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Natalie Jovanic

Author & Systemic Coach

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Sales copy for a free report.

Are You Unhappy in Your Relationship?

If you are happy with your man, he is the right match. And what happens if you feel unhappy in your relationship? Is your partner still the right match?

While you ask this question, you feel confused and aren’t able to decide. You write down the pros and cons. You look at the two columns on the paper and feel desperate, what’s more important? How can I ever weight them correctly? They don’t give you any solution. And the gnawing sense that something is wrong with your relationship persists.

You may find yourself, one night, in a situation where the struggle in your relationship stops for a moment: You sit at the couch together, and you steal a peep at the man who sits next to you. You ask yourself silently, is this the same man I once fell in love with? His face seems so different now, so alien. He is like a stranger. You shake your head in disbelief. Where has our love gone? What have I done wrong?  Your questions remain unanswered. 

Finding the right answer seems impossible. Your heart tells you, … but I love him, and the pain to let him go seems to break it. Leaving him while you still love him isn’t possible, is it? Another day, you are sure, I will leave him. I deserve somebody better. But in the next moment there comes this doubt, what if I never find a partner again? What if I will never have children? You panic and remember the softness of his first embrace. You take a breath and endure.

Do you really want to deal with it on your own? What would an outside look – a third party looking at this – give you? Someone who has been where you are, who has felt what you feel, dealt with what you are dealing with – and emerged on the other side, not unscarred, but as a stronger and happier woman?

Your unhappiness continues. And the worst kind of suffering is not knowing what to do. If you continue on this path, it is very likely that you find yourself sitting there with you partner and wanting to plan your future - like moving together or having a child. And each time you try to talk about this topic, you receive only one answer, I don’t know.  He doesn’t say more. You get angry. You feel frustrated. Doesn’t he know that it’s now time for us to take the next step in our relationship? Doesn’t he know that I am nearly 35 years old? You feel rejected. Your life is on hold. You can’t plan anything. It’s very likely that you now start to withdraw from the relationship. You don’t even want to be touched by him anymore. Each morning, you have the same thoughts in your head: What will my family and my friends think about me if I leave him? What if they think bad about me? Another time I failed. No, I can’t do this. You feel guilty and ashamed. You hope that your relationship will change one day.

The next New Year’s Eve, you may look at the coming year without excitement and think, another year with him. How much longer shall I wait? Hope can be a painful feeling. You look around at your friends and their partners. They kiss each other. They seem happy. You feel jealous and ask yourself, why do I have such a bad relationship karma? Why can’t I be that lucky? What do I do wrong? Is this really all I can expect from a relationship? 

Nobody taught us in school how we should choose the right match. Unconscious patterns and fears prevent us from taking the right decision.

Here is the story of a woman I loved deeply:

It was a night in October, and she stood in the hallway of her house. She was angry and furious. Her husband stood in front of her, cold and manipulative as always. She had just found out that he had cheated on her for the 2nd time. She screamed, I will leave you. He didn’t say anything. He just turned around, went into his home office and slammed the door.

The next morning, the argument was forgotten. She never talked about it again and stayed unhappy. She died when she was 50. During her painful battle on the deathbed, her eyes expressed one painful regret - she had stayed with the wrong partner all her life. She had allowed her fears to control her: the fear of change, the fear of being a single woman and the fear of what others might think of her.  She had paid a high price: she never experienced true connection, love and happiness with a man. I know it is a sad story. I lived with it every day as a child. I was this woman’s daughter. My mother’s story taught me an important lesson for my life: to choose happiness, to grow and dream big in relationships, and to let go of men who weren’t right for me. 

My mother died 22 years ago, and I still see so many women who stay too long in an unhappy relationship because they don’t know how to make the right choice, and they are influenced by fear and other people’s opinions. Don’t get me wrong: other people’s opinions can be important, but they just reflect their experience. They may serve you well or lead you on the wrong path. Important is that you find the decision that is right for you. And this answer lies within you.

After so many years in the wrong relationship, they feel deeply bitter about the time they have lost. Nothing has ever changed for the better in their relationship. Each year, it deteriorated more. They ignored the little whisper of their intuition that said, you have to leave him now. They abandoned their dreams and values to hang on to their partner. Their frustration about life and love increased until they blame everyone and everything for their current situation. But deep inside they know they were the reason. And they are blaming themselves for not having taken the appropriate actions when the time was right.

Did you know that relationship stress may kill you?

A recently published Danish study shows that middle-aged man and women who experience stressful relationships have an increased mortality risk. Do you want to risk dying earlier due to an unhappy relationship? 

You may feel that your situation is hopeless. At least, I felt this way when I have been there. And what if this crisis is your invitation to choose happiness? Have you ever considered this possibility? Mine happened exactly for this reason. 

It’s time that you find out if your partner is a great life partner for you or not. But tear your list with pros and cons. They won’t lead you anywhere. Just answer 7 questions with yes or no. Your answers will show you whether your relationship has a foundation that can still give you a potential for a great future and whether your partner is a great match for you. …Sounds too good to be true…? You’re probably reading this text because what you have tried so far hasn’t worked. And if it hasn’t, and you’re in a situation that’s destroying your life (it is, isn’t it?), can you afford not to at least give it a chance? If it’s free and won’t take much of your time? You know that, if you don’t try new possibilities, you will keep getting the same result, and you know you can’t afford that. Not in this situation. 

The free report 7 Important Questions to Show You if Your Man is the Right Match offers you these questions. I created them while travelling around the world, meeting and working – as a Relationship Mentor - with women of all ages and cultures who taught me their most-common problems. They also include the principles that helped me with my relationships as I shared it in my memoir A Brave, True Story.  

Why should you download this report? 

Because if you do, you’ll have more clarity regarding:

  • Whether your partner is the right man to be a great life partner. 
  • Whether it is worth your time and effort to go through the rough times together with him.
  • Whether your partner is the wrong match, and you should leave him now.
  • Clear actions steps you can take to move forward in the direction that is right for your specific

In a relationship, you can either break-up or work through your problems with your partner. If you don’t decide, your unhappiness will continue: You might continue with your relationship; you may even manage to become pregnant somehow, and your child might end up with a distant and complicated father. You may feel very lonely and empty. Your relationship might end after years of fighting in bitterness and hatred. By 57, you may deeply regret the time you have lost in unhappiness while staying with the wrong man. Those were the best years for a woman. Nobody can turn back time.

Right now, your relationship story is not yet written. You can create a much better story. You can even write a fabulous one. And only you can write it. But you need to start writing it. You know, and you’ve probably known for some time, that time isn’t infinite and that you need to start moving if you want the life - and the relationship - you’ve dreamed of having. It’s still possible, but the possibility isn’t increasing with time.

And you have the right to be happy in your life. If you think right now that you don't deserve it, let me inform you that it's your birthright whether you believe it or not. This right can't be destroyed. It's independent of whatever happened to you in your past, what have been done to you or of what you did or didn't do. I know that you have the right to be happy, and I know you deserve it. But you have to claim it.

Claim your right today. Picking up the free report, and following it will be a great first step. 

www.nataliejovanic.com

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