Forgiveness means tendency to release anger or blame when we face with unfairness or injustice in our life. It doesn’t mean to suppress our negative emotions unwillingly.
We have two options to response negative emotional baggage: choose to let them go or ruminate all the time we think.
According to a science study, ruminating emotional sabotages causes increased level of cortisol or stress hormone in our body creating aggressiveness or anger over time. By forgiving someone, our brain releases dopamine and serotonin to fight against stress, anxiety, pain, trauma and depression.
Since my childhood, friends and teachers made emotional and psychological abuses slowly draining my life. I felt like I had nothing left. It took me quite a lot of time to heal those emotional scars.
As I become an adult learning about loving kindness and forgiveness, I realized that accepting and letting go my desire to control the past is the key to control my future.
Just notice your negative emotions without judging and excusing them.
How to calm down yourself
There are many ways to release your stress in an emergency condition.
I always take 4 or 5 deep breaths to connect mind and body without nagging inner critics.Listen to your body, or your breath for a few minutes. Stay in your present moment.Being relaxed yourself ease your stress too. That is my way of calmness.
When a person is deeply relaxed or happy, plethora of neuroscience studies show that alfa brain waves are detected in our brain. Alpha waves aid overall mental coordination, calmness, alertness, mind/body integration and learning.
"Remember, when you forgive, you heal. When you let go, you grow"_ unknown