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How to Be Charismatic: 7 Easy Steps to Master Charisma, Confidence Charm & Charming Body Language

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9 Lessons (1h 7m)
    • 1. Introduction - How to Be Charismatic

      2:18
    • 2. Chapter 1 - Step 1: Work Your Body Language

      12:33
    • 3. Chapter 2 - Step 2: Being Aware

      7:32
    • 4. Chapter 3 - Step 3: Being Passionate

      7:50
    • 5. Chapter 4 - Step 4: Being Inquisitive

      11:51
    • 6. Chapter 5 – Step 5: Being Positive

      7:20
    • 7. Chapter 6 - Step 6: Being Authentic

      6:25
    • 8. Chapter 7 - Step 7: Looking and Sounding the Part

      8:22
    • 9. Conclusion - How to Be Charismatic

      2:54
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Are you looking to up your game? Do you desire to be one of those people that make the room “stop” whenever they walk in? Do you want the secrets of people who have charisma?

“How to Be Charismatic” is a great guide to help you make a move from simply putting being part of the group to being the guiding force within the group. Often it seems as though those who are charismatic were just born with it. That they won some kind of genetic lottery and have all things working for them. What you do not know is that they often have lots of things happening in the background to help them be perceived in this way.

Building your skills is about more than just simply putting a change in the way you look, but about changing internally also. It is about changing the way you communicate, both personally and professionally. This requires you as an individual to be open-minded and ready to change things in your life.

Charisma is a skill or art like any other. With these 7 easy steps you are ready to prove that you can grow and develop yourself in ways that you may not currently be practicing.

YOU WILL LEARN:
• What charisma is.
• The importance of your body language.
• How to exude charisma.
• How to be self-aware.
• The importance of embracing your weaknesses.
• How to be strong without being arrogant.
• Why passion is important to unleashing charisma.
• How to unleash your curiosity.
• Ways that positivity can propel you forward.
• The power in authenticity.
• How to look and sound the part.
• And much more.

To help you in becoming a more charismatic person, this guide goes through many actionable examples and strategies. As you press yourself to grow, you will find that there are so many experiences you have already had that will help formulate your ability to be successful. It’s time to take the plunge and grow!

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Caden Burke

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Caden Burke is the teacher of the "Leadership Skills" course series. He was formerly a literary agent with Curtis Black Ltd. and writes a popular blog on Leadership Skills. Burke turned to teaching several years ago to fulfil his life dream of educating students on the topic of Leadership & Management. He lives in New York City.

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1. Introduction - How to Be Charismatic: How to be charismatic? Are you looking to up your game? Do you desire to be one of those people that make the room quote, Stop and a quote, whenever they walk in. Do you want the secrets of people who have charisma? Quote, how to be charismatic and a quote is a great guide to help you make a move from simply being part of the group to being the guiding force within the group. Often it seems as though those who are charismatic were just born with it. That they want some kind of genetic lottery and have all things working for them. What you do not know is that they often have lots of things happening in the background to help them be perceived in this way. Building your skills is about more than just simply putting a change in the way you look, but about changing internally also, it is about changing the way you communicate both personally and professionally. This requires you as an individual, to be open-minded and ready to change things in your life. Charisma is a skill or art like any other. With the seven easy steps, you are ready to prove that you can grow and develop yourself in ways that you may not currently be practicing. You will always be able to apply these seven steps and approve your skills. No matter if you are now at a beginner, intermediate, or advanced level, you will learn what charisma is, the importance of your body language, how to exude charisma? How to be self-aware, the importance of embracing your weaknesses. How to be strong without being arrogant. Why passion is important to unleashing charisma? How to unleash your curiosity. Ways that positively can't propel you forward. The power in authenticity, how to look and sound to the part, and much more to help you in becoming a more charismatic person. This guide goes through many actual examples and strategies. As you press yourself to grow, you will find that there are so many experiences you have already had that will help formulate your ability to be successful. It's time to take the plunge and grow. 2. Chapter 1 - Step 1: Work Your Body Language: Chapter one, step one, worker body language. Let's be honest. Those who have charisma in their toolbox find opportunities more often than those who do not. What are the key factors of charisma has his body impressions and body language. Charismatic people use body language as a substance for their actions and perspectives. You may even be able to recall an instance where a person who was qualified was overlooked because they simply cannot reject an attitude that was engaging. Sociologist Max Weber originally coined the term charisma. He used this term to describe leaders who are inspirational. For our purposes, we most often see someone who was charismatic as an individual that can compel us to accept or embrace what their vision is. The biggest correlation in individuals who are charismatic is what they say, how they say it, and how they look melted together into a complete congruency. One of the biggest overlook communication methods we use every day is our body language. Your body language is that the communicator of your motivations, emotions, interests, and many aspects of your personality. Regardless of if you are pitching an idea to someone interviewing for a job, you are more charismatic when you inherently align the belief with your words and body language. When you want to increase your charisma, consider these questions before you present yourself or your ideas to others. What is the heart of my messages? What are my true feelings about the message? Is that this message important to me? Why would anyone else care about this message? Those who are charismatic use a large number of nonverbal cues. Some of these cues include things like genuine smile, eye contact, the use of gestures, touch, and many more. All of these things are skills you can learn to enhance your charisma level. The point here is to put these positive signals out into your activities and conversations, which is something that can easily be learned to enhance all your interactions. One of the biggest discoveries people have found on their way to improving the charisma is the need to get out of their own way. Many times, the way you are carrying herself is the biggest factor in getting people to buy into you. Think of someone who had seen present before, that was not overly convincing. They may have been great talking one on one, but when they stepped behind the podium or in front of a group, they become something else. Maybe it's you, maybe in an informal setting. We have charm and humorous and speak intelligently. Now put yourself behind the podium where you are feeling the pressure of speaking or that individualist. Are you slumped over, avoiding making eye contact and grasping the podium with white knuckles? These are the things that are in your way of reaching the audience at that level that a charismatic speaker can now specifically think of yourself when you are in a comfortable place, maybe with friends or family. Do you use your hands or face to help describe what you are talking about? You might smile, frown, make broad gestures, or shrug your shoulders. However, you may find that when you are giving more important presentations or business presentation, you become nervous or anxious and self-conscious, which in turn, you will find your body language suffers too. If this is, you do not turn back now, there is hope. You just need to work on your nonverbal techniques. You need to learn how to relax and focus on the audience rather than yourself. When you do this, you can find that you naturally share your personality and your body language that takes over in support. Think of some of the leaders you follow or respect. Why do you, these people are typically confident, intelligent, and upbeat. Can you see the power of their mind and body connection in action when you listen to them, it is widely known that the way you feel has a direct effect on your body language. If you are feeling depressed, you might slouch or be slumped over and looking down. If you are excited, you smile more and hold yourself upright. However, did you know that the opposite can be true? That is, that if you hold yourself up and carry yourself with confidence through your gestures, movements, and facial expressions. You can also affect your emotions back to your brain. Did you know that actually, some studies have been done to show that smiling can actually have physiological changes in your body. It can lower or raise your body temperature, heart rate, and skin resistance. Smiling can also increase the endorphins in your brain to make you feel happier. So as you work to be more charismatic, try a few of these simple steps. Step 1, I lining your verbal and nonverbal communications to the emotional connection of your message. Step to improve your posture, setup straight and pull your shoulders, back and head held high. Step 3, genuinely smile. Tips for exuding charisma. So you are ready to dive right in and start filling more charismatic. To be successful, you have to understand how others perceive you matters. If you want to be successful as someone who was charismatic, your interactions matter. The following tips are great tools to help build your confidence and develop habits that those who are truly charismatic use daily. Sit up straight. Slouching is a big no-no is signal to others that you are either board have no respect or not interested in the person you are talking with. One thing those who are charismatic do well is they fill the space around them. When you sit up straight with good posture or stand up tall, you fill in space around. This is because you are in an upright position. Your shoulders are back, which is also a power position. Those who position themselves in this way are most often read as ready for action or confident. So how do you do this comfortably? Begin by relaxing your shoulders and placing her feet about shoulder width apart on the floor. You should feel as though you're leaning against the back of a chair without the need of having one there. Do not stress if it takes time to develop this, you most likely have been slumping for years and it will take time to train the muscles in your back. The more you practice, the better you'll get at this. So the next time you feel as though you're slouching, remind yourself that this collapsing form reduces the space you take up at rejects you as a powerless individual. Leaning in when you're listening to someone and lean-in. This is a signal that you feel what they are saying is important. It shows them that you are truly an actively listening to what they are saying. As a natural contrast to this, you may find that when you are speaking, you lean out to allow the other person to lean. And naturally, this shows that they too are interested. Gesturing. Gesturing is a great way to show people that you are confident and competent in what you are speaking about. As you are speaking, do not be afraid to show people what you are talking about by communicating with your hands. The process of gesturing makes you seem more personable to your audience and that you have a grasp on what you are talking about. It is possible, however, to exaggerate your gestures, which can lead your audience to not fully believing you. One way to communicate with gesturing is to open yourself up to the audience. This can be done by simply spreading your arms apart and opening your palms to the audience. This communicates nonverbally that you are open and have nothing to hide, not laugh and smile. Even in instances where the message or business you are communicating a serious, you do not need to maintain a disposition of seriousness the entire time. Relaxing a bit shows others that you are paying attention. Simply nodding can reinforce when you agree or understand what the other person is talking about as well. A well-positioned smile can lighten the mood and help to make you feel more comfortable in the situation. It also is okay to laugh when a joke is made. This will help you to re-establish that you are connected at that moment and humanize you. Eye contact. Eye contact is one of the most important skills that you can use to make a difference in your communication. It is recommended that you work to maintain eye contact around 60 to 70 percent of the time. The average person only maintains eye contact for between seven to ten seconds. When you keep your eyes connected with a person you are speaking with, you will find that they see you as a confident speaker as well. When you are presenting or training on a difficult or valuable message. Eye contact is a great way to judge if your audience's getting the message. No, on the other side of things, it is important not to overdo it. When you maintain eye contact with someone, they may feel awkward or that you are confrontational. So be sure you take breaks from time to time. We suggest that you turn your gaze from side to side as looking down can make you appear weak. Handshakes matter. While this may sound very old school, it cannot still be more true. A handshake can tell a lot about you. If your grip is too loose, you might seem as though you lack confidence or are incompetent. We can't. Shakes are also a flag that you lack authority. If your grip is too hard, you're often perceived as wound up. We're aggressive and maybe difficult to work with. You have to find the sweet spot, the perfect handshake. This skill is really easy to master. You take the other person's hand and rather than actually shake it, you gently apply pressure. Then allow the other person to remove their hand first. Or being cautious not to remove your hand quickly because you do not want to seem rushed. Remember that depending on the situation, you would need to adjust your handshake for each person. Maintaining and always firm handshake, but not aggressive. Mere body language. There is power in the way you present yourself in different situations will change. In some instances, you may find that mirroring the other person's body language makes them more comfortable when speaking with you. Research has shown that when a person imitates another's body language or non-verbal cues, that you can more accurately understand their experience or emotions. If you noticed that the person is leaning in, then you should do the same. If they hold their hand to their face, you should do it as well. These can be casual movements. You do not want to draw attention to the fact that you are mirroring their body language. Many studies have shown that when you mimic facial expressions, the other person feels more confident and open to the interaction. Do not crush your body. Crossing your body is another thing that will kill your charisma. In a situation, when you cross your arms or legs, you are closing yourself off to the conversation. When you leave yourself open, you are nonverbally signaling that you are open to what the other person is saying. It is though you are welcoming them in, which is something others want to experience when being around those who are charismatic. One of the keys to a charisma is making the person feel welcome and important. So if you are closing your body off, you are closing them out and creating resistance. Arm's length away. Refrained from standing too close to people. This can make them feel uncomfortable. Yet you also do not want to stand too far away because it can make you seem less confident. So you have to find once again, that sweet spot, which we suggest is about an arm's length away. It allows the other person to see that you are willing to speak and be engaged and the topic of conversation, mind your blinking. This one is a little bit on the tricky side, since blinking is pretty involuntary and sometimes when you try to control it, you might look unnatural. Nevertheless, excessive blinking is a signal that you are not comfortable either with a conversation to the person. The best thing you can do is stay relaxed when you find yourself blinking more than usual. One great tip is to close your eyes for a moment and allow yourself to come back to the center, then reopen them slowly to see if your blinking comes back to a normal level. If you know that you are an excessive blinker on a normal day, you may consider some eye drops to help with wedding arise. You could be blinking a lot because of dry eye, which is something you can work with your healthcare provider to see if they can offer some guidance. 3. Chapter 2 - Step 2: Being Aware: Chapter 2 step to being aware. Have you considered how self-aware you are? The skill of awareness is one that takes time to master, but it can make all the difference in many aspects of your life. Self-awareness is one of the qualities that those who are charismatic possess. You most likely find yourself drawn to those that are self-aware without realizing it. Self-awareness as one of the key elements of emotional intelligence. Around 20 years ago, the leading world was rocked with a concept that emotional intelligence is as equally as important to success as intellectual intelligence. Since then, the term emotional intelligence is now referred to as our EQ. Further research has found that employers are seeking employees with EQ as much as they do IQ. You have already chosen to improve your EQ. And there are four simple things that you should raise your awareness about the impact you have on others. Of all the aspects of being self-aware. This one is the most considerate. Those who are self-aware understand their emotions and actions, have an impact on others. And what that impact is. It sounds like a simplistic concept, but the implications are surprising. Stop for a moment and think about how many times you have had a bad day only to not really be able to put your finger on why. Now think about how your bad days somehow mysteriously affected your partner, kids or co-workers. It happens and it is preventable. It happens. And it is where you can first recognized the need to put up your self-awareness and emotional intelligence to address it. Individuals who are self-aware refused to spilled negativity out onto others from their bad days. Quite honestly, those who are self-aware actually do not have that many bad days. This is not saying that they are always happy and everything always works out there way. That is not the case. The thing is, they realized that the mood they carry has an impact on others. And they know that their moods must be regulated. Who wouldn't want to be around the person that never projects or negativity onto others. This is the type of person that many would be drawn to. The kind of person that is the bright spot in someone else's day, no matter what they might personally be struggling with. If you find that you are struggling with being able to regulate your mood, which is common. Here are a few things to do to help out, except that it is happening, recognize it and address it. Ask for guidance, talk with someone, be it a life coach, a spiritual guide, or just in prayer. Find someone that can help you guide yourself out of the negativity. Regulate. This is where you are. You've got the support you need, and now it is time to allow those feelings to exist, but let them float away. You can choose what you project beyond yourself. You make the choices. And if you want to be charismatic, you must choose to take a higher road and allow yourself to regulate your emotions. Shift your focus, be more interested in the day of others then of your own. This simple shift can allow you to separate your day and negativity from it away from your thoughts. This will allow you to focus and be more empathetic to those around you, showing that you value them. As you grow your emotional intelligence and self-awareness, you will find that you are more in tune with the feelings or emotions have on others. You will begin to see the effect emotions have and nearly every situation. This will help you to be able to shift the content to be more productive and positive outlook, embracing weakness. As individuals, it is often hard for us to admit that we are week that we struggle. However, the reality is we all struggle. We all have weaknesses. Think for a moment about where your sweet spot is, what the things that you are really good at are. Are you a great communicator? Do you have a great vision? Are you an innovator? Where are your strengths? Now? Turn that around and look for your weaknesses. Where do you struggle? What are your pain points? It is normal to have things that you are not skilled. Very few people are skilled at everything. And many of those who claim they are quite bluntly, not being honest with themselves. Those who are self-aware understand clearly what they struggle with, where their limits and weaknesses are. They understand that they are not gifted in these areas. And that is okay. When you can break out of your mindset, that you have to be good at everything. Two things happen. It allows you to spend your valuable time in the areas where you do have success. It also creates room for that success to happen. When you can be humble with yourself and acknowledge that you have weaknesses. Many will see this as an endearing quality. As you become more self-aware, you will understand that your weaknesses are not hindrances, but areas where you should allow someone else to shine as you allow those on your team to take over these aspects, you will see that the team will flourish. You may find that the person who is strong in an area you are weekend can provide you a balance that you are not aware of before. Strength without arrogance, as hard as it is to admit our weaknesses, we should not assume that we must be arrogant when we acknowledged the strengths. Knowing your strengths does not wear. The difference here is that those who are arrogant and egotistical often pivot even their weaknesses as strengths. It is completely possible to allow yourself to shine in different things. The key here is to embrace and understand where you shine, what your strengths are that make you better. Those who are self-aware know what they are good at. They simply just perform in their strengths. Acknowledge limits. We all have limits. Even those who push themselves every day to reach beyond them. They are there. Those who are self-aware know that they have a limit. They accept that even when they pushed further to they think they can at some point, they need to call it good. They work hard to take the brakes they need when they need them. This allows them to continue to push their boundaries and grow. But also acknowledged their needs. Their ability to push an acknowledged when they need to tap out or take a moment comes from a responsibility to accomplish things. They know that they are more effective when they are running on all cylinders, then when they are trying to push and exhaustion. This methodology benefits everyone involved from co-workers to the team, to even their family. Another aspect of self-awareness and emotional intelligence is the ability to ask her team what they need simply to be open to feedback and see it as a tool for development. Those who are truly charismatic listen with the intent to learn and grow. They are empathetic listeners and are aware of the impact that the actions they have in any situation can alter a future interactions. Charismatic leaders understand that they do not have to have all the answers. That sometimes the answers come from within the team that they can learn from those who are in the trenches. And that it is these people on the front lines of the positions that truly understand their needs and wants. These leaders are the ones who have the most credibility with your staff and teams because they allow their eyes to be open to the possibilities that may be. 4. Chapter 3 - Step 3: Being Passionate: Chapter 3, step 3, being passionate. Passion is a fundamental component of a charismatic person. The most charismatic speakers, leaders, and guides are full of passion for what they do. They understand that you have to show up and be present to reach people, but that is not enough. They know that if you do not show up with passion for your subject, there really is no point in bothering. The thing about passion is that a power. So much of our personalities and traits like hard work, creativity, determination, and it allows for things to manifest in our lives. Regardless of your profession, passion can be a deep motivator and is something that those who are charismatic hone in on, understand the importance of how passion can propel them forward, not just monetarily, but in many other ways as well. Passion is not something that can necessarily be taught and it quite frankly cannot be faked. This can be harder to spot than you may realize, because you are maybe passionate about a position, but not necessarily passionate about the job. As you are working to grow your charisma, you need to define for yourself what you are passionate about, what things make you feel strong emotions about and go after those things. Why is passionate important to charisma? Passions role is the correlation between a person's capacity to achieve and desire to achieve. Quite often, it is the factor that separates those who are good performers from those who are high performers. As an individual, you might check every box on a recruiter list, but you may not possess the passion and commitment the organization is looking for. It is important to allow your passion to flow through you as a part of your charisma when you're applying for a job, showing just what aspect makes you excited about the position. When you are presenting for a group? Show what part of this subject you feel strongly and have an emotional attachment to. This is where your passion lives, allowed to be expressed in a way that is constructive and empowering. How to find your passion. Passion is one of the hardest skills to quantify. It is easy for us to see skills from experiences were even attitudes that allow for success or failure. However, passion is the elusive skill that is hard for us to nail down in a quantifiable way. Thinking about your passion, thinking about it like this. It is your motivation. It is the why not the what? It is that the reasoning for the accomplishment, not the accomplishment itself. A way to begin understanding our passion is by looking at what your goals are. What drives these goals? Are your goals individualistic, where team orientated? Do you focus on the here and now we're look long-term. What makes you get up in the morning? What provides you with satisfaction? All of these questions are elements for evaluating what your passion is. What drives you your ability to understand the underlying aspects of your life will allow you to gain insight into how you can funnel your passion for driving your charisma. Cultivating your passion. Passion is not like finding something you may have lost. It is more finding something that is fulfilling or enjoyable. This is not always an easy task. And once you find it, you have to work just as hard to cultivate it. Let's look at some ways you can do just that. Remove distractions. If you are struggling still with your passion, it could be because you have not allowed yourself space or time to pursue it. Many distractions are happening in our lives every day. And honestly, we know some of these are non-negotiable and they have to take priority. However, it is equally as important that you find a way to reduce your distractions and focus on your passion. This could mean putting your phone away. And I'm working on a vision board. Assess how you are using your time and how could you be applying your wasted time scrolling social media to pursue your passion? Put your passion in an internship. So you are still growing this passion and trying to figure everything out that goes along with it. Think of it as an internship. Your passion may change. The thing you may have thought which are big Y, may not be actually. If you see your passion as an internship, you allow yourself time to acquire the necessary knowledge and skills to be successful. You also allow yourself the grace to accept if you can commit to this passion, it is okay to find out that you do not love something as much as you first thought you what? This passion could also lead you to something that is a much better fit for you. Hang in there. Yes. There are indeed some people out there in the world that immediately fall in love with her passion. However, this is not always the case, and it is okay if you do not fall head over heels in love with your passion immediately. Just like any good relationship, it takes time to develop. At the start, things might be awkward and clumsy, and they're most likely as a learning curve. But stick with it. Anytime you begin something new, you will grow as you put more effort and time into it. You will find that as you increase your skill or knowledge about your passion, you will grow with it. You will move from simply wanting to do it to being enthusiastic about it. As you become better and better, you will gain even more joy from your passion. The learning period as a process. It is what separates someone from enjoying something to being passionate about it. It is that grit, the effort that you put in that makes you truly enjoy it as well. You need to give yourself time to grow, understand, and gain knowledge or skill to do whatever you are passionate about. If you are making progress, you are going in the right direction. Remember, do not give up simply because it is not happening as fast as you like. Things will come just as they should. Look at the big picture. Let's be real. They are going to be moments and every passion that you will not be as excited about. It may be a repetitive practice to improve a skill or a meeting with a board that seems to cover the same thing over and over again. The details are important and your ability to see beyond them to the big picture makes a difference. With each meeting or practice, you are working towards something bigger. You are heading towards your passion. Allow yourself to shift your perspective and think of these dull and uninteresting points of your passion or the evidence that you aren't engaging and being effective. You are connecting the work to the grit, to the passion. Do not burn out. Now understand that it is possible to go overboard as you are pursuing your passion. If you start to find that your passion is not bringing you the same emotion to your y, then it might be time to take a step back. When you do this, assess the progress your passion is making. Is your passion no longer fun? Before you give up and drop everything, stopped for a moment and do a self-assessment. Ask yourself, are you taking care of yourself? What does your self-care look like? Are you honest with yourself? Are you burnt out on this passion or do you just need a personal day to focus on you for a moment? Burnout happens. And it can feel deeper than it truly is. When you get to this point, it is essential to step to the side to self-reflect and get outside of your own problems. This sounds crazy, but when you look outside yourself or someone who has stressed or fried, much like you are feeling, I can help them. You in turn are helping yourself. It is part of our human nature to help each other. Sometimes we give advice, sometimes we share a drink, whatever it is, a lie yourself, the grace to step away and look at things from a different perspective. You just might find that through helping someone else, you can better understand why you are feeling the way you are. 5. Chapter 4 - Step 4: Being Inquisitive: Chapter 4, step 4, being inquisitive, children are naturally curious. It is at a very young age that we are often discouraged from this process of thinking. Being told classic lines like curiosity killed the cat. This way of thinking puts a negative stigma on our natural inclination to be inquisitive. As we grow older, this continues as people are discouraged from asking questions by peers and classmates. So at some point, the individual begins to equate that curiosity with weakness, danger, where even as being rude, this vent transitions into fear of looking unintelligent. So people just stop asking questions. Thinking that silence is a better alternative than having the questions floating around inside you answered it, hold you back as a person from achieving the success you desire. You may have found yourself in college and the professor asking if there was any questions and not a single person raised their hand. Guess what? If you had a question? Chances are someone else in that room did as well. Because of all this conditioning, when a person is put into a situation where they need to ask a question, it can be difficult to do so. The act of repressing our natural curiosity makes asking simple questions difficult. This is one of the biggest reasons that those who do ask questions tend to stand out amongst the crowd. There has actually been significant research that shows people who are inquisitive are more of an asset to the organization they support. Upping your charisma means changing patterns that you have established when it comes to being curious. There are four basic reasons charismatic people benefit from being inquisitive. Dr, for knowledge. Charismatic people have a drive for seeking out knowledge. They want to learn through every conversation and experience. They are also humble and can emit it when they do not know the answer. They do not try to figure out every little thing on their own. Rather, they admit they do not know and work to be informed for the next time the situation arises. Because of this approach. They are more likely to learn something from the experiences they have, rather than avoid being ignorant for not having all the answers. To unlock your ability to your knowledge, you must understand. It is far more important to learn than simply look smart taking initiative. The next thing that charismatic people frequently do is they take the time to explore things and question the actively invest time in growing their intellect. They are dedicated to finding answers to questions, not for any other driving purpose, than to gain knowledge. They have a will to learn and seek out ways to better their opportunities constantly. This can look very different from one opportunity to the next opportunity. It may mean taking on larger projects to dedicating time for self-development. Welcome innovation. Nearly all that is charismatic are looking for ways to improve the processes or grow. This comes back to the need for curiosity to dry the possibility. Every aspect of their life there is room for improvement. They are champions of change and encourage innovation. These individuals are constantly questioning. This makes them key players and growth both personally and professionally. The welcome, the addition of technology or software that will improve efficiencies or processes. As innovators, they are the group that is looking for the best possible solution to the challenges that they face. They also understand that it's not necessarily their idea that will be the solution to the challenge. Truly charismatic people are willing to surround themselves with individuals that will make them better solve the problem. Another aspect of charismatic people is they are more tolerant of the unknown. The understand that to find solutions, it is okay to have to seek out answers and not have them right away. They are not overly concerned when faced with a problem, but move into solution mode. This goes back to a natural desire for answers. As a person with a high level of curiosity, they want to question the problem and how to fix it. Along with this, they understand that they do not have to be the smartest person in the room. That when they surround themselves with experts in their field, are providing themselves with an arsenal of learning and development, productivity. Those who are inquisitive are also often more productive. This is because their curiosity leads them to clarify thoughts. It allows them to discover what is inside and direction for achievement. Those who are inquisitive are often goal setters and focus only on the efforts that really matter. They also are focused on how things work, what makes something successful, and what makes something not. They rarely just accept things for what they are. At the same time. They may not understand the rocket science behind the spaceship. They want to have a general understanding of the system processes. When they do this, it helps them to be more systematic and optimize their productivity. Curiosity pushes an individual to maintain commitment and become proficient at their task. This makes them drive to find the most efficient way to accomplish task and reach their goals as well. Those who approached things with curiosity do not get overwhelmed by the number of tasks they have to complete. They simply focus on pushing forward, increasing productivity, reawakening your curiosity. We can see from all things mentioned earlier that curiosity or being inquisitive is important to improve your charisma. Yet, how do we reawaken this trait from our early childhood? It begins with allowing yourself to be open-minded, to accept the possibility of new knowledge, experience, ideas, hobbies, adventure interests, and even new people. As you begin to question more things around you, you will find that you even become more tolerant of things that previously would push you over the edge. It is because the act of questioning makes us more self-aware. Questioning changes the way we think. It makes you more skilled at handling difficult situation or problems. It allows you to be able to see new ideas or solutions. Unless you think creatively and go beyond your typical in the box thinking strategies, you will find that being inquisitive or curious is not just good for you cognitively, but also emotionally. Reigniting your curiosity takes effort. But remember, when you can unlock this power, you will open so many doors. Here are a few guiding practices that can help you to unleash your inner curiosity. Questioning your curiosity. Think about a few things for a moment. What does a bird think as it flies? How did people communicate before there was technology? Why did Benjamin Franklin thing getting struck by lightning would be a good idea. Can improvements be made to help those with mental disorders? Why has no one developed a universal cure for cancer? Yet? The world is full of questions that need to be answered. There are so many things that happen all around us. They're simply just no answer for the moral. We know the more questions we should be able to ask. As a person who is inquisitive, you should not take anything for granted. You should know that the more you question, the more you will learn. Sometimes the things we learn through education is that what we were taught was not right or possibly not the only answer to the question. Before long, you will start to notice that many things are being researched all around you. The more questions you can generate around you, the more your brain will start on locking its ability to be curious. Diversity. As an open-minded person, you want to move away from old patterns and behaviors. You want to try thinking about things from different perspectives. While a routine can be comfortable, it will not propel you forward. The more you allow curiosity in your life, the less likely you are to avoid change or new opportunities. Think about it in simple methods. What if you gave something new a try? Rather than reading a book about your favorite topic, try something from a different genre. Or the next time you're at a restaurant, try something new. You never know if you will not like it. If you are not willing to first to try it, as you become more interested in other things, you increase your knowledge. In turn, you will find that your natural ability to be curious will grow. Go out and explore the world, see things that are grayed out there, and find new ways to grow and engage in new behaviors. Boredom is your nemesis. If you find yourself bored, often, you are not doing something right? Charismatic people have no room of their life for boredom. The only see their free time as an opportunity to explore and ignite their passion. There are many ways you can find something that is interesting to do. Even when you are in a line waiting for your morning coffee. When you make the statement that you are bored, you are verbalizing the idea that you have no curiosity. When you are waiting. There are minimum five things you can do to pass the time. You can read a book. Look for interesting facts on Google. Think about life. Have a conversation with a stranger or call a friend or family member. Consider this. If a topic is boring you, you could possibly be looking at it from the wrong perspective. Also allow yourself to realize that if you're telling yourself something as boring, it could also be that you simply do not agree with a person's perspective. It could also be that you find the information trivial and know that there are many more important things in life. Regardless of the case, it is important to explore those feelings and determine what they stem from. Allow learning to be fun. Okay, Here's a big one. Allow yourself to have fun. And you should start seeing the fun and the things around you. This can not only help you to be more curious, but it can also help to improve your mindset in a positive way. Learning happens in so many ways. It is not simply learning from a book or a lecture. It can happen from every experience you have. Being curious about your experiences for the learning you can gain from them. When you learn new things, you will be more interested in these topics. You will allow yourself to realize that you have more areas of interest and can grow personally and professionally in new ways. Unleashed enthusiasm. When you can start seeing challenges more like a contest with yourself or your peers, it can create a spark within you. Allow yourself to have joy and even fun in your work, making them more relevant to you. When you are motivated to seek answers, you will find your productivity increases. Think about a topic that you are curious about. It could be how something works or something that interest you see God, a person who was enthusiastic about it. You will learn that when you find someone else that is passionate and enthusiastic about something, it is much more interesting and it can spark your curiosity for greater understanding, even more. Ignore stereotypes. One of the best ways to boost your curiosity and even your charisma is to ignore stereotypes. You must be open-minded, and that means you cannot pigeonhole people for any reason. You must approach life with an unbiased curiosity and separate the fact from the possible. As you grow your skills and learning about individuals and let go of what you think may be true. You will find that they are phenomenal qualities you can take from all types of people. When you remove the blinders created by stereotypes, you will see that there are so many different things to explore, experience and even challenge you to be a better person. As a charismatic person, you want to always come back to the idea that you have more to learn. That with your increasing curiosity, you can benefit from what others have to teach you and you can improve and explore things that you have just yet to experience. 6. Chapter 5 – Step 5: Being Positive: Chapter 5, step 5, being positive. The power of positive thinking is often misguided and seen as a fluffy, overused term that only pertains to those who are out of touch with a real-world. However, this way of thinking is so archaic and intrinsically damaging to your ability to grow and Elise your full potential. Charismatic people give positive thinking the same weight as they do persistence were even work ethic. Research is showing that there is a real power and positive thinking and is much more than simply shifting your mood to be happy or upbeat. Those who are charismatic see the real value. And that it helps you to build talents and skills that are long-lasting. Negative thoughts hold you back. One of the biggest problems with negative thinking is the way it narrows your emotions, mind, and focus of your thoughts. They prevent you from seeing all the possible solutions. Your brand ignores all options because of it. They seem irrelevant when you're faced with a challenge. At the same time, this instinct could be useful if you are in a dangerous situation. This is not that useful in society, as we don't typically run across life or death situations. Yet, those who allow the power of their negative thoughts are still often acting with the same animalistic response. As negative emotions happen, your brain simply just shuts down the ability to see other options. Positive thinking projects you forward. One thing to understand is that when you use positive thinking, these feelings and effects do not stop simply after a few minutes. They actually have lasting benefits that enhance your ability to build skills and develop throughout your life. So how do you move forward from traditional negative thinking or enhance your already positive outlook on things. Begin with allowing joy, love, and contentment to be present in your life. Charismatic people accept these things and understand that regardless of the current situation, they are worthy of these things. Here are a few ways in which you can enhance your positive thinking to reject you ford. Meditation. Charismatic people often use meditation as a way to improve their thinking and center their thoughts daily. Those who meditate build a valuable long-term skill of understanding that the things that happen in your life do not necessarily happened to you. They are simply occurrences of your life. These individuals also have increased purpose in life, social support and improved mindfulness. Meditation can look different for each person and can happen at different times in the individual's day. One method that is very successful in helping those on their journey to be more charismatic is to meditate first thing in the morning. As they use this time ten minutes after they get out of bed to centers or thoughts for the day, they remind themselves or their worthiness or that all things are possible. There are many great tools for finding mindfulness meditation options. Should you feel this is the correct path for you? If you do decide to give meditation, I try remember a new skill takes time to develop and learn. Give yourself grace and tried every day for two weeks before you scrap the concept has not your cup of tea journaling. Another method that charismatic people have found to help focus on their positivity thoughts is through journaling. The typically journal the events of the day and what positive things they can't find from each event. Others use journaling to reflect on the things that they are grateful for. This process of using gratitude and accepting what is good in your life can be very powerful and even profound in the things that you may not realize that you are lucky to have. The key here is not writing negative things in your journal. Unless you also reflect on what could come out to the situation to make it positive. Charismatic people use an approach of positivity. Even when things seem to be going wrong. The understand that there is something to learn and they simply need to shift the way things are going in a different direction. Self-care. The last aspect of positive thinking that charismatic people do is they allow themselves time to play, explore, relax, or be present in their lives. It is easy to schedule meetings, events, task, and all the things into our calendar to truly unlock your charisma, try scheduling and time for relaxation and play. When you take time to provide yourself a break from the stress and complexity of your life. You allow more positive experiences into your life. So blackout time for positivity in your calendar. Explore or do things that bring you joy. It is okay to give yourself permission to be happy and still be successful. Those truly charismatic people know the value of not being all business all the time. Once you unleash the power of positivity, you will be good to see the value it can bring to your life. Charismatic people have found the keys to maintain a positive attitude through all of life's ups and downs. They understand that when they are feeling negative or down, shifting their perspective can make all the difference. Positive attitude equals positive opportunities. One thing you will notice about charismatic people is they are approachable and likable. When it comes to networking. They are more likely to meet those who are uplifting and have beneficial to their life because of the presence they carry with them. They understand that when the allow positivity and to their lives, they can expand opportunities for their social circle, which can in turn opened the door for opportunity professionally. Charismatic people also understand that when the approach any situation with a negative outlook, they are likely to fail. They work to maintain a high positive outlook when they are seeking new opportunities. The understand that the positive attitude, the Express can relax others involved in any situation as well. They have a locked the secret that investors and employers are looking for individuals who are illuminated, contribute, and uplift those around them. When your presence is enjoyable, people will be drawn to you. They will be more inclined to help you with, uh, challenges you are facing. The power and a positive attitude can make all the difference in being able to find a solution to the problem your organization is facing. The power and a positive attitude can make all the difference in being able to find a solution to the problem your organization is facing. Remember, people enjoy the presence of someone who can uplift them. Charismatic people shift the focus on their situation to that more of what they can do to help build others up. So as you go on this journey, remember that when you lift someone else, you grow your charisma. Remember, we will all deal with disappointment and setbacks in life. The difference between the average person and the person with charisma is how they react. Keep your eyes on the prize. Keep working towards that success were goal. Challenges are what will define you as an individual. More so how you allow yourself to react and grow from the challenge than the challenge itself. 7. Chapter 6 - Step 6: Being Authentic: Chapter Six, Step 6, being authentic. Authenticity beings with you living in the moment, being confident about who you are and what you have to offer. It is about your presence at the moment. Truly charismatic people are authentic and could put others at ease around them. They are like talking with an old friend and make you feel as though you can share anything with them. One element of authentic people is trust. There is no question of their integrity or questioning of that individual. Those who are close to them knows their morals and ethics are predictable. And authentic person is one that represents their own true nature, beliefs and personal identity. As a person of charisma, you want others to look to build relationship with you. This means that you have to look at your values and who you can't identify with these values. You need to be trustworthy, kind, and honest, authentic people do not have time for those who are dishonest or create drama. So how do you up your game to be more authentic and your actions? Begin with opening your mind. You want to attract people who are open-minded and receptive. So you in turn, must be that way as well. In doing this, you will allow yourself the option to think of things in ways you may not have considered before. The following are a few ways in which you can add authenticity to your life. Be true. While this seems like a very simple concept, it is a powerful one. You cannot be someone else, you can only be you. It is the most simple and best advice you can get and give. But what does being true to yourself actually mean? It means live by your code of morals and values that make you a person who was honest and trustworthy. This is fundamental to living with integrity. Authentic people fulfill their obligations. If they say they will do something, they will do everything in their power to show up and accomplish the task. The understand it as part of their duty to fill obligations because these actions are reflections on their character. Charismatic people have acceptable expectations for the character. They walk the walk and talk the talk. If they commit to a project, they are there for the long haul. The backup, their empowerment with her actions and words. They understand that in doing these things, not only do they personally benefit, so does the other party involved arrows out. I think in one key aspect of authentic people is they are deep thinkers and they generate power from inside. This power they used to improve and add value to others. The process of arrows out. They want to give more than they take. They are typically humble and kind of their actions and thoughts. This is often seen through the way they carry themselves in their daily tasks. Acting authentic requires that you first think about what you want to do. It it requires that you tap into your emotional intelligence. When you are authentic, you are more mindful of your actions and the influence they have on others. You think about your actions and act in ways that are helpful to others and influence others to act with the best of intentions. How you treat people. Charismatic people understand the way they treat someone, affects the person's well-being. They know that when someone has disrespected, they feel terrible and sometimes even violated. You will not see truly charismatic people making others feel this way. Part of the desire they create for others to be around them is they are kind. They specifically radiate kindness in their life. They also understand that being kind is helpful to them. As they put kindness out into the world, they in turn are filled with a boost to their own happiness. One thing that you should remember is when you treat others well, more often than not, they would treat you with the same kindness and respect. Charismatic people are genuine interactions. They genuinely care about the choices they make and their effect on others. So, how do you up your game on how you treat others? Begin by trying out a random act of kindness every day. Then you can progress or find other ways to put kindness out into the world. Live in the moment. As a charismatic person, you should live in the moment. You should not allow needless matters to dictate your life. When you think of someone who truly lives in the moment, what attracts you to them? I would wager a guess that this person is not one that is concerned with the notifications on their smartphone, nor are they checking email or social media constantly. While all these things are okay to do, they most likely have set times to focus on them. They are devoted to what they are doing in the moment, and this makes them much more effective. So how do you live in the moment? Well, it really is a simple concept. You specifically focus on what is happening in the here and now. You remove the excess clutter from your life and focus not on could be or may happen. You focus on the task that are in front of you right now. As you eliminate distractions, you'll be good to fill a reduction in stress from all the excess things around you. Another way you can stay in the moment is to be an exceptional listener. Listen, not just to those who you care about or your peers at work. You also need to not just listen, but to hear your inner voice, your intuition and heart play a role in helping you live a better life and truly authentic people embrace this act. Openness. As you grow your authenticity and charisma, you need to remember to be open to possibilities. Allowing yourself to be open to possibilities, you trigger inside yourself a habit of open-mindedness. Those who have an open mind are trusting, faithful, and accept calls to action in their life. They also lived her life with a philosophy of being fair and he willing to accept that other ideas may bring about change or solutions they did not consider. As an authentic person, you need to be open to new ideas. You can still stay consistent with your code of values and morals. Yet when it comes to opinions, you actively listened to others. While you may not agree, you understand that it is not your place to judge someone else based on bias, you should treat each situation as an individual opportunity and work to remain impartial in your actions. 8. Chapter 7 - Step 7: Looking and Sounding the Part: Chapter Seven, Step 7, looking and sounding the part. Christmas, not just about the internal aspects of your life. It also requires that you look and sound apart, the way you carry yourself and your body language and how others perceive you play a direct role. You can craft the best messages and create perfect presentations that could while your audience. Yet, if you do not appear in sound confident, the hard work you did will be for not looking confident. Impressions are formed very quickly. In some instances, that impression is formed within less than a minute. This includes at the person feels that you are competent or trustworthy, which is why those who are charismatic or intentional with all their actions, they understand the value of their body language and the way they sound. They have unlocked the secret that what they say is equally as important as how they say it. I contact. The first step and looking confident begins with your eyes. Making eye contact is a great way to build trust with the person you're communicating with. Your eyes are a social connector. They typically are the first feature that your brain looks for and another person. To improve your eye contact, you will need to work on it a bit. Here are a few steps to follow. Record yourself when talking in front of a small group. What you're recording back. Make a note of the times when you look at the slides. You're no cards or anywhere except for the audience. Practice keeping your eyes engage with the audience. Repeat. As you grow your ability to maintain eye contact with those you are communicating with you and notice that they are more involved in the conversation. You can also practice your eye contact when you are listening to others. As you grow in confidence, you will be able to increase your eye contact over time. Now keep in mind that you do not want to stare at a person too much eye contact and make the other person feel uncomfortable. Posture to improve your appearance, you should also work to maintain an open posture. This means that you do not have barriers between yourself and others. Charismatic people rarely had their arms folded. When you fold your arms, you are in a defensive posture. And this signals to the other parties that you are not open to their ideas or suggestions. As a charismatic person, once your posture to signal that you are confident and open to ideas. So keep your arms uncrossed and as much as possible. Palms up. Gestures. Those who are confident use gestures as reinforcing tools for their points. Truly charismatic people understand the power and gestures that allows them to be more persuasive and figurative and their messages. One way to begin to improve your gesturing is when you are listing things numerically. Use your fingers to show the count. When sharing a concept that is big. Use your arms stretched apart to express the idea. As you grow in your confidence, these simple techniques will become more natural and you will find the groove of your own gestures. Boost your wardrobe. Regardless of your opinion on the personal style, the clothes you wear have an impact on your ability to be charismatic. Think of it like an investment of time and effort into growing your charisma. It should match what you wear as well. Improving the way you dress makes you look better to others. It shows that you care for yourself. Yes, you can boost your charisma by the clothes you wear. It is really is quite simple to do and it may require some changes to your wardrobe. Look at this as an opportunity to invest in yourself on the outside as much as you have invested in yourself on the inside. What does your clothing say about you? Does it speak to you? Is it boring? Regardless, sexual orientation, a power outfit can make all the difference. This is an outfit that will get you noticed. It could be a sleek black dress for a woman, was stunning navy suit for a man. You are preparing yourself to be the center of attention. You want people to notice when you enter a room and leave. This subconsciously improved your charisma to others. You may also need to change the method you use for shopping for clothes. Rather than simply picking out the things that you need, you should look for the things that you truly want to wear. If you have an inkling that you will not feel good wearing it, do not buy it. Shoppinglist, not everyone's thing. And that is okay. This is why you should select things that will turn your charisma up. You do not have to spend hours upon hours going to different shops. With the beauty of the internet, you can shop frustration free online. You can visit stores. That would not be possible for you to go locally. And you can even book style experts to help you up your game. Companies like Stitch Fix can help you maintain your style. But up again to change the way people perceive you. So step 1 here is to stop buying boring stuff that makes you feel less than sounding confident. The first step to sounding confident is to eliminate filler words. These words have no purpose in your sentences. Filler words like, like HA, and you know. They are just excess words that many listeners find irritating because they provide no value. However, eliminating these words can be easy to do. Think of a sports commentator and the way they deliver their words. These individuals are typically at the top of their game and almost never use filler words before they begin to speak. They think about what they're about to communicate and deliver their messages concisely and precisely. While it takes practice, you can become skilled in speaking only the worst people want to hear. The next time you are speaking to a group or on the phone, record yourself and play it back. The goal is to gain awareness of the filler words you are using and find ways that you can eliminate them as you play the recording back right down your filler words and practice not using them. As you become more aware of the filler words you are using, you will be able to catch yourself in the process and develop a more polished and smooth or delivery. Pausing. The biggest reason people use filler words is deathly afraid of silence. When you gain confidence, the use of dramatic pauses can provide strength and confidence in your messages. Pauses can help you enforce specific ways. Number 1, they allow you to collect your thoughts. This gives not only you, but also the audience, the time to process information. A break for silence and speaking allows you to grab others attention as well. It allows the person listening to you the opportunity to process what you are saying. Number 2, well-placed pauses can help calm any nervousness you may be feeling. This is especially helpful when you are speaking in public and are still working on your confidence. Number 3, there will be occasions when you may lose your train of thought and a pause is an excellent way to help you regain your focus and get back on track. Work to keep these pauses no longer than five seconds. Number four, pauses, as we stated before, are excellent ways to eliminate filler words. They allow you to think about the words you are going to use next and make you sound more confident and in control. Pace. As we mentioned before, when you are speaking, you should vary your pace. How do you begin to master your pace? It starts by not forcing it. Allow the material you are sharing to do the work for you. As you fill the words flow, you will begin to notice natural parts where you can increase your speed and decrease your speed for greater understanding. Remember that the main point of your subject should be those where you are putting greater emphasis on your pace. Charismatic people are masters of these principles and do them without thought. As you grow your skills and pause and speaking, you will find that it comes more and more naturally. Remember, do not be hard on yourself when you are beginning. Allow yourself to use each opportunity to practice upping your game and speaking is definitely something that will take time. However, you will find that it will be one of your most valuable skills as a charismatic person. 9. Conclusion - How to Be Charismatic: Conclusion, can you feel it? You made it? And you know that the foundation of charisma is welded into your personality traits. The traits you have found within these seven steps are ones that you do not have to be born with and can learn. You are armed with the tools to improve your charisma and become the person you desire. You now have the roadmap to be that person that has it altogether. That when you speak, others listen. You know that the Arctic Christmas within you and that all you need to do is unleash your possibilities. As you reflect on your situation and goals, you should now have a clear idea of what you need to change to up your charisma level. You have it within you to be able to command a room and draw others to you. You are capable of being that skill communicator that can lead the conversation and win over others. You know what it takes to be seen as powerful, likable, dynamic, and irresistible. You know that this is a combination that can open doors for you and change the way the world receives you. The secrets of charismatic people have been a locked, you know now that all the things that seem to be magically happen for them are not simply luck. They are choices, actions, and choose behaviors, both that occur internally and externally in the individual. Do you know the power and others being able to trust you and being authentic brings, you know, that with these traits, you can put others at ease and allow them to be more accepting of the subject and offers you are proposing. You also know that your tone, body language, and active listening are skills that cannot be forgotten. That all of your actions should be done with purpose. That you cannot waste your valuable time on trivial things and you must focus on what brings the best into your view. You are more aware of your emotions and how they have an effect, not just on you, but on others around you. The knowledge that your emotions need regulation and that they are huge contributing factors to how others perceive you. As you grow in your skills in all areas of charisma, you will find that your response to situations will change. You will grow with your emotional intelligence and intellectual well-being. You can grasp a charisma and you should feel it within you and accept that all things are possible when you allow them to be growing, developing a learning are all parts of changing where you currently are and moving you towards a new you. As you continue to up your charisma, remember that it will take time and you should allow yourself grace when you fail. Never allow a failure or setback to knock you down. Yeah, look at them as ways that you've found will not work for you. You can learn from every experience. And as a charismatic person, you should always be seeking to learn and grow.