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1. Course Trailer- Rethink: Have you ever had a pattern of negative ruminating thinking? And you just think in
your conscious mind, I know I want this to stop. I don't want to be doing this. But no matter what I do, I just can't seem to stop
the pattern, right? These thoughts just
keep coming back. I have definitely
been there and hi, my name is Kristen Becker. I have been there and I
could tell you that there's good news because there's
actually really practical, easy things that you can
do to break this pattern. In this course,
you're going to learn the source of these negative
ruminative thoughts, which is really liberating
because you realize it's not, you understand why
and how this happens. And then the easy,
practical things that you can absolutely start doing today to break this pattern
in your life and free up all that focus and energy and attention to focus on things you do want to
bring into your life. So go ahead and jump into the first video and
let's get started.
2. The Source of Negative Thinking: Now I'm sure that you
have thought to yourself, like, where did this come from? Why is this happening? Is there something
wrong with me? Why can't I stop this? And when we see
where it comes from, which we do
understand very well, then it's the biggest aha, because you start realizing there's nothing wrong with me. And this is how I can
stop this now that I understand a lot more about how it's come to be
and how it works. And I want to say that a lot of what you're going to
learn here is based on a model that I've developed called vibrational coherence. And I have another course
already here on the platform, which is raise
your vibration and skyrocket yourself
confidence with one, with a one-step formula. Go check that out
after you watch this. That is really the
foundational course for, hey, this is what
vibrational coherence is all about. This
is how it works. This is how it empowers you to live a high-quality
life, right? Manifests the things that
you do want in life. So do go check that
out and also follow me because I am going
to continue to put courses on here related to solving our everyday problems that
we all struggle with. Using this super easy
and effective formula of vibrational coherence. I also talk a lot about
it on my YouTube channel. So be sure to go to YouTube
and subscribe to my channel, Kristen Becker, and I'll
see you there as well. Now the source of this
ruminating thinking, this negative thinking
patterns, There's two, they're very easy to understand when somebody
pointed out here, you're like, Wow, That's a
game changer to know this. The first one is
our programming. We all come into this world with essentially the same
blank, blank slate, right? And then we adopt programming,
which is a good thing. Our human machine is designed to help us,
and in this case, so that we can acclimate
into our communities with this programming we learned in our Alpha brainwaves
state when we're kids. And that is where we also pick up a lot of programming
that doesn't serve us. I think research was 70% of our programming
doesn't serve us. So here we are together doing
this, we've all done it. The good news is that it works. There's a path out. But just to know that there
is nothing wrong with me. I observed my family, my friends, my peers, having these repeated dialogues, revisiting the same problems
over and over again, right? In the same ways. And then I adopted that same way of not only conversing
and the outside world, but in my inner dialogue in my head and seeing
the patterns like, Oh, they keep coming back
to the same problem. And so I adopted that as well. So that's reason number
one, source number one, source number two is your
body is also in on this. And this is really interesting. When we have emotions, we release chemicals and
peptides into our body. Our cells develop receptors for the chemicals and peptides for the emotions we most
regularly feel. When those cells
divide, the new cells are already born with
those receptors. So your body is literally
getting physically addicted to these emotions
that you regularly have. Another interesting
part of this is that when you revisit a negative
thought in your mind, like a negative experience
or how you feel about a negative experience
in your life for your body that's
happening right now. It is releasing all of
the same chemicals, emotions, everything is going on as when you had
that experience. So as far as your
body is concerned, this is a threat
right now, right? It's having all those
same experiences. And that's kind of a bummer when you think
like to patterns, which I'm gonna get
to in a minute. Oh gosh, I have like
kind of fed into this pattern by continuously
revisiting these things. Well, that's what we're here
to break, right? I have to. And the reason I point
that out is because the opposite is also true. As you invest in
yourself and get yourself into the
habit of breaking this habit of the ruminating
and negative thoughts. Well then you have the opposite. Then you have the cascade
of feel-good emotions and chemicals which you
are getting addicted to. So let's jump into the next video and we're
going to start talking about the really practical everyday things that
you can do about this.
3. The Results You Can Expect: So what's going to happen
when you break this pattern? What kind of results
can you expect? How's it going to feel? What's gonna be different? I am going to share
that with you and I'm also going to share with you my own
experience, a very, I would say challenging
experience that I went through in this regard of
breaking these negative, ruminating thoughts
and negative thinking patterns in my own life. But first, what do you
have to look forward to? Now, as you revisit
these thoughts, as I already mentioned, you have that whole cascade of chemicals. Your body is feeling
the same emotions. You have negative
emotions related to them. You are building more neural
networks around them. And this is supporting
ideas and beliefs around whatever type of incident led to that event that you're
ruminating about, right? But that's a real threat,
but that's a real thing and just beliefs about maybe I deserve it or I
don't or whatever. But the point being this process that you're breaking
when you break it, you are no longer going to feel the emotions and
feelings around them. You've freed yourself of that. You're no longer gonna be reinforcing those
neural networks. They are going to
start to prune apart. So beliefs that you may have
established like, Oh man, people are kinda rotten
or I'm just bad at relationships or maybe I'm not worthy all sorts
of crazy beliefs. They are going to start
to dissipate and you'll, because the actual
neural networks that are supporting them
are printing apart. Because you're not reinforcing them, you're not using them. All of these things come together to raise
your frequency, to raise your
vibration in general, but also your frequency
on whatever issue it is related to what you've been having the ruminating
thoughts about. So then that plays into what you're just
naturally going to manifest. So on every level of how you bring quality experiences
into your life, by breaking this pattern, you have lifted yourself, yourself up so incredibly high and stack the deck
in your favorite to naturally have much
more fulfilling and rewarding and
enjoyable relationships. You have now freed up
your focus, your energy, your attention, even your
life force right now. To go to things
you do want to do, to put into things
that make you happy, that help you to expand, that
make you feel fulfilled. And that is what you
have to look forward to. Now I want to just share my
own personal experience. What happened was
I had a series of very challenging experiences
going on in my life. I really didn't, I
was just reacting. I didn't do a lot
to check myself and to really process those
as well as I could. And once the dust settled,
you'd think I'd be like, Oh thank goodness. That is over. Well now what I discovered and observed within
myself was that I had a pattern in the morning
when I had my cup of coffee that I would sort
of pick and choose. I had a whole deck ready on deck to just pull
out of the air, right? Revisit this challenging
experience, ruminate over that. This person was wrong. I can't believe that happened. And the first thing
is awareness. I was like, What? I gotta
do something about this? I know that this doesn't serve me and I don't
want it to get any worse than it already
is because I've already started to get that sort
of physical addiction. It had become automatic. It was happening every morning. I jokingly called
it my cup of crap. It's time for my cup of crap. And that is actually a
powerful tool which I'm going to share with
you in the next video, we'll come back to why. That is actually a good
thing and very helpful. So I use the very things
that I'm sharing with you in this course and was able to break myself
of those patterns. And it is so nice to wake
up in the morning and be excited like I got all
these things on my list today. I'm excited to get started
enjoying my coffee. Listen to the birds, right? Watch the sunrise because
of my very early riser. And it's just an entirely
different way to start my day. And it doesn't matter at what
point in the day you do it. But what matters is you start recognizing your patterns,
identifying this, and then jump into the
things I'm going to share with you in the next
video and apply them.
4. The Solution: In this video, we're going
to talk about how to use vibrational coherence to
break these patterns. In the next video, we're going
to talk about something I call the app trick, right? And then in the next
video after that, we're gonna do a review of what your day looks
like now that you're approaching it differently
so that you can break your own habits and exactly what that's gonna look
like and how it goes down. Now, vibrational coherence
in case you haven't seen the other course
that I mentioned that I do want you to
go back and watch it. Fabulous. The simple
formula is this. We have a natural
vibrational state in which we work optimally
are coherent state. Everything in our body and our
whole lives is designed to function optimally when
we're in coherence. When we have something say like these ruminating thoughts or things like negative in our lives that don't
bring us harmony, then we're not in coherence. And being aware of that, what you do is you make simple little micro choices
at every step of the way. And ask yourself, does this keep me or moved me into
vibrational coherence? Or does this kidney, or move me more into chaos
and discord in my vibration. With the example of
ruminating thoughts, what I would do as I started
finding myself entertaining, sort of imagining sometimes you do like little
movie in your mind. I don't know if anybody
else has done that. That's what I do. I say, okay, is this
bringing me harmony? Most certainly is not. Now sometimes you
might recognize I actually have some emotions
I need to process. And that's again, another
course that I'm creating. But in this case just
that simple awareness is this bringing me harmony. Know, when you
invest in yourself, that is self-love,
that is self-care. To say, I love and
care for myself enough to recognize this
does not bring harmony, the springs discord,
and therefore, I'm gonna make a
different choice. I'm going to make the
choice that brings harmony. And it could be the thoughts. It could be maybe starting
to think about like, well what am I doing that's
triggering these thoughts. As you sort of break
down the whole, entire process and what you
see going on within yourself. Always ask this simple question. Does this bring harmony? And if not, what other
choice can I make for myself to bring harmony
in to my vibration? Now get creative. That might be, oh,
well, I need to just physically
change my posture, get up and walk around or do something to sort of
break this, right? Or maybe I'm going to replace
it with another thought. Maybe I'm going to take
some time to forgive this person that's unique to you and your situation and every thing that you're
having these thoughts about. But the big idea
is ask yourself, does what I'm doing right now bring harmony into my vibration? And if not, what are my choices? This opens up a whole
world of possibilities, of other things that you do. And now you feel self-empowered. You're no longer feeling
victimized and things aren't just happening
automatically, right? You're saying, okay, move over. Negative thoughts. I'm getting back in the
driver's seat here. I'm in charge of my
vibration and I'm headed straight for coherence,
straight for harmony. And that is the vibrational
coherence model. I use this time and once you get in
the habit of using it, you will start viewing the
world through this model. Naturally this will
happen on autopilot. You won't have to stop and
think about it anymore. You'll find yourself
naturally gravitating towards the choices and
options that do bring harmony. So start practicing this
vibrational coherence model. Gift it to yourself, right? As you go throughout your day. Now you might be wondering
to yourself, well, what kind of things can I really do to create
vibrational coherence within myself instead of practicing this
ruminating thinking. And here are three
absolutely powerful, wonderful things
that you can do. Number one is very easy. Hug yourself or someone else. If you have a loved one nearby, who's gonna be open
to this, right? You find yourself
negative thinking. You say, you know, I'm gonna
give myself a hug or I'm gonna I'm gonna walk over
there and hug my son, right? Whatever it is,
this is generating so many wonderful emotions
within you, nurturing you. It is sending a huge message to your self-concept
and your subconscious. I love myself. I am really enriching
myself with love. This is wonderful self-care. And on that note,
The second one, although it seems so simple, is to drink a glass of water. We generally are so dehydrated in our lives and
water carries information. We are mostly made up
of water to stand and just enjoy nurturing yourself
again with this water. Just stand there and drink
it and reflect on it and notice the nuances of
the experience, right? How it tastes, how it feels, everything about
that experience. It's so simple. And again, you're sending this message
to your subconscious and your self-concept I
am carrying for me, I am not continuing this pattern that's destructive
with a negative thinking. I'm changing my own patterns. Gosh, I'm amazing. Now this third one
is so much fun. You can really gamify this. And before we talk
about how this works, I want to remind you
that when we stop and take the time to
revisit negative thoughts, we're using our imagination. We're focusing our energy
and our attention. And we can actually take
that same energy and focus and attention and
put it some place else. And this is what I love to do. I catalog all of my experiences in life
and you can do this too. You might start at a specific year or maybe
one time you say, Oh, I'm gonna do when I was 15 to 18 or maybe
my 20s or whatever, maybe just last week. And you sit down and you systematically go through your memories and your
brain and you think, well what things that I do
for myself, how did I grow? How do I, how do I expand? What have I learned? What kind of wonderful
experiences have I had? And you can really
do this endlessly. We all have within our
own memories, right? All of this information about the wonderful ways in
which we've grown. And now you are
taking your focus, your energy, and your attention, and putting it on something that actually expands you and most definitely brings you back into vibrational coherence and keeps you in vibrational coherence. And that is vibrational
coherence as you might apply it to ruminating
and negative thinking. Let's jump into the next video where I'm going to come
back to that cup of crap. Tell you about that and also tell you about something
I call the trick.
5. The App Trick: Okay, what's up with
that cover crop? Why is that helpful? How's that work, Christa, and you might be thinking, and it's really, really cool. It's an NLP based strategy or technique, I guess you'd say. Obviously I became
aware of my pattern, which is the first and
biggest step I identified. This is going on. I'm
seeing the details of how it works and
what's happening so I better understand it. And by jokingly referring
to it as my cup of crap, oh, time for my morning
cup of crap, right? I created a, actually
a positive emotion, not to say that I want to reinforce that
particular behavior. But the alternative would be to continue to
feel overwhelmed, to feel like, Oh God, not again, I can't seem to stop this. Oh no, right. That is a very disempowering,
an overwhelming feeling. So by looking at it more objectively like it's me
against you, a cup of crop. I began to feel more empowered. I began to have replaced
this part of the process, this leg of the journey with a positive,
self-empowered emotion. And I just share that as one
example as you think about those vibrational
coherence things and you're stopping to
think about harmony. You can fold that in
like how can I change the emotion with which I even approach this and look at it? And I also do like
the idea of looking at the situation objectively. It's not me, it's, you know, I know I adopted this habit. I know adopted this programming. I know that I'm going to
remove this just like I would any other thing that was dragging me down in life are
holding me back in life. So that's the cover crop stress. Let's talk about
the app strategy. I love this and I'm going
to explain it to you. And if you picture yourself doing this like in your house, probably honestly
when you're alone. And you think, Oh,
I can't do this if I'm at work or I'm
out in public. Well, you can imagine it
and that's what I did. And also before I
even explain it, I also want to tell you that, number one, this process
will become very fluid and automatic and habit. So you won't really
have to stop so much and go through the steps
and really think about it. Write a number two. Remember that emotional
addiction that is going to change and transfer
to positive states. Your habits are
going to transfer. Your frequency is going to
completely shift and rise, and your vibration
is going to rise. And therefore, you're not gonna have to go around
doing this all the time. So it's not like you have
a lifetime of doing this. It's really a onetime deal, which I hope motivates
you to invest in yourself and be consistent
with yourself and say, Okay, I'm gonna give it
a real Christian said, but I'll try it in the next video and I'll tell
you why that's so important. The big pay off there. But let's talk about
that trick. Now. I haven't personally been
on any dating apps lately. Not that I'm opposed to
it, but I just haven't. But I like to think of it as
a dating app type situation. That comes into my
mind, Let's say a negative thought
comes into my mind. I picture myself just
swiping left, right? Is that what you do and
you don't want to go out with the first time
you swipe left out it out. But here's the thing. You just saw. I lit up. Right. Or I could just be
very non-emotional. Not today. No, not for me. Right. Which don't want to
do is start feeding that cascade of emotions of
negativity like Not today. I'm going to want
to get angry and just either if you can have
fun with it and be like that. If you if it just feels right, just no motion picture. So swiping that thought
right out of your mind. And then conversely to reinforce the other side of the
coin, so to speak. When you have a
great thought, like, let's say it's an
imaginative thought, something you have this wonderful imaginative
thought about a vacation. Maybe you can't even
afford it just now. Maybe it's not your
budget, but it's just been wonderful to
entertain the idea, right? Check-mark, yes. Kinda like the swipe up yes. Checkmark. And this also is interesting
because you're not getting really emotionally attached
to either the element of I canna lily will not happen. Maybe it's something that's
definitely happening. Maybe you have a big event
coming up this weekend and you're thinking about
your chat low grade, or maybe it's something like I gave the other example of that. You don't know whether it's
really going to happen, but you don't want to apply
any negative emotion to it. You want to give it a, I'm on board with this
kind of feeling, release, any feelings of lack or worry or
concern around it. As you can see, how much fun I just
had with that. And I swear to you
guys, did this myself, being in my house like Oh
yeah, I'm all about that. Let's do more of that, right. And then like I said,
you can imagine it if you're in a situation where
you can't physically do it, and then it does
become automatic. And it's kinda funny actually, when I found some stragglers coming in who didn't get the message that
the party was over. And just to sort of go and
just feel good about that. Actually gone. That was easy. Now, in the next video, we're gonna do a little recap of what your day is gonna
look like with this. And I review of
all the things you can do and also why it works. Please invest in the next video. Because as you understand fundamentally why
this works so well, you're absolutely going to be definitely down with
doing it for yourself. So I'll see you in
the next video.
6. New Day, New Energy: Are you ready? I hope you're ready to
absolutely liberate yourself. We all deserve to be in the moment to have all of
our focus and our energy and our attention to use for
things that expand us, that move us forward,
that we're excited about investing our focus and
energy and attention in. Now, if you don't know too much about me, I'm an educator. I've been teaching
college now for gosh, probably 25 years. I have over 10
thousand students in my different private personal
development programs. A lot of education
myself in education. And I could tell you that we don't learn from
absorbing information. So we do that a lot. We watch this really
cool video or like, Wow, I love everything
I just learned. However, the neurons are
going to prune apart. If you don't go out and
put it into practice, when you have the experiences
with what you just learned, you're developing more
dense neural networks around that understanding. You are creating
evidence which changes your actual beliefs.
What you believe. All of this is changing
your emotions, how you feel, the feelings and emotions that you're
releasing in your body, which is all changing,
your vibration, you are frequencies and
what you're naturally manifesting around these things. So the very short version of that last statement
put it into practice. What I suggest that you do first is identify your patterns. Obviously you're
aware of it because you're watching course, right? When I, my patterns, do I see a pattern of
when this happens? What types of experiences are frequently
coming into my mind. When I'm going
through this process. Then you want to start applying your
different techniques. You can use vibrational
coherence, get creative. Say, Oh gosh, I've realized that this happens when
I have my coffee. Instead, I'm going to walk to the coffee shop and
walk back home. And maybe that whole experience
of walking and occupying my senses and
stimulating myself with other things around me
will really be beneficial. I don't know, I'm just
throwing it out there as an example of looking at the vibrational coherence model and
asking yourself, how can I have fun with this? What can I do to empower my
own vibrational coherence? You can use the idea of the cup of craft to look
at it more objectively. Like I got you, I got my watch
and you have fun with it. Develop really good
emotions around you empowering yourself because that is exactly
what you're doing. And also there's the
app, right technique. So there's just a bunch of
cool things that you can do. Now, please. I really have loved preparing this for you
to leave a review. It is so helpful to me. It's just like that
positive feedback. I'm like, yes, people like this, they find it helpful for other people to know that
they liked the class as well. Please be sure and
follow my profile. I am really posting a lot more courses all related
around this that all solve very specific things that we all struggle with in
life that we want to move through or get better at to bring more quality of
life to ourselves, which we are all
capable of doing. And also be sure and
follow me on YouTube. I have greatly enjoyed
creating this for you, and I look forward to seeing
you in the next course.
Kristen Becker, NLP Practitioner
