How to talk to ANYONE with 0 FEAR.

1. Trailer How to talk to ANYONE with 0 Fear: Countless times I've been in the situation where I wanted to talk to somebody, but I just I just couldn't cooperate myself to do it, whether it be a cute girl I saw walking past me at the train station or something as simple as just striking up a conversation with the cashier at the local supermarket. I've always wanted to talk to more people. A lot of the time. It was just difficult to bring myself to do it. I'm glad to say after months of intentional practice, I've pretty much eliminated this fit basically 090% of the time. I'll see someone and if I wanted to talk to them, I will and has really helped me with my YouTube channel and just intervene people. I feel like intervene without any fear of them saying no, without any fear of what anyone else thinks about me. It's been tough. But I'm so glad I made the effort to really improve the athlete's of my life. If that suddenly there you also want to improve in your life, then it's quite course is three. 2. What is stopping you from approaching: Now the first thing we have to understand is what is the reason you're not approaching? What's stopping you inside? Well, 90% of the time, it's because of these two reasons. Number one, the person you approach may think you're a weirdo and that's gonna make you feel worse about yourself. Could maybe hit your self-esteem. And number 2, the people around you who see you go up to this person may think you're a waiter. Thus basically, that's as bad as it gets. Every doesn't get worse than that. If it's in a public space, you're never going to see any of these people again. So essentially, you don't really have much to lose your mind telling you not to do it because of the potential embarrassment. But the thing is, even if it is embarrassing, you don't see any of those people again. So there's nothing really to lose. And also let's think about the upside potential because this is a two-way street. This is a risk to reward, okay? That risk is, people think you're a weirdo and it kinda stops there. The reward is, you may have just made a new friend. You may have just found someone you're interested in and they like you back and then you go, you've got something that potentially you never know. But if you don't try, you're going to have 0% success rate. So the first thing you have to really ingrain yourself is that, and there's no real downside to this. The only way is up. Honestly, the only way is up. I went I rarely side to cement that in my head. That hold on. Look, I'm never going to see any of these people again, this fear that I have of approaching insight is not justified. It's not just a fight at all if that's the reason you're not doing it, because our words, it's possible to think about me or they're going to think I'm a weirdo, like, does it really matter? I think that it doesn't really matter at the end of the day. Chances are it doesn't. So the first thing that I did to help me get over this fear is to look at it logically, because logically it doesn't make any sense not to approach 99% of the time. There's always upside as always upside with literally no downside. Okay? And if you are somebody who does approach, you've set yourself apart from so many people with, so many people lack the confidence to do because they're so, they're so paralyzed by that insignificant fit. Because that fit is insignificant when you look at it logically. So the first thing you have to do some math in your head that the worst-case scenario isn't that bad at all. It really isn't that bad. Once you do that, it's a lot easier to look at the situation. That's what you have to do. Some men in your head, that the worst-case scenario isn't that bad at all. 3. How to actually start approaching: Now that we realized that our fair of approaching isn't justified, how do we actually start approaching? Or think of it like this, if you play a video game, right? Do you go from level one to level 100, just like that? No, you do not. We're not going to stop full-blown up conversations straight away because that does quite a big jump. If you've never done an LED light as before, we're going to start small. And the way that I started was every day for a week, I made the conscious effort that if I saw somebody walking past me, I would just say hello or I would just say good afternoon or good morning wherever. Your eye, son, Saxton, but just a little greeting, whatever it is for you, whatever people use around your area, right. As you go by, you just say that and you give a little nod, right? No big deal, okay. And you're on your way. That is how you build up a tolerance. And you do that with complete changes, you don't know, right? Random person just do it right. Then open a by EPA, relaxed. You're not going to get attacked. All right. So you've got to do and you won't pass. There you go. That's going to build up your tolerance slowly, okay? Because you can't rush this. This does take time to build up. Like it wasn't an overnight thing for me. You slowly build it up. So if that's still tough for you, I would suggest GA side, right? Just walk, just walk around your area. You're going to see here, but they're going to be people around. All right? Okay. As long as you're living under a rock, they're going to be he pulled around. So literally walk past. You see somebody make icon sides. Hello, often in whatever is, whatever time of day, science simple and just walk past, it does challenging for you. You just have to grit your teeth and just do it. You have to just sometimes you have to just make that leap. There's no there's no like easy way to do it. I'm trying to make it as progressive as possible. So we go from one step to another to another to another. But sometimes with these gaps you have it as grit your teeth and just do it. Okay. I'm just going to Yom is going to make the jump. I'm just going to say hello, right? And you have to just do it. There's no other way to say it, okay? Thus what you're gonna have to do, okay? There's another shortcut to this. I'm trying to make it as progressive as I can. Okay. So thus what you do, you just say hello. You just say good morning to the random person and you're on your way. Do that for a week, twice a day. Do that EV-DO there for one week, do that twice a day, every single day, and that will become easy. That'll become second nature. You won't even think about it afterwards. You'll just be, it'll just be kind of how you are. You'll be quite jolly to be around, you know, random person who just say hello or new way that. So you got D, start small and we're going to build you up to wake. You can start having conversations, complete strangers. But first, do that. 4. Holding a conversation with a complete stranger: I'm going to assume you've done the greetings, You've got up system strangers and you just create them. Now we want to take it to the next level where you want to hold an actual conversation with these changes. How do we go about doing that? Well, you have two main scenarios. Scenario 1 is when it's situationally appropriate. So for example, you're in a supermarket, your food's getting scanned by one of the work is, and you just start talking to the cache, starts talking to the worker, scanning your food. That's quite a natural environment and just start talking because your client is standing there waiting, right? You can say something as simple as housework, right? They may reply with a one word answer. They may just say, good, for example, and you may be like, Oh, how do I go from there? Water, people just give me a one word answer. I'm telling you is a bit of trial and error. You have to just give it a go sometimes and see what happens and what's going to allow you to do that is less than one where you really picture that the worst-case scenario really isn't that bad. Once that's ingrained in your head. Making jumps, actually ask an approach and talk to people you don't know, it's going to be million times easier, trust me. Okay. So situationally, this cache, right? Housework, very simple question. That could be a conversation star, okay? And don't worry about too much about what they're going to say next, just to go from there, you know, another thing, another way to start a conversation is to give a genuine compliment, give a genuine direct compliment. And I guarantee you 99% of the time that's going to work. They're going to, they're going to like you for that. Okay. They're going to appreciate it most of the time, because how often is it that a complete stranger comes up to you and gives you a direct common? It doesn't happen often. Read it. Can you tell me if that's happened to you? Because our evidence ever happened to me in my life. I've done a lot of times now, but for me that's never happened. So if someone came to me and did that, I mean, I'd be pretty appreciative of it. My period has put periods of a nice shoes, you know, less than one. Remember, worst-case scenario is not bad. Give a direct compliment. Maybe you see someone at the train, okay, Now this is scenario two now because now it's no longer a situation where you have to make the direct efforts go approach them. So maybe you're waiting for the train and you see, you see this guy and he's got a really nice hoodie. You really like you sweetie, you like as fashion sense, maybe you want to know where he got it from. How do you go from there? You see most people weren't even made the effort to go up to them. But what you gotta do is basically you see that person give yourself a countdown from five seconds, 54321. Go go straight through them and direct line. Approach them. If they got the headphones on, don't worry, man, just tap them on the shoulder. There'll be a bit confused. I'll be able to know who the hell is this guy, right TO YOU remember scenario, sorry. Remember less than one, the worst-case scenario really isn't that bad. So you got to them. Excuse me. So it's body you may already likelihood they also wonder where you got it from. And they're probably going to bust our fat smile afterwards, right? Because honestly guys giving a direct compliment will work 99% at a time. Now you may still be thinking, but how do I, how do I make the leap and go up to them? The thing is, that's not quite something that can be directly taught. That's kinda of a thing that you have to just kind of, you gotta hide herself up and be like, Okay, I'm just going to go and talk to them and you have to just you've got to face your fear. You essentially have that his facial fits. One of those moments where you just have to grit your teeth and be like I'm just going to do it. That's really what it is. Lot of time and having that mindset, knowing that I'm going to have to just grit my teeth and just go through with it has really helped me progress fast in this. In a year and a half ago, I probably couldn't talk to anyone randomly. And now I'll happily find a random stranger on the street and are interviewed. And for a YouTube video, some random person that I've met in my life, you know, honestly it's just conscious intentional practices. So I'd set the goal of okay. Today, I'm going to I'm going to have a conversation with two random people. And if I didn't accomplish that goal, I would really kick myself for it. These little goals that you've set for yourself and you keep achieving them, that's going to really help you. So initially, I told you guys, start with degree things. We're setting the bar fairly attainable because I'm sure every one of you guys can go do that. Okay. Now we'll get an elevated a little bit so that the next week, try have one situation of conversation. Every day you go to supermarket. Very quick exchange of words with the cashier. It could be a conversation that lasts less than 20 seconds. You end it with Have a nice day on your way. Thus it okay? Once that becomes a bit easier, then if you're out and about and you see something that you like, maybe someone's got a really nice hoodie, as I said earlier, each sculpted them and be like, Excuse me, I thought your hoodie was really nice. It was running where you got it from. There you go. Maybe you guys ready, get along. You exchange Instagram's now you've just made a new friend. You know, something so simple can bring such a good reward your life, such a big return on your time. And the risk was they think you're a waiter and that is it. I hope this course has helped you. In essence, you have to just rarely, sometimes just grit your teeth and just go for it. Okay. So what I want you to do this week, as I said earlier, was this week to have situational conversation a week, but tries to have a one situation or conversation every single day for the next week. And if in the moment you like our show, either you're panicking in the moment when you're about to go do it, just remember Counter 5 and then go. Okay, it's going to be difficult. You probably won't talk to every single person that you want to. Okay. I still don't sometimes. Okay. I still don't even after practicing, but literally you have to just keep plugging away at it. And it will get easier. I promise you, you will get easier. So go do that. Take the action today. You could go into it today. You could go technically turn this video off right now and then go do it. Okay? It's in your power. It's in your power to change. Okay? Remember the first lesson, the worst-case scenario is not bad at all, and they're so much that you can gain out of this experience. So go do it. You got nothing to lose. 5. Closing notes: If you've made it this far, honestly well done, divides out most people on this course would have got to this stage if you honestly gone and done looping. So I told you to do it on the greetings for a week, twice a day. You've had a situation of conversation every single day for seven days. Honestly. Well done, guys, great. And you can probably notice now that is easy having conversations. Now how do we take it? One more stage? Well, as I've said in the beginning, It's all about levels. It's all about tolerance, okay? You will tolerate is getting higher and higher and higher. The amount of awkwardness that you can take is getting higher and higher. When it's a bit awkward, it doesn't really faze you anymore, right? That's what we're building up to that. So we're trying to get C where awkward situations don't even faze you anymore. Yeah, he doesn't. You know, you don't have fast fast by honestly. So I would say if you're at this point, you're probably getting a lot better at this. Now, you hire works is literally rinse and repeat. The way that you get better at this is you made the situation harder and harder and harder and harder, and you keep progressing and progressing and progressing. So, easiest thing you could do, simple grading, okay, what's above that situation? Conversation may be very quick exchange of words with a cashier at the supermarket, as we said, won't be a bit harder, maybe complimenting someone in the gym, right? You're already like that Jim gay or realized their trainers or something like that. Right? That's next. Probably after that would be approaching a group of people that die is significantly harder. I've done that quite a few times as well. Thus bit tricky as well. I'm telling you, once you're at this stage, now, you understand how to get better. You understand now how you get better at approaching people, okay? Now it's just rinse and repeat. You have the disbelieve and grit your teeth and just go for it. Now, when the situation, when a difficult situation presents itself and you feel like you used to when it was something as simple as just saying hello, that's when you know, you have to go into because that's where you grow, that's where you really push yourself and get to that next level. When you, I want to tell you this guy's right. When you feel those nerves about approaching someone in the moment, okay. And you want to do it, but it just feels like you can't remember that is the situation that's going to make you grow. Because you grow when you're out your comfort zone, okay, So when you feel that, remember that if you do this, that's going to only elevate you. That's going to push you further out of your comfort zone and you're going to improve as the person. So remember that when you feel those nerves, remember that I would say now or you got to focus on is just rinse and repeat. If you see a situation, just go for it. Okay? If you don't do it, don't kick yourself, pick yourself back up and go for the next one. And eventually it's going to become second nature. And when you see somebody that you want to talk to, you just go into it. Remember, the risk is so minimal, they'll think you're a weirdo. That's it. That's the worst thing that can happen. The reward, the reward that you can gain. Maybe you just made a lifelong friend. You never know unless you try. I hope you guys have found this course helpful. Check out my other courses if you've enjoyed this one, and I'll see you guys in the next one. Take care.