Socializing for Introverts (WITH EXAMPLES)

1. Introduction: Hello, ladies and gentlemen. This is your captain speaking. And I am here to teach you how to be social. Well discourse. It is only for introverts. Well, I do think that extroverts don't need to learn how to be social because they can already be social with these. So the reason why I am making this course specifically for introverts, is because introverts are too shy to talk. They are too shy to open their mouth. You know, whenever they want to start a conversation, they, they kind of panic on the inside. And they even pandemic when someone mentions their name or when they have to speak. So that's why I'm here. I'm an introvert as well. And I will help you to become a more social person. And it can be honest. It's actually easy. Well, it's not easy but you gotta practice. You know, I'm not. I presume all daga, daga, Aldon dot during those. Beautiful. I'm trying to learn Japanese solid. That's why I like the Japanese culture. You've got to practice a lot. You gotta do it every day. And all you have to do is say hello. Just say hello to a stranger. And then do it ten times, or even 100 times, or even a thousand times. The more you say hello, or the more you open up your mouth and talk to a stranger, the easier becomes quicken. Gotten tough, right? Hey, near launch. Putting login. 2. The structure of a conversation: Okay, so you want to learn how to socialize, right? So let's look at how a conversation kinda looks like. The structure of a conversation starts with an open. An open is basically the first thing that you say to another person. It can be a very simple thing such as hello, hi, how are you nice to meet you? How are you doing? That's basically what an open is. The first few things that you say to a person. And then there is the attention. That is the moment where the older person starts showing some sort of investment in a conversation. Attention is usually where the small talk happens, and it's also a quite simple phase. It is as simple as what are you up to, what you're gonna do or what have you done yesterday? Do you have to work the night? These are such simple questions that you can ask to another individual to make them invest a little bit more. If you want someone to be more or less interested in you or entrusted to engage in deep conversation with you. You first have to be interested in that person. Keep asking them questions and tried to establish the things that you have in common with each other. Just keep asking questions and figure out what two of you having common. If you have established some commonalities, then you can take it even further. You can even decide what you want to do with that kind of information. Do you want to do some kind of specific things that get us, such as eating sushi St together or even walking out together, or even go for a run together or go to do some kind of photography, for example. And that's basically the moment where you have to make a decision. A decision where you want to do something together, what a person, if you want to, that is. And then there is the last step. The clothes, basically how you say goodbye to a person. Because believe it or not, there are some people that don't know how to end a conversation. And what they usually do is they wait until the other person and the conversation. But I take it that you are here to learn how to start a conversation, right? So if you want to end a conversation, you basically have to do is after you have exchanged contact information, what do you have to do is say things such as, okay, alright, see you then. It is basically as simple as that. As long as systematic racism exists, someone who will stand here. And that's, you know. Oh, okay. Yeah. I thought that you would be standing here by yourself like all day long until the police comes and arrest you or whatsoever or drops you off? I think. So. You're taking parents? Mostly time. When I learned this schedule today, nobody often means two hours to two hours. What happens if you need to beat me like I wasn't prepared or you better prepare for good. Because if I would do this, I would like have like, I would have a huge problem because I have a small bladder. Meaning if I think about a water, I have to go to the bathroom every five minutes for kinda sucks. And unfortunately, I think she likes to me. Of course, if you don't mind being a film, let's help you try to do look friendly. I look friendly. We look amazing. I look amazing. Yoke intelligence. Well, I'm actually from him for YouTube. So, so that's why, you know what, I'm going to kill myself if that's better. But you want to take a picture of me? Okay. Of course. So she is going to take a picture of me while I'm talking to the camera? Looking up. Yes, Grandma. So maybe you can use agreement and some picture on Instagram. 3. The more you talk the easier it is: If someone asks me if I am an introvert or an extrovert, I will have to say both deep down inside, I will always be an introvert. Because if I don't talk, if I didn't open up my mouth for anything, I will always, you like my interface itself. But the more I start talking, The more I opened up my mouth, the more extroverted I become. And once I start talking, I won't shut up. That's basically how I am. And if I don't socialize for a week or whatsoever, then I will be very introverted, you know, and I don't even know how to start a conversation when someone asked me like how I didn't know, I didn't know either no harm doing. That's basically how I feel on the inside. Or if someone asked me like, hey, what do you click, I'm very nervous to answer such a simple question. Right now. I am able to start a conversation with any person, even a random stranger, streets, excuse me, you have a question. Yeah. I realized that there are many tricks. People living in this village is a correct no, no. Yeah. Yeah. I think that this a very interesting to see this countryside of Germany. Because when tourists go to Germany, they only want to go to Cologne, Berlin and all those stupid citizen. But for me, this CV is more or disadvantaged is more interesting to see. I can see what culture really looks like. Turkish. Yes. Mostly sitting on it. Yes. That's all I can say in Turkish. I'm sorry. That's all like I say. And always have a good day. Syntax. It's easy for me to go up and talk to them like, hey, how are you doing? That's how simple it is for me. And that's because I have practice this a lot. A lot. I think I don't know. I think I've done this more than a thousand times. That's all often I practiced my social skills even with random people. 4. Why you need to practice your social skills: The big problem would introverts is that they think that they don't need to socialize. They think that they don't need people around them. But the moment we have to open up your mouth, the moment when you have to talk. You have no idea what you have to save. Me. Like sometimes there are moments in your life and you've gotta talk. And if you'd never practice talking with people than how we handle such a situation. That's why this necessary to know how to socialize or to know how to talk with anyone. I was in Germany about a month ago or maybe two months ago. And I was hiking. I was hiking up the mountain and when I was going down the mountain, I got lost. But it's not like I was by myself or anything. I mean, like even though I did not know the way back, there were several people walking. And yes, I did ask for directions, you know, but I was so tired, my phone was about to die. And if I'm gonna be honest, I I wanted to ask for a write book. My introvert itself was too afraid, was too scared to ask them for help. But eventually someone solved it all was lost. And he offered offered me help. And I actually wanted to say no, I don't need help. But then again, I will still tired at the moment. So he offered help and I and I basically took it. And luckily that friendly driven person he gave me well, go around and ask people if they could bring me to train station to the nearest train station. And yeah, it worked. He basically got me arrived and that how I that is how I got to the nearest train station. So I have a problem. I think I'm lost. Yeah. How can I find muscle occurring? Well, I guess if you've been to that direction, you know, we can talk. Maybe it wants somebody to take you along, okay, that will be perfect. That would be totally perfect. This is your data to make foolish. We saw each other because you said you want to talk to us? I don't remember because I said it. Probably too many people. Just say, oh, really, okay. Because sometimes I see that Germans look weird at me when I say equipment that are chunked. Ok. So let's just say hello. Because like you saying, like, wow, it's so much right. 5. Two kinds of introverts: If you think that's socializing is still difficult for you, then this is all you have to do. Just say hi, that is all. That is all you have to do. And you can see high two to people that are working. For example, people in shops, people encoding stores, People in the supermarket that cache. Because people that are working, oftentimes the art boards, you know, when, for example, a customer says hello to them, they feel appreciated. The really do. So. That is basically what you could do. Just say hello, say hello to a cache, to someone working in a clothing store, or even the bus driver. That is o, just say hi, how are you doing? Good afternoon. That's all. Go out there and say hello. Just talk. After years of socializing, I have realized that there are two kinds of introverts. The first one is the introverts that likes to be around people. And the second introvert is the lone wolf. That is someone that actually prefers to be alone, which is me, for example. But I still continue to practice my social skills. Because if I don't, I will lose them. Yes, I will actually lose my social skills. For example, let's say I will have like a lazy, weak or lazy wake of only watching Netflix, playing video games and staying home all the time. What's going to happen is that all of a sudden, I won't even know how to start like a normal conversation again. So that's why it is, it is quite crucial to keep on practicing your social speaking skills. And if I gotta be honest, most of the time, I don't even feel like socializing. I actually don't. I mean, like I was born an introvert, but I still keep on doing it just so that I can socialize in a normal way. In a way that makes me feel comfortable without me panicking whenever someone asks me a question. Sometimes when I am having a conversation with an introvert, I do have to say that it is quite interesting. Don't get angry. It is quite interesting to see how they are panicking on the insight. Because it kinda reminds me of how I used to be. But then again, there is no reason for you depending at all. It all has to do with how confident you feel under insight. The more confident you are, the easier it is for you to express yourself, the easier it is for you to talk in a comfortable way. 6. GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD!: I don't care this. You are shy. I don't care that you are an introvert. People don't care and that you are shy. Just get audio, go outside and talk to people. It's not a difficult thing to do. I mean, wherever you go, there are people. So you'll have to socialize, go out there and talk to people. Don't be afraid. I mean, like, what can you possibly be? Afraid of? Socializing is not a difficult thing to do. All you have to do is practice it 1000 times or 10 thousand times. I'm not even kidding. I'm actually quite serious. Just do it. Keep on doing it. Practice, practice, practice, practice, practice until you get used to it. And even if you get used to it. Keep on practicing the beginning when you start socializing your world boy, you don't even know how to talk to them, even though how to speak. And there are some people that even stuttered, like myself, for example. But the more you do it, the better you are at, the better you are at socializing, the more you feel comfortable in your own skin, and the more you feel confident about the things that you are seeing. You know, sometimes I feel like punching an introvert. Whenever they say that they are too shy to socialize. I'm like, Get out of your head.