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1. 1 Introduction: Self-discipline, a mosque,
good for everyone. Said discipline is one of the most important
and useful skills everyone should possess. It is an essential
and useful skill in every area of life. However, though most people
acknowledged it's important, Few do something
to strengthen it. Contrary to common belief, to build self discipline does not mean to be
harsh on yourself. Living a limited
restrictive lifestyle. Building the skill
requires common sense. Making priorities, and
thinking before acting. Self-discipline does
not necessarily mean to live a controlled or at
restrictive lifestyle, but to have a control
over oneself. It gives the person the power
to make the right decision despite temptations and
achieve their lifetime goals. Furthermore, the skill
manifests as inner strength, leading to strong willpower and overcoming procrastination, laziness, addictions,
and overeating. Does self-discipline is a skill that leads one to
achieve success? The benefits of
self-disciplined. It helps you in
achieving your goals. Goals give you a
clear understanding of your needs for achievement. The preparation of a
timeline draws you closer to your goal and it is a
driving force to work hard. It improves your focus. When you're
self-disciplined, you have the ability to remain
focused on the task at hand. There will always be temptations and
distractions around you. However, when you're
self-disciplined, you recognize the importance of the activity that
you're working on. You also recognize that the
hard work you're putting in, We'll play a larger
role in what you're trying to achieve in a longer. It boost self-esteem. Success comes to
those who believe in themselves and were the
hardest workers in the room. Self-discipline helps you boost your self-esteem and work ethic. At the same time, when
you discipline yourself, you are actually improving your work ethic by
sticking to it. It helps you master new skills. Success comes to those who
are masters, not beginners. If you want success, you need to be a
master at something. You become master by
putting the work and spending up to 10 thousand
hours on one thing. Mastery comes with discipline. And most people fail because
they don't master anything, but a successful
people do one thing, and mastering Self-discipline
helps you remain motivated. Now it is tough to remain
motivated when you don't see any results
for your hard work. Or when you're stuck
in a routine that doesn't promote
happiness or fulfilled. There will always be those days regardless of where you
are at in your life. However, you will find it
easier to remain motivated. Then you can be more disciplined in how you choose
to spend your time. When you're disciplined
with your time, it helps you to keep
yourself engaged in the activity that
you're taking part in. And last but not the least, it helps you in achieving
a balanced lifestyle. Self-discipline means
having the ability to do what you're
supposed to be doing. And it doesn't always mean you
shouldn't be hard at work. Like anything else in life. Balance is very important. And being self-disciplined
helps you to promote a balanced life without having
time set aside to relax. Love, to have fun, to spend time with your
family and friends. You will quickly
begin to burn up. Productivity will
decrease your motivation. And it won't be as
high as it was once. Your outlook might begin
to be less optimistic. While having fun and taking
breaks is important. When you're self-disciplined, you're able to hold yourself accountable for how you go about doing things on a
day on day basis. So what will you learn in
this particular course? In this particular course, we will be looking at seven simple habits of
overcoming procrastination, building a rock-solid mindset, building unshakable
self-discipline, and ultimately living
a balanced life. Once you inculcate these
habits in your life, nothing will be able to
keep you from achieving a balanced lifestyle and the success that you're
always dreamed off. So what are we waiting for? I'm super excited to see
you inside the course. Let's get started.
2. Step 1 Set Clear Goals: Step one, set clear goals. Setting goals gives you a long-term vision and a
short-term motivation. It focuses on your
acquisition of knowledge and helps you
to organize your time and your resources so that
you can make the most of your life by setting
sharp and defined goods. You can measure and take pride in the achievement
of these goods. And you'll see forward
progress in what might previously have seen a
long point please grind. You will also raise your self
confidence as you recognize your own ability and competence in achieving the
goals that you have. Say, one of the reasons goals are so important is that
they give you a direction. When you've got clearly set
and well-defined goals, they make lots of decision easy. If your goal is to lose £2 this month and you're
out for a meal with friends and have
to choose between the greasy burger or
the chicken salad, then it's pretty clear which
option you should take. Similarly in a
professional context, if your goal is to work
towards getting promoted, and you've got the
choice between helping your boss prepare his PowerPoint
deck for a confidence, but having a drink
with a friend, then it's simply to decide. By setting goals like this, you can essentially put your decision-making on an autopilot, which has a nice dual
effect of making you more likely to achieve
your goals and giving you more time and
energy to focus on taking the more active
actions you need to take in order to achieve
your long-term goals. So how should one set goals? First of all, know
your why, not? Before even you go
ahead and set a goal, take a closer look at
what you're trying to achieve and ask yourself
the following questions. Is this goal something
that you truly want? Why do you want to
achieve this good? Is it important enough to pour hours of time and
effort into it? And if you're not willing
to put in the time, it may not be worth pursuing. Remember, when you use to
dig holes in the sand at the beach until you hit
water. It's like that. Except the y is the shower. And your value or the water. Keep asking why until
you hit the value. You can do this for yourself with a friend or
work with a coach. Sometimes, why can feel a little judgy and make you
go deep into your head. If that happens, ask the question a bit
differently to yourself. What's important
to you about that? What makes you wanted? As you ask these questions. Be on the lookout
for the emotions. As you noticed a
lump in your throat. Or if you're doing this
with someone else, a pause in your voice. Get curious about
what's going on. Our feelings tend to lead us to our values and they
are useful for getting into action and staying
engaged, create smart goals. A useful way of
making goods more powerful is to use
the smart mnemonic. Plenty of variants. Smile usually stands
for specific, measurable, attainable,
relevant, and time-bound. The most important
part of smart goal setting is to make
your goals specific. So you can clearly
track your progress and know whether you
actually meet your goal. The more specific you
can be with your goal, the higher the chances
that you will complete it. For example, many people would
set goal to lose weight, but they don't always decide
how much weight they want to lose and by what time a
specific goal would be, I want to lose £25
by 4th of July. Now, this goal provides an exact amount of
weight to lose, and it also has a deadline. So it's more specific. And there are very
high chances of you going ahead and chasing
it and achieving it, finding it, write
down your goals. The very physical act of writing down a goal makes it
real and tangible. You have no excuses for
forgetting about them. As you write, use the words like we'll instead of would
like to, or might. For example, I will reduce my operating expenses
by 10% this year. Not that I would like to reduce my operating expenses by a
certain amount this year. The first goal
statement has a power and you can see yourself
reducing expenses. The second one actually lacks passion and also
gives you an excuse. If you get sidetracked. When you write your goals down, they become real and tangible
instead of vague idea that resides only in your mind. Once you've written
down your goals. Keep them somewhere visible. Put your personal goals upon your middle or near
your computer screen. Your team goes up
on a wall next to everyone's desk and include company goals in your
internal presentation. This very tactic, we'll
keep reminding to keep working on your
goals rigorous. As you're writing
down your goals, use a positive tone so that you stay excited about
completing them. Build an action plan
with a defined timeline. Now, this step is often missed out in the process
of goal setting. You get so focused
on the outcome that you forget to
plan all of the steps that are needed along
the way by writing out the individual steps
and then crossing each one. As you complete it,
you will realize that you're making progress
towards your ultimate goal. And this is especially
important if your goal is big, demanding and a long-term goal. Many people decide a goal, but they never create
an action plan to determine how exactly
they will meet that good. Your action plan should always include the overall
goal that you're trying to meet and all the steps that you need in
order to get there. So don't be afraid to get
creative with your action plan. Go back to your elementary
school days and get creative. Write out your goals
using crayons, markers, sketch pens, colored pencil, or anything that
comes in your hand. For example,
according to Forbes, creating an action plan
this way activates a different part
of your brain and then it cements the
goal in your mind. Very important step. Take massive action. Now that you planned
everything out, it's time to take action. You didn't go through all that work just to forget
about your group. Every step that you
take should lead to another until you
finish your good, monitor your progress and
keep updating your strategy. You need to keep your motivation strong to complete your goals. Consider scheduling
a weekly evaluation, which could include measuring your progress and
checking your schedule. Once you see how close
the finished line is, you'll feel more motivated
to push through the end. If you are a little
behind the schedule, make necessary adjustments
and keep going. Finally, a way to track small
incremental steps towards a larger goal and drag those small steps
on a daily basis. Little accomplishments
add up to being larger accomplishments
over a period of time. If a monthly or quarterly
revenue target is your goal, find a way to track this on a daily basis to
ensure that you are under Target or identify whether
or not you're behind it. This will create a
daily accountability and will always keep you on track in terms of
achieving your goal to celebrate small wins. Now it's easy to
dry pasta events without even looking
out of the window. But if you are going to stick to your challenging and
meaningful goals, make sure you enjoy the view as you create your road
map to achieve your goals, include benchmarks and rewards. They should be activities or
gifts to yourself that are motivating and cause
you to reflect on what you're learning
and what you're becoming.
3. Step 2 Build a Rock Solid Mindset: Step number two, build
a rock-solid mindset. Mindset is a combination
of your beliefs, thoughts, emotions,
assumptions, and additive. These aren't just your
conscious thoughts and beliefs, but also what is there
in your subconscious. You're mindset in compasses, how you view yourself, your place in the world
and the world around you. And that means it determines
your decisions, choices, actions, including
how you relate to others and deal with
stressful situations. Your mindset influences
your outcomes, which is why mindset
is everything. And when we change
our mindset to align our values, purpose, and goals, we give ourselves more significant opportunity
to achieve, act, and live them out. Think of yourself
as a soccer player. You might not be much
of a sports person, but you don't have to
be to get this analogy. If you don't believe
that your team can wind, it will affect the way you play. You wouldn't even
perform as well. Because in your mind,
you've already lost. This applies to anything
that you do in your life. If you believe you can
achieve something, you will work harder
towards the goal. How to build a healthy mindset? First of all, very
important, accept yourself, self-love and self-acceptance up critical aspects of
health and happiness. These are attributes that
shape your physical, mental, and emotional health
in real and concrete ways. When they refuse to
accept ourselves, we cut ourselves from the
energy that sustains life. This process happens gradually. We are disconnected from the
life force and this leads to serious issues emotionally
as well as physically. When we don't accept
ourselves the way we are. We are in essence wearing
ourselves internally. And when we fight against our
own self, guess who loses? Of course, we ourselves. So self-acceptance is exactly
what the name suggests. The state of complete acceptance of oneself through
self-acceptance is embracing who you are without any qualifications,
conditions are exceptions. To begin working on yourself. The first step is not just self-acceptance, but
unconditional self-acceptance. It is relatively easy to accept ourselves when we just
did something great, like won an award, fell in love, or started a fantastic new job. But accepting ourselves even at a lowest point and
with our faults and flaws in stark relief is the best mark of unconditional
self-acceptance. When you practice
unconditional self-acceptance, you can begin to love yourself, embrace your authentic self, and work on improving less than desirable traits and qualities. Do not try to
control everything. Now, exit that life is messy and there's a good
chance that you need to control everything. But that comes at a big cost. Trying to control
everything sets you up for unrealistic expectations, stress, commitment
issues, and unhappiness. And that's why it's a good
idea to give up control. Every once in a while. There are some things
in life that we cannot control regardless
of how much we try. Hence, it is important to
understand what things we can control and what
are beyond our control. Remember, the only
change you wish to see is within yourself. And hence your focus should
be only on controlling the things for your
vitamin and your progress. There are just some
things we can't control. Then there are some
things that we shouldn't even want
to worry about. Letting go of control
might be hard, but living with the stress of a control freak might
be even difficult. Stay calm and compassionate. Staying calm allows you to think logically
decisions accordingly. Clarity of mind is extremely important while you're
dealing with problems. If your mind is
free and relaxed, your clarity on towards shall provide you the solution
that you're looking out for. Staying calm allows you to discuss things
rather than fight. Keeping calm is a blessed that most of us don't even
realize in life. When you keep count in most straightforward situations
and conditions of life, you open up the
avenues for solutions. This is important to sort out even the major
crisis in your life. Maintain a gratitude journal. Now a gratitude
journal is a diary of things for which
you are grateful for. Gratitude journals are used
by individuals who wish to focus the attention on the positive things
in their life. Gratitude, the feeling
of appreciation or tanks has gained a lot of attention in the field
of positive psychology. Some studies have found
that those who are habitually grateful are happier
than those who are not. Furthermore, studies also
suggest that feeling of gratitude may even possess mental and physical
health benefits. Being positive strides
to develop methods by which one can consistently
enhanced gratitude levels. And gratitude journals are
used by individuals who wish to focus their attention on positive things in their life. Maintaining a gratitude journal definitely increases your
happiness quotient in life, eat healthy, and stay hydrated. Now new research is
showing the link between your gut
health and your book. One of the things which
directly relates to your gut health is the food
you put inside your body. Eating right diet and
drinking enough water to keep yourself hydrated are key
elements to good health. And ultimately, a strong mind resides inside a strong body. By reducing inflammatory food, such as any food, allergies, grains, dairy, and alcohol, you can reduce the stress
on your digestive system. A healthier diet means
fewer sick days, more energy, and more willingness
to achieve your goals. It keeps you motivated
and on track in terms of chasing your
long-term goals, living in the moment. Now research has
shown time and again, that people who focused on seeking pleasure
in the moment are happier than those who are focused on the
past or on future. And those that take the time to notice more of the
small things and enjoy the simple pleasures of life are happier and more productive. The moment you
experienced right now is the only moment that
you can control. You cannot control what will
happen in a year's time, let alone what will happen
even in the next five minutes. By living in the present, you stop trying to
guess what might or might not happen
in the future. And instead you stay focused on what is happening in Europe. And by being present, you'll be able to enjoy
anything that you do and be more aware of experiences
as they are happening. And that will make you more appreciative of them
and being happier. And last but not the
least, find a hobby. It's a great form of self-care. See if you can find a hobby
or an activity which you can just enjoy it because
it makes you feel better. As you become more confident
and competent at it, you'll discover
how confidence and self belief will pull over
into other areas of your life. The positive torque you use and the joy you'll find in
your hobby will make you more mentally stronger as you takin the harder
aspects of your chosen.
4. Step 3 Set the Right Environment: Step number three, setting
the right environment. Environment is a combination
of both physical factors, such as where you
live and the people around you in your home, but also in the wider community
scale. What do we see? Breed, touch, and smell can impact our mood
and stress levels, which directly impacts our
mental health as well. De-cluttering goes far beyond improving the aesthetics
of your home or workspace. It's essential to both physical as well as
mental well-being. When you clear the excess
clutter out of your life, you will notice the
positive effect it has on your mental state
and overall wellness. Many studies have proven
the psychological power of clearing out your space in
different areas of your life. So for the sake of your
overall health and happiness, take the time to
declutter your life and start seeing the positive
changes that occurs. De-cluttering
influences your mood. For example, recent studies reveal that rooms
with bright light, both natural and artificial, can improve health and well-being impacts your
behavior and motivation to act. For example, a messy hallway, choose bags and other stuff, may invite you to drop what
you're carrying right there. Whereas a clean entry and adequate storage will encourage
you to take the time to put the item of a facilitate or discourage interactions
in your family. And we'd get, for example, I inviting space with
comfortable chairs can encourage people to sit and
have a good conversation. Create or reduce stress, which impacts not
only your emotional, but also your physical health,
including your longitude. So how does one build
a healthy environment? First of all, declutter
your surroundings. Do you have receipts
from a decade ago? Is that a jacket in your closet
that no longer fits you? That outdated medications eating up your space in the
bathroom cabinet. If so, then don't
hesitate to shred, recycled, take to goodwill or
trash these outdated items. When you think of de-cluttering, you probably assume that
it is about getting your home or personal
life in tip-top shape, but it should also
involve your workplace. The main reason is that your messy desk is killing
your productivity. The process works for
women too, by the way, instead of continuously putting away your core for tomorrow, schedule a time in your calendar to tidy up your workspace. The fourth box method is an effective and painless way to help you conquer the clutter. Just fine the four boxes and label them with
following categories. Trash. These are items that you
no longer need or want, but they're also not worthy
of donating or selling. To give away or sell for things that may
have value to others, donate them, or sell them. Three, store. Seasonal clothing is a
perfect example of this. There's no need to keep your Tommy Bahamas shirt
hanging in your closet. When it's 30 degree outside. Keep and put away for things
that you use regularly. Designate a home for them, and put them away
when not in use. Declutter your mind. One of the best ways
to clear your mind, as well as decreased stress and anxiety is to practice
mindfulness meditation. The reason that mindfulness
works is that it redirects your thoughts and
attention to the present. You will stop being
consumed by the past, future and negative self-talk. Your brain needs time
to rest and recharge. As a result, you'll become more productive and less stressed. Schedule frequent breaks for yourself throughout the workday. And get every moment really
go for a walk or read, or look out the window
for a couple of minutes. At home. Establish boundaries.
For example, when it's time to eat dinner, don't look at your phone
during the weekend, go out and do something that you enjoy that's not
related to your work. Besides giving you a
chance to decompress, disconnecting allows
reducing the amount of media that you consume. Obviously, you want to learn
new information and skills, but too much of that can
also clog your brain. Avoid multitasking. What do you may believe? Multitasking does not work? It's impossible. Switching from task to task, you think you're
paying attention to everything that is
happening around you. But you're actually not, you're not paying attention to one or two things
simultaneously, but you're just switching
between them rapidly. That means that multitasking isn't just counter productive. It also causes your brain to struggle as it attempts to
figure out what's going on. The better alternative is to focus on one thing at a time. When it's time to
focus on deeper, then that's the only thing
that you should be focused on when it's time to clean
out your closet or inbox. That's a single task that deserves your
attention right now. Everything else will have
to wait until later. Surround yourself with
empowering people. When you surround yourself
with positive influence, it becomes that
much easier to stay focused on your end goals. You'll feel better
about yourselves. You will feel more energized and motivated when you spend
time with these people, you won't be stressed out. The truth is that you
can't have a life of positivity by spending a lot of time with people
could drag you down. The good news is that there
are multiple solutions. Surround yourself
with positive people. The benefits are many. Attitude will change. You will accomplish more. You will make more friends. You will be consistently happy. You will actually become
a magnet of success. But don't just dump all of your negative friends,
family, and coworkers. That may be neither
practical nor kind, but do make a
conscious effort to limit the time that
you spend with them.
5. Step 4 Build a Routine: Step number four,
build a routine. Routines are conscious
ways of doing things repetitively and in
a specific order. Like making your coffee than brushing your teeth
or getting dressed and making your
bed every morning before you leave the
house to go to the gym. Routines are often made
up of many habits. Are action steps taken towards accomplishing
a particular goal. Routine can anchor
us in daily life, having breakfast at the
same time each morning, as well as eating dinner
and going to bed. Same time each night, creates comfort and stability. When VR in on top
of our routines, life is easier to handle. This sense of
manageability allows us to cope with
unpredictable changes. It makes our life
more efficient. It helps us in better
planning and time management. It gives a structure to a life. It builds a momentum
for sexist and helps us in achieving
more and crack success. So how does one build? First of all,
understand your why. All successful people
have routines. Every day. They get up and know
exactly what they're going to do and when
they're going to do it. But the question is, why? Why do they make these routines and follow them religiously? That is the question one
needs to ask our own selves. Because as the saying goes, when the wiser clear, the house will emerge
automatically. Think about why starting a
routine is important to you. What's your motive behind it? Why are you trying to
even create this rupee? Is it because everyone
else says it is important? Or maybe you want to stop
rushing out of the door in the morning or stop
staying up so late. Get clear on your reason
for starting a routine, because this will give you more motivation to
make it happen. Always start with small goods. Break each large goal
into smaller goals. While a big goal is
exciting to tackle, it is what often
leads to failure as we take on too much in one go. So if your oral goal is
to eat healthier meals, start by changing
one thing a day, every day, and then gradually
build your confidence. Menu accomplished
that you need to even congratulate yourself and
give yourself a small reward. Make a plan, write down what
your ideal routine looks like with the things
you need to do and the things you want
to do from there. Put things into an order
that actually makes sense. Think about how much
time you'd like to dedicate to each
activity or habit. And also keep in
mind the amount of time you have to
make it all happen. Consider if you're
trying to get to bed by ten PM and you have a list
of five things to do. And how much time can you realistically spend
on each one of them? Try not to overcome it yourself because that will
make you over there. Then it will be more
harder to complete your who'd be consistent and
more importantly, have fun. If you want to get a daily walk-in attempted at the
same time every day. Completing your task first thing in the morning before losing motivation allows you to enjoy
the benefits of the NTD. For example, if you
wanted to get to a gym, doing it on your way
to or from work, you will probably
have more success. Most people won't want to leave the warm house once
they get home. Getting into a new routine and new goals aren't always fun, but there are ways
to make it fun. Find a workout buddy. You get a good playlist for cleaning and try new
cooking classes. Anything that will help you
enjoy your new routine. Track your progress. Tracking whether the routine
is effective shouldn't be done in a sporadic when
I get around it fashion. Instead, you need to
make sure you track your progress in one way or
another every single day. Create a visual
calendar that you can cross off each day when
you complete a task. Most people don't want to break the chain and see the missing
spot on their calendar. You don't need to stick
to the routine perfectly. That's not the point. Instead, just write down
your most important tasks. Plan your day based
on your energy, and track your routine
each and every day. That way, you'll know how close you're getting to
hitting your target. Make changes to your
routine as needed. Once you've designed
your routine and have had time to test out. Don't be afraid to go back and make some tweaks
here and there. Whether you want to
add or subtract task or recalibrate your
activities for a new goal. Routine as a fluid
that is ever-changing. For example, if you find that the workout routine
has gotten too easy, consider going back and adding more difficult
exercises into the mix. And last but not the
least, reward yourself. Do not underestimate the
power of self rewarding. I had a habit of
working all the time, exhausting myself only
and then dragging myself to beg only to return to the same
routine the next day. When a period of time, such an effort can be hard to sustain if the results
showed no sign of arriving. So do not forget to reward
yourself for working so hard. And avoiding is an
age old mechanism of getting things done. So once you have fallen into a routine on a consistent basis, they've already yourself
with something fun, like a piece of cake. Your favorite latte, or
watching your favorite TV show, or playing your favorite game.
6. Step 5 Develop Atomic Habits: Step number five,
build Atomic Habits. Humans are by nature,
creatures of habits. Habits are the
essential foundation for any productivity practice. The appearance of
superhuman levels of self-discipline is simply a
collection of strong habits, carefully cultivated
over a period of time. Your habits play an
important role in your life. Having good habits will lead
you to an effective life. Having bad habits,
on the other hand, will lead you to failure. So it's essential that
you build good habits. Good habits allow you
to reach your goal. Good habits set a foundation
for a balanced life. And last but not the least, they always keep you motivated and keep you on track
for your success. Now, in the previous lecture, we understood routines and here we are talking
about habits. Now, let's understand
a very key difference between habits and routines. Both habit and routine refer to regular and repeated
actions in our lives. A habit is an action we do often in a regular
and repeated way. Routine is irregular way of doing things in a
particular order. A routine is actually made
up of several habits. The main difference
between habit and routine is that habit
is a recurrent, often unconscious action, whereas routine is
a set of habits. How to build good habits? Once again, we need to
understand the why. Just like the routine. Think about why
building a habit is important for you.
What's your motive? Why even trying to
develop that habit? Is it because everyone else
says that it is important? Or maybe you want to
achieve something very specific and
unique in your life. Get clear on your reasons
for starting a habit. Because this will give you more motivation
to really make it happen for start small, most people have a mindset to achieve everything
in a single day, which ends up getting
them nothing in the end. Instead of going for fixing everything in a small
amount of time, it is better to make small, yet effective adjustments
so that your mind can handle these gradual positive
changes in a proper way. For example, if you
want to lose weight, then the best way to do it is not by switching straightaway
to a healthy diet overnight because this can cause various health issues when
not done in the right way. The reason behind
this is the fact that it takes a decent
amount of willpower, determination, interests, knowledge, and practice
to develop a new habit. And if you try to do
everything overnight, you are most likely
to get tired of it. So it's better to start small and then
gradually improvise. Just a few habits at once. Everyone has heard the modal, slow and steady wins the race. Setting goals that you can
stick to an introduced them in your everyday life
will not result in any sudden or drastic
changes in your life. It will definitely read
benefits over a period of time. Identify those aspects
of your life which are Monday and I'm not resulting
in any satisfaction. They just a few habits
like two or three, and then track your progress
over a period of time. Once you understand your
progress and commitment level, one can build more
habits in a longer run. Commit to your decisions. Now it's easy to lose
sight of your good habits, whether big or small, when facing difficulty or feeling overwhelmed
at the moment. Focusing on your habits might
be precisely what you need. If you stay committed to
practice good habits, then the chances of
success greatly increased. It's not like you don't face
any obstacles and changes. They will come and go. But you will have to
stay determined and manage all the challenges
with a positive attitude. Give me a focus
on the main goal, which is to make that good
habit a part of your life. Understand the triggers
and obstacles. If you don't know what
triggers are or if you're unprepared for the
inevitable obstacles, you are setting up
yourself for a failure. In order to develop good habits, we must be aware of
what our habits are. All of us in moments of
weakness and vulnerability, need support or released
for our frustration. Reaching for toxic options over eating or over medicating
is not an answer. Instead of this, tried to have a better way to
alleviate stress, like exercising
meditation and something productive that
helps you to reduce your stress level and
cheers up your mood. Likewise, we cannot let boredom, anger, or anxiety we triggers, but any bad habits. Always look out for
healthy ways for dealing with triggers
and your obstacles. Give yourself time. Forming a new habit is a
time-consuming process. If you are expecting
that when you start working on a good habit, then the next day or the week, it becomes easily
adaptable for you, then you should stop dreaming because this is never
going to happen. The reason behind
that is because habit formation is a
long-term process. And for that, you need
to give enough time to your body and mind
to get used to it. You need to be
patient and continue doing it once it becomes
irregular activity of your life. Otherwise, you will not be
able to build good habits. Celebrate your small wins, relish in the small
accomplishments. Doing so will help you stay motivated to achieve
something bigger and better. Plus, it will give
you the momentum to maintain your good
habits for a longer run. Then you reward yourself. You stimulate your brain circuit that gives you a
sense of achievement. Devoting yourself
each step of the way, boost your strength and power, helping you achieve
the impossible. So celebrating small
wins brings you the motivation towards
achieving something bigger. It not only helps
you in minimizing the chances of slipping
back into the old habit. But it also pushes you towards making a good habit
of part of your life. So it's a good practice
to reward yourself after every successful
step towards a victory. Because it boosts your
strength and power to make even the impossible happen. And last but not the least, get support from
family and friends. Your friends and family have a lot to do with your
change in habits. If you let them know regarding which have made
you want to build, they will definitely offer you a supporting hand that can
make things easier for you. Let people know what you're
trying to accomplish. This way. They will understand if you
want to pass up the desert or go for a walk instead of stopping at a pub
on the way home. When your friends know
you're serious about changing a bad habit
into a good one. Not only will they help you steer away from us temptations, they will cheer you on the week and give you a lot
of moral support. The all need this support
in achieving our goals.
7. Step 6 Stay Motivated: Step number six, stay motivated. What duration is
the driving force that gets you to your
goals and dreams? Without motivation,
it would be very challenging to change our
accomplish much of anything. Finding ways to
increase motivation is a crucial step because it
allows us to change behavior, develop competencies,
be created, set goals, grow interests, make plants, develop talent and
boost engagement. Understanding
motivation gives us many valuable insights
into the human nature. It explains why we set goals, why we strive for
achievement and power, why we have the desire for emotional and
psychological intimacy, and why we experience
emotions like fear, anger, and compassion. The benefits of motivation are visible in how we
live our lives. As we are constantly responding to changes in our environment, we need motivation to
take corrective actions in the face of fluctuating
circumstances. Motivation helps you
to get healthier. It improves our personal
relationship with people. It helps us in improving
learning skills. It boosts our productivity. And last but not the least, a motivated person inspires other around himself or herself. So how does one stay
motivated all the time? First of all, remember
your purpose. If you want to know how
to find motivation. Positive enablers are the key. This could include
friends and family or any support network that
you've created in your life. But what's more important and the true driving
force behind your motivation flow is the
innermost core. Your purpose. Your purpose is what
differentiates the motivated from the unmotivated, the achievers, from
the underachievers, and the happy from the unhappy. Just ask yourself the question. Why? Why are you pursuing
a certain good? If there isn't is
vague or unclear, then your motivational energy
will be also the same. While motivation provides you with energy to do something. That energy needs to
be focused somewhere. So without a meaning, that is no direction for
your energy to focus. Yet, having a
meaningful objective doesn't mean you have
to change the world, have a huge impact on society. The secret to meaningful
work is simply, it should contribute
value to something or someone that matters
to you in your life. Give you your goals
first thing in the morning and slashing
few things in your to-do list first and finish
the biggest task first. If possible. It is critical to pay momentum on anything
that you're working on. Whether it is the next big
thing or the start of the day. Just start off with about two to three easy things
to complete on that day. Quickly complete them, and you would have got your
dopamine rush. You are now higher in
energy and motivation. It's stuck in a choice
as to which task to complete first and complete
the toughest task, as you will probably be at
the peak of your energy and focus in the beginning of the day with the
hardest one completed. The rest of them seem like a cake walk and
easy to complete. You're completing
the difficult tasks early in the day when your body and mind is
fresh and energetic. Since you're tired
later in the day. That difficult task may seem
all the more difficult. This can, again be subjective
because some people can be lethargic in the morning and add their productive best
later during the day. So the choice is yours. Do it now. Even if it
takes a few minutes. If you are in one of
those lazy phases when doing something
seems almost impossible, the best thing you can
do is just get started. Tell yourself that you're only going to be doing it
for five-minutes. Once you get started, this will become a lot
easier to continue. Its logical. And it can be really helpful. I know that I myself
have been faced with the moments of
productivity paralysis. I wanted so badly
to get things done. But something was stopping
me from getting it started. Sometimes all you need is just a small push or kicking the bottom to get
yourself back on track. Your progress. Tracking your progress
is a powerful tool and not just for keeping us
motivated, but also productive. When you track your progress, you naturally become more purposeful about
the work you do, which can create the
kind of meaning that so many of us search
for in our daily work. You also have more insight
into the value you're creating and can keep
the motivation on. As you can see yourself
needing your goal slowly and steady,
reward yourself. Now, just like we love crossing small cast off a to-do list, being able to see that
we are even one step closer to a big goal
is a huge motivator. The problem is that these
small wins are notoriously hard to measure and worst
even tend to ignore them. Right from the beginning. Agree on some deliverables that will justify yourself
getting rewarded. As soon as you get one
of those agreed results. Take time to reward
yourself in some way. This creates the
external motivators to help you feel motivated
in a long run. For some tasks. Just taking a break and relaxing for a few
minutes we'll do. For others, you may want
to get a fresh cup of coffee and even treat
yourself for a desert. Remember, the more you reward yourself for
making progress, the more motivated you will feel about reaching your
new milestone. And last but not the
least, don't do it alone. The people around you are really important and they help
you respond to challenges. You'd want to surround
yourself with people who care about you
and your well-being. If you find it helpful, you can ask people you trust, if they can help
you keep track of your goals and check in on your progress
from time-to-time. They can also help. If you start to
feel overwhelmed, keep the momentum up. It takes up to three months
to develop a new habit. So keeping the
momentum and routine helps it feel more automatic
over a period of time. If required, find mentors. A mentor is someone who is experienced in the habit
you want to cultivate. Finding social or
support groups with the same interest can also
help you find a mentor. Surround yourself with positive
and empowering people. Positive friends and family. Enhance your positive self-talk, which also helps you to manage the symptoms of de-motivation.
8. Step 7 Learn From Your Failures: Step seven, learn
from your failures. Now, failure is probably one of the aspects of life most
people are afraid of. But the truth is, everyone has paid and everyone will fail. Again. We sometimes forget that all successful
people have failed. But they did not stop
after their failures. They stood up and try it
again time after time. We tend to think that people who are successful,
we're just lucky. It just fell into their labs or they just had the
right connections. You've been through
a major failure. You understand that
things could go wrong despite your best efforts. Knowing failure is
always a possibility. You will learn to not let the fear of failure
hold you back. Having experienced
failure pushes you to go after your dreams. It teaches you to
keep trying and trying until you get it right. This is what eventually
lead you to success. Like Winston
Churchill once said, Success is moving
from failure to failure without
loss of enthusiasm. So how should one learn
from their failures? Take responsibility,
and learn from it? Your failure might have been due to things outside
of your control. The system might have
also worked against you. But rather than dwelling
on those things, you need to focus on how you had a role to play
in your own failure. The idea that you learn
lessons by filling, it might seem like
a cliche to you, but it's familiar
because it's right. Learning from success
is less automatic. You may be so busy celebrating
and taking steps forward. You forget to reflect
on your failures. Failures. Provide you with
the opportunity to learn and consider how you can strengthen your game
for the next group. Even if it's under
unfavorable conditions. Complete ownership and
responsibility of your failures. Rather than getting
into the blame game. Learn from it and move forward. Stop fearing your failures. We all have different
definitions of failure, simply because we all have
different benchmarks, values, and belief systems. Failure to one person
might simply be a great learning experience
for someone else. Many of us are
afraid of failing, at least some of the time. But fear of failure is when
we allow that fear to stop us doing the things that can move us forward to
achieve our goods. Start by setting a
few small goals. This should be goals
that are slightly, but not overwhelmingly
challenging. Think of these
goals as early wins that are designed to help
you boost your confidence. Visualization is a powerful
tool for goal-setting. Imagining how life will be
after you reached your goal is a great motivator to keep you moving forward and
overcoming your fear. Reflect on your experience, change your perspective and boost your mood and
get back on track. Reflection is an important
part of failure. Without reflection,
we wouldn't learn. It's important that we feel we take a moment
to sit with it. What's about the
failure that went well? What didn't go well? They can be pinpoint
what went wrong. It helps us to figure out how to course-correct and do it
better than next time. What doesn't break you,
makes you stronger, is another trident, trusted
mantra about failure. If you're doing it right,
you will gain reinforcement, resilience, and
perseverance from failure. These are all excellent
skills to have the characteristics that will
make life more rewarding. If you fail, you
don't want to take a step back and reflect
on your lessons learned. However, you have to be
ready to move forward. Make a point to find your next inspiration from
someone else who has fed, from a story that inspires you from your next opportunity
that motivates you. Keep looking forward,
facing forward. Run towards the fire. Stay in the game. Don't give up and give the
next possibility. Your best efforts. Failure is a painful experience that no one wants to go to. The truth of the
matter, however, is that failure is inevitable. As long as you are attempting something you've
never done before, I'll continue
pursuing your dreams. You cannot completely avoid failure despite the pain
that comes with failure. This is not to say that failure doesn't have it silver lining. If you pay attention, failure can give you a lot of valuable lessons
in your life. So boost your mood, learn from your failures, and get back in the game. And with that, we come to
the end of the course. So happy learning. Take very good care of
yourself and God bless you.
The Guruskool
