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1. 01 Welcome Everyone: Hi, thank you for joining us in this new class of
the growth mindsets. Here is the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects
how you lead your life. And it's not just on
intellectual tasks, it's also in relationships. Your mindset is the Puppet
master acting in the shadows. We don't say to ourselves, Oh, I don't like to be challenged or I have to be
flawless right away. Otherwise, I'm just dumb. It's just that our
actions sell that for us. When you enter a mindset, you change your pair of glasses. With the glasses of
the fixed traits. Success is about proving that
you are smart or talented. It's about validating yourself. Efforts is basically
a bad thing. Just like failure. It means that you are not smart, you are not talented, otherwise, you
wouldn't need effort. With the second glasses, the glasses of
changing qualities. It's about stretching yourself
to learn something new. It's about developing Something. Developing yourself. Effort is what makes
you smart and talented. If that sounds good to you, you want to learn more.
Please keep watching.
2. 02 What is The Fixed Mindset?: What is exactly
the fixed mindset? Fixed mindset, it is the belief that failure
is not an action. It is more of an identity. It's not like I failed at
this project or this project. It's more like I am a failure. It's meet the problem. It's the belief that your
qualities are carved in stone. Basically the fixed
mindset creates a sort of an urgency to prove yourself again and again
and again to your boss, to your teacher, to your
parents, to your educators, no matter, it's really that, it's really the belief
that I am not enough. It's the possibility
of being ordinary. Simply. It leads you to the
need of constant validation. You always need to
prove yourself. You always need others
to validate you. When do people with
the fixed mindset? Fixed mindsets thrive. It's basically when
things are safe and easy. It's simply within their grasp. If things get too challenging. Now, it's not
something for them. It's they need to feel smart and talented right off
the bat immediately. And if it gets too challenging,
they lose interests. And basically they starts assigning blame, making excuses. And I love, I love what
Coach Wooden said. You are not a failure As long as you didn't start
to make excuses. That's completely true.
3. 03 What is The Growth Mindset?: What is the growth mindset? Opposed, of course,
to the fixed mindset. It is the belief that a person's true potential
is completely unknown. And it's basically unknowable. You cannot know what a person
is destined to achieve. It is impossible to
foresee what can be accomplished with the
years of passion, years of dedication,
years of training. It's basically impossible. People in a growth mindset
don't just seek challenge. And this is very important. They, they, they
thrive on challenge. They simply love
it. They love it. The bigger the challenge. And the more they stretch, the more they know that
they will be able to achieve a lot simply
because biggest, biggest challenge,
bigger challenge equals bigger learning for them. That's people in
the growth mindset. And ultimately, it is this, it is not letting the experience control the
way you define yourself. It is you who define
yourself, not the experience. It is the ability to separate who you are from,
the experience, your intrinsic value,
from what you live, what is exterior to you. This is the growth mindset. It is basically this. It is the belief that the true but person's potential
is completely unknowable? I believe it. Do you
4. 04 What Mindset Are You Currently In?: What mindset are
you currently in? Whether you're
aware of it or not? We all have the same tendency. We all have the tendency to keep a running account on
basically three things. What's happening to us? What it means? Basically what we
should do about it. We all do it
constantly, constantly, constantly, whether we're
aware of it or not. And mindsets, they basically guide this whole
interpretation process. And in truth, we
are not completely always fixed or completely
always growing. We have dependencies and
triggers in certain situations. Like to state that fixed mindset or a growth mindset,
they are personal. They are not your identity. It is simply the identity that you learn to
favor over time. Why? Because it will
basically it is, it started first
with your education. It was if you display
that kind of personal, your educator, your mother, your father, whatever,
your teacher. Now your boss. When you display this kind of personal,
they like it. You'll learn to internalize
that and you reproduce. I'd like you to take the exercise as a
part of your project. I asked you some questions
and basically where they are, what are the events or situations that
take you to a place of judgment rather than
a place of growth, a place of development. And ask yourself,
what can you do? What can you do
over time to keep that person F from
interfering with your growth? And how you can persuade this fixed mindset person to
get on board with the ideas, with the projects that Spur from the growth mindset person. Ask yourself all
those questions, you can download them. Take your time. I'm not going anywhere. I'm waiting for you
in the next video.
5. 05 How You Can Foster A Growth Mindset? Part 1: How can you foster
a growth mindset? Basically, I have two
ways of doing it. And yes, it's gonna
be long video, but please bear with me. It's an important one. Don't worry there everything
that we are discussing here, it's also in the projects, It's also in the downloadable. Basically. First and foremost,
I'd like to introduce you to the idea
of mental models, mental health areas, that definition and I simply love it. It's a blueprints to
draw your attention to the important elements
of whatever you are facing. It defines contexts,
background, and direction. It's actually very useful to
gain experience and to gain knowledge whether you are proficient in wherever
you are thinking of. By definition, our
mental models are limited and they simply
reflects our biases. The biases that we have from
our culture, our traditions, our education, the
way we were raised, our mental models are biased
and we don't even know it. I like here is what
I like to say. It's basically glasses. It is changing glasses when
you change a mental model, consciously, you
change your glasses. And I have six that I really
favor in, in everyday life. I have six that I
chose consciously, simply because
they make me focus on different aspects of
what I'm thinking about. And I'm doing it consciously. And the first men
mental model is address importance
and minimize urgent. We all have a
tendency to go for, for the urgent things, the things that your boss is on your back and you need to do it, you need to do with right now. Otherwise, I don't know
what is going to happen. But basically, if you're always thinking
about what's urgent, you will never address what's
important and you know it, you cannot build a
sustainable life, sustainable success based
on simply urgent things. The second one is what I call
visualize all the dominoes. What it means. It means that often
we are concentrated on what is going to happen
next, the first domino. And maybe for the
ones that are used to a lot of thinking maybe the second or the third domino. But what's going, what is
going to happen in the 12th? Domino? The one that is really far from what we are
thinking right now. This is an exercise to think
about all the consequences. All of them. We cannot think
about all of them, but it's just an
exercise and it's very useful to keep yourself thinking and thinking
and thinking. Not simply about the why, why it is happening, because it will lead
you to depression. Really. I'm really talking
about thinking how, how things are going to evolve, how things are going to
simply yes, evolved. My third mental model is
make reversible decisions. If you have to face
big decisions, try to think in terms of
reversible decisions. What it means is I always try to make decisions
where I can go back a little bit to save myself or to save
my work or whatever. It's not always possible. But you can do it. You usually we can
do it usually. We can try to put something
to say just here. I'm not sure. I'm going to go ahead
because we need to advance, but I'm not sure. So I need to do something
that is going to protect me, to protect my family, to protect my job too. I like to say to entrepreneurs, don't throw your job.
Don't throw your job. Basically, take the
time that you have after your day to
start something, to start a side gig. And I'm sorry to say, if
you can't even do that, you are not going to be
really exceptionally good at building a side hustle if you are not even
able just to dedicated, to dedicate to it the
hours after your work. Make reversible
decisions, create an action bias for reversible,
reversible decisions. My fourth mental model
is seek satisfaction. What it means it is a mixture, is a mixture of to
satisfy and suffice. It is aiming to make decisions
that are good enough. Simply there are not perfect, they are just adequate and
they serve their purpose. So we have this bias, we have, we all have this bias that we want, that perfect situation. We want the perfect, We want to buy the perfect car. We want to buy the
perfect phone. We want to have the perfect
wife we want to buy. It's always about perfection
and it is simply a bias. It is keeping us from doing what we
need to do. It's fear. It's basically fear, fear to advance fear to do
what we need to do. Seek satisfaction. Satisfaction. As long as it's satisfying. Satisfying, as long as it's
suffice, it's perfectly fine. We can go ahead, we can move on. The fifth one is stay
within 40 to 70%. Make maker and make a decision. We have no less than
40% of the information, but you need no more than
70% of the information. I love that mental model. I just want to have enough
information to move on. But I don't need to don't
need to be perfect. I don't need every information I don't need is just again, fear, fear from moving on. You don't need less
than 40% because actually you need
information to act, but you don't need more than 70% of information
in order to act, in order to move on, in order to do what we
have, what you have to do. And the sixth one, there, there are more than
90 mental models. That's probably more than
hundreds of mental models, is just really the sixth
that I favor that I really like to use in my life. The sixth one is
minimize regrets. And Jeff Bezos, Amazon, he asks you to visualize, visualize yourself
at age 80 and ask yourself if you would have regrets about what
you're gonna do. Usually when I do this
exercise, I simply say, okay, you know what, I'm
not gonna regret it. 40 years old now. I know that's 80 years old. I will have other
problems, half, we'll probably have a completely different
life and I will never think about what
was happening in 2022. We will the COVID
and blah-blah-blah. It will just be pasts. Minimize, regret. Find the thing that is
that is talking to you, that is working for you. If you have to imagine
yourself at 8100, do it. If you have too. I like also to think about, am I really going to think about this situation within one year? It's not going to happen. I'm probably sure I
will have moved on and it's gonna be okay. It's gonna be okay,
So minimize regret, find ways to minimize regret. The second thing is coming
in the second video.
6. 05 How You Can Foster A Growth Mindset? Part 2: How can you foster
a growth mindset? Part two. This one is all about focus
on building your tribe. What I mean by that
is seek outs and befriend people who are
curious about the world. That people who
are disenchanted. I'm French. So these kinds of words
that are difficult for me seek out people that have a can
do attitude really. And they exhibit positive
and optimistic behavior. Seek out people that are
genuinely interested in. You. Seek out people that are genuinely interested
in what you are doing. Nothing, your problems. We all have problems, all of us. But seek out people
that are interested in thinking about what
we call problems. But basically they
are challenges. Simply seek out people
that are interested in problem-solving that
have this mentality. Look for people that have
a huge sense of humor. Look out for people
that like to smile, that liked to enjoy
life that flattened. Loved to simply seek out
people that are vibrant. Seek out people that work hard. Look for those people. Look for those people
that are genuinely an intentionally always trying
to make themselves better. 0.1 person better
every single day. Because those people,
they will reflect on you. They will, their mentality will simply go to all the
people that are around them. If you are not part
of a tribe like that, for now, change your tribe. Simply go look for
another tribe. How you do that is you go to
the places where you know, you are going to find them. Go on, go on meetups. You know that you will find, if you are the type of person that think about
entrepreneurship, go to meetups with a
lot of entrepreneurs. You know that they are there because you are
taking this class. You know how to
differentiate people with the fixed mindset from
people with a growth mindset. Look for people that
have all these, they don't have all
those qualities. We don't, they don't. But certainly they have a
certain type of qualities. And especially, I like to look for people
that are optimistic. And I like to look for
people that work hard. The people that
loved to work hard. Especially because
actually they don't feel like they are working hard. They feel like they are playing. And other people are
calling it hard. That's it. Look for, look for people in your
tribe that are like that. Remember, we are
always the average of the five people that we like to hang out
with. Five people? Not more than that. Thank you.
7. 06 A Special Word For The Educators: Especially word for
all the educators, the parents, the teachers, the coaches, all the
educators in general. People trust us, and
especially children trust us. That's why we accumulate
three things in, in general, I mean, the what, which is the
knowledge, the how, how we effectively
transmit our knowledge. The y, the reason why, the reason why we do what we do. But sometimes
unfortunately though, what becomes prominent and we tend to focus on
the, what the end. We tend to relegate the
why to the background. And learning to change mindsets is incredibly
important and fulfilling. But passing on, growth
mindset is a different story. But it is as much
important and maybe even more important as a parent, as a teacher and
educator, a coach. The way we praise people, and the way we treat
mistakes, obstacles, setbacks, and the
way we focus on deepening understanding are
all extremely essential. Because ultimately it's
not about us anymore. It's about, It's not
about receiving anymore. It's about the one, the ones, the little ones often
that come after us. And that mission is extremely,
extremely important. Trying to grow a growth mindsets
is incredibly important, but passing on, the growth mindset is
extremely important. It is, it is the reason
actually why I do what I do. Especially with my three
boys, my three kids, I I know they are more watching
me than listening to me. This is this is this is what for a long time I didn't
understand about passing on growth mindset. It's about what we do, what we show them, more than what we say to them.
8. 07 The 3 Biggest Misunderstandings: Let's review quickly three misunderstandings
that we often see when we look at the fixed mindset versus
the growth mindset. Misunderstanding number
one, many people take what they like about themselves and call
it a growth mindsets. Basically, if you are
in that stretching, if you're stretching yourself and the rather just enjoying, what has always
been easy for you. Check with yourself. Just check maybe
if your ego is not playing some kind of tricks on you or
something like that. It's about stretching. It's about stretching
beyond your comfort zone. That's what growth mindset is. If it's just enjoying
what is easy for you. This is more like
fixed mindset and ego playing tricks,
misunderstanding number. Too. Many people believe that
growth mindset is only about praising efforts or maybe even worst praising imaginary effort. Growth mindset is
simple to define. It's the belief that people
can develop their abilities. Everyone can develop
their abilities. We're not saying
that everyone can achieve high Olympic
levels of anything. It's just the belief that
everyone, every single one. As long as we are born with
a brain that's functioning, of course, two hands, two legs. Everyone can achieve
results over time. It's about enjoying,
ultimately the whole process, the whole process that
leads to the outcome. And Carol Dweck defines
that process this way. Hard work, trying new strategies and
seeking input from others. But I also like how James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, defines it, defines this
process but in a different way. Try, fail, learn,
try differently. I find it, I find this process to be exactly what I did
for the last 20 years. Misunderstanding
number three, growth mindsets equals you can do
anything and everything. The growth mindset is about gaining the skills and finding the resources that makes you
progress toward the outcome. It's not about believing that you can do anything
and everything. This is wishful thinking. This is simply delusion. That's it. So that was the free big misunderstandings
that a lot of people have when they talk about fixed mindset versus
growth mindset.
9. 08 Quick Last Word: A quick last word. Thank you. Thanks a lot for
following this class. My name is Mohammed. You can find a lot more courses
of me on this platform. Please download the exercise. Do the exercise I really
think is going to help you. Please share. And the rate discourse is going to help me
tremendously and I believe it is the best
way to get the word out. Thank you.
Mohamed Semeunacte, Father, Husband, Entrepreneur.
