliefs. Now let's dig more into motivation versus self-discipline all the way through the mindset lenses. Let me be clear. Some motivation work is just that most of it, at least the way it's presented in most YouTube videos, simply doesn't. In fact, the brain has no neural network that are designed to store motivation. In this class, you are going to uncover how to go from needing endless shoots of motivation through the day to practicing being your own motivator. You are going to learn why motivation is based on a fixed mindset. While self-discipline spurs from a growth mindset, you are about to understand your triggers and your strategies for action in a radical new way. And finally, you will learn how to foster self-discipline through ways that are rarely discussed. If that sounds good to you and you're ready to learn, please keep watching. I am waiting for you on the other side. Thank you. 2. 02 What is Exactly Motivation?: What is exactly motivation and its biggest problem? It is rooted in the fixed mindsets. It is the idea that to ignite the desire to make efforts, you are not used to. You need extrinsic help. A song, a video, an optimistic friend, better education or better parents or a coach, mentor, and so on and so on. While this may be true actually, this also creates an idea of what I call not enoughness. And what I mean by that is it leads to the constant need of trying to prove yourself. If I'm if I'm only able to do XYZ after getting my shooter of motivation. Well, then I'm probably not as smart or talented as I think I am. This is the fixed mindset. The problem is, all external motivation is momentum. External motivation is the kind that may wake you up. Yes, that's true, but it will not keep you awake for a long. Precisely because it doesn't address that this taste for efforts. When do people really need motivation to get them going? When they lack structure and clarity? For me, I don't buy the whole generation, lazy generation thing. It's a story. Laziness, lethargy bore them. It all comes from not knowing what to do next. And what am I supposed to do next is basically, it's precisely the question that self-discipline is answering. 3. 03 What Discipline Is About?: What is exactly self-discipline and its benefits? Self-discipline is precisely the growth mindset in action. Discipline people. They don't consider success as a goal to reach or a finish line to cross. It is a system to improve an endless process, to refine how by welcoming challenges and sticking to their discipline. Yes, perseverance and grit and willpower are all essential to success. But the way to improve perseverance grids and the willpower is not by wishing you were a more disciplined person. It's by creating a more disciplined person. Someone who is purposeful, someone who is patient, who is constantly active doing things. And eventually, it is not letting your moods control what you are going to achieve. That they, it is the ability to separate your long-term routine from the fleeting feelings of bore them. Lethargy, laziness. 4. What Is Currently Fueling Your Life?: What mode are you currently in? Seneca is a stoic philosopher, and he said, Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass. It is about learning to dance in the rain. 2 thousand years ago. People were already discussing the benefits of development versus simply waiting and changing what is going wrong. Having the mindset of someone who waits for external motivation to perform, or having the mindset of someone who creates intentional routine to follow on a consistent basis has huge implications on your life trajectory, as well as the way you value yourself. Actually. And it's very important to precise. Nobody exhibits self-discipline in everything they do. But there's five aspects. We're putting intentional strategies in place allows you to quiz the quickest growth. And those five aspects you should focus on there basically, integrity, some people call it spirituality or religion. Integrity is simply, simply measured by how much time you spend by saying things and acting accordingly. Versus Of course, saying things and not following through. Which is, by the way, absolutely devastating for your self-esteem. Your family. Do you have the feeling that mostly you are a good father, a good mother, a good son, good daughter, a good husband or wife, mostly at least friends and lovers. What defines humans is basically collaboration. And when we're enjoying good relationships, well, the rest tends to follow. The four-fifths health. Do you make the time to sleep well? You make the time to eat properly and exercise, at least according to what you would like. Finally, work. We tend to focus on this one a lot. Basically we put it in the first position. But in reality, when the other four are taking care of, usually this one falls in line, so I repeat, integrity, spirituality, religion, you call it the way you want, family, friends and lovers, health, and finally, work. 5. 05 How Can You Foster Discipline?: How can you foster self-discipline? As a matter of fact, I have a whole class dedicated to fostering self-discipline. I recommend you check it out after finishing this class. So basically there's two ways to foster self-discipline. The first one is being the architect of your environment, as opposed to being the victim of your environment. The second one is what I call upgrading and updating your identity. I'm going to start with the first one being the architect of your environment and not its victim. Behavior is a function of the person in his or her environment. Which is to say that organizing your house, your desk, your room, your car, your office has of course, consequences on your behavior. Now, what do you think is going to happen when you organize these physical places with certain intentions in mind. Those intentions will be of course, inline with your long-term goals in work. The five aspects that we saw earlier, work, health, friends and lovers, family and integrity. Well, if you do that intentionally, slowly, day after day, you will become more and more the master of your fate, the captain of your soul. This is what is going to happen. If you take charge intentionally of your physical environment. The second one is upgrading and updating your identity. Basically, there are three levels of behavior change. The first one is simply changes in your outcomes. And outcomes are basically about what you'd get. The second level is changes in your processes. And processes are changes about what you do. Finally, there's changes in your whole complete identity. Your identity is about what you believe, your tendencies, your triggers, your abilities, your strategies, your tactics, everything that you do. People with a fixed mindset, they tend to believe that an identity is fixed. If you are born with, if you were born with the wrong genes, well, tough luck. There's not much you can do to fix it because basically you are and fixable. Which is exactly the contrary of what people with the growth mindset think. They tend to believe that their identity is a moving target. Genes play certainly a role, of course, more in certain situations, less in other situations. But basically passion, toil, training are re, really what defines them. You see, the problem is the belief that an identity is really who we are. It is not. It is. In fact, it is a self-limiting box which will learn to fit ourselves in overtime through different processes. Education, culture, traditions, religion, of course, self reinforcement. Because at some point we start to self, we start to reinforce the desired, this identity. Being self-disciplined is not that difficult. It's not difficult for people who see themselves as lifelong learners. Why? Because what they are not today, they can adopt it with time and dedication. Take the resources in this class and do the exercise. They will help you understand through your life what I mean by upgrading and updating your identity. Just take your time, take the exercise that go in anywhere. I'm here. 6. 06 Four Biggest Misconceptions: For biggest misconceptions about self-discipline. Let's starts with willpower. Willpower is basically the same thing as self-discipline. It is nuts. Willpower is what I call brute forcing your way through life. And it works. Sometimes, sometimes it works. There are studies that show that willpower is like a muscle. And just like every muscle it tires when it is used. And in fact, even the very small act of choosing an outfit start depleting your willpower reserves. Being disciplined is an identity. It's not what you do, is what you are. And frugal people, for example, they don't need nearly as much willpower as compulsive buyers need not to buy stuff. Not buying stuff is just part of who they are. Second one, you are either born disciplined or not. And thus, as discussed earlier, growth mindset, people know that there is no gene called the gene of self-discipline. And I verified it doesn't exists. As James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, said, discipline people are better at structuring their lives in a way that does not require heroic willpower and self-control. I repeat because this is extremely important. They are better at structuring their lives. Fats the whole game. Self-discipline is a skill. Just like every skill. It is learnable. It is learning with two things, time and the repetition. That's it. The third misconception is self-discipline is exhausting. This is because at the beginning, at least self-discipline and requires your prefrontal cortex to make draining intentional choices. Very often, sugar or not sugar. Or Netflix, or side hustle, or alcohol, or water, or Doritos or hitting the gym. Because it's not automatic. Yet. The less conscious choices you have to make per day, the less, the less mental fatigue you will sense. And as a bonus, the less conscious good choices you'll have to make, the more chance you'll have to stick to your new diet, for example, or your new habits or whatever you are trying to implement. The fourth biggest misconception that I see about self-discipline. Self-discipline is not fun. Self-discipline people never have fun. In fact, by hair, sometimes something along the lines of self-discipline. People are always in control. They are basically emotionless robots. What is true? Yes, is that discipline people are less prone to impulsivity. But this is not confining. Quite the contrary. Actually it is freeing because once the important stuff is out of the way, now you have all the liberty to enjoy whatever is pleasing you. Now you earned your reward. That's important. Now you know that you are not auctioning your future for a few Tyrol and short-lived pleasure that you will in all likelihood, instantly regrets. 7. 07 Quick Last Word: A quick last word. I have several courses in here. And after sharing and rating this course, I think you should go and watch the course entitled self-discipline. Learn to be the architect of your environment. You can follow me and my other courses by clicking the but then somewhere. Please download and do the exercise as I think they will greatly help you integrate what you just learned in your everyday life. And as I said, please consider sharing and rating this course because it would make my day. And ultimately it is the best way to get the word out. Anyone can go from needing endless shoots of motivation through the day to practicing being their own motivator through self-discipline. Thank you and see you soon in another class. Thank you.