10 DAYS TO CAMERA CONFIDENCE

1. Welcome & What to expect: Hello, hello, Hello everyone. Welcome to ten days to camera confidence. My name is Eunice and I'm going to be your guide on this journey. And I am truly excited to welcome you on to this journey with me where we are going to walk together for the next ten days. I'm going to hold your hand. I'm going to guide you in the footsteps to becoming radically confident in front of the camera. Now, I want to ask you before we begin in this program for you to put away temporarily everything you know, everything that you've learnt about being confident in front of the camera. Just for now. Just so we can put our beliefs aside. We can put everything that we've learnt aside and just really allow ourselves to immerse into this program everything that we knew about, what it means to be confident, what it looks like, to be confident, what it feels to be confident like. We've all had these ideas. We've generated all these ideas like how it's supposed to look like. And in this program, I'm going to ask you to temporarily put it as site. If you desire. Later you can pick those beliefs backup, you can revisit them and that's entirely okay. And I'm going to ask you, in this program we're going to dive into so much like inner work, we're going to dive into so much belief work. We're going to deconstruct some of the things that we believe about. What confidence means that it's going to change. Your perspective is going to help you change the relationship with you and the camera. My intention for you, this program is to help you fall in love with the camera, to help you fall in love with the experience of speaking into that little black dot over there, is to help you truly enjoy the experience of expressing yourself. Sharing about your feelings, sharing about who you are, and really just letting your voice be heard in front of other people. And the way that I set up this container is actually very special. I'm going to dive in to that later. I've really set up this container to help you experience your presence. This is really, really special and I think you're not going to be able to get this anywhere else. Like it's just such a delicious experience when you go into the program and you don't just hear or learn about the thing. But this is a full body integration kind of experience. This container is going to help you experience your own personal presence. I desire to help you rebuild and deconstruct, deconstruct and rebuild your relationship with a camera and deconstruct any false beliefs and his stories that you carry. The relationship you have with your body, your self-expression, and the way that you relate to your audience, like everything, everything, everything we're going to cover, and this is going to change everything for you. One of the things that I really want to touch on before we step into this experience is going to be really important for you to hold and developed this quality. As we dive deeper into the journey. And this quality is self-leadership. What I mean by that is the willingness that you need to have to leave yourself, even without external pressure, even when I'm not giving you pressure, even when I'm not here to hold your hand, even when you don't have other people like checking in on you and seeing if you're doing it or anyone looking over your shoulder like this is the one quality that defines people who are really successful on their journeys. And it is determined by how you're able to lead yourself on the days where you don't even feel like it. I don't need to manipulate you. I don't need to incentivize you. I mean, the idea that like when you walk out of this program, you're going to be confident you're going to love yourself more. You're going to enjoy communicating with other people. That's the whole idea. You don't need other kinds of incentive to push you along the way. You're going to become the person who really believes in yourself, you're gonna become the person who's really accountable, even when there's no one to hold your hand. If you know that you wanted so badly. And you are going to make this happen no matter what, you're going to learn this no matter what. And I'm telling you like ten days is a very short time. But I have lead my clients through this process and they have come out on the other side after ten days. Even like by the time you get to the fifth or sixth day mark, you're going to, it's going to click for you and you're gonna realize how easy it actually is. Like this works, guys, this works. The difference is knowing that you want it so badly that you're willing to lead yourself, even when nobody is leading you. That's where the magic is. That's where it all of a sudden, just like clicks, you know, this is the opportunity and this is a container where you get to hold yourself accountable and really raise that standard for yourself. This is a place where you set new standards. This is where you get to know yourself again, this is where you get really, really deep, like in touch with yourself and hold yourself when you don't feel like going on. So welcome to the program. There's so much goodness waiting for you in the next ten days. And my hope for you is that you're able to walk through every single day and feel super proud of herself, really enjoying the learning process, and feel freaking proud of yourself when you come out on the other side. That's it. Enjoy the ride. I will see you on the other side. 2. Day 1 - Setting a Powerful Context: Okay, so the first thing we are going to do before we dive into the practicality of things is I'm going to ask you to set some very strong and powerful intentions before we begin. Some of the questions I'm going to ask you and I want you to take these questions and like, spend some time with yourself and ask yourself, why is this so important for you? What about speaking confidently into the camera is going to change for you? How is it going to change the way that you see yourself? How is it going to change the way you show up? What are you even doing this for? Because when we know how we want to experience something like with a container, with your audience, with a camera, with yourself. It really heightens your awareness around the expectations you have for yourself and also the expectations you have for the container. And how, knowing how you're going to participate in the container, in this journey as you integrate the things that you learn into your body. So it wouldn't does it kind of casts and energetic projection of what you're willing to commit into this program. Like this is such a huge piece. And I'm going to ask you not to overlook this piece because when you heighten your awareness around your expectations, when you set the tone for how you're going to show for a program, it really changes your experience going into it and going through it and coming out of it. This is not just about like like unwilling to do the work every day. It's not just about doing the actions. It's not just about taking actions. Even though taking action is also a part of the learning journey. But it is also like asking yourself, okay, what level of awareness, what level of self introspection am I ready? Am I prepared to bring into this experience? And this is going to change the way you speak into the camera, is going to change the way that you relate yourself to the camera because this is not a performance game. This is not about how well you are at faking it or how well you are at pretending to be confident. This is like, it's not about how well you mimic the, the cues of confidence or the traits of confidence. This is a self-awareness game, and if you can truly bring yourself awareness to the next level, it's going to change this whole experience for you. So first thing I'm going to ask you to do is spend some time with yourself and sit with yourself with these questions. I'm going to include them in the worksheet that I that I included in the description. And allow yourself to feel into the intentions that are surfacing for you. And allow the intention is to hold your experience in the next ten days. So congratulations for completing day one. Tomorrow, we are going to dive into more practical stuff, like going to talk about the fears, the the inner thoughts and doing it scared. So I will see you tomorrow. 3. Day 2 - Fear in One Hand, Courage in Another: Welcome You guys. Welcome back to ten days to camera confidence. Day to yesterday, you have set some very powerful intentions and now you are ready to die into the work. And today, I'm going to just give it to you. I'm just going to give it to you. Today. We are talking about learning by being in it. We're going to talk about integration. And we're gonna talk about doing it scared. We're going to talk about fear because fear, it's such a big element. Two, like speaking, the experience of speaking into camera, It's always the fear that we don't really know how to sit, where we don't know how to fight, we don't know how to combat. So in this video in today, we are going to just unravel everything around it. Now. This Vd, this program is very practical, so we're actually going to do the things. It's not just about you sitting here in LA, LA LA watching videos. But this is about you being in the work, doing the work and like allowing yourself to integrate the things that you're learning on the video and then doing the homework. So what I'm going to ask you to do now, this is going to really require yourself leadership and your commitment. So don't drop the ball here. Don't drop yourself here. I'm going to ask you to do a video every day. It doesn't matter what it's about. It doesn't matter how long it is. It doesn't matter where you do the video. You can do the video on like you could do recorded videos and not show them to anybody. Or you could do just like live videos. Or you could do them on Instagram. You could do like Instagram stories. It doesn't actually quite matter. What is a media, what does a channel, or what is the content that you do for as long as you do a video every every day, like you talk about something. To make it easier for you guys. Would probably help if you have a given topic that you want to talk about. So like think of a topic that is easy for you to extensively talk about or something that you extensively know about you're very familiar with. You could just like riff off. Just like talking about it for half an hour. It doesn't matter. You can even talk about it for five minutes if you desire, right? If you're really serious about this work, going to follow through. What I'm going to ask you to do is make an announcement that for the next ten days, you are going to do a video every single day. This applies only to the people who want to do like live videos or if you want to upload something like if you have an audience, if you have an audience to show it to, or you have, you're speaking to a particular subject. Then you want to do an announcement, you want to make an announcement. And then you're going to decide what you're going to talk about. You basically tell people for the next sorry, for the next nine days, we have nine days left. For the next nine days, we are going to we're gonna meet every day and I'm going to do a video. I'm going to upload a video every single day. That is the announcement that you're going to make. You can also explain why you're doing this. You can tell people that you are practicing your camera confidence or you don't have to for as long as you make the announcement and you tell people that for the next nine days, you're gonna be you're gonna be seeing a lot of my face. So now when we talk about the fear, there's no way to run from it. Like I'm just going to break it to you guys. There's no way to run from it. Here's where we talk about what to do with a fear. Because a lot of times, the moment when we fear, or the moment when we anticipate, as we start to imagine what's going to happen, then that's usually where we dropped the ball. That's usually where we abandon ourselves and runaway and don't stick with our commitments. So now we're going to talk about what to do when we are scared. Because the truth is, before I even got articulate, before, it even became easy for me to speak on camera. And even sometimes I'm like stuttering and stumbling over my words and my words don't make sense and my thoughts are all jumbled. Before I overcame my fears. I was still scared and I'm going to tell you there's some times I am still scared. And so it's really not about getting rid of the fear per se. It's not about not feeling it at all. But it's realizing that the fear is only the strongest when I am anticipating the pain. When I'm like really heightening my awareness about the doom that is coming or the moments where I'm going to fail, or the moments where I'm going to trip over my words or how people are not going to be interested in me and they're going to leave me and they're going to think that I'm uninteresting. That is the fear is the most prominent. That's when it feels the most strong. What I really want to share with you guys and today's lesson is the only way to go through the fear. If you write it through. If you ride the fear, you will learn to stay with a fear and stay with yourself. Calm your nervous system. When you realize you're starting to freak out, you stay with a fear and you stay with yourself. You ride, you ride through the fear and you calm your nervous system. And so that's the place where you're sitting there or maybe you're breathing and you're anticipating doing the video and telling yourself that you are going to be okay. You are going to be okay. Repetitively, like in whatever way or form you tell yourself that it is going to be okay. Like one breath at a time, one thought at a time. You don't need to make the fear go away because there's nothing wrong with it. You don't need to lose yourself in the fight or flight mode. Instead. Learn to see that fear as an opportunity to deepen the connection with yourself. The next time you're like, Oh my gosh, like I'm going to lose it right now. Like I've got, you know, 500 thoughts like spinning in my head at the same time and I'm so scared and I don't know what's going to happen and I don't know what to say and I can't look directly into the camera. It's like the moment you are about to lose it is a moment. You step back into your awareness and you calm yourself down and you calm your nervous system. You soothe yourself by telling yourself that everything is going to be okay. And use that opportunity to learn to stand by yourself, not abandon yourself, but to stand by yourself, anchor yourself. Allow yourself to keep putting one foot before another calmly, like at that steady pace without freaking out and a boarding the vision. Part one of your homework today is going to be making that announcement. You're going to tell people for the next nine days, you're either gonna see me upload a video or you gonna see me doing a live video, facebook, Instagram, YouTube, it does not matter. And the energy of some things happening, like, Look guys, I'm doing a thing. There is that as the power of an announcement. When you announce, it's like I've got something coming, something's happening. And I am the boss. I am the one who calls the shots. Watch me kind of attitude. It doesn't matter who watches. It, doesn't matter what anybody says. It doesn't matter who stays, who goes like, this is about you drawing the line that I'm doing this for myself. I'm making something happen. It's like an like a very elevating experience for yourself. Then the second part of every single day's assignment is going to be giving yourself a presence score. Now, what a present score is. It's not like, oh, I'm gonna check off the box and I've done it. It's not like I've just done it, I'm just going to cross it off my list. Present score is ranging from one to ten, with one being I don't feel like I'm in touch with myself. To ten being I felt like a really carried myself through. I was really present in the process. I really felt my presence. I really felt like super aware. I felt really grounded in the experience. I was really in touch with a moment when I was on camera. That is like number ten in your presence score. So every day you're going to give yourself a present score ranging from one to ten. You're going to see that. You're going to measure how present you were with yourself. So this is like how we gauge the quality of the video. Not just by check it off, I've done the job, but how present I was with myself, how President I was with my message. How here, like I really am. I hope you enjoy these assignments and don't be afraid to ask any questions if you have any questions at all, it just drop it in the comments. And enjoy. I look forward to hearing about your experience and I will see you tomorrow. 4. Day 3 - Holding Space for Self Appreciation: Welcome, welcome and do day three. I am excited to open this topic today by talking about self appreciation for yourself. This is like such a key part to feeling into your presence when you talk to someone, when you talk into the camera, when you connect with someone. Because how we feel about ourselves is going to determine how we show up. It's going to tell is going to determine how we allow or restrict ourselves from doing the things that we actually care about. When we have a sabotaging dialogue, like when we have that narrative where it's really like nasty, it's mean. Like the way we dismissively talk about ourselves internally. It reflects and shows up on the outside. It manifests into the way we do things, the way we show up. It manifests into nervousness because we're meeting up ourselves on the inside. So today we're going to talk about learning to appreciate yourself. Like having the awareness, having the willingness to investigate, okay? Like what is going on in the inner world? What are some of the judgments that are happening on the inside? The maybe I'm not so aware about. Maybe I am aware about, but like bring them to the table so that we can look at it. Now this is going to be uncomfortable, like the inner work for the inner work for like learning to be confident. It's not. You don't just snap your fingers and your fear, all your fears go away. This is going to require your dedication, your awareness, your willingness to learn, to appreciate yourself, and also the willingness to drop the beliefs and the dialogues that no longer serve you behind. And learning to appreciate yourself is like learning to admire yourself and seeing yourself as though a mother would see her trial like it is learned. It's not you don't just like all of a sudden are super kind to yourself and super gentle to yourself. But it's like it's a process to learn to appreciate yourself, to learn to gently love yourself and nourish yourself on the times when you feel a little down. The good thing, the good news that I have for you is that you don't have to be perfect to start learning, to appreciate yourself. You can start with very small steps. You can start with the tiniest little things that you can think of to start appreciating yourself first. You can just simply appreciate yourself or taking this program. You can appreciate yourself for giving an effort. You can appreciate yourself or doing a video a day. You can appreciate yourself or making a commitment, or at least having the willingness to learn, right? So you start by the little things and then over time it starts to build up. Now, what we want to do is hold the awareness, not just like of the things that we want to appreciate ourselves with and not just cultivate appreciation, we don't just want to cultivate gratitude, but we also want to hold space for awareness of the things that we criticize about ourselves. We want to hold space for the places where we don't feel good enough. We also want to make space for feeling the sides where we are hurting. Or we feel like I'm just not doing enough or I am not enough, or I'm not worthy enough or I'm not attractive enough, like shining light on those parts of us is going to really help us cultivate like what is the gunk that is lurking around in the inside world so that when we shine light on that, we also have an opportunity to clear that out. Today's homework is going to come in two folds. The first part is that I'm going to ask you to notice the criticism at you. From yourself, the criticism that you're giving to yourself, from yourself, and all the things that you say about yourself, the attacks, that judgment, the criticism, the nasty things that the mean, like the meanness. Bring them to the table and just hold a safe space for yourself. If this is too intense, allow yourself to take a breath and take a step back. Be gentle in your stuff, and step back again when you're ready. The first part is going to be investigation. What we're going to look into is like why you haven't done videos before or why you haven't felt comfortable in doing videos before. What is the opinion of yourself that caused you to not want to do it? That's question number one. Question number two is, what don't you like about yourself on camera? This is not easy. I have done this and I've gone through this process. But we're going to move along. We're not going to stay there. We're going to move along later. What don't you like about yourself on the camera? Could be your voice, could be your appearance, could be the way that you talk. I could. It could be your expression. It could be a combination of things. Maybe as your gesture or whatever. Then part two of the assignment, we're going to expand, we're going to, we're going to bring you to a place of expansion. Ask yourself, what do I appreciate about myself in this camera experience? Do I appreciate the fact that I'm curious enough to learn? Or maybe I'm taking life one step at a time and I'm growing myself one step at a time. Do I appreciate the fact that I am curious enough to learn that I am actually a very honest person. I like to share things on camera. Or maybe I liked the way that I wear my lipstick. I liked the way that I show up. I liked the way that I stand up for myself. I liked the way that I'm dedicated. There are multiple reasons that you could go in any direction, but mainly focus on the things that you appreciate about yourself and just shower yourself and not loving expanding appreciation. Just like feel your heart like open up. Lots of inner work to do today. But this investigation is going to help you clear out the gunk, help you expand, relax into your system. And then tomorrow we're going to dive into another very interesting topic. I'll see you soon. 5. Day 4 - Stop Villainizing Your Audience: Hello everybody, Welcome to Day. For now, I hope you're following along. I hope you are doing the work to make sure every day you are doing a video and then also giving yourself a presence score. Now, let's move along. Yesterday we talked about healing, letting go of our self-criticism, shining light on our self-criticism, and also expanding into what we appreciate about ourselves. This is like such a delicious and yummy part of the journey. And today we're going to talk about our audience. Why? Because what we think about our audience determines how safe we feel with them. The problem that a lot of us have is that we are actually afraid because we believe that people are going to launch a judgment at us. We believe that it's not safe because if we don't live up to their expectations, they're going to hurt us, are going to judge us, they're gonna criticize us. They must be judging me and we're thinking about all the things that they're saying. This is a way that our minds distract us from the things that we truly care about. Like I actually just want to care about what I'm passionate about. I want to care about what I'm going to tell you. I want to just focus on what I'm really, really passionate about. Instead of, instead of being so preoccupied about what the person on the other side is thinking about me. By obsessing about what other people are thinking about us. It takes us away from our passion. We've become more passionate about what other people are thinking week. We spend more time thinking about what other opinion is of us, then our material message impact the change that we can make. Let's prioritize the right things. Let's prioritize the things that actually matter to us, we actually care about that is going to actually make a difference. Today's video is short, but I'm gonna give you the homework now. And it's going to help you realize how much we have villainized our audience. And I use the word villainize. I know it's a very, very strong word, but sometimes we villainized our audience thinking that they launch judgments at us by secretly attacking us. What we want to discover today is by writing down a list. So you're going to put it in a notebook. You're going to write it into a list. Write down all the things that you think. Your audience is going to judge you for. Write down all the assumptions you have about your audience. I assume that they're judging me. I assume that they don't like me. I assume that they think I'm not articulate enough. I assume I assume I assume write down all the assumptions that they will judge us for. This is gonna be hard to look at, but this is awareness. This piece of work is bringing your awareness to the table. The second piece of your homework is looking at these assumptions. After you finish writing them down, allow yourself to just look at them and feel into how disconnecting these thought is. These thoughts are to your mission, to your passion. And how disconnecting these thoughts are from you and yourself and you and your message and you. The things that you actually care to tell people about. How much it holds you away from the enjoyment, from the pleasure of speaking into the camera, the pleasure of the moment. Because we're holding onto these judgments, were holding onto these beliefs. It puts like a barrier between us and true enjoyment, true flow. After you've written the entire list, I'm going to ask you to just look at it and feel the disconnection that takes place. Then ask yourself, when you're ready. Ask yourself, am I ready to let this go? I willing to let this go? Am I willing to release all the assumptions that I have about my audience? Release yourself from having to believe that your audience is secretly attacking you, that your audiences secretly making judgments about you. When you've done that, you're going to feel better, you're going to feel lighter. But most importantly, it's getting this process started. Maybe it's not going to happen in one go. Maybe it's like you're going to have to come back multiple times to release these thoughts over and over again. It's going to take multiple, multiple times probably. But the important part is that you're aware of your assumptions about your audience and that you're willing to start letting it go because it's no longer serving you. Enjoy this part of your exercise. Enjoy the video for today and don't forget to put your presence, give yourself a present score after you have done your video for today. And I'll see you tomorrow. 6. Day 5 - Ditch the Act, Master the Body: Welcome back. Today. Today is going to be a really fun one. And I am excited, I'm excited about this one because this material is going to release so much for you, it's going to, you're going to feel like so liberated and so relaxed about how you actually get to be yourself on camera. This is about ditching the act. It's about mastering the physical. It's about mastering your body. Like really taking ownership of your body instead of losing your mind when you're really nervous. Now, one of the things that I have read a lot about when I was learning to be comfortable and confident in front of camera was the fact that I needed to use a lot of gestures. I need to pace around, I needed to use my hands. Like, I need to do a lot of things in order to look confident in front of the camera. I'm gonna be honest with you. That didn't work for me. Like it just didn't work because then the whole thing became just a performance. One mistake that one of the biggest mistakes that I have seen people do is like trying to do a lot of gestures and trying to make eye contact and trying to raise eyebrows or sound more excited than they actually are. Or be loud or raise your voice. Are taking like super slow deep breaths. All of these are like things that people have taught us to copy, mimic. Now, I want this experience to be yours and yours only. And so I really want you to do whatever feels right for you. If any of this is not resonating, you can feel free to just leave it. But you are the best judge of what works for you. What feels most comfortable for you. When you feel comfortable. That's when your natural energy in your essence is going to expand. So first of all, I want to let you know that pretending to be excited is not your drop. Now sometimes we'll pretend to be excited because it helps us to ease our nervous system like when we feel excited and like that excitement and the adrenaline counters the nervousness. So then we hype ourself up to two because it's a very similar kind of feeling. Excitement and nervousness is like you feel the intensity of that in your body. But you don't have to act excited. If you're not. This is probably the most liberating thing that I can say for you. Like you don't have to act excited. If you're not, if you don't if you don't physically demonstrate or prove that you're excited, It's okay. True excitement. And I'm talking about like the feeling where you're just gushing. Like you're just like exploding out. Because you want to tell people something that energy comes from you truly carrying about what you need to say. It comes from a very deep connection where you're like, All my gosh, this is so important. This is so important. I need to say this. I want to say this, this is going to change. The world is going change someone's life. That's where true excitement is going to come from. And if you're not feeling that, that's okay. You don't have to, you don't have to make people interested in you. You don't have to say something to get people's reaction. You don't it's not your job to hype them up. You're not like they're hype man. You don't have to earn their interest. When you learn to be interested in yourself. When you're first interested in yourself, then people will turn their heads and listen. Then people will be like, Oh yeah, that person sounds like she really cares about that. That person won't stop talking about this. That person feels really passionate about this. They'll pick it up. That's when they'll actually turn their heads and listen to what you have to say. Not because you say it's important, not because you raise your voice, not because you act excited, not because you gesture a lot, not because you put all the bells and whistles to attract people's attention or raise your voice. Is none of that. Is the fact that you actually freaking care. You really, really care. That's what's going to make people pay attention. When you're interested. When you have to say, then people will be interested in what you have to say. So when you let go of the idea that it is your responsibility to excite people, that it's your responsibility to get people to be interested in you. You just let it go. Now your responsibility, you don't have to hype them up. When you focus on calming yourself and being connected to yourself and being connected to your message. That's when your nervous system is going to calm down. That's when you're going to come back into your body and soothe yourself. You know, instead of forcing yourself to breathe, you're going to breathe as though you know that you're safe. Is a difference between forcing yourself to take deep breaths, like very forceful and it's like I feel even like doing that makes me feel very nervous. But when you breathe as though, you know, you're safe, That's when your nervous system is going to calm down and it's going to stop sending alarm bells out there. For today's homework. I'm going to give you a visualization and you can practices as many times as you want until you really feel it. Or if this doesn't work for you, you can find another way to access this feeling. Now, I want to emphasize the feeling of safety in this exercise. Whatever it is that you feel is going to heighten and reinforce this feeling of safety. You can do that or you can do the exercise that I'm suggesting for you right here. Now, I want to, I want you to imagine a person you really trust in your life and you feel really safe in their presence. You have that person in your mind. Now I want you to visualize this person holding a big, heavy, big blanket, wrapping it around you? That person holding you in the blanket like a burrito. Really, really tight. Not like suffocating tight, but like really tight. What you're gonna do is you're gonna learn to just be in the safety like nothing can hurt you. And you're just going to be in their warm embrace. You don't need to be anywhere. You don't need to do anything to prove that you're worthy. You are just in their warm embrace. Surrender, surrendering your body into this feeling of safety. You're gonna surrender your body into this feeling of trust and safety. Like there's nothing better in the world. Like as I'm saying this, I feel so that's it. As you're visualizing this. Allow your facial muscles like here. Draw cheeks, your neck, your chest, and your shoulders. Hands. Let them feel on clenched. Allow yourself to experience this and clenching This, releasing, this. Relaxing. Then I want you to practice this a few times before you step into your next video. Practices for as many times as you want to feel safe in any situation, any circumstance. This exercise is like. So, so good for your nervous system, for anything. Enjoy this exercise. Let me know in the comments like how you feel about this. What is your takeaway, how you felt about this particular exercise? I like, I really want to know and enjoy do this as many times as you like. And I will see you in the next video. 7. Day 6 - Weigh Your Words: Hello and welcome to day six. Today we are going to play with words. We're going to bring the meaning back into the words that you use when you speak into the camera. One of the things that I realized when I was like, I was feeling like I was losing my mind when I spoken to the camera out of nervousness, out of just disconnection with my body, is that I also felt really disconnected with the words that I use. One of the things that I noticed when I talk to people is like, There's no problem when I talked to my best friends, when I talk to people on the phone, when I've talked to people face-to-face, it's like the meanings of the words are there. But for some reason when I'm speaking in front of the camera, the meaning of the words just like leave my head, it leaves my body. And so what we want to do is bring the meaning back. Bringing the meaning back into our sentences are words. The things that we intend to say. Really chew on the words and say them with a weight that it comes with, instead of just blurting them out, instead of saying things fast because we're afraid that we're wasting people's time or we are we need to wrap up quickly or we need to speed it up so that we sound more intelligent. But we don't have to do that. It's all about bringing the meaning back into the words so that when we say it, we feel the meaning. Then we're coming from a place of intentionality. We're coming from a place of being connected with our messages. Then on top of that, people will really feel what we have to say. This is how we get people to actually respect us and listen to us and turn heads and pay attention to what we have to say. Not by dumping out like a million things out at once. It's not about hurling everything out, but it's about the things that we say, having the weight that it deserves. So that when we say them, it's actually meaningful. It actually, you know, what actually lends it actually means something. One thing that I would love to bring your attention to is to focus on the meaning, to focus on the meaning of the words. To focus on how you connect with the words, how you feel about the words like how it just like, Oh, yes, this one, this word, this sentence, this feeling. Focus on the feeling. The feeling is what's going to lead the words to come through. Focus on the feeling of your delivery incentive, like trying to dissect them into sentences, trying to form like perfect sentences. And allow yourself to feel the words in your body as an experience in itself. Instead of. This is what we do when we think about what we have to say. And when we're nervous, what often happens is the words, like we just think about the words and then our body is like disconnected. But what I want to do, what I want to achieve here is reconnect the words and the meaning and the feeling, feeling of the words back into our bodies so that our body can actually experience what it means to actually save this thing. What it means in our body, what we're failing in our body when we say it, instead of just blurting out the sentences, instead of just blurting out like words without the feelings. This homework for today is an awareness piece. All right, so what I'm going to ask you to do is throw the day today. Listen to yourself speak. This is really weird. You're like what? Listened to myself speak? Yes. I want you to listen to yourself. Speak to people, to the person at the grocery store, to people in your family, to anyone. And listen. Bringing awareness when you're speaking to the words that you say, feelings that you say. The feeling that exists in your body as your expressing it. Allow this to be like a whole dance because it is, it is a dance. It is a combination of movements, gestures, the feeling in your body, and the words like beautiful dance is beautiful experience. And allow yourself to have that really like sinking into the experience of feeling the words, feeling the feelings, then carrying that level of awareness into the camera so that it's not just like an isolated experience. I know you're not going to be like 247 like soup, like just listening to the words that you say and listening to a feeling that is in your body, but allow the feeling to be integrated enough so that when you do go into the camera and you do record yourself, that the feeling is there and that it's not like super odd to hear yourself. Because when we feel disconnected with our body, that's when a completely separates and then we're like, okay, I'm hearing myself and I sound really weird. That's when we're like super disconnected. So throughout the day, allow the integration to happen. Allow this to become habit and you carry the feeling of just being really connected with your speech, your expression throughout the day. And then when you bring that into camera, it's not going to be like an isolated experience. You're not going to freak out. Your your nervous system is not going to send off alarms. Enjoyed today's video, and I will see you in the next one. 8. Day 7 - Holding the Space In Between: Our k and welcome back. Today's Seven. Today we're going to talk about holding space for gaps, holding space in between sentences. Now some of us are really uncomfortable with the idea of like silence and waiting to our next sentence. And so when we're nervous, we tend to just blurt out everything really, really fast. So yesterday we talked about giving the weight back into the words, really chewing our words and letting our body experience the feeling of the words in our body. Today. We're going to learn what to do with that gap. What I find a lot of people do and what I used to do as well is because I was so nervous, I would fill the gap with my insecurity and I forced myself to speed up. The opposite of that is like, well, got to slow down. Then we force ourselves to slow down because those are some tips around public speaking, around speaking in front of the camera. So then we force ourselves to slow down, but then it doesn't really make sense because our bodies so uncomfortable with a silence. What do we do? We end up rushing to fill in the gaps. We end up feeling super awkward when we hold silence, when we hold space between the sentences, we steal people from the opportunity in appreciating what we really have to say when we blurt out everything really fast. The process of holding space for silence and holding space in-between sentences is, is allowing people to appreciate the meanings that we brought to our sentences and allow them to process what just happened. What did we just deliver? What do we just said? What, what do we just say instead of covering the discomfort with words? Because that's not going to allow them to process it. What I want to re-frame around here with you is when we hold space, it is not emptiness. Because in our minds we think that okay, a couple of seconds have gone by, or it's just like the silence is so loud that it's ringing in your ears. But it's not emptiness. When we hold space, It's not awkwardness. It's not like a staring contest. The period or the full stop that holds the sentence between the space between sentences so that people can fully allow the meaning to sink into their bodies. People can fully appreciate what you've just said. What we've got to do is to fully trust the process of our communication. We've got a trust, our ability to communicate. We've got to trust the words that we use. We've got to trust the sentences that we use to communicate with what a trust our bodies to do the talking. And at the same time, we've got a trust that the space in-between also is filled with her presence and meaning. That we can actually enjoy the act of delivering message to our audience. What you want to do is instead of thinking them as empty space, thinking of the gap as like milliseconds or seconds. You want to re-frame that into. I'm gonna fill this moment with my presence. I'm going to fill this moment with communication that can only be held with my eyes. I'm going to fill this time with my energy and we're going to hold the moment together. Your presence is like literally the glue that bridges from one idea to the next. It's not empty space. It's the glue that holds it together. You're filling it with meaning that cannot be articulated simply would words or gestures. It has to be held with your eyes, with your presence, with your energy, while people let it settle into their bodies. So what I would love for you to do today, there are two parts to this exercise. The first part is stand in front of the mirror. And it's probably going to feel a little uncomfortable for you if you haven't done this before. But look into the mirror and feel your presence without saying anything, without doing anything, without scratching, without really just trying to do something and stimulate yourself. Just like hold the gaze with yourself are alike. Hold a gaze with your body. At your body experience, your presence, experience of what it feels too. 9. Day 8 - Throw Perfectionism Out The Window: Welcome to day. Almost done. We're almost like crossing the finish line. So today we are talking about leaving perfection out the door, like chuck it out the window. Now what I'm really excited about this, like this video today is that this is going to be so releasing for you, so empowering for you because this is going to give you back the opportunity to just fully be yourself, fully in your style, in the way that you'd like to talk, in the way that you like to like gesture and just be yourself or slow down and speed up whenever you want. Be fully yourself. The reason why we stutter and the reason why we trip over ourselves, because when we think that we are in front of other people, we believe that we got to be different. We've got to be professional, be polite, we've got to be formal, we've got to be perfect. We've got to look professional. It's like it's like all these things that feel really restricting brings out like a really restricting side of us. It feels very like tightening and confining. What happens is we start thinking to ourselves will, if I can't be my normal self, if I am not allowed to Ullman. And if I'm not a lot to say like And so like. So then brought us speak in complete sentences, bed some perfect. We try to erase ourselves and when we erase and edit ourselves in our head, our bodies like no, this is not good. I don't like this. Try to sound really official and your body's like, No, that's not me. I don't know. We're not going there. So instead of thinking about the formalities, instead of thinking about politeness, what we want to do is learn to accept. This is how I talk. Like. This is just how I talk. How I talk is how I taught yet what I'm saying. And embrace the way that we liked to wear express ourselves because the chances are when we do embrace the way we express ourselves, we actually express ourselves a lot more effectively and the message comes through a lot more naturally. Then if we try to sound like someone else or what we tried to sound professional or official or intelligent. Leave the perfection the door. Today's homework is going to be really simple. In today's video, I'm going to ask you to throw out all kinds of formality and just embrace wildly. Embrace being yourself, being your expressive self in front of a camera. Allow yourself to, oops, allow yourself to the as the likes and this so allow them to all come in just like welcome your personality, show what the camera, the real you. This is the time to just throw all the rules out the window and feel how liberating it is you're for yourself or your nervous system. Feel how fun it actually gets to be without having ever to be so uptight again. So that's the homework for today. It's super simple, super easy. And you're going to find that it's actually easier to be yourself than to pretend to be someone else. That's all. I'll see you tomorrow. 10. Day 9 - Do It For You, Not For Them: Hello and welcome today, nine are almost done. Today. We are going to talk about doing it for yourself, like having this experience for yourself, not for other people, but for you, not for performance, but to be connected with yourself. Now why is this important? Because every single time when we focus our attention on what other people are thinking about us. Every time when we're more interested in what people opinion is of our material, what we're saying, how intelligent we are, how articulate we are, how well we're doing. Then we lose the connection with our message, with what we care about and what we want to say. But when we do things for ourselves, it becomes a full blown experience. 360 degrees where we feel everything we experience everything. A body comes alive or message comes alive. It's like, like a whole shebang experience because we are there to experience it. Our heads are not somewhere else. Our heads are in here connected with the heart, connected with the message, and allows our body to carry it through. We become alive when we're connected. Now the problem is when we're disconnected, it's like people. It's like I'm not feeling you feeling you don't feel you there. When we're there. People have so much fun. Why do they have so much fun is because we're having so much fun. And when we have so much fun, when we're connected to our bodies and we're, we're connected to our messages and where we are having the most fun, like speaking to the camera, expressing ourselves, being animated because we really care about what we say. We come alive, our story comes alive. And as a result, like people really care, they really enjoy this experience with us. They want to come with us along the ride. Why? Because they can see that we've come alive. They're like, Oh, whatever that person is saying or doing over there, I don't want to go there because that person looks alive, that person looks connected. That is where it looks fun. When we are focusing on what other people are thinking would usually happens is that we sometimes over-explain, we over-explain, we over-deliver we because we are trying to guess what's in that person's head. And if I'm so busy thinking about what's in your head, then I forget what's in my head, what's in my body, what's in my experience, we're worried about if there are commenting, liking, replying, engaging with us. Then we disengage with ourselves. What we want to shift into is reminding ourselves that we are the most important person in the room. It doesn't matter if you're doing a video just by yourself. Doing a video in front of other people, are doing the video in front of a bunch of audience. But reminding yourself that you are the most important person in the room. Not because you're better than other people. Not because people are paying attention to you. Not because you're standing on a stage, but because you are the only person that matters to you, that's all in your world. The only person that matters the most is you let that realize sink into your body. We never get a chance to ask ourselves this because we've always been told that we need to care about other people's feelings. We need to care. We need to check with other people. We're going to put other people before us. But we've, we've got we've got to reconnect back with ourselves and ask ourselves, who's experience here matters the most? So this is going to be your reflection assignment for today. Let's ask yourself, who's experienced matters the most? What does it feel like to care about the opinion of yourself first? What is it to feel like to care about the experience of your own? First? When I do this video, I do this with pleasure for myself. I do this like focusing on how much fun I'm having, how much I love expressing, how much I love teaching this experience. Yes, it's for you. But it's for me first because I didn't get to experience this first. And then you get the result. You also get the benefit of improving your speaking in front of the camera, raising your confidence in front of the camera. But I do it for me first because I enjoyed this. When you get to return the attention back to yourself. When you get to return this feeling back into your chest, back into your body, saying whatever it is that you want from your chest, from your heart. That's when you can stop carrying about what other people think. And allow yourself to sink into this acknowledgment, sink into this feeling, and come back home. This is where you're going to crown yourself. Ask yourself, who has experience matters the most. I'll see you in tomorrow's video. 11. Day 10 - Multiplying Your Energy: Welcome to the last day of this experience. Like gosh, Welcome to day ten. Today we are going to talk about momentum. Now that you have done nine days straight of videos, of recording, of talking to the camera. Now you have built momentum. You've already done something, you've kick-started, you've kept going. Today. We're gonna talk about momentum and multiplying your energy. There's this like false belief that I used to have and this might happen for you too. Is that like, oh my gosh, how am I going to keep talking about stuff? How will I have enough to carry on? How do I keep generating new content, new ideas? There's a false belief that if I share everything that I know, I'm going to like one day just like run completely dry and like run out of stuff to talk about. I'm going to tell you that this is completely false. This is false. I have done 365 days of live Facebook videos. I've never run out of stuff to talk about. And as a matter of fact, the more that I expressed, the more I was able to express. I'm going to tell you how this works and how you can implement this into your videos, into your content, into moving forward. Because a lot of times what our bodies do and what our minds do because, because we have this fear is that mine tries to keep you from being expressed by suppressing you. It's not a good idea. Don't do it. Don't expand, don't grow, don't evolve, don't get out there. So that your body doesn't have to feel what it's like to be on the edge of your expansion so that your body can feel like, okay, I'm comfortable over here and that I don't have to be pushed to the edge. I don't have to figure it out. I don't have to sit with this uncomfortable feeling of like experiencing more life, more creativity, more expansion, more like unfolding. So I'm just going to hold this, I'm going to hold on to this piece over here and be comfortable with this so that I'll never run out of things to say if I keep it. You see what I'm saying? That's like the minds trick of telling you, well, it's not safe to go there because you're gonna lose all the stuff to talk about. So just keep this part tier self. But what I want to let you know, one of the really interesting things is that as you take action and as you keep putting one foot before another, as you reinvent yourself and you speak, even though you're doing a scared, I know your experience is actually changing. On the go. It's like changing instantaneously is changing moment by moment. And as you change your feelings change, and as your feelings change your experience change. The way you feel and see yourself. Is also changing the way you feel about yourself. Yes. The way you feel about yourself is also changing. The amazing thing that starts to happen is like, okay, not that I don't just have more knowledge now, I have more experience. And then I get to talk about this experience. I've learned all these things. Feel differently about myself. I'm telling you it's impossible to not have new awareness. Because literally you have brought yourself so far out that your awareness of what's in your world and what's happening in your world. What you can do is expanding. That you cannot stay at the same place and you cannot run dry. Other things to talk about, like it's impossible. Your awareness is expanding. The things that you are aware of, the things that you know, that things that you can talk about. Also expanding when you start to wonder. And it's like feeling of fear starts creeping into your body. Like what if I start, what if I run out of things to talk about? Allow yourself to share everything you know, like piece-by-piece. Of course, you don't have to hurl everything out at once, but allow yourself to share the things, you know with what you know right now. What you know tomorrow. You don't know. You don't know yet. But it's going to come in the way that you know how to share it. So even if you're not very articulate, that's okay. But just allow yourself to share what you know and trust the tomorrow you're going to know what you didn't know today. There's a whole piece of trust right here. I know what's going to heighten what's going to bring new material into your world is your attention. Because when you pay attention to what's changing in you and what's changing outside of you and what you're learning. Your experience changes. Your energy also builds up. And when you share whatever it is that, you know, it was available for you out there, that energy comes back into your system and you have this like this rotation of energy. You share something that comes back into you. And the way you do things is changing and the way you see yourself is changing. You see it's like I'm becoming this person, I'm doing this thing. Look at how much I've grown. Look at how much I can do. This is what I've done, this is what I've tried and it's like, okay, I keep writing this bicycle. I keep writing this cycle that it doesn't have to stop, it doesn't hit a wall. I just, I can keep feeding this energy into my system by checking in with yourself and checking in how do I feel now whatever just learned, what am I doing right? What am I doing wrong? How can I adjust? This is how you multiply your energy. Your body literally becomes this energetic multiplier. You're going to feel so good about yourself. If you've done this work already, you're going to feel so good about yourself. Because the more you share, the more you get to share. This is what I really want you to anchor in today. For today's homework. I'm going to ask you to affirm. I'm going to put this in the document where you can download for yourself and print it out. Or you can write this down for yourself and put it in a way that you, you prefer to use. Affirmed to yourself. That the more I share, the more I get to share. This is the truth. The more I express, the more I get to express I am the energy multiplier. The more energy I share, the more energy comes back to me. This is deeply anchoring, deeply grounding. Because it literally opens you up to this place of a bunch like unlimited abundance. When you know that you are the energy multiplier and whatever energy that you put out there just comes back into your system and feeds more and more, and more, and more and more and more and more into you. This isn't just like so amazing. Enjoy the work for today. I will see you in the next video. Congratulations. Congratulations. Congratulations for having done ten days of video. I'll see you in the next video. 12. Congratulations! You Made It All The Way!: Oh my gosh. This is alive. You've done nine straight days of videos. You've come this far. You have walked through this journey with me. Thank you for sticking through this journey with me. Oh my gosh, I'm so proud of you. So proud. I have no words. I'm so proud. Like it was not easy. It was not easy. You did it. And even though you did it scared you did it. You've done yourself every single day. You choosing to believe in yourself just kept putting one foot before another. You kept believing in yourself. You kept committing and then recommitting. Like this is what you walked this far to see in yourself. Just so proud of you. I really am. You've learned to hold yourself in your fears. You've learned to do it on the days you didn't feel like it. My hope for you is that you feel the same way. I hope you feel just equally as happy and proud of yourself as possible. Just the same way that I do. And I'm really happy that you trusted me to lead you through this process. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for choosing to walk with me. What's next? You can continue to do this daily. You can continue to record videos, document your journey, share your experience, share it on the platform that you've already shared or add or you can change your platform. It's like something else works for you. You could just like revisit. You could just revisit this class if you just need a little pick me up. You don't need to do videos every day now you already know what it feels like to have momentum. You could just share your expression, share your voice every now and then. If you feel like it, you don't have to police herself to do it every single day anymore. I don't do video, David video every days now, but I do it like I don't want to write. So there's still that momentum. I really learned to enjoy doing videos, and I hope the same for you too. If you enjoyed this class, which I hope you did. There's also plenty of other classes on Skillshare that I have uploaded around self-awareness, around meditation, around making eye contact, that you can check out that I also think that you're going to really enjoy. Just like dive into my world. There are also other ways to dive into my world as well. I am present on Facebook, also on Instagram. I run this private Facebook group called one-in-a-million. And it's all about self-expression, self-awareness, expanding your consciousness. Just like being yourself. I hope to see you there. I'm just going to put the link in the description of this class so that you can find me and like Oh places. So that's a wrap. I will see you around and sending so much love and light to you.