Transcripts
1. Introduction: Hello everybody, welcome
to the new class. This class is a little bit different than previous classes because previously we were
talking about personality, we will talk and we were
talking about life coaching. And we were preparing
ourselves to be life coaches to others
or to ourselves. We were building our
self-confidence. We were trying to
manage our time and change our life to
into a better life. Now we're talking about something very
essential in our life. And I know that this is a big problem these
days because these days people are thinking
negatively all the time. We don't recognize it will
just feel like there's negative energy all around us. It's coming from inside and
also coming from outside. We can't control
the negative energy that is all negative thinking that is coming from
outside resources because we can control
the world around us, but we can control ourselves, we can control our
thinking, our brains. We can control the way
we think personally. So that's the main
idea of today's class. We're talking about
positive thinking. How you can change your life by changing the way you think, the way you look at things, the way you look at life. And turn it into a positive way. Before I start the class, before we get into
the main points of this process of
positive thinking, I need you to understand
something people always misunderstand the positive
and the difference between positive
thinking and happiness. People think that if I
started to think positively, I will be always happy. And that's not true. It's a confusion here between the two items, the two thoughts, because life is
not a happy place, life is not a very
perfect place. That is always good, always if I felt
about it positively. So everything's gonna be okay, everything's gonna be good and be happy all the time
because of course not. What if you lost someone
very close to you? Very lovable to you. What if you lost your job? What if you lost your money? What if you got sick? What if you faced big
circumstances in your life? Definitely you're
not gonna be happy because you have feelings, you're a human, you have
different kinds of feelings. And if you didn't process
all those kinds of feelings, you're not normal.
You're a human. You need to process every
single feeling that you face. Every single day. You face happiness, you face sadness, sorrow,
grief, disappointment. All those feelings are very normal and you
need to process them, you need to fill them. That doesn't mean that
you don't you don't think positively during
those feelings. But if you started to feel or to think
positively in your life, that doesn't mean that
everything's gonna be okay and you'll feel
happy all the time. So please stop the confusion between positive
thinking and happiness. Because when I start to
talk to people about positive thinking,
the first idea, the first thing that pop up their head is I'm going to be happy all the
time and that's not true. Nobody can be happy
all the time. But the difference
is if I faced bad feeling a bad situation,
a bad circumstances, I can think positively
about it and I can turn it to a different
situation, a different way. I can look at it differently. Okay. I'll process the feelings, but then I can work on it. I'm not going to fall down. I'm not going to fall
into depression. Whole know, I can just get
over it very, very fast. And not only fast, but I can heal
from it perfectly. That's the main idea
of positive thinking. If I started to talk to you today about positive thinking, how to change your
way of thinking and how to look at
things differently. Don't think that I'm telling you today
you're gonna be happy. I'm not talking to
you about happiness. I'm talking to you about
the way you think, the way you shift your thoughts. Okay, this is the main
idea of this class. Let's get into the
class and this is a very, very short class. I'm just giving you the
information briefly. I'm giving you the main points
about how to be positive, how to think positively
in your life, how to live in this
mood all the time. Stick with me into the
next lecture and you will find everything that you
need to do this shift.
2. Four steps to positive thinking: Okay, let's get started. Here. We're talking about how to
be positive in your life. How to think positively, have to look at things
in a positive way. All those words have
the same meaning. I want you to know
before we start that every change needs work, needs practice, and
also needs time. So when you finish this class, don't predict that the
minute you finish it, you're going to be positive. You're gonna be good. You're going to just do
every single point that we say in this class and
everything's gonna be okay. You need time, you
need practice, you need to work on yourself. You need to take your time to just shift your way of thinking. You spent your whole
life thinking in a particular way to change it, or to turn it into another way. You need also time to do this. I'm not saying that
you're going to take your lifetime to change, but you need some time because everything is a
habit in our life, needs time to change. If you want to change a
habit, you need time. And before I was talking
about changing habits and said he wanted to change
a habit in yourself. You need at least 21
days to change it. Then the new habit
will be your habit. You know what I mean? Time to take your time and be patient and be kind
to yourself if you didn't practice or if you didn't do one of those tabs
that we're talking about, if you didn't feel like
you're positive or thinking positively one
day, don't punish yourself. Don't be hard on yourself
and don't beat yourself up because it's okay.
It's okay. We're human. We can make things wrong
sometimes and then we can turn them into
right behavior later. Okay, So it's okay, it's
okay if we failed one time, two times, but
don't keep failing. Stand up and focus on
what you're doing. It's okay to take time, it's okay to fail. It's okay to take your your time and effort and everything to change
your way of thinking. Because if you did that, sometimes when we
start to practice something and we do it today
and today's very positive. And then we say that it's
okay, now we're perfect. I'm thinking positively all the time and then
the next day we're not because we didn't take
the time to change deeply, deeply from our brains. The way, the rules, everything. So that's what we need. We need to change or deep,
deep, deep thinking, deep brain to make it work spontaneously without
controlling it. You know what I mean? Okay, so let's get started. It's a very brief class,
as I said before. So very short, very
stick to the point. I'm giving you four points
now that you can follow. And if you did follow them in the long term,
I'm not saying today. Tomorrow, the day
after tomorrow, no. Take your time. Maybe one month, two months, whatever you take. Definitely you're
going to find change in your way of thinking, not in your life
because life will still has circumstances,
have crisis, has everything, but you're turning your thinking
into a better one, okay? So you've taken
everything perfectly. Point number one
is be realistic. That's very important actually. I put it in the first
place because it's very important for
you to be realistic. Be realistic in your life. Life is not always good. Life is not. Butterflies and
roses all the time. Because if you look
at social media will find everybody's happy, everybody's having a good time. Everybody is doing
the perfect things. Their houses, their looks, their their cars, everything
is good, their jobs, they have they have
the money that you have the power, they
have the happiness, the kids and the families, the friends and everything. Nobody has everything. Nobody had the perfect life. Life is not perfect
life isn't that good. And those people are always suffering from
something, okay? So they are not showing it. Also, you will suffer from a lot of things
because this is life, this is left so be realistic, don't get high
expectations in life. So if you have the high expectations in every
single thing in your life, and then what happens
in the real life doesn't meet those expectations that you put in the first place. You'll be disappointed.
Of course, it's not, it's not logical that you would think
positively of course, because you are,
your expectations. Don't meet the real life. So lower your expectations
a little bit and be realistic and put your feet
on the ground as we say, no, that every single day you will have something
bad will happen to you. If you did that. If you expected bad situations of crisis or circumstances
in your life, when they happen, It's okay. You're taking them. Good. You're taking things slowly. You're not overreacting,
you're not over. You don't feel that extreme feelings because your expectations
were never met. Be realistic and know that
even if you have a goal, as we talked before
about setting goals and be successful and so on. If you have a goal, be
realistic that this goal may take longer than you expect, it may not happen
as you expected. You may fail at that goal. So you need to change your plan. You need to change
your way of thinking. You need to change
the goal itself. It's not suitable for you. You sat, I'm a wrong
goal for yourself. So this is the main idea. Be realistic and put
your feet on the ground. Know that not everything will
go perfectly in your life. Number two is evaluate
every situation, right? If you have a situation that
is happening in your life, if someone is doing
something to you, if something happened in your job and your life and your family with your
friends or whatever. It doesn't deserve
all that fuss. Okay. Sometimes we
overreact to things, okay? When someone does
something to us and it's not that big a deal,
we don't let it go. We don't let things go. We just stop, make a fast, be aggravated, and
just make a very, very huge reaction to it. It doesn't matter. It just let it go. If it doesn't if it's not that big a
deal, just let it go. Don't stop on it
for a long time. Don't give it more
than it deserves. So evaluate everything, right. If acetylation happens to you, if something happened to you, if everything happened to you, just look at it and evaluate
it and say to yourself, does it deserve me to feel very bad or it's
okay or it can pass, or I can think about it later. I can work on it. When I'm relaxed. It's not that big a deal. Think about it, right? Don't overreact. Don't get so mad about something that doesn't
deserve that fast. So evaluate everything that
happens to you, right? Number three, switch the way of thinking from
negative to positive. I know if I said that, you will say, How do I do
this? Let's talk about this. I'm giving you a practice. I'm giving you exercise
for you to do. Sometimes when we wake
up in the morning, we just say today is a
Band-Aid. I don't know. I feel so bad and I feel that
that day is not going good. Right? Every single time, every single moment that you
have a bad thought. Grab a piece of paper and write down the opposite of this salt. What does it mean? I'm saying today I'm not
feeling good in the morning. Okay. I'll grab a piece of
paper and write down. Today. I feel very good, right? The opposite of this salt in a paper and read it out loud. And maybe you can
stick it in front of your eyes to see it all the day. Shift your thoughts from
negative to positive. First, you will do it. When you're aware of it. You will do it and you will take hard work to do it
because you are trying to notice and focus on your thoughts and
then you're trying to turn them into
positive ones and so on. So you're making
effort to do this. But if you kept doing
this every single day, every single time you face a negative thought and negative feelings and
negative attitude. You will do this
lately spontaneously. You're not thinking about it. It's just an automatic process that is happening in your brain. Your brain automatically
will shift your negative thoughts
into positive thoughts without you recognizing it. Okay, so work on that
process right now. If you are now thinking about
a very negative thought, very negative thing that
popped up in your head. Turn it into a positive one and write it down in
front of your eyes. Read it out loud or
stick it in front of your eyes and just
keep focusing on it. And believe me, what we think about is what
is happening to us. If you thought, if you
are always thinking, I'm so tired today, I'm so tired today. I'm so tired that
you will feel tired. But if you sold them
the opposite way, I'm a little tired but I'm okay. I can I'm gonna be good. I'm good. I'm gonna be better. I can do this, I can move, I can
get things done. Believe me, believe me, you will feel the
difference in your health, difference in your energy, the difference in your thinking. So our brain is the
most important organ or the most important
member in this process. Real brain. If you fed your brain
with negative thoughts, negative feelings,
negative attitudes. He will give you those things. You asked for them,
you get them. But if you fed your brain with all those
positive thoughts, positive attitudes,
and shifted all the negative into
a positive ones. Believe me, you'll
feel the difference. He will give you what you want. He will give you
what you asked for. So work on your brain. Your brain is the
most important thing that you need to work on. Work on your brain, shift your thoughts from
negative to positive. The last point is change
your body position. Change your body position. Physically, you buddy will have energy around
us, around it. So now I'm sitting. I had a bad thought or
I have I am very angry or I'm very aggravated and
I'm sitting in this position. To change this feeling, I need to change the
position of my buddy. Why? Our bodies have energy okay. Around it. So if I stayed in the same
position that my body was in when I practiced all
when I faced that situation, when I felt that feeling
when I had that thought, my buddy is still experiencing
the same feeling. I'm in the same energy area. I need to change it to get into another energy area to
change this negative energy, change your body position. I don't know if
you get it or not, but if you try it, do this as a practice. If you feel aggravated, mad, sad, negative, tired, whatever you're feeling is why you are in a
certain position. Change that position right away. Move you buddy. If you're
sitting, you can lay down. If you're laying down, you can get your body moving
and turn into another room, turn into another chair, turn into another place, leave that place and go. Change your body
position without saying anything,
without doing anything, without reacting to anything
and see the difference. You'll feel that all the
negative energy has changed because you changed
the energy area about your buddy
that your body was experiencing in this
particular situation. Okay, practice this. If you feel a negative
thought right now, change your party
position. Change it. You're laying down,
sit down in a chair. You're just in that
room, change the room. Whatever you do, just change your physical position and
you will feel the difference. Okay? Practice those points though. Very, very simple. Four points. Practice those
points now and tell me command in the
comments section, tell me about your experience. How did you practice
those those things and what did you feel
when you did? Okay. Tell me your your experiences
in this in these points. Tell me what you
failed. Tell me how did they help you talk to me. I will tell you if you're
doing something wrong, if you're doing it right. If you need to improve it, if you need to do anything else, just talk to me about your
practice to these points. Thank you so much. I wish you the best, best life and the positive
live positive thinking, healthy life and everything. Thank you so much and see
you in the next class.
Sarah Omar, Psychotherapist
