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1. Introduction to self-discipline: Hello everybody, welcome
to the new class. This class is another part in being successful and
achieving our goals, and getting to our passion and getting things done in managing our time,
managing our life. It's another part this series because when I talk to people, I found that the main problem that they're
facing while they're trying to achieve
their dreams or goals or getting things done
around their life. Their biggest problem
was self-discipline. They were intended to
achieve their goals. They were planning their goals. They were doing
everything right, but they don't have
the self-discipline, the self-control that
can lead them to start actually doing the job and working on their
goals and dreams. So today's class is mainly
about self discipline. Because in order to achieve
our goals and dreams and get the plans that
we planned before done. We have to have the
control on ourselves to start and to keep
moving and to keep working on those goals
and on those tasks, those dreams, those changes that we want to
make in our life. Today's class is about
self-discipline. So what we're going to learn
about self discipline. Before I start to
tell you what's in today's class, I wanted, I want you to know that
self-discipline is the bridge from setting your goals
to achieve than them. Okay? So you may, you may be took the first step
and set your goals. And if you don't know
how to set your goals, you can get back to a previous
class I made before on how to set your goals and how to be successful
in your life. You did that, you
set your goals, you plan for them. Now we are getting into action. Self-discipline is
the bridge between the two steps between setting
goals and achieving them. Self-discipline makes you in
control of your own life. Even if the, if those goals
are not work-related, It's about control on your life. And how is that? If you're trying to do
something in yourself, maybe personally you're
trying to lose weight. You're trying to be happier. You are trying to be calmer. You're trying to be to
not lose temper easily. You're trying to be patient. You're trying whatever you're
trying to do in your life. Self-discipline gives
you the control to do everything you want. Because if I'm e.g. if I'm trying to lose weight. Okay. So okay. I intended to lose weight. And I said that in
order to lose weight, I need to go to the gym or
workout data on a daily basis. I need to control to know a certain diet and a healthy diet and to
change malnutrition to do. I intended to do this and I
know exactly how to do it, but I didn't start. So self-discipline is the step. You need to control your life. You can control your feelings, you can control your intentions. You can control yourself
to do whatever you want. That's what we are trying
to do in this class. We're trying to teach
ourselves how to control ourselves in order to
get to what we want. Whatever that goal,
whatever that wish, whatever that dream you have. You can do it if you
started by controlling yourself and by
pushing yourself to do it by self-disciplined. So what we're going to
learn in this class, the first thing we're going
to learn in this class is the benefits of
self-discipline because you have to know why you need to discipline yourself
and control yourself. We will find the benefits
of it because if you knew exactly how
does it benefit you, you can stick to it
and you can start working on it in a second
lecture in this class, we are going to learn
the seven ways as you, as you read in the title, the seven ways you need
to self-discipline. They are so, so
easy, so practical, and I'm not doing it
as a theoretical class or something and giving
you points that you can't use in your
own life nodes. They are very practical. You can use them easily if you just got the intention to start disciplining yourself to get your goals and wishes
and dreams achieved. Let's get started in this class, and let's get started
in achieving our goals.
2. Benefits of self-discipline: Okay, my friends,
at the beginning before we start to know
the ways that we need to take or we need to do to discipline
ourselves to achieve our dreams are so
we have to know why we need to discipline
ourselves at the first place. Why we need to get that method
and take it in our life. The benefits of self-discipline, they are for benefits. This, this lecture is very
brief and I'm just getting, I'm just wanting you to know that why it's very important, why it can help,
it can help you. Self-discipline can
decrease and exciting. And how's that? If I have a goal that
I need to get done, that I need to achieve, that I need to, to reach. I am anxious about it because
I'm thinking about it. I'm afraid that
I'm going to fail. I'm afraid that I can't do it. I'm afraid to start and so on. Self-discipline can help you decrease that an anxiety
because it will help you get to what you want in the way that is releasing
you from this and anxiety. It decreases your anxiety
in achieving your goals. It also will give you the
success in achieving goals. Because I have goals,
I have dreams, I have tasks and targets in
my life that I need to do. But I'm not moving forward
those goals, okay? I'm not doing anything. Self-discipline can
control your way. To achieve those goals, can make you success. Setting goals and planning
for them or not enough. You have, you want
to achieve goals, you have to walk for them, you have to work for them, you have to keep going to them. Self-discipline is that way to achieving your goals and
keep walking towards them. It also gives you
the happy feeling. It makes you feel happier. Why? When you discipline yourself? So you'll find that you are
already achieving goals, you're already getting
there step-by-step, of course, you feeling happier. Think about it. You have a big goal that you
want to achieve. Let's take an example. As I said in the introduction, you want to lose weight, okay? So you know the plan, you have a goal, you
want to lose weight. You plan for this, you need to work out on a
daily basis and pieces. You need to change your diet. You need to eat healthy. You need to know more about you, the nutritions that you
are taken and so on. Okay. You know, everything
and you plan for everything but you
didn't do anything, you did it work out, you didn't eat well, you didn't change your way
of our change your diet. So you're not losing weight. Okay. So if I started to discipline myself and
started to control myself to start to work out every single day for
10 min, for 15 min. And then I started
to change my diet. I started to think about
the food that I'm eating. I'm started to change it. Then I started to
notice some results. Okay. I started to notice
a change in my body, a change in my shape, a change in my health. How will that make you feel? Of course, it's going to
make you feel better. It's going to make you feel
happier when you are seeing the results to the goal
that you want to reach. So self-discipline can
make you feel happier in a way of being successful
and achieving what you want. It also will make you
become more resilient. Because now I can
do whatever I want. Now, I can reach my goals. Now, I can set a
target and do it. So next time, when I'm
setting another goal, when I'm setting another
target in front of my eyes, I trust myself that
I can do it and I will do it because
I can control myself. And I have self-discipline. I can reach whatever I want. So those are the
benefits of your view. Disciplining yourself. You make, you feel better, you feel happier, you feel be resilient and get to
what you want easily. You will not feel anxious, you will feel better,
you will success. It's a huge change in your
personality and in your life. Let's get to the seven
ways that you need to do in order to have
a self-discipline.
3. The 7 ways to self-discipline: Okay, Let's get into action. As I said before, those seven ways
or show practical. So sample, not theoretical. You're not gonna get
some points that you can read in a book
and you can just read them today and forget
about them tomorrow? No, they're practical
that you can do them on a daily basis. Seven ways to self discipline. It's so easy. Let's get started and let's
get things done. Retina number one is know your
weaknesses and strengths. Before you start to do anything, you have to know what I am weak at and what I am strong at. Because that way you can define your way,
define your plan. I am weak at that point. I can't do this. I struggle when I do this. Let's take the same
example of losing weight. I don't like to work
out every single day. It's heavy on me. I don't like it. You can change. This is your weakness. I don't like working out. You can work on that by, by how you can just start by only 10 min workout or you can choose the
workout that you like. Maybe you can just
go for a walk. You don't like to exercise, you don't like to do certain
exercises every single day, so you can do them
once a week and the rest of the week you
can go for a long walk. And that's, it's interesting
and enjoy for enjoyable. And you can enjoy that thing and you can do it easily and it's
also working out. So you can substitute the
thing that you're weak at with something that you are strong acids and the same
thing with your strength. You can find the things that
you are strong at that you can do them that
you can, you know, that you're perfect Ted, and you can embrace
them and work on them and use them
to achieve your goal. Okay, so first, know your weaknesses and strengths in order to get to what you want. The second thing is
removed temptations, remove distractions, remove everything that is stopping you from what you want. Because if you kept the
temptations are all around you or the distractions
all, all around you. You're not gonna do anything. You're not going to move. You're not going to take a single step to your
target, to your goal. Okay? You're losing weight. You want to change
your diet, okay? Don't go and buy junk food
or groceries that are not useful for you and
put them in the house and then try to control
yourself to not eat them. This is a very huge
temptation for you. Maybe you can't control it. Okay? So just get rid of those things and don't
put them in front of your eyes until you just
strengthen your intention. And even if you see
something you don't reach for it because you're there, you get the results
that you want. So you're not going to lose
everything you did before. If you're starting and you
still reaching your goal, don't put the temptations in front of your eyes and then say, I can't do it. No. Get rid of the temptations, get rid of the distractions, get rid of everything
that is stopping you from reaching your goal. Number three is set clear goals. Set clear goals
because if you are, goals are not clear
for you or not obvious or not
organized and planned. You're not gonna, you're
not gonna achieve them. You don't, you're confused. Okay? And it's very complicated
if you're confused too, you don't know what
to do and when to do. Is this good for you? And what exactly do you need? What exactly are you going for? So if you, if you don't
know how to set goals, how to make your goals obvious, and how to plan for them. You can get back, as I said
to a previous class that I made about setting goals and
how exactly you do them. You will find the details
about setting your goals and making them obvious
and planning for them. Go look, look for it. You will find that
in a previous class and it's very helpful for you. So use those things. You use those things
that we talked about in the previous class
on setting your goals. So make them clear, make them obvious for you. So you know exactly
what you're going for. You're not confused
about your goals. Number four is practice, self-discipline
every single day. Every single day. Okay. Don't do it today
and then tomorrow. No. Okay. I'll leave it and then I'll start from tomorrow. Again. It's not a good thing. Plan. Have a plan and put it in
your daily to-do list. I'm trying to lose weight, so I'm not going to say. The AI today, I'm going to control myself and I'm
going to eat well, I'm going to work out. And then tomorrow I
wake up in the morning. No, I'm not gonna do this today. I I don't feel like it. I'll start again from tomorrow. No. You're losing your focus, you're losing your intention. You lose in your plan, you're losing your goal. Practice, self-discipline
every single day and make it in your
daily to-do list. Today, I am working out for 10 min or I'm
going for a walk for 30 min every single
day I'm doing this. If you plan for this
every single day, I am going to do this. Intended to do this,
take the decision. Don't stop on a daily basis. Don't stop. Okay. Make it a daily habit. And then you will you will. No, you're not going to
start over every single day. You're not going to start over again and again and again. No. You are already walking
in on your way. Number five is take
it easy. Okay. Don't put a lot of
pressure on yourself. Some people when
they are starting to achieve their goals, are starting to
reach their goals. They take it so
hard on themselves. It's heavy. When you feel that goal
is heavy on your heart, you're not going to
continue to reach it because it's something
that you don't enjoy. Make your goals, make your
achievement enjoyable. Love it. Enjoy it, make it interesting. Don't make it heavy
on your heart. So take it easy on
yourself. Make it a habit. It's something that I do every
single day and I enjoy it. Maybe it's a little bit hard. Maybe it hurts a little bit. Maybe if you're losing weight. Okay. It hurts me a little bit to work out for ten, 15 min. My body aches, but okay. I'm reaching my goal. It's okay. It's a habit now that my, my, my body is going
to be healthier, my shape is going to be better. And when I continue doing this, I'm not going to feel the pain anymore because
my body will get used to. I do not try to talk
to yourself like this. Try to just talk to your
brain and talk to yourself as a separate person and try to convince them about the
things that you're doing. Convince them about
your ideas and notions, and make it easy on
him, on yourself. Okay. It's a habit, It's a daily habit
for you and try to achieve small steps
every single day, day and then add
up more gradually. Because if you started by big, huge steps, you are
going to stop my friend. Trust me, you're going to stop. You're not going to continue
because I'm losing weight. We are taking that example with, with us during the whole
class, I'm losing weight. So I said from tomorrow
I will start to work out heavy exercises for 30
min every single day. And I will cut off anything from my guide
that is not healthy. I will eat very,
very small meals. You know, it's very hard, It's very hard plan. So you will do it the first day because you have that power, that enthusiasm that,
you know, that, you know that power
that is leading us at the beginning to reach
what we want, okay, for one day, two days, three days, one week, and then you're tired, you're not going to continue. Okay. You took it very heavy on yourself
at the first place. So don't do this to yourself. No. Make it gradually. The first day, I'm going
to work out for 10 min, only 10 min, only simple 10 min. And I will try to
reduce the amount of the meals that I'm taking are the portions that I'm
taking every single day. And after two to three
days, gradually, I'm going to increase the time their workout every single day. So it's not 10 min, 15 min. And I'm trying to substitute my ingredients to healthier
ones gradually, and so on. Don't try to, don't try to put a lot on your plate at first because you're
not going to continue, you will get exhausted and
you will stop eventually. Number six is trust yourself. As I said in a number
five, Take it easy. Talk to yourself. And as I said, talk to yourself as
a separate person. It's the same thing
at that point. Talk to yourself as
a separate person and tell yourself
that I trust you. I trust that you can do it. I trust that I can do it. I can achieve that goal. I can lose weight. It's easy. It's easy. Everybody losing weight. Why don't I why can't I do this? It's easy for me working out. It's okay. I can do it. Maybe it's hurtful
at the at the beginning. Maybe it's a little
heavy, but I can do it. Okay. Talk to yourself,
believe that you can do it and get rid of
any concepts in your subconscious that are stopping you from
getting where you want. Your subconscious will
start to fight you. You're weak. You can't do this. You can't go on. You can't eat that salad, e.g. it's not delicious. Look at this salad and look
at that burger sandwich. Of course the burgers and
sandwiches hope it as better. But try to stop those notions. Stop those concepts. Top those ideas and
things that are, that are trying to stop you
from getting where you want, trust that you can do it. Yes. I can eat that
cell and it's okay. Maybe now I'm not
enjoying it and it doesn't taste
the best for me. But then I'll get
used to it and I will try to taste the ingredients
and enjoyed them. Try to talk to
yourself like this. Look at this walk
that I'm taken today. While I'm walking, I know it's heavy to get moving
for a long time. I know maybe my legs
will hurt me later. But while I'm walking, I can take a look at the nature. I can look at the trees, I can breathe, I
can feel better. I can straighten my back bone and B and have a better
posture to my body. I can feel burning calories in my body while I'm walking
and that's a good thing. Talk to yourself like this. Try to stop your subconscious from stopping you
to reach your goal. Trust yourself. You can do it. Human being can do everything, every thing, if just he
intended to do them. So know that you
can do anything. You're powerful and you're strong to do whatever you want. The last point,
forgive yourself. Forgive yourself. Sometimes you will fall, sometimes you will stop. Sometimes you will be desperate. If you don't see the
results that you want. Forgive yourself. It's okay. It's okay. We all do it. We all do it. We all stop sometimes and
then came back to it. But if you stopped once and
you started to think now, another kind of person. Okay. I didn't
stick to the plan. I didn't stick to the
goal that I want it, so I'm not good enough for
this or I'm not gonna do it. I'm weak and I can't do that. Look at all the
negative thoughts than negative sentences, the negative words that
you told yourself that can stop you and that is related
to the previous point. You keep telling yourself
negative thoughts. Those negative thoughts
are getting into your subconscious and will
turn into actions. Stop them from
turning into actions, and just forgive yourself. It's okay today. I didn't do it right. Today is not the
end of the world. Today is just the date. Tomorrow is another day. Tomorrow we can keep
going tomorrow. We can do get back to our plan. Okay? Failure is expected. It's expected. You're not a robot. You're not something that, you're not something that doesn't fail. You're
not a machine. You are human, you fail, you get back, you
fail, you get back. The point is to get back, not stop on your failure. Those are the seven wastes. Easy, easy, easy, easy ways. Just tart on them. From today, not from
tomorrow. From today. Set your goals, set a plan, know exactly what you want. Do the planet, put
it in front of your eyes and practice
self-discipline. You will do anything. You can conquer the world, you can do it. Let me know how did everything or did these ways
worked for you? Thank you so much. See you next class.
Sarah Omar, Psychotherapist/ life coach
