Improving Your Mindset and Productivity with Effective Positive Thinking
Mbuso Mabuza, Lifestyle, Wellbeing, Productivity
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Introduction
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Project
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Lesson 1: Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts
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Lesson 2: The art of positive thinking
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Lesson 3: Be more productive by thinking positive
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Lesson 4: Refocus your thoughts and change your life
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Lesson 5: Exercises that reinforce positive thinking – Part 1
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Lesson 6: Exercises that reinforce positive thinking - Part 2
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Lesson 7: Using visualizations and affirmations to improve positive thinking skills
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Lesson 8: How to set positive thinking goals
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Lesson 9: How finding a mentor can help with positive thinking goals
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Conclusion
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If you really think about it, you would agree with the theory that positive thinking can make life a lot better for you. When you look at the events of your life as positive, you are naturally going to look and feel happier. You will be better equipped to throw off stressful occurrences, and every aspect of your life will go better for you. Of course, even if you make a strong effort to be positive, you are going to have days when nothing seems to go right for you. Things will happen in your life that you will have to make a huge effort to accept with aplomb.
In this class you will learn about the following:
- Replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts
- The art of positive thinking
- Being more productive by thinking positive
- Refocusing your thoughts and changing your life
- Exercises that reinforce positive thinking
- Using visualizations and affirmations to improve positive thinking skills
- How to set positive thinking goals
- How finding a mentor can help with positive thinking goals
Lesson 1: Replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts
If you sail through life believing that good things are going to happen to you, it can make a big difference in the outcome. The same is true for people who are trudging through life with a constant negative attitude. They expect bad things are going to happen in their world, and nine times out of ten, they do.
The difference in these two ways of thinking makes a powerful statement to our brains. It is a cumulative statement in that the effect builds up the longer it is experienced. Having a negative attitude can spill over into other aspects of your life, and spawn bad habits that can be detrimental to your health and to your career.
Your personal relationships can also be affected by a negative attitude. Can you recall the last time you had a conversation with someone who sports a negative attitude? It is probable that you felt a bit negative when the conversation was over, no matter how chipper you may have felt before it began.
Imagine how glorious life would be if you could train yourself to never have another negative thought! Positive thinking can affect the people around you almost as much as it can help you. Remember the little jolt of goodwill you felt when a stranger was kind to you? Would you not rather make people feel good about themselves and the world, rather than negative?
Lesson 2: The art of positive thinking is not lost
When you are in a bad mood, it is likely that you are quick to blame something or someone for your sullen disposition. If you would admit the truth to yourself, you would see that you and you alone are responsible for your moods. Not the weather, not the argument with your spouse or partner, and not the fact that those pants you just bought last month would not even come close to fastening this morning!
You can change and improve your life so much by training your mind to think positively instead of negatively. No longer will the small annoyances in life make you grouchy, and the big problems will become much easier for you to handle with positive thinking.
Lesson 3: Being more productive by thinking positive
Positive thinking means that you will always look on the bright side of things, and always see the silver lining in the clouds of life! Instead of fretting about all the things that could go wrong, you spend your time thinking of all the things that are going to go right for you. This type of thinking will bring positive benefits to you. Some of the most important benefits are the lack of job stress you will feel.
Stress can make us feel both threatened and overwhelmed, and neither of these are going to help you to get ahead in your career. If you are a career professional, the demands on your time at work are more than likely even greater. You feel stretched in all directions, with no time for yourself. This makes you tend to judge yourself quite harshly when you are unable to be three people at once, and make everything go just the way you want it. You feel as if nothing you do turns out well, and that everyone is judging you harshly because of it.
By feeling this way, you are caught up in a vicious circle! Because you are upset with yourself, you tend to get even less done at work, or at home. That causes you even more stress, and the circle just keeps rolling along while you feel worse and worse.
Imagine how much better things would go for you if you were a positive thinker, and could say to yourself that you were sure you would be able to handle anything that came your way. It would not matter if it were job related, or had something to do with your family.
The fact that you had faith in your abilities would be enough to make your level of stress almost non-existent. Remember that negative thinking automatically sets you up for failure, whereas positive thinking allows you to get more done and meet the demands that life places in front of you.
Lesson 4: Refocusing your thoughts and changing your life
When you study your life through this new perspective, seeing the world through rose colored glasses seems to be the thing to do. At this point, you may be asking, how you can achieve this balanced state? Be aware that no one can manage to achieve Nirvana and never leave this blissful tranquility!
It takes practice to eliminate negative thoughts from your life, and there will be times when you will try and fail to do so. However, as you struggle to always think positive, you will find that it becomes easier as time goes by. The old saying ‘Practice makes perfect’ does fit in well with the art of positive thinking!
How do you practice thinking in a more positive manner? Start out by accepting the fact that you are not perfect. No one can make an enormous change like this overnight! All you can do is take it one day at a time.
For starters, believe in yourself! If too many negative thoughts continue to force themselves into your mind, sit back and take a deep breath. Ask yourself what is happening on this particular day that is causing you to have so many negative thoughts. When you are able to pinpoint the reason, you can start to do what needs to be done in order to make you feel more positive about the situation.
One way for you to feel more positive is to boost your confidence in yourself by affirming yourself. Affirming the things you want to happen can make you see things in a more positive light.
Suppose you have a report that is due on your supervisor’s desk at the end of the day, and you honestly have no idea how you are going to be able to finish it. A self-affirmation that goes something like this could give you the confidence you need in order to get your work done on time: ‘I know I can do this report and turn it in on time.’ ‘I am good at this sort of thing, and I am sure I can do a good job.’
You might be surprised at just how effective this can be. An old song has lyrics that urge the listener to “accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative’. That is exactly what you must do. The more you think in a positive manner, the more you will get the kind of results you need in order to successfully change your life for the better.
Lesson 5: Exercises that reinforce positive thinking – Part 1
In order to reap the personal and professional benefits of positive thinking, you must first train your mind to think positively automatically – without you consciously having to decide to “be positive”. To do this you will need to take certain steps. First, you will need to make a conscious decision to pursue positive thinking and then commit wholeheartedly to realizing that goal. In order for positive thinking to have an impact on your life you will also need to believe in its benefits. And, since there will be setbacks throughout your journey, you will need the power of your convictions to help keep you on track.
Once you have committed to learning the skills of positive thinking, you will need to use certain exercises to teach yourself the methods and to reinforce the affirmative thoughts in your mind. The following is a list of ways to learn and practice the art of positive thinking.
Review self-talk: The first step to learning positive thinking skills is to review the type of thinking you are currently engaging in now. Think back to the last bad day that you had. How did you react? What types of things were you saying to yourself, both internally and out loud? What feelings did you have immediately about the situation? What feelings did you take away from the situation? How do you feel about the situation now?
The answers to the above questions will give you a pretty good idea of what type of self-talk you usually engage in. For example, did you beat yourself up about the problem? Did your mind search for ways in which the problem was ultimately your fault? Did you blame the incident on bad luck?
In order to visualize the difference between positive self-talk and negative self-talk, let’s compare the two habits using the same situation as highlighted in the following case studies:
Case study 1:
Let us assume that Nico has just received his final year exam results from the local university. The results indicate that Nico has flunked two of the major subjects, and, as such, he cannot qualify to be awarded the degree he was studying towards.
Negative self-talk: In this case, you will read some things that Nico said or thought to himself upon receiving the exam results.
“I am so stupid to fail in my final year.”
“I knew that the lecturer hated me.”
“It will be a waste of time to repeat the year because I will still fail.”
“It is better to escape to another town because I will be the laughing-stock here.”
Positive self-talk: Here, you will read some affirmative things that Nico thought or said out loud to himself.
“I am definitely going to repeat the year because I need my degree.”
“I am going to get the best marks this time.”
“I had not prepared well for the failed exams.”
“I want to be more prepared for exams and to do my best next time.”
Case study 2:
Let us assume that Vusi, has been applying for jobs for the past two years but he never gets any job offers even if he has been invited to a couple of job interviews. Today, Vusi has just been invited to another job interview.
Negative self-talk: In this case, you will read some things that Vusi said or thought to himself upon receiving the latest invitation for a job interview.
“I am going to decline the invitation for job interview.”
“I have already attended so many interviews, but I do not get any job offers.”
“I do not want to subject myself to further disappointment.”
“I must just come to terms with the fact that I am worthless and unemployable.”
Positive self-talk: Here, you will read some affirmative things that Vusi thought or said out loud to himself.
“I am definitely going to this job interview and am more than motivated.”
“The previous job interviews that I have been to have prepared me well for this one.”
“This is the best job that has been prepared for me.”
“I am not going to give up, whatever the outcome of this interview.”
Case study 3:
Let us assume that Jenny, got married two years ago, and the wedding was highly regarded by almost all those who had attend it. A week later, when she and her husband watched the video recording of the wedding day, Jenny started noticing a number of things which she did not like about the wedding day.
Negative self-talk: In this case, you will read some things that Jenny said or thought to herself upon watching the video recording of her wedding, and which she still says two years later.
“The décor was horrible.”
“I should have hired the best décor company.”
“The music band did not play the music I wanted.”
“I knew my wedding was going to be a disaster.”
“I feel embarrassed.”
“Why did I marry this guy?”
“I hate my husband.”
“I blame my husband for everything that went wrong about the wedding.”
“I married the wrong person.”
“Had I married a rich guy my wedding was going to be perfect.”
“Each time I think about my wedding, I feel depressed even long after.”
Positive self-talk: Here, you will read some affirmative things that Jenny thought or said out loud to herself.
“While I did forget to pay attention to the details during the preparations, I have learned a valuable lesson which has equipped me to be an excellent wedding planner and to grow my events management business.”
“Luckily, it was only minor things that did not go according to plan.”
“Every wedding has its pitfalls. It was my perfect wedding with its imperfections.”
“The wedding day is gone, now I should cherish the journey of marriage.”
Case study 4:
Let us assume that Tsandzeka, a small enterprise entrepreneur, started an online business to sell her handmade shoes, handbags and dresses. Once the business began to grow, she hired two people to sew some of the shoes, bags and dresses for her. Recently, some of the shoes and dresses were returned due to defects.
Negative self-talk: In this example, you will read some things that Tsandzeka said or thought to herself upon receiving the returned shoes and dresses.
“I should have looked the shoes and dresses over more carefully. I knew I would mess this up.”
“Why did I think I would ever be able to succeed in this business?”
“This is the end, now no one will want to buy these shoes and dresses.”
“Everyone said I couldn’t make it and they were right.”
“I am such an idiot. How could I make a mistake like this?”
“If it wasn’t for bad luck, I wouldn’t have any luck at all.”
“Why am I so stupid?”
Positive self-talk: Here, you will read some affirmative things that Tsandzeka thought or said out loud to herself.
“Well, of course, this is a setback, but it will give me the opportunity to sharpen my customer service skills.”
“While I did forget to pay attention to the details for a moment, I have learned a valuable lesson.”
“Luckily, it was only six shoes and two dresses, and the problem was caught before it was serious.”
“Every business has its pitfalls. I am going to use this one to help me do better next time.”
Lesson 6: Being more productive by thinking positive – Part 2
As you can see from the examples, how we choose to see a situation can make all the difference in its outcome. When our mind talks, our attitude listens and responds. Because of this correlation, we have the power to literally “talk” ourselves into or out of success and satisfaction.
When we engage in negative self-talk we convince ourselves that our efforts are futile. This belief leads to feelings of worthlessness and failure. These feelings make it easier for us to fall victim to even more negative thoughts, which eventually snowball into feelings of despair and defeat.
However, when we engage in positive self-talk, we convince our minds and ourselves that all things are possible. By focusing on the positive we are able to believe in and realize a desirable outcome. If you truly believe that you can turn a negative situation into a positive asset, then you will. Through repeated positive self-talk you will see any possible affirmative outcome as a fact of life not as an impossible dream.
To begin changing our self-talk from the negative to the positive, we must first look to the truth of the situation. When you find yourself faced with a problem, begin your thought process with a review of the facts. This initial review should not include any feelings or predictions. To help with this process, ask yourself the following questions.
What was the actual, physical cause of this problem? In Tsandzeka’s case, the physical cause of the problem was not her lack of attention to detail; rather, it was a mistake in the construction of the shoes and dresses.
What factual events lead up to the problem? Again, using Tsandzeka’s case, the actual event could have been miscommunication in the sewing instructions, a misunderstanding of the process on the part of her employees or an oversight by her employees. In any case, the event was unintentional and in no way a reflection of Tsandzeka’s overall performance or business success.
How bad is the situation, really? While a situation may seem overwhelming at first, rational thought usually leads to the realization that the problem is not as bad as it seems. Use this question to help you brainstorm some possible outcomes, both good and bad, which could realistically stem from the problem. In Tsandzeka’s case, her first thought was that everyone would stop purchasing her shoes and dresses. Rationally, however, Tsandzeka could focus on the number of currently satisfied customers, the small number of unsatisfied customers and the knowledge that she still had the opportunity to make the situation right and win over the upset customers with exceptional customer service.
Once you have determined the facts of the situation, you need to review your feelings about the situation and determine the root of those feelings. To help sort your feelings out, ask yourself the following questions.
What part of the situation has upset you the most? Many times, the actual problem is not the source of a person’s negative feelings; instead it is how the problem makes them feel about themselves. In Tsandzeka’s case, the defect in the handbags wasn’t the real problem. The real problem was that the defect caused Tsandzeka’s biggest fear to seem substantiated. Upon deeper examination, Tsandzeka realized that the problem with the shoes and dresses brought out her feelings of insecurity. The moment that she was made aware of the problem she began to focus on her perceived lack of business skills.
Are your feelings based on the reality of the situation or on how you believe the situation to be? This is an important question to ask yourself, in that it will help you differentiate between fact and fiction. Is this problem truly a representation of who you are as a person and professional? Or, are you over-dramatizing the situation and placing unrealistic expectations on the subject at hand?
How have you handled feelings such as these in the past? In other words, are you truly reacting only to the present situation or are you falling back on old feelings and insecurities and letting these feelings cloud your judgment?
If this situation were happening to a colleague or friend of yours, how would you view the situation? Sometimes it helps to step away from a problem in order to view it more objectively.
Now that you have determined the reasons behind your self-talk habits, you can use that knowledge to shape new positive self-talk habits.
Practice positive self-talk: In order to turn your thinking around, you will need to consciously practice positive thinking. An excellent tool for this is the positive thinking game. In this game you will be required to state a positive outcome in response to a negative scenario. The following are a few examples to get you started. Each example contains a negative scenario and a possible positive response. Once you understand the technique, you will be able to create an endless supply of your own scenarios.
The negative circumstance is that I lost my job during the COVID-19 pandemic, however the positive circumstance is that I now have more time to explore viable business ventures.
The negative circumstance is that my book is not selling very well, however the positive circumstance is that I can now devote my expertise to improving its marketing.
The negative circumstance is that I failed my exams, however, the positive circumstance is that this COVID-19 lockdown period will give me the opportunity to pay more attention to my schoolwork.
Make a list of the positives in your life: Once you are able to determine the positive in any given situation, you are ready to create a tangible reference list. Take a moment to jot down all the positives in your life. Include such things as your health, your family, your previous education and training, any goals that you have realized, your personal and professional accomplishments, and the good points of your current business. List everything that you have to be thankful for or that you are happy about. List just as many small things as big things. You will want this list to be as complete as possible as you will be using it daily to keep your positive thinking training on track.
As the days and weeks go by, take the time to add new things to your list as they happen or as they occur to you. Better yet, add to the list each night before you go to bed in order to end each day on a high note and prepare yourself for the start of the next day in a positive state of mind.
Make a positive to-do list: Every morning, before you begin your day, make a positive to-do list that accentuates your goals for the day. For example, if you need to make a call to a client, do not simply write “call client” on your list. Instead, write the task in a positive manner, such as “call Mr. Stanton and close the deal”.
By writing out the task in an affirmative manner with a concrete positive outcome attached, your brain will be influenced to think of the task as completed and positive instead of as pending and open for failure.
You can also use the wording of each task to promote action. By being specific in your terms, you can turn a vague objective like “rework sales letter” into an action-orientated goal such as “rewrite the second paragraph of the sales letter to include two new benefits and change the deadline for membership to promote immediate ordering”.
The goal of this type of to-do list is to positively influence your attitude and outlook for the day while strengthening your belief in desirable outcomes in order to keep motivation and focus high.
Although, it may seem silly, be sure to apply this same technique to your personal to-do list. Not only will this habit give you plenty of opportunities to practice your positive thinking skills, but it will also help you keep your energy and positive attitude up while you complete the necessary and sometimes mundane tasks of everyday life.
Take care of yourself both physically and mentally: In order to retain a positive outlook in life you need to feel good about yourself, both inside and out. In order to feel good about yourself you need to take care of yourself.
To meet this goal, it is usually easier to start with the physical aspects. If you don’t already exercise daily, begin now. If you often skip breakfast, begin making it an integral part of your day. If you need a haircut, get one! Every step you take to improve your life or fix your self-perceived flaws will help build your self-confidence. Then, once your self-confidence is boosted, your positive thinking skills can flourish.
For internal change, begin by looking at your attitudes about yourself. Do you feel as though you need to learn more about a certain topic, such as internet marketing? If so, take a class or read a book about the topic. By increasing your knowledge, you will decrease the severity of any insecurities that you may be harboring.
Do you have certain goals that you had planned to accomplish by this time in your life? The act of harboring unfinished business and unrealized dreams has a tendency to make us feel bad about ourselves. Start today with a small step toward your goal and commit to following through on the project. Just by beginning the process, you will immediately feel better about the situation and once you have attained the goal, your self-confidence will skyrocket.
Do you feel as though you never have enough time to accomplish your goals? Start by re-evaluating your time. First, delete time-wasting tasks from your daily schedule, and then carve out periods for finishing tasks. When rewriting your schedule, make sure to include time for relaxation and fun. Without downtime, your creative thoughts are unable to flourish.
The point of all these exercises, both the positive thinking exercises and the self-improvement steps, is to put yourself in the correct frame of mind to accept a positive point of view. Through continued use of these exercises, you will eventually train your brain to think positively, automatically.
Lesson 7: Use visualizations and affirmations to improve your positive thinking skills
Visualizations and affirmations are key tools in the quest for positive thinking skills. While the two exercises differ in technique, they both work to accomplish the same goal. Both exercises help to change your positive thinking goals from lofty dreams to achievable reality. However, visualizations work through imagery, while affirmations work through spoken statements.
Visualizations are key to the process of positive thinking because they offer you a way to “see” your goals as an actual outcome. This ability to see an outcome will give you control over that outcome. For instance, imagine that you are preparing to write the copy for your internet business’s home page, and you are not thinking positively about your writing skills. If you just use the facts about your product or service and transfer those facts to a written page, your copy could come out sounding flat and uninspired. However, by using visualization first, you will be able to prepare not just the facts but your attitude as well. Once you can visualize yourself writing the perfect, trust inspiring, and motivation web copy, you will be able to write that copy.
The point of visualization is to use all your senses to “see’ yourself completing any task or solving any problem in a perfectly executed manner. By imagining an event in great detail and focusing on the desired outcome, you will program your mind and body to respond as if the visualized scenario was an expected event. By repeating this visualization frequently, you will train your mind to follow a pattern that leads to the desired outcome.
Thankfully, visualization is easy to learn. Take a moment to think about something that you are currently struggling with either in business or in your personal life. Now, concentrating on that situation, use the following steps to learn and practice the skill of visualization.
Clear your mind of all other thoughts and distractions. This step is important because it will enable you to fully concentrate on the image and allow you to follow the imagery to the positive outcome without interruption. In the beginning, it will be easier to complete this step in a quiet environment where you can close your eyes, relax and be completely alone for several minutes.
Picture yourself completing the task or solving the problem in a positive way. Start at the beginning and envision yourself going through each step in the most positive, desirable way. Envision every detail about the situation in order to make the image seem more like fact than fantasy. Give attention to the clothes you are wearing, the people you are with, the actual words you are using, and the words others are using in their responses to you.
Keep the outcome positive and perfect. The most important thing to remember when practicing visualization is that you must only picture the outcome in a positive way. Never picture yourself failing or even faltering. During visualization, always picture yourself performing in a perfect manner.
Once you have reached the end of the visualization, review it in your mind. Look for areas that you can improve upon during your next visualization session. Add details where necessary and increase positive steps where you can.
Repeat the visualization often. While visualization can be a key step in positive thinking, it only works well when used frequently.
After you have accomplished the goal or solved the problem in real life, review the actual event and use visualization to change any negative circumstances into positive ones. If any detail of the actual event did not play out perfectly, envision that detail in a way that does. This step will help prime your mind to perform in a more desirable way the next time.
Now that you know how to practice visualization, it is time to learn more about affirmations. Affirmations are spoken statements that focus on the positive achievement of a goal. Affirmations differ from positive self-talk techniques in that they concentrate on more specific statements and are action oriented. For example, if you are nervous about pitching a new idea to a customer your self-talk statement may be something like “I know this idea is a good one and my customer will be happy to hear about it.” However, with an affirmation your statement would be more action driven, such as “Tomorrow morning I am pitching my new idea to Ms. Metfula by pointing out the cost-saving benefits.”
With positive self-talk you are attempting to bolster your positive attitude and belief in yourself. With affirmations you are stating a goal in a way that makes your subconscious believe that the event is already a fact. This subconscious belief is accomplished through three unique steps. First, affirmations are always spoken in first person narrative. This personalization of the fact allows the subconscious to more readily accept the statement. For example, instead of saying, “My customers are happy with my service”, you would say “I know that my service/product makes my customers happy”.
Second, affirmations are always stated in the present tense. By using words such as “I am” or “I know,” you are tricking your mind into believing that the statement is already happening. Whereas, using statements such as “I will” or “I think” allows doubt to creep into your subconscious.
Third, affirmations are always positive in nature. For a statement to qualify as an affirmation, it has to be worded without any negative language. For example, the statement “I am qualified to write excellent web copy” is an affirmation. The statement “I will try to write decent web copy” is not.
Now that you understand the nature of affirmations, you need to practice using them. First, you need to identify an upcoming goal that you would like to accomplish. Then, you need to write out that goal in simple language. Once you have a clear, concise goal statement written down, you need to transform that statement into an affirmation using the previous three steps. The following is an example of how to turn goal statements into affirmations.
Statement: “In the next few weeks, I will add another product to my internet business.”
Affirmation: “In the next few weeks I am adding a terrific new product to my successful internet business.”
Notice the difference in the two sentences. By changing the word will to the word am, and by adding the positive terms terrific, new and successful the goal statement becomes an affirmation.
If you do not have a specific goal that you are trying to accomplish, you can still use affirmations to improve your positive thinking skills. In this case, you need to choose a positive statement that is general but upbeat in nature. Some examples of these affirmations are:
“I am using my positive thinking skills to succeed in business.”
“I am an applying my leadership skills to make this company great.”
“I am an excellent parent.”
“I am an outstanding athlete.”
“I am accomplishing great things with positive thoughts and a winning attitude.”
“I am an outstanding entrepreneur.”
Once you have two or three well-written affirmations completed, you can begin utilizing them on a daily basis. Just as with visualizations, affirmations work best if practiced repeatedly throughout the day. To get the most out of your affirmations it is best to repeat them at least three times a day, usually once upon waking, again in the afternoon and then, once more before bed each night.
Lesson 8: How to set positive thinking goals
Once you have begun to adopt a positive attitude, it is time to set positive thinking goals. These goals differ from your regular goals in that they concentrate specifically on your quest to learn the art of positive thinking and the benefits that you will enjoy from this quest. These goals should spell out the details of what you wish to accomplish with positive thinking and also contain the specific outcomes of these accomplishments.
There are four steps involved in setting positive thinking goals. By using all four steps, you will create goals that are both attainable and beneficial.
Identify a specific, outcome-oriented goal. This goal will be different from your earlier action-oriented goals in that the goal will concentrate on an eventual positive outcome, not on an immediate task. However, this goal will still need to be specific and detailed. To help determine your goals, ask yourself the following questions. What do I want to accomplish most with my positive thinking? What area of my life could benefit most from the powers of positive thinking? What do I expect to gain from my positive thinking skills?
Once you have an honest answer to each of these questions you can begin to shape your goals. For our purposes, let us assume that the answers to the questions were 1) I want to increase my internet sales, 2) My relationship with my spouse and 3) Better problem solving skills. Each of these answers affords you the basis of a positive thinking goal. For the rest of the steps we will concentrate on defining a goal for the first one.
Now that you have a basic goal idea in mind, you need to state that goal in a specific, outcome-oriented manner. For example, instead of saying, "I want to increase my internet sales" you could say "I am going to use my positive thinking skills to determine my customer's needs in order to increase sales".
Break down the goal into short-term and long-term steps. In order to make the goal more easily attainable, you will need to break it down into a few steps. These steps should contain achievable and realistic outcomes. The first step should include a way to make short-term progress on the goal. For this step you could say, "I am going to include a simple survey on my homepage that will enable me to gather information about my customer's likes and dislikes".
For the second step, you will need to include a long-term outcome prediction for the goal. Your second statement could say, "I am going to use my positive thinking skills to interpret the survey data in a way that allows me to be open to new ideas and suggestions. I am then going to use those new ideas to increase sales."
As you can see in this step, we have taken a lofty goal such as, increase internet sales, and with a few simple changes turned it into a positive thinking, outcome-oriented goal.
Set up a way to measure your progress. Now that you have a goal in place, you need to set up a way to measure your progress as you work toward attaining that goal. Without a system of measurement you would be forced to wait until the end to gauge your success. In that instance, you would be unable to use your positive thinking skills to boost your motivation and keep your attitude in check.
The form of measurement that you choose will depend mainly on the type of goal that you have set. In our case, the form of measurement could be an increase in the percentage of sales. In order to accurately gauge your progress, you would first have to gather data about your current sales rate and then determine a suitable increase for your goal.
Let us say that you have decided to aim for an overall increase in sales of 25%. This would mean that by the time you have attained your goal, your internet sales will have increased from their current rate by 25 percent. As you work toward your goal you can now monitor your success by tracking the increase in percentage increments.
Set a time limit. The next step in your goal setting would include a time limit. Without a time limit in place, your goals can easily turn into distant dreams. In our case, the time limit serves two purposes. One, it gives you another way to track your progress. And two, it gives your plans a deadline.
To help you focus on your goal and keep you motivated to finish, you need to establish a realistic time frame in which to accomplish your goal. For our goal, we might choose a deadline of six months. While this deadline may seem long, it will give you plenty of time to create a survey, gather data information, review the information and then make changes toward your goal. Plus, the deadline allows for a period of time for your new plan to work.
Now that we have an outcome deadline, we need to set progress deadlines. These deadlines are set to help keep you on track and ensure your continued progress. For our goal, we may set a deadline of two weeks for creating the survey. Then, set a deadline of one month to gather information from the survey. We would then set a deadline of two weeks to review the survey data and determine what improvements we could make to increase sales. Next, we would set a deadline of one month to implement the changes. Our final deadline would be a period of three months to track the changes in sales, make changes in our process or product as necessary, and then ultimately reach our goal.
As each deadline expires, it is important to review your goal and make sure that your progress is on track. At each review, you may make any changes that are necessary to both your plan and your goal. However, try not to change the time limit, as this can lead to procrastination and eventual defeat.
Involve others. The last step in your positive goal creation is the involvement of others. This step is important to the creation of any positive thinking goal because it utilizes the reinforcement and encouragement that can be obtained from family, friends, and colleagues.
After finishing the first three steps of positive goal setting share your goals and deadlines with those around you. Use them as a sounding board, listen to their advice or thoughts, and let them be connected to your success. By informing others of your goals, you will be able to create a net of strength and support that you can call on if reaching your goal becomes difficult or you get off course.
However, be warned – not just anyone will do. There are negative-thinking people in the world, and connecting them to your network will not lead to a positive outcome. If you have friends or family who are trapped in a cycle of negative thinking, then you need to keep them away from your business. This may seem harsh, but positive thinking doesn’t work when there’s someone aggressively undermining it with their own negativity.
Lesson 9: How finding a mentor can help with positive thinking goals
No matter how much knowledge you possess about your business or how much work you put into realizing your goals; sometimes you need outside advice. While this advice can come from any number of avenues, it is usually most advantageous to seek the guidance of a mentor.
A mentor can be any person with knowledge of your field of business. However, when searching for a mentor, it is best to seek someone who has the greatest understanding of the situation you are facing and the most experience with a business similar to your own. To find a mentor and get the most out of your time together, follow the simple steps below:
Choose a specific situation to seek advice for. While you may wish to seek as much help as possible, it is easier and more beneficial to narrow your quest down to a specific area or situation. Later, after that situation has been resolved, you can also go back to your mentor for additional help.
To choose a situation to pursue, review your positive thinking goals and determine which one is the most important to you or your business. Once you have a goal in mind you will be able to narrow down your choice of mentors by evaluating their level of expertise in your topic. For example, if you choose to seek a mentor to help you increase your internet sales, then you will want to choose someone who has achieved great successes in this area. You do not want to choose someone who hasn't been in business very long, or someone who has vast experience and success in retail sales but not in internet sales.
Choosing a specific situation will also help you later when you go to prepare your list of questions to ask your mentor. By choosing a specific problem and a set of specific questions prior to your first visit, you will give yourself extra time to review the questions and weed out the unnecessary information.
Contact your potential mentor. While this step seems obvious, the way in which you contact the person can be a little tricky. Depending on your level of familiarity with the person, your first contact could consist of something as simple as a quick phone call or something as formal as a written request for an interview. In order to adhere to professional etiquette requirements, your first contact with someone you are not very familiar with should always start with a written request or phone call to his or her secretary. Never call the personal phone number of a person you are not on a comfortable level with.
Also, chances are good that the person you choose as your potential mentor is going to have a busy schedule. Because of this, it is usually best if all contact is begun by setting up an appointment to state your case. Never try to state your case or explain your position during the first contact.
Once you have made an appointment, you need to pick the type of meeting you will have. Depending on the circumstances and the time that your mentor has free, this first meeting can be a short phone call or even a meeting over lunch. If possible, allow your mentor to choose the time and place of the first meeting.
Prepare thoroughly for the meeting. Proper preparation will save both you and your mentor a vast amount of time. With proper preparation you will be able to state your request in a simple, knowledgeable manner. Make sure that you are prepared to share your specific goals and challenges with your mentor and are able to explain to him or her exactly what it is you expect to gain from them.
Ask specific questions. Once someone has agreed to be your mentor, you need to prepare a list of specific questions for him or her. If your questions are too broad, they will be hard for your mentor to answer. Plus, general questions usually require multiple answers, which can lead to wasted time on both sides.
Using our earlier goal as an example, notice the difference between these sets of questions.
"How can I increase my internet sales?"
"What are three steps I can take to start increasing my internet sales?"
"How can I determine my customer's needs?"
"Have you ever utilized customer surveys? And if so, what is the most important you can tell me about them?"
As you can see from the examples, the second question in each set is more detailed and specific. Recognizing and utilizing this distinction will enable you to prepare better questions and ultimately receive better, more goal-oriented advice.
Put your mentor's advice into action. It is not enough to simply seek the advice of a mentor. You also have to be willing to listen to their ideas, research their ideas and eventually, put them into action. A great idea is just a great idea until it is turned into a goal. Use what you have learned from your mentor to expand upon your goals and increase your chances of success.
Use your mentor for more than just advice. A mentor can be a great source of inspiration and positive thinking. Listen to his or her stories, get caught up in his or her excitement, and use his or her positive thinking to bolster your own. If you find your attitude taking a negative turn, or discover thoughts of defeat sneaking into your mental self-talk, call your mentor for a positive pep talk.
Thank your mentor. No matter how the experience ends, whether you ultimately use their advice or not, always send a card or gift of appreciation to your mentor. While this little step may not seem important, it is the biggest and best way to ensure that your professional relationship continues. The fact of the matter is that your mentor probably agreed to help you solely because your success is important to him or her. Let them know that you appreciate their time and effort and keep them abreast of your success. In doing so you will leave an avenue open for further mentoring and new opportunities.
Hands-on Class Project
- Please describe your feelings
- Take a moment to think about something that you are currently struggling with either in business or in your personal life. In that context, outline the steps you will use to learn and use the skill of visualization.
- Now that you understand the nature of affirmations, you need to practice using them. First, you need to identify an upcoming goal that you would like to accomplish. Then, you need to write out that goal in simple language. Once you have a clear, concise goal statement written down, you need to transform that statement into an affirmation. (Remember that affirmations are always spoken in the first person narrative; affirmations are always stated in the present tense; affirmations are always positive in nature).
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