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1. Course Introduction: Hi there, and welcome to
from Shy to sociable, your ultimate social
skills and self confidence guide.
I'm Justin Ragan. I'm thrilled to be your guide on this incredible journey
from Shy to sociable. This is your complete and
concise guide to unlocking the power of connecting to
people in social situations. Are you tired of feeling
anxious in social situations, struggling to find
the right words and feeling disconnected
from others? Well, you're not
alone, but fear not. This course is designed to
empower you with the tools and techniques to
overcome social anxiety, speak with clarity,
and confidence, and master the art of
networking and socialize. My journey in
mastering the art of social dynamics spans
over two decades, beginning in the
retail sales industry, where I learned the
fundamentals of face to face communication from express
for men to Abercrombie, and even to door to door sales. It's there that I
learned to hone my ability to connect with
people on a personal level. My path then led me to
the heart of Los Angeles, where I started at
the very bottom of the film industry as a
production assistant. Amidst the long
hours, coffee runs, and endless paperwork, I
discovered a silver lining. It was the perfect
place to help me continue to develop
my social skills. Navigating through
diverse environments, I learned to connect with
people from all walks of life, from heads of unions,
state departments, studios, ALS talent, managers, agents, and even
government agencies. I've built bridges
with politicians, everyday people, influencers,
and even business owners. My social skills have not
only been my compass, but also my ladder. They propelled me from being a production
assistant all the way to being a producer
in the film industry, and have been the cornerstone in creating and building numerous
businesses that I have. My expertise extends beyond
just the film industry. I've used my social skills to grow personally and
professionally, dealing with a wide array of
individuals and situations. Whether it's negotiating with
head to state departments, collaborating with ALS talent or even building report
with business owners, my social skills have
been instrumental. Moreover, my journey has
not been a solitary one. I've had the
privilege of guiding hundreds of individuals
from all walks of life, helping them break free
from their shyness and anxiety and embrace their
true social potential. Here's what you'll
gain from this course. We'll go over overcoming social anxiety, mastering
verbal communication, nurturing meaningful
relationships, networking like a pro, and never running out
of things to say. So let's embark
on this adventure together and unlock your
powerful social skills. I'll see you in
the first lesson.
2. Overcoming Fear and Rejection: Come to the first
lesson of my course. Today, we're going
to tackle one of the biggest obstacles
in social interactions. Fear and rejection. Let's go. Firstly, let's talk about
approaching people. It is normal to
feel a bit nervous. But remember, confidence is key. Walk up to people
with the smile, make eye contact, and
introduce yourself. It's honestly as simple as that. Now you might be thinking,
Well, what if they reject me? But let's put things
into perspective. Rejection is not
life threatening. It may sting a little, but
it's not the end of the world. In fact, it's part
of life that we all experience that we all
can learn something from. One common mistake people make is trying too hard
to please others. This can come across
needy and actually have an adverse effect and
push people away. Instead, focus on being genuine and be genuinely interested
in the other person. Another great tip is to
approach as soon as possible. Longer you wait, the more
time you give yourself to dwell on negative possibilities
and negative outcomes. Instead, focus on
what you could gain. You could make a new friend, expand your network, or even
meet a new potential client. The worst case scenario, they're not interested, and you move on. Remember, you're
still breathing, and no one else is paying attention to the interaction
as much as you are. Finally, when you enter a new
group or a new environment, approach, the first
person you see. This will immediately
take your mind out of the fear association with this new environment and
make it a lot easier for you to approach and
talk to anyone else. Remember, overcoming
fear and rejection is a crucial step in becoming
more sociable and confident. So keep these tips in mind, and you'll be well
on your way to mastering social interactions. We'll see you in
the next lesson.
3. Building Confidence: Come back to the course
from shy to sociable. In the last lesson we want over overcoming fear and rejection. In today's course, we will go over building confidence.
Let's dive in. Firstly, let's talk about
the power of a smile. A smile is the universal sign of friendliness and
approachability. It can make you and the people around you feel
more comfortable. So practice smiling, not just with your mouth,
but with your eyes too. There's a big difference between and you can always tell a genuine smile because when it's not just with the mouth, the eyes will squinch up, and that's when you know
it's a genuine smile. So, practice that smile. Let your whole face light
up with positivity. Maintaining a positive
mindset is also crucial when it comes
to building confidence. Remember, your
thoughts influence your emotions and your behavior. So try to keep your
thoughts positive. And whenever you notice that
you're thinking negatively, Don't resist them, observe them, let them pass, and then replace them with positive thoughts. Your physical posture can
also affect your confidence. When you stand tall with your shoulders back and your head up, you naturally feel
more confident. So pay attention to your posture and make sure it's
open and confident. Music and environment can also influence your mood
and your confidence. Similarly, being in a
positive environment can help you feel more
comfortable and more confident. So try surround yourself with positivity and the
music you love. Lastly, remember to breathe. When we're nervous or
anxious about something, we often forget to
breathe properly. But deep slow breathing
can help calm your nerves and make you feel more confident and make you feel
more in control. So next time you're feeling
anxious or you're nervous, try taking some deep breaths, and that should alleviate
some of that concern. Remember, building
confidence is a process. It takes time and it
takes a lot of practice. But if you utilize and
practice these tips, you'll be well in your
way to becoming more confident and
becoming more social. I'll see you in the next lesson.
4. Handling Rejection: Welcome back to the course. In our previous lesson, we discussed
building confidence. In today's lesson,
we're going to focus on handling rejection. Firstly, let's talk about
successful conversations. Not all your
conversations will be successful. And that's okay. The key is to learn
from each interaction and use it to improve your
future conversations. Developing a playful
attitude can also help you handle rejection. Instead of taking it personally, try to see it as a
learning experience. Remember, you don't know what's going on with the other person. They might have had
a bad day or maybe they're dealing with
some personal issues. You honestly never really know, so don't take
anything personally. It's also important
to understand that not all conversations
will go Sometimes, despite your best efforts, the conversation just doesn't
flow, and that's okay. The important thing
is to keep trying and not let one bad conversation
discourage you. You also need to accept that
you can't please everyone. No matter how liable and
charismatic you are, there will always be people that you just
don't click with. And honestly, that's also okay. Better to be true to
yourself and attract people who actually appreciate
you for who you are. Lastly, remember to reflect
on why you were rejected. Was it something you said
or was it how you said it? Reflect on the interaction and use it as a
learning experience, but don't dwell on it,
learn from it and move on. Remember, handling rejection is a crucial part of becoming more confident and
more sociable. It's really not hard
to do once you get into the habit of using these tips and realizing and remembering that none of
this is life threatening, and all you really need
to do is get yourself in the right frame of
mind and know that each conversation is a
learning experience, whether it's successful
or whether it's not, and actually even more
so when it's not. So just keep that
in mind as you go throughout all of
these interactions and go throughout all of
these different people. That being said, this is
the end of this lesson, and I look forward to seeing
you in the next month. Stay tuned for our next lesson, will be discussing individuality and self worth. See you then.
5. Embracing Individuality and Self-Worth: Come back to the course.
Today, we're going to be focusing on embracing
individuality. Let's get to it. Firstly, let's talk about the importance
of being yourself. It's easy to fall into the
trap of trying to fit in. But remember,
everyone is unique. Embrace your individuality and let it shine through
your interactions. Your uniqueness is your strength
and what sets you apart. Don't hide it. Next, let's discuss the power
of self expression. Don't be afraid to express
your thoughts and feelings. This not only helps you
connect on a deeper level, but will also boost your
confidence as well. I'll be open,
honest, and genuine. The other person will feel this and they will do the same. Next, let's move on to another very important aspect of conversation.
That is control. Remember, at any given time, you can only control 50%
of the conversation, which means the other 50%, half of it is the other person. This means that no
matter how well you plan and how much you practice, there will always be an
element of unpredictability. I want you to embrace this
uncertainty and use it as an opportunity to adapt and grow in each of
your conversations. Lastly, remember to
celebrate your achievements, no matter how small
they may seem. Every step towards becoming more confident and social is
definitely worth celebrating. So keep that in mind
as you go through this process. That's
all for this lesson. I want you to remember
to say true to yourself and be
open and honest and genuine in all of
your conversations and remember to learn something from each of the
conversations that you have no matter where they are good
or whether they are bad. Keep in mind that this
is a learning process and practice, practice,
practice, practice. That's all you
really need to do, get out there and practice.
6. Overcoming Overthinking: Come back to from
shy to sociable. Today we're focusing
on overthinking. Let's jump right into it. Firstly, I want you to
avoid excess rumination. Imagine you're
going to be giving a big presentation
or a big speech. It's natural, and it is
normal for you to be nervous. Instead of dwelling on
the negative scenarios, I want you to instead focus on your preparation and the value that you'll be adding
to your audience. Stay present and value yourself. Let's say you're out
of social gathering. Instead of worrying about what other people
are thinking of you, instead, focus on
the present moment. Engage in conversations,
enjoy the atmosphere. Remember, your worth is not determined by
others opinions. Focus on continuous
self improvement. Imagine you're learning a new skill like
playing a guitar. You're not going to be
an expert right away. Instead of thinking about
how far you have to go, celebrate your progress,
no matter how small it is. Remember, every expert
was once a beginner. So keep at it and keep practicing and keep getting
out there into conversations. Now that you've
learned these tips, it's time to put
them into practice. Remember, overcoming
overthinking is a journey, not a destination. Keep practicing, stay patient, and I promise you'll see
improvement over time. Thank you for joining
me in this course. I look forward to seeing
you in the next segment.
7. Non-Verbal Communication: Back to the course.
Today, we're diving into the world of non
verbal communication. Remember, words count from
only 7% of conversations. Let's explore the other 93%. Firstly, it's not
just about what you say, but how you say it. Your tone, volume, and pace all play a crucial role in
conveying your message. Practice speaking clearly
and confidently and remember to vary your tone to keep the
conversation engaging. Next, let's talk
about eye contact. Genuine eye contact can create a deep connection
between people. It's like using your
eyes to set in love. But remember,
there's a fine line between genuine eye
contact and staring. Practice maintaining
a comfortable level of eye contact in conversations. It may be helpful to start
with friends and family first. Once you get comfortable
with dist upp, then try using it on co workers and new people in conversation. Finally, appropriate
physical touch can break down imaginary boundaries and make people feel
more comfortable. This could be a pat on the back, a handshake, a high five, or even a hand on the shoulder. But always be mindful of the other person's
comfort level. Pay attention to how they
react and adjust accordingly. Contact should always
be light and friendly. Mastering non verbal
communication is a powerful tool in your
social skills arsenal. Practice these techniques
and you'll be well on your way to becoming
unforgettable.
8. Developing Social Skills: Come back to the
course. Today, we're focusing on developing
social skills. Let's get into it.
Firstly, practice interacting with various people. Imagine you're at a
networking event. Don't just stick to
the people you know. Approach different individuals, engage in small talk and
expand your comfort zone. The more you conversate, the
more comfortable you become. The more comfortable you become, the easier it is
to talk to anyone. Approach conversations with
the mindset of adding value. Let's say you're talking to somebody about their
favorite hobby. Gardening Even if
you're not an expert, you can still add value by
showing genuine interest, asking insightful questions, or even sharing related
experiences. Express gratitude regularly. Imagine you're at
a coffee shop and the Brest to makes your
coffee just right. A simple, thank you. I
really appreciate it, can make their day and leave a lasting positive impression. Not only will this train
you to speak up in new environments to new people
without thinking about it, it will also help you develop an attractive personality trait. This small, kind hearted gesture is something people
definitely pay attention to. Another good tip is to address anyone who
makes eye contact. Let's say you're
walking down the street and someone makes eye
contact with you. A friendly nod or
a simple hello can go a long way in building
your social skills. It's a simple, yet effective
way in showing that you're approachable and
interested in interacting. Doing this not only gets you an excellent amount of varied
interaction experience, but it also trains your
mind to fearlessly approach new people in new
situations without hesitation. Okay, great. Now that
we've learned these tips, it is time to put
them into practice. Remember, it is a journey
and not a destination. So keep practicing. Say dedicated to it, and thank you for joining
me in this lesson, and I will see you
in the next one.
9. Priming Yourself for Success: Back to the course. Today we're focusing on priming
yourself for success, mentally preparing for
getting into any big events, whether it be family related
or like a networking event. This will prime you for getting
into social situations. Before stepping into
any social situation, it's beneficial to warm
up your social muscles. One way to do this is to
engage with passers by. Imagine you're walking
down a busy street. You see a woman walking her dog. You smile, make a comment
about the weather, and wish her a good day. This simple interaction
can help get you in the right mindset and reduce any nervousness you
might be feeling. Another effective
strategy is to walk around and interact
with pedestrians. This helps you get
into a social flow and makes transitioning into more significant social
interactions a lot smoother. I often use this technique before going to
any social event. I would spend two to 3
hours prior to the event, walking around a park, a store, any place that was nearby that had a significant
amount of foot traffic, literally just
talking to everyone, talking and interacting
with everyone. This way, by the time
I got to the event, I was mentally
prepared and ready and willing and excited to talk to everyone that was
there, basically. Another technique I use, this one specifically
when I'm already at an event and I didn't have
time prior to do any priming. I will talk to a
lot of the staff, make jokes, make
small talk with them. This way, I'm
utilizing the staff there basically to do
my priming because I didn't have time to walk around any nearby places by my place
or where this event was. And this way, I'm not missing any opportunities while trying to warm up my social skills. Remember, these
interactions don't have to be deep or long. The goals that get
comfortable with initiating conversations and
responding spontaneously. So get out there and
start interacting.
10. Taking Action: Come back to from
shy to sociable, the ultimate social skills
and self confidence guide. Today we're focusing
on taking action. So let's dive in. One of the most
important aspects of improving your social skills and boosting your
self confidence is taking consistent action. It's not enough to learn
about social skills. You have to put
them into practice. Imagine you're trying
to learn the piano. You can read all the books you want about playing the piano, but unless you sit down and
start pressing the keys, you'll make no progress. The same principle
applies to social skills. To avoid stagnation, it's crucial to socialize
consistently. But this doesn't mean you have to be the life of the party or spend every waking moment
socializing with others. It simply means making
an effort to engage in social activities
on a regular basis. For example, you can make it a habit of striking up
a conversation with a colleague on a
lunch break or even calling a friend once
a week to catch up. These consistent
actions will help you build up your social
skills over time. Remember, the key to improving your social skills and self confidence is consistent action. So don't wait for
the perfect moment. Start taking small steps
today, and before you know it, you'll start to see
big improvements in your self esteem and
your self confidence.
11. Seeing Potential in Every Interaction: Back to the course. Today
we're focusing on seeing the potential in every
interaction. Let's dive in. Every person you meet
is a unique connection, a chance to learn
something new and an opportunity to grow
as an individual. It's important to view every
interaction in this light. Imagine you're at a
networking event. You see a person standing
alone looking a bit nervous. Instead of seeing this
as an awkward situation, view it as an opportunity to
make a unique connection. Approach them, introduce yourself, and start
a conversation. You never know this person
will be a valuable contact, a friend, or even
a future mentor, or to flip the situation
around You could be the one to help them feel more comfortable in a
new environment. Genuine care creates
positive energy. When you show genuine
interest in the other person, and not only makes
them feel valued, but it also creates
positive energy that other people
are attracted to. For example, if a colleague shares a personal
achievement with you, show genuine happiness for them. Congratulate them, ask them
about their experience, and express your admiration
for their hard work. This genuine care will create
a positive energy that will make your interactions more enjoyable and more memorable. Most interactions
we have nowadays are very surface
level and routine. The obligatory, How's your day going
or how are you doing? Good, good, you
know, how are you? I'm good. I'm okay. Everything's very
routine nowadays. Any chance you get to
show genuine interest or genuine care in an interaction will be very, very much valued. Remember, every
interaction has value, whether it's a quick
chat with the neighbor, a meeting with the colleague, or even a short conversation
with the stranger. There's always something
you can learn, and there's always something
that you can give. So start seeing potential
in every interaction and watches your social skills
and self confidence sore.
12. Preparing for Interactions: Back to the course. Today we're focusing on prepping
for interactions. One of the key aspects
of preparing for interactions is having
prepared questions. This not only keeps the
conversation flowing, but it also shows you're
interested in the other person. Imagine you meet somebody for the first time at
a social event. You're going to
ask simple things like what brings you here? What do you do for a living? What are some of your hobbies? These questions are good
at breaking the ice, but they're not super
deep questions. They're good to start with,
they're good to fall back on, but I like to ask things
out a little deeper. They could be things
based on travel, things based on books, things based on movies. The good thing
about these topics is you learn a lot
about the person, and from the answers that you'll get from the questions
regarding these topics, you'll then have other questions that will allow
you to dig deeper, again, building a more meaningful and
sincere relationship. And it's even better if you're actually going to meet
a specific person. Do some research on the person. Do some research
on their company. You know, come up with
questions that are very specific to them.
Again, this is only if you're going to meet
a specific person. Research some of the things
that they like or you know, look into maybe their
Instagram or something, just to see if you can
find common things. I generally like to
do this in person. But starting out, honestly, I would sometimes go to, like an Instagram or something, just to get a feel
for the person. I mean, you know, the information
is out there. Use it. Speaking energetically
with a clear intention is another important aspect. Your energy and intention can sent the tone for the
whole interaction. For example, if
you're meeting with a potential business partner, speak with enthusiasm about your ideas and express your
intention to collaborate. This energy and clarity can help create a
positive impression. Lastly, remember to
not speak too fast. Speaking too fast can make
it difficult for others to understand you and can create
a sense of nervousness. Practice speaking at
a comfortable pace to ensure your message is
completely understood. Start preparing for
your interactions by having prepared questions, speaking energetically
with clear intention and maintaining a
comfortable pace. Remember, every interaction is an opportunity to
learn and grow, see you in the next lesson.
13. Authenticity and Being Present: Welcome back to the course. Thank you for joining me again. Today, we're going
to be focusing on authenticity and being
present. Let's jump in. Being genuine and authentic is the cornerstone of any
successful interaction. People can sense when you're not being real and authentic, and it can create a barrier
in your communication. Imagine you're at a
networking event, and you're trying to
impress a potential client by being something or
someone that you're not. This might work in
the short term, but in the long term
it's unsustainable, and it will lead to
misunderstandings. Your surroundings conversation
starters is a great way to be present in the moment and to continue the
conversation flow. It shows your observant and it can come off witty
and interesting. For example, if you're
at a coffee shop, you can comment on the
art on the walls or the music playing in
the background or even the food that is
behind the counter. This can lead to interesting
conversations and actually help you continue
the flow of the conversation. Another thing to build
Duper connections is to discuss the past,
present, and the future. Sharing your future aspirations and your past experiences is a great way to build deeper connections with the person that
you're talking to, as well as make your
interactions more meaningful, memorable,
and interesting. So remember to always be genuine and authentic
in your interactions. Use your surroundings as conversation starters and
always discuss the past, present, and future in that context of your aspirations
and your experiences. Remember, every interaction is an opportunity to
learn and to grow. I will see you in
the next lesson.
14. Making a Memorable Impression: Welcome back to the course. Today, we're going to explore the art of complimenting and finding common ground.
Let's dive in. Offering genuine compliments is a powerful way to
connect with others. Using compliments is
another great way to actually start
a conversation, but this portion is
solely focused on using compliments in an interaction that's
already happening. Imagine you're in a
meeting with a colleague that just gave an
amazing presentation. You could say, your presentation
was very insightful. I really appreciated
how you explain all the data in a way that
was easy to understand. This compliment is simple, genuine, and related
to their behavior. Adapting compliments
to the environment and the person's behavior
is also crucial. For instance, if you're at a casual gathering and
someone tells a funny joke, you can laugh at them and say, they have a great sense of humor and that joke made your day. Finding common interest can help you find a deeper connection. Let's say you both like hiking. You could talk back and
forth about hiking gear, you can talk about
hiking locations. Anything that you
can share together on any specific topic
is going to be great, and you want to lean
into those things. As you ask questions,
you're bound to find other things that
you have in common. So make sure you're
paying attention and that you're asking
consistent questions. Talking in a relaxed manner as if you already
know the person can make the conversation feel more comfortable
and more natural. Instead of formal language, use a friendly and casual tone. Talking to the person
as if you already know them will not only help
you feel more comfortable, but it'll also bring a lot less pressure when
approaching new people. So start offering
genuine compliments, adapt your compliments to the environment and
the person's behavior, find common interests and make sure to talk in a
relaxed manner. Remember, every interaction is an opportunity to
learn and grow. I'll see you in the next lesson.
15. Complimenting and Finding Common Ground: Come back to the
course. Today, we're diving into the heart of
effective communication. Active listening and engagement. Let's dive in. Active listening is more than just hearing words. It's about understanding and
engaging with the speaker. One way to show that
you're actively listening is to
maintain eye contact. This non verbal cue
shows that you're focused and interested in what the other person is saying. Imagine you're in a
conversation with a friend who's sharing the recent
travel experience. By maintaining eye contact, you're showing that
you're genuinely interested in their story. If you have trouble
maintaining eye contact, there are two tips that
I suggest you try. One is looking right in the
middle of the forehead. The other one is
looking at the ear. The other person will not be
able to tell the difference, and you can continue
to do one or two of those things until
you're able to actually continue to
maintain eye contact. Something else that is just as important as maintaining
eye contact, if not more important, is actually listening to the
other person as they speak. A lot of times when we get in situations we're
talking to someone, we spend a lot of time
in our own mind trying to figure out exactly what
to say next to the person, and therefore, we're
not actually fully listening and fully invested in what the person
is actually saying. So next time you're actually
talking to somebody, try to focus on the person, try to focus on what
they're saying and make related comments to their story or to their comment
as they're saying it. This will reinforce
to them that you're actually listening and that you are engaged in
the conversation. Even more so, when they finish, ask related questions to whatever topic it was that
they were actually saying. This will definitely
reinforce to them that you were
fully paying attention, and you were fully engaged
in this conversation. Now, this will take
some time to do as you're going to
have to be able to recognize when your mind is
switching back into trying to figure out what to say
next and then stop it and then refocus back on what
the person is saying. But I promise you, if you can do this and
when you do this, you will have way more
meaningful conversations and way deeper conversations. Ring behavior is another very effective
technique that you can use. If the person has their arms crossed, you cross their arms. If they're sitting in a chair in a relaxed fashion, you
should do the same. If you mimic their body
language and their behavior, they will feel more comfortable, and they will feel
like we are the same, and that is a huge step when
it comes to initiating and having conversations that
will lead to somewhere that is more meaningful
and more beneficial. This creates a sense of
familiarity and comfort. Projecting confidence
and using tasteful humor can make conversations more
enjoyable and more memorable. For instance, if someone
shares a funny anecdote, respond with the
lighthearted comment or a related humor
story of your own. But remember to try
not to do this in a competitive way and more in conjunction with their story. Joking together
creates a feeling and environment of camaraderie, which is great for building,
rapport, and connection. This will no doubt enhance
your interactions. So remember to maintain eye
contact, mirror behavior, actively listen, ask questions
and use tasteful humor. All of this will help you stay engaged in
the conversation. These skills will not only
make you a better listener, but will make you a
better conversationalist. So we'll see you in
the next lesson.
16. Active Listening and Engagement: Welcome back.
Again, today we are actually going to talk about
one of my favorite topics, which is making a
memorable impression. Let's get started. Making a memorable impression starts and ends with energy. It's like book ends
to a great story. You want to capture
attention right at the start and leave a lasting
impression at the end. Imagine you're
meeting someone for the first time at
a social event. You approach them with a
smile, a firm handshake, a light comment or
maybe even a funny joke and a confident introduction. Now, that is starting
with energy. Using jokes and compliments
can also make you memorable. Humor can break the ice and make the conversation
more enjoyable. Compliments, on the other hand, can make the other person feel valued and appreciated
right off the bat. Offering genuine compliments is a powerful way to
connect with others. Whether it's about a person's
behavior, appearance, or personality, a
sincere compliment can always make a
lasting impression. Starting this way
makes the other person already feel good
about the interaction. This way, their guard
is already down, making it easier to connect. On the other hand,
starting with the joke sets the playful tone
for the interaction. It makes the other person
feel at ease as they see the relaxed nature
of the conversation and your playful tone. This again, lowers their walls and makes it a lot
easier to connect. Now, let's talk about
leaving a conversation. You always want to leave
a conversation early. This keeps the other person
interested and excited to see you again because you
left on such a high note. They will immediately feel good and start smiling the
next time they see you, whether that's later on that same day or a
completely different day. Another strategy
is to leave early, but express interest in continuing the
conversation later on. You could say something like it was really nice talking to you I want to catch up with
my friend who just arrived, but I really want to hear
more about your travels. Let's continue this
conversation later on. You're using your
friend or colleague as an excuse to cut it short, but showing that
you still valued the conversation and would
love to continue it later on. So remember to always start and end a conversation
with energy. Use jokes and compliments in your introduction
and at the beginning. Leave a conversation
early and always express interest in continuing
the conversation later. These steps will help you make a lasting and
memorable impression, and I will see you
in the next lesson.
17. Building Rapport: Come back to the course. Today we're going to
focus on building Report. Building Report is
a crucial skill to learn when it comes to being
more social and confident. So let's get into it. Imagine you're at a
networking event, and you see a group
of people discussing a topic that you're
interested in. How would you join
the conversation? The simple answer is,
just ask questions. For instance, you could
say, I couldn't help but overhear you discussing whatever it is that they were discussing. Could you tell me more
about your perspective? This shows that
you're interested and willing to
learn from others, and it is a great
way to join a group, especially in a networking
event situation. Now, let's consider
another scenario. You're in a one on one
conversation with the colleague, and they're sharing a personal
story. How do you respond? The key is active listening, nodding, maintaining
eye contact, and responding with phrases
like IC or that sounds challenging can make
the other person feel heard and appreciated. Reflecting what other people say is another powerful tool. Let's say a friend
tells you about a book that they
recently just read. You can respond by
saying, it sounds like that book really
made an impact on you. What was your favorite part? This not only keeps the
conversation going, but it also makes them
feel valued and heard. Finally, don't be afraid to introduce yourself to
people you haven't met. A simple, I don't
think we met yet. I'm Justin can open the door to new connections
and opportunities. Remember, every great friendship starts with a simple
introduction. Building rapport is all about making others feel
valued and heard. By asking questions,
active listening, and reflecting what
other people say, you'll be well on your way to building more
meaningful connections. Get out there and practice, and I'll see you in
the next lesson.
18. Expanding Conversations and Connection: Back to the course.
Today we are focusing on expanding conversations
and connections. Let's dive in. One strategy to deepen connections is
to change locations. Imagine you're at
a networking event and you've been talking
to somebody for a while. Suggest moving to a
quieter spot or maybe grabbing a coffee or drink from another
area in the event. This change of scenery
can create a sense of shared experience
and connection. This in turn will
make the interaction seem longer and more season. Focusing on positive questions
is another powerful tool. Positive questions lead
to positive emotions, which lead to positive
feelings towards you. Remember, people
remember how you made them feel more than
anything else. So ask about their passions, ask about their
proudest moments, ask about their favorite places
that they've traveled to. So that way, all of this
will create more positivity, and they will associate all of that positivity with you and
the conversation with you. When in a group setting, it's important to be mindful
of group dynamics. Pay attention to the group
vibe and address everyone when speaking to create
an organic connection. For example, when
you're talking in a group setting and you
notice someone being quiet, ask for their
opinion on whatever topic it is that
you're talking about. This inclusivity will make you more liable and more memorable. If you run out of
things to say or the conversation
you feel like is starting to fade, don't panic. You can always bring up
something you've already spoken about and make a comment about it to keep the
conversation flowing. This is also a great
time to reference your entry joke and make your exit as everybody
chuckles about that again. So remember to change locations, focus on positive questions, be mindful of group dynamics, and revisit any previous
conversations when needed. With that being said,
these strategies will help you expand your
conversations and connections. We will see you in
the next lesson.
19. Final Thoughts: Come back to from
Shride as sociable. We have reached the
conclusion of our course, and I want to leave you with
a couple of final thoughts. Firstly, remember that success is simple, but it's not easy. It's about making
the right choices consistently over time. Imagine you're
climbing a mountain. The path to the top is simple, but the climb itself
is pretty challenging. It requires effort, persistence, and resilience to
make it to the top. Surround yourself with those
who push you to be better. Imagine you're
running a marathon. If you train with people who are faster and stronger than you, you'll be motivated to push
your limits and improve. Pursue your interests with
curiosity and motivation. Let's say you love photography. Don't just take photos. Learn about different
techniques. Experiment with
them, seek feedback. Your passion and your curiosity is what will drive
you to improve. Lastly, stay uncomfortable.
If you're comfortable, that means you're stagnant
and you're not growing. Stepping out of your
comfort zone is scary, but that's also where
you grow the most. Imagine you're afraid
of public speaking. By facing this fear and
speaking in front of others, you become more
confident and you become a more effective
communicator. So remember to embrace the
simplicities of success, surround yourself with
positive influences, pursue your interests
passionately and get out of
your comfort zone. All these strategies
will help you transform from shy to sociable. Now, stay tuned for the last
course that I have for you. It's just sharing the
last additional tips before you get out there and start conquering your shyness.
20. Additional Tips: Come back to the course. Today, we're actually
going to talk about some additional tips that can help you
on your journey. Let's jump in.
Firstly, incorporate exercise for
increased confidence. Regular exercise not
only boosts your health, but also increases
your self esteem. Imagine someone who's
never run before, and then you start
running regularly. Over time, your
endurance will improve, and you'll notice a huge boost
in your self confidence. Next, encourage recording
and self reflection. Record yourself giving a speech, doing a monologue, and
just talking normally. Look out for ums
when you're looking away from the camera
and when you do pauses. Hearing ums and z can definitely take away from whatever point it is you're trying to make, whether it's through a speech or even just in one on
one interaction. Be sure to also pay
attention to when you look away or any other areas
that you could improve. This self reflection will
help you become aware of your habits and also help
you improve over time. Practice of course is key. Just like learning
any instrument, you will not become
a master overnight. It's going to take
consistent practice, but over time, you
will see improvement. Now that you're equipped
with all these tips, it's time to get out there. Practice these
tips and remember, the journey from Shy to sociable is a marathon,
not a sprint. Thank you for joining
me in this course. I hope you gained a
lot of value from it. I look forward to seeing you out there and hearing
about your progress.
Justin Wragg, Film Producer/ Entrepreneur & Consultant
