8 Habits leading to more Productivity!

1. Join us!: Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. And I actually stole that from Henry Ford. Thank you, Henry Ford. But the truth is, if you really don't believe that you can be more positive or get out of a negative state, then that's the truth of your life. In this course, I go over how to switch from a negative state of mind to a positive one. So you can be more productive and just contributes to your own life more. Who am I now? Francesco Sam Riley, I'm a tech speaker in this course, I go over eight different habits. Eight different habits that have worked tremendously for me. And I share stories that I know you're going to relate to. Why? Because stories stick. And also, you can see that if you build a habit pattern in your life, you can make the difference from day one to day 100. And that's exactly what we're gonna do is go over the habits. Look, if you want to change your mind from a negative to a positive, come join this course, take one of these habits and ask me any questions I'm here for. You. See you in the next class. 2. What are Positive Habits?: Let's go over what this class is and what this class isn't. This class is about simple habits that you can build in your routine, in your system and your morning, in your evenings that allow you to look at life with more positivity, ultimately leading to more productivity and a more fulfilled life. What this class isn't, it is not a magic bullet. What that means is that this class is simple, yes, but it's not easy to implement these habits. It's going to take work because you've been dealing and working with those same habits for years. Now to reverse it or to unlearn them, it's gonna be difficult. But to start a new one, I promise you it's gonna be worth it. Again, this is not a magic bullet, but I promised you at the end, you will feel this resiliency, this power. Because throughout the struggle of trying to build a new habit, be more positive and to try to use that towards your benefit, it's going to hurt a little. But at the end, it'll only show you how strong you are. Also to make sure that you implement these hacks. I come up with a system to share with you how important it is to have structure. Again, you can do this. I'm 100% sure because I did it and I'm a pretty, let's say a procrastinator. I'll be honest with you. But if I could do it, I know you can do it. In the next video, I'll go over the signs because I know I needed the signs when I was skeptical in the beginning about these habits. Join me in the next video. 3. Habit #1 - The 3 to 1 Ratio: I'd like to share a story with you. Two weeks ago. I wonder in an interview for my dream job, everything was exactly what I wanted in a job. And when I tell you I did a lot of research, I put a lot of hard into it. I prepared, I really tried my best to connect with the interviewer. I felt great after the interview. Unfortunately, ten days later, they said we had not selected you. Tore me down. Let me tell you. Negative emotions play their role. I'm a firm believer that I'm supposed to feel this emotion of sadness and grief and that I definitely was rejected and that's a part of life. The thing is that it plays a role, this emotion, right? The thing is, it doesn't, shouldn't play the main role, shouldn't be the main character of our lives. And with that being said, I had to turn that negative into a positive. Of course, after the motion plate is its processes whole experience. After 123 days. I would personally say that's a lot. What happens is if we allow that negative emotion to control us. That three days a week, that looks like, oh, he's having a bad week. By week turns to a bad month. And a bad month turns into a bad year. And what happens is that becomes part of our personality and then our identity. In my opinion, we could take that negative experience and we could turn into a positive where we're not the victim, but yet where the survivor, where the person thriving. And that's what I want to share with you today. How to get out of that funk after one or two days of letting the emotion take bonus course. And what you're going to do about it to get out of it. Of course, I'm gonna be sharing a bunch of tips in here. The first one, Let's start it right now. The first one, it's the one to three ratio. One, negative, 23 positives. According to science. If we have one, let's say triggering moments or one comment that hurts us. Or one bad experience like getting rejected by a job. We need three positives to counter that. What do I know this? Well, I did a lot of research and I found that this is exactly what helps our bodies, our brains, the dopamine, serotonin, all those chemicals that needs to be released to balance ourselves out. What is life really but just a balancing act. Let's go over the 123. Had this negative comment online that really triggered me. And I'm sure you had 12 or someone sent you a text or someone cut you off while you were driving or cut you off in the supermarket line, whatever that situation is. Remember it, feel it. One negative. Now, counter it with three things that are positive. You could either be grateful for three things or you can create three positive experiences. Hugging my son was one of the first actions that I did consciously, not just to help myself, but to connect with him. Another thing you did was right in my gratitude journal, because I needed to express myself and I made sure that they were all positive. And the third thing I did was I cooked. I love to cook. I really, really feel it. These three things helped me get out of there. Now, was I clear was out of the woods? No, I wasn't. But from the heavy energy that I experienced and I allowed to process, I was able to switch it to a positive. So there's my advice. Take this, whatever it is and then look at it from a perspective of 123. Anytime you feeling it. I know that we all are triggered. I know that we all have these experiences, but it's up to us to choose what we do after it, feel it. And then we choose the first second. Hey, all my body, all the reaction, great. The second, second. It's your choice. And it's up to you to choose. Well, I'm going to balance it out with three positives. I hope you could take that advice and run with it. Maybe you could just start writing down some things that can counter any negative moment. But putting in your phone or writing that in a piece of paper, because it's really your choice. 4. Habit #2 - Fall Forward: I remember when my son first started to walk, he would basically and then he was following his knees and then he was start to cry. And I broke my heart because I don't want to see my son cry. Eventually. Kept on trying and now he walks. I'm really grateful for that. And you as well had this opportunity to learn how to struggle and do the same thing, eventually do what you can do right now. My son and also loves to climb stairs. And I noticed that sometimes can't go up and he struggles and he cries. And I just say, Hey, I believe you can do it. His hands might get dirty, but eventually it gets up to that's there. And you could see it in his own man. There's another set of stairs and he can feel the struggle, but he's still goes forward. And he doesn't know how to count the amount of stairs, but he knows that this more. That's the same idea I want to share with you today. When you fall forward, you're learning my son hitting his knees. He learned my son not being able to climb that extra step and eventually figuring it out by getting his hands dirty was falling forward and learning. It's in that suffering that we learn. Let me give you an example. Have you ever gone a long time without eating or maybe drinking water? And you just said, man, I really wish I could just eat something right now, I'm starving. In the first moment, you've got to take a Biden says something so delicious. It was that much more tasting delicious. When you had to drink something, it was just that much more quenching. That's exactly what happens when we suffer, suffer for the time that we're going after our goal. In those moments that were struggling, we can look at them as obstacles like Man, I got another step. Man, I got to do that. Or we can look at it as an opportunity. Let me give you another example. Right now I told you I didn't get my job. But instead of looking at it like the worst thing in the world, I'm just looking at it as another step. So my son, he had to climb nine steps when he couldn't get up one. Basically it was like another step was added. Now there's ten. And I know that may seem daunting to some people like I know I have to do another step. It's a part of the journey as a part of the process. Just because you reached that ninth step or that ten step, doesn't make you automatically happier. But if you can be positive during the steps, during the struggle, you're going to find yourself not only enjoying what you're doing, but the longest part of the process is the process itself. Then the ending is that that experience. I know that, let's say winning the championship is glorifying feeling. But it's the process that you went through. That is the actual, the beauty. This is where I invite you for a challenge. You can go and get a paper or your phone and write down your wins. The experiences that you went through that actually you've had to suffer. You went through these obstacles, but you looked at them as opportunities and later on, you found out that you are capable. You have done it before. You can do it again. Write down at least three wins that have helped you before you go to the next video. Because in that, you can feel the power. You can know that I've done it. I could do it again. If you remember if there were really special winds, they weren't easy. It's a time suffering. And in the end, you did it. 5. Habit #3 - Ignite your Network: The number one prediction of success and happiness is your social network. Let me, let me repeat that. The number one prediction of success and happiness is your social network, your friends, the beautiful people that you surround yourself with your family. Let me tell you, I love to share with you when I moved to Germany during COVID March 2020, I didn't know anyone. And what happened was, I came to this beautiful country during a time where you couldn't meet up but others. I had my all my social networks in other parts of the world. But in Germany being something new, it had to figure that out. How do you figure it out during times where you're not allowed to socialize or meet up with people or you have to be feet apart or you had to wear a mask. Let me tell you, because of the fact that I wasn't able to socialize all the way from my friends and families all around the world. I was suffering. And I realized this statement is true as they come because my wife and my baby are everything to me. And at the same time, we all do need more sense of friends or people that are peers, people that we can connect with and look in the eyes and hug and socialize with and also who lift us up. And this contributing factor leads to more positivity, which leads to more resilience and productivity and all of that that I want to share with you in this course. But during a time that I didn't know how to do that, I had to figure it out. Here's my tip that I want to share with you. If you make weekly meetings or by liquid meetings, what are the two Zoom? Or by meeting up in a park and going for a walk with distance. This will allow for you to feel that connection. Because without human connection, well, they were not human. This is something that is not just as important as water or food. It is vital to our energy, to our life. And again, I'm going to repeat it because I want to end off with this. The number one prediction of success and happiness is our social network. Who is it in your life that you really connect with? And then you want to keep that connection with strongly. What are you doing to make sure that connection stays there? Set up a Zoom call once a week, set up a meeting, and at the end of the meeting say, what are we going to meet again? Because if you ask to meet up again in person or through a live call, there's a higher chance they will book a date, a time, and it'll be executed. Without our friends, without our families. We can make, we can do this dance alone. But why dance alone when we could do what people hope you can write a couple of people down and make some appointments right after this video. 6. Habit #4 - Concentrate on smaller tasks: Have you ever had a big project that was so daunting or let's say your studies when you have to start and finish university or high-school. I can't wait till them finish. I can't wait till at the end of that or the end of that project. The thing is if we're always looking towards the future, would not really enjoying the President. And I want to share with you a tip that have really has helped me even making this video course. I love, love speaking and I love sharing. However, when it's a big project at hand, it can be daunting and saying, I don't know, have that time. What am I gonna start and finish? This isn't gonna be good enough. Here's the tip. Break it down into smaller chunks. Shawn Achor is book Happiness Advantage. He shares something about the Zorro circle. If you make a circle around you, That's all the units to focus on. That's all the room that you need to move around it. Don't worry about the whole dance floor. Just worried about this one area. And that's your world. Let me give you an example. In this course, I had to break this down into chunks. So first thing I did was write a script. That was the only thing that I needed. Only thing. Once that was finished. The next task was to edit it. That's all I needed to do was edited. Though there's no lighting, There's no microphone, There's no green screen is nothing but editing. After that, I went onto the next one. In each process, I found myself enjoying it for what it is. And now for the big picture at the end where the glory of finishing it is. Because if I'm not enjoying this, what you're going to tell, I'm going to also not be living truly happy within small chunks. If you need to break it down. If there's gonna be ten steps, step once it's ten, makes sure that you only highlight number one. Even if you have to write it down, say, I will only focus on brushing my teeth. Whatever that project is, whatever that goal is. The reason why I'm using this towards this positive to productivity course is because if you are positive during that one part, and again, if it's still that one step is too big and too difficult, break it down. I'm gonna write ten sentences for this course. I'm not going to write the script, but only into write ten sentences. That's doable. I'm not gonna be suffering that much. But watch what happens. You start writing ten sentences and you end up doing a little more and a little bit more. If the suffering happens, take a break or power through whatever way works for you. Ultimately, break it down into small chunks and learn from them. 7. Habit #5 - Control your environment: In life there are no problems, just solutions. In life, there are no problems just solutions. I'd like to share with you a little bit about my childhood. I had two groups going up. A really sweet, humbled kind group that really helped each other, lift each other up and had a lot of fun. I also have the COOH group where drugs and negativity and a lot, a lot of heavy energy was involved were the cool kids. However, I noticed that their influence was huge on me. Can you ask yourself, the people around you, what influence they're having on you, the words they say, the comments, what they're listening to, what they mentioned, how they lift you or bring you down. In this video, I want to go over what you're exposed to, ultimately lead to you being either more productive and positive or more unproductive and negative. It's not just about the people you're surrounded by. It's what you're listening to and what you're digesting. Not just with food but mentally. Back in the day when I was struggling with these two groups, I noticed that my mom said, I don't want you to really hang out with that group. And I said, Mom, I'm 12 years old, I'm a grown man. You can't tell me what to do. Although I thought I was grown man at 12, she had this intention to say, Look, I noticed that this young man and his parents seem to have a lot of heavy energy and it also seems to bring you down when you come back home. At the time, it was really hard for me to understand. But luckily, my friend had moved and I wasn't able to see him anymore. And eventually my friend end up going to jail and his parents separating in a whole bunch of more trauma and drama that happened in their lives. Now going to jail in divorcing is not what I call the most negative things in the world. But in this situation, my friends influence was huge on me. If he got a new pair of sneakers, I like them too, and I wanted to get this pair of sneakers. If he was listening to a rap song that was really negative and I had a lot of curse words. What I want us to listen to, to, uh, to my other friends who always talking about playing basketball and high-fiving each other and just smiling or being creative making our own version of Monopoly were the ones that I ended up being friends with till this day. I really have to think my mom when I was 12, thinking I was a grown man. They said, Hey, we'd have to switch this up a little because my friend ended up moving. That was kind of forced. I got lucky. Now, let me ask you the people you're surrounded by. Could you analyze the amount of time that you've been hanging out with them and then how it plays a role in your decision-making. And who you are. You know, word of mouth is the most powerful marketing out there. If your friend says something when you trust it. If your friend says listen to this or expose yourself to this, or you're not good enough to this. Well, you start to believe it. Other than the people you're surrounded by, what are you listening to? What music and podcasts are you exposing your mind too? You may think, well that's a subconscious is not a big deal. Everything is a big deal because everything that you digest, well, it's going to be going in your body and it's going to eventually show up in your skin and your blood. And same idea when it comes to music. When it comes to stories, when it comes to the people you're surrounded by. Air quality, you're breathing, plays in a verbal onion, but you don't seem to think it's a big deal while you're breathing. And it's the same idea with the people you surround yourself by. I want to challenge you right now to write down what are you listening to? What music, what podcasts, which movies are you watching? Which TV shows that are helping you or not? You can come up with the ones that are helping you try to, try to cultivate that and say I want to do that more. Activities in your life that are helping you, like exercise or people that exercise and being around them more. We are somewhat the people we're surrounded by. How do I know this is proof? Well, wherever you are, there's major language that everyone is speaking. That language could be English or whatever language is where you're from. Ultimately, that's the language you start to use often because well, that's where you're at. I'm in Germany, so speaking German a lot. And that language is a part of who I am now. The same idea with the words in the energy that you're surrounded by, that ends up being the language that you're using often might not be the major one, but it is playing a huge role in the way of thinking. So choose your language consciously and don't let it be chosen for you. If you'd like what I'm saying. Give me a high-five. If you know what I'm saying, try to figure out who and what and what your ceramic bytes and make sure that you go into the zone of what you find to be a more positive lifestyle. All these tricks and hacks will eventually cultivate the version that you want to become. To be more productive, to be more positive and not likeable for the world, but likable to yourself. 8. Habit #6 - Just Solutions: Did you know that only 10% of your happiness can be predicted from your external world. Let me give you an example. If you have a nice car, a big house, I can only predict 10% of your happiness. Because what I see, it really isn't really what's going on inside. According to the studies, 90% of your happiness can be predicted by your internal values and qualities of what you feel and what you bring to the table. So basically, how you process this world equals how you happy you are. And that's a me was studying information because we always look at people on Instagram or online or people driving and say, man, they must be really happy with all that stuff. The truth is, that's not the major contributor of what happiness is. How we use this old guy right here is exactly what can predict true happiness withinside, I mean, look around billionaires, millionaires who don't find happiness, but yet they have at all. Many people talk about this, but it's hard to truly believe when you see them have everything. The newest gadget, the newest car, the brand new house. It's not about that. It's not just something I'm speaking from an emotional, spiritual perspective, I'm talking about psychologically proven. That doesn't do anything. Of course, if we have food and we have shelter and we have water and we have safety. All of that does require money, and it does require the external. But it's the internal that actually makes us feel whole and satisfied. Other than that, 75% of job success is predicted by an optimistic level of perception. When you're happy about what you're doing. And you can see the experience or let's say the stress as a challenge instead of a stressful moment, you start to see it as a Cloud. I'm enjoying this challenge and not looking at it as a threat. Are you someone who looks at it as a threat? Sometimes a stressful moment. I was too. When there was a stressful moment, I was like, Whoa, that's a threat. I'm in fight or flight mode. Instead, changing that perception and saying No, this is a challenge. Because again, there are no problems, they just solutions. When you have this problem-solving mentality. Well, everything could be possibly solved. Of course, if that's invited, because we don't want to try to solve everyone's problems when they're not asking for it. But when we're talking about ourselves and our internal dots, well, that my friend, That's our choice. 9. Habit #7 - Focus: In meditation first started really blowing up. I said to myself, I will never waste time just sitting around doing nothing and just humming. After a crazy amount of research. We're talking about thousands of research projects from different universities. I realize this might work. I have to do all my heart. I live by meditation. Without it, I cannot focus. I cannot have the same energy levels that I normally would if I didn't do it. With that being said, meditation is not just about sitting down, going home. It's about finding that little moment of silence within focusing on your breath and just feeling what it is to be you and not going always out to the external world or to our phones and seeing what other people are doing or working and working and working, working. What it does, it helps us balance ourselves out, gets in tune with our heart rate, with our breathing. And eventually we'll be able to focus even more on the task afterwards. I mean, what more do you want? That's a magic pill in just your own time, focusing on your breath and your breathing and your heart rate. So how do you meditate? There's a million ways to do and allow people talked about this way or that way, holding your nose this way, laying down, sitting up. Honestly, find a place that you find to be comfortable where you're not going to be interrupted. Just find that silence if you can, of listening to your breath. Whether you need a guided breathing session you could find online or just sitting in that silence, resting your shoulders, your jaw, relaxing. Finding that equilibrium, that balance that you need to move forward. Because what is life would add these little breaks? We can we can refer it out and go straight through. But enough of those days leads to burnout. I'm sure you don't want to burn out, but I know that you wanted to recover it feel great. Meditation is not something that I consider once in awhile thing. Because just like sleeping, eating, I need to recover. No need to refill myself before I can pour for others. Make this something in your schedule, something that you know, that it's so valuable that you'd have to do it. Whether it's one minute, five minutes, or ten minutes a day. Find it in YouTube, use it towards your advantage. Some people say you should do for 30 minutes. Science says it says 15 minutes is great. But even if it's one and it's getting, give me 1% more happiness throughout the day. Well, I'm definitely taken advantage of debt and breathing and relaxing and finding the asylum moment by myself. 10. Habit #8 - Be Grateful: Last time I want to share with you is gratitude. Back in the day, I will call myself a skeptical, cynical person. Although that's still within me. Sometimes I realized the one thing that helped me the most and I hope that you can take with you is gratitude. How do you do that? Exactly? The best piece of advice I've ever, ever heard was when you wake up, share three things that you're grateful for. What did you write it down? Or you just think of it and make it into a habit more important than brushing your teeth. The same idea was to go to sleep with three things that you're grateful for. Now, I do that every single morning and every single evening. Why? Because I'm priming my own brain because let me tell you, the world will be out there. It's a prime your brain for you. Instead of them priming it. I want to prime it and I want to privately with gratitude and positivity because I know the benefits and I know how it makes me feel. I didn't know how it starts off my day. Yes, I like coffee and it makes me feel good in the morning. But what it feels even better is to actually go within, figure out what I'm grateful for. And I'm already smiling before they even started. I went so far to even write my own journal that I have now, an Amazon that you can go and find. It's called a two-minute journal, women in the morning, women and night. Now my channel promote myself here. I'm going to make you understand that if you don't have two minutes to just prime your brain, you can have a more positive, more positive existence. Then that means something is fundamentally wrong. And you don't have to get my gel. You could just get a piece of paper or having a notebook they would append. When you wake up before you check your phone, before you go and do something for someone else. Of course, there's a baby involved. I have a big B2. But at the end of whatever project that has to be done, that's more important than your journal. Write down three things. It can be three words. Her smile, my son's hug, or breakfast whenever our air, whatever you want to be grateful for, It's already setting you in motion from our positivity. It, How about before you go to sleep? The same idea. You start to sleep knowing that there's good in this world. Because God knows, we have a lot of news out there and a lot of negative people who would just want to throw out everything at us and we have to absorb that. But it's your choice, it's your time, it's your world. Why not go ahead and make the best out of it and prime your own brain. 11. Course project: Look, you already have all the tools within you. I'm just sharing some wisdom and knowledge that has helped me and I know that can help you. But you already have the tools in there. All you have to do is just go inside and use them. I also want to share with you that I love positive psychology, but I also experienced the negative and I process it. So it's not like I have a negative emotion and I just ignore it and suppressive and just stuff is somewhere because eventually it will explode, come out. What I'm saying is let it process, but choose when it ends. Because if it's 1234 days, well, eventually you're gonna start becoming that emotion. I know because I've seen it and I've experienced it myself. Personally. Let it process, but let it be on your terms eventually what it ends. I also want to share with you, turning a negative to a positive is something we have the power to do. We could be the victim all day. We can look at things as an obstacle all day. We can look at it as a problem all day. Or we could be the survivors. We could thrive. We can look at the obstacles and opportunity. We could do whatever we want if we put our minds to it. And this is not just motivational talk, this is real. It's a choice. It's up to you. I shared all these hacks. I shared all of these tips that are scientifically backed by Harvard and different universities. But with information not being used well, good to know It's trivia. I want you to understand that having a system putting it into your schedule, just like brushing your teeth. If it's not something consistent, well, then it's just a fun time. It's something cool that you did. But it has to be a system. It has to be something in your routine. Whatever way you know how to implement the routine, set it up, put it in your calendar, talk to people about it. So this is what I've been doing every morning and every night. This is how I'm looking at life now. This is the music that I'm surrounding myself with. Talk about it, do it, then eventually see what the results come. One thing that I want to leave you off with, and I hope you can take this with you is known in the world can change me. No one in the world can change you. You're the only person who can change your life. If you want to change your life, if you want to have a more positive existence, this is your choice. Literally, it's you that makes a decision. What you do with it, take with it. But remember, this is your time, your world, your breath, your life. With that being said, I wish you nothing but the best. I hope positivity and productivity comments your life by your choice alone. Thank you so much for joining this course. If you have any questions, do not hesitate to contact me. I love, love being a part of your journey. Thank you.