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Get Comfortable Talking On Camera or in Public | Get Over Speaking Fear

Radhika Nathany, Brand & Design Strategist

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11 Lessons (31m)
    • 1. Introduction

      2:39
    • 2. What To Do

      1:23
    • 3. Research

      4:35
    • 4. Foundation

      2:13
    • 5. The Monster

      1:54
    • 6. Defeat Him

      2:49
    • 7. Be Human

      4:03
    • 8. It's Needed

      2:43
    • 9. Cherry One

      4:06
    • 10. Cherry Two

      3:09
    • 11. Closing Tip

      1:02

About This Class

Being out there, talking to people, showing up is so important in today's time! But it could give many people almost like a nervous breakdown! I have seen so many people, who have so much to share are unable to get out there, just because they fear talking! Be it in front of the camera or in live events, it's a challenge! Well, I honestly love doing all of this and hence I decided to make this class to help all others! This class is for you, if you want to get out there but don't know where to start, if you want to improve in public speaking or need practical advise about all this. My process is a mix of things to do, mindset issues and tips to add finesse to talks!

Transcripts

1. Introduction: You know, as a kid, I was super shy and whenever there were guests in the house, I would just go and run and hide behind the window of my parents room. I think from there, I've come a long way to actually totally loving talking to people. I love facing the camera and talking to people at seminars or one-on-one. But, you know, I realize that this is a challenge for a lot of people. Not everybody is comfortable doing this. And especially if you're an introvert or even lot of creatives, because by their very nature, they are really, just by themselves. So it's not a pleasant thing to do for a lot of people. And this is challenging because in today's time, you'll required to be out there. You're required to present yourself Talk to people, be in the digital space, or otherwise, it's needed. So that's the reason why I decided to make this course. And I'm Radhika, also known as the Laughing Popcorn that's my personal brand. I am a Brand and Design Strategist. So I specifically loved to work with small and mid-size entrepreneurs so that I can also help them in their business journey. The approach for what I do is pretty real it's pretty connected to life. I cannot just see business or brands in isolation. It has to mean something for the people who are doing it. They have to find success with it. And they also have to find lot of happiness with it. So it's a blend of both the worlds. And that's the same thought that I've applied, even while making the course. I want that whenever you talk, this is something that I also follow, you should be giving some sort of value to the listeners. And at the same time you need to enjoy yourself and so do the audience. So, you know, nobody is very fond of listening to people and presentations can be boring! So how can we avoid that? That is something that went into my head when I was thinking about the course and whatever I will be sharing today, it's completely my personal thing. It's the process that I follow. I never really thought that I have a process until I actually wanted to make this course and I decoded what I do in my own head. So I realized while there are some techniques that I can share with you, a little mindset stuff, some of those tiny tips and tricks because I loved that, finesse that comes in. I really wanted to improve and that's how I think I got better at just talking and being out there with people. So that's the clubbed package that I'll be sharing with you guys and super excited, let's get started! 2. What To Do: So the goal of our project is that from the time you take this course in a span of three weeks, I want you to make a three minutes video and you can choose any topic that you want. It could be your story, it could be related to your business, It could be just a skill that you want to share, anything. But we'll divide our process into three broad categories. First is we'll go through how do you add value to the content. You don't want your listeners to just be wasting time. You really want to give them something that you know, they'll go out there and say that, Hey, this guy or this girl did an amazing job! The second part would be the little mindset stuff, wherein we'll both through all your other fears and you know, all those concerns that you have. And how could you add the fun element? How can you hook on the audience? So that's the second part. And in the last segment of this project, I will go through some sort of tips and tricks. Those are the finesse things that you can add to your talking and your conversations. That's a long-term thing. You'll probably have to practice them, but I want you to be aware and conscious of all those things. Even when you making this particular video. After making the video, you can share it in the projects. Just share if you face any specific challenges, any queries, I'll be happy to give you a feedback and also address all those queries. 3. Research: So we starting with the first part of making the video, which is planning your content for the video or whatever talk that you have to make. So once you've decided the topic, make sure the topic is super clear. It's like a 4-5 words topic and the max, it's almost like the heading of your video so that at least there is no ambiguity in your head at that point, as in, you just have no clue of what you're talking in the first place. So, your topic for the video that you're making has to be super clear in your head. That's the starting point. Then we are moving into the step, which is of course the research. Now what do I mean by research? So this is the absolute unfiltered stage, The different ways in which you can just gather stuff that you can possibly talk in this video. So this could be a mix of say, you need to get some facts and you're doing your research over Google and putting it together in a document. Or it is just your stories. So whatever you want to say, you want to write it down or you want to record it as a voice message. At this stage, you're just collecting stuff. You are doing an unfiltered research. The only judgement that you'll have to make is that we're targeting a three-minutes video so the amount of unfiltered data you gather has to be proportionately in sync with that length that you are targeting. So of course, you will not go into a 100-page research if you're making a three minutes video, that's a little just a basic sense, or basic judgment that you will have to make at this stage to make this unfiltered Research. And once you've put all those thoughts, not really caring about, you know, what to put in, how will I say it? No, no, nothing has to be taught at this stage. You just putting together your thoughts and try to always keep in mind your topic. So whenever you feel that you are going too off-track, just get back to the topic. Just try and get all things together which are relevant to the topic. Once you've done the unfiltered research, we'll be moving on to filtering it out. And when I say filtering, there are few things that you have to keep in mind. First thing that you start off with is making sure that you go through whatever you've gathered and clear off all the repetitions. So there shouldn't be any repetitions in your conversation. Just clean all that up. The second thing that you need to make sure while filtering is that whatever you collected, just judge it from the point of Relevancy. Is it making sense or is it not needed? As far as this video is concerned? Can we live without it? since it's not sounding relevant, just clean it up. The third would be, that keep it simple. You know, even if you're targeting an audience who kind of understands all your fancy jargons. Just don't make it too complex because if you want to get that sort of candid touch and if you want to build a little rapport with your listeners, you will have to put a little everyday language. It cannot be almost as if you're reading a textbook for them. So that hint of candidness should be there in whatever you've put together. The fourth thing that you need to check is that are you beating around the bush? Or is it getting too indirect for your audiences to follow? If that's the case, cut down on all things and try and come to the point as fast as you can and as clearly as you can. The last thing that you can do to edit it all is kind of give it a flow. What works for you? How do you want to structure it? And generally I prefer opening up with some sort of not a very basic thing. Like, if you remember my introduction, I opened up with how I was as a kid. So that draws attention to people rather than starting off with, Hey, that's my name and I'm so and so. No body really wants to hear that too much, unless you have hooked them and got them into your story. So that's a little clue out there. You can start with a story or some sort of hook which draws the audience and then you can plan the flow. So at the end of it, the thing that you have ready with you, the piece of content is pretty much the talk that you're gonna make in your video. So just to recap, we've decided the topic. you've done an unfiltered research, and then you have filtered it out to almost come up with something super concise. which you can say is pretty much what you're gonna go out there and put in the video. 4. Foundation: The next step in this is, after you've decided what all are you going to talk about in the video? We cannot do rote learning, right? You cannot learn everything word by word. You've done all the preparation. So you know that you have tick marked the value component of your talk, You know what you have to talk about. And you have passed the talk through all those filter to make sure that it's not absolutely useless or it's not absolutely irrelevant. It's making sense. But it's impossible to remember it word by word because even if you try and do that, then you will lose that connect with the audience because your mind will always be focused on hey! What did I say? What was the next word? That'll be really unnatural. So how do you keep this in mind and how do you still stick to whatever you intend to say? For that, what you do is that the final piece of content that you have with you just break it down into smaller chunks and give a small clue to yourself for each chunk that you have to say. For example, if you go back and see the introduction video that I've made for this course. Basically, in my mind, I had fed in five steps that I want to cover. Or five things that I need to talk about in the introduction and five words were the clues that I gave to my mind so as to give me that prompt or give me that little sign that this is what I need to be saying. So I haven't rehearsed or absolutely, you know, rote learned the entire content. But I have gone through it repeatedly so that my mind knows what I need to talk about and just to put it in my memory and to just give those triggers or give my mind, those clues of what I need to be talking of and how should I be placing the order, for that I have given the words like for my introduction, the clues that I've given is Introvert Kid, Challenges for others, My story, My approach, The process. So these were the clues that basically I have given myself and my mind so that I know what do I have to talk in the introduction. 5. The Monster: So now that we are all set to go out and talk, now comes the big monster! What do I mean by the monster? So this is where I believe that lot of people just get stuck, the main mindset issue. So when I say, Who's your Monster?, what I mean is, what's your real fear? What's stopping you from going out there and talking in front of the camera or talking to people. So the kind of things that I've heard from people is that, hey, you know, I just don't look good enough. Or people think that I'm just not emotional. Or I've never done this before or there are things like I don't know if I will be, I will just so nervous! How will I face so many people? I'm assuming these are the concerns that'll crop up now because we've taken care of the fact of you know, what you'll talk. I think have guided you through that process. So that part is kind of over. But here is where all the nervousness and all this mindset stuff and all the anxiety is coming in. So first I want you to figure out that what's your fear or what's the concern that really, deeply there in your mind and heart which stops you, are kills that enthusiasm of just going and talking to people? Or is it simply that hey, I am such an introvert! And I just love my space and I don't want to go out and talk to people. So who is your Monster? This is what you need to figure out in this step. And honestly, if you really ask yourself consciously and you know, your heart will tell you, you know, your fear, you know, whatever it is, it's just about accepting it at this stage. And if you want just put it in your mind or write it down somewhere. But at this stage, you just have to figure out, what is it that is stopping you or makes you feel uncomfortable. 6. Defeat Him: So once you know who your monster is, that is you have figured out, what's your biggest fear and challenge, it's time that we fight this monster, right? And you'll be surprised that the real way of fighting this monster is actually totally embracing him. Now you must be wondering what am I talking about? So you know what happens, if you're scared of something, if there's something that is stopping you from going out there and talking to people. So the first biggest thing to do is actually accept it! That is what we did initially, that you realise what is it that is your biggest fear, you accept it. You just tell yourself, yes, this is something that I'm not comfortable about, which could be regarding your personality or say you're conscious about how you look. So first you accept, that yes, this is what I'm feeling. Don't try to run away from it. Now coming to how do you accept it to the extent that it actually becomes your strength and is no longer a roadblock for you to go out there and talk to people. To do that. Ok, You'll have to trust me when I say this. If you have to get rid of this fear of yours, what you need to do is that you go out there and just start your talk maybe with that biggest fear of yours. What I mean here is like, let's say that you think that, you know, I'm very boring, I don't know if I go out there. Will I be able to even talk to people? What if they're just bored to death? So, start your talk saying this, that hey, you know what? I think I'm super boring. And I'm not sure if I can entertain you, but I'm here because I have something super valuable to share with you. And if I don't share it, I think that's going to be lot of wastage of knowledge right in my own head. And it will not just get out there. So you see what you've done here. You've just spelled it out. It's out in the open. Everyone knows it. So you no longer have to be super conscious about it when you making your talk or you making this video for our current project. So that kind of fizzles it out. And that eases it, in your own mind, it takes away that stress. And a bigger advantage of this is that, you know, it actually builds a hook with the audience. It builds on rapport. Because at the end of the day we're all humans and nobody's perfect. So when you actually come out, there, sounding very genuine and real, It actually increases the trust factor that people have. They'll believe you more. They'll really want to listen to you and it'll feel that whatever you'll say is not going to be made up. So that's what you'll do in this step. Whatever you figured out as your monster, it's time that you totally embrace it and no longer let it be your roadblock. 7. Be Human: So now we're transiting more into talking about how to build a better rapport with the people that you're addressing. Or when you're talking out there or if you making a video. We already started doing that by talking about how you can embrace your weakness or your monster so that you sound very real and genuine to people. But definitely there's much more that could be done so that your talk is not feeling like as if you're just reading a textbook or if it is sounding something like you're reading from a screen or it's something that you just rote learned. It has to sound human and natural because at the end of the day, unless you're sounding super real and human to people, they will always have that little disconnect and feel that, hey, there is something mechanical about it. So to do this, you can actually pre-plan few things so that you're not totally awkward when you go out there and talk. How do we do that, is that those concise points that we spoke about that have become your guiding light or doing this talk, which we spoke as the points that you need to keep in mind so that you remember what to talk. At that stage, also plugin few points that you can use to your advantage to add that human touch. Now, the ways in which you can add a human touch is firstly, for sure, adding a hint of humour. You could break the monotony of your talk by inserting some expression or something that you feeling at that point in time. Or you could do something like adding a personal story to convey a particular message. Maybe not going to off track with it, but adding that little element, like say, in the middle of this, you suddenly say, oh, and you know what? This is something that has really happened to me and this is how I overcame it. So in that quick fraction, you can just get back to the audience. Because if they've kind of lost attention or if you're being too monotonous and almost putting them to sleep, it's a way to get them back into your talk and remember you and keep building that connect with you. To further give you an example how I have done this in my talk, is like just this subtle thing of naming the challenges as monster. So of course that was not needed. That is something that I could have simply done away with and still conveyed the message. But just to add that to your memory and give you that hook. That obviously if I'm naming it as the monster, you'll always remember it. And even when I'm talking, it will put that little pause in your head wherein, you will come back to the talk and listen to it and want to know more of where did this monster come from in this suddenly, obviously it's out of context. So these subtle things which you have to make sure that you don't go overboard with it, you don't overdo it. But if you can pre-plan them in subtle ways, it'll really help you enhance and get more comfortable in building a rapport with the people. And gradually you will get totally comfortable doing it impromptu. You will not have to pre-plan it too much, but initially to get yourself in the comfort zone of talking and avoiding monotony. If you just preplanned, it will, again take away the stress of always thinking that, hey, how do I keep my audience hooked? Or are they getting bored? Or all those worries will vanish because you have these points to rely on. You know that this is something that you will talk to, which, you know, will strike a chord or which will hit the audience, or will break the monotony. So you need not really worry about getting them bored or losing connect with them. So this is a great way to further enhance the human connect, add some element of humour or make sure that you are not getting too monotonous in your talk. That is what you have to plan at this stage by planting in few clues in your points that you have put in, in the earlier step. 8. It's Needed: So now that all the content for you is ready for the talk. We've planted the points of human touch and you've overcome the monster and faced and ready to embrace the monster that you have. So I'm gonna talk about the most cliche thing. And that is that practice makes a man perfect, even a woman? Yes. So here's the time, where in you need to practice. But let me further enhance that what do I mean by practicing your talk? This does not mean that you need to go out and gather a lot of people and talk to them and just keep rehearsing it as if there is a debate that you need to go on to or there is a whole show that you need to put up. No, it's not really that. It's something as simple as that you need to just make sure that you have the things that you need to talk about, at least planted in your memory and all these things that we've spoken about, it's something that you have become comfortable with. For doing that, it's something as simple as that, hey, you can just go and sit comfortably in your couch and just say the entire talk twice or thrice. You need not even really do it in front of the mirror. You can just sit. If you want you can record it, so that you can hear it again for yourself. But the most important thing to do is just say it twice or thrice. Because when you saying it and make sure you say it aloud. Because when you do that, the whole flow of your talk and your video kind of gets implanted in your memory and you get more and more comfortable with it. So all those fears of, you know, hey, do I remember it? Can I do it? They kind of get little eased out. And I would also say, You don't have to overdo this. You don't have to go doing it ten times, a 100 times. And wanting to make sure that, hey, do I remember every word? Am I missing out on something? No, it's not like that. But just saying it twice or thrice, kind of takes away that you know, rigidity in the talk or when you just going out there in front of the camera and suddenly talking, the little uncomfortable feeling that might creep in, that'll get eased out because it'll automatically become little more fluid for you. So that is what I mean by practicing the talk. Just refer to the full content that you have made are prepared or what you want to talk, just say it twice or thrice, but make sure you say it aloud. That is critical here because that's how you're going to talk to the camera. You're not going to just read it from the paper. So that's the critical thing. Do that and tha'll bringing a lot more of ease into how you going to actually do it in front of the camera. 9. Cherry One: See you already with your content. Hopefully, you've also Fortier monster. It might take some time, but that's okay. At least you're on the track. But we have to make sure that we're not just going out there and talking, but also actually creating an impression and creating a connect with the audience, right? So for that, there are these few points of fineness which I call the cherry on the cake. We'll help you add that extra element of niceness in your talks. And honestly, it will just take me a few minutes to share these with you. But it might not be super easy for you to get them right, right in the first goal. It does take a little practice. It might not be super easy for just don't get disheartened. At least being aware and trying it out will help you improve further as you keep doing more and more talks and, or keep sharing more and more videos. So I want you to be conscious of these things and try and incorporate it in the first video as much as possible. But again, you will get better with time. This might not happen overnight for you. So anyway, let me share the first Jedi with you, and that's called the Look. What do I mean by the look is essentially the eye contacts. Yes. It's super important for you to make sure that you maintain the right eye contact with people. If you give your talk, not really feeling that you are looking at the people that you're addressing, then it's a huge miss. I mean, people can get lost and they will not really feel connected or drawn to your talk to make sure that you can have that eye contact when you're doing something digitally, you have to make sure that you look right into the lens of the camera. So if it's your camera, you look into their, if it's your phone, your laptop. Don't look at the screen, look at where the camera's lens is. Just be conscious of that and make sure that you're always looking at that and not at the screen. The same thing when you're extending to a live audience, say supposing it's beyond this video. Of course, you will be implementing these things when you're actually talking. So that time also you have to make sure that you're looking at everyone. Now, how do you do that? It's almost impossible for you to look at every person dried. But what you have to do is that you have to just keep turning your head in every direction where people are sitting. So say if it's a closed room and people are spread, say around me. So just make it a habit that you turn your head once here, right there. So that just ensures that the people who are sitting on the site, they're not lost. It will not feel to them that Hey, you're just talking to the people in the center and they will probably fall asleep or get disconnected. So to avoid that, just make it a habit that you'll be turning your head in all directions where your audience are sitting. And you don't have to do too much of it just at least once and say if it's a long dog, so once in ten minutes or every now and then if you do it, that's good enough. Now the other thing that I want you to remember is that getting into this eye contact is not something very simple for lots of people. In fact, specially if you're with a live audience, getting too much of an eye contact with the person could distract you. So a trick to kind of get over it is that you just train your mind that you have to do it this way. But always imagine that there are no people in front of you. It's just like a black screen. So right now also say if there is a camera in front of you when you making this video, then just imagine that, hey, there is nothing in front of me and you have all these things to take care of in your head. You have to remember the points that we spoke of, these points of humor or the human touch and then these points of tunis. So just always kind of keep working on those things. So that'll automatically help you get disconnected from the people at the same time, the way you are almost enacting it, you will feel that you were drawing everybody in. Do your dog. 10. Cherry Two: The next cherry centres around Keeping it Clean. Now what do I mean by keeping it clean are essentially three things. The first in that is avoid the use of ummms! And as you talk. So as you must have noticed that, you know, it's sometimes so easy for us to get into that slipping mode and umm and mmm comes into the way we are talking. But that's not a mark of a professional talk. So just get little conscious that you have to try and avoid those. And you just have to say your words flawlessly. Again, reading aloud, talking aloud, doing this more and more has really helped me get over that. So the more you practice, the more you get into it, I'm sure you'll also be able to get rid of those. The next thing to keep it clean is your diction. So you know, in everyday conversations we don't really realise this, but we tend to say things fast or sometimes, you know, some people have a voice which is little subdued, it's little subtle. But yes when you're giving a talk or when you making a video, you have to put a little extra effort to make sure that every word is sounding absolutely clear and sharp. So that also requires maybe a little twist of your tongue and the way you are seeing it. But you have to get more conscious about making sure that your diction is clear and the words are absolutely clean as you say them. And the last thing that I would talk about in keeping it clean is to avoid fidgeting. So yes, when you're in front of the camera or when you're giving a talk, may be, because of nervousness, or maybe because you know that you're in front of people, we tend to get a little itchy and we want to touch our hair and we want to touch our nose! So, you know, you have to avoid this. You could keep your arms probably, you know, hands folded if you're on a stage and keep them down. Or you can use your hands to make some gestures. But don't try to use them too much to touch your hair or get conscious about your nose. Once you're out there, you're out there if naturally once or twice, you just tend to do this or something like that, that's okay. But overdoing it and kind of putting your hands, especially around your face and hair all the time is not a very good mark of, you know, being too professional with your talks. So try and avoid those. So these three things, avoiding the use of umms, working on your diction and trying to avoid fidgeting is something that will add that finesse and cleanliness touch to your talks. What is personally helped me a lot to improve on my diction and avoid those umms and mohmms are reading aloud and talking aloud whenever I get a chance. So, you know, even if you're not comfortable whenever you can, whenever you have a window, say it's addressing a group, a community, with friends, just grab that opportunity and try and talk aloud. And that time you can practice all these things. And when you finally doing that in a professional set up, it'll be a great advantage. 11. Closing Tip: So guys, with that we've come to the end of our course, The recap for this would be that we've made the content, you fight your monster, you practice and you work on points of finesse so that you start loving the process. And you know the closing tip that I can give you is just smile and enjoy what you do. Just start loving the people that you're talking to and just don't get so stressed about it. It's not that tough. It can be worked out. And I think once you get into it, I'm sure you will also like it. So that's my closing tip for you. Thank you so much for participating. And I wish you the best and I want to see the videos that you guys make. I'm happy to share my feedback. If you have any queries, please feel free to ask them to me in here. Thank you so much. And I hope to see a lot of you people out there talking and doing amazing stuff.