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1. Introduction: If you are creative and
have a strong desire to do something, being
create something, but are held back by
negative thoughts, fears, procrastination, perfectionism, self doubt, and so much more. Well, this class is for you. Just imagine being
able to pursue that. One thing that you've
always wanted to do, and you can make it happen. You push through the fear, the self doubt, and start
to see real progress. The work is much more
enjoyable than you ever thought and you just
truly love the process. Well, I want you to know that this vision is
entirely possible. If you're willing to take a
deep look at your behaviors, habits, thoughts and reactions, address any doubts and self sabotage that might
be holding you back, and then take action from a more confident
and positive place. My name is Genetic
Gonzalez and I'm an illustrator designer
and artist coach. I've been working in the
creative industries for over 20 years and in
the last several years, I've been coaching
numerous aspiring and professional artists
from across the globe. During this time, I have noticed that creative face very similar common challenges and obstacles. And to help them
overcome these issues, I have developed
various tools and tips over time which
have proved very beneficial to me
and help me build my confidence in my work
and in my business. And through my coaching. I passed them along to my clients and here I'll be
passing them along to you. Confidence can be cultivated. You can level up your confidence like you can in a video game, unlock the power of
progress through action, repetition,
and awareness. They can help you clear the
way and help you achieve major milestones in your
business and professional life. Now, don't let doubt hold you back from reaching
your full potential. And we'll be talking a lot
more about this in the class. If you are feeling a
calling to do something, something that is weighing on your heart to just really start, but you just can't seem to get yourself to do it or pursue it, or even take that first step. It is usually the thing that
you need to do the most. If you notice when you
hold onto something, the longer you hold
onto something, the heavier it gets, right. The solution for that is to
release it and to let it go. Here. The solution is to take those first steps
and to pursue it. In this class, I
want to help you overcome any ruts,
creative blocks, mental negativity and
procrastination you might be experiencing so you can tap into your confident,
creative self. I will discuss how to
build your confidence as an artist and entrepreneur to help you move
toward your goals. I will discuss four
common causes of a lack of confidence for creatives
and an added side effect. Each cause is so common, each cause is so common that I guarantee you will see
yourself in one of these, I will walk you through
important questions you can ask yourself to help you identify what may be dimming your light. These questions are a deep
dive into your truth and can bring you some
light bulb moments that will help you
break through. Share valuable tips on what I'm calling confidence boosters. These are tips that
are practical tools and actions to do to help
you boost your confidence. You can use them to
help you feel more positive and see the
possibilities for yourself. If you do the deep dive and uncover what common causes
are holding you back, work through the
prompts that I give you and face the truth. I promise you will
have more clarity and confidence moving forward
when you pursue your dreams. You can use these tools whenever you are feeling a
lack of confidence, self doubt, and you can
revisit them as needed. All right, let's get started.
2. Comparison: Comparison kills creativity.
There is room for you. Nobody could do it
with your voice, with your experience, with
your insight. Karen Waldrid. I have a question. Say yes, if you've heard yourself
saying when you've seen another artist work,
man, they're so good. I can never be as good as them. Did you say yes? Say yes, if you've heard yourself saying, I could never fill in the blank because there
are so many others out there that are doing
it way better than I could. Did you say yes? I said, Yes, that
one. I'm guilty. When I started my career in art licensing
and surface design, I had no idea what I was
doing. I really didn't. And I didn't know if
my artwork was even licensable or if it would
resonate with clients, and if it was commercial enough. I didn't know if my collections
were strong enough for the buyers and the
manufacturers. I had no clue. I exhibited at the first
trade show that I did, and this was back in 2013. And I saw so much good art, so much and the artists
were so polished. Their booths were cohesive, and they just really knew
how to present themselves. You could really
see who the Atars were and how they stood out. And that was really
intimidating. Really was. The trade shows can be
a big old mine game. The buyers are
walking by and they smile at you and they
look at your work, and then they just
keep walking right by. And then they go to
the booth next to you, and then they're there
for a long time, and you know that they're
really interested in someone else's
work, but not yours. Um, So, what am I
doing wrong, you know? You're like, left feeling really insecure about your work, and feeling like they're
so much better than me, and I am not getting enough
interest in my work. And that's at least how I felt. I felt defeated before
I even got started before I even started
this new career, right? And I didn't get a lot
of deals from that show, but I did learn a time. I learned a ton, and I realized they still had
a lot of work to do. These artists that
were there and were doing well had figured
out their strengths and had really played
to them and they knew who they were and what they
could do for the market. I knew from seeing how they presented
themselves that I needed more polish on my end and in my presentation and a
more cohesive style. I decided to make some changes, and I began with studying what made them stand out and what I liked about their
work and how they branded themselves and
presented themselves. I started to apply this
learning to my own work, and also in my
presentation of my brand. Okay. And I didn't accomplish all the things I
wanted to improve overnight, but I did stop beating myself up for not being as strong as
the other artists that I saw, and I used it as a
learning experience. What you admire in others is just a reflection of
where you want to be. And I want to say
that differently. The quality you admire in others are qualities that you
would like to possess. So these are qualities that
you can easily see in others, but you can't necessarily
see for yourself. So what you just need
is some polishing. You need to polish those
up and cover them. So because they're already
there in you. They really are. But I want to help you realize
that you can use envy to your advantage by turning this negative energy around
and using it as a tool. The comparison game can be used to learn what you can
do to better yourself. Your envy is indicating
that you want this for yourself and that your emotions are helpful indicator
in this regard. So take this moment of envy as an opportunity to learn
and improve your game. We're going to do an exercise. Look at the art and
artists who make you feel that you aren't good enough.
Really look at their work. What is it that you
see that makes you feel this way? Break it down. Is it the color palettes, their art style, the
execution, all of it. But get into the details
of it and want you to really notice what
it is specifically. These again, are the qualities that you would like to possess. I guarantee there is
something that you admire because it's something you want to achieve
for yourself. You are seeing something reflected back to
you that you desire, you admire, and have in you. So when we're envious of others, they have something
that we want. They have something
that we admire. So what is it that
they are doing specifically that you
wish that you could do. So really take some time and
think about these things, write them down,
break them down, and you will find that
it will really inform you on where you need to go
and improve your own work. Now, specifically, what can
you find in their work? Presentation,
branding, personality? It could be even just the way that they use their color palettes
throughout their artwork. I mean, it could be anything. Well, it takes some
time to dig into that because these are qualities
that you are attracted to, and these are things
that you could also do and bring to the
table in your own way, in your own authentic
way, right? And in your art and the
way that you make it. So don't copy, of course.
I'm not saying that. I'm saying, but be but evaluate what it is that you
can do and learn from them. And maybe they're really good at telling stories
with their work. Maybe their posts are
just really compelling, or maybe they're really good at certain techniques that
you'd like to master, or maybe they're really good at pulling color ballots
together in a fun way. So whatever that is, take the time to dig into that
and see how you can apply these things to your
work. Here's the booster. This extra tip will
help you get out of the comparison game and
focus on your own work, making necessary
improvements that help you boost your confidence
going forward. Now, I want to identify the commonalities or the
similarities in the things that you are finding across
all the different art and artists that you are
reviewing in this exercise. Now, they should
be more than once. You should be looking at lots of different art and
different artists and really pinpoint those
similarities and analyze the art. So what is it that you see that is the common qualities and the things that
you're attracted to? Is it the use of bright colors? Maybe it's the textures
in their work, all the things that I've
mentioned above before, but there may just be now in this cross section
of art and artists of some very obvious
commonalities and similarities that
you need to focus on. So write out all
the commonalities, these similarities that
you're seeing across the board and notice if
you're even doing them. And if you're
already doing them, that's great because you know you're already on
the right track, and now you just got to
level them up, right? So, you know, maybe
you need to have a more cohesive color palette
throughout your work. Maybe you're seeing that
the colors need to be brighter or that you want
to add more textures. Whatever these cues
that you're picking up these patterns that
you're finding and commonalities
across the board, I want you to now take those and apply those as action
steps for your work. So now you can put these in your presentations
and your pitches. You can use them in
your portfolio pieces. You can use them in your post, however you need to do it, and whatever you're seeing from all the learning and the newfound knowledge
that you have, now you can apply that
to your work. Okay.
3. Perfectionism: Marie Forleo, perfectionism at its core isn't about
high standards. It's about fear,
fear of failure, fear of looking stupid, fear of making a mistake, fear of being judged,
criticized, and ridiculed. It's the fear that one
simple fact might be true. You're just not good enough. From her book, Everything
is Figure Outablekay. I have so much to
say on this topic and I have taught it to
my coaching clients and learned so much from just
observing artists and how they are always feeling that
they need to be perfect. And it is super common. Do you consider yourself a perfectionist or do you have
perfectionist tendencies? I'm raising my hand on that one. Perfectionism is definitely
something I suffer from. It is a symptom of an unresolved issue that you are having around unworthiness. Believe it or not, it's
based on fear. Say it again? It is based on fear. Are you not feeling worthy? Are you not good enough? Are you procrastinating, or
are you scared of something? These are questions
to ask yourself because it all ties in together. Here are some instances
where you can be caught in perfectionism and how
to overcome them. When you catch yourself
stuck on perfect, ask why. Dig really deep. Is there something causing this? Ask what are your
feeling exactly? Am I not feeling good enough? Am I feeling scared
of the outcome? Are my expectations too high and I don't think it's
possible to meet them? Am I scared of failure,
scared of success? Am I not worthy? Maybe I don't trust my capabilities.
There's a reason. So write out your fears, you're concerned and dig deeper. Okay. Be really honest about
what's holding you back. If you realize it's the fear of failure, then that's great. Then from here you
can begin to see that it's something
that is really out of your control and you're just afraid of it getting started and putting 1 ft in front of the other can get you
making progress right. Once you start enjoying the
work and doing the work, then the fear can
start to subside. The next exercise you can do is to find a good
stopping place. With practice, you can catch
yourself when you're in perfectionism mode and then you know it's a good time
to wrap up your work. This is where you can
find yourself working, reworking something
way too much, and you are second
guessing yourself and you're really not making
any decisions, right? This is a good time
to decide when to call it quits and to
move on to something else. Getting to the place
where it's good enough, so you can just call
it good enough is where you really want
to be with practice. Over time, you will know
what that stopping point is before you overwork something and start to just self defeat. The next thing to know here is some things don't
need to be perfect. Maybe the client, or
your potential client just needs to see
your initial work. Some sketches, maybe
a smaller collection. They don't need to see
everything done to perfection. And then from here you
can have a discussion and move forward, pull back, and just realize that
things don't always have to be done to perfection
and to completion. Especially if you're in the
initial stages of work. And also maybe it's not
as bad as you thought. Maybe your work really
isn't that bad. Most people do tend to
think that their work isn't right or isn't good enough and they keep
overworking it. And overworking it and then they really hate it because they've
worked on it way too much. Right. It might not
even be that bad, it really might not be that bad. So really this is a time of restraint and
time for you to really pull back and look
at your work and be able to evaluate
it critically. And see, okay, well
maybe it isn't that bad. And these are good
questions to ask yourself. Is this good enough? Is
this a good stopping place? Is this a good place for
me to call it quits? Or is it a good place for me
to show it to the client? My work in progress and
move forward because, you know, done is
better than perfect. And perfect is really just
delaying the process. I want to talk about
starting. Just start. Sometimes we can't
even get started on a project or our work
because we are scared. We talk ourselves
out of starting for so many reasons and we even find ourselves over thinking or even
over researching, or over consuming too much
before we can even start. Perfectionism and
procrastination go hand in hand. And I will say that
again, perfectionism and procrastination go
hand in hand to me, I think they're
very much related. When you find yourself
over thinking something, what's happening is you
are trying to control the outcome by trying
to control the outcome. And over thinking over thinking, you're causing a traffic jam in your head and then that makes you stuck and you can't
move forward from there. This is a place
of perfectionism, and your perfectionism is
just delaying the process. You want it to be perfect
before you even begin. You want to find all
this information, consume all this stuff, learn all this stuff, so it'll
be right moving forward. That's also a form
of procrastination. You're not moving forward, you're just delaying
the process. Do you find yourself doing unrelated things like cleaning when you're supposed
to be working? Or maybe you're researching
your project way too much and you're not even really start working on
the project yet. So consider that you aren't even starting because you
want it to be perfect. You want the timing
to be perfect. You want the inspiration
to be perfect. Then it's
overwhelmingly perfect. The moment is right,
everything's right. And now you can start, well, as we know, that never happens and that doesn't really exist. So instead of doing the work, you're doing the dishes and
you're stalling, right? So what I want you to do here is you really have to
get to a stopping point. And this is what I
was saying before. You can learn to learn
your habits and learn to see when it is that you're overworking something
and that you know what? I don't really need
to be doing the dishes right now because I know I'm supposed to
be doing X, Y, and Z. You really need to
notice when you are procrastinating and when you are stuck on
perfectionism as well. When you can't move
forward because you're waiting for that perfect
timing or moment. The way to overcome this
is to recognize that, but to also do what? Scared. Yeah. It all of this is based on
fear. It really is. If you aren't
feeling comfortable moving forward for
whatever reason, dig in deep, figure out what that is and why you're
not moving forward. And also just screw that because it really
doesn't matter at this point. You really just have
to be like whatever I need to start and I
need to get working. And the way to do that
is to push through that fear and to really
just do it anyway. Taking action and working out the details as you go will ensure that you
are making progress. So don't feel like
you have to research at all and figure out
all the problems or potential problems ahead of time because you're never
going to be able to figure all that out.
You're just not. You need to just start and
work it out as you go. And I guarantee
you will start to move along a lot faster
than when you're all stuck here in your
traffic jam and you're not able to really even just
push forward from there. Here's your booster, give yourself permission
to fall down. I really want you
to understand how important it is that nothing is going to
work in perfect timing. Nothing is perfect, and that you are going
to make mistakes. You are, especially if it's something you're doing for
the first time or you're learning or you're just really embarking
on a new journey. There are going to be a lot
of moments where you are stuck where you're
learning new things and it's taking longer
than you thought. Maybe you're not quite sure what you're doing and you
need to find a solution. There's going to be all sorts
of obstacles along the way. Give yourself permission to come in contact with
those obstacles, to take them head on
to make mistakes. As you're going
through the process, all of these things
are going to happen. So you might as well just
let them happen, right? So the journey
isn't smooth and we all make mistakes
as we learn, right? So no one knows
what they're doing, especially the first
time, they really don't. And how many times have you
thought to yourself, oh, you were so prepared for
something and just to find out that you really weren't
as prepared as you hoped. Because there's all these
unforeseen things that are happening that you honestly
didn't even think about. So let yourself off the hook and do it scared and do
it from an unsure, insecure place,
it's totally fine. And I actually think
you're going to learn so much more
along the way and you're going to move along
faster along the way. And you actually might
find that it's fun. It might be a lot more
fun than you thought. It might feel weird to you. It might feel weird
to you if you're somebody who is
insanely prepared. Right? And this
can be very hard, but I promise that you
will learn so much more. And once you make
those mistakes, you're definitely not going
to do them again. Right. And you also know what to
prepare for for the next time. So go ahead and allow
yourself to fall down. Believe in yourself and
your abilities and trust the process and start
letting go more and more.
4. Need to Be Liked: You either walk inside
your story and own it, or you stand outside your story. And hustle for your
worthiness, Renee Brown. So as artists, we
want our work to be admired and we want to
sell our work, right? We want to be liked and we want to be appreciated,
that's for sure. But there are some
instances where artists can feel insecure about
themselves and their work, and they really need the
validation of others to really feel worthy and capable. And this is of concern because I really have seen
this with some of my coaching clients
and I want to give them a big hug right
through the computer, because I know they need
to feel seen and heard. Being an artist is a very
vulnerable place to be. And this can bring up all
sorts of insecurities. And I want you to know that it's okay to allow them to come out, those insecurities to come out, It's okay to not
resist them from here. We can work on them and
we can begin to heal. Our lack of confidence can come from a place of insecurity. I want you to ask
yourself these questions. Are you a people pleaser? Do you find you are catering to others needs in
your work or life? Are you looking for
them to notice? Do you feel a
strong need to have validation on your
work from others? Do you hold off on
showing your work because of fear of what
others may say or think? Do you feel insecure about being on camera
because people may not like you for some
reason or you think you will say something stupid
or embarrass yourself. Having a bit of this in these feelings can
be very common. Believe me, being on
camera is not easy. But if you find yourself
really holding yourself back because of what others
might think or say or do, then you might want to take a moment to give yourself
some tender love and care. Here's some questions
to ask yourself to help uncover where your insecurities
might be coming from. Why do you not feel confident? Or what is it that is
making you feel small? How is it affecting
your progress? Emotional and mental state is something holding you back
from turning it around. Be honest and identify
the issues you're having. What is a small step I
can take to start to feel better and name
whatever it is that you not feeling confident about. What is it I can do to
be kinder to myself? How can I start
implementing that daily? Right? I can choose
to see things differently and take
action in a new way. Brainstorm some
things that you can think to turn your negativity into joyful positivity and
bountiful possibilities. It can be not comparing
yourself to others anymore. Finding the strengths in your
work and building on them. Identify what it is that
you love about yourself. What is it you do
that you do well? What can you share with the
world that you do best? You are loved and you
deserve all you desire. Remember, you are worthy. You are enough. You are capable, you are complete, and have
what you need to succeed. Allow yourself to be you.
Give yourself permission. Embrace who you are
and what you do best. Share your quirks, your
interests, your personality, be you, and let this person
out more and more each day. Be brave, No time to play small, when you have work to
do and goals to hit. Set yourself free
of others judgment. You are letting others
define you, define you. Let others know who you are. Boldly, show up online.
Post your work. Share your stories, interests, and connect with others. People love to know
more about you and your work. They really do. Don't be shy. To be a
successful creative. You will need to post
your work online. Others need to see what you do. I know this can be scary, but it is really necessary
and it is a part of running an online business or being a creative that sells their
work or licenses their work. So you really do have to do that and you do
have to show up. Take small steps that you need to take to just initiate
that and start that, and then you'll find that it
will get easier over time. Speak positively
about yourself daily. Okay, daily. This is
a daily practice. You have to catch
the words, phrases, and all the negativity you might be saying
on a daily basis. And I know we all do, we all speak to ourselves
and negatively. This is something
that you really should really be
monitoring and catching. Because the words
that you're saying are actually reflecting
back to you. And it's showing up in
the actions you take. The behaviors, your
habits and in your work, and how you feel
about your work. Catch yourself when you're
saying things that are negative to yourself
and reframe them, okay? So here's an example. Instead of saying I cannot be an artist, say I am an artist, or I am willing
to believe that I can become a successful artist. And you could already
feel the energy change when you say that, right? So here is your booster. Your booster will be journaling. And journaling is
really effective in helping get your thoughts
and ideas out of your head. And it can help you work
out your problems too. And you can be candid, honest, and say things to yourself in your journal that you probably
wouldn't say to others. It's really a great place
to pour your heart out. Say your secrets, your deepest thoughts
and your insights, your angers, and even
your frustrations. It is helpful for venting
and even praying. You can get clearer and even feel lighter after journaling. It's a place to build your
confidence and gain courage. So get a journal if you
don't already have one. And I want you to start working on journaling if you
can do it daily. And I want you to create
a journaling practice. And I think this is
really important for artists because we have so
much going on in our heads. Ideas, thoughts, negative,
positive things all the above. And it's really a great
place to kind of get it out on paper and
work it out, okay? And when it's all
jumbled up in your head, those traffic jams
are going to start, the negativity is
going to start. You're going to start
not taking action on things and you're going to feel defeated before
you even begin. So this is a wonderful way of working out all
those feelings, emotions and anything
that's holding you back. Maybe you start your day with journaling or end your
day word journaling. Find a way maybe that you can incorporate it in
your day to day. Use it as a tool to help you get unstuck and unjam your
brain with thoughts, worries, and all the above, all the things that you really just need to work out mentally. These are things
that you can do in your journal and complain. Write about your
worries. Talk honestly. Get all thoughts out on
paper and out of your head. Work out problems
and find a solution. Gratitude, note the things that are going
right in your life. The things that you
love and that make you happy and have
gratitude for them. Record your wins,
little and big ones. This will help you
see the positive things around you and focus on them daily instead of the bad things which
can bring you down. Go deep into why you do what you do and
probe for answers. Write affirmations and positive
statements to yourself. Record what you've accomplished and what went great that day. Write your dreams and visions
for yourself and others. Write about your goals
and work out the details.
5. Impatience: Trees that are slow to grow
bear the best fruit moler. So now we're going to
talk about impatience. And this is a very
important topic and it's going to be a lot
of tough talk here, okay? So I do want you to be prepared for that because
I am going to ask you some pretty tough questions and some really real questions. It's definitely something that affects a lot of creatives. So I want you to get
out of your own way. And don't rush the process. These are two huge things I think the artists
tend to do the most. And also we need to accept the limitations and give
ourselves a break. Now. Again, easier said than
dumb things, right? And we'll talk more about this. I want you to ask yourself, why are you feeling impatient or are you
feeling impatient? If you know you're
impatient, absolutely. But if you're not sure, are you feeling impatient? Because that could
be a huge indicator of your lack of confidence and why you
aren't moving forward. Because things aren't
happening right now. I get it. We all want
things to move forward. We all want things
to progress quickly. And we want to be
there now, right? But there is a journey
we have to go on and time has to unravel. And we have to go
on down this road. And if we're not doing it
properly and skipping steps, it's not going to come out
the way that we hoped. So impatience is something
that we really need to identify and we really need to sit with if it is happening. So ask yourself, are you feeling impatient
about something? And if you are,
do you think that things are taking too
long to progress? Do you feel that you don't have control over how things
are progressing? That's another thing too. Are you a little bit
of a control freak? And please be honest with
yourself about this. Because a lot of us
are. I know I am. And if that's the case, then you might be
trying to control the outcome and move things
along and rush things along. But to be honest, they need
to go at their own pace. And especially if you
are pursuing a career in art or learning new
techniques and new skills, you need the time to
be able to do that. Now here's some other
things to consider. You actually know deep down what it is that
you could be doing. Are you distracting
yourself from doing those things and
doing the real work? That's a big question because you may not even realize
you're doing it, but there is some real work
that has to happen here. And are you distracting
yourself from that? Because maybe deep down
you don't want to do it or you want to skip steps. So these are things
to think about too. And this could also be a form
of procrastination and what you are focusing on actually
are the wrong things, okay? You could be making excuses
or even sabotaging things because you need to
get out of doing them, you don't want to do them. And there's a lot of things
that we don't want to do. There's a lot of things
we don't want to learn. There's a lot of things
we don't want to just just do in general when it comes to our work or even our business, but
we got to do them. Ask yourself that
you are you making excuses so you can
get out of doing it, saying things aren't progressing and giving up is
actually an excuse. You're not doing the
work, saying this isn't working out for whatever
reason, that's an excuse. So it's easy to decide that something isn't happening
fast enough when it probably hasn't
even been given the proper amount of time
to even happen for itself. And another one is
what are you avoiding? Maybe you're avoiding something. Why are you avoiding something? What is it that you're avoiding? And what is it that you
know deep down, okay? Because you might really, if you really dig deep, you know that you're avoiding
doing the work, okay? And I want you to
also ask yourself, how bad do you want this? Like, how bad do you want this? Because if it's really not that serious and
you realize that, then maybe, you know, you
really don't want to do all the work involved to get
to where you want to go. And this is a really
honest conversation you need to have
with yourself, okay? So, for instance, maybe you need to be putting in more time, more hours, and more
practice into your work. Maybe there's just this work and things that you just aren't doing and you need to be doing. Maybe you could be working on your website or on
your online store, and maybe it's not progressing
as fast as you'd like it, or you're not getting
the outcomes that you want and you just
feel like giving up. I want you to ask yourself,
why are you scared? What are you scared of?
Is that what it is? Maybe it isn't
that you're scared of what is the worst
that can happen? Take the time to
work on these things and take the time that's needed
to work on these things. What's the worst
that can happen? Impatience can cause
you to stop in your tracks and never go
back. This is a big one. This is a time I think it's
really important to journal, this is a time to
slow down the pace and really take that step back and investigate
what's going on. Now, don't plow forward
and skip steps. This is really not the
time to do that, patience, when you're speeding things up, I want you to do the opposite and start to slow things down. It might not feel good at first, it's going to be uncomfortable, but it's actually
the remedy for this. And when you actually do, you're going to experience
all the triumphs and all the wonderful
experiences you're going to be learning and
growing along the way. And that's really what
this is all about. Just remember, you
can't get there overnight and there
are no shortcuts. And most successful people
put in the time they put in the work and they do
everything there is to do, and they go on that
journey no matter how long it takes them to
get to the other side. And that's what you
need to remember. It might just not be the
fast track that you'd like. It might not be the quick outcomes that
you'd like to see. But it is what it is, and that's how we all
have to go through this. There really are no shortcuts. So another thing that
could be causing impatience is actually
rejection or fear of failure. And this is potential
or actual failure. So it makes us want things
to happen right now, and we feel if it doesn't
happen right now, it's never going
to happen, right? So this is a really
dramatic place and it's very emotional and it really is something that
needs to be addressed. So I want you to
take a step back and really dig deep into
your feelings of impatience. If you've been rejected and you felt rejected for any reason, it does, it does hurt,
it's uncomfortable. And I want you to
feel those feelings and I want you to
go through that. But I also don't want
you to use that as a springboard to
project you into skipping steps and moving so far forward that you don't even know what you're doing anymore and then it just
causes confusion and chaos. So let's not do that and recognize if
that's happening to you, because that's not where you
should be on the journey. Okay, I really want you to check in with yourself
when you are here, feel those feelings, but know that you know what.
You can overcome them. You can put your foot in
front of the other and just keep moving and try again. And it actually is
a good place to be. Because now you know you've
learned from this and okay, I'm going to take a
different route and I'm going to do things
differently next time. But don't rush the process. I want you to catch
your negative thoughts. This is a time when you may be really feeling
a lot of negativity. And this is a time to
really stop those habits, I would say, of negativity. Of falling into those traps of negativity and really
starting to turn that around. So you can now move
forward with confidence, catch yourself when
you're doubting yourself, that self doubt can really
hold us back, right? So this is also part of
the negative thoughts and all the things that are
holding us back, right? So we need to really
take note of that. And it really is about recognizing within yourself
when these are happening. And to catch ourselves
when we're doing these. Because if we are
feeling a certain way, then we can stop, slow
down and you're like, okay, why is this happening? Why am I doing X, Y, and Z? I don't like my
behavior right now. I don't like how I'm reacting
to things right now. I'm feeling impatient,
I'm feeling insecure, I'm feeling a lack
of confidence. All of the things now we need
to check in with ourselves. And this is a good
time to journal, this is a good time
to work things out. Use those tools, but also just turn it around and
do the opposite, okay? Feel the feelings, get them out. But at some point,
you do have to move forward and that's
what I want you to do. I want you to reframe those
thoughts with positive ones. Think positively
about the things. And I know, I know
it's so easy to say, but seriously, it's a good
practice and a habit to build. So if you are catching yourself saying a whole
bunch of negative things, thinking a whole bunch
of negative things, and dragging
yourself down, okay, you got to get to the
point where you just are ready to change
that, get it out. But then we're going to move
on and work our way through those negative feelings
into where we're making progress again and we are starting to feel
more confident. I want you to think
positively about these things re frame as we did in
the last exercise. Take those negative statements
and make them positive statements and start
moving forward from there. And then you could start to see that you aren't making
excuses anymore, you aren't creating
distractions anymore. And then you were just doing the work that
you were meant to do. Okay, here is your booster. I want you to keep a wind list. And I love wind lists. Wind lists are just amazing. They help you focus on the positive things that
are happening in your life. It could be big or small.
It could be something. Just like I got up 20 minutes
earlier this morning, or I was able to finish getting
through my e mails today. Or it could be
something even teeny, teeny tiny, like oh, I had that extra glass of water. You know, can be
whatever, whatever. And it could be something
really big too. Maybe you got a
project or, you know, you accomplish
something great at work or at home with your family. So think about, you know, what your winds are every day and then you can
get in the habit of writing this wind list in the morning or at
the end of the day. I like to do mine at
the end of the day and kind of keep track of, you know, all the great
things that are going on. Again, in your personal
life and your work life. It could be big and small. Write them all down and what happens is you're training
your brain to look at the positives all day long and to look for them and
to zero it on them and to celebrate them and to feel them in the joyous state
that it'll bring you. Right? So it just kind of keeps your vibrations up and keeping
you in a happier state. And also tracking the winds and the great things
that are happening. Instead of focusing on the negative things that or the things that
aren't happening. And that's going to take us in a different direction
and we don't want that. So this wind list is just
amazing and you can use it when you're feeling down,
lacking confidence. You're not feeling very secure. You know all the icky feelings. Pull out that wind list
and read through it, and you can start to see all the great things that
are going on in your life. And even in the times, especially in the
times that you're not feeling that things
are going right, I want you to pull out
that wind list and find a couple of things
that you can write about. I'm sure you could
find something within your day or your week that
has been going great. So get in the habit of keeping
your wind list around, keeping it close at hand
so you can grab it when you need it and write
in it on a daily basis.
6. Side Effects: Lack of Motivation: Okay, I want to talk about a side effect that I see
with a lack of confidence. And this side effect is a loss of motivation and a
loss of interest. So we lose our way from
time to time, right? And some things we discuss like comparison, fear of failure, impatience can bring us down and make us
feel that we aren't good enough and we feel
defeated or want to quit. And there's no confidence here. There's a serious lack of
confidence when this happens, and we even lose interest,
momentum, and motivation. This is where you need
to take a break, okay? This is the remedy
to this moment. You just do the opposite. Instead of moving forward, I want you to step back, slow down, and take that break. This is when you go
into self care mode. Maybe you're burnt out. Maybe you're overdoing it. Maybe you're feeling emotional
and super frustrated, angsty, all those things. Maybe you're feeling impatient. Maybe you're feeling
a lack of control. Things aren't working out. Whatever it is, all of these
things can cause you to feel unmotivated and just you're
not feeling it anymore, just you just lost
interest, right? So whatever it is,
I want you to stop pushing and I want you to give yourself some
space and rest. Now, rest is the key here. Rest is the remedy to this, and in this situation, I want you to know that
you are okay and that you can get back to a space where there's
joy in creating. Again, rest is the key
in this situation, and I want you to
know that it is okay to take that break and
you'll be okay because you will be able to get to the place where you're
feeling joy in creating again and remembering the why and why you're creating and doing all the
things you want to do. And you'll be in a
much better place when you come out of this
after your rest period. You'll feel more confident, you'll feel more enthusiastic, and you'll just be ready to go. And I want you to
know that you have a bigger purpose,
a bigger mission. And you need to explore
that need, that, that strong feeling to
do something big and it's going to happen
and it's inside of you and that you can do it. But just recognize
when you need a break, because we all need breaks, we can't plow forward
full speed 2047, right? So when you're losing lack of
interest or you're feeling unmotivated and a lack of
confidence, this could be why? Because you're just tired
and you need to rest. Here are some journaling
props that you can use to help reconnect you back
to your love of creating. How does it make you
feel when you create? What do you want others to
feel when they see your work? If you weren't making art
now, how would you feel? Why do you make art? Or what does creating
do for you? And why? What are your inspirations and where does your
inspirations come from? What is the gist of your work? Describe what it's all about. Is there anything you're
accomplishing with your work? Any specific goals or body of work projects that
you want to complete. So a couple of reminders. Okay, so when you feel
open to the possibilities, when you're feeling motivated, this is the opposite of what
we've been talking about. You are going to
be free flowing. Your work is going to be
coming out of you easily. You're going to not be
overcontrolling things. You're going to let
yourself be led, go on that journey and you're not going to put
pressure on yourself. That is where you want to be. That is the place where it all feels like you are doing the work you're
supposed to be doing. And that is something
to really strive for. So if you are feeling
unmotivated and you're probably burn out and just don't want you
to recognize that. Because you want to be feeling the possibilities and
the joy in your work. This may also be a
time to recognize that you might need help, okay? And that's totally
fine, we all do. And you might not be able to get yourself unstuck or
out of the situation. And this is a good time to
talk to a coach, or a mentor, or a friend, or family member, or somebody that you really
feel that can help you. This person will give
you support and help you move forward and even
get to the next level. Actually, you may need somebody to assess your work or
give you career advice. Or even just give you
advice and help you just get to a calmer
place within. You may also just need
somebody to give you permission to take that
break and to get rest. You might just to be able to
vent to someone or be able to also talk to somebody who may already know what you're going through that is
really supportive. Getting the right help
you need will really help get you on track and
do wonders for you, your mental health,
your motivation, and also your work. This can help propel
you even further. In this case, you
need a cheerleader. You need somebody who
is rooting for you, who sees you as you
do not see yourself. It can ignite the confidence
in you that has fallen dormant and really get you
excited about your work again. When ignited, it's
going to diffuse all those negative beliefs and you're going to be
motivated more than ever. Another thing you can do is
to create a support group. And these are like
minded people in your industry or friends
or career buddies that you have that you can meet
with on a regular basis to support one another in your work and your career
endeavors and goals. Maybe you put together
like a monthly business bestie meet up and you meet over zoom and you help one another with your
work and your goals. That is going to also propel you a lot further and
motivate you even more. Here is your booster
for this section. I want you to get in all the fields like feel
all the fields right now. And we're going to feel good. We're going to turn this around, all the negative around, and we're going to
feel really good. And how we're going
to do that is to write a vision
statement for ourselves. And this vision statement is going to encompass all
the things that you want to bring about in
your life that you want to see manifest
happen in your business, in your career, in your life,
and your personal life. All the amazing, exciting things that
you're striving for. And you're going to
put that in writing. So I want you to,
the best way to approach this is
to look at it from how is an ideal day in
the life unfold for me? From the moment I wake up to
the moment I go back to bed, what does that life look like? Do you work for yourself? Do you have a team
that supports you? Do you work from home? What are you doing in your
work that excites you? And then even from the
minute you wake up, what does your home look like? What does your
environment look like? And I really want
you to get into the, the vision of this,
the visuals of this. And I also want you to
get the feels of this. And this is really where it all will start to really kind of el, with inside of you and
really motivate you and give you that confidence
to create this vision. Okay, so I want you to
write a paragraph or two or three even here and
expand upon this vision. Really get into the feelings of it, how it makes you feel. And get into the details
of what that looks like. What does your life look like? What does your
business look like? What are you doing
in your day to day? And also what are you doing
for fun? Are you traveling? What does your financial
situation look like? All the things that
you're dreaming about. And write this ideal
vision for yourself. And I want you to
actually put it somewhere where you can reference
it on the regular. I want you to be able to revisit this as much
as possible and remember why you're
here and what you're doing and the vision that
you see for yourself. And keep that close, keep that really close to you. And it's going to
keep you motivated. And it's going to keep you
moving confidently and boldly so you can manifest all of these
amazing things for yourself. This is also going to help
you remember why you're creating and why you're here and why you're
putting in the work. Even on the days when
it's really hard, this vision will
be the thing that you are striving
for and that you are really excited about.
7. In Summary: In summary, comparison
perfectionism and need to be liked. Impatience, individually
and combined can cause a lack of confidence, stuckness, insecurities,
and self sabotage. Your emotions such
as envy can be used as a tool to help you uncover
what it is you desire. Perfectionism is based on fear, procrastination, and
perfectionism go hand in hand. Are you a perfectionist? Are you a procrastinator? Something to think about. It is important to be
honest with yourself. Ask the tough questions. Catch yourself when you are procrastinating,
feeling insecure, having a lack of motivation, feeling impatient, and saying negative things to yourself. Identifying your behaviors,
emotions, reactions, and habits will help you understand what is
holding you back. Get in the habit of
knowing yourself better to see things differently and
take action in a new way. Give yourself permission to
be fully, you fall down, make mistakes, take a break and rest and feel those
uncomfortable feelings. We are all in a unique
journey and it's important to take the time necessary
to achieve your goals. There are no shortcuts, and it's important to honor
your health and your path. If you need to slow things
down and take a break, remember that your journey
is your own and it's important to prioritize your
well being along the way. Tools such as journaling, reframing your
negative thoughts, and keeping a win list will
help you stay more positive, especially when you are feeling
doubt and less confident. Make new healthy habits to help you move forward
and get unstuck. Find support in others, like a coach, like
minded friends, and even business
besties to help cheerlead you on and help
motivate you in your work. Don't let fear or self
doubt hold you back. Please be kind to
yourself and get out of your own way
and trust the process. Really trust the process. The outcomes will be so much more rewarding
than you could have ever imagined and enjoy
the work and have fun. Most importantly, this is
your dream in the making.
8. Class Project: As your class project. Please complete the
worksheets I've created. With all the questions that are mentioned here in the class. Do the deep dive and ask
those tough questions. And be honest with yourself. Okay, identify where you
are holding yourself back. Create new habits, actions, and reactions to overcome the roadblocks over time with
practice and repetition. Taking action when scared, you will become more
and more confident with your work and
pursuing your dreams. You will be less fearful
in the outcome and more excited about the possibilities
your future holds.
9. Final Thoughts : Self confidence is a superpower. Once you start to
believe in yourself, magic starts to
happen, life hack. I hope this talk
helped you to see how you can boost your
confidence and get back to a place where you're
creating from a place of joy and really excited to
pursue your dreams and desires. I believe that doing
the work to uncover the truth and really figure out what's holding you back
is going to give you so much more clarity and
confidence moving forward. And you're going to
be more in touch with yourself and be in tune
with where you're at, emotionally, physically,
mentally, all of the things. So you can check yourself
when you aren't feeling so confident and have the tools and the tips that you
need to move forward. I wish for you to be
braver and more bold and take action on all the things that you want
to accomplish in your life. I don't want you to let fear and procrastination
and negativity and all those things bring you down. And don't let self
doubt and fear get in the way you
have too much to do. Thank you so much
for taking my class and I hope that you found
this really helpful. As always, please leave
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