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1. Introduction: Hi, first of all, thank
you for trusting me as a person that can provide
you with the change, the transformation that you
want to create in your life. In this course, we will
talk about habits, what they are, how they work, and how by building by their habits and
changing the old ones. And what are the tactics
and strategies to go about it and to build your
life around your habits. So it becomes more natural, more automated, and
more effortless, and it is doable. It is possible you can change who you are because you cannot have the life that you
want without being the person that is able
to live this life, as you probably heard
hundreds of time before, the stories about the
millionaires that $1 million and they cannot
just handle this situation. Don't handle that much money, and they just lose it after a
couple of years and go back to square zero because they didn't make the
internal change, that didn't change themselves. So they go back to being their past self that
they think they are, and they are with their actions. They just slowly go back
to their old selves, to their old life. And there's really no other
way to make any change and result in your life that will last and there will be there, and they will stay in your life. Other than creating the
change from the inside first, you have to feel worthy of it. You have to be the person that has these results that
leaves this life. So that change can stick and
be there and stay there. And you can progress
further from this.
2. You Can Change Too: To make your belief, to make you realize that it's
not something hard to do. It's not a rocket science. And that you can do this
too to create a belief for you and to even make you
want to do these things. Let me introduce myself better. And my letter, I send my teen years playing
World of Warcraft, League of Legends, video games. I wasn't a long-term
thinker and I wasn't really doing anything productive with my life because of that, my life was getting
worse and worse. And at some point I did
hit the rock bottom. I broke up with my girlfriend, I lost a job, and I got back to living with my mother when I
was 26 years old. It's not the
greatest place to be at with your life
as a younger man, I decided that I have to create some kind of change in my life. And when the student was
ready, the teacher appears. The first book
that I found about self-improvement was
The Power of Habit. And there, it all
started for me. I learned a lot, mostly on my own mistakes
and my own failure. But I was finally able to create the change
that I was looking for, that they wanted to become the person that they
want it to become. It was still a long journey
as I was with this on myself. Of course, I was still reading
books and watching videos. But I wanted to understand
this by myself, but I wanted to be
a self-made man. So I did this from
being a loser, a total lazy, unproductive,
doing nothing guy. And you can, thanks to
watching discourse, save yourself years of hard work and just find out the system
that works and create the change that sticks by
following the guidelines and tactics and theory that I will provide you
with in this course. But first, this is
what I have to do. I have to provide you with
the knowledge, that theory, the tactics before getting
into more practical stuff. So let's get straight
to the theory part.
3. You Are Your Habits: If you want to change your life, you have to change
yourself first. And that should be obvious
to you as if you will not be a person that is able to keep
the things that he gets. E.g. like millionaires
that when million dollars and they don't have
any idea what to do with it, and they just lose
it after a year or two or you get lucky. And with some kind of cool text or a scheme
or something like that, you get a girl of your dreams, but you'll behave like losers, so you lose care anyway, if you will not change
yourself, your identity, you will not get the results
that you want in your life for a long term and how you can really
change who you are. And the question here is who
you really are, who you are. Some of your thoughts, actions and emotions, and all
of these are nothing else. Mostly like 98, let's
say per cent habitual. Most of the people do
not change that much. They go to the same work, they meet the same people, they do the same actions, and they become habitual
for them after some time. Of course, life changes
here and there, but most of these
things are the same. And there isn't really that
much of an internal change that would be able to
change their outside life. You'll probably notice
that many of your friends have the same problems
over and over again, get into that same kind of relationships with other people. But it's like the same person
with a different Luke's. Other than that, it's
all the same and it will never change if you will
not change yourself first, because this is what
matches you as a person. This is what matches
your personality. And you will subconsciously
just find your way back into getting into
this kind of situations. And you will build yourself the same life over
and over again. You can change this by changing your habits because you are
the sum of your habits. Of course, we still
have our freewill, our conscious thinking, but most of our behaviors
are just automated. And it has to be that way
because if it wasn't, you would not even be able to brush your teeth
or take a shower. You habituate these things at one point of your life and they are just
automated for you. So the summary here is, if you want to change your life, you have to change who you are. If you want to,
change who you are, you have to change every little
molecule of who you are. And these molecules, these
parts of who you are, are nothing else but habits
you or some of your habits. And now let's get into the
theory and understanding of what the habit really ease
and how it really works. So you will be able
to change them. And by changing every
single one of them, you will gradually change yourself who you are and to
change your life in result.
4. What a Habit REALLY Is: Every habit is nothing
else but a loop, a loop that contains
three main parts. These parts are a
trigger, habit itself. So the action and the reward, in some definitions you can find that there is a craving added, but it's also like a trigger, something that pushes you
to do some kind of action. The main thing that you
should understand about habits is that you cannot
get rid of the habit. You can only change it. This is a big one because
a lot of people are mad at themselves
and who they are, how they feel and how they act. Because of that, they're trying
to fight their thoughts, their emotions, they craving. And this is like trying
to fight your own nature, because in your life, you will get bored, you will get angry, you will have bad thoughts, you will be lazy. And the only thing that you can change about it is how you act, the reaction to these thoughts
and emotions and triggers, you will never be able to win this fight by trying to
fight your triggers, your wants, and your cravings. It doesn't work like that. What you can do is change
the action instead of get the reward that you
really want from this habit, the other healthy,
better, smarter way. What might be an example of it? You are really bored. And the thing that you do is you grab your phone and
you start scrolling. The reward is that you
get some dopamine, you get some entertainment, and you're not bored anymore. But also the result is
that your worst, e.g. 20 min for it and you didn't do your chores and their productive things that
you shouldn't be doing. What might be the
alternative here? You'll get bored and you really want to do
something with this time. And you grew up your
Kindle reader and you read a book that is there
and the reward is the same. And of course for now, it will not be such a
pleasant experience and it will not give you this
standard dopamine spike. With some time, your
brain will learn that this is like a
long-term investment. And with time, this
will make you smarter. This will make you
perform in a better way, make you wiser and reading,
develop your brain. And after investing some time
into this kind of action, you will see the long
term benefits of it. And it's like making a sacrifice today for
your future self. And if you are scrolling
through TikTok videos, your future self will lose
because you sacrificed his happiness for some
instant gratification. How you act in reaction to your triggers and doing it
one by one by one by one. And this way you transform yourself into
a different person. It's a real simple idea and
it just works like that. But it doesn't mean
that it's easy to do. And first, if you want to be able to even create
some kind of change, you first have to be able to
see where you are right now. And we'll talk about it
in the next episode.
5. Awareness is the First Step to Change: So I hope you did the exercise
that I gave you about writing down the five things that you do that are bad habits, either they are emotional or if they are thinking carpets, or they're
action-oriented habits. If you didn't do this, please go back to this exercise as if
you will not do this. It just doesn't make sense. And you didn't get
the lesson that I wanted you to get
from this exercise. Let's now get to
the next lesson. If you did this exercise, you might notice that
the things that you are doing and you don't even know why you're doing them
or you are not really sure why do you even
started doing them? You catch yourself
while doing them, and you don't even know
how it all happened again, you'll wake up and go
vote when you told yourself that you
will get rid of drinking coffee tens of times before you scroll through
your phone where you told yourself that
today you will get this thing done
and this project done, you'll get back into eating junk food when you told
yourself that you will cut it all from
your life and you keep going back
into these actions. You are thinking about something
that you told yourself hundreds of times that I'll have to stop to think about it. But you're still doing it. Why you are doing these things? This is the question that
you should ask yourself. Why are you doing the things that you don't want
to consciously, you don't want to do
them consciously. You know exactly what
you should be doing. If you're alive, you
probably have all of the knowledge in the world
from the Internet already. You have all of the
answers and you still are not doing the actions that you
shouldn't be doing. You are still stuck. You are still going back into your old bad behaviors
and bad actions. Why is that? And the key word here is y. And becoming conscious of the
Y is half of the process. Becoming aware of what you are doing and why you are doing
that is half of the process. If you did this exercise and start with the
piece of paper, and maybe you have a lot of
bad habits and writing down just five of them wasn't that
big of an epiphany for you. But if you we'll try to
write down like 102030, bad habits that you have. And throughout the day by
observing what you are doing, you will find a lot of
bad habits that you have. Either their emotional habits of thinking habits or just
what you are doing, you will find out
that you are not living as consciously
as you thought. You are doing a lot
of stupid stuff. And a lot of this stuff
is like automated, like being a zombie, like a robot,
following a script. And this is the first step of
a process that you have to handle is to even become aware of what your bad habits are. You cannot change
yourself if you do not accept where you are right now and what you are
doing at this moment, at the first place, this is
what you have to start with, and this is the second exercise. And the second thing
that I want you to do, either start observing yourself more throughout the
day or even better, start a meditation practice. Because what the meditation
practice really is, the meditation practice is
about sitting on your *** and observing yourself,
observing your body, observing your emotions,
observing your thoughts, your breath, and just being aware of what you are doing
right now in this moment. This is like a Meta skill, like Meta exercise that
is bringing you out of your habitual self
automated actions and becoming aware of
where you are right now and watch you are
really doing right now. Exercise for today is to either
watch yourself throughout the day more or installing
a meditation habit. It might be just 5
min in the morning. Just sit and observe your actions and
observe your breath, your emotions, your thoughts, and what thinking
habits are there. And becoming our more and more of what you are
doing and catching yourself there and trying to find out why you are
doing this thing. Why are you even there? What caused you to be there? Because we've all
this, you are not able to create the change. You have to first notice
what you want to change.
6. The Keystone Habit: You already start
noticing more and more of your automated actions and habits that you are doing
throughout the day. Maybe you started your
meditation practice and you are able to observe what you
are doing more and more. Now, what I want you
to do is to build your first habit because
let me explain something. Getting rid of bad habits. It's like a low of Attraction. Whatever you focus on, you bring into your life by
focusing on the positive. The negative one just gets
out from your life on itself. And the first theme that
will help you a lot with building positive
habits is a keystone habit. What the keystone habit is, It's like one main big
habit that is there. And then you can start your
habits sequence from its like a habit that you can build your day or even alive around. It should be a really
easy one to do. It shouldn't be something
that you can do anywhere, and it should be something
that is based on something else that will
always be there in your life. And it's something
that gives you the holistic results,
big picture results. It affects all of the
areas of your life. Let me give you an example. Meditating for 10 min
after you wake up. Why? It's a good keystone habit, you will always wake up. So it's based on something
that always happens. It gives you over
results for your life. It's good for your
mental health. It helps you to be
able to observe your actions more and
become more conscious. It's really easy to do as there is nothing
really you have to do. And you can do this
habit anywhere. And when you will find yourself these kind
of keystone habits, it might be e.g. reading, it may be exercising, it should be the easy one. And you should be able to
do this no matter what, without really forcing
yourself that much. So it might be even
going for a walk if you are not able to
exercise on a daily basis. Yet, if you will, start with this one and
install this one into your life and you are able to start implementing these
everyday eat will, first of all, bring a ripple
effect for your life. So there will be
more positive stuff that we'll eventually get
rid of the negative stuff. But also if these will become
your habit and it will become natural for you and
it will just stick and stay. This is the habit that you can
build around other habits. So e.g. you wake up, meditate, and then after this first one and became natural
to you and effortless, you add something
more to this and this way you build one
heartbeat on top of each other and you can create these ripple domino effect for yourself with the second one, third, one, fifth
one, et cetera. But first, you have to build this keystone habits
into your life. Make it effortless, make it natural to you and
make it stick. So first, start with
this small, simple step. So the exercise for today is to find a keystone
habit for yourself. Pick one and try to
install it somewhere in your life where It's
doable every day, in which circumstances, if
you don't know what to pick, go to the document that is
provided with this exercise. It should help you
and see you tomorrow.
7. The Enemy Never Sleeps - Part II Introduction: Okay. So I hope that you're already did the exercises
from previous days. We are observing
yourself more and trying to find out the
hobbies that you are doing. And you installed
your keystone habit. That's great. And you are doing
a great progress. But you have to be careful here as you are
creating a change, as you are trying to become someone else that
you were before. As you are trying to transform
into a different person, your mind will start
playing tricks on you. You will fall back
into bad habits. Again. You will fall back into
your past self again. Right now, maybe
it's all cool and GOCE and everything works out. And you are creating this
change for yourself. But don't be so sure of
yourself as it may change. In some time, you
will start to create some kind of
deceptions that will take you back to your old self to deserve
that you were before and you wake up someday doing the same thing as
you were doing before. So right now when it all started for you and you're starting
to create this change, I will provide you with
the tactics, strategies, and weapons that will help you along the way to
defeat your past self, to defeat your homeostasis, to defeat your own mind.
8. Weapon I: Understanding the Enemy Better: Understanding your enemy better, you should first know your enemy and what
kind of weapons he has and how he can deceive you to even be able
to defeat him. Don't worry, we'll get
to the strategies, tactics, and actions that you
can take to win this fight. But first, you
have to understand the enemy better and
how he can deceive you. As we were talking before, habit always starts
with a trigger, will have a queue with
something that makes you want to do some actions. And by understanding
the queue is better, you are able to predict
how you will act. This approach, this strategy might help you a
lot along the way, there are five main categories of cures that might happen in your life and that might trigger you into doing some
kind of habit. And these are location, time, emotions are there. And the last action start with the first
one, the location. So e.g. you're going to work and there's a donut shop
near to your work. And just by being there, you start to have a craving, a trigger to go there
and buy and doughnut. If you weren't in this location, There would not even be
this kind of trigger, these kind of craving. Second type of trigger is time. E.g. you get back from your
work and it's like 05:00 P.M. you're tired and you just want to lay
down and do nothing. You get on your phone and
you open a YouTube app. Okay, it's 05:00 P.M. My favorite YouTuber
just upload that. He always uploads at
05:00 P.M. and you just go and watch his
video. It's the time. Q it might be the exact hour at which you will do
some kind of action like starting your work
at 08:00 A.M. or going to bed at 10:00
P.M. or it may be more about the time
when you got back from work or the time
when you woke up. So at this time, you do these kind of things. So it's maybe morning, it's afternoon,
eats dinner time. And at this time, you do these things. This is exactly how the television works and how
the television hooks you. E.g. your mother
was always watching some soap opera at
this time because it's broadcasted than
or your father was always watching at
this time every day, and he structured his day around just being there
and watching the news. Third type of trigger
is emotions trigger. So whenever you feel
some kind of emotion, you do some kind of action. And this is exactly
what narcissistic, psychopathic,
manipulative people do. They want to provoke
you with some kind of action that will serve them? The whole advertising
is based around that. To build some kind
of good emotions in you that you feel happy,
energized, entertained, and you just get
hooked because you feel good emotions and you
want more and more of them. So you do more and
more of this stuff. So you just spend your day
scrolling through TikTok or Instagram reuse because you like the feeling
of laughing, getting entertained from that. Another type of trigger
over Q is other people. It should be obvious to you, other people bring some kind
of feelings inside of you, bring some kind of
thinking inside of you. When you're close
friend calls you, you feel happy and you
want to answer the phone when your boss calls you
and you are late for work, you're not so happy
to answer the phone. You are spending time
with your friends. They are going to McDonald's
to order some food. You're on a diet. But because you are with these people and they
are ordered this stuff, they trigger this kind
of behavior in you. And you want to do
the same thing. Other than that, you would not be tempted to eat this food. But because you are with
these other people, you get into the habit
of eating junk food. And the last type of a habit, trigger habit Q is
the last action. So you're just doing something after you've finished
doing something else. So e.g. you eat dinner after that, you wash the dishes. After that, you go to your bet, you lay down on your bed
because you're fearful. And after that, you get your
phone and start scrolling. It was a habit sequence, the top end or e.g. you said to yourself, I will just watch this one Netflix show and you
end up binge-watching good for the entire day just because of the last and
last and last action. And this is how
you get hooked and this is how you get trapped. So that's eat when it comes to understanding
your enemy better. Now, we'll get into
the strategies and tactics on how
to defeat the enemy.
9. Weapon II: The Battle Plan: You already know
what your enemy is capable of and how
you can get deceived, what kind of deception the
enemy can play on your end. Now, I will provide you with the weapons that might help
you to win this fight. And the first
weapon is planning, because imagine going to a battlefield without
the battle plan, it will be a disaster. You have to have some
kind of plan, e.g. how your day will look like, what you will do at what our what actions you are doing
on a hour to hour basis. And this works exactly like
timetables worked in school. You knew exactly what lesson
will be there at what time. And you knew that
after English classes, there is PE and after
PE there's physics. And you didn't really
have to think about it. And as bad as the
education system is, that timetable concept itself is genius idea because you don't even have to think
what you will do next. You plan it ahead. Whatever will happen
in the outside world, whatever the triggers that will try to deceive you will be there or whatever excuses
your mind will produce. You planned ahead. You don't have to
think what you do. You already know
what you should be doing and how you
can achieve this? What I do is using Google
Calendar and every Sunday, I just plan my week ahead. I know exactly what I
will do at any given day, at any given time. I don't have to think about it. I do not recommend planning
for weeks and months ahead. One week ahead is more than enough as life is too complex. And even this week, there will be a lot of
things happening that will get you out of your
schedule and that's normal. Another thing that might
come to your mind, this is too strict, too rigid. This is like putting yourself
in a cage, in a structure. It's too disciplined to do. But trust me, this is
the ultimate freedom. It's not outside factors and outside cues and triggers
controlling your actions. It's not your self-deception and survival mechanism
control your actions. It's not like someone else is forcing you
to do these things. It was you who are sitting
there and plan ahead. And it was you who
decided what your week will look like because
that's what you want to do. So it may look like a rigid structure and
discipline to think, what did this is
ultimate freedom for you because this way, you are the creator, the manager, the
director of your life, not something outside of you and not your bad habits
and your excuses. So the exercise for today is to find some kind of calendar
app or maybe for you, it will be just the
physical calendar. I myself use Google Calendar. I can use it on my
mobile PC, on my laptop. I can use it on
whatever device I want. It's multiplatform. So even if I will lose my PC, I can still use it
on my phone, etc. But that's for me. For you, there might
be some other app or even a physical calendar that
you would prefer to yours. And after you will find it, try to schedule your next
day, scheduled tomorrow. Every hour should be filled with some kind of action
that you want to take. And first of all, and really
important, start small. Do not schedule your entire
day with productive habits. It will not work. You're not ready for that yet. You already have
your keystone habit. So scheduled it at exact
time and add something, something productive
that you will do or even if not so productive. So you know exactly what you
will do throughout your day. This way, you will notice a big change in your behavior
as you already know, what you will do, you will
start behaving differently. You will start perceiving
live in a different manner. What do I mean by that? You will start
becoming the Creator. You will see how it is to become the one who chooses how
his life looks like. And for some of you, it might be a whole
new experience. And it was for me a
couple of years ago too, I was living in these
being a victim paradigm. It was the outside world that
was controlling my actions. It was the people around me and things around me that we're
controlling my actions. And it was my mind mechanisms that we're controlling how
my life looks like this way, by planning ahead, planning
your day, what you will do, at what time, maybe for the
first time in your life, you will become a
boss of your life. You are the one who
decides what you do at what time and what happens
with your entire day. And that's what I want
you to recognize. That's the kind of
perception that I want you to start embodying
in your life. So that's the exercise for
today and see you tomorrow.
10. Weapon III: Odysseus Trickery: Okay, So right now you
already have two weapons. You know, your M&M is better, you know, what you
can do to you. And second, you start to plan your days so that it will
not affect you that much. But you might already notice this if you plant
your day or if not, you will notice
this in the future. Not everything will go along with the plan
and that's normal. That's just life. Life happens, things happen, but it doesn't mean that you shouldn't do
anything about it. And this is the weapon, the first weapon that
we'll talk about today that can help you. And this is what I call
the Odysseus trickery. You might already know
the story of Odysseus was the guy who went for
the longest journey. It's the guy from
Greek mythology. And in one of his journeys, he knew that if you want
to pass through the sea, he will be deceived
by the sirens. He knew that they are singing. We'll try to deceive him, sink his ship to
end his journey. He knew that in advance, but he also planned in advance because he knew that
it will happen. So his crew members
put a walks in their ears and he himself
tied himself shape. And this is how he won this battle before
it even started. He knew what will happen and
he planned ahead and he did the actions that will prevent the sirens from
leading him astray. And this is exactly what
you can do to after some time of implementing
your good habits, your positive habits into
your life and planning ahead. You will also start noticing things that are trying
to lead you astray. It doesn't mean that it
has to stay that way. After noticing how
these things happen, you might prevent them by
thinking one step ahead. It's like playing your
opponent in a chess game. Or it might be the
real life example of using this weapon. It might be as easy
as putting your phone in the other room when you
sit down and start your work. This way, the sirens
will not try to deceive you into getting into your phone and
not doing your work. Another simple one
might be using Website blockers that will block your attempts on going to e.g. a. Site when you get Carney. Another one, if you are having problems with
eating healthy, is to prepare meals
the day before, or you are just
going to a shop and sometimes you buy a bag
of chips here and there. The trickery here
would be to just shop a week ahead or two
or three days ahead. So you are not even
tempted by buying these things because you
did the shopping ahead. Another one, you know, that you will want
to be focused and concentrated on your
work in these hours. But you know that someone in your home might interrupt you. So you might talk
with him and tell him ahead than these hours you
are unavailable or e.g. it's Friday night and you know, your friends who we'll
call to you to go out, hang out with them
and go for a drink. And you will again wake up, hangover and you will get ****** because you did this again. In this situation,
it might require some assertiveness from your
are putting boundaries, but you might tell
your friends that. Sorry, but tonight
I'm already busy. I have plans. So in summary, you already planned one of your dice and you probably noticed the
things that distract you and put you away from what
you planned for yourself. Try to find the sirens
singing in your schedule. Tried to find the blind spots. If not today, They will
happen along the way. Try to find out what they
are and try to prevent from happening by doing this simple trick that I
just provide you with. So this is the exercise for
today and see you tomorrow.
11. Weapon IV: Contemplation: Another weapon that
might help you a lot along this journey
is contemplation. I know how it sounds as you
want to create more action, create better habits
for yourself. And here I am telling you
to sit down on your *** and contemplate about what what
is there to contemplate. And let me give you an
example from my life, You have to realize that neither the enemy nor the rewards are always
what they seem. What I mean by that,
two years ago, I was addicted to
League of Legends. Playing League of Legends
on a conscious level, I knew exactly what
they want to do and it was to build my YouTube
channel and this business. Yet, I was finding myself over and over again
playing League of Legends and I didn't exactly know why am I still doing it? Why this **** is
still in my life when I don't even enjoy it
that much anymore. Because as I said before, the enemy is not
always what it seems. And the reward is
not always all. It seems. It wasn't really about
playing the League of ligands itself or even getting the
dopamine that it gave me. It was about something else. And this something else was my subconscious
belief about myself. It was a belief that I'm a loser and how I found this
by contemplation, I decided that I will just sit there and play League
of Legends still. I will get sick of it. I was just playing
day and night, drinking an energy drink
after an energy drink, just to get sick and tired
of playing this game and to find out why
am I still doing it, I got to a point that
I always got to before of being sick and tired
of playing this game, mad at myself and
wanting to uninstall it. But I stopped there. I sat there in my room and just started to think this time, I will not make
this rash decision and I will do
something different. I will find out why I started playing and why do I
want to uninstall it? What is the real
thing that is there? What's the real cost? What is the real enemy and
what is the real reward? And this was exactly what I did. I started to ask myself
the why questions. Why am I even playing it? Because it gives me
some kind of pleasure. No, not really. Do I want to run
away from something? Not really. I know what I should do and
what should I focus on. Maybe some kind of belief that makes me want to stay
and play this game. If there is, it may be
unconscious, but it's possible. Okay. What kind of belief
it may be this way? Just sitting there not taking the action and just asking
myself the why questions. And by being honest with myself, I got to a point
where I realized, why am I really doing this? Because I was
convinced I'm a loser. And that's what losers do. They sit home and play video games and do nothing
productive with the life? Because in the past, I chose this action so many times made me believe
that I'm a loser and created this kind of personality that was ingrained
deep in my subconscious. And that's what I
believe about myself. And that's why this
course is named change your life by
changing who you are. Because without this
deep personality change based on real actions, it will not be possible for this change to be very
moment and for it to stick. If there's a thing in your
life and there's a habit in your life that you
keep on going back to, even though you don't really
like that much anymore. And you know, it's bad for you, but you still keep on doing it. And you are sick and tired of disciplining yourself into
doing the right action, this exercise, this weapon, the contemplation, might
be the remedy here, because think about it. If you believed that you are hard-working,
disciplined person, would it be hard for
you to then take the right action to do the
things that you should do? Or would it be just natural
and just effortless? This whole topic of your
beliefs, your traumas, how you were raised, how your environment shaped you is a lot deeper than
this because e.g. you might drink alcohol because your father and
grandfather drank alcohol. So you just do it out of their loyalty for your
family or you let someone to push you around just
because religion told you that it's a noble thing
to turn the other cheek, other subconscious beliefs
that might be there. I'm not able to provide you with the knowledge about every
single one of them. And you have to start this kind of investigation for yourself. You might even need
that therapist for that or some kind of
a coaching session. Or you might start from asking people around
some questions. And maybe this will
lead you somewhere and look at these things
differently this time. But this is the most
important thing that you should understand, that the things
that you do are not always as obvious
as just doing them. And very often there is
a deeper meaning to it. There is some deeper
subconscious reason why you are doing them. Realizing that maybe you don't know yourself
that well yet, there is a lot more
investigation to do. The exercise for
today is to look for the things that you are doing and you do not want to do, but you do them anyways and try to be there
by just sitting there in an empty room
or by writing it down on a piece of paper
in a form of asking why, why, why questions, trying
to find out what is the real reason that you
do some kind of behavior. And to find out what the real enemy is and
see you tomorrow.
12. Weapon V: Make Your Environment Work for You: I provided you with two weapons already
and today we'll talk about the third one that will make your fight an easier one. And not so much of a struggle, because a lot of people get into the journey of changing this self, transforming
their life, trying to create better life for themselves with a
warrior attitude, it gives them pride that
there is a struggle, that they have to put so much effort into it
to win this battle. And it makes them feel so heroic because they defeated
their struggles. And they show the world what
they are really made of. End-of-course, there
is a place and time for this type of
heroic adventure. Of course, it works
to some extent, but it's not the smartest way. The smartest way is to make
your environment to work for you and make it
as easy as possible. And to make this
Tange effortless and easier to happen than
it is to not happen. And it's possible to do, and I will tell you how
you can do that. So e.g. you are playing too
much of video games and you can't stop
playing video games. You just do this every
day after you wake up, you just go there and
play video games. Why is that? Because it's probably convenient for you and it's
easy thing to do. And it's like the path
of least resistance. You just do this because
it's the easiest thing that you can grab
and do this morning. I don't blame you here, and you should not blame
yourself for that too. This is just our human
nature trying to find the most pleasure with the least effort and how
you can go about it. If there was a
PlayStation next to me that I can just grab and play god of war in
Iraq right now. I would probably do that as
it is easier option for me. There's a temptation
that is there for me. I really want to play this game. I really want this free dopamine to leave through this
great adventure. If there was a PlayStation five next to me,
but there isn't. I don't even have this
kind of temptation. Well, they have next to
my desk is Kindle reader. And there are a couple of books there that I want to read. So it's easier and
convenient for me just to grab this Kindle reader
and just read some book, as it might be easy
and convenient for you just to grab a PlayStation
controller and play god of war by changing your environment and adjusting it in a way that it serves you. You can make the healthy
and good habits more convenient for you and
them to serve you. This is how my room looks like. I have only bc with
no games installed, only applications that I can use to create YouTube videos. And to work on this business. Everything else is blocked
using the Odysseus trickery. There is nothing in my room, just this PC station,
healthy supplements, habit tracker on my wall, gym clothes on the
floor waiting for me, and healthy food in a fridge. That's everything I have. So I don't have other choice than to do
these healthy habits, to do these kinds of
behaviors, It's easier, more convenient, really
nothing for me to do. That's how I structured my
life and my environment. So it works for me. Of course, I can always
get on my phone and get on TikTok or Instagram and
something like that. Of course, I can do that. And I do that from time to time. I'm not perfect,
I'm just a human. But with same time, you will retrain your mind to
like doing the hard things, giving you the
long term results. Because your mind
will learn that the delayed
gratification things and the long term things serve
you in the long run. In the long run, you are happy, you are healthy,
you are energized. You have more money, you have better relationships. We are fulfilled as a person. Your life looks better overall, but it takes time, it takes some time to change and to train your mind
to think that way. So the practical
exercise for you for today is look at
your environment and look what is there
that doesn't serve you and get rid of this thing or look for a thing that might
be there and that might serve you because it will be easier for you just
to do this thing. This is the exercise for
today and see you tomorrow.
13. Weapon VI: Check Yourself: Another weapon that is really important and that will
bring you massive results. If you will implement it, is to keep track of things. Or does it mean? It just means
that you measure and keep track of the things that you are doing on a day-to-day basis. Your habits, you know
exactly what you are doing, how much of this you are doing, how much time does it take? And it's not just in
your head and you know exactly where you are
with your progress. Because right now you might
think that you already are a productive person
and you do so much and you don't see
that much in your phone. But do you really know how many hours do you
spend on your phone? How much of productive
work that you do this day? How many times did
you go to a gym? This mouth common in
minutes or hours, did you read or
whatever your habit is, you have to know exactly how much of
this stuff do you do, or otherwise, you will deceive yourself that you are
productive and you do a lot. And in reality, you will not be as productive as
you think you are. Your ego, your mind
will just deceive you. Also, it was shown
in many studies, just keeping track of things
improves your performance by a lot and makes you stick
to your habits lot easier. And they stay in your life
for longer and you do not get off track that easy
just by doing this one pink, this one method using
this one weapon. What I do personally is, as I told you before, I use the physical method, have it on my wall
next to my desk. And I just take every single habit that I
do on a day-to-day basis. This way, I have a
visual overview what I do on a day to day or
they didn't do yesterday. At what place of my
life I am at right now, where I'm doing goat and
where I should improve. And if you are interested
in real life results, real results, That's
what we'll show you. Your real results and where
you really are at your life. Not some imagination or what you think about yourself and
where you really are. These there will show you
your reality as it is. So the exercise for you
for today is finding out some kind of a habit tracker
that will work for you. And as it was with the calendar, that will work for you
in any given situation, in any circumstances, whenever you are
whatever you are doing. As I am living in this
apartment right now, I don't need this on my phone as I am in my room every day. I just prefer it that way. But maybe in the future, I will just do this using
some kind of app on my phone. And I did this in the
past using hepatica up. Or you can use productive
up or something like that. There are tons of them if
you prefer it that way. But what's important is you
to find out some kind of a habit tracker and
stick to it and measure your progress
on a day to day basis. This way, you will
do the real work. You will measure your real
results and you will know exactly where you are and
what you should improve.
14. The Battle Starts Here: In the previous chapters,
previous videos, I provided you with the
weapons that you may use and that will help you to win this fight,
to win this battle. Now, the bottle begins. You already know the
strategies and the types of behaviors that you
might take along your way and the journey
begins for you. I did my part. I told you whatever I know that might help you
to win this battle. But I cannot do the actions
themselves for you. But there's one thing that
I can provide you with. And this is the overall approach that you should take
along this journey. And this approach, a lot of names Japanese call it kaizen. Self-improvement
niche is called being 1% better every day. Darren Hardy because it's the compound effect in his
book with the same title. If you are going to a gym, you maybe heard about that
progressive overload. It means to just lift more and more wave at
every other training. And this is the approach
that you should take. And to be honest, the
only approach that works by making small changes, 1% change every day, but ruthlessly applying this 1% better change
every single day. And by following this rule, that change will be permanent. And this way you will not
get back to your old self. And this way it will stick, and this way it will be subconscious change that
will change you as a person. It will be the
personality change too. Because if you will try to change too many things
at the same time, putting too much work
on your shoulders. In the beginning, this
journey you already lost. There is a thing called
homeostasis and your whole body, your whole nervous system, your mind will try
to get you back into your old self and
you will just not be able to win this
fight against yourself. You have to make it slow. But thanks to that, it will become permanent and it will bring you the real results. Another advice that I
might give you along this journey is trying not to break the chain of the habit. If you will do something
every single day, it will become easier and
natural to you to just do this the next day and the
next day and the next day. But if you will break the China, you will break it for
more than one day, then you have to
force yourself and motivate yourself again to
get back into doing it. And this is the harder
way because you got off the truck and you have to
get back on track again. So there's another advice, do not break the chain method. And the last thing,
don't try to be perfect. You will never be
perfect with this. Nobody's, you will
make mistakes. You will get back
to your old habits. You will forget about all of this and you will
deceive yourself. And this is normal. This is just the
part of the process. Embrace the process. Think long-term. Give yourself some
love for even taking this challenge and even
starting with all of this. And whatever happens,
however bad, your situation will start
to be just get back, get back, get back. And this is the most
important thing. The part of the process is
to find out what works. Find out what doesn't work. Repeat up dust, implement
over and over and over again. It will never be perfect
in the beginning and it will require a
lot of readjustment. But after some time
of trying out things, it will become less
and less chaotic and you will find
yourself in the middle. Everything that I provided
for you in this course. I hope it will bring
your massive results. And as I said, I cannot
do this action for you. You have to follow
these steps and these practices that I
provided you with taker.
15. Bonus: Meta Habits That I Use: This is the bonus materials, so I will provide you with my habits that I do on
a day-to-day basis, that in my opinion, are the habits that whatever you are
doing with your life, whoever you are trying to be
will help you along the way. As all of them are holistic,
big picture habits, let's call them
metal habits that improve you as a
person on every level. So if you are a Dr.
you will be better. Dr. if you're a musician, you will be a better
musician, et cetera. They just improve
your overall being and the quality of a person
that you are in general, these habits are, first
of all, meditation, as I was talking before, meditation helps you to become more conscious
of who you are, what you are doing, why you're doing the actions
that you are doing on a day-to-day basis and to become the observer
of your life. Without it, you
will not be able to improve because in
some situations, you might not even be conscious of what or
why you are doing. You have to be
conscious first to then create a change that
you want to create. Other than that, there's tone of scientific data
about meditation, how it improves your mind, how it calms your
nervous system, and overall brings positive
change into your life. Second habit is exercise, any form of exercise. And it should be obvious
to you if you are not exercising in any way,
you should start. It has a lot of health benefits, but also mental benefits because if you are
not exercising, you will become more emotions
driven, less disciplined. And none of this will
bring any kind of positive results in
your life because you don't want your emotions to drive your decisions
or your lack of motivation or energy that exercising will help
you to get more of. Also, when you are
an unhealthy person, you will also not make that good over decisions
overall in your life. Ferret, good habit
is a healthy diet. It's not that much
of a heartbeat, but more of a part of a
healthy lifestyle overall. Because what you put into your body will also
affect your decisions, will also affect what kind of force you will have
an in this manner, what kind of decisions you will make if you put
toxins in your body, you should not be surprised that you will have toxic thoughts, are that you will not be so
energized to do your work. You will not have such a
good focus, et cetera. And it's not only about what you eat, but overall consumption. You consume on a
day-to-day basis. If you're consuming
burst content using your phone or using
Internet overall, this is what kinds
of faults you will have because that's what
you put into your mind. Another big cupboard is reading. It is connected to a diet. It is about putting good information into
your mind and feeding it with knowledge and
also develops your brain. It makes you think better. Having healthier
mind, reading a book is like hanging out
with someone that you want to be like getting like a download of his
thinking process. Sometimes a book is person's lifetime and
just by reading it, you may save yourself
years of struggle. Reading one book might
change your entire life, just like it was in my case. And reading The Power
of Habit years ago and other hobbies that I do on a day-to-day basis is when called breathing
and cold showers. They are to keep my half
in a good condition. They are also there to keep you more focused, more energised, motivated, more relaxed,
and at ease with life. And they also have a lot of
mental benefits to them. And you can find
more information about it on the
Internet if you want. Another habit that
I was doing for some time is gratitude habit. It may be either by writing what you are grateful
for on a piece of paper, on a day-to-day basis, like five things that you
are grateful for today, that you have in your life
and that make you happy. There is a place and
time in life for that. I'm not doing it in
this manner right now as I'm just
grateful overall for things that I have because this is like forcing yourself to find out what you
are grateful for today and figuring it out. And it's not that natural
in the beginning. But if you are at the place
that you don't see any hope and anything to be grateful
for right now in your life, this might really
help you all saw, it was shown in many
studies that it's not the material things
that make people happy. It's not even some kind
of philosophical dilemma. These are just facts. Having more and
more things doesn't make people are
species more happy. And gratitude does just that. By being more grateful, you are more happy. Because of that, you
are more grateful for what you have and
you are more happy. And because of being
more grateful and more happy for what
you already have, you bring more positive
things in your life. So by being grateful
for what you have right now and not wanting
what you want to have, you bring more of
these things into your life as paradoxical
as it sounds, it's the same as with the habit
approach that I told you. By focusing on the positive, you bring more positive and the negative just goes away on itself and other
habits that might be really helpful for you
along this journey. Our visualization habit and the poor habit visualization
is about sitting there e.g. for five-minutes and visualizing your perfect future scenario and visualizing that
you are already there and that you already
have these things. This was proven many times that visualization really works and your brain doesn't
really know the difference between what you are
visualizing and what is true. And you can train yourself
to become this person by just doing this one simple
habit for like 5 min a day. And why did I told
you about this one? The pork, because they are
more results oriented. So you want to get at
some place in your life. If you visualize it, it will become easier for you and you will
get faster there. And also deep work is
about the doing the work that is essential for you to get the results
that you want. It's about the action and
the pork is the best kind of work that you can create
to get you to these results. And if you are interested
about this habit, I strongly recommend
the deep work book by colonial part where you can get a lot more
information about this. These are the habits that I cultivate on a day-to-day basis. It's not as much as
you think when it comes to these daily
habits that I do, It's at most 1 h a day, like meditation
plus visualization. We have breathing and
cold showers, deep work, which for me is creating these videos and working
on my business overall. And a 30 min reading copied
before I go to sleep. You might say that these
habits aren't necessarily and they just take away my time from what I should
be focusing on. But I treat them as sharpening my soul habits to keep
myself healthy, energized, have my thinking straight, keep my focus and mental
health in check and to be able to produce the best
work that I possibly can. So in this manner, they can really save me a
lot of time in a long run, you should really find out
what works for you and what brings you the most results and pleasure and
choose this one. So this is what I do. This is what I promote. This is what helps me to
keep myself in check, keep my mind, body
and spirit healthy, ready to do the work if you're
energized and motivated. But of course, what works for
me might not work for you. And these are just
my suggestions.
Vinci
