Mindset Motivation · Learn How To Pivot And Reset Life's Curves During Economic Peaks And Valleys

1. Mindset Motivation · Learn How To Pivot And Reset Life's Curves During Economic Peaks And Valleys: Hello, welcome. My name is Thomas, seen as Sheila Lee. And some of you already know me. For those who don't, you can take a moment and clients my bio. For this course, I have decided to take content that I Normally pre-pandemic would present any corporate or non-profit setting. It is all about just adjusting your mindset, focusing on things that you can control. It's all about making that pivot, making those more of those right decisions that can get you on your way with your life. I woke up this morning. This is the August 2022 and I just decided, you know what? I wanted to bring some of this content to my students in my own online courses. Again, normally this is a face to face. This is an old day affair and a corporate setting or non-profit setting. Then after the pandemic, it went to a Zoom to day affair. So what I've done is I have just kinda compressed a core portion Of what I normally present. Just to kinda give you the basics, give you something. I don't want to sound too dramatic, but yeah, give you something to hold on to. These last couple of years have been tough. We've been separated from our families. Friends were trying to claw our way back. Some of us have experienced economic ruin. The experience job loss, confidence loss. Just all kinds of things coming out as left, right, left, right. I became a grandmother for the first time in my life in this month, in August and guess what, I couldn't even be there. All my life. I had envisioned standing behind that window, just like in the movies, waiting for the baby to be born. Rushing in and solving are looking at, are laying in our little crib. Oh, that was taken away. Taken away. So now I'm just getting the opportunity to fly out. Almost six minutes of labor. Here's my granddaughter. It's a real bummer. So one of the things about this particular course, it is probably one of those courses that you didn't even know that you needed. And as cliche as that sound, I can almost assure you you are enjoy this course. One, because normally I don't share an enormous amount of personal stuff about myself and my life. You know, the basics. I had my MBA in finance, you know, I retired semi retired to France. You know, I have a son, I have a daughter. You know, some things about me. But this is one of those courses that in order for you to create your blueprint to begin your mindset, momentum and ship journey. I've got to share some things about myself. Now, obviously you're not going to hear all the gory details, but you're going to hear another so that you get it in terms of what it is you need to do to develop your own blueprint. Now, I'm 65. So many of you taking this course, you might be in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s or beyond. So just remember, as we go through, we're going to be taking a walk through your life. And we're gonna be talking about those moments in your life where you made a great decision. Those moments where you made a not-so-great decisions. Those moments where you made a catastrophic decision. And then we're going to focus on those decisions and moments that you made. And then we're going to grow from there. So it's a lot of fun. It's a short course to as nothing real intense, but it's a lot of fun. And every time I give this presentation to my corporate and non-profit clients, everyone gets something out of it and some of the results are kind of shocking because we beat ourselves up. We make bad financial decisions or bad personal decisions. And we shouldn't do that. But we need to do is just get up, reset, pivot, figure out what new route we need to take and go from there. So that's what this is all about. So I need you to grab a pen or pencil, note, paper, notebook, wherever it is you're gonna be writing with because you are going to be writing, because when this class is finished, you will have your own blueprint from where you want to go from there. Then of course, with all of my classes, Of course. You can write me during after years later because you've got to probably have some questions as you go through your pants. So let's get started. Welcome to the class. Okay. See you. 2. Ground Rules · Materials Needed: Hi, welcome back. It's me. Okay, so before we begin, let's do a few ground rules. I gotta have those. Alright, so you got your paper, got your pencil. Here's the deal. As I am sharing my journey, this is all going to start the very next class. As I am sharing my journey and sharing my information, I want you to write down exactly the aged and the range that I share with you. It sounds a little cryptic right now, but it's all going to make sense. You've got to write down those ages and range that I share with you. Then for the age where you made a great decision, where there was personal, professional, financial, whatever you felt it was a great decision. I want you to put a star above that age where you didn't make the best. I want you to circle that age. Okay. Now I'm gonna have my notes with me guys. I know a lot of stuff battalion. So I want you to really be honest with yourself as you take this assessment because that's kinda what it is. And as part of the ground rules, I want you to know that this is a very interactive type. Of course. It's almost going to be like and like I said, I usually give this face to face. So now I got to go with the whole Zoom mode. But even with Zoom, people are alive sitting in front of me and you know how you can hit that button. They can raise their hand, you can stop, you can interact, you can talk. I'm not able to do that with you. As I'm talking. I'm going to be pausing every now and then. I'm gonna be giving you an opportunity to take notes as if I am standing there right in front of you. Okay. You're gonna take your notes and they need to be detailed notes because as we go through, I will be asking you questions and you will be writing the responses to those questions. We've got to really put on our pretend hat here. Because although this is set up as a face-to-face course, you can do this the way that we're structuring it today. And you are going to love the results. So I want you to get ready. I think that's it for the ground rules. Make sure you have, you know, book. Make sure you have your pen and paper. You're going to be putting a star. Star on the age where you use. When I ask, please put a star to the age where you made a great decision, a decision that impacted I won't say the rest of your life. We're not going to go that dramatic. But for that moment in your life or that snapshot in your life, That's where I want that star to be because that mean it lead to other things. Then for the circle flow, I'm sure lead things that worked so, but we have to always take a look at those cut-off trip ups. Now, I'm a big proponent of not living in the past. Done, okay? But I'm also a big proponent and learning from the past. We gotta learn from our past successes or failures or whatever you wanna call them. Okay, Then that's it. That's the groundwork. So as I'm talking to you, I'm going to be pausing. May even see I have my water. I may even take a sip of water. But either way, we're going to walk this journey together. The course is not alone course. The next lecture is, you're pretty much vital lecture because we're going to go through this and you're going to enjoy it. But take good notes. Okay, see you in the next lecture. 3. Exercise #1 · Pivets and Resets Stars and Circles · The Beginning: Welcome back. Here we go. Ages 0 to 18. I was the middle child of five born and raised in Upstate New York. That's all that's all my paper. Ages 0 to 18. You go ahead and write the same. Ages 18 to 21. I attended college in upstate New York. I got my bachelor's degree in economics. I'm going to put a star next to 18192021 because I made the decision to go to school in the hopes that it would better my life and give me more options. Your star to your circle. Same thing on the ages. Ages twenty one, twenty two, twenty three, twenty four. I lived in Chicago, took a job there and then I relocated back to Rochester, New York. I'm gonna give myself a star on those ages because those are all good career decisions. Ages 2425. That's when I met my soon to be future husband. I'm gonna give myself a little star there. On 2425. I was happy. Great decision. Age 26. I'm married. That give myself a little star. Age 2627, living the good life, married, enjoying all that comes with that. Give myself a little star there. You got to just be doing the same thing. You know where you were at those ages. Okay. Age 28. My first child arrives. Atom. That's when I made the decision. I want to stay home and be a mom. I'm gonna give myself a star for staying home with my child because it was one of the best decisions I ever made. And then I'm gonna give myself a circle on that page also, because financially, it ended up not being a great decision. Age is 29. I decided I was going to enroll in an MBA program. That's what I wanted to get my MBA in finance. So I did star on age 29, age 303132. And then my evening MBA program got my degree. Circles there. I'm pretty excited right after I graduated. Boom, here comes baby number two. Amanda, again, a star. Excited. Again, home. Again, a circle. Remember, we gotta be honest. I was excited to be a mom. I was excited to be able to be home. But was that a great financial decision? Well, in hindsight now, but at the time, yeah, young family, growing. Life is good. I'm going to take a little break here and let you fill out those ages 0 to 1818192021, star or circle 212223242526272829303132. We're going to take a break and I'll see you in the next lecture. 4. Exercise #2 · Pivets and Resets Stars and Circles · Foundational: Let's continue. In retrospect, I remember in less than two I said we'll just go all the way through. But it occurred to me that's too much. We're going to break it down into little chunks. We just did ages 0 to 32. So here we go. Thirty three thirty-four thirty-five thirty-six thirty-seven thirty eight thirty nine. I moved from Columbia, Maryland. We purchased a home there to Houston, Texas, to Washington DC and then Virginia. I was a corporate wife. What does that mean? I'm happy to be home with my children. Great stars on those. But circle because economically I wasn't earning anything. Yes. It's shared. We're married. It's joining come join assets. But the reality is, I was connected to that relationship. So I have to make the honest circle star great decision starting my family and being home and being there for my children. Great decisions, getting that MBA. You never know what the future's going to hold. Great decision for ODU and the relocation there again, learning how to navigate through all of that. But I was in fact a corporate spouse circle. Okay. Now I'm 40. So here we go. 4142. Okay. My marriage starts to unravel. Remember I told you there's going to be a little personal stuff, but not a lot of detail. 4344, marriage still non-respondents and resuscitation. 4546. My marriage is done. Remember I'm the one who stayed home with the children. Now I'm going through a divorce. Wow. I got some circles going down and pivoting. I got to do I've got some resetting. Alright, so now my son's off to Amherst College. Three years later, my daughter Amanda leaves for Vassar College. Now here's mom on her own. Time to start a life on her own. Wow. Almost 50 years old. Not a good look. Haven't worked in 20 years. Ouch. Know for one K Oh my goodness, very little savings. Time to go back to work. I haven't interviewed for a job in over 20 years. Here we go. I went back and default it with what I knew. I knew finance. I applied for a job at a bank, got the job at the bank. I took whatever I could get. I had to get back into the workforce. Yes. Even though you're dividing assets during the marriage, you need to have revenue. So I had to pivot. I had to self-correct. I made a tactical error. I didn't work at all for all those years. Enjoyed my life, enjoy being with my children, enjoy being a corporate spouse, enjoyed supporting my family. But Thomasine and I had not worked. And so now she's getting ready to pay for it. I got to make up for lost time. And here I am. Okay. We're going to take a little break. I want you to make some notes. Your 30s, 40s. So write those ages down. 31322, three thirty four thirty five zeros, stars, circles, stars for three forty four forty five forty six, forty seven, forty eight, forty nine star or circle. Which age did you make a great decision? You remember some of those ages can have a star and a circle at the same time. In the next lecture. 5. Exercise #3 · Pivets and Resets Stars and Circles · Midway : Hey, welcome back. Here we go. So now I'm at 49. So here we go. Turn it 50. Divorce. Wow. Stayed at home. Wow. Kids are off to college. I'm all alone. What am I going to do? A lot of zeros. Zeros a doctor. But I got all circles over though. Maybe that's how I feel and I feel like some zeros there. That was a Freudian slip. But yeah, I can have some circles over those ages because those were some catastrophic years. It was like the rug was pulled from under me. Now here I go. I got my MBA. I know I haven't been a long day, but I think I can do this. So I interviewed, got a job at the bank. I lasted one year. I was no longer a team player. I hated conference calls. I hated having to travel at the drop of a dime. I've been home too long. So I was not a good, good manager. My son makes a joke. He tells me all the time You are the only MBA I know you do not want to have a position in management. Well, I was ruined. I'd been used to my time. I flexibility, I gave my notes, I quit, I'd saved a few dollars. I had a little bit about divorce settlement. So I decided no, I got to find something else. Three weeks after I left that job at the bank, they called me and they said, Do you have your real estate license? That's it. No. They said Would you like to get your real estate license? I said Why? They said, Well, we're thinking about opening up a corporate relocations division in this region. And we are so sorry that you did not stay with our bank. You took our branch from 1 million in deposits to 17 million in deposits in under a year. You are clearly someone that we want to keep with the organization that was shot. I just deal with I know. Let's make some money. Let's get these deposits up. Well, apparently somebody in corporate was looking and watching and listening. The next thing I know I enrolled in an NBA. Nba had enrolled in a real estate program and got my license and call the bank and said, Okay, I'm all set. What do you want me to do? So they hired me back. I was doing all these corporate relocations and then the fatal error happened. I took one look at a check that a real estate agent made due to a corporately relocation that I coordinated. And I realize I'm not doing this. You all pay Abby. Good buddy, but it's good. For the second time. Just a little over two years, I gave my letter of resignation again. The same thing. And I branched out, hung my license with a real estate company. I buy real estate career to that bank and that circled crash and burn period of my life turned out to be one of the best things that ever happened to me. Make your notes. See you in the next lecture. 6. Exercise #4 · Pivets and Resets · Stars and Circles · Prime Time: Here we go. I'm back. Now. Here I am. We're at 51. I don't know what your ages, but here we go. If it as an avenue to you yet, stick around, it just might, you know, everybody's life is different, but none of us are exempt from the peaks and valleys of economic and financial and personal catastrophes are exempt. Alright, 5150 to look at that. Fifty three fifty four, fifty five fifty six fifty seven fifty eight, fifty nine. I'm giving myself stars on all those years because, you know, according to the financial planners, those are supposed to be your peak earning years and Doug on it, they were tonight, here's Tom Athena. You gotta be afraid of a person when they end up in a situation they love. I found my strength in real estate, stay with the company for a couple of years, then went back and got my broker's license. Then I started my own brokerage. Close it. I'm selling. I'm having the time of my life. I didn't look back. My kids are now finishing college. Yes, I'm still single. I didn't even think about re-mirroring. I focused on my career. I need you to write down 50515253545556789 and tell me where you were. Where are your stars? Where are your circles? Where are your stars? I had circles. That truly was my decade. My 50s were my decade. All my other decades. They were what they were where I was where I was supposed to be. That's the thing. You know, you gotta get chmod, right? You gotta just that mindset. You gotta be motivated to make what it is you want to happen, happen. We all have dreams. We all have goals. I mean, one of my earlier dreams well, let me put 30 years. During my Emeritus at o, we would travel during spring break. We visit France. I said, Oh, one day I'm going to come and I'm going to live here, I'm going to retire here. Then after my divorce, I didn't know what else to add no income. I didn't have a partner had planned all this with a partner, The Bailey in mind. And now here I am. How in the world am I going to retire or semi retired of France? Make your notes. For your 50s. Write me and tell me where those circles are and where those stars are. See you in the next lecture. 7. Summary + What's Next: Okay. You're with me. I know we've gone from age 0 all the way now to 59. Have you made great notes? How's your blueprint? What was that age where you made those decisions? I know my stars, but I've had to accept my circles to and those were setbacks. They truly are setbacks. There's no Washington over that. Okay. But this course, this presentation, Mrs, all about getting you to identify those moments where you made those epic decisions that did in fact change the course of your life? I never thought I'd be a real estate broker, But I am I never even I don't know. I mean, they say Meredith Meredith was one of the 50 per cent end in divorce and yet okay. I never even entered entertained being divorced. I didn't say board, I didn't plan for it. I never thought about it. I was fully immersed in my marriage. I know think about if you go to the race track and you see a two to one, that's a favorite. Everyone, marriage, divorce. The favorite. And yet I put my money on love. And so we make those decisions. So now here I am getting ready to turn 60. My daughter, she's living in Los Angeles. Pursuing your career in music and film composition for television and she's been in her Hollywood like my son, he finished up at Amherst. He was a Neuroscience majors, but as we go into medical school, change this path. Now he's a tech startup living in New York and apartment in Paris. I mean, the kids are great. And so here I am at 60 thinking, okay, you know, my 50s, I self-correct it a little bit. Now I'm moving into my 60s. These are some critical times. So a mountain while Sanders with my daughter, I'm visiting with her. We go out wonderful restaurant for my birthday. You brought the cake out. Thank goodness. It was not 60 candles on that cake. It will just burn the place to the ground. I blew out those candles and then I said to myself, You know what? This is, it, I'm done. My 50s, we're good. I don't have a plan after this. Should I be working to my 66.6 like Social Security tells me I need to or is it time now to go after that dream that I wanted to live in France, I wanted to semi-retirement France. So after my birthday I flew back. Now this is six. I flew back up everything, put it in storage, and got a one-way ticket to France. We're going into an apartment here. This is 2025 years later. I'm still here. We can work from anywhere. I want you to write down age 606160 to sixty three, sixty four, and sixty five. If you are of this age group, if not God willing, you'll be here one day. And I'm here to tell you, It's a good look. It may not look like what you thought it would look like. It may not feel like what you thought it was going to feel like. But it's a great look. I love spinning part of my year in the south of France, part of my year in the United States with my friends and family, I thought my divorce was going to derail all of my dreams and all of my goals. And it did derail certain parts of my life. I can't fill up over that. But what it didn't do, it didn't break my spirit. And that's what this course is about. This course is about focusing on who you are, what you can bring to the table. Pivoting to the left, pivoting to the right. You've made some interesting choices. We all have. But at the end of the day, we have the right to adjust, to, pivot, to reset. We have the right to change our minds, to do things differently. That's all I wanted to share with you. That's all I wanted to bring with you today. Adjust that mindset. Get that mindset motivation, goal in these last couple of years have derailed millions of people. I know they got some zeros over these ages. However, all they are thinking about young children that had to now do school from home. All that, learning that they lost. Wow, think about parents who lost jobs. They're in their 20s and 30s, they're supposed to be earning and contributing to their 401 k. Look at all those circles over those ages that loss. So what you wanna do is figure out your way to get as many stars as you can as you go through each decision. Age, choice of your life. Now I'm sitting here as you can see, I'm perspiring. I know I am because I can see it in the camera. And I get excited when I teach this content because I am a test the metals, who got a little jam with a twenty-year marriage and now I've been divorced 20 years. Okay. I don't anticipate every married, but I anticipate having the life that I want to design and live. That's key. So as you go over your blueprint, I want you to take a look at each one of those ages 0 through 1818 through your 20s and 30s. What were those good decisions? Don't beat yourself over the bad decisions focused on the good ones. You can make a lot of decisions. Cost you the cost you honestly personally, they got osteo. But write me if you need a helping hand because I'm here to tell you this 65-year-old woman plan and I'll be on our alpha level at least 30 years. Because I know how to pivot. I know how to keep my mindset and motivated. I know that sometimes there's going to be circles. Who knows what 66 is going to bring? I may get a circle on 66, but right now at 65, I am focused on getting through to that next chapter. I'm a new grandmother. That's enough to get me through the rest of this year. So thank you for joining me for the course. Write me if you have any questions, like I said, is a short, concise course. But it was specifically designed for my online students. Because a lot of people are struggling. A lot of people are trying to figure out what am I gonna do next. Guess what? You got more options than you've had for most of your life. You just got to open your eyes, adjust your mindset. Think about the positive as much as you get, even with all the negative coming back to you. Even if you just hemorrhaging cash and losing money and you're houses in jeopardy and your job is in jeopardy. Guess what? You're still standing. Figure it out. Go back through your ages. Figure out that age where you've made good decisions and then start making those same decisions. Then you'll see little by little. I'm not looking for anything extraordinary. I'm just looking to fulfill the dreams that I had. And just wake up each day saying, Yeah, I'm going to keep my mind, right. My mindset, stay motivated and focused. And I'm going to pivot. When I got to pivot, if my health starts going south, I'm going to reset. But I'm not going to let it take me out of the game. And that's what I want to leave you with. Stay in again. Your blueprint. Change it when you need to change it. And don't let anybody tell you anything different. See in my inbox. If you have any questions. Thanks again for joining me.