Is Love Blind

 

Is Love Blind? I don't think so. I believe that when two people decide to marry and do life together, their eyes need to be wide open. I recently binge watched the Netflix Series Love is Blind to see what all the hype was about. For the most part it disappointed me, it was like watching a car accident in slow motion. It reminded me how important it is to become whole individuals before ever entering into a relationship. There was one couple however, who managed to save the series from going down as a major flop- yes, we all know Cameron and Lauren came through and proved that even in crazy experiments like these, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Cameron and Lauren entered the house with the other singles looking for love and came out the big winners. What I love about their interaction throughout the series was how secure they were within themselves and their fearlessness in asking each other relevant questions. They talked about the expectations as husband and wife, the extended family dynamic and of course the intricacies of being in an interracial relationship. All in all, Cameron and Lauren were beautiful to watch, they were not cookie cutter or a whole mess, they were just right. After watching the series, I skipped over to their new YouTube channel to see how they are doing one-year post-production, and from the looks of it they are still intact and seemingly happy.

 

In a recent vlog on their channel, Cameron surprised Lauren with her very own white jeep to mimic the vehicle in the popular 90's movie Clueless. The movie was Lauren's favorite and she always dreamed of owning the iconic white jeep. The viewers got an opportunity to witness Lauren’s reaction to this very thoughtful gift from her hubby. Cameron did not only provide for his wife; he also made a deposit in her love bank (refer to Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages). After I gushed a little, I took a moment to go through the comments and was pleasantly surprised by the outpouring of love from other black women. Most commented that they will not settle in love, and how refreshing it was to see a black woman authentically win in a healthy relationship. The support and love in the comments section reminded me that there are single black women who sometimes need to see the exception to hold on to hope.I’m currently enjoying my single season, but there was a time where I too would need stories like this to encourage myself not to give up on love.

I once read somewhere that the least desirable group in the dating pool according to a popular online dating site are Black women and Asian men. I don't know how true this is, but I do know some amazing black women who are not yet spoken for or in extremely toxic relationships. Of course, between the mass incarceration of black men, generational trauma and the stereotypes that have spotted black women throughout history, I can see why we are inclined to believe that singleness at a certain age equates to missing the boat in some way. I can assure you queen; no boat has been missed.

God’s timing is perfect and as Psalms 37:4 says “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart". God is not confined or moved by what we want and when we want it. He gives us what we need when we need it. It took a while for me to learn that, but I am so glad I did. I’ll be the first to say Cameron and Lauren's love story is beautiful, but one's hope for love can only be found in the Creator of love. God's love is infallible and unconditional- and dare I say a prerequisite for any other type of positive love. Ultimately, healthy purposeful relationships come from healthy purposeful individuals who are not walking around bruised and blind, but in wholeness and Light