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1. Introduction: We found a goal you can't score. Imagine you are in an
archery competition against the world's best archer, but you have the
targets in front of you that you can clearly see. However, we take him and we
blank pulled in and we have spinning around like hundreds of times so that he doesn't
know where the target is. Who do you think
is going to have a better chance at
winning that competition? You're right. And that's not because of the fact that you
are a better option than that person because
you are clearly not he is, or she is the
world's best archer. But the reason you won
is because you have the target clearly in front of you that you can clearly see. However, he didn't know where
he or she was shooting. This is essentially
the same in life. If you know, how
does it yourself, goals that are motivating, that are exciting, that
are simple to achieve. And then I'll write
goals for you. You're going to have
a huge advantage over someone who
doesn't know this. There was a study done back in the eighties where
they took every single one of the
Harvard students in that year and
they asked them, do you set yourself
goals regularly? This can be daily goals, weekly goals, monthly goals. Do you set yourself
goals consistently? And 97% of those
students said no wires, just 3% of them said, yes, I said myself
goals consistently. So just bear in mind
like these people, people who are
studying in Harvard, successful people
technically, still, they're not setting goals. And there was a follow-up
study after 1015 years done. And they found out that those
three per cent of people, of students who set
themselves goals consistently were
much more successful than the other 97% of the students who didn't set
themselves goals combined. Now, that is mind-blowing. And this just shows that
setting yourself goals, setting yourself
or write goals is the key to success in
this glittery glass, I'm going to teach you
the six-step method that I've been using
for a long time, for years to be honest, that are helping me to set myself goals in my
life and achieve them. Whether you are trying to get in shape but more confidence, get better grades and
meet better people, get better at relationships or whatever it is that
you're trying to do. Let me show me exactly
with six steps, how you should be setting
yourself goals so that you are going to make the journey of hitting those goals
more motivating, more exciting, more simple, and more basically achievable. I'm also going to teach you
how you can keep yourself motivated throughout
the journey as well. But you still got
to do the work. My name is Ahmed
Khan. Thanks so much for being here with me
on the Skillshare class. And let's jump right
into the content. I'll see you on the other side.
2. Step #1: Fixate Your Mind: Alright, step number one, which is fixate your mind to whatever it is that
exactly that you want. And I have three
keywords with me that are gonna be
essentially light. They're gonna be
lighthouses to us to find our way to the shore. There was a bad I'm not going
to get better at though. So specific, clear, and exact. These are three
keywords that you need to keep in mind when it
comes to setting goals. So let's say that you owe
your goal is to lose weight. Or someone's goal
is to lose weight. And if they lost £1 in one here, which is half a kilogram for the people who live
in UK or other, other place except us. Congratulations, you've hit
your goal, you lost weight, or if you lost one gram,
literally one grand. Technically, you
achieve your goal. You lost weight. Or if you made X
amount of dollars, for example, one year. And your goal was as an
entrepreneur or as a professional wants to make
more than that next year. You made dollars plus $1. So he made one more
dollar next year. Technically,
congratulations. I mean, my guy, you achieve your goal. That's pretty good. But I know for Baghdad and that probably was not your goal. Your goal was essentially lose
a good amount of weight or your goal was to
make a good amount of money more than last year. So your goal needs
to be specific. You can't tell herself. I'm going to read more than
this year and last year when you read literally nothing and the next year
you read one page, congratulations, you
achieve your goal. Your goal, it needs
to be specific. For example, instead
of telling herself, I'm gonna make XMM more money, you tell yourself
I'm going to make this much money next year. Instead of telling
herself, I'm gonna become a better student and
get, get better grades. You tell yourself, this is the exact GPA that I'm going to have at the
end of the year. So specific, certain and
essentially clear clear goals. One way of setting
goals that I did for a long time was I sat
down and literally, and I thought
about, for example, my career goals, which
was more about YouTube. And on this wall right here, let me show you guys that I have a lot of like pages
that I wrote my goals. And I'm going to do
that actually today. After I recorded this
video, I'm going to sit down and think
about my goals and just write them onto my
wall or through papers. And it's like I sit down and think about exactly
what I want to achieve. And I basically draw out a picture of the things
that I want to achieve. Which means that, for example, I want to make this much money. I want to live in
a place like this. I want to wake up. I wanna be able to
wake up at this time. I wanna be able to
not go to a job, but do this, for example, just different things
that I blend my mind to. And it's not specifically, I'm going to make
this much money. It's more a little bit like a
lifestyle goals that I set. And this is also something
that you can do when it comes to changing your body like fitness or
something like that. Because you don't have
to tell yourself, I'm going to wait this wait. A 100 and bla, bla bla pounds. I'm going to read this. No, you tell yourself
specifically like this, I'm going to lose this much fat. I'm going to look like this. I'm going to exercise every single day and
that's the goal. A goal is not like
this directly. If it's a paper of things
that you wanna do, it's more like a structured
thing that's going to completely change your life,
which is very interesting. So you gotta know exactly
what you want to achieve. You got to know exactly
what you want to achieve. And it's not gonna be like, I'm going to come
more knowledgeable. You sit down and tell yourself, Yes, I am going to read
it this many books. Like I'm going to read
one book a month, let's say for the whole year, which means I'm going
to read 12th books. Or do you think that you want to become more somewhere or
someone more mindful, someone more presence,
I want more grateful. The habit that you chose that you're gonna do as meditation, you can set yourself
a goal that's like, I'm going to become more
grateful this year. And at the end of theory or like nothing changed because
I didn't do anything. So what you gotta
do is you've got to sit yourself habit that
you want to go to. For example, a big
habit that I really recommend for
gratefulness and stuff like that is
basically meditation. Tell yourself that
I'm going to meditate every single day, ten minutes. There are so many minutes in
a day and you can just sit down and meditate for ten and you're good to go after a year, I promise you your life
is going to be much different because it just
happened in my life like them. So after this sculpture glass, I want you to sit down or
which I'm gonna give you like other things to do, other like a task is to do throughout this
culture glass as well. But one of them is gonna
be absolutely sit down and figure out exactly
what you want. Because the moment
you figure out exactly what you wanted,
this can be a career goal. This can be a goal and fitness. This can be a goal in becoming a better person is going to be getting better
at relationships. This can be just
getting a better GPA. This give me becoming
more confident. You can be more successful
in anything you want to do. Just sit down and think
about exactly what you want. And do not pick
like five things. Do not plan out your fitness, your lifestyle, the
money you're gonna make, the person, you're gonna be. Good luck, don't
plan out everything. Choose one thing
that you say yes, and this is my pain point. This is what I want
to get bed red and then exactly planned that out. I want us exactly plan battled. I don't mean like just
go over four hours of journaling and just mean
that like ten minutes, I'm going to do this, I'm going to do is
I'm going to do this. This is exactly how I want things to look like
five months from now. And that's basically it. This is the step number one. Fixate your mind on exactly
what it is that you want. And what you want is essentially just come up with
like one sentence, I want to do this and this, then this white blah, blah, blah, then that state, for example, because
the moment you can put everything
down to a sentence, it's gonna be like you can essentially
memorize that sentence. And it's like it's who you are, It's in your mind and you can be so determined to
make that happen. So that is the set number one. Fixate your mind on exactly
what it is that you want. Let's jump into this
step number two.
3. Step #2: Realise What You Have to Give Up: Alright, so step number two, which is exactly what you need to give up in order for you to
achieve that goal. So most people focus on the things that they
have to do instead of the things that
they have to give up because it's much
easier to save that. For example, let's say your goal is to
get a better GPA, become a better student. They don t think
about the fact that they should give up partying and drinking and probably being on computer games
and stuff like that. They're just think that again, I have to select
five hours a day. And what happens is
they started studying, but then they pull up
because they back, go back to the bad habits. Let's say, for example, your
goal is to get in shape. That means that you might say goodbye to sugar or
things like that. Because what people do
is they just focus on the things that
they have to do and they create like a small plan, but they do not follow it. But what you have to do if you want to essentially
say it yourself, they're really good goal. And if you want essentially be a better goal setter
than most people, you get to thinking about the things that you have to give up in order for you
to achieve that goal. And one thing that I want you to be thinking in your size, one thought exercise that I want you to write
it the second with me is thinking about
your last week. Think about your last
week, for example. I don't know when
you're watching this, but thinking about
your last big thank you for your last at least
like five to seven days. What has been the one thing that actually made you
much more on productive? What has been the one
thing that made you? Will lose a lot of
time to be honest. And the answer is gonna be somewhat different
for everyone. But it's probably going
to involve the one thing that is in my hands right
now, which is your phone? My phone right here. And this is probably the biggest productivity
killer that has ever been created
in human history. Your phone, because you
can see and when you cut down the time that you have from your phone and you instantly
become much more productive. Which is something really
interesting because, I mean, I'm gonna go, I'm gonna
do a test right now. I'm gonna go my phone
and look at my look at my what do we call that when my screen time and show
you guys how it looks. I haven't checked on my
screen time actually, it isn't wherever journal screen time continue
is my iPhone. I know per pack that
it's pretty long. And the moon, I want
to see all activity. I just turned it off so
it doesn't have alright. It was always so by 20 seconds
of your time, I'm sorry. I just started. It also just has
a track from now. But my screen time is on
average three to five hours a day and it's not
the best I know for a fact that I can
get down to like one hour a day and
that's like a V, what it's supposed to produce
like once you hours a day, if your screen time is five
hours, pretty much like me, then you can cut down
like three hours and you use your phone for two hours and then you have three hours
to achieve your goal. You can just give up one thing
that's bothering you will, that's like making you less productive and use that
time for your goal. Maybe you spend so much time on discord with your friends and something that I never do. I just opened my Discord
like a few weeks ago. Like I didn't use
this garlic and all. But that's something that makes you much less
productive than just cut some time from
that and that time GO gold. And I know for a fact
that you can just, you're just going to make
so much more progress. Just thinking about it,
like three hours that you can gain from
meaningless activities. You can go to the
gym for an hour, you can read for 30 minutes, meditate for 30 minutes, like
meditation for 30 minutes. It's actually very, very long. And then you can
just, for example, just be more mindful throughout your day and maybe just
starting one, for example. And that means one hour
you did much better or maybe use that one hour to build a side hustle
side business. So he started making
some money after a few months or a few weeks. I don't know how that's
gonna go for you. So basically what you need to
do in step two is figuring out what you need to give up to essentially achieve that goal. And the moment you figure out
what you need to give up, it's going to be basically
looking at transition because inhabit change, we
don't tell people. I don't tell people
to do this directly. What I tell people to do is cut that and start this
instead of this, do this, instead of this, do this, instead of messaging
girls on Instagram, go and work out like do those, that change is going to be life-changing and the life jet, the most life-changing thing
that I've changed my life was basically giving up, just consuming content and
starting to create content. That has been literally the
biggest change in my life. And that's basically something
that I did three-step to figure out what I needed to
get up to achieve my goal. So that was step two. Let's jump into this
step number three.
4. Step #3: One Key that Makes Dreams, Goals.: Alright, step number three, which is one word. Deadline. Deadlines are incredibly important when it comes
to setting goals, because IT goal is basically a goal because of a deadline. If you have something
that you want to achieve, but there is no deadline and
that's basically a dream. A goal is basically Agreement plus deadline equals to a goal, which is, okay,
you got the point. So there is one deadline that makes life kind of
interesting, which is death. If there was no death, if people didn't die, one, the world would be a really overpopulated
probably by now. And two, you wouldn't be
watching this culture glass. That was funny, but okay. The reason why I'm
saying that is because if you let if you lived till eternity where you wouldn't be on
some improvements, you wouldn't try to get
better because you would always have time to
do these things. You wouldn't go to Skillshare
class about how to set goals because you
already have time. You can do this tomorrow,
you can do this next day. But why are you here? Because there's a death
anxiety basically. And I'm not telling you that all you're
watching this class because there's a big
things, I mean, you know, but basically everything is, everything is
combined with death. You want to become more
successful before you die. You want to become a more like a impactful to people
before you die. And one good way to do that is basically learning
how to set goals. And it's like most of
the things that we do in our lives are
combined with death. And the reason why
death is powerful is because the deadline
of everything. So the moment you can
set yourself goals that have a clear and
concise and deadlines. Those goals are going to
become a much more simple, I would say, much
more easy to achieve, a much more motivating as well. Maybe not motivating,
but there you're going to feel that burning power inside you that
you need to do that. You've gotta do that. So
if you went to college, you know that, for example, the day before you need
to return your essay, you literally sit down
and you become insanely productive and get
that as he'd done like this, though, it's really loud. And if that's if you had like
a month to write better, say there was no way you
would start that day, you would progress and
done such moral progress. And the next day, the
next day, the next day. Anyway, I'd like
some real quick time that you need to
get that essay out. Because deadlines are
incredibly much waiting. And that is because of
the Parkinson's Law. And Parkinson's law basically
states that the work expands to fill its
capacity to available. Yeah, I can hear the word expense so as to fill its time available
for its completion. That's the right one. I just made a big mistake right there. Now I'm gonna become
a meme on YouTube. So that means that if
you have a task that's gonna be like
interval three hours, but if you have four hours, you're not gonna
be able to finish the task in three hours. You probably gonna take like four hours to
complete that task. That's why deadlines are
incredibly effective. And one thing I got to talk about quickly before
we get into the step four is like the day
before you go on vacation, probably the most
productive day of all. This summer I was gonna go for vacation with my
friends and I had like, good amount of work to
do before that day. Like I had like 1.5 days and I just needed to
get a lot of work done. I had some meetings. I
needed to like shoot videos. I need to like Skillshare
class or something like that. I had to do like so much things. Also preparing for
the traveling, also procured do my
chores and stuff. And I want it to like positives, like I had so many
things to do that day. But let me tell you something. That day was arguably one of the most productive days of my existence because
I had to do them. If I didn't, I would have
brought my work to my vacation, which would have made the
vacation less amazing. So if you have to do something and if there is a
specific clear deadline, but you cannot change, my friend, you are
going to do that thing. So the question that
arises here is, alright, the
vacation is tomorrow and you gotta do
everything until tomorrow. You cannot postpone that. But if you set yourself a
deadline and that's like, Oh, I'm going to achieve this
goal by 25th of August, 5th of August, cms, and you don't achieve it
and it's like there is no, like nothing bad habits. We're gonna do is
you're going to have an accountability
partner that is going to keep you
accountable for that goal. And one of the goals that I have for this summer is until
the end of summer I had, I'm gonna be dropping like
three more sculpture classes, including this one,
this first one. And I literally told my friends
who are like YouTubers. I told them, if I don't do
this and I just did that a few minutes and go directly before I started
creating this glass. And I'm just going to
show you guys this. I said them. If I don't do this,
I'm going to show you guys one hundred one
hundred, one hundred dollars each as like this video. And then they said,
amazing those same, It's funny, I didn't want
those out of the context. And I said, if I don't do this, I'm going to put you guys
on or a 100 bucks each, which means that now I
have a deadline as well as there's something
that I have to do because I if I don't, I'm going to have to
pay 200 bucks in total, which is not something
that I want to do. So that was a set
number three deadline. Every single one of
your goals should have a specific clear deadline. And by then three things
that you should have. Basically if you're
doubting the first one is exactly what you want to achieve in the second one is
what you need to give up. And the third one is
basically the deadline that is specific and
concise and clear. So let's jump into
this step number four.
5. Step #4: Create Your Plan, the "HOW": Alright, The lesson number four, which is essentially creating the plan
that you're going to follow when it
comes to achieving that goal, which is your, how we talked about the what would the
watch was basically the fact that you
have a clear goal that is specific and certain. That was your what. And now we're talking me
out of the house when it comes to how there are some things that
we have to go over, which is, let's
say your goal is, for example, to lose a
certain amount of weight. For example, you
have fitness goals. So how are you going
to achieve that? What's the diet is
going to look like the exercises between how are all those things are going
to look like if you want to get a better result led job, let's say you, what's
your plan like? What's the things
that you wanna do right now to get to that point. Or if you want to get a
better GPA, for example, like if you wanna become
a better student, like what is exactly specifically the things
that you have to do? What's the plan. But when I see this, most people become
essentially a silver platter, an over thinker, and it's
not good to be honest. The reason why it's not
good, it's because there's something called
the action fallacy. And they actually tells
you basically states that when we generally
get motivated, we use that motivation
to plan more things out. Which means that you get
much more motivated. And we plan things out. And then when the motivation has gone into planning is done, you have a really good plan, but you don't
execute on anything. So what you should
be doing instead is that whenever you
have that situation, you do the actual work. Whenever you have
the motivation, you make progress on your goals. So whenever you
are trying to sit down and create a plan
for step number four, your set number four
is never, should, should never look like more
than like ten minutes. Sit down and create your plan and you have ten
minutes, whatever it is. Whatever your goal is,
you have ten minutes. And then after
those ten minutes, you're going to
begin right away. And when I say
beginning right away, do not say Okay, this is the plan we're starting
tomorrow, baby. This is the blend
restarting the Monday. We're starting on
Monday, we're starting on the first of this month, next month or to be honest, or something on the
1st of January, we have one more week. We can do whatever you want. You who know that's not
what you're supposed to do. What you're supposed to do is essentially just
sit down and create the plan and start
right away because this is gonna be
your new lifestyle. The moment you say,
you tell yourself, I'm gonna do this
tomorrow, I'm going to start this like an hour later. The morning don't really
begin at that second. It's like you've
already accepted that you lost the battle and
that's not what you wanna do. That's not what you want to do. So after ten minutes
of blending, just start taking action. You got to sit down and
create your plan for spoil yourself and then do this. One thing that I learned last on VSEPR forgot to
talk about what is, your plan is going to
change on the way. Your plan is 100% gotta
change in the way. The moment I started
making YouTube videos, I never thought it
would end up like this. I would never be able to think that it wouldn't
end up like this. The moment I started going to one of the best
schools in my country, I never thought it would end up, end up me right here at
this, at the second. I never would think that. Because you don't know
what's gonna happen. Yeah, but your plan
is going to change. You gotta have a simple
plan, execute on that, and then slowly improvise on the way as you get more results, as you get more motivation, as you know more things, as you learn things musically. So this is the step number four, which is creating your plan. Let's jump into the
step number five.
6. Step #5: Create your "Statement": Alright, we are at
this step number five, which is writing your
clear, concise statement. So what does it mean? This statement that
you're going to write is like a paragraph of sentences that you came up together with the
step number 1234. It's going to be like
three to five sentences. So the step number one
was, as you can remember, the exactly the fixating your mind on the things
that you have to do, like fixating on one or mind on exactly what you want
to achieve them said number two was figuring out what you have to give up in order to
achieve that goal. And the step number
three was a deadline as that number For was the plan. So what I want you to do in this step number
five is, by the way, this is something
that nobody that's, I've never seen someone do
this in my entire life, literally my entire life. I know I have a lot of
productive friends. I have a lot of friends who were successful and nobody does this. So thinking about what
you can achieve if you essentially implement
every single one of these steps together,
which is awesome. So the sudden rough life is writing your clear,
concise statement. And the statement
that you're going to write is going to look
something like this. It's going to include, your goal is going to include what
you have to give up. And it's going to
include essentially how the deadline and everything. So one of the goals that I
set for myself in the back, back then in 2021
actually was that I wanted to read 52
books in one year. And did I end up
achieving that goal? Unfortunately, no, I did
not achieve that goal. However, if I didn't set myself a goal that was
like 52 books a year. I read like 40 and it's like
if I didn't set that goal, I probably would've read
like ten books that year and I'd read 3030 more. So as you can see, if you
shoot for the stores, at least you're gonna
end up above the clouds. So Mike, clear, concise statement for that goal
was something like this. I'm going to just
read it out loud. My goal is to read one book a week for the whole year in 2022, which is 52 books. In order for me to
be able to do this, I'm going to stop wasting
time on social media and limit it to one hour a day. My plan is to read in my morning routine every before I
go to bed and read on subway whenever I can find that the time whenever I
think it's possible. I know how beneficial this is
going to mean for my life. So any excuses that I might come up with for this challenge in the future are from the
weak part of my brain. And I truly have like some
of my journals right here. So I'm going to show you
guys that like these are basically my journals,
every single one of them. And that's the that's how
I'm shooting this glass. And that clear,
concise statement is actually in one
of these journals. I couldn't find that. Actually a few hours ago. I want to show you
guys exactly that, but I couldn't find it,
but doesn't matter. Still, it's like
you've got to write that clear, concise statement. And the reason why we are
writing this as a guest. In the next step,
I'm going to teach you guys how to use this. And the moment you
read this out loud, like three to five sentences
every single day, it's like, wow, you're gonna,
you're gonna make that goal in your head and it's gonna be like on your mind 247. And that's what we want after you write this
clear, concise statement. And literally like,
I want you to stop the Scotia glass
after this lesson. Before we get there, before you jump onto the set number six, just thinking about that, it's glucose I statement
and write that down. And then we're going to continue with the
step number six. Alright, so let's go to step
number six, but I'm waiting. I'm waiting because I'm going to write this statement
down right now. So I'll see you guys
in the next lesson.
7. Step #6: How to Use Your Statement: All right, Lesson number six,
which is step number six. And we're like, let's say that is you're going
to take are clear, concise statement that
you have just written. Hopefully. And if not, just pause this, I'm waiting
right here like this. And after you write
that down or anything, continue. Okay. I'm waiting. I'm not going to do that. You can probably just
pause it and then do them. So after you write that
clear, concise statement, what you're gonna do is
you're going to read that out loud twice a day. So the reason why we're
reading out loud is because of the fact that I want
you to memorize this. And I want you to basically
auction like a few days, even after a few
days, a few weeks. I want you to read
this by heart's. Got you. So what we're gonna do when it comes to
reading it twice out loud. It's not like, for
example, doing it like 11:00 AM, 06:00 PM. It's gonna be exactly a
right after you wake up. Wake up. And the first
thing you're going to do is that piece of paper is
gonna be on your desk. You're going to take
it out, take it out, and I'm going to
read it out loud. And then I'm just going
to leave it at your desk. And then before you go to sleep, you're going to flood
out and then you're just going to read it and
then leave it there. And that is the twice when you should be
doing It's not like, for example, I guess an alarm
at 02:00 PM to do that. The reason why I wanted
you to do this in your bed before you're
asleep and after you're asleep is because
your mind still is continuing to process things in the evening it but
while you're asleep. And the one we did,
the last thing, the last thing I want you to, I want your brain to
remember is your goal. And the first thing
that I want your brain to remember is again, your goal. That's the key essentially here. The reason why we read out
loud is as I said before, I want you to memorize
this as well as when you read
something out loud. It is so much different
than just reading normally. Reading like just silently, It's just much different
and reading out loud as much, much
more powerful. And it's one of the
strategies that are used, wildlife learning English,
learning German as well. So we're going to
read it out loud. And the reason why this
works really well is because one or this reprograms your brain to think
that this is your goal. Yes, this is what
we want to achieve. And the reason why
we're eating this twice I'll load is because we
really want to achieve this. This is how bad we want it. And then the second
thing is people forget. One of the main reasons
why people don't achieve their newer solutions is
that after two months, they even forget that
they had a resolution. Not just like they
stopped taking action. Here, they start
taking action one, but two, they literally
forgot her goals. So if you read this out
loud every evening, every morning, how are you
going to forget your goal? There is no way you
can forget your goal. And one thing is going to
happen is basically you're gonna become obsessed when it
comes to hitting that goal. And when you become obsessed
of hitting one wall, bro, It is something different. It's a different
breed, to be honest, because it's like you really, really want achieve that goal. I hope that the glee that you're trying to achieve is something
that you really want, something that's going to
really benefit your life. So the moment you become
obsessed with this, it's like, wow, you're good
to go now you're on the right path, to be honest. So that is the step number six. This was basically
the whole system. Now we have a couple of
more lessons because I want a deep dive deep into some
other topics as well. But this is basically
the system, the core of this
class on Skillshare. And I hope you guys got a good
amount of value from this. So let's continue
with the next lesson, which is gonna be an
interesting one, to be honest, I don't, I don't know if you've ever thought
like this one, it comes setting goals. Let's go.
8. How Bad Do You Want It?: Alright, this lesson is called, It's not impossible that you just don't want it bad enough. So there is a different, like a weird way of thinking
goals that makes you realize that it's actually all in your
hands, it's all possible. And instead, thinking
about the goal, but you just said
you're up for yourself. Hopefully you set a goal that
challenges you would guess. The point of goals is that it challenges you
had motivates you. If you set yourself like
an easy, really, really, really easy target
for a long time, it's like it doesn't
make you more motivated. Like I'm reading
currently a book that is called the magical thinking big. And it's like the moment you set yourself, like high goals, the moment you say result
big things that you want to achieve,
certain heights. If that makes you a
different person, that makes you a person that you want to become essentially. So thinking about the
goal of that you just set for yourself and
imagine that goal. Let's visualize that altogether. We want to achieve that
in the next 34 months. And if it is a good goal, if it's a right goal
that you needed to set, that means it is really
hard to achieve. It's going to take a good amount of blood, sweat, and tears. You're going to have to put
in a good amount of work. And there is probably
a good portion of chance that you might
not achieve that goal. Because if you set yourself
a high enough goal, it's like there's
always a thing, which means that you might not achieve that if you
don't put in the work, for example, I wanted
to ask you a question. You're thinking about
the person that you love probably the most, maybe your significant other, or maybe your mom, your
dad, your sibling, whoever that person is,
think about that person. If someone put a gun to that
person's head and said, You are going to
achieve that goal in whatever the deadline is. And if you don't, this
person's going to die. So knowing that situation, there is literally no chance that you don't
achieve that goal. I know for a fact that
you are going to give your 101% % thousand of that will then lead sheet that
because it is in your hands, it's just a question of do you want it bad enough in this situation that
I just explained, it's an extreme situation and
it's not going to happen. But in that way of thinking, that means that you are going to achieve that goal
no matter what. Like, let's say you
started for a few days, you failed. Are we
going to give up? No. ****, no. You're gonna continue looking at building didn't have any. Continue with much more
power, much more dedication, much more consistency because
there is no other option. The other option is so
much more scary than the effort that you need to
put in that second sentence. The other option is so much scary than the effort
that you need to put in. So you are going to
put in the effort, you're going to put it in much
more effort than is needed because you don't want the
other option to happen. So it is not about whether you have the
potential to achieve that. Well, that is also a
question that you might ask. You probably can't become a billionaire like in one month, even if someone put a
gun to your mama's head. But it's like, how do I
explain this correctly? It could amount of the
things that you can achieve, It's all in your hands. It's just a question of do
you want it bad enough? You really want it that bad
to achieve that like this. And if yes, I know for
a fact that you are gonna put in the work
and that's the point. So the goal that you're
setting yourself, even though it might seem hard, you have the potential
to achieve that. It's just a question of how bad, how bad do you want it? Let's jump into the next lesson, the bonus lesson number one.
9. BONUS: Pearson's Law: Okay, this bonus lesson
is called Pearson's law. So Pearson's law is
something that I learned about a few weeks ago, and it's a very, very
interesting concepts. So I'm going to read you guys
out loud a two sentences. The first one is when
performance is measured, performance improves
and second one is when performance is
measured and reported back, the rate of improvement
skyrockets. This is a very interesting
concept that I've seen like to
situations in my life. And the first one is, there are four main habits of
self-improvement that I talk about in
every single one of the videos that I
make on the Internet, which is these four
habits or journaling, reading, meditation and
exercising these four habits. And these are the keystones
of Southern permanent. Like if you check other cell types
glasses that I've made. I talked about these
like all the time, probably in every single
one of the glasses. Probably because it's a
very, very important. And these are the things
that I always wanted to get consistent at in my own life. And for a long time
I struggled with this because I wanted
to make these like a really consistent
and these habits but I just couldn't because like becoming really
consistent in a habit, it's actually really hard and becoming consistent
in four rabbits. It's kind of hard to be
honest and prolonged time. The way I approached
this was basically, oh, did I meditate today? And if I didn't, I meditated
like if I did I read today, I did it so I read
it the exercise date night and I'm
going to exercise now. I relied on my mind and I relied on the performance for
the performance on my mind. And I feel the lunch like I probably didn't do most of the habits before a
good amount of time. And then what I realized was I going to measure
my performance. It's not going to
have length is going to measure my performance. And then I started
habit tracking. And then what I realized
is that every single week, for example, there were seven days at the
weekend for habits. So it's like 28 heads that I have to do
throughout the week. Firstly, let's say
the first week I did like ten and I was like, oh, ten has low but then has been the thing that I've
been doing for a long time. So the next week I
was like at least 1515, boom, like that. And then I wanted to and then I went close
to twenty five. Twenty five, twenty six,
twenty is like really high. So it's like I was between 20 to 25 for long
for a long time. Then That's what happened when I started measuring
my performance. The moment I started measuring my performance just got better. And you want your performance
will be better obviously. And the second part of
the Pearson's law is, as I just said before, when performance is measured
and reported back in World Bank is also an
interesting concept. I have a close friend
who also like watches, like self-improvement
content as well. And he said to me, like, I want to do this
together with you. Like I want to also pretty something permanent like chart, like a habit chart. And I want to do this with you. And I said, Obviously,
yes, Let's go. I'm happy that you
want to do this. I'm grateful that you want to
get into self-improvement. And then he created himself
This habits chart as well. It's aren't doing the
same thing with me. And every single weekend
on Sunday evening, we would like come together
on a Zoom call or would they just go and Kathy
together physically? And we just compare
each other's weeks. Umbrella me, tell you something. This is very, very interesting
limb to listen them. The moment I started like getting into a competition
like with them, the moment I started reporting
back my performance, the rate of improvement
actually like skyrocketed because I was
a Southern permanent guy. I was the guy who
was supposed to like have these like old figured out, which I do not obviously,
but it's like you, people are expecting you to
be at a good level at least. And the performance
that I had back then was incredible,
to be honest. I would have like twenty
six, twenty seven, twenty eight, complete
picture perfect weeks. Because I want it to be the guy who was like, Yeah,
I do this all the time. Like it's like
this is what I do. Because when performance is
measured and reported back, the rate of improvement
skyrockets. This was the first
time that I realized the importance of measuring
your performance, Pearson's law and
reporting back. One thing that I get to talk
about again is Mike boxing. So keep boxing is
something that I started to do, like
if you wants to go. And the moment I realized
the Pearson's law was real and it's
like really something important. I told my coach. Coach, can you read
me out of ten every single like every
single session? Eric, can you read my
effort ten as well? It's like tubings can write
my skill level out of ten because the skill level
is not going to go from two S7 in like three months. It's just gonna be
like really slow. But my effort might be like N9 in a lesson because
you might really, really do your best
and the effort is a good one and the
effort is a ninth. So I told him to do this and he would give
me like numbers. And then I've ever seen
one of my workouts. And I got so obsessed
with these numbers. I got so obsessed with trying
to get these numbers to really high that my teacher who has been doing
kick boxing was been fighting and what's
been teaching fighting for 30 plus
years told me that I was probably one of the students that started
learning the fastest, like I was improving so fast because I was obsessed
with numbers. I was obsessed with
just trying to get better numbers to get a
better effort number. My I was stuck at
like eight and I wanted to get a nine
and I couldn't. But the fact that I got
like age every one of the sevens and eights
there all the time. It was like I'll just
get really, really fast. And my skill level one from Lucky 0 obviously
in the beginning to a six now and it's like it's just getting better and it's like something
that I really, really like as it gets
pretty hard by the way, you do that up to like months and months of
dedication and hard work. And that's basically the
importance of the Pearson's law. The moment I started measuring the performance that I had, as well as the moment I
started essentially just quantifying things as
well as reporting back. Because like the moment I just started talking
about this to my friends, it's like the moment
you report back, the rate of improvement
skyrockets. And I'm not saying that like this is exactly
what's going to happen. I promise you, you're going
to get these results, but this is just what
happened in my life. And I think it's going to happen in a similar way
in yours as well. So the more you quantify things, you just hit those goals
faster and better. Let's jump into the
bonus lesson number two.
10. BONUS: Set Yourself "SMART" Goals: Alright, bonus
lesson number two, which is smart goals. Smart goals is not like a smart refrigerator that tells
you what you need to buy. It's another acronym
that people use. Like it's like I have the six step formula which
I use personally my life. And there's the smart
formula's smart goals formula. We just like an acronym that I didn't have to talk about
in the Skillshare class, but I wanted to bring it up because it's like something
that people talk about. And I want you to have
at least like a quick, quick like knowledge about this. As smart as basically
this specific, measurable, achievable,
realistic, and time-bound. You might say, Oh,
that's different. Like I want to learn this. I mean, it's the same thing
that we talked about. Actually my six-step
process specific. It was my first step
which I what I said, like, You got to set
yourself a specific, concise, clear goal
and that was it. And then measurable, measurable was the Pearson's law
that I talked about too, because they got to measure it and you're going
to report it back. That was a thing and achievable
it Yuval and realistic. I feel like they're
the same thing. It's, you will have
realistic, I mean, you got to set
yourself a goal that is not beyond the realm, like not beyond the realm, but at same time you've got
to set yourself that goal. That's hard. And so
you've got to find that. You're going to find
bed between the line. You got to find a line begins the moment you can set yourself a goal
that's hard enough, That's going to challenge you as well as its like realistic. So it's not like incredibly
hardly you cannot do that. So that's going to be the right
way to go and time-bound. We don't have a deadline. You don't have a golden
dream, pleasant inline. Is it Go village we
just talked about? And the smart
system is basically the same with my
six that formula. But I think my six
formula is much more applicable as well as more concise, more like simple. That's why I wanted to teach the smart method
but quickly as well. So that's basically the
bonus lesson number two, let's jump into the conclusion as well as your class project.
11. Class Project: Alright, now you know how
to set goals like a pro, you know exactly how I
said goes in my life and you know how to do that
in your life as well. So now the last thing
that I want you to do before you
leave this class is that thinking about
the goal that you want to achieve in the
next three months, six months, three to six months and years
that kinda long. It's like your
priorities change a lot. Three months as they have really good time to
think about this. So next three
months, whatever it is that you want to do
with getting cheap, increasing confidence,
increasing modeling, whatever it is that you
want to achieve in cruising GP or whatever it is
that you want to do. Just thinking about that
goal and use the fifth step, which is like writing
with a concise statement and use as well as the
other steps as well. And write your concise, clear statements
and then post that to the Class Projects panel. I guess that's what gold
that what's called yeah. You can upload that to
the class projects panel where I can check those out and give you a
personalized feedback. So after this glass
is published, and it doesn't matter
when you watch this class and whenever
you watch this class, you can write that like 56
step formula down to yourself, your personalized like clear, concise statement and then
I want to read that myself. If you upload that
to the next panel and give you a
personalized feedback. So thanks so much for joining me and I hope you've got a
good amount of value from this glass and I will
see you hopefully in another one to buy. It's how it got here. As
always, I love you guys. I appreciate the support as is now, and I'll see you
guys in the next one.
Ahmet Kaan, Student / Youtuber / Athlete
