The Art of Productivity - A Guide for Mom Artists

1. Sneak Peek: Creative mama's who are filling unfulfilled an empty without pursuing their Art Dreams because you feel overwhelmed by the demands of Motherhood. I have created this class for you so that you can find time and balance between your pursuit of your Art goals and helping your kids to grow and learn. I have three kids, and I've created over 100 products that are sold online. I have a picture book called The how to potty train a dinosaur that's animated on Netflix. And lots of other books and illustrations, magazines and murals. And I've been able to do a lot as a Mom. And I have analyzed the times when I've been able to be productive versus the times that I have felt depressed and empty and have not been able to find time and space in my life for my creative pursuits. So no matter what your situation is, if you want to balance an Art career and Motherhood, it is possible, it's not easy, but it is possible if it's important to you. This class, we'll cover how to optimize your time, delegating, simplifying. We figure out something called an energy Coaster and create an energy graph so that we can maximize our energy throughout the day, which, you know, is limited as a mom, I have crazy toddlers running around right now and that is that it can be tricky, but it is possible to maintain your sanity and pursue your Art career. So by the end of this course, you will have direction, clarity, and a plan to begin finding more balanced between Motherhood in your articles so that you can feel whole as a creative and as a fulfilled and happy mama. Because happier we are in the tumor, we are to ourselves. Our children will see that and be inspired by it and wants to also fulfill their goals. And if we are happy, happier moms have happier children's. So it's not selfish for you to take this time for yourself to figure out how to balance your Art career, your creativity made of Motherhood. So see you in class 2. Love over Fear: Welcome mommy Artists. I hope you're ready to dive into some new ways of looking at the world and your Motherhood and your time. So dive right into the Art of Productivity. Welcome ladies or men that are stay-at-home dads. You know, it's for everyone. So you're probably here because you're wondering, can you balance motherhood and an Art career in I am here to tell you, yeah. The right thing for you and your family. Maybe maybe only you know, it's not right for everyone. I am not a perfect example of balanced, but I'm working on it and I could've come along way. So I want to teach you what I've learned and where I've come from and what has gotten me to where I am. So although I'm not a perfect Mom, I have three kids and I do have a lot of products. I have been pumping out projects and books. And I have a picture book that's animated on Netflix and I've been featured on TV. I'm just so uncomfortable. It's this out like a bragging, but I am trying to show you that you can get a lot done as Mom, if you want. You don't need to write. It is just up to you and what you want to do in order to enjoy motherhood. Some people enjoy motherhood by being 100%. I was miserable when I was trying to do 100% and not make time for my career, I wasn't enjoying my kids and my life as much as when I found a balance. So it might not be for you, it might this might not be the perfect fit for you and it might not be helpful. But if you are unhappy, if you are feeling like there's a void, you feel disconnected to yourself, also disconnected from your children because you I admit to resenting them a little bit a few years back for taking away my freedom in my career because I wanted it so badly. And now that I have found a balance that works for me and my family, I love them and I love the time that I have with them. I remember coming home from picking them up from daycare for awhile. I did a little bit of a daycare and so happy to play with them. And I remember thinking, Oh, maybe I shouldn't have them in daycare because it's so PFK-1 to be a Mama. It's like, whoa, whoa. Now I'm having FUN because I had that break. And it's not for everyone. But I'm just saying I'm not saying daycares for everyone. Sorry. You have to be careful with moms because of the mom guilt is so real, but don't let that sneak in. So I've created over 100 products that are sold online. And I just wanted to tell you it's possible. However that looks for you, it's going to look different than it looks for me, but I would love for you to find a way to balance your personality, your needs, and your schedule. To have this balance and passion for the Art that you want to create. Keep taking time for yourself until you're you again. Love that. It's not selfish to want to reconnect with who God created you to be. So today we're going to dive into tip number one, which is identify Fear versus love. And this will help you figure out where you're meant to be on that scale of Motherhood. And it just depends on if you're being driven by love or driven by fear. I drew this to just kind of represents like when I feel like I'm living Enjoy it's like happiness. The Fear is this like closed-off, protect, fearful, keep it inside, shove it in, keep it in. I don't know if you've recognized that in yourself, but I have found that the answer every single time is love over Fear. And sometimes it's hard to dig into that and there's shame and guilt in there. And should that make it unclear? But if you can wipe off that, those layers, that dust and get to the heart of it. I feel like this this is really the question that it comes down to you every single time is, am I choosing love or am I choosing Fear? So the tricky thing is like we love our kids, right? But sometimes we put that love over ourselves, which yes, I could see this being, you know, it's necessary at times, obviously you love them so you're going to change their diaper, you know, it's not something that you love doing. Obviously, there's a time and place for things, but If you're getting easily irritated, overwhelmed, you feeling stress. This is a huge clue that something's out of balance. You should be finding joy in every stage. It shouldn't just be endured because a lot of people talk about, oh, I'm is that baby phase. And it's probably because during that baby phase, they weren't enjoying it. They were they were somewhere else and their head because they were miserable. So let's enjoy the phase that we're in and soak it all up by finding balance and not pushing harder. Pushing more than, have strength, running faster than you strength. And if you are a Christian or religious, god says, love thy neighbor as thyself. We forget that part. Sometimes as, as mothers who feel like we need to give and given, give until we're depleted. So take time for you. And I just want you to notice like, do you feel like you're a more loving, kind, Patient Parent when you've taken the time to recharge? I know I do. And for me are is a bit of a meditation, so it helps me kind of center myself. Yes. And I don't know if it has that same impact for you. If it stresses you out, if it's a stressor, then maybe it, maybe it's not the time. But if it helps you feel more of yourself and loving yourself and loving others easier, then this is for you. Fear stands for false evidence appearing real. We look at these fears and we think that they are very real and very valid. So the Fear of like, if I take time for my career, my kids are going to resent me or they're going to feel less important than my Art. There's these fears that creep in and they do appear very real. But I want you to start questioning beliefs that we take that we believe so truly is truth. But then sometimes if you look at them from a different perspective, they might, it might not be. The truth. Does, does every woman, whoever, like, can you picture a life where you are balancing both And where it's a positive thing for your kids. Yeah. That's a possibility. If they see that you're taking time for yourself, they want to dream more and pursue their own endeavors because they see you and they see you being happy. And so they see that life is good. If you're trying to decide whether or not to take a project on or whether to take time to draw. Be mindful of where your motivation is coming from. And sometimes I turn to Arts out of fear, a fear of like, I need to be financially stable. So I need to make sure that I'm bringing in an income. And obviously that's important. But like if I'm motivated from that place and not a place of, I loved drawing and I want to draw this. And I love, I wanna do this for other people. If it's coming from Fear are like, I'm nothing. If I'm not an Artist, I'm not good enough. If I'm not using my skill. That's coming from a place of fear and then the Art doesn't turn out. Can tell you that much. So start trying to make this shift into love. So if you're acting out of fear, it's not going to feel good. You're going to have illness, fatigue, depression, anxiety, all the icky stuff. And I have seen that for myself. When I am following what I love, inputting love first, love for my family, love for myself, and for others. It feels good. I believe that God guides us through love. Funny story. My family thought I was Bipolar when I was trying to reach some really big goals and I was like legit, like so depressed when I would let thoughts creep in of like Fear. No, this isn't, this isn't what you should be doing. You're crazy. What are you doing? I would like go into depression. And then when I was believing that it was possible for me and falling love, love of what I wanna do, which ultimately is this what I'm doing right now? I would be so happy. My highs are so high during that time. My family was really concerned about me and that was really hard to be like, oh, like when I'm happy that this isn't real joy. I share that being mindful that mental illnesses are real thing and it was something I was concerned about. But after going to medical professionals finding out like I'm just so passionate that it's really visible to me and I see it in other people. When you have hope when you are falling love, you feel good and happy. And when you are living out of fear, it's easier to fall prey to fatigue, illness, etcetera. So I'd like you to reflect about times in Motherhood when you felt that you were in a state of love where you are present and enjoying the mommy moment, the magic of Motherhood Now think of a times that you have felt fear, resentment, guilt, shame in Motherhood, and it's such a heavier feeling, right? Are two different feelings. And potentially you were doing the same, same sorts of things, but your mental state was in a different place, your motivation was an indifferent place. So think about those situations and what comes to mind and start to be curiously aware of what events, what situations, what thoughts spur those feelings? Can you start finding a correlation? And don't, don't judge yourself as you're being curiously aware. Just take these feelings as feedback like you would for a scientists, like, okay, this is evidence of this versus that instead of feeling fear and guilt and shame. So for me, as I think back, when I have had balance, I do I feel the magic of Motherhood and when I am not balancing and when I am being self-sacrificial for my kids, like feeling like, okay, the only way that it would be loved if, is if I'm making these sacrifices. But then as I do that, I start to be resentful and angry and bitter and having negative thoughts about my husband gets to work. He so lucky woe is me. Anyways. I'm very curious to see what you come up with about that for you. You can take out a sheet of paper. You can write on one side the times that you've, the magic of Motherhood and the other side times that you've felt resentment, guilt, shame, and fear. You can pause this now if you'd like to do that. It would be a wonderful exercise. Sorry about my dry throat. Okay. So some evidence that you're choosing love will be peace. You feel connected to God's source energy, whatever your beliefs are, you excited about life and what you're doing, and things feel easy and light. You're happy with yourself, your brain feels focus. It's not that life all of a sudden is easy, but it feels more simple, less heavy. Whereas if you're acting in Fear, scattered, if your brain is scattered, you feel on the edX, you're having a hard time making decisions. You're trying to please everyone else all the time. You feel tense and tightness in your body? I often feel it in my shoulders are here. You'll yep. You're just you feel like you're treading through mud to get anything done and you feel uncertain. Are you guys connecting with that? Does that resonate with you? Because that as I became as I started recognizing this, it became very apparent. And I was having health issues that were related to this and I had no idea I was going to Dr. to Dr. to figure out what was wrong. But when I started noticing this stuff, it was just my body telling me like know, something's out of whack here. You're doing things for their arm reason and something needs to change. So I drew this to just kinda show this constant tug of war. I mean, it's not like once you've figured this out that like Snap, You got it. It's like every day I'm being conscious of if I feel anxious, okay, what, what am I doing that? What are the thoughts, the beliefs that are causing shame and struggle and fear and guilt and these negative thoughts. And then it's just like a tug of war if that with like feeling abundant and happy and positive. Let's talk about some real-life examples. Alright? So how this appears is you'll have the feeling will show you okay, something's off. And then you start to identify the thought. And then the belief behind that thought, which is causing you to feel a certain way. Because the goal here, my goal for you as not necessarily to like you guys all should be full-time artists or you should have a part-time Art Business. It's for you to feel good and happy. However that ends up looking for you. So feeling, if you're feeling uptight and Patient flustered, then you think like, okay, what's the thought here? So it might be like, I'm not I'm not getting enough time for myself. My kids are driving me nuts. I'm not spending enough quality time with my kids. I'm a bad mom. My career is never gonna get anywhere, those sorts of things. And so then you need to identify the beliefs. The beliefs could be, if I blink, then I'm blank or if I don't blink, then I'm not blink. So if I am angry at my kids, then I'm a bad mom or if I don't spend every second with my kids, I'm not the mom that my kids need me to be Do you see, do you see how it's not just the thought, but it's the belief that comes with it. So you could think my kids are driving me nuts, but also have this belief that like life is good and that in a few moments, like everything's going to come down. But maybe my kids are driving me nuts. Maybe that thought is associated with the belief that you shouldn't be driven nuts by your kids and then it leads to shame and guilt. Does that make sense? This is life altering. It sounds very simple and it sounds very obvious. But then when you get stuck in these feelings of feeling terrible, then it's not that the feelings are your false. It's just that your subconscious as programmed with these beliefs and these thoughts and you're just in this pattern and it's not your fault. It's not your fault. But if you want to take ownership and control and change, you have the power to do that, and that is what this tool is for. So here's some more examples. If I'm not successful, then I'm not important. That's something that I've needed to work on. That's why I work so hard on my career. If I'm not in alignment, it's because of this fear of not being important. So I need, like I worked through that so that I can be serving out of love for others and not necessarily needing an ego boost. If I don't spend every segment with my kids and I'm a failure for Mom. If I don't feel Patient with my kids, I'm a terrible, grouchy, angry, bad person. If I don't take time for myself. If I do take time for myself than I am selfish. If I spend money on babysitting, then I will run out of money. They're very close to home. My examples are real life situations. So the love shifts. As you realize that belief now we're going to shift it into love. It's okay that I feel stressed. I forgive myself for thinking I'm a bad mom. I'm choosing to no longer believe that being angry at my kids is making me a bad mom because it doesn't help me. I choose love. Filling the blanks for you. It's okay that I feel a desire to have a career. I forgive myself for thinking that my career will make the important. I'm choosing to no longer believed that I need this in order to be I miss it a little bit there because it isn't helping me. It is love. So the actual one that would probably be it's okay that I feel discontent. I forgive myself rethinking that I need a career to be happy and then it can't be happiest motherhood I'm choosing a little longer. Believe that it's bad for me to do both. Whatever you want it, whatever you want to fill in there. So I choose love now by like some examples of that, I choose love now by spending time with my kids, doing what sounds FUN to do as a family. And I'm also choosing love by having a break afterwards to reward myself and love myself. I choose love now by putting a show on for the kids so that I can go take a few minutes to breathe and re-center and come back with love. That's definitely been working through. It's okay to feel a desire to have a career. I forgive myself for thinking that my kids are in the way of my success. I always have a choice. So that's an interesting one that shifted a lot for me. I choose love. I will choose love by following my love for Art, following my love for my kids by finding balance. I'm following my desire to connect with others and share life. That doesn't feel salvage and terrible, does it? As I'm saying it, I still feel a little bit like, oh, I'm trying to rationalize this, but I can tell you this much. It feels so different stepping into that. Then the life I was living before of trying to ignore the things that I loved to do and then accepting that it's possible that it's just what God wanted for me and my life and my family. And that such a beautiful shift to be like a loving and accepting that part of me and the loving my kids. Because I was sent in the kids that I was sent. Maybe because that's what they needed. Maybe maybe it's bad to have maybe a copter mom all day long. Okay. So yeah, there was a time when I thought I was choosing love. But as mostly Fear, I didn't trust that I could find balance. I didn't trust that I could stop if I noticed that my family was falling apart because of my choice to want to have the feeling there was is feeling trapped, resentful and depressed. So those are my keys. I was feeling trapped and resentful. The thought I'm choosing to sacrifice my career for my family, I'm a victim. Woe is me feeling jealous and my husband for going to work and life is so unfair. The belief was I must give up what I love and the parts of me that made me happy In service of those I love. So see how that's tricky because it's in service of those I love. So it was tricky to identify that it was out of fear and not love. The Fear was they will not love me back or I will be a total screw up if I follow my desires to balance my career and my family. There wasn't any room for love for myself, which is important. Let me see if I can read this pretty handwriting, but hard to see. I choose love now by believing that whether or not I excel in my career, I am still important, worthy of love, and I'm making time for what's important to me. I know I'm blessed with talents and abilities and I don't need success to prove that to myself or anyone else. I'm important no matter what I do. Well, that might have been very helpful for you because it's just sounds like an affirmation to myself. I'm not sure why I included that, but I hope I hope you feel something from there. Let's just some exploring and I've done it myself. You owe yourself the love that you've freely give to other people. Imagine if you treated yourself with the kindness you treat your kids. It'd be great, right? This isn't your workbook. If you haven't bought one and you want a physical one there on Amazon, or you can print out the stuff or put it in the template that I sent you, the PDF. So how are you choosing Fear over love? I'd like to think about you, to think about how that is happening in your life. And it's going to keep happening over and over again. I can think of some things for myself right now that I need to work on of choosing love over Fear. By choosing love instead, what will change? What exactly we you'd do differently by choosing love. So go ahead and write that down. You can pause this or you can just we'd after we're almost done with the section, where have you inserted self-care until routine. Show yourself some love. Okay. Okay. What does that self-care look like for you? How do you reconnect with your soul? It's possible right now, self-care is not drawing. It's possible. You need to follow what you're wanting to do. Don't dry out of fear that you're gonna lose it, right? Because that's fair driven. What Mom pressures are you putting on yourself out of fear? How can they be switched to love? And what would that look like in your life? I'm telling you, if you try this stuff, if you start making changes, start being aware of it. It is a total game changer. How can you refocus your Art career slash Motherhood, balanced to be aligned with love over Fear. And maybe this is redundant. You can skip them if you feel like you've already answered them. But certain wording sometimes sparks. Different thoughts, are, different layers. Have thoughts. And to end, just say, You can't pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first. I have a friend who is brilliant turn name is Ruth Smith Lee and she does energy healing work for moms. And she told me that you're told to put an oxygen mask first when you're on an airplane accident. The blur that didn't all come out very well. If you're out an airplane, urine an accident, you put on your mask first and then you'd take care of the rest. They tell you that very specifically foot on the oxygen and then check the other people in life. We do not do that. We're trying to help the kids Then ourselves. I know is that I get dinner time, like trying to get them all fed and they're not even getting E. There's Peek, picky eaters. And here I am like starving. And so hangry started noticing, Okay, what if I just go ahead and eat and then feed my kids? Might be more patient that way, but we're just so ingrained and so trying to put others first, the love thy neighbor as the self, pay even if you're not religious, I hope that's not offensive to quote scripture, but just saying, just saying, alright, and that is it for today. The next class is going to be about free time and making sure that your free time is sacred and that you're using it. Well. That well could be relaxing and doing nothing. But we'll talk later. I'm just like so excited, I'm going to just start talking about it. Alright, thanks for being here. See you later? 3. FREE TIME: Alright, welcome back. Hope you're excited for the next section. Or client files. Hope you took some time to identify Fear versus loves scenarios in human life. So now let's talk about free time. I put nap time and sacred here because for many years it was nap time is what it meant for me. But as kids get older or if your kids don't take naps, just replace free time. Does very rare occasions when you have free time. Okay, it doesn't have to be rare. You'd get to choose that. Self-care is giving the world the best of you instead of what's left of you. I like that. It's good. The career driven stay-at-home moms sees the sacredness of nap time. And even if you're not career driven, even if you're just happiness driven, you know, it's good to see the sacredness of the free time that you have. It's sacred, it's a gift from God. Undervalue it. And don't waste your time doing something you could easily do when the kids are awake. Don't do normal. I don't do house chores when they're asleep. Unless that's like a need in my heart, like my soul needs it, which occasionally happens. And I know that there are moms who really need that. And so I need it, but it's hard to spend time on it when it's just gonna get messy anyways. So I tried to do other things, but you do. Let's see what I wrote here. If you feel uncomfortable with my previous statements on this page is and maybe you judge yourself for what you feel that you need to do with your downtime. Don't judge yourself. Do whatever you need to do to unwind and relax or to grow your career. If that's what's Fun for you. However you want to design your life is amazing and as long as you're feeling happy and fulfilled and balance good to you. But if you're not, something needs to change their bedtime is another free time. Yeah. I'm baffled by moms who put their kids down really late. I've noticed that if I put my kids down earlier, I have the energy to put them down. I'm not like dragging my feet are getting impatient, but I also have more time for myself. It seems like they wake up at the same time no matter what time they go down. I don't know if that's the same gates for your kids, but also sometimes I put them in there and they they stay playing with each other for awhile and I'm like That's fine. I need my free time. Honestly, we've been doing 07:00. Now. Collette, my oldest has an early school time, but they have to No. Go to Bed for 30 min to an hour. But they are like playing in there and chatting and making up stuff. And it's kinda cute. But I need it. I need it. And that's not selfish because when I let, when they go to Bed later, I am not as Patient are loving because the knight is already gone. It feels. So that's okay to be selfish and put them Tibet earlier. Sleep is good for them. You'll likely want to. Yeah, a lot of times I put them down and I still like I need some breathing space. I'm right now I'm trying to figure out how to have energy in the evening and I think maybe exercising or something so that I can feel more. Sometimes if I clean right after they go to the BED for a few minutes, it invigorates me or helps me feel alive. Because yeah, let's see, is this falling? Dear? Pause. Sorry about that. So China find that energy in the evening sometimes can be hard for me. I really try earlier on in the day to get stuff done. Nap time is definitely better spent than in the evening. Try to find, we'll talk more about that layer by try to find activities to help my career and myself and my mental sanity. It don't require too much brainpower in the evening. So everyone's different. But yes. So see the sacredness of NAB time and free time in school time hours by making a list so that you're prepared. The things that you don't need your full attention, that you can do when they're awake versus what you can do when they're sleeping. So that when you find free time, you're not twiddling your thumbs, scrolling Oh, it's so easy to scroll and then be like where the time go. I have no free time. Now, you have you have some free time. You just need to be smart about it. You don't need to push like love over Fear. Like if you show in yourself some self-love is taking a bath or a nap. You do that. You need it. But for me that is often working on my business because I love it. I love connecting with people through my Art. Yeah, I understand that everything is easier when kids are asleep. So it's tempting to want to clean or, you know, make meals or whatever during nap time, whatever. But for me, what has helped me has been using that quiet time where I can really focus to use my brain. If my brain isn't totally fried. Sometimes meditating first are like journaling out my thoughts helps open up space for that because it can be emotionally exhausting. Few Mom I'm sure you've noticed. If your kids don't nap, they're probably almost school age, so put them in preschool or whatever. You can then use that time wisely. Okay. Oh, yeah. I just wanted to iterate, but if you're not prepared, I find that the night before if I'm going through and I'm figuring out what I'm gonna do during my free time that I'm more likely to do it the next day because I'm like prepared for that is what I'm gonna do next. If I don't have that, then I'm going to lay down and just relax, which is good, which is good. But I do find that I'm often energized by these things that I'm passionate about and that feel that they're true to my purpose then my blueprint and helping me feel like me, that energizes me. So if I have a plan to do it and I go ahead and do it, then I actually find energy doing that. So try to dive right into an activity that's high priority for your soul. And you'll find that you'll get a lot more done if you've prepared for that. Here's some examples for me to select. You have some ideas through all off of when the kids are awake, I clean, I work out, which is really That's a tricky one for some people. If working out is important to you, if he of big goals that are athletic, maybe you want to do that without the kids. But for me, where really I just went until like work on that Mom belly. You don't have any huge athletic goals. I work out with them around or with the TV babysitting. You know what I mean? They're not in up in my space when I'm trying to work out. When the kids are awake. Another thing that I tried to do is get some sunshine. That's something I can do with the kids, is go to the park or go outside for a little bit, hanging out with other Mom friends. That's something I like to do with my kids around because it's a double whammy. Kids get to play, I get to have adult time. The coloring part of my Art process I can do with kids around because I'm not a colored person, I'm more of a sketch idea person. So those are things that I do and the kids are asleep. But when the kids are round, I can do that if I if it depends with my first and my second, I really was able to. Now it's my third. It's just a little bit too much Chaos Tiwi to be doing that. So just be patient with the phases of Motherhood. Showering. I shower when they're when they're awake. I'm getting food ready, laundry dishes, answering emails is something I do. I also lately have been posting on social media when I'm laying with my son who likes having someone there while he's falling asleep. Online grocery shopping. Because going to the grocery store with that, many people as sometimes post on social media, spending on social media listening to inspiring podcasts in books to help me feel engaged in the community. It's nice to listen to stuff from other artists and business people. Helps me. Learning while I'm going about my day is nice with the kids. And then when they're asleep, I often meditate or a journal. The sketch phase of the drawing, like planning or quality time with my husband or, you know, just just use it well, use it well, scrolling on your phone, I just find that it doesn't invigorate me. It doesn't help me at all. I mean, it helps me like numb myself, but it doesn't do anything past that. So if these are all on the same list, it would feel like too much. So it's kind of my brain just kinda compartmentalizes and it helps me. So I hope that that is useful to you in some way. If you are to be a light for those you love, you must find ways to nourish yourself, to feed your fire and keep it burning. This is according to how your brain works. Like I said, like mine compartmentalizes. So that's why kids awake, kids asleep or like free time versus Mom time trying to figure that out. It just helps my brain be more productive. So don't write what you think you should write, but do what feels good to you. But just being more mindful of it is going to start helping make changes in your schedule. You are worth the quiet moment. You are worth the deeper breaths, and you are worth the time it takes to slow down, be still and rest. So I'm realizing I didn't take I don't think I have a section in this program about day care versus not daycare babysitting nannies versus not nannies? Probably because I feel like the love over Fear helps that a lot. Like do you want a nanny because you're afraid that you're nothing if you don't have a zillion products out there, do you want to go to daycare because you're better know, there's just like the love over Fear helps and love for yourself is really important in that. I don't know that I would suggest one or the other for me, I've just needed to find what works for me. I had a lot of guilt with the nine to five, and I didn't actually get that much more done. For me. I calculated how much time I was actually productive and how much time it took for me, like the least amount of time for me to feel like I was accomplishing stuff without it feeling like work because the like when I was dropping them off at nine and picking them up at the end of the day, it started to feel a little bit like work. Instead of just like this FUN thing that I was getting to do. So I had to calculate how much time that is for me and maybe for you it is a nine to five and that's awesome and totally fine. But for me, it's a few hours. So right now I do have them in a pre-school daycare. And I'd a regular daycare. I've noticed I needed it every day for at least a couple hours. I still have my daughter at home. She's almost too, but even just having one less kids in the house has helped me focus because my daughter doesn't really talk yet. So as able to think anyways, I'm just showing you my thought process here. But find it if you're feeling inks, the upset, depressed, anxious, make a change. You're worth that you're worth the price of a daycare or preschool. And really there's positives for the kids to like. It's been really good for my son to get out and about. Then I don't feel mom guilt of like, I don't love taking them out and doing activities. It feels really stressful and my anxiety kinda Peek sometimes because my kids are a little bit, they're very energetic, will say that. And so I noticed it was good for him to get out of the house, have these activities, this structure, and then to come home and have this be like little home nest where we smuggle in watch shows and take it chill. Yeah, and it has been really beautiful. Finding that balance where I'm really happy as a mom now. So find that whatever that is for you, it can be daycare. It can be having a babysitter for a couple of hours. Some other ideas are, we have a local rec center and the child care is really cheap and it's like max 2 h for us. It's like to 50 a kid or something per hour. And that I did that for awhile. Give me a couple of hours. Little young girls, they are the best babysitters because they they don't have phones yet and they actually play with the kids. And my kids love love the little sitters that come over. Because if you're drawing in the house, it's not that important for them to be like crazy old, depending on the ages of your kids, right. But she comes over and plays with them and it's really cheap. So I pay her like $5 an hour and she has a blast because she just gets to come and play, obviously up to find the right kid for that, that's responsible and enjoys taking care of people. But there are little kids like that out there. Anyways. The possibilities are endless if you're open to it. If you're just like, Oh, I can't I can't afford it or I can't level blah, blah. You're not gonna be able to find anything. But if you open up your brain to like, what could if there was a way for me to afford this, if there was a way for this to work out, what would it look like? And it doesn't have to be black or white one way or the other. You can find what works for you to find that perfect balance. So that's it for today. Tomorrow we'll talk about delegating, which I think we'll probably cover this NAMI and babysitting stuff too, because delegating it's great to delegate. See that 4. Delegating : We're back to talk about delegating. Please don't mind my super comfy position. This position feels really good on my back. Have you guys noticed that notice that upward dog, I guess, from bending over and drawing a better, That's a nice stretch. Anyways, we're going to talk about don't hesitate to delegate. Yeah, delegation. When I Googled to XIV, delegate, right. It turns out I didn't, and I spelled it DE lit ATE. But turns out that's delegate means to bind up or bandage. So I thought that was fitting because if you don't delegate, then you'll end up delegating immuno. If we don't, if we spread ourselves too thin, We're gonna get pulled until we rip so we have to get bandaged up. So don't wait till it's a must. A lot of times we wait to ask our husbands or other people for help until we're broken. Right. Do you guys relate to that? So you'll pay for it physically and emotionally by not delegating. Are you trying to do it all? If you're always trying to do at all, you'll wind up meeting to have that help. And then it might come at an unfortunate time or put people out if it's like a need, you know, ask for help before before you're breaking point. Having a career as a mom doesn't mean you need to do more. Just means that you gotta do it smarter and figure out what's most important to you. And I'd like you to think about what household mommy tasks you enjoy doing, which you do because you have to do. Now there's a lot there's a lot on lists of have to do that. I understand. And not everyone can hire a cleaning service. But of course, like if you are open to it, you'd probably find cheaper routes. I do have a hard time spending money on something that's about to get messy again in 10 min. But figuring out how to make the household chores Fun and enlightening, like listening to Art podcasts or business podcasts or mindset things like really helps it start to feel productive to me that it's something FUN from my brain to get to do while I'm doing a mindless task. But which ones do you love doing? Either things that you love doing. Do you like gardening or higher Gardner. Do you need to do the cleaning? If you can hire out. Hire out. Do you wear as a badge of honor? When I say like, you do it all, you're amazing. You do so much. I feel like that's a badge of honor for a lot of us women and we need to rethink that because just because we can, doesn't mean that you are super woman because you're doing everything. You know what I mean? You could trade off kids with neighbors like hire babysitters, trade-off. I'm babysitting if you want to swap Peru because this is important as it is for you to be there for your kid. You can do like kids swaps. They take your kids for a couple of hours. You take their kids for a couple of hours. Gets you kids making friendships? Some I yeah, that works for some people. Do you need to have fancy meals each night? Is food, your love language? I know my mom and my mom's mom food was there. Love language. So I felt a lot of pressure around having these elaborate dinners. So I found a lot of stress in those times. But then figuring out that you can actually do like pretty simple quick meals that are even healthy. Those like microwaveable vegetables where you just throw it into the microwave. Heist and a plug-in? Yep. And then if you like gardening sure do the gardening. But if you don't tire a gardener and delegate to your husband, talk about the different things that you guys like to make sure that everyone's happy in completing the tasks. So what is draining your time and energy? All sorts of possibilities designed your life. You can have more control to create a happy life than you realize. Okay, we often do things because of our culture, because we were growing up that way because we see it on TV, because we read about it in books because our mom was a certain way. But you have creative ability to make it what you want it to be. You have the control to make a change, just decide and be open to the possibilities. Be open to change and doing things at different way. I really want you to think about what chores you'd like to you yourself as much as anybody in the entire universe deserves your love and affection. That was Buddha. I'd like you to make a list of what chores and motherly duty is you enjoy doing and which ones drain you. So what are you going to delegate? And to whom? Alright, there's a lot of opportunities out there. There's some people who are willing to have cheap labor. You could hire someone that you know or like a little teenager to mow the lawn or whatever it takes, but try to design as I feel like we're often, we feel like we're victims to our life, right? But then turns out my husband was looking up services that fold your laundry and do do your laundry and fold them for you and it wasn't as expensive as I was anticipating. So there are possibilities if you are open to them. And just a reminder, You're awesome. Just in case you needed to hear that you're great. You're doing great. Just keep doing your best and that is enough. And that's it for today. Really think about it. What you enjoy doing, do you enjoy cooking? Do you enjoy cleaning? Design a life that you love? Make space for the things that bring you joy. So you can be a happy mom 5. Energy Coaster : Hi. Today we're going to talk about probably my favorite little nugget of wisdom in this whole class. Because I feel like it has been the key for me and my Motherhood productivity. That's plan according to your energy Coaster. And I happen to love roller coasters. So think about it as a roller coaster, really UPS and the downs of your energy throughout the day. It's a made-up term that I made up about how your energy varies. So I haul them energy drops. For me, I thought I was hypoglycemic for a long time because I have a huge afternoon dip. Especially if I'm not if I'm pushing, pushing, pushing all day. I feel like in the afternoon, late afternoon, My energy just plummets because I think my body is saying, Hey, slow down, time to relax. So listening to that and being conscious of that and not trying to push back has been life changing for me. Understanding this will help you figure out what to do and when this is tied with, I'm talking about what to do in the kids are asleep and awake. You'll want to combine these concepts because when you have a lot of energy, that's when you're going to want to do the things that take the most brainpower. You're not trying to squeeze in time because you have to not trying to like during those energy things. It's not like you have to do a bunch of things, but things that you want to get done and that take brainpower. Let's do it. At those points of the day. I'm not getting into your day and complains your husband about how little you accomplished, how satisfied you are, diaper changes and cleaning. So try, try this. I like to think of it simply. My brain is I'm complicated. Morning, afternoon, and evening is how my brain works in how I schedule and go about my day. So in the morning, my ideal morning routine, I have the most energy in the morning, not like right. Right. Right when I wake up. So we're getting out isn't like crazy important to me, but is something that I wanna do every day to have energy. So I kind of stretch and slowly get ready for the day, helped my kids get to school. But my ideal is to workout, do some spiritual energy work, whatever that is. If it's prayer, journaling or EFT and get dressed and putting on makeup for me even if nobody will see it. Then showering in the morning because it helps put me up. So that helps boost my energy when I do those things. If I don't shower by don't work out, I often can have a mole a day where I just don't have the energy. I just want to lay embed all day. I'm sure you've had those. And then the afternoon. So as the morning, late morning, I most productive around ten to 30. So I have scheduled around preschool around that time so that I can get more done because I find that I'm more focused during those hours. So and I was working on this. It was 02:00 P.M. and I had one at school and one napping and when he refused to nap. But she was around as I was typing things. Right now, it's 320. So I've been able to stay energized because I get to connect with you. I feel connected do. And I have kids napping right now. But this is typically when my energy drops after this, I'm going to start doing other stuff that's a little bit more mindless because I feel my energy drifting around this time. So don't try to do low energy required activities during your productive period if you can avoid it. And obviously that's just a tip. None of this is like rules or have F2's, but just a tip so that you don't lose steam on the things that you really want to do. There's that like eat that frog concept of doing the harder things earlier. Then the evening. I have yeah, I have that dip from three to dinner. So I make dinner and tidy up. I take the kids outside. This is when I like try to get out of the house because I'm not productive in the house. I'm not getting a lot done. So it's the time for me to relax, breathe. I sometimes if I'm feeling drained and I've pushed too much and I haven't listened to my body. I will feel really exhausted and then I will need to meditate and do nothing to recover Because that's what my body asks of me if I have pushed you much. Sorry, that's my daughter in the background. It's hard to be productive as a Mama. So be really loving and forgiving to yourself and don't push. Needlessly. Sometimes we feel like we need to do so much more than we need to as in like having the house clean and organized in a mole of law. Listened to your body and your energy. Coaster. After dinner and clean up, get some work done after the kids go to sleep. But it's important to listen to your body and your soul. So I can color and watch a show in the evening, often saw lot of brainpower. We said this earlier with figuring out bedtime stuff, but yep, design your day. Taking care of myself doesn't mean me first. It means me to love that. So are there activities you can do to create an energy boost? I have found for me I can create an energy boost by if I'm just like sitting all day, then it starts to lag. So I've been trying to use cleaning and tiding as an energy booster. Just do it enough to help. Like walking around, putting things away, get my blood pumping. Are there things to avoid to shy away from during your energy dips? So for me working on my business like landing pages or marketing or things like that, are stressful for me, are not natural or not easier mindless. I don't do those during three to five. If you're not sure, started lists in the notes app on your phone, there's a to-do lists thing or a notes app. Start writing down when you feel tired and what was happening around that time to figure out what can trigger it. I think I still am getting over some dinner pressures and stress and anxiety. So I think that triggers some of my dip, is letting go of some of that pressure of needing to feed my family a luxurious meal. So look for those correlations. For a long time. I always just thought it was just physical, but really mental, emotional and beliefs really factor into the energy drops. And I found that bedtime, if bedtime was later, I would just be totally exhausted because I was letting it like drag on for so long. Like I didn't have like structured boundaries with bedtime. And so I felt kinda like I was getting walked all over and I was just so tired by the end of the day. So setting those boundaries and then just like being mindful, mindful of how things are affecting you. It's not just your body, your thoughts. Are you crazy, powerful? Let's see. Let late bedtime. There we go. Let it go to Lake because of the kids are over tired. I'm a retired and then I just get emotionally can put cleaning sometimes gives me a burst of energy just for a little bit. I don't love cleaning, but I think like moving around, being productive and seeing progress helps me be like, ooh, I like this progress thing. I might get like a hormone boost from it or something. And because it's already something that I need to do. So it's like productive going outside in the afternoon, getting out of the house. For me. It's so embarrassing because there for a long time I did not get out of the house hardly ever because I was just trying to be productive in the moment I could. But because I don't have energy in the evenings, if I go outside during that time, it might be all swapped for you as far as when these happen, I just want you to see this example. And then now think about for you, What's your energy level? Draw a graph in here. So mine would be my energy level morning would be high, then it would go down in the afternoon, Peek a little bit in the evenings. So what does yours look like? I want to see it. So the key is to plan energy boosting activity before you have a break for cutting, putting the kids of BED are before nap time so that you can ready to do what you want to do during those times. And then combining your kids away kids asleep list and formatting that into your energy Coaster to find the ideal schedule for you. So look at, look at that information that you've figured out and start to chunk what you're going to do. And maybe you're a schedule and maybe you like to have things planned out by time. For me, it's very vague. It's very big for me. Instead of by time I do like eat breakfast and then I do this and then I do that instead of by time. And by time would probably be better for me. But I liked the flexibility and I like not feeling locked down. Because it is nice that we have a lot of freedom in our Motherhood journey. So however you want to do that, however you want to schedule it. But think about your energy Coaster and your kids awake. Kids asleep or kids at school? Kids around? Yeah. I would love to hear what you guys come up with. And that is it for the energy Coaster. Next, we're going to talk about how does simplify 6. Simplify : Alright, lovely mommy's. We are back. Today. We're going to talk about simplifying, which is something that a lot of us are not very skilled at. I don't know if it's just the the mothers before us. There life was taking care of their family in their house and they're kids. And so they wanted to do a really great job of that. So they kind of over complicated it in some ways because that's all that they were doing and they wanted to be really good at it and they wanted to use their time wisely. And I mean, that was like cultural pressures of keeping a clean house and fancy meals or whatever that might be. So let's chat. So if I give you this complement, how do you feel if I say, wow, you do so much. You are so busy. Are those badges of honors? Is that like feel like a compliment? Is that like wow, yeah, I do do a ton. Good for me. Do you feel that? I'm just curious because for me definitely the busy thing. I always take that as like such a compliment. Oh, I'm so busy. I must be important in doing good things. But it was busy work. I wasn't the stuff that I was working on just helps me feel busy, not necessarily getting me anywhere. And my husband has put this into perspective for me. He's all about efficiency. And also, if you don't need to do with this, don't do it. He's kind of on the other end of the spectrum than me, not with autism spectrum. The spectrum of like, I don't want to say laziness over achieving versus practicality. Or I don't want to say laziness, he's not lazy, but he does find the most efficient way to get something done. And if it doesn't need to get done, you won't do it. So the goal is not necessarily for you to be busy or even successful. It's for you to be happy and balance and feel peace. And that comes through simplification, which is not the goal of a lot of advertisers out there and media and all that because they want you to buy stuff. So you need stuff, you need more, you need to do more, you need to be more. But instead, cutting that down and simplifying is the key to inner peace. So what do you need to simplify in your life? We over-complicate things because we're comparing ourselves to other people's strengths, right? So the complexity, the complexity would be, you know, you need to be a freaking hot model all the time and have a mega clean house and have this and less and less than that. Because you're looking at other people who those are, their strengths are something that they like. And you're trying to do it all right. But you don't need to do it all. You don't need to. Yeah. And if it's somebody that they love that brings them joy like cleaning the house or baking beautiful, wonderful meals. Don't compare to that. Put your whole heart and soul into what brings you joy and then simplify the rest. So stories. I'm going to Save As and then I'm going to tell you, I started. For me. I used to put so much pressure around dinner time because my family show their loved that way. And I I'm not I don't love to cook like it's fine. Every once in awhile it's kinda funds for me to create something new. I don't love following recipes, but something, something new that I've never made before can be FUN. But as a daily, every single meal, definitely not. And I put a lot of pressure on myself and started thinking, yeah, that I had hypoglycemia because of my energy dibs before dinner and then just so exhausted around that time. And I think because it's not what I wanted to do, but I felt like I needed to and it was really hard to identify why I was getting so moody around those hours. And it could be that my energy drops. They don't have energy for it. But it just there's all this tension around it. And as much as my husband kept saying like, is not your job to feed us. Like it's okay. We can eat out or let's just do spaghetti or have a serial night that pressure. It was something that I put on myself. And even though he was saying that I expected that he wanted me to create incredible meals. So yesterday, after recording one of these lessons, it was out of love because I love Indian food and my husband has been talking about wanting to go out for Indian food. And sounds like I'll just make And so I made homemade naan and I made mango lassi and two things of curry and just did all this stuff. Realizing like if it had just been for me, I don't think I would have cooked that much or put that much into it. Especially if you'd look at my lunches there just for me, I keep it very simple, but there was some sort of pressure still lingering about dinner and making a delicious dinner for my husband. My kids don't eat like hardly anything. So picky. It was mostly for him. Then he comes home and he says something like this Curry, like I would like my curves a little bit wetter. This is a little bit thick. And I like in my head it just was like, Are you kidding me? I like, put all this time into it and I wasn't taking it personally because I've come along way that way. But it was kinda frustrating. And then I realized it's because I did it for the wrong reason. I did it for him and I did it out of pressure to make a delicious fancy meal. Not because I loved cooking, right? If I love cooking, it would just be like, No, I did this for you. I did this video. I was grumpy about it. And the kids kinda started getting hard at the end and he just doesn't care. So we had this conversation after about it. He does not care about having fancy meals like you'd be fine to just eat out all the time. Super, super simple meals that he knows he's going to like. It was just interesting to have that talk about these pressures that would put on ourselves. So for me the pressure would be to have really magnificence meals that, that is how I will get loved. Communicate with your spouse about expectations and whatnot, but don't try to put words into their mouth if that makes sense or do what you think that you need to design your life, you have a blank sheet of paper as your life, like who cares about culture, goals, resilience, and the word Colt is in culture. Just a reminder there. Live your life. Some other things to simplify. So think about does your home needs to be spotless all the freaking time. Allow yourself to loosen up. If you're not getting as much done as you'd like. If you are wanting to pursue an Art career, if you are needing more time and your day, you can try to let go of some of that need to have it absolutely clean and I understand our brains work way better. It's organized and clean. So that just depends on your priorities and what you're wanting. But if you're unhappy, maybe try it. That's something that we we Fear these things and we stay consistent in our routine, right. Because we're afraid of like, Oh, no, I can't because then my brain isn't going to function very well. We stay in the same spot. If you're here, you're wanting a change, right? If you're here listening to this, it's because something in your Motherhood balanced feels a little bit off and that you're wanting to do more, something different. So be open to change, be open to trying something, be open to questioning your doubts and those things that are coming into your head. Oh, but I can't because question that. Try it. Try it on a shirt at a shopping mart store, mall. Try it on and see if you'd like it before you say ma'am. Okay. So do you actually need to work out for an entire hour? I don't know if you're one of those like people who's always working out every day. And I used to do that. And I've been cutting down a little bit trying to be efficient with my with my workout because I'm walking around cleaning the rest of the day. So I guess I'm just saying, try to think of question these beliefs that you have. If things need to be a certain way, right? Then don't say yes. Just because you feel like you need to in order to be a good person. So when we talked about feelings, thoughts, and beliefs, the feeling being like feeling stuck or trapped by other people's demands the thoughts. If I need to say yes to this, I need to say yes to this and aren't to be a good person. And the belief is that if I don't say yes, I'm not a kind, generous person. But we need to be honest with other people and show them love and service in the way that you like to serve. So if you'd like to draw for other people are like create things or watch people's kids is one for you, are making them dinner if that's a way of serving, do that instead of There's just so many things that you could do every day, pick the ones that bring you joy. And it's so interesting to talk to other people who enjoy things that I don't. And then they're feeling guilty for not doing some of the things that I like doing, if that makes sense. So they are throwing a party, like I enjoyed decorating, but then I put a lot of pressure on myself for not having amazing homemade everything at the party. So instead, like embracing, like it's okay that we're all different. If we all went to parties and they were all the same, because everybody did things the same. That'd be boring. But play to your strengths and what is FUN, frail, and delegate the rest There's that delegation. Don't over complicate your life. Okay? You'd do that later, but read out when the busy Mom years simplify as much as you can. Think about your life for a little bit. Do you have your kids in a zillion activities which is causing me to drive this way in that that's great if they're loving it. But it's not necessary. I think it's a good thing. But some people have their kids in like 20 day activities, you know, on Monday, they have software on on Tuesday, they have Art class and on Thursday. So it's okay. Have you can have them pick. Simplify, however that looks for you. Where are you feeling pressure to put a lot of time. But yet just don't want to write now for me that's cleaning. I do like a certain amount of cleaning to like get me moving. So I'm not just sitting around all day. But past that. There are some there are some things that I feel pressure to do that I need to let go of as well. So you can pause it, write that down however you want it, respond to that, but think about it. When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings you joy. Care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life. And if you're over complicating everything else, the No wonder you don't have time to draw or time for your career, time for yourself. I sometimes talk to these moms who like, they schedule every minute and they're doing these and they say like, I'm so busy, I had so much going on. But the actual things, some of them are a little bit like you don't need to take your kids to the Art Museum and the park and to a friend's house today like that's cluttering your brain, at least for me it would. I have found that I need to really simplify. Find what you need, prioritize some more thoughts for you. What are you going to start saying no to? It's hard. I know. Don't worry. Someone else's more than willing to do it. There are people out there who enjoy what you hate doing. And that's okay. You don't have to force yourself to like it. Don't waste your time doing things you want. You feel like you need to use your time on things that you want to do and you'll be happier. And you can pay people and support them who it makes them happy to do the things that you don't like to do. Does that make sense? How can you simplify your life and your Motherhood routines? Pause this video, answer those questions and think about it. And start making changes. How, how are you going to start simplifying? And the next one we're going to let go of excuses and find solutions 7. In Conclusion: So as they come to the conclusion of this class, I would like to take some time to talk about the last key element that if you can get past this, if you can improve on this, then your life will change drastically. Sounds cheesy. This last tip is to let go of excuses and find solutions. Yes, motherhood is so hard. It's a fact. It's challenging emotionally and physically and your patients is tested all day. So yes, it's hard. But if we focus on how hard it is, we're only going to be miserable. And as hard as it is. We know that it's worth it and valuable and important, and that our kids are important and we wouldn't give them up for anything. So as much as I'm a complainer, it's best to try as much as you can to, instead of complaining. Try to find solutions, try to improve. Instead of feeling stuck in it. So yes, it's nice to unload your problems and talk about them. And vent. And validation is really nice because we're really hard on ourselves. But there is something that will actually help change your life for the better. There's usually a solution. There's usually something that you can do if you really, really dig. And we stay in victim mode for the sympathy, for Fear of what will happen if we're getting out of our comfort zone. So if you want the same life that you've had and that you've been having, then stay put and you can then tell you. But if you want a better life That's happier and lighter and more pleasant, Let's try something new. So it's not just happy, happy, that's heavy, but it's not always the answer. But when you can plan in your head or out loud, your subconscious says, oh, okay, I see, that's, that's it. That's how it is. Okay. Let's, let's keep that going because that's familiar, that homeostasis thing, when you're trying to lose weight, your body fights because it says no, I want to maintain the same thing with your thoughts where you're like, Wow, this is really hard. Your brain is trying to take the least amount of effort and it's like, okay, let's continue this. Let's continue to notice how this is true. Your life won't change until your thoughts and your attitude changes. My husband taught me the statements. Yeah. I find myself getting stuck in his thoughts of, wow, this is awful or like this is a horror seen, mixed with a comedies, same puke going everywhere and screaming and everything. So it's so easy for me to find evidence to validate my theory that motherhood is so hard. But my husband mentioned, why don't you instead think, well, it's not that bad, then start finding evidence of why it's why it's not true, why it's why motherhood is easy. It's not rocket science. Nobody, you're not doing open heart surgery on anyone. Really your main job is to keep your kids safe. And I that can be challenging at times, but is it the worst? Is it the hardest thing ever? So trying to trying to change your perception even though I see, I see you. Hard. It is Draghi. So here in validating that, but it's not that bad, right? You have the freedom to choose your your schedule and you get to be with your kids all the time and go to parks and be outside. And I find that when I get into the state of mind of, oh, it's not that bad, I start finding solutions much faster. It's almost like my brain closes off two possibilities when I'm in that victim mode. And then sometimes if I can really connect back to my soul and find that positivity and think, okay, it's not that bad. There's probably a way to help The situation be easier? Then it's easier for me to think. I think so some examples, excuse. Oh man, I never get any time to draw. Has that gone through your head? Definitely gone through mine. Counterpoint, hire babysitters, stay up a bit later or get up earlier. During nap time, you can draw or leave the dirty dishes in the sink till tomorrow morning and go ahead and draw it. Now. You see there are, there are ways that you can draw now if you make that happen. And obviously there are things that you need to heal. So I'm creating a healing for Artists class because there are things that get in the way of us actually doing what would make us happy. So here's another excuse. How if I just had more time, I would really have a glorious career. My kids are in a way of my success, of my goals. My achievements. Counterpoint, more time doesn't actually always equate to more success. In fact, only having a chunk of time here and they're often leads to better productivity. And I've found that my creativity isn't a whole day battery life, right? Do you feel that way too? So it's like I would not be able to wake up at nine and work till five and actually be productive that much time. I doubt that other people in the workforce are actually productive for most of their day. Because if you're just trying to focus on one task, you can get stuck and it's hard to sorry. I'm not sure. I'm not sure that I'd actually get that much more done. If I had a full day to myself. I'd probably waste a lot of time because time wouldn't seem as precious. And my kids encouraged my creativity. So that's the counterpoint there. Excuse. I think kids weren't so cleaning and needy. I could probably actually get something done. Counterpoint. They won't be little forever. And when they get older, they won't want any to do with you. Enjoy the cuddles and maybe get out some crayons and draw together or go visit the library, grow to a bookstore and Art Museum. Which that's not a very great example, but just a different way of thinking. Okay, this is such a mess. I'm never gonna get around to my project. You can think that or you can think, what would it take? That's another good phrase. What would it take? What would it take? Dire cleaning service. What would it take to get some help here? What would it take to get my spouse onboard and helping out so I can have some time. This one hits home. Insert husband's name has it's so easy they get to go to work and have adult time all day. And I'm stuck here slaving away, wiping bots, picking up toys, and losing my sanity. Counterpoint, if you have a spouse or partner that's bringing in the baking, that you can have your needs met, that is a wonderful place to be. It takes so much pressure off of your creativity. You can be creative without the pressure of needing to make money to survive. And that is ideal to be able to draw any come up with ideas and to try things. Knowing that your children's livelihood and your livelihood does not depend on it. Yes. So I want to end with this beautiful quote by Julie. Thanks, Dr. Julie hints, motherhood is a relationship, not just a role, a connection, not a job title. So there's so many ways we can do this Motherhood thing to be a good, supportive mom in the way that our kids need us to be and be be there for them without maybe being made and the chef and whatever. Are there things that we can do to be more flexible and open to new ideas and new ways of doing this. So benefits of being a Mom, Artists, flexibility, creative inspiration, less pressure, time to think there are actually some benefits to being a mom and an Artist. In Conclusion, I know you're time is precious. So I wanted to try to condense my thoughts into this format without getting overwhelmed. But you're doing so great. I hope, I hope this helped. Let me know if it did because I just, I just want to help. It's such a hard phase. And it is hard to put aside who we are as an Artist and not feel resentful. And maybe you don't deal with that, but I've definitely dealt with that, but I'm feeling so much better now, so happy in my Art career and in my mother had journey that I hope you can start seeing progress and feeling differently. I look at my kids differently. I love our relationship. I love waking up and being a mom and being able to do both and feeling more free and capable to live the life that I want to while being the mom that I want to be. So I really would love to hear any experiences that you have as you are trying to shift your mindset as well as optimize your energy Coaster. Putting love over Fear and simplifying and creating habits and routines that will help you find your Zen creative fulfillment while also enjoying time with your kids. So hopefully I will see you in another class in the future. Until then, happy drawing and happy babies. Nagel's 8. Project Description: Alright, so I wanted to, before leaving, go over exactly what your project is. We talked about this within the lessons, but I wanted to reemphasize so that you can remember to actually do it. If you'd just for listening to all of the classes back-to-back. Instead of doing your work as you go, just fine. So I want you to create a list of what best for you to do when the kids are awake and at home versus the kids are asleep or at school. So if your kids are like if you have young phase where they're sleeping or if they're older and going to school. What tasks require all of your thought and attention and you need that quiet and that focus. List those under what to do when your kids are asleep or at school. Then those tasks that you have that you can do pretty well with distractions for me, I don't need it to be peaceful, are quiet while I'm doing the dishes. Unless of course I'm a till my wit's end and I just need peace. Of course, there's those times too. But even within my Art Practice, the sketching phase, the idea of phase, I need silence so that I can really focus my thoughts. But for me, coloring is not so much brainpower. So in the evenings when I'm tired or even if there are kids around, if there like reading or watching TV, reading. And then I would like, is that realistic? I love when they're sitting there reading, but be nice if they were always just doing a little bit. So that happens. I know. But anyways, so I hope you get the point. Like when the kids are awakened at home, what can you be doing that doesn't require your full attention since your kids do require a lot of attention. And this will help you as we continue. Then I also want a list of what chores and motherly duties you enjoy doing, which drain you and which one you'd see would like to delegate in order to find more time for your creative pursuits. And then I would like you to fill out this. You can print these or you could take a snapshot of them and go into Procreate or whatever Art program you have and just like write in what you want. Or you can download the template to the canva file and download those and just post those. Or you can just type out some answers in the Skillshare project note part Comments thing. I would love to read them and see them and I think talking about it and having a conversation about it will help solidify it for you to actually start making changes in your routine. Within your energy Coaster, I want you to identify what activities you can do to create an energy boost. So if you go for a walk, if you jog, if you eat chocolates, give you talk to someone in your front yard while you're getting mail. Like, what sorts of things help boost your energy? And then what are those things that create energy dips. So if you talk to your mom at night, does that mean that after you talked to her, you just want to go to Bed instead of something that energizes you. Or maybe, maybe talking to your mom is an energy boost. So maybe if you eat that, if you eat a whole, entire pizza, you tend to have an energy dip afterwards. Tried to identify those things because as moms, we really need to optimize. It's okay to have the pizza once in awhile, but just being mindful and aware so that on days when you are like, I would really like to be productive today, that you will know what creates energy for you and what creates dips. Also, are you an extrovert or an introvert? Do you have an energy boost when you're going to parties and socializing with others? Or is it better for you to have quiet time, maybe some journal time before turning over to your, your creative time. If you're not sure, then start noticing and being mindful of that within your every day. Then. I want you to create a graph according to the time of day that you noticed, your energy seems to go up and down. For me, it definitely I have more energy in the morning whether or not I'm still trying to figure out if that's correlated with what happens during the day and my triggers and my energy highs and lows. Or if it's a time of day thing because our cortisol does fluctuate and that does change our capacity to exert a lot of energy. So for me the morning time and then around lunchtime, obviously And then for me, it often doesn't go back up. And so identifying what sort of activities can help increase that energy in the evenings that once the kids go to Bed, I can be productive. And sometimes it's okay to not be productive and to just watch Netflix if that's what your heart and hormone in soul needs. But there are those times when I'm like, I am so excited about this goal of mine. I wish I had an energy and knowing what it is that you can turn to help increase that energy Coaster as I call it. Then lastly, if you just want to post, That's great. But I would love to see what you guys are thinking about. And so we can look at other people's notes and say, Oh, that does kinda energize me too. Let's work together on this. So I want you to come up plan however you want to organize it. For me. I I organize more in chunks in my brain, especially because of the unpredictability of nap time, etcetera. And things that come up or diapers and whatever. It's hard to be very structured for me and my personality as well. So I do like a vague morning around breakfast. What happens, what happens during lunch? What happens during dinner? What happens in those times in between and nap time in there too, as in my brain. So I don't always do it by time, but I would love to see you map out ideal day. You could also put like what's happening right now. And then you could put an ideal and try to figure out how to go from where you are to where you want to be. And that could include the delegation. So I want this part to take all those pieces together and start thinking, okay, I would love this many hours a day to create Art, to work on my projects. I am most energized at this point in the day. So this is when I would like to be doing those activities, but I can't do them with kids around. So I would take take from that list of delegates, get a nanny, or figure out some way that you can optimize the times when you feel the most energized in order to be doing some of those projects that require a lot of your brainpower. And maybe that's a couple of days a week because maybe you want a couple days a week where that brainpower is there for your children if they're older and they need your full everything. Younger kids. Sometimes you can go to the park, can you can smile at them and engage with them without having to have lot of brainpower. You know what I mean? I just want you to take this opportunity though, to map it out. To take what you have learned, what you have decided about, what to simplify and how long things can take. Do you need to be creating elaborate dinner meals? How much time do you want to be allotting too, that I would love to see what you guys come up with. Hope you've enjoyed this class, and I hope to see you in some of the other Art classes. I have a lot to coming your way. One of the main parts for me of a productive mom while being having it be a Side Gig Mama thing without putting too much pressure on myself to prove myself and to make a lot of money and to be successful in the way that I see other people being successful because you are as a mom, this is such a full-time thing that you can't compare yourself to full-time artists and their careers. And we just never know what their, what their life looks like. So that's going to be different for you. And so I am working on a course that I'm going to upload as soon to Skillshare about this, this cycle that I have found to help create passive income that will continue making money and reaching people and benefiting people without needing your constant attention and time and energy. And so there's this machine, dream fulfillment machine that I have found where you can be creating Art that will also fueled your dreams for you and your family and vacations. And without putting that pressure on, okay, I need to provide for my family because if you are in a situation where you do get to be that nurturing role and have someone who is taking on more of that financial burden. You do want to create and reach people without feeling pressure to. I felt a lot of pressure that I need to validate my Arts hobby by having it make a lot of money so that I could spend money on a nanny and childcare and help and cleaning services or whatever. So anyways, I want you to have the life that you want and design it the way that you want. And so working on expressing maths in an upcoming course. So if we, I will see you there