How to Build Your Self-Esteem and Confidence.

1. Introduction: This class is for anyone who feels insecure, has self-doubt, struggles to believe in themselves, has a tendency to feel shy all the time. Awesome times is anxious at times, it's socially awkward, is embarrassed of parts of themselves. For people who want to feel more confident in life and comfortable with who they are. Hello, my name is Emma Jane points out, and I'm a self-esteem mentor. In the past three years, I've been on a huge self-discovery journey about my self-esteem. I used to be somebody who was filled with jealousy. I was very angry. I was always in a mood. I was always unhappy. And it was only when I realized that actually, it wasn't the things that were around me that would make me unhappy. I was making myself unhappy. I've been on an absolutely huge mission, reading all the books there is to know and self-esteem. And I've used this expertise to build a brand called the girl you need, which focuses on supporting people's self-esteem and helping you feel more comfortable being you. I've got a blog, I've got a podcast, I have a YouTube channel and a mainland list. I do public speaking events. I've done workshops for charities on International Women's Day. I think you're going to really appreciate and value what I've got to share with you to help you improve your self-esteem. I am living proof, literally live in proof that this can be improved and I know how to do it and I'm going to share that with you. This class is the first introduction to improving your self-esteem. So we're going to cover where to self-esteem come from because it's very important for you to know where it comes from and where it's developed, and where does yours come from and where does your husband to valid, we're going to explore your own personal story to understand what you struggle with where those situations are that you've got heightened low self-esteem. You're going to understand what your deep rooted belief is because that's very, very important to understand what the core low self-esteem belief that you have is an, I'm gonna give you a tool to get into that core belief and start challenging those situations that you feel insecure about. Change your thought process and change that roots of belief and ultimately change who you are and make you feel better being yourself. We've got a great project at the end of it, and I'm gonna give you your own, you can go get your own personal growth journey that you can start ticking off and facing your fears and getting to be the person that you want to bake. This is a great class for some deep work. And at the end you're going to feel lighter and brighter and you're going to feel much more confident and know what you actually need to do to grow your self-esteem. So look forward to having you there and see you in the class. 2. Creating Your Self-Esteem Tool: So in this class, you will be creating a self-esteem pyramids for your project. It's a tool that you can draw to include the difficult areas that you want to overcome to improve your low self-esteem or the way it works is you have the easiest things at the bottom and then go up to the more difficult things that you're going to struggle with to overcome the self-esteem pyramids is something that I have used in my own self-esteem journey. And it's made a massive difference in me focus in on the areas that I really struggle with when it comes to my low self-esteem. Every self-esteem pyramids is unique to that individual. So it's something completely unique to you. And once you've got the tools, I want you to know work throughout this class. You'll be able to go through the areas that you should go ahead and start taking them off. The best way to overcome your fears is to face them. You've got to do these things. You've got to push through them and you will get a real sense of achievement by taking each milestone off the triangle as you go through your growth and personal development. And you'll grow your self-esteem because you'll show itself. Actually, I can do that after you've done it, I want you to send your picture onto the project work, resource. Share in our community of women and men who are overcoming or low self-esteem of the triangles that we don't like. Sharing is caring. And once we start to see each other's triangles, we will be able to see that actually, we've all got these things. We've all got these will reason. We've all got these little Nichols. And I want you to see you achieving your triangle. You get into the top if you milestones and your boss in your self-esteem and growing into the best version of you, feeling comfortable in who you are. That is what this is all about. Feeling comfortable in here you also, you can make the tool as creative and flowery and lovely as possible as you want it to be really, really helpful tool. You are going to love it. And as I say, you can make it as creative as you want. It's yours, it's private, it's personal. You can share it, you can do whatever you want with it. But it's going to take you through your self-esteem journey. 3. What is Low Self-Esteem: Welcome to Lesson one of your improving self-esteem class. In this lesson we are going to talk about what is low self-esteem. Because it's really important that you have an understanding of what it actually is in order to then improve and where can it for yourself? So hopefully by now you will have done your y. So this is page one of your workbook and this is why do you want to improve your self-esteem if you haven't done it yet and not to worry because you could maybe do it after less than one once you have a deeper understanding of what low self-esteem is. So self-esteem is essentially how much you like your self, if the opinion, the opinion that you have of your overall self. So it's not necessarily if you're confident person or not because that could be confidence, can be quite aligned to specific things. So you might be a confident, well now, you might be a competent speaker. You might be confident in lots of areas of your life, but overall, fundamentally, you're quite a shy person underneath it all because actually you have a low opinion of yourself. Don't be fooled because just because somebody seems really confident and high flyer and really doing well in their career doesn't necessarily mean that they've got high self-esteem as well. What you might find is that somebody like that is that coping mechanism to boost their self-esteem is by achieving good life because it makes them feel better about themselves. Self-esteem is something that comes from our early childhood. So most of the time, it's something that we develop through our youth. Why, either in school or through our friends and family or situations that have happened to us. And that's where it comes from. And then we develop a rooted belief which we touch upon in a later class that we then reaffirm and confirmed to ourselves throughout our adult life. And in order to survive. With our self-esteem, we will develop coping mechanisms to be able to survive if we have low self-esteem. So what does low self-esteem look like? So low self-esteem can look like something different to different people. So low self-esteem could be someone who doesn't look after themselves, who doesn't really make much of an effort, who doesn't really care too much. Or it could be somebody who is the life and soul of the party, drinks alcohol, loves going out to cover up the fact that actually they're quite sharing on the inside. Someone who has low self-esteem would speak to themselves in quite a negative self-talk. Whereas somebody who has high self-esteem is quite content with themselves, doesn't really care too much what other people think about them. Doesn't really need approval from anybody else and doesn't need to achieve in order to feel good about themselves. They're quite content and where they are. And then language that they use to talk to themselves is a very positive self-belief and self-talk where there's low self-esteem, you'd find that you've probably got quite a lot of self-doubt. It might develop it. You might have anxiety. And you could have, you will have probably quite a negative self-talk. In your workbook. You will have on page three, there will be a scale of one to ten. And on this task, what I want you to do is going off what I've just said. What I've just said, just circle where you think you are on the self-esteem scale. Ten, being, I am super confident, I never feel uncomfortable around anybody. I don't really need assurance from one and I'm quite secure in yourself and don't get jealous. I don't have negative feelings when I'm around other people or one being, I am very insecure, I am very shy. I'm highly anxious, and I am always, always mindful of what other people say. If me and I don't speak up a lot out of fear of what people might think. So take some time, take some time to think about that. Give yourself a score, then write down what your score is. Then the next part of that workbook is for you to use in the box that you need to decide on whether you are never, sometimes, often, or always. So I've just given a couple of examples there in your workbook. And now I get jealous of other women. If you're a man watching this, that could be man. Do you never, sometimes, often or always. Remember, nobody is going to see this. This is purely your workbook. This is all about you doing the deep work required to build on your self-esteem. I feel conscious, self-conscious and social settings. This could be when you're out having a meal. If people talked, if you're the conversation is on you and you're talking about you, do you feel self-conscious? Do you have different body emotions? Do you want to change the subject so you're talking about and reflect it onto other people. Do you like to speak up? Do you mind presenting how do you feel in social settings? Excluding alcohol? I'm afraid to speak up in work or class depends on how old you are. I make fun of other people. So that might be in a jokey way. So do you make, make fun of other people because you're just so that when you've got low self-esteem is quite a common trait. You're make jokes for the people in adjusts the way to deflect the attention from you because you don't want the attention to be on you. You judge other people, and that's fine if you do, because we all do, but how much do you judge other people? You put yourself down? And be honest. I will not go out with my house without makeup on. That's specifically for females. And I spent a lot of time worrying about what I look like. Then once you've done that, I want you to answer. How's your answer surprised you? And why in your workbook on page three? I'll leave you to do that and then I will see you in the next lesson. 4. Your Background and Environment: Welcome to lesson two off you're improving your self-esteem class. In today's lesson, we are gonna be talking about your background and joy environments because it's really important to understand where your low self-esteem has come from, and that is what this class aims to do. So we're going to break it off. We're going to talk about your early childhood experience first, and then we're gonna go through the environment. We're going to really get into it for you so that you can start to understand it. What happens is we develop our low self-esteem from our childhood experiences. We are all so very different. Every single one of us has a completely different upbringing family. We live in a different area. Some of us have siblings, some of us have a bigger family, a smaller families. Some of us have more money. Some of us are speaking a different language. We're all very different. And with that comes a different way in which we fit into society. So between the ages of 315, we will develop our self-esteem. If you develop low self-esteem, you will carry that through with you until your adulthood. And you will develop coping mechanisms in order to be able to survive. So let me give you my example. My example is that I moved from Liverpool to a small village in Russia. At the time, I was very, very broad skulls. And this impacted on me and my high school years because I was very different to everybody else. I sounded very different. I was treated differently by some of the classes, my colleagues and my teachers, and that impacted on my low self-esteem. I became really, really quiet and I didn't want to speak on that, then made me into being a joker. So I was loud, I was cocky, I was a joker because I knew that if I didn't do that, then I wouldn't have been able to survive. And I took those survival techniques through to my adult hoards until I realized that I had low self-esteem once I was there. So these are some examples to just give you a little bit of a flavor of some ideas of young kids and the type of backgrounds that they have had. So have a think and see if you can relate to any of these. Meet Eddie. Eddie has a strict family who believes that you have to have the highest grades in order for them to feel proud. His brother was a star pupil, and so Eddie has to follow or meet Sarah. Sarah is slightly on the plus side compared to her classmates. Hey, mom is always calling a choppy and talents. She needs to go on a diet. She always talks the fridge or with Weight Watchers food, especially for Sarah to help her lose her weight. Or meet Jane. Jane is moved to the UK from Germany and is struggling to fit in at school. Jane doesn't understand the jokes or the slung from the other kids and feels a bit of an outcast in school. Jane gets called German nicknames from the other kids in her class. Meet Kirsty case, it goes to a good school, but her family has no money. People sometimes come to work and feet designer gear and her friends laugh at their case. He doesn't get to go on school trips because if family can afford it, so she misses out all of the time. To any of these kids relate to your childhood story. Spend a couple of minutes using your workbook on page four and write down any memories you have of your youth and how this has impacted you. So now let's talk about your environment. Your early child create your internal belief of self-esteem and your environment, create your external belief of self-esteem. Self-esteem is an internal force and this is built up from childhood. You develop your self-esteem and then you carry this with you. And then you have all the external forces, which is your environment as you grow up and as you get older, that also impacts on your self-esteem. So the main external forces you have will be social media, friends and family, materialistic pressure and your job. Let's just talk a little bit about social media. So social media is a huge part of our lives. That is just something that is never going away. It's possible this is where we are. Social media is something that we spend our time following all sorts of different people. And we naturally, naturally compare ourselves to other people. And if you have low self-esteem, you will have a warped view of what you look like because you've got a low value of yourself. When you're scrolling through social media, I say Instagram, for example. You will be comparing yourself with people on social media. And against a warped view that you might have about yourself. So I will think I'm very ugly. So I could pick scrolling through Instagram and all the people that I follow, follow Kim Kardashian. For example, I will look in Kardashian and compare myself subconsciously without realizing it and say to myself, I wish I looked like that, God, I'm so ugly. God, I wish I had a body that's constantly reinforcing that negative self-talk. And it's confirming the low self-esteem that I've already got about myself. Our brains are wired to think negatively. So we think negatively quite a lot of the time. So we have what's called unhelpful mental habits. And one of the unhelpful mental habits out of the seven is compared and despair in comparing the spirit is when you constantly compare yourself to other people. It's a common trait of somebody with low self-esteem and it's something that you probably do with everybody that you meet if you have low self-esteem and social media highlights that help unhelpful mental habit and it's something that will reinforce your low self-esteem. Your friends and family will impact on your self-esteem if they make fun of you, if they don't support you, if they put you down. If when you try to do something that is more of yourself, if you've got low self-esteem, if always hidden hero, and then you try to be self like, for example, grow a blog. And my friends and family might laugh at me and think that that's a silly idea and that can impact on my self-esteem and confidence. Materialistic pressures. We live in a flax society. Nowadays, everybody cares about what they look like, what car they drive, what the house looks like. And it's called a flex society. And that can have a real pressure on your self-esteem and self-worth. If you're not in a position to match up to the standards of society that is putting honors at the moment. Then finally your job. Again, there's pressure for us to have a six-figure business, a million trillion dollar pound business. Bse, only work for hours in the day. And that can cause pressure on your self-esteem if you are working like a normal person, 40-hour weeks just to get by, which is probably 95% of the population. Yet that is not something that we see on social media that can impact on your low self-esteem. If what you see externally is a constant feed of what we should be doing with our life compared to what you are doing that will put you down. So what I want you to do is on your page four of your workbook, if you write down the five people that you spend your time with. Because the people that you spend your most time with you because you are, They say that you're an average of the five people that you spend your most time, we'd see me write down the five people and just write down whether they bring you up or whether they bring you down. And just have a little bit of a reflection on that. People that you work with might, might be in your circle, but might not necessarily be the kind of people that boost you up. They might not be where you want to be, so you need to have a think about that. Family could be the same. Your friends, we outgrow people. And as you go through a personal growth journey, what you find is that you do want to shed some people because they're not aligned to where you want to be and they're not helping you or supporting you to get to the best version of you. So take some time to do that. And then there's a takeaway task that I've put in the workbook, which is when you're scrolling through social media right down the feelings and the thoughts that you're having when you, the people that you follow in and see if they're good or bad, are they, do they make you feel good? You feel positive? Or do they make you feel negative and just have a think about that and reflect on that. So there's a couple of takeaway tasks there. And if you've not had time whilst I've been talking to go through the workbook properly, then make sure you do that. It's really important to the Deep Work. Put some nice music on and just have some time journaling. And I will see you back in lesson three where we're going to talk about what is your rooted belief about yourself. See you there. Bye. 5. Your Deep Rooted Beliefs: Hello and welcome to lesson three of your improving or self-esteem class. In this lesson, we're going to find out what is your deep rooted belief and how that is impacting on your low self-esteem. So you deep rooted belief is essentially a core belief and a core phrases statement that you have about yourself. That is probably a negative statement if you've got low self-esteem. And that is the whole essence of your personality is the middle of year. It is the essence of who you are. If you think about an onion, you might have heard this analogy before. But if you think about an onion, all the different layers of an onion is u. So on the outside, you might be confident and happy and bubbly. And if you peel back another layer, the next layer might be you were loads of makeup and your chatty, but you do have to put makeup in order to feel competent and peel back on another layer. And sometimes you might get a little bit shy. And when you speak up in meetings and actually work, if you feel a little bit shy, peel back another layer. And actually when you go to social situations, you do need alcohol in order to feel confident. But you are competent and you are the life and soul of the party. Peel back another layer. Right in the center is your deep rooted belief. And this could, this is a very unique statement to you. It's not something that anybody could tell you and it's something that you have developed through everything that we spoke about in the previous lessons. So what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna go back to the, back to the examples that we gave earlier on in lesson two. And I'm going to just expand on those children and explain what they are deep-rooted belief would be. And then whilst I'm doing that, I want you to have a think about what yours is for me to get to my deep rooted belief taught me a little bit of time. So don't worry, don't stress. If you don't know what it is, it will it will come as we do the work and as you begin to do your personal growth around your self-esteem, you will realize what your deep rooted belief. So it's important to note that you can have more than one negative belief. So in my mind, where I am ugly and I am unworthy, I'm ugly, and I'm on where they were mine. Eddie. So because Eddie had to have high grades, he became a perfectionist to ensure that everything he did was perfect. This pushed him to achieve his grades and he's rooted belief became, I am aware of if I don't do well, Sarah, because Sarah was made to feel overweight. How rooted belief was that she was fat and ugly. Way to cope with this would be to wear makeup Dress nice, and always wear nice clothes. Because without this, people would see the truth that Sarah is fat and ugly. Jane, because Jane was left out for being German. Jane became the life and soul of the party and made jokes everywhere she went. This was a cover-up hair believe belief that she is a loser and no one likes that. Kirsty because Kirsty had no money. She became a high achiever, always working hard to get a successful job because she didn't want people to say that she was unlovable without it. There's a couple of examples from the examples that I gave before. So now I want you to think about your own rooted belief and you need to finish the statement. I am. I am. Now what you'll find is, and as I've just mentioned there as well, that you'll have developed coping mechanisms to cover up your deep rooted belief because you don't want people to realize what it is. And that is why it is a deep-rooted belief. And that is why you've got low self-esteem. We cover it up because we avoid situations and we don't want people to realize that we have that rooted belief because we genuinely believe it to be true. We absolutely want a 100% believe it. And we just can't, we just do not want anyone to realize that that's true. We don't want people to realize that what fat and ugly. So we cover ourselves up with makeup. We don't want people to think loser. So we are perfectionist and make sure everything's right. We don't want people to think that we've got no money and that will pour where a high achiever and we get loads of money. So take some time, think about your rooted belief and finished the statement. I am that is on page five of your workbook, and I will see you back in less than four, where we will talk about what life experiences make your rooted belief become visible. 6. What makes your Rooted Belief Visible: Welcome to lesson four of your improving your self-esteem class. In this lesson, we are going to dive into what life experiences make your rooted belief become visible. So it's really important, and don't worry if you don't quite know what you're rooted belief is yet, it will come. And it's really important that we start to become self-aware of ourselves in our everyday life. Because that is when you're going to start to understand that you've got low self-esteem. And it's a little bit scary because actually, when you start to do what we're going to talk about now in this lesson. When you start to do this, you might start to think, actually, I have got low self-esteem. And that can be a little bit like unsettling, but do not worry because we are, the whole point of this is to bring it up to the surface. Understand what your self-esteem is. I'm picking to change it. Okay. So when you've got low self-esteem, you cover it up. So like we said in the previous lessons, you will cover up your low self-esteem because you do not want people to now, because the router belief that you have is a pretty harsh, ridiculous rooted belief. So it could be something like, I am fat and ugly. No one is ugly and no one is fat. You can't talk to yourself like that. Or I am a loser. What horrible thing to say about yourself? There's no such thing as anyone being a loser. What is a loser? It's childhood rooted beliefs because that's where it's come from, where we've been as children. But it's embarrassing. So we actually don't want people to know this because we are still quite childlike. Underneath all those layers, were still just a child in the middle of it. And we don't want people to know this about us. So we cover it up with our coping mechanisms like we've said. So what I want, what this whole lesson is about, and you need page six of your workbook is you need to start writing down and becoming aware of the situations where you feel negative or embarrassed about yourself, or shy or self-conscious. And you need to stop picking those situations out. Now you might already know what some of those are. So for me it was speaking up in a meeting and where and if you don't know, don't worry. The way you find out is when you're out and about I get everyday life. Just become self-aware. So start to think about when you feel nervous or suddenly quite anxious or flustered or hot and sweaty, or red or embarrassed or shy or ashamed or, you know, a little bit awkward. That is what you want to start writing down and just journal on page six of your workbook, what was that situation? So you've gotta deal with this point and just start to think about where you feel in those negative feelings about yourself. So because you're scared and anxious about being around other people, because you don't want people to realize who the true u is. Which is that I am a loser, which also isn't true, which is what we're going to change. So just write them down. So an example is I used to feel shy in a work meeting because I was scared of speaking up. I didn't wanna be the focus of attention and say the wrong thing. So I just didn't say anything at all. I didn't feel good enough to be there even though it was my job to be there. So my my deep rooted belief is that I'm not good enough. So that is where I understood that d We typically from that situation. So I will leave you to it. Now, if you need to come back to the next lesson, once you understand those situations and a little bit better to do that. If you already know what they all, get them down and then let's jump into less than five, which is getting rid of your low self-esteem. See you there. 7. Getting Rid of Your Low Self-Esteem: Welcome to lesson five of you are improving your self-esteem class. In this lesson, we are focusing on getting rid of your self-esteem. How do we get rid of your low self-esteem? Will find out in this lesson. You need page seven of your workbook. Okay? And the way we change your self-esteem is we start to then challenge you're rooted belief. So this is when we know the situations where you feel insecure in. We know what your deep-rooted belief is. And now we're going to challenge what? That, we're now going to challenge that deep-rooted belief. And we're going to say, actually, you know what, that's not true because it's not true. You deep-rooted belief that you have is just something that you have developed over time that is not true. And you need to start realizing that it's not true, that you are an amazing person. You've got every reason to feel confident and you do not need to listen to that inner negative self-talk that you have built up over the years. So this is my favorite lesson because this is where we start to change it. How do we then change your roots of belief? We use what's called a thought record. So this is a tool that they use in cognitive behavioral therapy. And this is a tool where we will challenge what's going on in the brain. So I want you to go to page seven of your workbook. And we're going to go through the columns in detail. So now what you'll find is that I have port 1234567. I have bought an example of a situation that happened to me in there already as a reminder after the after the lesson. So it can help you understand what you're actually supposed to put in this, in this situation. So you will do this when ever you have one of those situations where you feel nervous, shy, awkward, ashamed, embarrassed, anxious, any of those negative emotions, you will use this tool called a thought record. You have to use it as close to the situation as possible while it's all fresh in your memory. And it will help you to challenge and get rid of the low self-esteem. So let's use the example that I have put in the table. The first column is your situation. So in your situation, you need to say what happened. Where were you, what was going on? So my example was I was in a bar with my boyfriend and he was talking and laughing with a girl friend. That was the situation. Second column, on a scale of 100%, what was your emotion? I was 85 per cent jealous and I was 90% angry. I was filled with jealousy and angry. Jealousy and anger. You could also put what your body sensations. Where were you? Nervous? We use sweaty. Where's your heart? Would you angry with you? Read write that down. The third column is your thoughts. So my thoughts where she's really pretty and I don't want my boyfriend to like a more than he likes me. I know that's a bit of a ridiculous thought about is what happens when you jealous. Number for what was going on in your body? You're agitated, anxious, angry. Number column number five. What was the belief? So my belief was, I'm not good enough. I'm not good enough. She's better than me. I'm not good enough. Rooted belief. There's your deep rooted belief. If you don't know what it is yet, you'll find out in this table. Then what we do is we do number six. So what was the evidence to support that negative, deep-rooted belief will actually on reflection, there is no evidence that my boyfriend links are more than me. There isn't any. There isn't any he's talking to I that's not evidence. He's just talking to her. And then the important column number seven is, what is the evidence to not support the belief that you're not good enough? Well, actually, my boyfriend loves me very much, is just being friendly and he just gets on with people is just how my hand is just whispered in me that he loves me. He's just bought me a drink and told me that I look gorgeous. And it changes how you think about yourself. So what you then do an insane okay, So actually, I started off with eighty-five percent jealousy and 90% anger, but actually now on flexion, I'm probably not that hungry. I add a little weird myself. I've challenged the belief and actually I am good enough and I am his girlfriend, and he's literally just talking to someone. That is how that table works. Once you start to practice it, you will realize that you can do this for any situation that makes you unhappy. And it will help to understand your thoughts easier. It helps your concerns what's happening. It helps you think about things in a logical way and it will help you challenge that belief, challenges situation and think logically and think, actually, I've got no reason to feel like this here. This is a little bit silly. Not that anything that you think is silly, but it's about was challenging it. So that thought record is something that you can continue to use. So I've given you a little bit of a table there and obviously you can draw that off. You can make a new one. You can generally in your journal all of the time and just keep on using it. That is a very, very good tool that you can continue to take home with you after this class. You can take that with you for the rest of your life to begin to work on your self-esteem. That is what we do to get rid of your self-esteem. So I will leave that table with you and look forward to seeing you in lesson number six, the final lesson before we get to your project, which is where you create your new identity. See you there. 8. Your Identity: Welcome to lesson Number six of your improving your self-esteem class. In this lesson, we are going to create your new identity. I love this lesson. This is a great thing to do and it's really, really important and useful to spend some time creating your identity. So you will need workbook pages 89 for this one. Your identity is a really important part of your self-esteem. So you might have heard the phrase, what you think you become, the language that you say to yourself and what you tell yourself who you are is who you will become. So if you tell yourself you're shy, you will be shy. If you tell yourself you're insecure and jealous, you will be insecure and jealous. It's really important to understand the words and the language that you use to describe yourself. If you've got low self-esteem, you will probably have negative self-talk. You will put yourself down a lot. You would tell yourself you can't do this. You will have low self doubt. You will be anxious a lot of the time because you just don't speak to yourself in a kind way. You'll be a bully, T-cells. So you could be someone who could tell yourself the way that you can't do this. No one wants to listen to you, et cetera, et cetera. I've been there. I still struggle with this. I completely know how it feels, but it's rarely important through the thought record that we went through in the previous lesson. To start to challenge and turn the way you think about yourself and the way you talk to yourself. So what I want you to do is create a new identity. So in pages 89, you'll see that you can create and draw. I want you to spend some time draw any new self, your alter-ego, celebrity and really get into alter-ego. Some celebrities all have alter egos. Be on-site. Sasha Fierce, M&M, Marshall mothers. There's lots of celebrities have this alter ego that they step into it as like their presence to be the person that they need to be in order to do their, their music business, for example. But actually, you can do that as well. So I doesn't have to be human, doesn't have to be. It can be whatever you want it to be. So mine, I call mine Ty grass. And she was a red headed, fierce leopard printed, confident, sassy woman. Sometimes I'll still say to myself when I'm walking into work, I am tiger yesterday, I've got no time for rubbish basically like I have I'm going to own the day. I'm not doubting myself. I'm going to feel competent because I'm talking about like, it's so fun. You can literally create wherever you want to create and just spend some time put some gorgeous meditation music on and just really spend some time I draw and hair color red. Share with me what you alter ego looks like. You don't even have to use a stencil on the workbook. You can do a completely brand new page. This isn't even your project. This is just an amazing fun way to create your identity. You can literally change your identity over night. So prime example, listened to my episode 11 of the podcast scale. You need Becky alanine. She talks about she is a woman who has got a visible disability. She moved schools because she was being bullied and she went to a second school and she was like Genoa, I am changing overnight. I am not taking normal grief from anyone. I'm standing up for myself and I'm going to be a boss babe. And that is exactly what she did. You can literally change who you are over night. Tony Robbins talks about all the time. If I gave you a million pounds, could you be a different person tomorrow? Could you stop being anxious? Yes. Could you be happy? Yes. Like, you can change your emotions and who you are in a snapshot. And it's really good to get into that habit of doing that. So you don't have to be the shy person. You don't have to be no confidence. Yes, it'll be scary if you find it scary to speak up in a presentation or to speak up in wag, its gonna be scary to suddenly start doing that, but you are tigress, so yes, you can do that. If you get nervous and you got a bit flaky, it's fine. It's absolutely fine because that is what life is. We're all nervous at the end of the day, no one is really bothered about what you sound like if everyone is in the road heads anyway, so you do not need to worry. Okay? So it's all about creating the new year with who you want to bait and go get it. 9. Recap Lesson: Congratulations, you have completed your improving your self-esteem class. I hope you found it a benefit. And here we are going do a recap of what you have learned. So self-esteem is developed in early childhood through life situations. And hopefully by now, you have a deep understanding of where your low self-esteem comes from is the overall opinion you have of yourself. And if you have low self-esteem, this is a negative overall opinion. The core essence of you. If you have low self-esteem, you develop coping ways to hide it because you don't want people to see you. You think you really are. For example, the I'm a loser. You now know what your deep rooted belief is or have already started working on overcoming that and changing that to be a more positive and highly self-esteem individual. You've now begun to understand what situations meet. You feel insecure and have low self-esteem. I need P given a tool to challenge this belief and begin to change how you feel about it. You've developed your new identity, ready to take forward with you. And you've drawn your milestones triangle of what you're, of what you will face to increase your self-esteem. And I can't wait to see it. So hopefully that's been a really good class and it's giving you tools and techniques to start moving forward on your self-esteem. The biggest thing is becoming self-aware. I now have the tools to do that, to then challenge that and improve your rooted belief. So it's been great teaching you if you've got any questions that you need to know the answers to, just reach out to me anytime on Skillshare. And I'll be sure to get back to you and I will see you very soon. Thank you so much for taking part. Take care. Bye.