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1. Introduction Mastering Patience: Welcome to mastering patients. Whether at some
point in your day or if it creeps up on you as you near the
end of the week, you may find your patients
running thin to the point where you just might snap in order for us
to live as our truest, most authentic and highest
functioning cells, we need to dig deep to
discover what is setting us off so that we can begin
mastering patients. Together. We will uncover where and when your patients is At its
most and least optimal. I've included a handout, questionnaires and other
progressive processes to help you discover and
develop the tools you need to move past
inpatients and into the mastery of it as we
go through this module, as well as others, I invite you to move
at your own pace. Pause and reflect as
it feels right to you. Take the time you need to
fill out each handout, as well as take time for
breadth work, stretching. Tea water. This time is for you. And when you're
ready, I'll be here. Mastering patients is
an eight-step process which includes the
patient's questionnaire, boundary setting,
energy Seth barometer, and it is exactly how it sounds. Step into action. Patients toolkit,
morning ritual, evening ritual, and
patients intention. I invite you to take
a nice deep breath in before we began this
eight-step module together.
2. Patience Questionnaire : F1 patients questionnaire. Now it's really important to unpack our personal
relationship with patients, identifying when we are the most and the least patient
within our days. Now as I'm going through
these questions, feel free to ponder each
and every question. Pause the recording and write anything out you need to go at your own pace really allows
thoughtfulness around the processing within
your patient's awareness. Let's start with looking at who pulls patients out of you? Who pushes you to your limits. Let's go over these
powerful questions to really allow you to
explore your patients. What time of day do you
feel the most patient? Maybe things happen but you just seem to let
them roll off of, you know, it's
different for everyone. Some clients say they're more patient at the
beginning of the day. And then as the day goes on, it tends to thin quite rapidly. Go ahead and scan
through a typical day and think about when you
feel the most patient. Onto the next question. Is there a time in each day that your patients begins to thin? Maybe you start to feel
things like being agitated, annoyed, snappy,
just feeling done. What type of day does
that typically occur? It might be circumstantial. And if it is, feel
free to write down certain scenarios that
then your patients. I often hear from clients
that it's traffic, having a lack of control or
simply having too much on us. Now we want to move
into unpacking your response to
impatience as well. What is your typical
response when you find yourself impatient? What do you tend to
do? Do you snap? Do you react versus respond to abruptly walk away
or raise your voice? What is your typical response? Now, often, patients thins when we have too
much on our plate, we may have over-committed and then find
ourselves not present. Having such a full
load on our list. We can feel negative thoughts. We could be agitated, annoyed, snappy, done just
like we mentioned. Now, what can be done around
this is to be aware of it, be aware of our schedules. So let's look at our schedules. What are two dash three things that aren't extremely important that you can delegate
out or schedule out. Sometimes we tend to put undue pressure on
ourselves for timeframes. This just increases our stress. Who's going to take
away our patients? Now when you feel complete
documenting your responses, please join me on page two. As we touch on over committing, it's important to assess
our upcoming commitments. Now, we can do this by
checking in with ourselves. Do I want to go to this event? Does it feel heavy for
me or does it feel light when I think about
going to this event? Will this serve my best self, my most present self? Now that I've prefaced
this topic point, I'll get into the question. Is there an upcoming
event that you might be better served
saying no to if so, what is that event? I also want to extend a
permission slip to not attend this event or any in the future that you don't feel like
you really want to go. You have permission
to follow your heart, follow your intuition,
whatever is right for you. Now, let's get to an
important sentence which is a 11 word sentence. Know, now. Indicating saying. Now, you might think, well what's there to
talk about if you want to say no, you just say no. But some of us, it's hard to say no. Right. So just saying that
full-blown know can feel a little sharp or
just not like ourselves. So when it feels
like this for you, another way to go about
this is re-framing the no. In other words, what would be a lighter or more comfortable
response for you, right? So this is something
where we can look at. I'll give some examples. Let me check my schedule. I'm not sure what that
we can hasn't store. How about I get back to you
on that or I'd love to help, but I'm already so committed. Now think of some responses
that feel good to you. You can definitely use
the ones I've mentioned. It's also really helpful to practice saying them out loud. So you feel more comfortable. The more comfortable you feel, maybe we can get
to that one word. If I saying no, now, go head and what are the
top three to five things in your day that you feel the least patient with could be family, children,
work, communication.
3. Boundary Setting: Let's move on to
step number two. Boundary setting.
Boundaries are huge. I'm going to take
some time to go over boundaries and then we
can get into the handout. Boundaries will really impact
all areas of your life. In order to adjust something, we must first
become aware of it. I love what a mentor
once shared with me. Awareness plus choice
equals new behavior. So as we move into
boundary setting handout, I invite you to select from the options or feel free
to add in any of your own. Now what are the
areas you would like to implement boundaries around? I'll walk through a
few of these with you. Boundaries around conflict. This might be that
you've just had a disagreement and you're trying to collect your thoughts. But the person you're
having this interaction with keeps pressing
you to respond. Now, you're finding that you're reacting and not responding due to the lack of
boundary around taking time away
from this conflict, just simply to collect
your thoughts. Now, often people describe
this as feeling like they're on trial or not being able to answer authentically, or like more of a
pressure cooker. Now, boundaries around
food happen a lot. Many example here,
but I'll give you one that I hear the most common. Something like people saying, Aren't you going to
have a slice of pie? It took me over 4
h to prepare it. Come on, just try it. It's so good, not even a slice. Is this sounding familiar? Or you may have just started
eating a certain way, maybe restricting meat or sugar. And then it just simply becomes
the table conversation. So what do we do? Sometimes we just end up saying, I'm just going to
eat whatever anyway, just to end the conversation, take some time to
think about where you would like to
implement boundaries. Now please select from the
handout on page three. I've got a lot available there. Next, we'll look at
how we're going to feel comfortable setting
these boundaries. There are examples here
that we can go over. Now let's return to
our first example of a conflict with boundaries. So there's many healthy
ways that we can set boundaries around
conflict interaction. Yet it's important to
collect comfortable ways to handle each boundary for
each of us individually. Now in this situation, you might be saying, just know, no, I'm going to walk away and come back,
collect my thoughts. Now, it can also
be that you speak your truth and say
something like, I am full of emotions
right now and I feel that anything I might
say could be wrong. And it's important to
me to speak my truth. Let me think about this
and I'll get back to you. And thank you for understanding. Remember, after time, each boundary will get more
and more comfortable to set. And the other really
good news is that people actually start to
expect them from you.
4. Energy 'Suck' Barometer : Step number three,
energy suck barometer. Now I said at the beginning,
it is how it sounds. We'll get into it now. Have you ever heard of
the term energy vampire? Sometimes Energy
Vampires are known as people that intentionally suck the energy right out of you. They know that you're an empath, a kind person,
someone that listens. Now, some energy vampires just don't know.
They're doing it. Either way knowing
or not knowing. You are left feeling
completely drained and sometimes overwhelmed
and even anxious. If our energy is sucked, most likely our patients is
gonna go right out with it. To be aware of our energy
suckers and our energy gainers is critical when assessing
our daily do's and don'ts. Now let's talk about your
energy gain barometer. Have you ever literally
felt an increase of energy just simply by being around
someone for a few minutes. Or you may have hopped on
a call feeling mid energy. By the end of the call, you feel empowered and motivated
and light on your feet. Just excited and full
high-energy environment support our higher vibrations. Especially for those of
you that are impacts. You want to protect yourself
from Energy Vampires. And remember how much you thrive around people that
are higher energy, higher vibration, just like you get the
gift of energy from them, you give it to others as well. As you think about
the last three to five interactions
that you have had, I invite you to assess, assess your energy
suck barometer. Who or what do you feel
the least energy width. Now, energy gain barometer. Who or what do you feel
the most energy with? The most alive with? Once you're complete,
you will see in the handout a graph
with ten squares in it, color in each square to
represent the amount of energy that you received
by the WHO or the wet. The least squares colored
in the more drains you are. I invite you to take a moment
and observe your data. There's no judgment. This is how you feel. And this is just the beginning of protecting your patients, your bandwidth on a daily basis. This is really helpful
for us to move forward and I'm excited for you.
5. Step Into Action: Step number four,
step into action. I love the sound of that. Now, let's look at
what we've done so far and really pull it all together before we begin
in this space is provided, please list out your top
three boundaries that you would like to step
into action around. Now feel free to pull from the list on the boundary
setting handouts. That was on page three. Perhaps you write down
for boundary number one, children for boundary
number two, food. And then boundary number
three would be time. Let's explore ways
you would like to set a boundary
around each other. These categories. I'll go through this
with you to go over some examples and
we'll start with number one, which was children. Now, some clients need to use
a trifecta effect at times utilizing multiple boundary
streams, such as acceptance, accepting that their
children and they need you, and having loving detachment so they can be
independent and play, but also get support. And this allows the nurture of these children to feel like
they are meeting their needs, setting their boundary, yet also being the best nurture
that they can be. Now, go through your three
boundaries and process how you can best set up boundaries
around each for success. You'll see three spaces with plenty of lines to
empty out below. Some clients have mentioned
needing to just walk away, take some deep breaths,
even get outside. I'm big on Earth thing methods. Whatever you need
is what you need. Now when you're ready, we can go to page six, write out any action
steps that are involved with implementing
each boundary. It may be helpful to
add in timeframes and any other details
around this boundary. Now, following our example, in order to set a
boundary around children. And that alone time. We could say, I will wake up 15 min earlier and
practice self-care, implementing a healthy
morning routine. This will support
patients and also allow me to accept
that my children are little and I'm the
best nurture I can be and ask for support 30 min a
day Monday through Friday. And also voiced my children
that from time-to-time, I'm going to need about 5 min of alone time and go
ahead and write out your action steps
that are involved implementing your
three boundaries.
6. Patience Tool-Kit: Step number five,
patients toolkit. This entire handout makes
me really happy and I hope it adds some joy
to your life as well. Let's look at how we can tame our patients or tame it
when it starts to thin. Taking a look at the list, go ahead and circle the
patient's toolkit options that appeal to you the most. These can be found on page 7.8, some patient toolkit clients
favorites are to be alone. Use essential oils, get
out for some exercise, practice, gratitude, and
also visualization methods. What are yours? Great. Now that you've circled
or highlighted them, take some time to process
how you would like to feel. Let's lean into
how you're feeling right now in this moment around the patient's
toolkit options that you've selected
and written down. This will be your patient's
toolkits statement. Feel free to write out several. Once you have written
them all out, I invite you to read
them to yourself. Allowed, this really
helps us anchor. And how do you feel reading these tools that
you've selected? Are you feeling motivated? Maybe a sense of power
coming over you. Take note of how you're
feeling because you can and you will be using
these wonderful tools. An example might
be something like, I feel more purpose,
I feel peace, I feel calm, I feel motivated and encourage a weight
lifted off my chest. I feel hopeful and I
feel like I have a plan. When you're ready, we
can go to page nine and you'll see a handout
patients Toolkit. Go 2's. Let's begin by implementing these tools into
your daily life. Take a moment to think
about the times that you find yourself inpatient. Please use the spaces below that you can go into
your patient's toolkit, gotos for specific
circumstances in your life. This method works really well. Perhaps it's patients
around family, Fitness, finances and food. And what tools from the list
would you like to use to successfully navigate
through this with ease? E.g. your boss calls and what are the patient's toolkit
options that we could use? We could delegate,
schedule out, start small, go through three to four
scenarios and write out which patients toolkit you're
going to use with them. Just like the example we used, creating a plan is
creating a future of success and a future of
practicing patients.
7. Morning Ritual : Module six, morning ritual. Studies repeatedly show that how you spend the
first 10 min of every day have a
substantial impact on how the rest
of your day goes. So if you start
your day out well, you are setting your
entire day up for patients and levels of success. Let's go over the benefits of mourning rituals and then
we'll get into the handout. There are so many benefits, so I'll just touch on a few. But it gets better
decision-making throughout a day. It helps us elevate
our confidence. Increase motivation,
increased productivity, improved, moved, more
patients, reduce stress. This is a great handout
to really press on having amazing
morning rituals. Now let's go to the handout. Circle, the morning rituals
that appeal to you the most and please edit anything
that's not on the list. Think BIG here. This is your ideal
morning ritual. Once you're complete, I invite you to write
out how incorporating these mourning
rituals that you've selected will impact your life. I invite you to really
sit with this, say, to incorporate drinking water, enjoying a healthy breakfast, praying, and stretching
into your morning routine. How would your life be impacted
by implementing these? How might you feel? Maybe it's more energy,
feeling more present, and improved mood, closer connection,
improved flexibility. These are all wonderful
things when you're ready. Let's move to page 11 now to see the opportunity of how we can write out our morning ritual, take a few deep breaths while we're reflecting
upon everything we've opened up so far now allow
ideas to come to you. These feelings do senses of calmness that are
surrounding you. And when you're ready, go ahead and write down
your ideal morning routine. But the prompts available, feel free to add in any
that are not on the list. Include timeframes,
preferences, any details, and how fun, no limit. This is your morning routine. This is your dream. When the second you
open your eyes, one of my clients examples was that I will wake up
at 06:00 A.M. Monday through Friday each morning I will start out with drinking a full glass of water
that is next to my bed. After drinking water, I
will lay back down in bed and do a five-minutes
of embed stretching. I liked the idea
of incorporating gratitude into this practice, as well as breath work. Once I am complete, I will shower, brush my teeth, wash my face, and enjoy
a healthy breakfast. Feel free to play around with your morning ritual until it
feels just right for you. I hope you're having fun while creating your dream morning.
8. Evening Ritual : Let's move to Step
seven, evening rituals. After a long day, It's important for us to
have a healthy wind down. And again, this is never
a one-size-fits-all. Each of us have so
many different needs in terms of our evening rituals. And we'll go over quite a few. The main focus here is to
allow ourselves to really decompress from what
our day has involved, how to slow it down and
really ultimately have optimal sleep and rest RAM to recharge for that next day
that we have ahead of us. There are so many
benefits around having an evening
ritual and of course, implementing it, which would include increased
attention span, increased energy,
increased motivation, lower stress, positive mindset, and a stronger focus. This is a great handout
to lean on when having amazing evening rituals. So go ahead and circle
the ones that appeal to you the most and plead it. Please add in anything that's
not on the list. Think big. This is your evening ritual when working with clients that
have a high stress jobs, they're gotos are often
to get organized, journal undone tasks, prioritize the next day and select a tire. Again, everyone is different. And this is up to you to choose
what feels best for you. And this is for now.
Remember, we can always adjust our rituals later. Once you have selected your
ideal morning ritual gotos, we can go ahead and write
out our evening ritual, which is on page 13, just like we did for
the morning ritual. Now my my client, I'm going to share an
example of that he wrote, I will start my
evening ritual at 09:30 P.M. Monday
through Friday. Each evening I will
start winding down by getting myself
organized my paperwork, putting away Dishes, laundry, and other household items. I will journal The
undone tasks from my day and prioritize
them for the next day. This will help me feel at peace knowing I've left
Not 1 st unturned. I will also select and set
out my next day's attire. Now shout out to my clients that have shared these with me. I really appreciate it. And this also means that I'm
giving you a shout-out for going through this process
with me right now, part of what you just did
for both your morning and evening rituals
was visualized and even internalize what you're wanting for your days to
look like. Great work.
9. Patience Intention: Step eight, patients intention, the power of intention. Wow, thoughts of
patients breed patients. In one of my favorite quotes around intention and thoughts setting is you get what you think about whether
you want it or not. This is by Dr. Wayne Dyer. Let's talk about intention for a moment before we
really dive in. Intention is something that you intend for something to happen. It is thought out and
you put it into plan. You set a goal and you intend
for it to come to fruition. You intend that if you aim, you focus, that you
will achieve your goal. Have you ever put intention into something and it
hasn't happened? I've had so many clients
success stories around intention setting and some of them don't happen for years. Some of them can
happen the next day or even the next week, no matter what the timeframe, let's look at what your
patient's intention can be. It is time to set
your intention. Here are a few examples
of patients and tensions. So feel free to use those
ones or the ones that resonate with you most
I impatient, I am true. Patients is my purpose. My body emanates. Patients. Each cell within me
produces more cells of positivity and
patients I am com. Once you have yours, write
it out, print it out, save it on a sticky
note and place it where you can see
it all the time. And finally, you'll be
writing a letter to yourself, your most patient self that is, this can be found on page 15. Write a letter to yourself
as your most patients, I'll keep this
letter and place it by your bedside or
your bathroom sink so you can use it and
see it every morning in addition to your morning
routine from my client, they shared today I woke up
feeling a calmness within me. I took a few nice deep
breaths in and had a sense of gratitude flow
up and down my body. Today I give myself
to be present, take things slow and
really enjoy being. I also give myself grace
for what is to come ahead. I am appreciative of my interactions and pausing
when I know it will serve me. In close, I give
myself permission to allow to be the best
version of myself. Yet, if you would like
to continue on with your journaling, feel free. Use the note pages as well
and invite you to write out multiple letters as
your most patients cell as many as feels right to you. You have accepted this
invitation of mastering patients and have gone through this entire process with me. Now I invite you to
use these tools, use your patients
to guide you and being your best and truest self. Thank you so much for joining me on this beautiful journey. Congratulations on
completing this module, mastering patients live
with love, live with light.
10. Mastering Patience Guided Meditation: Congratulations on taking
your time to invest in such a valuable
topic, such as patients. Going through
everything you have so far during this process. And now I invite you to start
out by getting comfortable, create a safe and
comfortable space free from distractions. You might sit on the
floor or in a chair. Find a space that you
can sit in comfortably for about 5 min, give or take. The time you've taken to get to this closing piece shows how
important patients is to you and also how important
being present is to you. I invite you to take
full deep belly breaths, explore visualizing
with your eyes closed, if that feels
comfortable for you. I am now going to take
you through a process. Let's begin with three
solid, deep belly breaths. Relaxing your jaw,
relaxing your shoulders. Now invited to allow
the questions that you reviewed earlier to
process within you. You now have clarity
around when you were the most and the least patient. Think about those and have clarity around how you
can respond versus react. This is amazing work feel
what it feels like in your body to have
this realization. Does it feel light,
warm, relaxing? How does it feel for you? Take a nice deep belly breath, allowing the boundaries
to settle in. You now have awareness around where you would
like to implement boundaries and what ways you personally want
to express them. How does it feel, knowing what takes the most energy from you? Does it feel heavy, tight? Maybe it feels exhausting
or even frustrating. Take a breath in. Shift into comfort
around your boundaries. Maybe, you know, feel
comfortable saying no. Or maybe you've
created a method on setting healthy
boundaries just for you. Take a nice deep breath in. Allowing each of your
patients tool kit options to soak into you. And allowing the realization of your morning and evening rituals
to become a part of you, a part of your future. Take a nice deep breath in. And finally, your
patients intention. Now this is when I
invite you to reflect on your patients intention
that you created. What are you seeing when you see yourself practicing
patients consistently? How are you saying
your relationships? How are your conversations? Is there more
presence within you? How can you truly feel your
best self when thinking about living a life with
your patients intention. Take a nice deep breath in. Now, let's begin thinking ahead. In the next three
to five months. You have an event,
maybe an opportunity, maybe even a move coming up in the next three
to five months. Once you can think of one, I invite you to visualize
yourself in that space. Are you outside? Are you inside? And as you place your patients
as your main focus here, how are you different now? We're three to five
months forward, you are living
your patient life, flexing all that you
have cultivated. How are you different? Maybe you're visualizing
that you're outside. Walking around in a park. Have you noticed that
your energy has shifted? Maybe you've started
to slow down more. Or maybe you've even reduced. You're multitasking. Take a nice deep breath in. And I invite you to complete the sentence in a way
that feels best to you, that feels the
most supportive to your most present itself. When looking in on
my most present itself in the next
three to five months. I see. Take the time
to answer this. You might see yourself
calm, peaceful. More in the moment. Less distracted. You might see herself laughing
with a sense of ease. See what you see. Feel what you feel. Take a nice deep
belly breath in. When you're ready. Come back to the room. Slowly opening your eyes, wiggling your
fingertips and toes. Returning to your space. Bringing the presence
you have just seen and experienced
back with you. I invite you to express these
parts of you and implement these lifestyle methods to live your best and most present life. Thank you for continuing
this journey with me. I wish you a life of
patients mastery.
Julia Kay, Certified Health & Wellness Coach
