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Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks

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    • 1.

      Course Trailer- Magic Words Law of Attraction Language Hacks


    • 2.

      Day 1 Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks


    • 3.

      Map Your Day 1 Results


    • 4.

      Day 2 Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks


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      Day 3 Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks


    • 6.

      Day 4 Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks


    • 7.

      Day 5 Magic Words- Manifesting With Language Hacks


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      Day 6 Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks


    • 9.

      Day 7 Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks


    • 10.

      Magic Words Bank 1


    • 11.

      Magic Words Bank 2


    • 12.

      Magic Words Bank 3


    • 13.

      Powerful I Am Statements


    • 14.

      Easy to Use & Powerful Language Patterns


    • 15.

      Cautionary Words- Be Careful


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About This Class

“Change your words, change your life. The simplest tool for immediately transforming your quality of life”- Tony Robbins

What if you could use the power of language to achieve your dreams?

In this course, I'll share powerful language hacks that will help you to manifest with ease. Discover the powerful language patterns & magic words that can help you change your life simply by making small shifts in how you talk.

Your course Includes:

  • A 7-day Step-by-step system to update your language patterns so they support the things you want to manifest into your life.
  • Three magic Words Bank videos- learn the words and simple language formulas that make the biggest on what you are attracting into your life.
  • 2 Bonus pieces of training about using I am statements and special language patterns to raise your vibration and prime your subconscious for manifesting!

This Course Will Empower You To:

  • Develop a growth & success mindset
  • Align your beliefs with your law of attraction & manifesting goals
  • Flip your script so that both your inner and outer dialog fully support achieving your goals in life
  • Overcome limiting beliefs
  • Enhance your self-confidence & self-esteem 

This course goes way beyond affirmations. You will learn what words & patterns to use, why to use them, and how they work so you can re-design your language patterns for manifesting on autopilot.

After completing the course, be sure to subscribe to my YouTube channel for more manifesting ideas & inspirations. 

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Kristen Becker

NLP Practitioner


Success Mindset, Manifesting, Law of Attraction, NLP

HI, I'm Kristen!

Once a mind has been stretched, it never goes back. Pebbles on the pile, one course at a time, discover how much power you truly have within you!

I am a Certified Neural Linguistic Programming practitioner & Cht, author of FreeLark, and creator of personal development courses with over 10k students. I have personally explored and found great success in all the topics I develop courses for. My goal is to empower you to start living your very best life by understanding and leveraging the power and ability already within you!

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1. Course Trailer- Magic Words Law of Attraction Language Hacks: Hey friends, welcome to the course. I'm Kristen Becker. This course is all about easy but powerful language hacks that will help you manifest the things that you do want interior life naturally. And this is why it's so important. Research shows that we save six to 7 thousand words a day. And then in addition to that, we think another six or 7 thousand words a day, which means about 12 to 14 thousand times a day. You're reinforcing beliefs, reinforcing ideas, generating emotions around these beliefs and ideas. And what you can do when you make these very, very simple shifts in your own language patterns, increase your competence, increase your self-esteem. And what does that mean? That means that you can have the achievements that go along with it, right? Enhance your relationships. Higher-quality, more fulfilling relationships. This plays into every aspect of our life. And the good news is, it's really, really easy and also fun to make shifts in your language patterns and then see the results and enjoy those results. Now I've set this course up as ideally a seven-day course. So you'll see there's video trainings and there's worksheets so you can go out in your life and have the experiences of implementing these language shifts in your own life. However, you're free to do it however you like. You can binge-watch it. You can spread it out over seven weeks. Do it in whatever way works for you. But the most important thing is that you do it. So go ahead and jump in and get started. And I'll see you in the first video. 2. Day 1 Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks: Hello, welcome to the course, and welcome to this pivotal moment in your life. Taking this very easy, very high-impact program literally has the power to change the course of the rest of your life. And here's why we say over 6 thousand words per day on top of that with our inner dialogue and thoughts, another 6 thousand words on top of that. And these words all come preloaded with meaning, ideas. This fuels feelings. Now the manifestation formula is thoughts plus feelings equals what you manifest into your life. And of course, your thoughts and your feelings all come together to create your beliefs. You do have. And I'm going to explain the science behind this. So if you are a practical science-based person, you can say, wow, that makes sense. I completely understand it now. Also in addition to that, but it's important that you realize that there is no amount of physical action out in the world that is going to counteract your vibrational state. So whatever is your vibrational state is what you are manifesting into your life. This is why you can have two people with the same set of skills, experiences, resources in the same basic environment. One will be wildly successful in what they are seeking to achieve or manifest in their life. And the other will continue patterns of failure over and over again. And that pattern is created by the biggest obstacle that we are faced when we're seeking to consciously manifest. So whether you are consciously seeking to manifest or just thinking, oh, why do these things keep happening to me or why am I not able to achieve the things I want? Either way, the obstacle is remaining in a vibration of lack around the topic of whatever it is you're seeking to manifest. As I mentioned, you can't out action that vibration. The vibration is always going to dictate what you bring into your life. And if you want to look at this more from my psychology and human behavior perspective, these are your beliefs, these are your ideas. They're creating the filters in your mind that's processing all of the information and making all the decisions and choices in your life. Whether you want to look at it as a psychology and human behavior perspective or a vibrational perspective. It's all related around maintaining this one viewpoint, this one belief, this one idea, this one feeling of lack. And where does that come from? The meaning that we bring into ourselves internally, into our minds and our hearts, into our brains with the words that we choose and the conversations that we have all day long. So what happens when we choose these words? Have these conversations that we're doing on autopilot. We're currently not thinking about it, but soon you will be. We are building neural networks. When you have an idea or a conversation, you create a neural network around that, the meaning of that, right? The beliefs, all the things associated with it, the evidence of it. And the more that you revisit that, the more dense the neural networks become in your mind around it. And then when something new happens, it goes through that filter, right? Your mind has a well-worn path to these ideas, these beliefs, these feelings, these stories. Even though there might be a lot of good, a lot of potential in something new that's coming into your life. You are literally not going to see it, not going to connect with it. Because all of your neural networks are really densely built around the old ideal, the old paradigm, that pattern that you keep having again and again in your life. And I think you can start to see how this creates a self-fulfilling prophecy as a vicious cycle that it's really hard to get out because then you're lowering your vibration. Look at me what I just did. Feel hopeful. You're looking at the things that are going on as evidenced. See there's your evidence, again, more neural networks denser and denser, stronger emotions around these ideas, those thoughts and feelings and beliefs getting more and more solidified. Now, I'm presenting this under the idea that it's around a bad idea or a pattern or something. You don't want to keep repeating. The exact same thing holds true for when we introduce new patterns, new words, new topics of conversations. Then we build really dense neural networks around them. We build beliefs around them, and we raise our vibration around those things and ultimately bring that into our lives. Let's look at a couple of examples with typical manifesting goals that people have. One would be a relationship goal. Now, probably as I give you these examples, you can picture elements of yourself or other people. And we don't want to judge people, we don't want to beat ourselves up. It's just good to observe objectively and get more insight and say, Oh yeah, I can now see the cause and effect, the law of cause and effect, how this all works together. So let's say, for example, one person, somebody says, Hey, how's your love life going? And they're not currently dating anyone and they haven't been for a while, but they want to. Person a. And person a says, Well, it's sucks. Like everybody out there, all the good ones are taken like everybody. I mean, it's just a total loser. And let's start thinking about the neural networks that are being built around that. Let's start thinking about the feelings, the energy, the emotion, the vibration that's being built around that. Now you have person B. Person B, same situation. Somebody says, Hey, how's your love life going? And they say, it's I'm excited to date. I'm not currently dating anyone. I know. I'm awesome. So I'm pretty sure there's somebody out there who's equally as awesome as I am and I'm really looking forward to connecting with them. Now, this is the same basic relaying of the status, right? But in a very different way that did you see high lifted up, it creates a much more positive vibration. Heart energy ideas, those neural networks around this. And you can also see potentially how this conversation could continue to unfold in a positive and supportive way. To give you another example, Let's look at a weight-loss, which I don't like to call it weight loss, like hitting your ideal weight and maintaining that permanently, right? Person. A might be in say, a group on social media where everybody is like, oh man, this person ticked me off and then I binge eat a bag of Cheetos. And I feel you're talking about all of their struggles and their things that they are challenged with, right? Think about the neural networks that are being formed. Think about how this is evidenced. See, there you go, It's proof and how it diminishes your own belief in yourself and in what is possible, right? All of these things coming together. Now let's look at a person be example who's maybe chosen to be in groups that are, have a more positive framework that they use to support this goal. And people come in and say, I had a non-skilled victory yesterday. I put on these pants that used to be tight and they zipped right up. That's fantastic. Or I definitely went to this party. It was hard. I wanted some cake, but I didn't have it because I thought, you know, I really loved myself. It's important to invest in this vitality of my body is a totally different story. It's creating a whole different vibration. It's creating evidence that it can be done, right? Proof to yourself, ideas that you're gonna go back to, not just the neural networks that are getting denser and denser, but also the stories, the ideas which we'll be talking about again later in this program. And so those are some examples and let me do a money example. I had a huge shift myself in my money paradigms a couple of years ago and I did all this stuff. I actively did it on purpose because I was sick of the same patterns I was seeing again and again in my life. But for example, my son, my teenage son came to me a couple of months ago. And he wanted to get a pretty expensive computer. But where he is with his creative interests in what he's doing in his life. It's certainly was Good idea, it was definitely needed. His dinosaur was just crawling along as far as his creative work. Now, the old conversation patterns that I used to have, I can tell you without question, would have gone something like this. Sorry, sweetie. It's not in the budget or oh my god. Even just the reaction. Oh, right. How am I going to pay for that? I don't know. And even though it wasn't necessarily so much more financially easy for me to do. What I said was, I think this is really important that we invest in this. You have a passion for this. It's really important. And there's definitely a lot of creative ways that we can go about making this happen. So let's, There's some information, do some research make it happen. So not only am I creating my own vibration around wealth and abundance for everything in my life, right? But also teaching that to him and that's very important with this program. I want you to realize everything you're doing for yourself is going to propagate out like the butterfly effect to the people around you, to the people you love. And that then comes back to you, instead of having stress and resistance that even the people around you start adopting some newer ways of looking at things, some newer words and that sort of thing. And also if you just want to follow up on that story, what we ended up doing was, I had a credit card with 0 interest for two years, no brainer. It's very small amount to pay every single month, right? I honestly don't even notice it. And that's an example of a creative solution that I was able to say, Okay, cool. And goes through the whole process and a very high vibration and let him enjoy that high vibration for themselves. So there's three examples and some of the top areas that people are seeking to manifest in to help you start wrapping your head around how you're going to use this in your life. How are we going to do all this? Well, the easy way, if you haven't had any of my programs yet, what you need to know is that at a very top level, I help people to understand their vibration, to use their vibration, to navigate life, to learn how to raise it. You can manifest things on autopilot. However, we're living in the real-world, we need practical, easy things that we can go out there and do. So as an educator, we know from research and I know from all of my experience that when we get excited about an idea, the neural networks that are formed in that time actually print apart in days, if not hours, if we don't put that information into practice, into our everyday lives. And that's where these practical, easy exercises that I use come into play because you put it into practice in your everyday life. You create your own meaning. You take ownership of that and become confident in that and self-empowered from within through a very, very easy and fun exercise. So for today's exercise, we're just going to start gathering information. We're going to get clarity, we're going to get awareness. So I made a PDF for you which you can print out and take with you throughout your day. Or if you want to look at it and then just use a little notebook, that's fine too. But what you're going to be doing is taking note the words that you say and especially the words you say frequently. The conversations that you have, the nature of those conversations, the feeling and emotion, the angles of those conversations. Look at certain topics with and all I want you to do today is to just gather that information. And tomorrow I'll introduce you to my manifesting scale, which I use and true north show you how to use that to see the cause and effect between these things, these language patterns, and the patterns in your life. And then of course, what everybody's waiting for, how to change it, right? How to choose better words. How to have conversations from re-framed angles that will actually increase your feelings and your thoughts and your beliefs in what you're seeking to manifest. So you can bring it into your life on autopilot based on your vibration. So go ahead and do that. It's super simple, easy, fun, and I'll see you tomorrow. 3. Map Your Day 1 Results : Congratulations, you have taken the first big step of tracking your words. Awareness is everything. Now, let's learn how to use that information to get the results that you do want in life on autopilot, chances are you've never really stopped to think about the word you say, but words are powerful. Our words create our beliefs. And if you love manifesting like I do, you know how critical you are, deep-seated beliefs are to what you can actually bring into your life. Are words also create our self-concept. Again, probably something you've never given a lot of thought to put in a minute. We're going to break down exactly how that works and why it's so important. Our words also create our subconscious programming, which of course is bringing so many things into our life on autopilot. And again, we're going to break that all down in just a moment so you can understand how it works and then use all of this information to empower yourself to start using words that get you the results you want on autopilot. Now these three things together, your beliefs, your self-concept, and your subconscious programming, all come together to create basically a thermostat in your life. It's just like the thermostat on your home. And just like the thermostat in your house, if you set it at 72 degrees and you open a window, it's going to kick on the heat to keep the constant temperature at the thermostat setting. And likewise, the combination of our beliefs, our self-concept and our subconscious programming, are going to maintain the same patterns and experiences and results that we've always had in life. And here's why this inner thermostat seeks to maintain results that are always aligned with our expectations. Our expectations are created from our programming, from our beliefs, from our self-concept. This thermostat is trying to help us. It just wants us to have familiar experiences because we are already equipped with everything we need to navigate familiar experiences. So from the point of view of our subconscious programming or inner thermostat, that just feels safe. It's the known, we know how to react and respond. And this is going to result in routine patterns on autopilot. And again, our subconscious is trying to help us. Our inner thermostat is here to help us. It's really our friend so that we don't have to stop and think about all of the things, the ways we respond to things, the way we, the ways that we look at things. It all happens on autopilot and that just makes it really easy. This inner thermostat is dictating how you perceive absolutely everything that happens in life, and how you respond, how you react, how you show up in the world. Again, this is all here to help us. There is nothing wrong or bad about our subconscious. It just needs better programming so that we can get better results in words and language patterns and word hacks is the absolutely easiest and most powerful way to do that. So why words? Why are words so powerful? And why will your choices and this creative control that you're taking over your words have such a huge, huge impact in your life. Well, we don't often think about it, but the words that we use are creating dense neural networks in our brains. These are collections of neural synapsis that create bigger networks. And when something happens, these are firing and wiring and going automatically so we don't have to stop and think about it. The more neural networks you have around a specific idea, the easier it is for your brain to go straight to that and use that perception or that information to guide your next automatic choice or habit or response. The words that we choose, our guiding and dictating the emotions that we are going to feel. There are words that will absolutely trigger very strong emotions one way or another. And when we feel an emotion, this engages our whole entire nervous system. Our body will release chemicals and hormones like serotonin, cortisol, and dopamine. And this results in that feeling, what you would describe as a feeling. And emotions are very, very sticky. So when you frequently engage the emotions around specific words, this has a very high impact. Now that you have a clear understanding of why and how the words that you choose have such a huge impact on the results that you actually experienced in your life. Let's look at two examples. Looking at a before and after example of the words that are chosen and the results that you will get is going to make it really clear for you. Our first before and after example is something someone might say after a breakup in a relationship. And they might say, I'm done with men or I'm done with women. When you think about what kind of messages this is sending to your subconscious mind. First of all, it's creating the program. Okay? I'll just use myself as an example and say she. She's done with men. So what kind of things might the subconscious do to maintain that pattern? Maybe the subconscious will say, let's, let's pack on £10. That'll help keep them in a way. Let's start having more defensive body language. Let's be less receptive when a man tries to engage us in conversation. Now, consciously, we may not be aware that all of this is going on and these are just examples of the type of message that this could be creating in your subconscious programming. Now let's look at neural networks. You go around, you had a breakup, you are telling all your friends this, you're having the same conversations over and over again. So creating a lot of dense neural networks around this idea of not being in a relationship. So when things happen and opportunities come up, all of the neural networks that you have to go to are built around this idea of not connecting, of not relating. And you don't have any neural networks to support you getting into another and a more healthy relationship, which we're going to look at in the after how that could work. Lastly is emotion. You can imagine that saying, I am done with men would have a lot of strong emotion. Engage that nervous system, release all those chemicals in your body, probably cortisol, the stress chemical, which wreaks all sorts of havoc in your body and starts creating all sorts of connections with negative physical body sensations and feelings around this idea of relationships. Now let's look at the after example. Let's say same situation. You had a breakup, probably a little bit uncomfortable. They're not usually fun, right? But you can say more empowering things. When you're having conversations with your friends, you might say things like, I learned a lot from that. I got a lot of clarity about what I really do want. What I really do want is XYZ. Now how would this type of word and conversation choice change your results, change your experiences? Number one, the subconscious programming, the programming associated with this kind of conversation is, I'm smart. I know what's best for me. I trust myself. I'm really open to these kinds of relationships. And your subconscious says, Oh, she's looking for this, that the other interrelationships, so it will naturally start gravitating towards people who offer that, the neural networks. Now, you keep having this type of conversation and you're creating a lot of dense neural networks around what you do want. So when things happen in life, you have a lot more places to go in your brain, in those neural networks that support that, that explore that, that gives you more ways to respond, to navigate and engage with those more positive outcomes. Then of course, emotions. To say, I really feel empowered. I learned a lot from that experience about what I really do want and why. And now you're releasing all those chemicals and hormones that feel good. You are actually, you can then even reflect on and remember this experience and release those positive chemicals. Again, this is all a much more self empowering way of having, talking about and exploring this experience through language. Then the first example, example number two, Money, finances. I know for me this is a place where I had huge changes in the results in my life when I started implementing simple language hacks. And I see this all the time with my friends. I'm always trying to help people. So important. With the first example, we'll call it the before, someone might go around saying frequently things along the lines of just can't get ahead financially. Things just never worked out for me. I'm always in the red. I'm just struggling to keep up with my bills. These are things I'm sure you've probably said you've probably heard people say, let's look at how this is affecting your neural networks, your emotions, your subconscious programming. First of all, your programming. This is very powerful. It's wrought with emotion. You are programming is then going to say, Okay, where are we want to be, where we feel comfortable, where we know how to navigate life is always being a little bit behind. Never seen him to get ahead. So that's where we're comfortable. We have all the skills to navigate that we can do that on autopilot. As you go around saying these kinds of things all the time. Of course, you are creating huge, extensive neural networks around these ideas. So when opportunities come up or people propose other ideas, you literally can't navigate them. You do not have the neural networks to understand, to filter, to process ideas that are gonna get you ahead financially. I think it goes without saying that a lot of negative emotions come along with this. You are going to release cortisol. You're gonna be in a state of stress. You're going to have negative feelings, you're going to have fear. And we know that these types of situations where you're in stress, where you have fear. Really limit your ability to make productive and positive forward movement in life, right? You're not gonna be able to see, understand, and successfully navigate the opportunities that are going to get you ahead financially because you're constantly in this state. Now let's look at some examples. How can you better empower yourselves with regard to finances and money paradigms? I am statements and I've decided to that internal commitment statement are really great. For example, I've decided to take back control of my finances. I've decided to really learn about and understand my options so I can get myself a head, see how much more empowering that is. I am statements, things like I am taking back control of my finances. I am learning how to get further and further ahead financially every single month. These are much more empowering statements. The subconscious programming then says, oh, okay, I understand. Now we are moving into a new pattern. Now. We are feeling more in control. Now. We want to feel good about our finances. We went to feel in control of our finances. So our subconscious programming will then automatically guide us to things that get that result. We are creating neural networks around that. So imagine if someone comes up with a business opportunity or potential new career position or something, you are going to have neural networks already around that idea. So you can literally start wrapping your head around it as they say write, navigating it successfully and finding your way to the place that has the result that you actually want in your life. And you can very well imagine, I'm sure, how much more empowering this emotion is. So rather than that negative, stressful, cortisol based emotion, now, you're feeling pumped, your heart's beating, right? You're releasing these feel-good, empowered emotions in associating that good feeling with these ideas of getting ahead financially, of moving forward financially. Much, much, much more empowering. And I just want to throw in here, it's in the, say this not that worksheet. But the most powerful shift that I made was to stop using the word spend and start using the word invest. Now, this could seem silly at first because you're just not used to it. And I know my boys would laugh. They'd asked for something and I'd say yes, let's invest in that, right? And they'd laugh. Or if something, I'm looking at the price and say, what's the investment in people who had come? Because I'm investing in myself. I'm investing in something I want. Anything I purchased is something that I want. Therefore, I am investing in myself. I'm not spending money. I'm investing. I'm getting ready to go buy a yoga mat. I'm not spending money on a yoga mat. I'm investing in my health. I'm investing in my comfort. Now you have clarity on why and how the words that you choose are having such a huge impact in the results that you are able to achieve in your life. You've got that data bank of words and conversations that you collected from day one. So what next? You'll notice in the day one worksheet that I asked you to track the roots of those words and frequent conversations that you have. Now why is that? Because almost all of the words that we choose and the language patterns that we have, we simply adopted. We adopted from our family, our peers, the people around us. And we also adopted with those words and language patterns, all of the meanings and the values that go along with them. Once you realize that this is what's going on and that these words and their meanings and their values are not serving you. You'll literally say, Oh my word, oh my word. And you will realize that you can choose your own words that have meaning and values that serve you. The next step is to create a better word bank, right? And we've already talked about neural networks. When you even just sit down and brainstorm the better word bank, you're getting excited, you're thinking about cool and creative words and what they will get you, what results they will get you write and create this word bank. Actually write them down. Practice saying them. Pre rehearsal is a very powerful tool. It creates more neural networks. The more you pre rehearsing words, the more likely you are to use them in real dialogue, in real conversation. And I like to think of this as stocking the word success pond. Now how do you do this? What are some practical things you can do in your day-to-day life to put this into practice, to let that rubber hit the road. One very powerful thing is simply to take a deep breath. Before speaking, this is a physical trigger to trigger yourself to remember, oh, I want to make conscious word choices. And not only when you're speaking to other people, but also in your inner dialogue. If you feel you're a little inner chitchat starts going, stop. Take a deep breath. Think about the word choices and what kind of results they're going to have. The words that you may feel inclined to choose. What are the roots of those words? Are they serving you? In this taking of the breath is very important because again, it's just a simple trigger. So just take a deep breath and then stop and think about the words. Think about better words. Think about the roots of the words. Think about the results. It's going to get you. Another thing you can do is adjust after the fact. We do work on autopilot. So even with this happening, sometimes words will come out of your mouth and I'm gonna give you a very fine example. A friend of mine pointed out a couple of years ago that I was always saying, sorry. I realized he was right. Oh my goodness, this is really important and powerful word. I need to start being way more selective about when I use it and why the way that I was using it was absolutely sending the wrong message to my subconscious programming. And when I tried to stop saying it, it would just come out of my mouth. I'd say sorry. Not sorry. Right. But it was it was kinda fun and funny. But after I did it a couple of times, then I literally just stopped saying the word sorry. But that adjusting after the fact. Sorry, not sorry. I've also I've had situations where I'll say something that I'm like, oop, cancel, cancel, do over. And then we'll say the new thing, right? So have fun with that, but it's also okay to adjust after the fact. Another thing you can do is a do over or rewrite or really speak. You can do this in your conversations. You can do this in your mind. So for example, sometimes I will sit around at the end of the evening when I'm lying down, getting ready for bed and think about conversations that I had either with other people or in my mind. When I realized that some were disempowering, I'll just rewrite them in my mind. Keep in mind, the subconscious does not know the difference between real and imagined. This rewrite or do over is a really, really, really effective technique. And again, it's building those neural networks to write. Then it will begin to happen on autopilot. And when you do this, I love to also remind myself why? Why am I doing this? Because that really brings to my conscious awareness, the value, the result, what I want in my life, right? And connects that choice of better words even more deeply with meaning to me. As you do this, I highly encourage you to just have fun with it. You really are the creator of your life. And simply choosing better words is one of the easiest and the highest impact ways to change the results you're getting in life. And also the fantastic news is this will 100% become auto-pilot. You don't have to put this energy and conscious awareness into it all the time. It will start happening on autopilot. First of all, you will begin to naturally use the new language patterns. Which also means you will begin to feel these wonderful new feelings associated with them. You will begin to adopt the new beliefs that come along with them. And this is a self fueling process. It's exponential, right? It increases more and more as you do, it happens more automatically. You will begin considering your word choices and also intuitively choosing them without even really having to think about it. It will become so natural and happen under the surface as part of your autopilot programming that you won't even have to do it. And now I want to point out, because we've connected these things with our values, our why, why is this important to me? That is even more powerful in reinforcing this process. As your beliefs and subconscious programming, I shifted, your whole, entire view of the world will be shifted, your perspective will shift. And this will naturally breed language patterns that serve you. I can tell you from personal experience, I can barely believe some of the conversations that I used to have, but I just didn't know. I wasn't aware of all this. I didn't know any better. And now I would naturally never engage in certain types of conversations that I used to have. And you are going to find that you will have the exact same experience. Now let's tie it all up with a bot. You are empowering yourself. Celebrate this. Use the worksheets, right, to track your progress, to track your result. There are some really cool word bank elements to the worksheets. Journal, if you'd like to journal and write about these things at night, what gets measured, gets improved upon. What you celebrate you will focus on, you will invest yourself and your energy into and through celebrating, you will also continue to connect the dots. The y's, the goals, the values, the results. And as you see that you will realize, wow, crazy, how important this is, it's crazy how effective this is. I love this. And again, as I mentioned in the previous slide, then you will just do it more and more on autopilot. Now as a special treat, I want to share a very powerful tool with you. This is something that I use extensively in my private true north program. It's incredibly powerful. So let me show it to you and go over just quickly how you can use this so easily day-to-day to choose better words. This is my exclusive manifesting scale diagram. We use this in true north, the guide, so many of our activities and exercises. Now you might recognize, to the left we have the scale of consciousness from Dr. David Hawkins, going from 0 all the way up to a thousand in the middle, we have the feelings that are associated with those right? On the bottom. The feelings of shame, guilt, grief, fear. As you move up the scale, you move up to neutrality, reason, peace, love, joy, enlightenment. And on the right we have the qualities of your life experience that are associated with it. So for example, if you're very low on the emotional scale, on the scale of consciousness and you're having these feelings of shame, grief, fear. The quality in your life that's associated with that is inaction. When you move up to the next level, the quality is hyperactivity, and then the next level is productivity. And then the next level is peak performance. Obviously, we want to get more up towards this peak performance without stress. And the synchronized synchronicity is an extraordinary outcomes. That's some manifesting magic right there. And the way this relates to your word choices, you can take this, save it on your phone or put it somewhere handy or print it out and carry it around with you, or maybe put it up in your office or even on your refrigerator. And as you choose words and conversations, just look at the scale and ask yourself, where is this word or this conversation? This way I'm about to word something. Where is this gonna put me on the scale? And you'll identify that pretty quickly. And then just say, what can I do to change this to move one level up? So you think about how you want to word something or what you want to say and then just challenge yourself. How can I reword this just to move one level up the scale? It's super easy and it is very high impact. And then it's just my pleasure to share that with you. I love this thing. I hope that you enjoy it and that my friends concludes this particular training. I'm so grateful to have this opportunity to work with you. Please feel free to reach out and let me know about your results and your experiences. I'll see you in the next lesson. 4. Day 2 Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks: Welcome back. You're here armed with your topics, your words, your conversations. And what we're going to do today is literally flip the script so that you can develop a completely unshakable belief around you're manifesting goal, frankly, around everything in life. You can use this for every area and aspect of your life. Well, what we're going to do is look at the words and conversations that you have on your sheet. Figure out where they have u vibrational and why and how that shows up in your real-world as patterns, right? And then how to flip it, how to change it. Now I want to begin with a very interesting piece of information. A lot of research has shown consistently that we actually can flip our ideas on a belief, believes something differently, believe something new when we hear it seven times. And you might think on at me, I'm smarter than that. But if you think about the neural networks and how this all works. And you start, as you develop those neural networks around an idea, you start looking for evidence in your world and you can always find evidence to support any belief, right? Then you start believing it. Even more fascinating is a lot of research that shows that it actually only takes two times of repeating an idea to adopt that belief. In the science world, they have something called processing fluency. So what this really means is that all the ways that we process information and assign meaning to it begin to work more fluidly together. The more we engage with an idea, the more something is repeated, the more that that happens, the more we identify with that as true. So this is really fascinating. You are taking what we're doing here and you're creating your own processing fluency, right? It's kind of like putting oil in your car, right? And if you have an idea that is not supporting you, that's creating a vibration that's keeping you stuck in those patterns of lag. When you start introducing ideas that support what you do want to manifest, you are putting more oil in the engine, right? You're increasing your fluency. You're going to start developing neural networks around it. You're going to start looking for and finding evidence of that in your world. Part of what I wanna do here in this program is to start introducing you to the idea of relying on your own awareness of and use of your vibrational state to guide you through life. We can all do this. The more you practice it, the more fluent you getting that. I want to share, share with you the manifesting scale which I use in my true north program. I will put the PDF below this so you can print it out and use it and or save a version on your phone, which I do. I still pull it up all the time, I love it. And we want to look at the manifesting scale and look at your words and your conversations and see where they put you on the manifesting scale. You can look at this from a big overarching general view. And you can also look at it more specifically in terms of a specific thing that you are seeking to manifest into your life. So let's grab the scale and take a look. Now as we look at the scale on the left, you will see the vibrational frequency. In the center, you will see the characteristics, meaning, what can I expect my life to be like when I'm at this frequency? And on the right, you're going to see the emotions associated with it. If we start at the bottom and look at inaction, have you ever felt just unmotivated or sort of paralyze you just can't do anything, right? And this is associated with feelings of shame or guilt. When we're really struggling with something or feeling shamed or their shame in our lives for whatever reason. We just can't see the path. We can't take the positive action. And as you move further up the scale into fear and anger, then at least we have action, we have hyperactivity. And people sometimes think anger is a bad thing. I actually think it's a great thing. Because I know when I get angry that I'm moving up the scale and I'm getting ready to really take action and get more focused. And as you move even further up, the higher vibration raises, which really just means you are not being resistant. You're not hanging out in fear, shame, guilt, anger. But you have acceptance rate and then you are moving in a more positive place. Unsurprisingly, everything happens in a more productive fashion. And we start to move into this peak performance without stress. Imagine that you are seeking to have that permanent weight-loss. And instead of struggling with it every day and having these low vibrating emotions, you're like, Wow, I've found that I just love this way of eating and I feel so good and have so much energy. It's all good. And you're seeing results, right? This is the peak performance without stress area. And as we go further up, then we move into what we often think of when we think of the law of attraction. The extraordinary outcomes, right? Where, Wow, It's crazy, these things just happened. These people showed up, this thing happened. And that is because you are in this vibrational state that is aligned with that you don't have the resistance. You have positive expectations, you have higher vibrational feelings of joy and love and acceptance. And the higher you go then you get the really like, wow, this is just nuts. What's going on here? This is amazing. I love it all. But I want to look at this in addition to introducing you to it. Because yes, you can absolutely navigate your whole entire life just based on knowing how to understand, interpret, and use your vibrational state to navigate your life. But we want to look at it today just for your words and your conversations. So to begin there, I want you to take your words and conversations. And again, I've made a PDF for you that you can print out to make this easier for you to follow along with. And ask yourself honestly, where do they fall on the scale? And you're going to fill in, There's plenty of places at each of the levels of the scale to look at the types of conversations you're having, the specific words that you're using. And when you want to figure out for word, where does this fall on the scale? First of all, check in with yourself. When you think of that word. When you say that word, do you feel constricted? Do you feel yourself almost constricting and shrinking and feeling kind of lower or to lighten up. Do you feel expansive? Do you feel happy? And these are ways you can start figuring out where it goes on the scale. But also just look at the meaning and look at the meanings that are typically associated with it. Now let me give you an example. Spending. If you've read the, say this not that cheat sheet, you know, I am not a fan of that word. Because when we say the word spend, we look at it as lack we look at it as digging a hole. Basically, it's all outgoing. We don't associate the meaning of the word spend with benefiting ourselves. However, when we invest, for example, I told you the story about investing in a computer for my son. We were bringing something wonderful into our lives. We weren't spending money. It wasn't money that was outgoing and that was creating a deficit in our budget. That's all lack oriented. It was an investment bringing something amazing and two hills life that really spares his creativity that you can use. I tell you all of these things to give you some ideas about how to a, both use your intuition to know where the words go on the scale. And B, look at a little more deeply, what meanings do these words have, both outside and society and for me personally? And you want to go ahead and place all of your words and conversations on the scale and see what you got. Pretty illuminating, right? Chances are good that you probably have some bulges on that scale. It's probably not super balanced. I know mine wasn't the first couple of times that I did this, but it was really powerful for me to recognize, okay, I see where I am. And so the next thing I want you to do is start making some cause and effect relationships. When you look at the patterns of that of repeating in your life that are undesirable to you. What words and what conversations can you see as the cause for that, right? As playing into that, as supporting that and keeping that pattern going. So identify the cause and effect relationship. Then we want to flip the script right? We want to find a better words and better conversations to have. So the first thing I want you to do is to create a word bank and take all the words that you have. And literally start thinking about like, well, what are more empowering ways, because we still want to express stuff, right? I gave the example of spending versus investment. So look for more empowering words that are aligned with what you are seeking to manifest. And again, follow that vibration, that feeling inside you with a where does this make me feel inspired and empowered? Is there a better one? And you'll probably come up with more and more words in your list will get longer and longer. But what you're creating is a word bank. And this is really important because of something called mental rehearsal. And again, the neural networks. When we fill our minds with these word banks, then when situations come up with conversations come up, it's already there for us to pull from, right? We don't have to think, Oh wait, I should say something different right now. We've already pre-populated our word bank. And I also suggest that you revisit these words. You can even just driving around in your car or whatever and just go down the list of these more empowering words that you want to use. Then for the conversations, the nature of the conversation is really important. And you can say the same thing in a different way. I've given you some examples already. And so there's something called re-framing, which you may be familiar with, maybe not yet, which you take the same general idea and you re-frame it from an empowering position. And so you'll create a bank of reframing. How can I reframe this to communicate the same thing, but in a more empowering way. Let's look at reframing from the perspective of finances, bills. Probably you've said at some point yourself or you can picture somebody saying, Oh man, I'm just I'm under all these bills every time I opened the mailbox bells, the struggle is real kind of stuff. So how can we reframe that? We're going to have a conversation about it? How can we have a conversation that empowers us, raises our vibration, our beliefs, and our feelings around that. Here's just one example, like just talking off the top my head, you could say. The one I've really gotten lately is a lot of clarity. Clarity in what kind of expenses I have, what's really important to me, how I went to rebalance those. And also that it's really important to me to focus on increasing my income because I don't want to be stressed about finances and money. So it's really motivated me to look at different ways that I can increase my income. So we basically had that same conversation, but in a much more empowering way that raises our vibration that is instilling the belief it can be done. I have taken step one, which is this awareness, right? And now motivated, think about that scale, the manifesting scale, where this conversation would fall on the manifesting scale versus the first conversation. So now you've essentially created two banks. One is your word bank, right? You have a pre-populated word bank of high vibrational empowering words to use. And of course start using them. And you've populated, you're reframing bank. So some conversations that typically come up. Now you have already given yourself a lot of ideas about how to approach this conversation and how to even have it Think about it, whatever in your real practical everyday life. And the third thing is to rewrite that conversation, right? To flip the script on the conversation. You probably already know that our subconscious programming does not know the difference between real and imagined. So you go out in the world, you're using your new words, you're using your re-framing, right? But maybe sometimes you just get back in the autopilot, you forget whatever yourself up, just rehab the conversation in your head, even if you're just walking away and you think, I didn't love how that went and I just started doing this. I'm new to this. Okay, How would I rather have had that go? This is mental rehearsal. Athletes use mental rehearsal. They have shown with piano playing, that people get better playing piano for mental rehearsal, then actual physical rehearsal. Liters, right? Speakers, politicians, all of these people use mental rehearsal to know the important things that they want to say, how they want to say it and what their goals are and saying it. To turn around right after you have a conversation and redo it is not only giving a new piece of data input to your subconscious programming, it's empowering you, which raises your vibration. You're like, Okay, Okay, good. I got that one nail down and have a better idea. And it's also creating this mental rehearsal so that if that topic comes up again, it's going to just be so fluid. Remember that fluency, that processing fluency we talked about. This is how you get it. So make your word bank, make your re-framing bank flip the script. Getting the habit of redoing those conversations in your head right after you walk away or later in the day, whenever you have to. This is all going to become auto-pilot. It's all going to begin to happen naturally, to happen fluidly for you. I want you to have fun with it. You are empowering yourself. Now, tomorrow we're going to learn about three conversations you do not want to help. So have fun with all the things you're doing today and I'll see you tomorrow. 5. Day 3 Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks: Hey, welcome back. I hope you had fun stocking your word bank stocking, you're reframing bank, rewriting those conversations, flipping the script. And most importantly, starting to realize how empowering it is, how much better you feel. Notice where you're moving on that vibrational scale. Today we're going to talk about three types of conversations you do not want to have, why you don't want to have them, and what you can do instead, the first type of conversations you want to practice avoiding and not being a part of our judgment and gossip-based conversations. Now, if you're anything like me when I first started practicing this, you might wonder, well, what in the world did we talk about? Because it's just that prevalent in our society. However, if you look at the manifesting scale, you'll notice that these conversations are very, very low on the manifesting scale for everyone involved, for the person being talked about for you and the other person having the conversation and just you internally. And this is important because it really is a huge component in shaping your overall mindset and how you look at the world. It really creates a lack based mindset, a competitive mindset, a constrictive mindset. Whereas when you start navigating away from these conversations, you find your whole outlook on the world starts to be more creative, more expansive, more hopeful, a much higher vibration. Again, to go back to my own personal experience, the things I'm going to show you about how to start leaning away from these conversations. As I did that more and more, what I discovered was that when people continued to have these conversations or I was in the proximity of them, I could actually feel it vibrational. I was like, ooh, I don't like this. I don't like anything about this. I think you're going to discover that too. And let's look at some other things you can do. Number one is to use something I call the will it do good filter before I speak. And I used to do this very consciously, but now it just happens on autopilot. I think, well is what I'm going to say. Going to benefit myself, the person I'm saying it to, and the person I'm saying it about, then if it's not, I just choose not to say it. Or perhaps it's something that you can re-frame, say in a more constructive way that's more beneficial. And obviously this raises your vibration. This raises you on the vibrational scale as well as everyone else involved making it a win-win-win. The other thing that you can do, especially in the beginning, is just don't add, don't add to the conversation. Don't participate. You might say, Well, I'm not really comfortable stopping the conversation and I'm not suggesting that you say, Hey, we shouldn't be doing this, but just simply don't participate, don't add to it, it will fizzle out. Then the third thing that's very effective is redirecting the conversation. When someone starts to go down this path. Well, you don't want to shame them and buried them and bring this up. What you're doing strategically. Simply redirect the conversation by asking that person something about themselves, something positive that you know, that they're going to enjoy talking about. And this again is a gift that you give someone. It's raising everybody's vibration, bringing the whole entire conversation around to a much higher vibrational content and feeling. The next type of conversation you want to practice not being a part of our complaint conversations. And again, this is something we see a lot people just complaining, complaining, complaining about things in their lives experiences. And this is really problematic because it builds this huge stockpile of so-called evidence supporting something you don't want in your life, but you say, oh, but it happened to this person. Then, Oh, this person, this bad thing happened or whatever. And this all creates very powerful and juicy emotions. And of course, those neural networks around the ideas that we don't want. We don't want more of this in our lives. We don't want to invite more in. And it also creates a story. People love stories, human beings love stories. And what we tend to do is we embellish, we add onto it, we keep the narrative going. We create stronger and more powerful stories that oftentimes begin simply as complaining. So let's look at some strategies that you can begin to practice to move away from complaint conversations. I like to use a role I call vent wants and solve. Many times. Yes, sometimes we do need to express our feelings and our emotions. It's very important to release your emotions and not suppress them. However, when we keep coming back to it again and again, research has shown that we actually re-experience the event. We released the same chemicals and hormones in our body as if the event is happening right now. And then of course, feel all those feelings that go along with it. Remember the manifesting formula, thoughts and feelings. Create your beliefs and all of this dictates what you're going to manifest into your life with the solve many times. Then you can look at this solve many times part of this formula and say, okay, I've already vented, I released my emotions, I've gotten some clarity on what bothers me about this, that sort of thing. Let me start speaking in terms of solutions. Self-empowered solutions. If you find yourself wanting to complain, stop yourself, take a deep breath and just think, what can I say about this situation that empowers me to understand what I can do to move away from it, or to benefit myself, or to solve the problem. Another wonderful strategy to get in the habit of using, and this is wildly powerful, is letting go to look at something that you're about to complain about and say, can I just let it go? And now initially this may be challenging because you're just so habitually used to complaining in general or complaining about it. But as you practice letting go, you realize, oh, that feels so much better. If you look at the vibrational scale and you see where acceptance and willingness and neutrality gets you right. You want to move up that scale. And particularly if this is something very directly related to what you are working on manifesting in your life. It's gonna be really powerful technique to help you move up vibrational and to get unstuck. And the third type of conversation to avoid participating in being a part of instigating our goal, sabotaging conversations. Now I'm talking in terms of your primary manifesting goal. As you find yourself talking, start asking yourself, is this actually sabotaging my goal, right? This is counterproductive to my goal. So let's look at a couple of examples. Let's start with a money and career example. Let's say you're seeking to expand into a more exciting or higher paying career, you find yourself at the water cooler at the office complaining about your boss to somebody. And you say, wait a minute, is this a goal sabotaging conversation I'm having? Yes, it is. Look at where it's taking you vibrational, look at all the ideas, but it's supporting and building those neural networks around. And think of ways to re-frame and redirect this conversation so that it supports your goal. Another example with this is if you're seeking to move into a different type of job or more exciting job. And you find yourself telling somebody, I'm not good at interviewing. This is a goal sabotage and conversation. And I give it as an example because it might fly under the radar, you might not realize. But when you really stop and think about it, you're like, wow, this is completely sabotage and my goal because I'm telling this person and myself that I am not good at interviewing here, just redirect that re-frame that. And perhaps for example, in this example you might say it traditionally, I've struggled a bit with interviewing and so I've done some research. I've watched some cool videos to see how people do it. I'm modeling it. I'm practicing at home so that when I go in there I can really nail it. And that my friend is a much more empowering conversation around your goal. Now I'm pointing this out because we just don't notice. Sometimes there, they seem really subtle. But when you specifically say, am I having a goal sabotaging conversation, then we can become a lot more aware of them and redirect them and re-frame them, which I've already mentioned, becomes absolutely automatic as you do it more and more. So, for example, let's say you are dating, right? And you're getting on a dating site and you're telling your friends, well, it turns out I'm a goof ball because all the pictures for me, I look absolutely ridiculous, right? This is a goal sabotaging conversation. You're setting the stage for dating network failure or dating or whatever they're called, dating app failure, right? So how can you reframe this? How about this? Turns out I have a crap ton of personality. I was looking through my pictures and they're also silly. I realized it's a really great filter. I'm going to put them on the app. And that way, the types of people that respond to that will be higher vibration people who liked to have fun, who don't take themselves so seriously. Here's a vitality and a weight-loss example. Maybe you went to a party and you're telling somebody the next day, oh, man, you should have seen on the food it was so hard to resist. That is sabotaging your goal. That is creating ideas and beliefs and feelings around a very low vibrational state that don't support you achieving that goal. So another way you could frame that is instead to say they use a beautiful spread. And I was so proud of myself because I was a little tempted, but I really reminded myself of what's important to me and why. And it felt really good going home and going to bed, and knowing that I didn't succumb to the temptation. Now with a couple of days under your belt of doing this for yourself, putting this into practice in your everyday life and seeing the differences, even just with this reframing how powerful it is. I hope you're beginning to see and more importantly, realize in your own life how quickly this takes you from being a non-believer to a knower, be, do have on whatever it is that you are manifesting into your life. And as I've said before, everything, because you're going to apply this to everything in your life automatically the more that you do it. So your homework for today is to consistently and methodically practice this, right? Keep these three types of conversations in mind. How you can navigate them in ways that support what you want to believe, what you want to feel, how you want to vibrate, what you want to manifest into your life. And repetition is key. The more that you do this, the more automatic it will become. Tomorrow, we're going to learn how to deal with inner dialogue, that inner chit-chat. We've all got it right. There's lots of things you can do to stack the deck in your favor when it comes to the inner dialogue. So I'll see you tomorrow. 6. Day 4 Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks: Okay, Let's talk about inner dialogue. We all have it. I remember one time this is so funny, you guys. I was having some inner dialogue. I was actually having an argument in my mind with somebody, right? And the funny part is, I was losing the argument goes like this is ridiculous. I'm making this up. I'm making it up so that I'm losing just so I can the payoff of being angry and saying something snarky, right? So we've got that kind of inner dialogue. We've got the re-visiting of stories and our minds. The thing is we are bombarded all day long with information both from our outer world and from our inner world. And we use this inner dialogue to process, to categorize, to make sense of, right, to figure out how this is going to influence us moving forward, what it means to us. There's that meaning again. And because we love stories, we tend to enter dialogue in a very narrative fashion, a very story related fashion. Sometimes I'll even see things as kind of like a movie in my mind with this inner dialogue running. And this is all creating really dense neural networks, as I've said, a million times by now. And the meaning, the feelings associated with beliefs, very strong beliefs. You could not believe something and then maybe spend a week or two creating the story in your mind, right? This inner dialogue. And by the end of the week or two, you believe it. And to give you an example, I know that I have done this. This is a personal example and I'm sure you're going to resonate. Think of someone with whom you had a conflict. You were upset with them, you guys butted heads or whatever. And you revisit this over and over in your mind, creating justifications for your feelings, for being angry, then you feel those feelings all over again, right? And we tend to embellish and buy a month down the road. You could spout off this whole, entire elaborate story about all the reasons you're justified in being angry at this person and evidence to why there's such a low standard person, right? We have all done that is not good manifesting scale. Where does this fall on the scale? How does this empower you to manifest what you're seeking to bring into your life. It doesn't, it, It keeps you in a state of lack. It disempowers you and it holds you back. So let's look at some strategies because again, we all do this. It gets to be so habitual. We need practical strategies like, okay, this is coming up. What do I do? So let's look at some things that you can do. Since the practice of inner dialogue is such an ingrained habit. The first thing I want to point out to you is something called the 1% rule. We don't need to change everything at once. That can seem very overwhelming and in fact will usually end up giving up when that's the case and that's how we feel. So please keep in mind that there's always a compound effect. Just to do 1% better every day will have a huge compounding effect over the course of a month, right? And especially with a habit like this, if you can just help yourself a tiny little bit every single day, you're going to turn around pretty darn quickly and realized, wow, I can't believe how much negative emotion I generated it in myself with my inner dialogue, or how much I sabotaged my own belief with my inner dialogue or how much I lowered my vibration. Because now you're not doing it and now you realize the difference and how amazing it feels through your own experience. But this is all pebbles on the pile. So give yourself credit for your gains. All of the steps that you take in the right direction. And stop. And notice, notice how good it feels. Notice how much easier and more naturally it's coming to you. And that's just how we want to approach this. But let's look at some real practical and really actually fun things you can do. The first thing when you find inner dialogue starting to go off in your mind, stop and ask yourself, do I need to process this to find an answer? Then I need to move forward because sometimes that's really all the time. We're we're trying to move forward. We're trying to process stuff. But just ask yourself if I continue to have this dialogue. Is it something that I need to do to continue to process this experience or to find an answer to move forward. If the answer is yes, then the next question you ask yourself. Okay? What is the answer? What is the question basically that I need the answer to? What that does is that helps you go much more directly and productively, too good information, rather than just enter dialoguing the same thing over and over again. So you can move forward. So you can move further up the scale. If you ask yourself this question and the answer is no, no. I've gone over this in my mind a gazillion times I do not need to go over it again. Then here are some strategies. The first flip the script strategy is to find the good. No matter how challenging a situation, there is always some insight that is beneficial, some wisdom ultimately that you take away from it. That helps you, even if it's just clarity, getting extreme clarity or personal conviction around something. So what you wanna do is stop and ask yourself, where's the wisdom? Whereas the good. Identify that and oftentimes this will snowball. And when you start finding one thing you've realized, oh, and it's related to this, and oh, it's related to that. Then all of a sudden this thing that you were inner dialoguing that seems like a challenge has now empowered you. Now the second strategy is straight out of NLP. It is fantastic. I absolutely adore this. I do it myself, especially when I'm challenged. Like if there's a real emotional situation that I'm in are dialoguing. But it's so much fun that sometimes I do it just for little things too. I'm like, I don't need to keep revisiting this in my mind. And this is to make a hilarious counter visualization. Your mind is doing something while you're having this inner dialogue. So instead of doing that and going down that well-worn path of neural networks and lowering your vibration. You want to raise your vibration. And I'm going to give you a personal example. I had a person in my life in the last year with whom I had a challenge in conflict, right? So when I found myself repeatedly coming back to inner dialogue around this, I said, okay, this, this needs to stop. This isn't helping. I've processed all the information. I've moved forward, I need to let this go. So what I did was, again, I did say hilarious. I pictured this person as a kind of a clown in a circus, but not in a judgmental, demeaning way, right? And his job in the circus was to train dogs and have this little performance in the ring with the dogs. And as he's doing it, all the dogs just start going haywire. They're doing the opposite thing. They're running into each other. He starts laughing. He's stumbling around laughing. He's bending over with his hands on his knees, just shaking his head, laughing because it's become hilarious. None of the dogs are doing what they're supposed to do. Everything's going kooky crazy, right? I don't know if you could tell from the tone of my voice, but every time I replay this in my mind, I just, my vibration is lifted. I feel really good. It's fun and funny and a fun little experience to have. And I find this to be especially helpful when you have something as I just shared with you, that's rather challenging. You found yourself coming back to it a few times. And you're just like, alright, I'm pulling out the big guns. It's hilarious counter visualization time. And the third strategy is to rewrite the inner dialogue in your favor. Remember that argument I had in my head where I lost. Rewrite it. If it starts going down the path, you're having the inner dialogue. Stop yourself, rewrite it in your favor. In any way you want. You can use your imagination. You're already using your imagination to have this inner dialogue in the first place. So just flip the script and rewrite the entire inner dialogue in your favor. Now for today's exercise, of course, you're gonna go out and just do this in your life, right? You are going to see these things happening, these inner dialogue. You have all these strategies now you can use. But I've also created for you a PDF to track and reflect on them and to look at the vibrational scale. And to ask yourself, well, where was I when the inner dialogue started? And where was I after I practice this technique? Because one, we can put that cause and effect, make it real, understand it, see it right. Then. We really believe in it, we understand it. We're much more naturally able to use this on autopilot in our day-to-day lives. I personally suggest doing this at the end of the day. It's great as you go to sleep. You're going to bed was really empowering thoughts when you're moving into those alpha brainwave states about yourself, about what you're doing for yourself, about all your creative power and how everything works in Saying, going to bed, saying, wow, this is amazing. I really took it for granted. How just talking all day long. And now I'm understanding that have so much power in my words. So go ahead and do that, Have fun with it. And tomorrow we're going to be learning three strategies to use your conversations to get more of what you want in life. So I'll see you tomorrow. 7. Day 5 Magic Words- Manifesting With Language Hacks: Hey, welcome back. So many of the conversations that we have in our day-to-day lives are geared around getting what we want, expressing our desires, our needs, establishing boundaries, keeping things the way we want them, or making them into the way we want them. And because of our paradigms, the habits that we adopt of conversating and how we communicate. We tend to do that in a very low vibrational way that actually keeps us stuck in a place of lag. So let's look at some much more productive high vibrational ways to accomplish the same thing. The first thing you can do is before you even have the conversation, set the expectation. Just take a moment to imagine an ideal mutually beneficial outcome. Something that is win-win and serves everyone something that is based on a creative mindset where there are unlimited possibilities rather than that restrictive mindset that we talked about the other day. And to give you an example of this, you might think, well, I'm going in wanting somebody to do something for me that they're not going to want to do? Well, there are other possibilities. And when we limit the possibilities, we are literally limiting what we can manifest in our lives. So you might say, I don't feel like there's very likely chance that there's a win-win here. However, anything is possible. When you're setting your expectation, you're taking a moment to imagine the ideal win-win solution. So take a moment to imagine them saying, I actually, I see your point. And really it works out better for me if I XYZ anyway, so yeah, let's do it. And you're just setting a tone, you're setting a vibration. In early on in your practice, you might say it didn't go that way. There is your evidence. But what you will find as you do this more and more because it is a vibrational thing. Remember I said, you can't out action your vibration, right? You will find more and more that lo and behold, WOW, was crazy slash surprising slash wonderful. It really did go that way. So the first thing to get in the habit of is grounding a positive expectation. I suggest doing this by just quickly imagining mutually beneficial win-win solution. Another thing is as you go into something, know what your core required return is. What are you really seeking to accomplish and why we are not going into a situation saying this other person has to give something up. I want them to give something up because I'll feel better. Now. We have a goal, we have something that we want to have happen, that we need to have happen for ourselves. And ultimately that really doesn't have anything to do. At the end of the day with other people. However, we often need to communicate with them. So just know what is your core required return. I'll give you an example again from my own personal life. When I got divorced, my ex husband and I didn't immediately have a productive relationship is often the case we do now, we have a wonderful relationship, which I'm very grateful for. However, we got to a point where I started saying, you know what, when I have a conversation with him, I have to know what my core required return is. My core required return was not to bicker with him or argue with him or to be right. My core required return was always about making sure we both work together to serve the best interests of our children. And knowing this was an absolute game changer. Literally from the moment that I had that awareness on, it, absolutely changed everything. And you can see how it kept me on focus from a practical perspective. But it also raised my vibration. And it was obviously a vibration that was based on a win-win-win intention. The third thing that you can do that is really, really helpful is to let go of your attachment to the outcome and instead focus on the process. Whenever two human beings come together to communicate, There's always the potential for growth, for connection, for understanding, for compromise, for compassion. And even if you might feel that you have not one, you went in seeking to when you could have made a million wonderful strides and benefits in the process. So when we focus more on the process, it will then by its nature, lead to a more positive outcome rather than being so attached to the outcome going into the conversation. Now of course, practice makes permanent. So go out into the world. Practice these in your everyday life, in your everyday conversations. I've also created for you a worksheet which is going to walk you through the process of looking at your primary manifesting goal. Thinking about where are places where I could use some support or some help or things from other people were there. I'm going to need to talk to them about it. And we're going to also use reframing again here today. And I statements. We don't want to put people on defensive, right? We don't want to start the whole conversation with a low vibration. So this is basically going to create a conversation bank for you remember the word banks and the reframing banks we've already done. It's the same kind of thing. So when you are actually having that conversation, you're not fumbling and wondering, Oh no, what a Christian say, you have already some speaking points, some talking points to empower you. So go ahead and print that out and do that and have fun with it. And I'm gonna see you tomorrow where we're going to do something really powerful. This is all about writing. Writing is powerful. There's a lot of ideas we can't really get to or access or confidence that is more challenging to develop just through speaking. So we're going to be doing some really high-impact and fun writing activities tomorrow. I'll see you then. 8. Day 6 Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks: Hey, welcome back. Today we're going to do a writing activity. Now, writing is words, ideas, the whole thoughts, feelings, meetings, just as much as everyday conversation. However, there's a lot of things about writing that are really special and unique as opposed to talking or thinking. And as we go through the process of writing, it's actually much more in tune to our higher consciousness, to our true desires. We are less critical of ourselves when we write. If you just start free form writing, you're going to find the real feelings coming out, the real dreams and even save, for example, if you have a harder time, say you're self-critical, right? But you start writing, you find you're much softer and more compassionate. And the process of writing also makes a lot more different types of connections with our brain and with all of the parts of our nervous system that make it a really powerful tool for changing beliefs and updating beliefs. And today we're going to use a very powerful but crazy easy hypnotic language, a technique, right? And so what you're gonna do, and you'll see I made a PDF for you. However, you can also do this just in your own journal or whatever if you prefer. Think about your primary manifesting goal and think about there's Person a who is going to be who you are now, right? Who we are now the person who has not yet realized into their reality, that goal. And then there is person B. Person B has realized that goal into their reality. Now person a and person B have a lot different beliefs. They have a lot different feelings. They have a lot different ideas about what is possible and how things work and who they are. Now this concept of who we are is really important. All of research in psychology and human behavior shows that it's our actual self-concept, our idea of ourself, our self-image or identity. I'm using these all interchangeably. That determines the limits of how much we can achieve in life, right? So if you see yourself as the person who isn't capable of something, then you're going to vibrate at that level. You're going to not be able to go beyond where you see yourself. And this is a really magical, wonderful tool for breaking through those boundaries, for expanding your own boundaries, for creating a self-identity that empowers you with your words, with writing. And it's so simple. So think about your person, a person, Right? And think about your person, B person. What kind of person are they? What do they do? How do they dress? How do they look, how they navigate their day? How did they make choices? How do they relate to others? What do they believe? And you want to start writing, I am the kind of person who is important to rewrite start each statement. And if you get tired of writing it, I understand. Maybe every two or three statements you can tack a couple on together, but say, I am the kind of person who is really focused and organized. I'm just using this as an example. Let's, let's make an example that's more tied to a really specific manifest and goal. Let's use the weight maintenance goal like hitting your ideal weight and permanently staying it that way. And you might think about that person be your person B, it's not that you need to become that person. It's just that you need to remove all that clutter that's keeping you from showing up fully as that person. So what are the person be, beliefs, actions, habits, behavior, and just start writing. And you might write, I'm the kind of person who loves healthy food. I'm the kind of person who feels really energized after I eat a healthy meal. I'm the kind of person who makes sure that I drink 70 ounces of water a day because I know how vital it is to my body. I am the kind of person who respects myself and loves myself no matter where I am on my current weight journey, right? I'm just making this stuff up. I'm thinking about my person, B person, and what would she say? And I want you to do that too. And as I mentioned, it's much more fluid, it's much more free form. If I were writing instead of speaking to you, I just feel like that's the way the process works a little bit differently when we're writing and why. It's a totally different experience and also really powerful. So as you can see, this is easy. Super high impact. Again, if you can do it before bed, That's wonderful. Also in the morning when we're in the Alpha brainwaves state and we first woken up is a great way to do it. But the best time is when you have time. And I also suggest that you save this and reread it. And the interesting thing is I don't know if I've said this yet. I highly encourage you to take this program again and again and again, you have it now. Every time you walked through it, you are going to come through new layers of understanding, new layers of taking ownership of it, new layers of experience. So it can be really fun to save these and then go back later and look and see how you've already become that person. I am that person. I do all of these things now. So that is it. It sounds very easy, it's very, very high impact. So join me tomorrow for day seven where we will be turning on the charm. 9. Day 7 Magic Words- Law of Attraction Language Hacks: Welcome to day seven. I truly hope that you are having such a good time with this and feeling empowered and seeing the changes in how you feel in your vibration, in what's showing up in your life and how things are unfolding. Today, we're going to turn on the charm. Now, this isn't about being fake, right? Or being someone. You're not. Because different people have different personality styles. But charm is very powerful and I use the word charm, but another word that would be good to think of when we think of charm is also to think of grace. There's a lot going on here. So let's just unpack some of it and then talk about how this would work in everyday life in practical experience. Now, first of all, my grandmother always said, you'll catch more flies with honey than you will with vinegar. And this is true. So just as a matter of achieving the things you want to achieve in life and having that happened fluidly, right? In a nice, harmonious way. It's going to happen with charm more so than with a confrontational, abrasive type approach to communicating. Now this doesn't mean that you can't be firm, that you can't have clarity of your boundaries, that you can't be definitive, right? In your communication style. It's not about that. It's not about acquiescing to people, right? It's just simply about being more graceful and having more composure. And if you look at the manifesting scale and think about where it puts you, your different choices for how you approach communicating something to someone. Obviously, anytime you can be graceful, more charming in a more productive tone is going to be much higher on the vibrational scale. And not only that people respond better to this. Now, when you are abrasive and offensive, what you're really doing is lowering someone else's vibration, lowering someone else's emotion. And the interesting thing about our consciousness is, is when we think that other people deserve to be put in that situation, we actually also think that we deserve and are fearful of being put in that position ourselves, right? And when you can just maintain a level of grace, a level of composure, then you also are saying to yourself, This is the standard I hold for myself. This is what I deserve. This is my expectation for people in how they treat me and how they communicate with me. So it's really interesting in that it's not really just about getting what you want or getting people to do what you want, or even just being kind and compassionate to other people. It is very much about your own self-image and ultimately then your own vibrational state. So if you're thinking, I am less than charming, I need some tips. Let's look at some things that we can do. The first thing is to take a deep breath before you respond to someone. Whenever you're having any type of communication, the habitual response is almost always going to be fueled by emotion. How many times have you said something that later you regret? Or you think later like, man, I wish I would have said this or a much better thing to do would have been to have said this. So if you get in the habit of taking a deep breath and it doesn't have to be real obvious to people. And over the top, you don't have to be like, okay, I'm ready to talk now. You could just very subtly take a deep breath and give yourself some time. First of all, this actually affects your nervous system. So if you are feeling heightened emotions, like if it's a heightened emotion type situation, they're communicating in this alone is going to absolutely change the chemicals that are being released into your body and how you feel, which gives you time and a more high vibrational but also more peaceful feeling from which to respond. And you'll notice I've said the word respond to a couple of times. There's something I do and true north of a lot of things I do, but we all have something I call response ability. So it's our ability to be thoughtful in how we respond to situations both with our communications, with their actions, whatever. And it's through this response ability that we empower ourselves to be the creative directors of our lives, to have more control over how things are going and not constantly be reacting. That's the, that's the alternative. Just always be reacting in this emotional reaction to things. So, use, take a deep breath. Use your response ability to think about what you want to say and why and how. And also another really good tip is to just speak at a lower level. If you find yourself wanting to shout or whatever, anything you can do to calm down and have a more harmonious type of communication is more charming. Another simple tip is to use people's names. People loved to hear their names. If you do nothing else with regard to this charming business and you just go out in the world and start using people's names and conversations. Take notice. You're going to see this. If people like, they sort of they lift up a little right there, vibration is lifting there. You get their attention a little more because people like to be known. We all like to be acknowledged that we exist, right? That we are an individual. I'm Kristin. And if you come up to me and you say, Hey, hand me that, right. Okay. Right. But if you say, hey, Kristen, can you hear me that it's more charming? Use people's names. Another thing about charm is that when you are being authentically charming, you are in a higher vibration, right? People pick up on that. We sent that from people. If someone is trying to say, butter us up, right? But they're not being authentic. We know, we always know. And so part of being charming is really being authentically higher vibration in your communication. And an easy way to do that actually is to smile. When we smile, our body releases all sorts of feel-good chemicals. So even if you're a little tense, maybe you're a little anxious. You're going into a meeting and you're like, I don't know if I could be charming because I was very nervous. Smile, just smile and it will automatically released those chemicals in you and help you to feel more relaxed and help you to be more charming. And another thing, this is not something you probably want to do right in front of people, but when you raise your arms, it actually releases serotonin. For example. If I'm getting ready to do something that I know like I really want to connect with people and I really want to inspire and be charming and be high vibration. I will raise my arms beforehand to release that serotonin so I feel it. So I am in that mood. And if you think about like concerts where everybody's got their arms in the air or religious services and stuff when people are like, alright. And it does, it releases serotonin. It's like a trick you can use to help yourself to just naturally feel in higher vibration and to naturally communicate in a more high vibration and charming way. So now you've got that lovely little charm toolkit that you can go out into the world. And you're going to find that people are more welcoming to your communication. More things go your way. You just naturally feel better, the people that you're talking to, to feel better. And look at the vibrational scale and see how this all lifts you up. Practice this as you practice it, just like everything else. It will become absolutely automatic. Now as we begin to wrap up our week together, our time together here, first of all, I want to thank you so, so, so much for welcoming, welcoming me into your life, into your day. It's truly a pleasure and an honor. And I believe that life is a beautiful gift. And we all have this amazing creative ability within us to truly thrive, to truly show up to live a life that inspires us that we want to jump out of bed to live every morning. And I love helping people to do that with really practical tools. So thank you for participating in the program. Feel free to reach out with any questions you might have. Any questions you have about other programs that I have, or feedback and ideas I'm super welcoming to all sorts of communication and dialogue. And I look forward to meeting you and getting to know you and work with you in another program. And as I've already mentioned once, but it's really important. Please do this again. Take this program again in a week or two. Because every time you do, what happens is that certain parts of it have become automatic, right? It's become how you sue the world has become how you automatically exercise your response abilities. And then with each new time that you go through it, you layer new things onto that. And it gets more and more powerful, so strongly encourage you to come back again. I hope, hope to see you on day one again in a week or two. Thank you again for taking the program and please, please please reach out. I hope to see you again soon. 10. Magic Words Bank 1: Let's embark on a three-day journey to explore magic words and how to use them to program your subconscious mind for success. To begin with, let's start by looking at how our conscious mind and our subconscious mind process the words that we choose differently. When you choose and then say words either out loud or in your conversations or even in your inner dialogue. Your conscious mind is being very logical and analytical. It is going to focus simply on the subject and the action that is being conveyed in the words you're using. Meanwhile, your subconscious mind is diligently working behind the scenes to create meaning. It's looking for nuances. Your subconscious mind is making connections to pass data and experiences. And all of this is going on entirely outside of your awareness. And since we know that the subconscious mind drives 95% of everything that happens in our lives. We need to be aware that our words are essentially a shorthand for the subconscious mind and our programming. And the words that we choose are creating a model of the world. How our subconscious mind sees the world and makes decisions for us. For magic word bank, day one, we're going to look at words that are called softeners. Softeners are very important with the way that they create meaning and create the programming in our subconscious mind. Because they create less resistance. And that empowers our subconscious mind to adopt new ideas more easily, to fold these new ideas into the programming, into the routine. Functions and automatic functions that are subconscious mind is going to drive us to. As you learn each of these three words today, go out and seek to infuse them into your daily conversation, your daily dialogue. And the first word that we're going to look at is easily, this is word softener number one. So look for ways to use the word easily in your everyday conversation. And let's look at some examples. I can easily learn these computer skills and upgrade my career. Now think about the programming that that's creating in your subconscious mind. Whereas previously, you might have found something intimidating or challenging. When you use the word easily, your subconscious says, oh, okay, there's no struggle here. This is something we can do easily. And as you approach these tasks, you will then naturally find it much easier and more comfortable to do because now your subconscious programming is on board. Here's another example. I can easily just go to the gym one more day a week and double my results. Whereas previously you might have thought, Oh, do I have time where I'm going to work that in? You have used the word easily and now your subconscious is going to be more at ease with that idea, looking for more creative ways and opportunities to find time to go to the gym. Not only that, but now your subconscious mind has the programming. We're doubling our results, okay, we're going to really see results quickly. Another example, I can easily find things to do with my friends, so I am more social. This programming that is being created in your subconscious mind is, well, there's always new opportunities and your reticular activating system is going to start letting data in through that filter that says, oh, don't miss this opportunity or someone mentioned they're doing something and you're gonna find that you notice. And you say, Oh, hey, I'd love to do that, right? So to make this easy for your subconscious mind, rather than what you might have previously thought of as challenging. Stacks the deck in your favor. So your subconscious mind is working for you on autopilot. Here's another example. I can easily find more recipes to cook healthier meals. Oh, okay. So now all of a sudden you start noticing healthy recipes everywhere. Your subconscious mind isn't stuck on what do I make today are what's gonna be healthy? It says, Oh no, this is easy for us. This comes very natural to us. And that is a beautiful segue into our second softener naturally. You'll notice I use this word naturally in speaking to you because I have conditioned myself to utilize this word more fluidly, which are going to learn that you are going to do as well. So let's look at some examples of how naturally creates powerful programming in your subconscious mind. Here's one example. Naturally, I'm going to love upgrading my job. This tells the subconscious mind. This is just who we are. We enjoy this evolution. It's not intimidating, it's not overwhelming, it's natural. This is how we move in the world, right? Another example, I'm naturally drawn to weights and strength training. So whereas previously, you might have found some resistance. Say we're overcoming that resistance by telling our subconscious programming, I'm naturally drawn to this. I naturally enjoy it. Here's another example. Going out more will naturally lead to meeting more single women. So if you're dating and you might have previously had some resistance around the idea of dating. This is creating a connection. This is adding meaning to your subconscious programming. Oh, well I enjoy dating because naturally it's going to lead to me meeting more single people. Another example, I naturally prefer Whole Foods over processed foods. Now the subconscious mind is saying, Oh, wow, You're going to start building some resistance to the process foods, which is what you want because you naturally prefer the whole foods, the foods that provide energy, and the fuel that you need to be healthy and vital. And you have done this all simply by choosing to use this word. Softener number three is the word automatically. Let's look at some examples and break this down. Just thinking about a new job automatically makes me want to update my resume. So you're telling your subconscious, hey, this is exciting. We want to do this. This has caused an effect and we are very excited about it. It takes no effort whatsoever. Here's another example. Lifting weights will make me burn more calories automatically. Now, imagine this programming in your subconscious that is literally giving even your body and your cells instructions of what to do. Don't hold onto anything, let it all go. We're going to burn calories. This happens automatically for us. Another example, Going out more, it will automatically improve my conversation skills. Well, this is exciting now because we know we're looking forward to going out. We're looking forward to getting better and better at conversating with people like meeting people in making meaningful connections. Last example here. I automatically heads straight to the produce section. When you find yourself saying this, then your subconscious mind when you walk in the store, can't even think about the general food aisle. It's like, Oh, what's over here in the produce section? What kind of magic can we create with all these wonderful vegetables, right? I automatically head over there. Now I'm sure you've heard the phrase before. And it is true. Neurons that fire together, wire together. You are literally creating an automatic connection of synapses and neurons in your neural network that are going to use these words automatically. I mentioned a moment ago how I now use these words without even thinking about it. They're part of my everyday language. And as you liberally sprinkled them into your conversations for the next 24 hours and beyond, you are going to find that they also become automatic for you as well. So go out today and use these softeners. Let's do a quick review. We've got easily, use the word easily as much as you can in your conversation. Naturally. Naturally, I'm drawn to this. Naturally this is going to occur naturally. I want to automatically, I'm automatically drawn to, I automatically do this, or this automatically happens. So Neurons that fire together, wire together, go out and use these words in your language today. 11. Magic Words Bank 2: Welcome to World Bank day to today we're going to explore expansion words now to review, because repetition is how you create that, understanding, those dense neural networks by repeatedly exploring ideas and new information. So let's review how your conscious mind and your subconscious mind process words. Your conscious mind is very logical and analytical. It is going to focus almost entirely on the subject and the action in the words that you are choosing to use. Your subconscious mind, however, is looking for nuances, building meaning, making deep connections with all sorts of data and past experiences and other ideas and beliefs. And this is all happening outside of your awareness. So again, the words that we use are really the shorthand for our programming. And create our model of the world, how we see the world, what we expect to happen. They're very, very important. And today we're going to look at expansion words. Now, expansion words I have selected because they are so incredibly important. These are the words that enable you to break free from limiting beliefs and to expand your own beliefs and your own ideas about what's possible in your life. So the expansion words empower you to create a new subconscious model for your world that has even more expanded boundaries, that has even less obstacles, less restrictions, and is filled with possibility. It should come as no surprise that expansion word number one is actually the word expand. And let's look at this with regard to three different typical things that people might be working on in their life. First, we'll look at it around a health goal. And you might find yourself saying, I'm expanding my ideas about ways to get healthy. And you go around saying this all day. Well suddenly your subconscious programming says, Oh, we are on the lookout for new opportunities, for new things to get excited about that are gonna help us to feel healthy because that's what we want. Let's look at it with a wealth goal. I'm expanding my ideal job requirements to include a month or more of vacation. Now our subconscious programming is saying, already, we are looking for this generous vacation time in any job as we're looking for a new job that we will consider. So it's automatically going to lead you to jobs that meet this criteria. Love. I'm expanding my communication skills so I can have healthy, loving relationships. Wow, just think about the programming that is being created around this. Now your subconscious is looking for you for ways to communicate more effectively, to have more meaningful connection in dialogue with people. Oh, we want healthy loving relationships. We want to expand beyond any past experiences that we've had and really move in this direction. And that is very powerful programming. That is a very powerful belief and a powerful model that you use to go out into the world and actually create and live your life. The next expansion where to fold into your everyday conversation is the word beyond. This word is really going to take you to the next level, everything that you apply it to. So let's look at the three examples. Health, I'm going beyond losing weight and getting into the best shape of my life. Wow. Now you are really creating a strong subconscious programming. This isn't just about trying to hit some goal on the scale. I am going beyond that. I am getting into the very best shape of my life with the wealth example, I'm way beyond living paycheck to paycheck. Think about the programming that this is creating. Your subconscious is saying, yeah, we don't even, we don't play, we don't do that anymore. We are moving beyond that in, into an area of financial comfort, financial abundance, love. The kind of connection we have is beyond anything you see on TV. There's something you might say to someone about your relationship, right? Oh yeah, it's stuff you see out there in the world. We are way beyond that and that lecture subconscious mind. Now, I want to expand. I want to go beyond anything I've ever known or seen before and find new ways to explore and experience connection and love. Expansion we're at number three is unlimited. So much of what people go around speaking about into their lives really is about identifying limits, right? And we want to break free from that. We want to create the model in your subconscious mind that there are unlimited possibilities. So let's look at the three examples. Health, the degree to which I can get into shape is unlimited. This is telling your subconscious mind, hey, there is no boundary here. We can get as healthy and fit as we want to. We can expand. There's that word again right? Into new areas in our physical health that we've never even experienced before and we're really excited about it. The wealth example, my earning potential is unlimited. Now this is just a stone cold truth. Everyone's earning potential is unlimited. You can find stories all day long about people without special skills, degrees or training who have just made the sky, they're limit right? And keep expanding and growing in their earning potential. You start giving this type of data to your subconscious programming. And your earning potential will literally become unlimited as you see the world this way, as you navigate your choices in the world based on this model, this belief, my earning potential is unlimited. Love. We have an unlimited potential to grow closer and closer every day. If you're in a relationship and you go around talking like this, then you are creating the subconscious programming that says, we don't have any limits. We probably haven't even scratched the surface of what is possible for us. So let's do it. Let's have fun with it. Every single day brings new opportunity to become even closer. Now let's go with that repetition. Neurons that fire together, wire together. Please focus on sprinkling these words into your conversation as much as possible today. And you will create those neural networks that are gonna work for you on autopilot. You think about it now and in the future, you won't even have to think about it. You're going to find that you automatically use these words. The words you want to liberally sprinkled into your dialogue today are, number one, expand. Think of ways you can use expand in your everyday conversation. Number two, beyond and number three, unlimited. 12. Magic Words Bank 3: Alrighty, it is magic word bank day number three. And today we're going to look at words that give direct commands to your subconscious programming. We're not messing around today as review, because neurons that fire together, wire together your conscious mind and your subconscious mind, process the words that you choose differently. Your conscious mind is just looking for logic, right? It's using analytics. It's mostly going to focus on the subject and the action. Hey, what's happening here? Whereas your subconscious mind running in the background is creating tons of meaning. It is looking for nuances of meaning in every way that you choose. It's making connections. It's connecting the words that you're saying with past experience, evidence. And all of this is happening outside of your awareness. So the words that you choose are literally shorthand, that create your model of the world, that create your subconscious programming. So today, we're going to look at direct commands. These are very useful for overcoming, limiting beliefs and breaking patterns quickly. They guide your subconscious mind into acceptance. They guide your subconscious mind into what is known as a yes state. Whereas before your subconscious might've said, well wait, no, we have all these things. Now. There's this yesterday where it says, Okay, we're on board. Let's go direct command number one is the word aware. I've selected before and after examples for this particular day, I think that's a fun way to start getting a better understanding of how these words work and how to use them. So our before for where is, you might say something like, It's hard to just up and change careers. That's not sending very good information to your subconscious programming, is it? So the after my b, now I'm aware of how easy it really is to change careers. And now your subconscious programming is taking this word aware and saying, Oh, let's look for meaning, let's look for proof. Let's look for evidence of this in all the information that we have, all the past experiences. And it is literally shifting your model from a negative direction to a positive direction. Let's look at another example before. I have no idea where to even begin with losing weight. Now, this is obviously creating the idea in your subconscious programming your model of the world that it's hard, we don't even know where to start. It's so hard, so this is not going to happen. And the after is, I am aware that there are tons of resources out there to help me to successfully lose weight. Now you have created the idea, the belief model, the programming that G, there's just a ton of information out there and all I need to do is go out and start gathering and using that information. Wow, I am really positioned for success. The next direct command word is the word realize. In our before example, I feel like I never meet new people. And in our After example, I realized that there are many creative ways and places to meet people. Now this after example, I realized there are many creative ways and places to meet new people creates the idea, the belief in your subconscious mind that wow, there's actually all sorts of interesting and wonderful ways out there that I can meet and connect with new people. And your reticular activating system will start working for you and start seeing those ways. All things that might have been available to you in the past, but you just literally didn't see them. Here's another before. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. And here's the after. I realize I am able to pinpoint my areas for growth and find the resources to help me develop quickly. This is very empowering. Wow, I realize I can just look at what's going on. I can see where I want to grow and then I can find the resources to help me to achieve that. Very, very powerful. Our third direct command word for today is the word notice our before. I can't stand being around him. Hour after. I noticed that I feel better when I don't hang out with him. This is much more empowering. This literally takes you from being a victim, helpless victim to the person in the power position. Because your subconscious says, Oh, we notice that that is not a fun person to hang out with. Your subconscious is naturally going to steer you in the direction of finding people who are more attuned to your liking, right? Who help you feel the way you want to feel? You've told your subconscious this is important to me. I do not want to hang out with people that rubbed me the wrong way or don't reflect my values are what I'm trying to work on in the world. And I notice that I get more accomplished. Say when I hang out with people who share my goals, let's look at another before I can't get anything done when my house is a mess. Okay, now your subconscious says, alright, We're just overwhelmed. Everything's cluttered. Our mind is as cluttered as our house. And here's the after I noticed, I'm way more productive when I tidy up my house. And now the subconscious says, Oh, we like this, right? We notice this. Notice how good it feels. And we can take action accordingly. And once again, those neurons that fire together, wire together. Literally you're not just creating a word bank, you are creating a bank of neural networks in your own mind. So go out there in the world today and focus on sprinkling these words into your everyday language. Use the word aware. Use the word realize, use the word notice. And you will create the very empowering programming in your own subconscious mind. 13. Powerful I Am Statements: I am statements are powerful. It's important that we be intentional and thoughtful in how we use them. Let's begin by looking at why they're so important. Self-concepts statements create our beliefs. Our beliefs create our emotions. And our emotions are the biggest contributing factor to our vibrational frequency. All of these things come together to be incredibly important and powerful elements. What we manifest into our lives. Research consistently shows this. In research, it was shown that subjects who were instructed to describe themselves in a self-enhancing manner actually showed increases in their self-esteem, which you can imagine how this also increases your emotions and increases your vibrational frequency. And conversely, people who describe themselves in a self-deprecating way showed decreases in their self-esteem. It's important to note that the research also shows that people who are the most successful with this also give themselves permission to expand into these new definitions and ideas of who they are. So be sure to work that into your process. The first thing you wanna do is get in the habit of saying I am instead of I'm. What this does is it brings it into your awareness about what you're about to say and gives you those few splits, seconds of opportunity to be intentional and to choose the words because you understand how they're creating your self-perception, your emotion, your vibrational frequency. Let's look at a few before and after examples. In the first example the person says, I'm so fat. Well clearly this is very powerless. It makes them feel powerless. It's very definitive. It's creating a belief about who they are and the value of that person. The negative emotions and the negative vibrational frequencies that go along with it. However, if you instead say, I am committed to bringing my best self into the world, this is very empowering. This is self loving, this is self supportive. And you can begin to imagine the different beliefs that are created and fostered with this statement. The different emotions that are generated with this statement. Here's another example. The first person might say, I'm a failure at x, y, z, whatever it is. And this again, creates a very powerless sense of self. It is labeling the self. It's creating a belief around that and all the defeated, overwhelming emotions that go along with it. However, if the person instead says, I am learning through my experiences to improve at x, y, z. Now this is very empowering. This is creating a belief that I am capable. I am growing into what's important to me. I am empowered in all of the emotions that go along with that. When we're talking about ourselves and using words to define ourselves. We also want to take into consideration the transitional nature of emotions. So frequently we use words that keep emotions stuck within us. We start to define ourselves as these emotions rather than looking at it from the perspective that emotions are intended to move through us. We experience emotions and have emotions and then release them when we talk about them in ways that don't allow for that process to have an release the emotion. This is when the emotion then begins to become stuck in our vibrational patterns and in our perception of who we are identifying with that emotion. So let's look at an example. When you talk about your emotions, start thinking about them from the perspective of having them. I am having an emotion rather than I am and emotion. So for example, a person might say, I'm so sad. And that is defining them as a sad person. It's defining them as a victim to this feeling that they're currently experiencing and creating even more emotions around that. That is a powerless way to describe and discuss your emotions. However, when you say I am you by yourself, those extra few seconds to think about what you're going to say and how it affects your beliefs, your self-concept, your actual processing of emotions. Then you might instead say, I am feeling sad right now and processing it. And you can see how differently this gives you permission. It's okay. I am sad right now and I'm processing it. So it also opens up that wiggle room to acknowledge that this emotion is going to be processed. This emotion is transitional and it's going to be leaving me. This is not who I am. This is how I feel right at this moment. You also want to start noticing where you're using powerless language and remove that powerless language from your everyday conversations. Research shows that there is a direct connection between the typical powerless language patterns that we're gonna look at in a moment. Low feelings of self-worth and self-esteem. What are some examples of powerless language patterns? One is insecurity words. These are words that are indicating to yourself and others when you use them, that you are not confident, you are not secure in what you want to communicate. So for example, I think sort of, and probably another one is hesitation fillers. Things like, I'm like, Okay, you know, when we use these in our everyday language patterns, we are creating a sense both within ourselves, to our own self-concept and to the people that we're talking to. We don't feel confident or authoritative or even okay to express the things that we want to express. With these I like to work on one at a time. I will notice that I'm using one more frequently and then stop myself in my everyday conversations when I find myself compelled to use it in. Once I get that one to a habit to not using it, then I will start on the next one. Another powerless language pattern is the use of tag questions. It's a follow-up question. Looking for confirmation or agreement. For example, you might say, it's okay, right? And it's the right thing to do. Don't you think you'll recognize that it's a tag question when you've made a statement and then you follow it up with a question that's looking for confirmation or validation. Of course, this is different than a dialogue where you are sincerely looking for another person's contribution or input. So you can just stop and take note of the differences. These are all easy and high-impact. I am, or it's swaps. Before you make a statement about yourself, remember, I am, what I say, I am. 14. Easy to Use & Powerful Language Patterns: Today you're going to discover language patterns. Language patterns are incredibly powerful and crazy, easy to use. So let's jump in. Now, why do we want to focus on our language patterns? To review our subconscious mind uses the words that we choose to create our model of the world, to create our beliefs under the surface when we're not even paying attention. It is creating deep meaning. Making connections, right? This is what is going to prime your reticular activating system to only let the data in, in your life that supports what you actually believe in what you actually want. And language patterns are incredibly easy to use to do that. Now, what is a language pattern will quite simply it's a structure or container for putting together and communicating the core parts of your ideas. You're going to see in the examples in just a moment how easy it is. The reason language patterns are so powerful is because they speak to our subconscious minds, love of cause and effect. As our subconscious is creating meaning. It's looking at causes, effects. It's looking at evidence and creating a whole lot of meaning around those things. And language patterns are very, very easy way to do that. The first language pattern you can start using is, the more I blank. Unless I blank. Let's look at an example. The more I work out, the less I crave junk food. Wow, that is creating all sorts of connections, developing all sorts of meaning. Priming your reticular activating system to only look for things that support this idea. The more I work out, the less I crave junk food. Interesting, isn't it? Here's another example. The more I focus on my goals, the less I worry about the little things that used to bother me. Think about the programming that is being created with the statement. Wow, the more focused on my goals, the less I have this bad experience that I don't want to have. These things don't bother me anymore. This is going to prime your reticular activating system to find ways to focus more on your goal. That's the cause. And the effect is getting less of what you don't want. Here's another example. The more I stand up for myself, the less I care about what other people think. This is creating a very powerful connection. This, I do this, and then I have this wonderful benefit. That's making connection, that's building meaning. That's priming the reticular activating system to look for opportunities to speak your truth, to stand up for yourself. A variation on this language pattern is, the more I blank, the more I blend. Let's look at some examples. The more I work out, the more I crave healthy foods. What a connection, working out, alright, and then you're feeling good about yourself and your super vital, and you just naturally gravitate towards healthy foods. The more I focus on my goals, the more confident I feel. Whew, that's a very juicy and powerful connection, right? Your subconscious mind is in love with that. And your reticular activating system, instead of looking for ways to procrastinate or avoid something is saying, Oh, yeah, we want to find even more ways to be more focused and to do more of what we want because it helps us to feel more confident. And that is important to us. That is just amazing. Here's another one. The more I stand up for myself, the more I realized that I know what's best for me. This is a very powerful statement, isn't it? It's telling your subconscious mind, there's a huge connection between me standing up for myself, saying what I want, speaking my truth, and realizing that wow, I really do know how to navigate my own life. I really do trust myself, very, very powerful. And now my friends. Let's delve in to the most powerful language pattern that you could possibly use that data. And that is to start using the words. I can imagine. This is beautiful for your subconscious. The subconscious mind does not know the difference between real and imagined. When you begin to imagine the possibilities, then you will also begin to create belief models around them. To have the reticular activating system that lets all of the things that makes them happen. So let's look at some examples. I'm applying for new jobs and I can already imagine how good it feels to do work that I'm passionate about. To illustrate how powerful our subconscious is in working in the background. I just made that statement and I am willing to wager that you have already started to think about. Well, what would a job that I'm passionate about look like? What kind of things do I love? If I were looking for a job that I'm passionate about, you have already begun to imagine, see how powerful this is. Let's look at another example. I just loved dating. Just imagine all the possibilities that come along with meetings. So many new people. Again, your own subconscious mind has probably already started to imagine. What does that look like? What kind of possibilities do open up as you meet more and more new people? What could happen? Using the words I can imagine or some variation on them Like I can imagine, I imagine and so on. Really creates a bridge. A bridge from the beginning of thinking about what we would like and how that would feel and what that would look like. To really walking over that bridge and flushing out the details, getting more clear like Oh, and expanding ideas and expanding possibilities. When you say I can imagine you are opening up a whole new world that is not dependent on your current experiences or your past experiences. I can imagine is just like going on an adventure. It is the first step on a wonderful adventure and that adventure is your life. And you guessed it, we are going to make this all happen on autopilot by going out in the world today and using these language patterns to review their first language pattern, you went to start working into your conversations today are the more eye-blink, the less eye blink make those connections. The second one is, the more I blank, the more I blank positive reinforcement evidence connections. And finally, I can imagine getting ready to walk over that bridge, right? Opening up the mind to all the possibilities. So sprinkle these language patterns liberally into your conversations today, both your outward conversations with people and your inner chatter. And of course, Neurons that fire together, wire together. Let's get this all happening on autopilot. Go out into the world today and liberally sprinkled these language patterns into your conversations, both with other people and in your own inner dialogue. 15. Cautionary Words- Be Careful : Today we're going to explore some cautionary words. We tend to speak just so automatically that we don't really stop and think about what the words mean, the meaning that they are creating to our subconscious programming. And now that you're making conscious choices about the words that you use, we're going to explore some words that probably when you hear them, you'll say, Oh, dang it. I have been using those words in a way that doesn't support me. Let's begin by looking at another reason why the specific words that you choose are so powerful to your subconscious mind. As we discussed earlier in the week, your conscious mind is just looking at the action and the subject being very analytical. However, your subconscious mind is taking these words and creating deep meaning and making connections to past experiences. Building belief models, right? How you see the world. And also this affects your reticular activating system. Now you may have heard of your reticular activating system of the thousands and thousands of bits of data that are coming at us at any moment. Our RAS, reticular activating system is choosing what to let in. It's a filter, and it is letting in the things that support your ideas, that support your beliefs. So choosing words that prime your filter so that they only let in data and things that support your beliefs is a very powerful practice. I invite you to be very thoughtful about how you use the word but the word but actually negates or cancels everything that came before it. So you can use this strategically and you want to be cautious not to use it in a way that's disempowering to you. So as an example, if you find yourself saying, I like working out but I'm not making progress, then the idea that you like working out is now completely canceled. It negated and your subconscious mind and hence your reticular activating system. Everything that's being filtered into your life is now built around the idea of I'm not making progress. So an example of how to redo that is, I haven't been to the gym this week, but it's easy for me to get back in the habit. So you might say yes, that's my reality. I have not been to the gym this week, but cancel that because it's easy for me to get back in the habit. And that is the idea that's being supported now in your subconscious programming. Another word to be thoughtful about how you use is the word and the word and adds to whatever came before it, it compounds meaning, it stacks ideas and evidence. Here's an example. I'm behind on my bills and that seems to happen every month. See how this is evidenced stacking? Yeah. This is my reality on behind on my bills. And that seems to happen every month. And that's going to create the subconscious model of, hey, this is where we're comfortable. Let's continue to be behind on our bills. We know how to navigate this situation. However, if you say I'm behind on my bills and learning how to manage my finances so I can live comfortably. Then your subconscious programming says, Oh, we have options were looking to expand, right? Remember expand from the other day. So now you're creating a much more powerful idea for your subconscious to go out and work on autopilot for you on your behalf. Another collection of important words to consider how you use are something I call absolute words, such as never and always. These are commands to our subconscious and they create very powerful programming. There is no wiggle room when you have never and always. So you want to really be thoughtful about how you use it. Here's an example. I'm always single, things never work out for me. Now folks, when I hear people make an absolute statements such as things never work out for me. I really just crumble inside because I know how powerful this is for your subconscious programming. It's creating a model of the world. It's creating that reticular activating system that says, Let's look for ways to screw this up. Let's overlook opportunities, right? So here's a better thing to say. I'm always open to expanding my boundaries and never stopped growing in life. Now the subconscious says, Okay, cool. You know, we're empowered. We're looking for ways to expand, we're looking for ways to improve. We are looking for ways to grow. Let's go out and find that. Let's make that happen. When you find yourself drawn to use the words never and always, I encourage you to ask yourself a simple question. Is it true? So if I'm going to say something is never or something as always, is it really true? Oftentimes it is not true. Alright, then ask yourself, do I want to live this? Do I want this to be my programming? And does it make sense to use this word? Why are you doing this for yourself? Because neurons that fire together, wire together, focus on how you use words such as but and never and always. And as you do, you will automatically begin to be cautious and thoughtful and use these words in empowering ways.