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Creative Confidence Boost: Turn Your Inner Critic into an Ally || part of The Inner Critic Series

teacher avatar Lucy Lambriex, Creative Confidence & Camera Courage

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Lessons in This Class

    • 1.

      Your Inner Critic, From Bully to Ally

      2:30

    • 2.

      What Will You do and Create? Your Project

      2:41

    • 3.

      Overview of The Inner Critic Series

      2:39

    • 4.

      Give Your Inner Critic a Name

      1:36

    • 5.

      Talk With Your Inner Critic

      6:25

    • 6.

      Set up and Sign the Contract

      2:57

    • 7.

      Put Your Inner Critic to Work

      3:54

    • 8.

      Important Thoughts and a Warning

      3:47

    • 9.

      Refresher and a Bonus Tip

      3:56

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About This Class

In this third class in The Inner Critic Series, Lucy Lambriex helps you turn the negative voice into a supportive one. The Inner Critic means well and intends to serve you, believe it or not. In this class, you will learn how to train it and turn it into a true ally. This will help you out of creative block into creative confidence.

Join this light hearted yet deeply effective inner journey that will increase your creative confidence and inner peace. Creative block will dissolve as the hindering voice learns to speak to you in a more supportive manner. But... only if you do the exercises and commit to your own creative freedom and success.

How? Do a Project!

  • You will name your Inner Critic, which helps to keep a little distance from them.
    Talking and listening to what they have to say, will help you better understand their purpose and intentions.
  • Then, defining the rules for your future cooperation and signing a binding contract together, will help you commit to your creative freedom and confidence. This contract gives you actual creative super power!
  • You will learn to make use of your Inner Critic and put them to work.

Watch the whole series

You can take this class separately from the other two, but I recommend watching all three so you will slowly ease into connecting with your Inner Critic and acquire all the background knowledge to understand its workings.

In the first class, Creative Confidence: Learn to Overcome the Critical Voice, you lured out your Inner Critic and got a chance to observe how they behave, without reacting. 

In the second class, From Self Doubt to Creative Power with Photography & Journaling, you got to know them on a deeper level, by becoming them and taking a self portrait as your Inner Critic.

For this third class you don't need any special materials other than pen and paper, but you can use more creative stuff to decorate your Inner Critic's name tag and the contract.

Hop on and start taming your Inner Critic, so you can turn them into a true ally.

See you in class!

Lucy Lambriex (and Mrs Scared)

The Inner Critic Series is based on the theory of Voice Dialogue by Hal and Sidra Stone and I've given it a twist by creating a visual character. Voice Dialogue is an effective technique that lets you work with all the aspects of your personality, called sub-personalties, like the perfectionist, the pusher and the beach bum. This approach increases your awareness and understanding of how your mind works and thus your personal leadership. Under resources I have added a reading list if you want to learn more.

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Lucy Lambriex

Creative Confidence & Camera Courage

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Hello! As an all-round creative maker I know how you can get stuck in the middle of a project. Or at the start. If you ever find yourself stuck creatively, I can help you get back on track. My classes focus not only on the end result of your creations, but also delve into the inner processes, personal awareness, and growth. Using photography, journaling, Procreate, paint, thread and other materials, you'll rediscover your creativity and gain valuable insights about yourself along the way.

I'm Lucy Lambriex (she/her), based in Amsterdam, and I design classes for creative professionals and professional creatives. These classes provide a pathway out of creative block and anxiety, leading to gr... See full profile

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1. Your Inner Critic, From Bully to Ally: Do you like being my Inner Critic? Do I like it? Mmm. It's okay. It's a bit... It's a lot of work eh. Oh? Hello! Do you have a voice in your head that bothers you in your projects and life in general? An active Inner Critic that feels like the enemy? I know what you're talking about. If according to a voice in your head you are not good enough or everyone has done before what you are about to do... Join me in this third class in the Inner Critic Series. In this class, I'm showing you a way out of creative block into creative confidence. I am Lucy from Amsterdam and this is Mrs. Scared, mevrouw Bang in Dutch. She has been with me for as long as I can remember. Despite being featured with my therapeutic photography and making a living as a top teacher and a photographer for Getty Images, she still loves to comment on my work. Nowadays, I don't hate her anymore. I can be thankful for her presence most of the time. And most importantly, I've learned to make use of her services. And many of my students have experienced this in my previous classes on skillshare already. Would you like to learn that too? In this class, you will name your Inner Critic and I will guide you through a simple yet powerful exercise. Not only will your Inner Critic lose its direct control; it will talk to you in a different voice, and you will start to use their positive qualities when you choose to. And as a tangible and powerful project, you will sign a contract. Although you can take this class separately from the other two, I recommend taking those first. After taking this third class, you will feel stronger, more in charge, and more confident that you can indeed make your art, write your stories, record your videos, or embark on any other endeavours without constantly being interrupted by a nagging internal voice. This class is potent stuff and may bring up some strong emotions. It's normal. I hope it will bring insights, breathing space, great food for thought, and a whole new way of living and improving your creative life. Are you ready to start seeing your Inner Critic as an ally? Let's do it! 2. What Will You do and Create? Your Project: In the contract or agreement... At the same time, it will lose its strong grip. What are you going to do and create? As you follow the lessons and you do your assignments, your project will grow. And finally, you will have a name tag and a written and signed contract with your Inner Critic. This will help you and your Inner Critic commit to a healthier way of co existing. It will be a guide in making the best use of your Inner Critic. It will teach them to take a back seat and to use kinder language with you. In my opinion and experience, it is important to do and create a project. In doing the actual work of thinking, feeling, reflecting, creating, and sharing even, you will become closer to your Inner Critic. At the same time, it will lose its strong grip and you will learn how to make use of their presence. In the contract or agreement, you will lay out the ground rules for your coexistence. Make this as businesslike and serious, or as playful and beautiful as you wish. It can be written and it can be drawn. It could even be a video. Whichever gives you and your Inner Critic the most clarity. Just don't make it too difficult as you will risk not completing it. Under resources you can download my contract as an example, but please make it your own. You will need these materials: paper and pen, as the bare minimum. And you may also use some crafting materials like paper and glue, pencils or markers, A journal or a digital medium of your choice. Anything else you feel inspired to use. Just do what you like. Share your work. Share your work on the project page using the name tag as the cover image. And share your work on social media with hashtag #LucyLambriex and #theinnercriticseries. Why? By sharing and giving your contract an audience, you will help yourself and your Inner Critic commit even stronger. Put it out there as a reminder of your intentions. You will inspire other students to follow suit. They will realize they can achieve the same goal. In the next video, I will give you a short overview of the Inner Critic Series. 3. Overview of The Inner Critic Series : Overview of the inner critic series. In this video, I will quickly bring you up to speed about what we did in the first two parts of this series. I recommend you take the classes in order. But if you need a refresher, here's a recap of what you have already learned. In the first class, you lured out your inner critic by posting your worst and best creation. This enabled you to get a better look at your inner critic and see their tendencies. You could observe how they behave when you show your work to others, how it makes you anxious or freezes you up. You started becoming aware without reacting already gave you back part of your power. In the second class, you went a step further and you stepped into their shoes. You had a chat with them, became your inner critic, felt what it is like to be them, and you took a self portrait as them. This gave you another part of the power back because it gives you access to this part of your personality. We explored how this is possible. We talked about a few other subpersonalities like the perfectionist and the pusher. And you then learned about the role and purpose of your inner critic as someone who enforces the rules of your subpersonalities. The inner critic means well, and it wants to keep you safe, It just behaves badly and need some training to polish up their manners. And now in this third class, you will name your inner critic. If you haven't already, sit down together, define how you want to work together, discuss terms, and sign an agreement. It will be a very important step in gaining your freedom and confidence and in learning how to put your inner critic to work for you. This will hold you both accountable and will remind you in the future how you can take control and feel more freedom in doing your projects. If you would like a refresher on the what, where from, and what for of the inner critic, Just quickly hop over to the class. From self doubt to creative power with photography and journalism. And watch lesson three, Voices in Our Head. You can click the link in the notes below. If you use a browser or access it via my profile page, then come back to continue with this class. There is so much to learn about all of these inner voices. You can learn more by reading the books from the list I made and by doing inner work and reflection. But now let's start by giving your inner critic a name. 4. Give Your Inner Critic a Name: Your first action for this class is to name your Ino critic and share this name in your project. Many students have already done so, and they told me it really helped to take the edge of nasty Ino critics. Behavior Names can vary from Madam Bashington and Miss Poopy Pants to Myrtle or Bob. How do you name your ino critic? Sit down for a moment to consider a fitting name. You could even ask them to think along with you, but you may find that they are not too keen on this process. Ask yourself questions like, is there a central and unique behavior to my inner critic? Like nagging, looking down on me, laughing, questioning, shaking their head, being stressed, and making me fearful. Does my inner critic have a certain look, sound or smell? Do they have a pet peeve? Like you are always so sloppy or you must always do your very best. And if you haven't, you have done nothing at all. These questions can help you decide on a name. Once you find it, start your project, give your project their name as a title and create a name tag to use as the project cover image. So I've included some tags you can use digitally or print out or make one yourself. Also, I would love to hear how you came to this name. Note how your inner critic will fight this process, but just pick a name in the end. In the next video, I will invite you to have a conversation with your inner critic. 5. Talk With Your Inner Critic: After giving a name to your inner critic, you will have a serious talk together. From now on, you can address them with their name. Try to notice how this will already have an effect on how you feel. Download the sample questions from the resource section for an exchange with your inner critic. Read them and add as many questions as you like. This process can be repeated if you come up with new questions later, invite your inner critic to join you and tell them how you will want their advice and ideas. It will really like this and feel important. Listen carefully. They might tell you something you didn't consciously know. Create a safe space with two chairs or seats where you and your inner critic can sit and write. Also, make sure no one disturbs you for at least a half an hour. Take out your pen and journal or a few sheets of paper. Sit in your chair and picture your inner critic in the other seat. You can do this with your eyes closed. You can do this in your mind or make it a bit more tangible by using the chairs. Like I do here, I find that it helps to change positions, but this may not be your way to get into the right state. Do what helps you to have this reflective moment? Ask your inner critic the questions you want answers to. Listen to them carefully and write down what they tell you. A note before you start. Like any inner surging and reflection, it is important to do this with care. Go slowly, trust yourself and what you can handle. Stay in touch with your feelings. If you expect this to bring up a lot of pain or even all trauma, you may want to do this with someone by your side, someone else than your inner critic. You can always stop when this is too much to handle. You will first ask your inner critic a few questions. Not only will you discover more about them, this will make them feel important and heard and they will be better able to listen to you later. Allow this conversation to develop, but keep control and stop when the inner critic tries to take over or starts telling you off. It could go like this. Hello, where do you come from? Oh, I'm from the past. The first answers you'll get are probably easy or shallow. Keep asking follow up questions until you get to the bottom of it. Like, what does it mean? Could you tell me more? I'll listen. Do you like being my inner critic? Do I like it? Yeah, I like it. It's fun. It's fun to tell you what to do and but it's also a lot of work. What would make this better or easier for you? I think it would be less work if you would listen to me and not just, you know, you shut off and try to ignore me. Be open and try not to be offended. Just listen and ask more questions. Write all the answers in your journal. Remember to give yourself some time to get into the right state of mind so you can connect with this part of you two. Your inner critic listens to you. Do you know that the way you speak to me is often very rude and unkind? And all your gestures and looks, if you want to be heard by me, you have to change the way you speak to me. I'll work on my tone. Okay? Make it very clear that they can no longer address you in that manner. You won't allow it. And often you interrupt me in the middle of my creative process, it's really unhelpful. But seeing you're doing it now, sorry, don't do that. It doesn't help me. I understand. Okay, thank you. I really mean, well, also in the future, there will be a set place for you to reside and time to speak. Choose this carefully and experiment with how close you can allow them to be to you while you are doing a project. Other room, far behind you, et cetera. I won't promise I do as you say, but I will take you seriously. I have set up a contract for us to sign together. It will help us work together better. And we can hold each other accountable if one of us is slacking. Here's a short recap of the steps. Download the sample questions, create a safe space with two chairs or seats where you and your inner critic can sit and write. Invite your inner critic to join you and tell them you will want their advice and ideas. Ask your inner critic the questions you want answers to. Then take your time to tell the inner critic how you feel when they treat you badly. Tell them how you want it to be from now on. Tell them where they may be during your projects. Important, end this talk. When sitting in your own chair, you get back in your own energy. Take away. Having a serious talk with your inner critic helps you understand them better. You will feel like you are more aware and more in control of the processes in your mind. You will get to set boundaries and make an agreement about your coexistence and cooperation. Now, share a few words in your project on what struck you most in this conversation. How did you get into the state where you could connect with your in act. Did you use chairs? Did you visualize anything else? This could really help other students to find a way that works for them. In the next step, you and your inner critic get to sign the contract. 6. Set up and Sign the Contract: The time has come to look at and sign the contract. Having a contract can truly help you stay committed to being free and in charge. It is going to be a reminder that you are a powerful and aware person. Your awareness means you are no longer a victim of the voices in your head. First, download the sample contract. You can download it under projects and resources. Read it and please personalize the content to make it your own. Make the contract as concise as possible. It can be shorter than mine. Print the contract and lay it in front of you. Read it once as yourself and once as seen through the eyes of your inner critic. Sit on their chair if it helps you. I, Lucy Lombriz, recognize that my inner critic, Mrs. scared, has a purpose and I welcome her. In my life as an Ally, I therefore promise to listen to her thoughts and suggestions after I create or do something. If I forget to let her speak, she may remind me. You have to listen to me too. And I will no longer talk about her as if she were the enemy. Mrs. scared. Pledge that I want Lucy to thrive, and I want to help and protect her. I will give Lucy the time and space she needs to do her projects and live her life. Yeah. Yeah. Note that you can still adjust this contract as you'd like, and you can keep adjusting it over time. Just make sure both you and your inner critic will sign the new edition. Remember to promise them that you will listen to their advice at a daily moment of your choice or in any chosen interval that works for you until it has become normal practice to live by the agreement. You will need to be reminded, frame the contract and hang it on your studio wall. Or put it somewhere else where you can see it daily, like make it your iphone wallpaper, your screen saver, or turn it into a bookmark. Now share a picture of the completed contract in your project and also please share a few lines on how this all I want to hear this too. Please share. And after signing the contract, remember to tell your inner critic to sit at the place you had in mind for them or they will start feeling too comfortable. In the next video, you will start to put your inner critic to work. 7. Put Your Inner Critic to Work: After signing the contract. The time has come to practice and to put your inner critic to work for you. In real life, you can ask them for help if you're not sure about something you did or made. Here are a few examples of how this could work. Hello n, you're not in this scene. Here are a few examples of how this could work. Remember to tell your inner critic to wait for your signal. They may not interfere with your process unless you are ready. Suppose you are struggling with the proportions of your drawing. Having a set of fresh eyes can help you see better. After making soup, you can ask how it tastes and whether it's not too bland. Does it need anything? Your taste buds will be more awake now. Make sure they are not involved too early as they might make you nervous. When you're just learning something new, like a craft or a language, take extra care. Remind your inner critic and yourself, for that matter, that you are just a beginner. You are trying out something new. And learning something new means that you will not be great at it at first. For instance, your pronunciation will be off and the handling of the new materials might make you seem clumsy before you and your inner critic. Judge this, be very mindful of where you are as a learner. When you have reached the point where you feel more confident in whatever you are doing or making, you can ask your inner critic for their feedback mid creation. They might even give you some ideas and advice from one of your other personalities like she does here with my pragmatic one thinks it is better to paint all the pieces at once. When you ask for their opinion, you do not have to do what they tell you. But asking feedback while you're creating something at your chosen time can improve your process and results. Because you are open to feedback, you're also open to inspiration. If you're less afraid to make mistakes, you will discover more and inspiration will hit you. Your mind will relax and new ideas will come to you. If the feedback you get is not very positive or constructive right away, remember that you do not draw any conclusions about your future. Remember that you do not draw any conclusions about your future. You're learning and discovering and you're not an expert yet. Listen to the feedback. See if there's truth in it and learn from it. Say better luck next time. I'll try harder and learn more so I can do better. Please don't ever tell yourself you will never be a painter, cook, or musician, or whatever you aspire. Just keep learning. Take away you can put your inner critic to work for you by becoming more aware of your mental processes and the tendencies of the inner critic. Other sub personalities. You will no longer be a victim. You will become more confident, powerful, and creative. And if you feel confident enough, you can ask for their opinion. Mid creation, the inner critics quality is always available to you. So you can always pause and ask, how am I doing? What can I do to improve having this open attitude? Also, open up your creative flow. Refer, Open up your creative flow. Next, some important thoughts and a warning. 8. Important Thoughts and a Warning: In this video, I will share a few more important thoughts about working with your inner critic. And a warning because doing inner critic work is not without risk. The reason I introduced Mrs. Card as a visible person in this series is that I hoped it would show you that your inner critic is not you, but only a part of you. Your inner critic and your sub personalities are part of your personality and they are tendencies and energies and mental processes. They all represent qualities within you that you can access and put to work for you with awareness. Making these tendencies tangible will help your awareness grow. In my second class in this series, I invite students to take a self portrait as they're inner critic. This may be interesting for you too, because becoming them and really feeling the energy inside of you will also help regain your creative potential. You will more easily recognize the energy when it shows up during your creative process. It helps me to have a photo of Mrs. scared on my bookshelf, and I even have her wig near me. Stay aware and stay mindful of the processes in my mind. Note that your subpersonalities don't necessarily speak to you with a voice. They may show up as energy or a feeling like a weight on your chest. Restlessness and stress, or sudden playfulness, curiosity or joy. The more you pay attention to these feelings and tendencies, the more you will recognize what they mean and how they try to push you in a certain direction. Hearing these voices and feeling these feelings without reacting will increase your freedom and personal leadership. And now a warning are in charge and you decide what you actually want to do, make or say. But. And this is very important. There is a trap with any personal growth. That is, if you don't succeed at once to implement all that you've learned, your inner critic will become active unexpectedly and will be ready to tell you off. Do not fall for it and be extra kind to yourself. You are learning. Remember, tell your inner critic to hold their horses and wait for their turn. There is a quote, it's all over the internet that goes like this. Do not compare your day one with someone else's day 100 or your chapter one with someone else's chapter 20. You get the meaning grave. This quote in your mind and in that of your inner critic. You could write this on a sticky note or make a more beautiful sign and frame it when you have reached your Chapter 20, you know your work will never be really bad anymore, and you can endure tougher criticism. So you will be better still. Always stay mindful of how close you allow your inner critic to be to you and how and when they may speak this way. You will improve with anything you do. Practice with this and let me know in your project how this is working for you. Take away being aware of your mental processes and energies will give you power and more control. Remember though, to always be kind to yourself, especially if it takes more time to implement all that you've learned. In the last video, we'll quickly look at what we've discussed in this class and there is a bonus tip. 9. Refresher and a Bonus Tip: In a critic named check, better understanding of Ino critics purpose and intentions. Check being heard by in a critic check. Agreed upon a new way of cooperating together. Check, Nay, no, no, you stay there. Committed to a healthy working relationship by signing a contract. Check, bringing it all into practice. Check by writing and both signing the contract, you will not only be able to keep your inner critic in check, but also yourself. It will remind you not to take everything the inner critic says literally and to show them their place. Being mindful of your thoughts and mental processes, like the voice of your inner critic is the crux to living up to your creative potential. When you hover over yourself with a kind and present awareness, without reacting and blindly obeying your inner critics commands, you will become powerful and free. Your inner critic will never disappear, and from time to time will still behave badly. But you know now that they don't have to, you can always remind them to behave according to the contract. You will even learn to have fun with them and laugh at their attempts to get your attention. If you haven't already, please set up your project. Share your Ino critics name and a photo of the contract and some words about your experience. You will help other students in their journey and we can connect and exchange thoughts. Also, if you feel comfortable, please share your work on social media channels with the hashtag Lucy Lambrix and the inner critic series. I truly hope you've enjoyed this class and I hope it has served you well. Could you let me know in a short review how you've experienced this class and its effect? It will help other students know why to take it and that it may not be as scary as it seems. You are always welcome to come back and ask me questions or leave a request for other classes. You can simply start a discussion below this class. You can also use the discussion section of your own project to communicate with me. Remember to follow me here so you will get an alert when I publish new classes. And you will be the first to hear about giveaways like a book or even a free year of skillshare. And if you want to further improve your creative development, check out my other classes too. And here is a bonus tip. The techniques you've learned to connect with the inner critic, like talking and listening while switching seats, or having a mental conversation while writing in your journal can also be applied to connect to your other subpersonalities. You can discover why you perfectionist is such a strong character. Why your beach um shows up in the middle of examples. Applying these techniques will help you increase your awareness and as a result, your personal and creative potential even more. Read more about your subpersonalities in articles and books on voice dialogue. See the reading list under Resources. Oh, and here's another tip. If after a while you think the name you gave, your inner critic is too harsh, because you truly experience their positive power, by now, it is totally allowed to change the name. You may have a naming ceremony where you upgrade the name. Remember to also change it on the contract. Thank you so much for taking my class and see you in your project and in my other classes. Bye bye. You know you're really on the verge of and five, I know the days, they tend to weigh upon your mind.