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How To Speak Confidently On Camera and In Person

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Lessons in This Class

    • 1.

      Intro

      1:08

    • 2.

      A little about me

      3:21

    • 3.

      Communication is usually about the other person

      3:58

    • 4.

      What is Parroting?

      5:28

    • 5.

      04 Emotions and feelings

      6:57

    • 6.

      05 Getting in front of a camera

      8:56

    • 7.

      06 Recording your speech

      2:19

    • 8.

      07 Power posing

      8:19

    • 9.

      09 Dynamic presentions 1

      7:41

    • 10.

      011 Fluidity and motion

      3:52

    • 11.

      08 Anchoring

      6:31

    • 12.

      010 Dynamic presentatios 2

      4:02

    • 13.

      012 Plan your calls

      3:57

    • 14.

      013 Scripts

      1:58

    • 15.

      014 Practice makes perfect

      2:43

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If the thought of speaking in front of people makes you dizzy or nauseous.

If you get anxious and break out into a cold sweat when you need to have a conversation with someone other than your immediate family or friend circle.

If you are not sure how to confidently speak in public or in a professional setting.

THIS IS FOR YOU!

I have been a teacher and public-facing speaker for years, and I am also a complete introvert! I have had to learn to become confident and poised on the outside while suppressing fears and social setting anxieties, and I am excited to help you do the same.

I completely understand the awkwardness and stress that can come along with needing to make presentations, and I want to coach you to a place where you feel equipped to handle public speaking with grace and confidence.

This course will help you:

  1. Place the focus on other people and not yourself

  2. Give professional presentations without overwhelming anxiety

  3. Utilize power poses and hand gestures
  4. Make a plan before you are in a communication scenario so you know exactly how to handle it

Being able to speak and communicate confidently is a skill that everyone needs, even if you are extremely introverted or have a fear of being in the spotlight. Let's get started!

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1. Intro: if the thought of speaking in front of people gives you anxiety if getting up in front of people that you work with to deliver a presentation or to communicate with your colleagues in the hall, is your passing by them or even cold? Calling people or getting on a zoom call with the people that you work with stresses you out, then this is the course for you. I completely understand how terrifying it could be to get up in front of people and speak, whether it's in a professional setting or a casual studying. I'm an introvert by nature, and it has taken me years to develop public speaking tips and techniques and practices that helped me rain in the anxieties that I get from being in front of people and to still be able to deliver clear, concise, collected narratives when I need Teoh. I'm so happy to have you as a part of this course. Make sure that you double check all of these sections, as some of them do have downloads available. I can't wait to see you come out the other side as a more confident communicator and someone who is ready and able to deliver powerful public speaking narratives 2. A little about me: My name is Jenna, and I am an online educator and I am a teacher and I have been for over a decade, and I've got to tell you just because I am a teacher and I teach online on you to me and I give presentations and things like that all over the state. Just because I do things like that doesn't mean that I am exempt from social insecurity from anxiety from a fear of public speaking. In fact, on the contrary, I suffer from extreme social anxiety, and I have an incredible fear of public speaking even to speed up here right now, talking to a camera, no one else in the room. My stress levels are something that I have to constantly manage through tips and techniques that I teach all throughout this course. So before you dive in, I just want you to know you are not alone. I understand where you have been. I understand what you're going through, and I know how difficult it can be to be in a professional setting. To be expected to give presentations, to have casual conversations with colleagues to run into someone at the grocery store and to feel that that awkwardness and to struggle through those conversations or those presentations not knowing how to make it better. I struggled for years with this. I went through a student teaching program at a at a university over by Seattle and that challenged me incredibly because it made me have to start the process of getting over my insecurities and my stresses and find ways to cope. Otherwise I wasn't gonna survive. Those teenagers were gonna chew me up and spit me out if I showed any sign of weakness. So I had to learn and I had to learn quickly. But it's not something that is mastered, and then it's behind you. For me, it has been an ongoing, lifelong development cause, public speaking and being confident in front of other people are on camera. It's for some people. It's innate. But for most people, it is a skill that has to be developed, and it's something that has sharpened the more the more the more the more the more that you use it over and over and over and over again. It's not just something that you can try once and be instantly good up, it requires practice practicing these these skills in these techniques, working on parroting, working on power poses, working on anchoring with objects like this, which is something that I will teach you in his course. Okay, I understand what it feels like to walk away from a conversation or from, ah, work meeting and just feeling defeated. Like I I didn't represent myself. Well, in the words that I chose, I feel exhausted. Now that that is over, I am. My anxiety levels are through the roof. I don't know how I'm going to get through the rest of my day and this emotional state that I'm in, I understand. And my goal with this course is that by the end of it you will have some tangible tools in some proven techniques that you can implement into your everyday conversations as well as into your professional life, so that you can be a confident communicator that speaks with poise and intentionality and that you can tackle whatever the communication, you know, it is thrown in front of you with ease and grace 3. Communication is usually about the other person: perhaps one of the best things that you can learn in becoming a confident speaker, especially when it comes to those casual conversations, either with colleagues or with friends or acquaintances. When you're out and about one of the most important things to learn and realise is that it's almost always about the other person, and it's really about you know what I mean by this while if you are a self conscious person or if you get anxious when you think about interacting with people that are outside of your comfort zone, Oftentimes the feeling that you get when you're speaking to somebody is one of introspection. And by that I mean often you are thinking about in the back of your mind as you're trying to hold on a conversation is how do I look? Do I look okay? Do I sound okay? Is this coming across awkwardly? Does the other person feel weird about this conversation? You find yourself second guessing everything that you're saying because in the back of your mind, often you worry about how the other person is perceiving you when in reality it's almost always about them. Most people are inherently selfish by nature. It's not a bad thing. It's just ah, fact of life. Many, many people, when they're in a conversation with somebody, instead of truly listening and engaging and focusing on the person who's doing the speaking . They are in the back of their minds, instead trying to think about what they are going to say next. Or they're thinking about the information that you are sharing with them on Lee, from the perspective of how it relates to them, they could care very little about you and your delivery there in their own heads, thinking about things from from where they stand. So if you can understand that and wrap your mind around the fact that it's very unlikely that the person you're talking to is focusing on you, pinpointing you, judging you for how you're speaking, how you're delivering things, it takes a unspoken weight off of your shoulders and allows you to settle into a more comfortable mode of, of speaking and operating. I know from personal experience I struggled for a really, really long time with interacting with and speaking with people who I wasn't intimately acquainted with. If it wasn't my immediate family or my siblings or my one or two very close friends. I had a really, really hard time and having a non awkward conversation. You know, the mo mentum of the conversation would stall out and I wouldn't know how to fill that dead space. And so I would find myself trailing off or worse yet, getting nervous. And then my speech speeds up in all the sudden talking like this, and no one can understand what I'm saying. Neither are good. So when I finally started to look around and realize that it's not so much about me, it's about other people. I was able to reframe how I entered into these conversations, and instead of worrying about how I was being perceived, I made it truly about the other person, not just in in how I approach the conversation, but in the words that I used. And in the next few lectures, we're going to talk about how you can use some popular communication techniques and tricks to take the focus off of yourself and put it on the other person. Not only will this take the awkward pressure off of you to have to come up with conversation material but it makes you seem like you are a very engaged in a very thoughtful listener which people love. So you will be while respected. You will be well received in public places. And not only that, the more that you implement these techniques into your casual conversations and even your professional public speaking or your workplace presentations, the more you implement these techniques, the more confident and calm you will find yourself becoming. 4. What is Parroting?: in this lecture, we're going to talk about para. Teen parenting is one of the oldest communication techniques out there, and I actually learned this technique while I was taking a masterclass from a world renowned hostage negotiator. Parenting is something that he taught as an excellent way to build report with the person that you're engaging with, and also make sure that you are clarifying the conversation and moving things in an intentional direction. So what is parroting while a parrot mimics something that is told to them? They say, Polly, want a cracker or outside or anything you want to teach them? So for conversation, this this technique of para teen is simply you're taking whatever the person you're talking to, whatever they said last. Not the whole phrase, but maybe just the last couple words, the last word or ah, very important thing that they said. And you're going to repeat that back to them. That makes them feel heard. It makes them feel understood, and it as an added bonus, you don't have to come up with something new and fresh to add to the conversation. This is especially helpful if you are someone that gets really anxious in social settings and you're not quite sure what to say. And you need time to form your thoughts and figure out what you want to say next. So this convey I you time. So what might this look like? Well, let's say that I am in a coffee shop and I'm getting my coffee. And someone that I've met maybe once or twice before, recognizes me and comes up to me. I'm standing there waiting for my coffee and they say, Hey, Jenna, how are you? Instantly I'm, like, panicking because I'm like, Dude, I remember your name. How do I know you? Where do I know you from your talking to me in this study that I don't feel in control. What do I dio? The best thing to do is take a deep breath on If you don't remember who their don't remember their name, it's OK. No one is going to be offended by this. So if I don't remember who they If I do remember, I could just say hey, so and so nice to see if I don't remember who they are. Here's how I can I can respond that if they say, Hey, Jenna, how are you? I can say, Hey, it's so great to see you. I recognize you. I haven't had my coffee yet. I can you tell me your name, and if you make light of it, they are more than likely to say Oh, no worries. I'm Jill from the marketing meeting that we had last week. I'm the new hire your company and you say, Ah, yes, amazing. Now I remember. And just in that immediate interaction, you've taken it from a potentially awkward thing. And you have turned it into a more light hearted re meeting. So then once you have established this, okay, the paradyne comes into play. If they linger and begin to talk to you, you can say, Start off with something simple, like like, how's your day going so far? And maybe maybe she says, Oh, you know, it's it's it's going pretty good. Um, I really have enjoyed working on the, you know, the most recent project, and you can go which project? Oh, well, you know, the one with the Sanderson's I've really being been enjoying the brain in direction that we've been taking. Oh, the branding direction. Okay, I am parroting I'm repeating back and she might say, Oh, yeah, the brain in direction. So what we've done my responsibility on this project has been to kind of help them develop their stories so that we can put that into words on their website. And I really, really enjoyed that. And then you can say wow, really enjoyed that. That is it Sounds like you're really passionate about your job. Yeah, actually, I really love this. So here, all of a sudden we've got them talking about themselves. I have had to add nothing unique to this conversation, which is perfect, because again, if I wasn't expecting to have this conversation, I'm caught a little bit off guard. I'm waiting for my coffee. It takes the pressure off of me to be a good conversationalist, and it allows them to do the talking while I gather my thoughts. And as an added bonus, it makes me seemed to her like I'm a good listener and like, I care about her Not that I don't care, but it it makes you seem like you definitely did. When you use this parody and technique. So how else can this be used while parody and can be used in literally every conversation that you have. I use parroting as a parent all the time to try to understand where my kids are coming from , to try to get them to do something that I've asked them to do. And if they're not doing it, it's a way to maintain my patience and my intentionality with them. While again I gather my thoughts. It's useful in workplace scenarios with your bosses, with your colleagues, with people that are underneath you. Maybe it's an assistant cake parody, and again it takes conversations that might otherwise be awkward or that you're not sure where you want to take those conversations. And it allows the other person to do the bulk of the talking while you subtly direct the conversation based on their answers to the to the parenting questions that you ask. This is an incredible technique that is very, very simple to master. All that you have to remember is to take the last few things that they say or to latch on to the to the most central idea from what they just said to you and find a way to repeat it back to them, either as a question or as your own addition to something that they've said 5. 04 Emotions and feelings: so another really important technique to master when it comes to confident communication is learning how to appeal to another person's emotions and feelings and perspective. So we do this by making use of several statements, the first of which is using the term it feels. And what this does is you are allowing that person bandwidth to elaborate on something that they've said, while still confining it to a specific framework that works for your intentions for the conversation. Know what does all that mean? OK, so let's say that I am in a conversation with someone that I work with, and they are communicating to me that they are frustrated with a recent project that we worked on together. Let's say that they say something to me like I just can't believe that you took so long to give them the design assets that they needed. I can either be upset by this, and as someone who has social anxiety, I probably would feel upset and stressed out by that. But I can use it, feels to come back and put it on them, and I can say it feels like this really frustrated you. I'm parroting using the technique from before. Okay, It feels like this was really frustrating to you. Can you help me understand more about why? Okay, now, this might take them a little bit off guard because it's likely when when people speak to you in a confrontation away saying something that they had a problem with often they are expecting you to bristle, to become defensive into pushback. But by not pushing back by instead, you know, welcome mean this criticism and offering them a chance to expand on it. It automatically takes that interaction from being a stress level of up to here down to a more manageable level here. So if I say it feels like you really frustrated about that, would you like, Can you explain that a little bit more to me, this gives them the opportunity to tell me more. So they may say something like, Well, it put me in the position of having to cover for you, and that made me really stressed. And it was frustrating because I had to do all of that while also keeping up my end of the project workload. So then you have a chance to apologize, to clarify if you need Teoh or to take the conversation in a new direction, you could also use it. Feels again. You could say, Wow, it feels like I dropped the ball here and it wasn't intentional. I assure you of that. Uh, will you please forgive me? I could do better in the future. Boom immediately. That conversation that could have gone badly ended up going pretty well. So by using I feel statements or it feels like statements, you are allowing the other person's space to communicate what they mean in a more well rounded way. Another option that you have is to phrase it more as a question. So if if you're in a conversation with someone and you want to clarify more what they're saying, you could say, What do you want? What do you feel? What are you hoping? Fill in the blank and what this does is, as with the previous example, it gives them a chance to flesh out what they were speaking about more fully. It makes you seem like you are unengaged listener, and it also buys you time to continue thinking about where you want to take the conversation, especially if they have asked you something that you don't have an answer to. What's a good example of this? Let's say that you are out shopping and you run into an old friend and you haven't seen him in a while and you're talking and it's going well. And let's say that they ask you to come to an event that they're holding and they say, Hey, Shelley, I would love to have you and your family over to our house for the Fourth of July. What do you say? Put on the brakes if you're like me. An unsolicited invitation like that where it puts you on the spot instantly sends you into panic mode. I hate feeling pressured, and I hate I very much dislike having to respond to something like that right off the bat. It just makes me feel awkward. And no matter how I answer, if I answer, sure, and then I have to change my mind later, that makes you feel bad. So I don't like being put on the spot like that. So what you can do if you're in a situation like that, for example, is you can say wow, what are you hoping that that day would look like Tell me a little bit more about it. It buys you time, and it lets them continue to paint a bigger picture for you so that you can answer the original question that they ask in a more knowledgeable, more informed way. Now this could be applicable across really any conversation that you may have. Let's put it into a work scenario. Let's say that you are talking with a client and they ask you, So here's what I need done. How much is it going to cost? Okay, that's a popular one. If you're a freelancer or a small business owner, you know what I'm talking about and that if you haven't, if you're not ready to give them a price yet, that can be a stressful question to have them ask you. So instead of giving them a rush, answer at the top of your head. You can put it back on them, and you could say that's a really quick, really great question. But before I answer, let me ask, What exactly is your budget or what exactly are you hoping for in terms of a project timeline? Tell me a little bit about your you know, your expectations for how you would like to see this go. It buys you time. It lets them continue talking so that you can see where they're coming from. And you can figure out on the fly if you can meet them where they're at, or if you need to provide a compromise that works for both of you. Either way, when you appeal to their feelings by saying it feels like or it seems like or if you ask them questions, what do you want? How do you feel about what do you think about this? It buys you time to continue mentally processing what they're saying, and it gives them an opportunity to paint a bigger picture. That gives more clarity to the conversation, because often all that stands between a conversation being awkward and uncomfortable and being very casual and seamless and you know non stressful is managing the expectations that take place within that conversation and giving it room to breathe and to develop so that you can process what the other person wants from you. So these techniques are incredibly easy to implement into your everyday communication and All they take is a little bit of practice before they start becoming second nature. So I challenge you pick one of these techniques and start putting it into practice with your family with your friends with your colleagues today. 6. 05 Getting in front of a camera: So by now I have given you a few of the most common some of the most powerful communication tips and techniques. And hopefully you've started to wrap your mind around how you can implement those in your everyday conversations, whether at work or with your family or with your friends, so that you could be a more confident, casual communicator. But what about everything else in your life? How do you prepare yourself for work presentations for impromptu meetings for non casual, more stress inducing communication encounters? Well, the best thing I ever did to get over my stage, right to get over the stress that I have when it comes to public speaking is well, first, just to do it. But to get in front of a camera and speak now, why is this helpful? Well, let me tell you a little bit about my background. So I have a degree in secondary education and English, which means that I planned years ago to be ah, high school English teacher. Now, with that line of study, there was a ton involved. There was curriculum development. There was reading. There were, you know, class studies and in depth. You know courses like that that I had to take. But I had to take a public speaking and speech writing class. I hated it. It was the most stressful thing we're talking. Can't sleep the night before giving a class presentation, getting up there, sweating through my clothes, just absolutely terrified the whole time, dry mouth, all of it. And towards the middle of that class, the teacher had us all record, um, ourselves speaking, and then we had to watch it and then take notes. And then we had to redo it, and I went into that project thinking, This is ridiculous. This isn't gonna help me at all. I already know I'm terrible at public speaking. But when I tell you that this was foundational e life changing for me, I mean it. Ah, 100%. I went from being in in the classroom, just terrified, you know, terrible posture stressed out in front of the kids that I was teaching to be unable to stand up straight and start moving around and teaching and speaking with confidence. So what was the difference? I'll tell you when you speak in front of a camera, the first thing that it does is it takes the relational aspect out of it. Okay, I am not standing here right now teaching you as I record this with 50 people in front of me hanging on my every word. I'm talking Teoh a canon DSLR, and I'm staring down the barrel of that lens and speaking to it as if you were here. But the pressure that my brains subconsciously feels as I'm doing that is so different than it would be if there were 50 of you, 100 of you seated right in front of me. Why is that? Because I know that the camera is an inanimate object. It's not judging me. It's not waiting to, you know, raise their hand and and ask a question that it takes me off track of what I'm here to teach. It's not going to be talking to its friends, you know, high schoolers. But high schoolers do that, you know, talking to their friends. It's not gonna be passing notes. It's not gonna be cutting up in Class K. It's It's a camera. It's a safe place. I'm sure it feels a little bit awkward at first. Standing in a room by yourself talking, delivering a speech or whatever you're doing. It's a little bit awkward from that perspective. But when you can eliminate the, um, unknowns that come with a live audience are alive. Encounter. It allows your brain that party arraigned that's constantly running that dialogue in the back of your mind of what might happen next. What have they asked me a question. What do I do? It silences all of that, and it gives you a chance to focus just on yourself the words that you're speaking and the way that you're presenting yourself. So that's the first thing that it does. The second thing that I realized when I did this assignment was you had to watch it and then you had to redo it. So in the watching of it, which it can hurt, who to see yourself on camera and see yourself looking nervous and scared and afraid It's rough, but but the best thing that you can do for yourself is to take an honest look at everything , what you're doing well and what you're doing poorly because it allows you to make subtle changes that will change everything. So, for example, let's say that as you stand a new delivery, you record yourself and then you watch it back. Let's see that. You notice that you look away from the camera a lot. That's something you probably wouldn't notice. As you're speaking to someone that your that you don't like making eye contact. But if you can see yourself doing on the camera, you have a chance to make note of that, to realize it without the added awkwardness that comes from realizing that you're doing that while you're speaking to an actual person. Okay. What if as you are watching the playback, you realize that you're saying, um ah lot? I was guilty of this. Oh, my goodness was guilty of this. This took years to break. What do you dio? Because we use, um is and we use us and we use homes to fill the awkward gap that comes from between what we are saying and the next stop. So as I'm talking, talking, talking, talking, and then I don't know what I want to say next, it's difficult to just let that silence be. And it's easy to try to fill it with, huh? Ah, Well, okay. That isn't as professional as allowing there to be a pause. A little bit of silence never hurt anybody, so you could make a note of that if you find yourself filling the silence in between your thoughts with awkward punctuation is an awkward words. And then, once you've done Step one and Step two and then you speak to the camera again, you will find, I guarantee it. You are a little bit more relaxed, a little bit more at ease, and you have something intentional that you can work on to improve. This is incredibly empowering if you suffer from public speaking anxiety or relational anxiety, or if you're like me and you're incredibly introverted. And the thought of just interacting with other people terrifies you. This lets you practice in a safe space, and you don't have to do it just once, you could record yourself and practice this over and over and over again until hearing yourself talk and adjusting your thoughts on the fly becomes natural because that's the angle you want to be able to stand up in front of work in front of your colleagues to give a presentation to run into somebody at the grocery store and carry on a conversation. You want to able to do all those things confidently and calmly, because when we get anxious, what happens? Our mouths get dry. Who we start to tense up. Our breathing quickens our heart rate increases and all of a sudden we can't talk very well and were stress. And we're sweating. We don't want that we want. We want to be calm. You want to be cool, you want to be collected because that projects confidence. And when that happens, the people around you it unconsciously and unintentionally gives them permission to also be calm and collected. And two, it creates a atmosphere of communication that is freeing instead of stressful. It creates an atmosphere that is relaxed instead of full of tension and anxiety. And that's exactly what we're going for. I would love to see every student that takes this course emerge on the other side as a more confident speaker, someone that can enter into social situations and not have an absolute panic attack because they know that they have to communicate with other people. So the goal for this is to help you realize I can take a deep breath. I can speak. I have tools and practicing things that I can dio, you know, ways that I can take, charge and and learn and grow and develop this as a skill because it is at the end of the day, communication is a develop herbal skill. Some people have it naturally. My husband is that way. He can get up in front of 1000 people and speak. He loves it. Okay, for people like me and possibly you, it takes a lot more practice to become confident and well spoken. But it's a skill that you can learn. And I'm so excited to see how you develop and change and grow, even just from from the beginning of this course to the end. 7. 06 Recording your speech: Okay, so let's talk about how you can quickly and efficiently take video of yourself so that you can re watch it and practice this technique over and over and over again. So you may or may not have access to a high quality DSLR camera Right now I'm using a cannon. If you have something like that, I would love for you to use that. It's going to capture a lot of the fine details. And who knows? You may end up creating something like a course or something that then could be publishable . So if you have something of high quality that you can use, of course, use that. But for most people ah, phone is what you're gonna end up recording on. So the easiest thing that you can dio is just open up your phone camera, okay? And what I would caution you is don't use this front facing camera. Okay? Don't hold it like this and do yourself a selfie. First of all this, the front facing camera on most phones is not as high quality as this rear facing camera. So if you switch it, it's going to be ah much better. More true to life view of both what you look like and the things around you now. Second of all, you need to find a way to prop this up. So you're not holding it, because if you're holding it, you're very stiff, and all it's going to capture is your facial expressions. And there is so, so, so much more to speaking than just your facial expressions and the words. There's so much non verbal in terms of cues that is happening. So what I would say it's find a tripod that you can use or you gonna Stephen prop it up on a shelf and hit record Walk affair, polka wasted. It can see you at the very least, from the waist up so that it can see your arm movements and everything. And that is where we want to start. The most important thing is just to make sure that you are fully in the frame. Okay, you don't want to find yourselves if I can get you know, partly out of frame so that it's just this little bit of you you don't want to be just really close with. Tell me your face again. You want to be centered as much as possible, at least from the waist up. If you can get a full body shot even better. Because then you can capture yourself as fully as possible so that you can see Are you standing kicking a hip out when you present don't want to do that. Okay. Are you hunting over around in your shoulders? You don't want that either. You want to be nice street. Good posture. You want to make sure that you are using your phone to capture the most clear picture of yourself as possible. 8. 07 Power posing: in this lesson. We're going to talk about power poses. They are something that have been around for forever. Chances are you have heard of power poses. They are a little cheesy, but the crazy thing about them is they work. So let's talk about what power poses are. I'm not trying to back up here, so you can kind of see kind of a full range of motion here. You see my cords for my computer in the background. Okay, So a power pose subconsciously takes the stress that you feel and directs it outward in a way that is powerful. It is empowering to you it, you know, it not only projects power to others, but to you it was powerful. So what we want to do is we want to avoid if we're in any kind of public speaking or even a casual conversation space. We we don't want to shrink down. Okay? We don't. This this implies fear. And like, please don't look at me. This implies I am taking up space, and I am comfortable with that. And if it exudes confidence, so we want to avoid legs close together instead, feet at least shoulder with the part. Oh, I am comfortable. I am grounded. Okay? I am not hinging. My weight on this is very common, especially for women. We like toe. We like toe stand like this where we've got all of our weight kind of bouncing on that one hip. It's not professional, and it's not comfortable. OK, so weight evenly balanced through your heels and through the balls of your feet. A great way to practice. This is as I mean right now. I don't have shoes on because it's It's a great way to ground yourself, K. If you do yoga, you know the importance of feeling your stance all the way in from your head all the way pushing into the ground. Okay, bend your knees ever so slightly because, um, if you've ever been in a public speaking situation where you've locked your knees than you know, uh, you can pass out from that. I have never fully passed out. But I have had it where, like your vision starts to go because I was so tense and so stressed out. So keep your knees a little loose, little bit athletic. You should be able to move and mounts and feel the ground cake that is from the waist down . Okay, that is a powerful stance. Now what do I do with the top half of my body? Okay, well, use these. Use your arms. Okay, Take up space. That could look like hands on your hips. Okay. I am wide. I am taking up space. Physically fit physically. OK, hands on your hips. You wouldn't want to deliver a full presentation like this. But maybe before you give your presentation you take a few minutes in the bathroom who are in your office to kind of get used to taking that space. That power pose. You're here. You are exuding power. You are grounded. Okay? This is a power pose. This is a power pose with fists. Okay, we are here. We are taking up space. Our arms could be out. Arms could be overhead. Whatever it takes to kind of ground you in in that moment, as you prepare for your public speaking. So what do we do once we are actually in that conversation? In that presentation, how do we then use thes power poses to our advantage? 12. We move from this because you're not gonna not gonna stand here teach to like this. Okay? That would be awkward and stressful for me. Um, where this moves is, you go. You go from this to then taking up space with your gestures, okay? And we don't I've heard it said as like, um, you're throwing it away. You're throwing it away. You're serving a sandwich. You're serving a sandwich cake, these air cheesy things. But as when you're doing your video recordings of yourself and when you're practicing techniques like this, it's always better to overemphasize because when when Rheal life, when you're when you're faced with that real life interaction that that presentation, you're not going to do this. You may do this. Okay, um, I used to play basketball and we used to overemphasize skills like like fakes and jab steps , like, really just overemphasize it. You would never do that in the game. But if you practice that, the hope is then when you get into a game, even even if it's just this, that is better, then nothing. So get up, get in front of a camera and practice your hand gestures. Okay, So some things that that that you can do is deep breath. Open hands. Palms up. OK, this is a very submissive stance. Okay, I'm I'm here. I'm I'm open handed. I am not clinging tightly. I'm not stressed. It just it forces your body to release tension When you do this and to an audience member, it comes across as being very comfortable, very natural. You're not here with your hands at your side and it forces you. It's very difficult to do this and have tense shoulders so you could have relax shoulders open, hands us, let them fall open. And I'm here and I'm talking and maybe I I like to bring my hands back to center. That's very for me. Very, very grounding. It's a stress management technique that I use is is having hands kind of midline. That kind of reminds me to be centered. And if you find yourself filled with anxiety and as a public speaker, it helps you to this. Sometimes I interlaced my fingers as well. You probably have noticed, um, but always come coming back the center. So I maybe I'm I'm speaking. I'm speaking and I am holding. And then I might step out. And as I use my fixed points. Maybe as I'm using moving to this point over here, I might step little their direction and extend this way. This involves them. I'm taking up space. It's a really powerful thing to Dio, and I'm gesturing to them and that I always return to my center. Okay, Another thing you can do is you can point, OK, If you are in a presentation where maybe you have a power point next to you or you have flip slides or whatever. Okay, you congestion to that. You can point to that. Another thing you can do is hand open at your side, not fists like this, but hand open. And what this does is it again. It keeps us from our shoulders being up high, intense, and it forces us to be down and relaxed. Okay, Now what about hands on hips? So this isn't super professional, but it can show a comfortable iti if we just do one. And where I might use this is if I've been doing this. If I have a long presentation, I've been doing this My fixed points here, my fixed points. And if I have a really like point that I'm trying to, like, drive home like we need to hit this deadline. I might. I might. Even though I said not, he's on a hip. I might to really accentuate that point. This is really important, you guys. It's very important and we need to make sure that we, you know, film fill in the blank. It's just it's a little bit more of a powerful stance on authoritative stance. So sometimes there is a time in place for things like this. So hopefully this helps you. This idea of power poses of grounding ourselves before we go to speak. And then once we're in that presentation room, once were in that moment of using our hand gestures to really elevate our speaking to get our point across and to engage our audience. Not only that, but it is a great energy release. If you find the anxiety building up when you really stress and you don't know what to do, making gestures can really help you channel that energy in a meaningful way that comes across to your audience like you are engaging and confident. They don't need to know that it's you getting rid of your stress and get rid of that bad G that you have a A but it comes across as I am confident I'm powerful. I know what I'm doing, and I am prepared for this presentation. So head on out, film yourself, practice these techniques, and I guarantee you you will see incredible positive change at your next public speaking venue or your next presentation for work. 9. 09 Dynamic presentions 1: when it comes to giving powerful, dynamic in person presentations or just public speaking in general, one of the best things that you can do if you struggle with social anxiety or if the thought of speaking in front of a live audience gives you stress. One of the best things that you can dio is to use fixed points as a way to focus what you are speaking and to keep you from squirreling all over the room and looking at 1000 different directions and losing your train of thought. So how do we do this while it's very, very simple, So what we need to do is we need to first kind of established our area, our zone of standing and then in the room that you are, enter the practicing enter that you're going to be speaking in. You want to pick out 3 to 4 points that are located throughout the room. Now it's important whenever possible. This should not be a person unless it's someone that you are supremely comfortable with, like a spouse or a family member or a best friend, because when we make a person a focal point, any change in their body language or their face lit facial expression week will sub consciously internalize that, and often it can affect the way that we feel, which then changes the way that we speak, changes the way that we stand and the list goes on and on. So I would discourage you in almost every situation from making a person your focal point. Instead, try using an inanimate object. So I know you can't see the room that I am in. But in the room that I'm in, I am going to pick, let's say, four points and I want them to be spread out because what we don't want to dio is just stare at one thing. If I'm giving a live presentation on the steering in one direction, I it swells creepy for one. But it's also very robotic, and it completely isolates anyone sitting outside of that immediate field of vision. So you wanna pick different points of focus. So in the room diamond I would pick. There's a nail in the wall over here, kind of in the distance. I'm going to pick. There's little corner of the desk right here that would simulate like the first few rows of life people that would be sitting here. So I've got back left. I've got kind of front and center, something kind of mid range out There's Ah, there's a book with a red spine on the bookshelf right here and then away in this corner. Um, you have a light right here is they build us focus on that. So I have 1234 and again, these air not all along the same plane. I'm not here to here, Teoh. Here you see my eyes to hear. It's not all the same plane of focus. I am providing variety. So I'm here and then I'm there and then mid range and then I'm over here. What this does is even though I'm focusing at a fixed point, I'm not locking eyes with audience members. If there were to be a live audience here, what it's doing is it is extending my gaze. It is lifting my head, and it is providing a very dynamic feel to this professional presentation. I'm not disdaining here like a robot delivering what I am speaking. Teoh to one fixed segment right in front of me. I'm not doing that I am here and I'm talking and I'm looking and I'm engaging on. Then I am shifting my focus to here, and then I'm shifting it back, and then I am shifting it here, and then I don't necessarily necessarily need to come back and do the same pattern again. I come ping pong so I could be here. I could be there. I could be middle. I could be back here again. I can shift all the way to this one. Okay, what this does, And if circling back a little bit, depending on the room that you're in that you're presenting. And if you are in the conference room, for example, what you might see and you see him trying to still use my points because my brain is like, use your use your talking points. Um, the conference rooms air typically kind of long and narrow. I don't know why this is, but often if you are presenting in a very professional studying, often you will find yourself at, like, the head of the room and then the stakeholders or whoever you're talking to. Your colleagues, your clients, they're going to be kind of seated in this kind of information. So if that's the case, that's narrow field of vision. Make sure that you're you're picking out points that take that into account if you're not, If you're in a narrow field division, you don't want to pick something far to the sides that you're turning and thus putting your back or your hip to these people you want to work with in the field of vision that you have when you're in a very confined space. But let's say that you are speaking in a room that is big more amphitheatre seating like like you're in a stadium where you're in something like that. Okay, what you want to do in that setting? Maybe you're speaking at a conference. If there's people seated beyond us, your immediate kind of field of vision as they would be in a conference room if you have people in a more panoramic setting, typically, you know, if this is a stage, they could technically be as far out as my per fuel vision goes K. You need to adapt and maybe have five or six points of focus, and you will at some point have to be addressing here and addressing here. And how do we have that point of contact without turning our back on the people here? Because they don't want to talk. They don't want Just look at our but they want to see our face K. The best thing that we could do to be inclusive is not to turn K. It's to step back. And I know you can't really see, but step back and kind of hit pivot. So my shoulders are still open to them. And I can address here with my eyes by turning my head, Not my body. You see the difference. Okay, head not body on. Then I come back to center head, not body to the people over here, so that when you're when you're picking your your focal points, make sure that you are using the entire room ahead of you addressing here, here, here, here, here and that You are doing so in your picking things in such a way so that you never have to fully turn your back to your audience. No, I recommend, as with everything else, K practice, practice practice. Set up that camera and film yourself. OK, if you are going If you have severe social anxiety and you have to speak at a conference or , if you have to present some project, looks to a client que simulate that either in your home or in the empty conference room after hours. Whatever it needs to be, film yourself and pick out your where your focus points are going to be, and then practice what you're going to be speaking. If you if you have, like a speech that you are giving run through that the more times you could do that, the more confident you're going to be. If it's a project pitch or something like that, that you're doing our presentation that you're doing and you really can't, you know, prepare word for word. Maybe it's a co presentation with somebody else. K. You can still get up and film yourself speaking to the various points that you want to hit on. It may not be a full memorized script, but but you can still practice. I'm here and I'm looking here and I'm looking here, and it's that ability to engage your entire audience instead of just me is locked only one fixed focal point, and that is the difference between a nervous, very anxious presenter and one that looks like they are confident and calm and like they have control over the entire room and the entire presentation. 10. 011 Fluidity and motion: Okay, So we have talked about the importance of creating fixed points in your speaking to help you move your gaze around the room. And we've talked about gestures and power poses. And now let's talk about the importance of fluidity and the importance of motion in your speaking. This is a spending in the back of little bits. You can kind of see me. This is especially true if you are delivering more than just a few minutes of a presentation. If you are gonna be standing and delivering things for a long period of time, I would recommend getting rid of a podium or anything in front of you and instead on open space and open work space so that you can move around. This helps you to take dominance over your surroundings, and it is an incredible way to lock down here audience and to kind of engage with them in it. It makes them feel like you are incredibly confident, like you're well prepared, and it gives you ownership over the entire presentation area. So much like with the fixed points I would first take into consideration how much space you have to work with. Where I am now. I don't have a lot of space. Have a desk right in front of me. So which much like if you were giving a presentation in a conference room what that would look like. So I have maybe 1.5 steps from wall to forward, Okay, that I can utilise and I have 12 to the right and one to the left and time out of frame. And like we had mentioned before, if you're in a narrow conference room, this is very similar to the set up you might see now if you are on stage, such as like on a car at a conference center. Or if you're in a large amphitheater types seating area, which some large companies have for meetings, Um, you will have a much larger stage area. Whatever your set up is, it's very important that you can if if it's in your place of work and you can get in after hours and practice 100% recommend that if you can't, then once you approach the room, you can very quickly at a glance, realize OK, this is a space that I have to work with. and much like choosing your fixed points, you're gonna choose your fixed floor points as well. So I recommend at least three so, ideally, one to the right, one of the left and then one that is center and my center will typically have a back and a front. So and I learned this when I was teaching. It's the importance of stepping forward to engage, stepping back, to collect yourself and then moving side to side to engage those on either side of you. So you want to utilize this front to back, I would say at least half of the time, if not more, on this side to side is just at your discretion, what you're comfortable with. So again, as I step on lights, Okay, as you are here and you're starting to talk, you're starting to present and we're using our wide stands with our legs were utilizing our active hands cake. We're here. Amount. Then we're going to incorporate this fluid motion. So as I'm talking, I may just slowly walk forward a little bit, making sure that I'm not staying too long on one side locking this hip out. Okay, so I'm here. It's kind of a slow motion. I'm here. I'm talking. I'm engaging. And when I get to my point of focus that I have mentally set, I'm gonna plant and stay and stand and deliver for a time. And then I may choose to move this direction for a little bit. Okay? And again, you never want to turn your back on. If there's audience back here, if there is, it needs to be more of a sidestep. Okay, I'm here and then I'm planting on. Then I'm back to my center, maintaining contact with your focal points with your eyes as well. This is something that takes a lot of practice to maintain its probably more difficult than the hand gestures or the visual focal points. But if you can master this technique, it's going toe. Elevate your public speaking and elevate your presentations. And to an incredible degree, 11. 08 Anchoring: so another really interesting technique that I've seen a lot of people using that I actually use a lot myself, especially when I was teaching, is the idea of using something toe anchor yourself, as I mentioned before. A lot of times I use my fingers interlaced to anchor myself. But this is an incredibly important grounding technique, especially if you suffer from social anxiety because social anxiety gets your mind and your breathing and your heart rate all going out of control. And before long, right? Huh? You can get yourself worked up into a frenzy to where you're not even communicating properly. And that's not what we want. We want. Oh, calm, cool, collected. So grounding techniques are incredibly important. This is a great interlacing our fingers or clasping them in front of us, or even a hand out to the side, while remaining one kind of resting gently against us so that our brains kind of feel that century. That is a great way to self soothe to kind of calm. No, what about using objects I love using objects for in cream? When I was a student teacher, I was so terribly, terribly nervous I was a student teacher and at an inner city high school in Seattle. And I'm I'm I'm not a short woman. I'm 57 almost 58 and I was a college athlete, so I was like, not a small woman by any means. I was strong and capable, but some of those kids I'm not kidding, stood a head taller than me. It was incredibly intimidating. And when you put on top of that, the social anxiety and the public speaking fear that I had yet toe toe learn how to cope with it was a recipe for disaster, and I found great solace in object anchors, so I would walk into class every day. Imagine this is like a Starbucks cup or a a cellphone coffee cup, and I would hold onto this thing, probably white knuckled for dear life. But it gave me such a sense of safety to have something even small that mentally and emotionally I was hiding behind. Now, obviously, the goal of this course and the goal of practicing public speaking in general is to find a way to overcome your fears of public speaking and your social anxieties. But from for many people overcoming completely is a moving target. I mean, I I stand before you as someone who still struggles with social anxiety and with the fear of public speaking. And so for me and maybe for you, it's not gonna be something that we can quickly overcome its more finding tools and techniques that we can use to get to a place where we can move past our fears and and do good work, give good presentations, speak eloquently in our casual conversations or at work where we can do that well, in spite of those fears that still live inside of us. So having something even small to hide behind is, for me very, very comforting, and you may find that as well. So, depending on the professional level of where you work, for example, you may be able to get away with bringing your coffee and in presenting with coffee in hand , now you don't want a to hand clutch it. It's very awkward, OK, but holding it in one hand, setting it down, making a point, picking it up again. You know, it's a little bit more on the casual side, but if you work in a place. They're in a capacity where this is accepted. I highly recommend it. It just it gives for me. It makes me feel like there is a focal point other than myself, for the people that are that are watching the and paying attention to me. And subconsciously, that does, for some reason, relieve a little bit of stress. So if a coffee or a water is on up on option for you, here's another option. Ah, lot of places. If you are giving a presentation, you may have a power point or something like that behind us. Slides. And maybe you have a pen or a laser pointer or something. Okay, this can function like this. It's a lot smaller, but mentally and emotionally it can get the job done. K. It's something for me to hang onto. If you have a little bit of 80 d, write a need to constantly be moving. It's something that you can hold on to to kind of don't drop it. That would distract your audience, but you can use it to distract yourself something to grip somethingto physically hold onto , because sometimes just the the physicality of holding something I can squeeze it if I need to, and that doesn't necessarily translate, you know, as like stress to my audience, because it's something small. But mentally, you know, I can hold it with one finger and squeeze. And that kind of centers me and grounds me, especially if you have taken the time to practice your speaking using this tool or this tool beforehand, because then your brain will automatically acknowledge and associate this with the comfort and safety and relax ation. Another really great option if you have an iPad or a portfolio or something that you're bringing into a meeting, is to use this. Kate. If you're showing things they're holding things or you've you've got on your hip, maybe, and you're know you're using it for notes in many scenarios, using notes is not frowned upon. In fact, it might help keep you on track. We don't want to hide behind a podium because that isn't very confident speaking. But we do. If if you have this and you can keep it with you, you don't want to hunch over it, but shoulders back and down, open hand holding it. We're not holding it like this. It's an open hand holding it. Okay, this is confident and it gives me something to anchor to because I've anchored to it, not just on my hand, but also against my stomach open handed or against my hip open handed. And that helps me feel again like there is something else as a potential point of focus and its grounding. Because I'm I'm here, I'm I'm touching my my midline, even though it's with something, and subconsciously it just feels very centered. So hopefully this helps you, and hopefully one of these tiny techniques will be something that you can grasp onto and practice and use to make your next presentation a little bit less stressful. 12. 010 Dynamic presentatios 2: one final thing that I want to touch on when it comes to giving dynamic professional presentations is the importance of pauses Now. Briefly, in a previous video, I talked about how you want to avoid awkward kind of sentence joiners or trying to fill the empty space in between one thought and another. Often we do this with names or Oz or wells. Or even worse, the uh, I've heard that one before, too. So how do we get away from these awkward fillers? And that's all that they are. They are fillers that fill the gaps between one thought and another when we're not sure where we want to take the conversation next. Unfortunately, you just have to become comfortable with being uncomfortable. OK, it is OK for there to be dead spaces in a presentation. You don't want them to go on for too long. But there is incredible value in taking a pause to let your audience digest what you've just said and to allow yourself the freedom to think through where you want to go next, especially if what you are presenting on has been interrupted by a question or something. Or maybe it's a distraction. Maybe it was an outside phone call. K. If there is a distraction or an interruption and you need that reset time, it is okay to kind of take a step back and give a break. You can, even if if it's an unwanted distraction like let's say you are giving a presentation and to a panel of clients and one of them gets a phone call on house. Leave the room. It's more than okay for you to say who? Let me let me gather my thoughts, guys. You know they will not hold that against you. And if you can make it light hearted, all the better. So, like what I just did there, hands up, kind of indicating pause. I took a breath and I let there be instead of dispelling it with rambling, and I just did it again there and again there. What it does is it allows the cadence of my presentation to take a very calm, very intentional trajectory. And it gives my audience time to really digest the things that I'm saying now, when and how can you use this? You can do it in between words. If you really want to hit something home. Like, if I really, really, really want you to take what I'm saying, you know, into consideration. I can punctuate pauses in between each and every word for dramatic effect. Because why not? It's my presentation. I'm in charge of how it's delivered. Okay, so you can You can do it in between everywhere. You can do it after a complete sentence, and then as you move onto the next sentence, you can pause there, too. It's totally up to you just like that. Or you can pause when you need to take a breath. Because sometimes, especially if you're on a roll on, you're talking really fast and you're getting excited and you're really into the material that you're delivering. Sometimes you do it without taking a breath, and you need to breathe. So what do you do? Ah, you take a deep breath, okay? Or you say you need a drink of water, you pause. It gives yourself a moment to just reset, and there is nothing wrong with that, so make sure that you practice this technique in the mirror, practice it with a camera, watch yourself doing it, give yourself space and time to figure out what naturally works for you because we all speak and present in a different way. My husband is an online educator. He has thousands of students, and the way that he teaches and the way that I teach are dramatically different. The way that we insert pauses into our speaking is completely different, but it works for both of us. So how you work this into to your public speaking style is going to be unique to you. And the only way to figure out what that looks like is to give it a go so cut on now practice and then come on back for the rest of the course. 13. 012 Plan your calls: When it comes to phone communication, many people find that it is just as stressful or anxiety inducing as having an actual face to face conversation, if not more. Why while a lot of it is because when you have an in person conversation with somebody, you are picking up on all of their non verbal cues their facial expressions, their body language, everything that they are doing and saying without actually saying it with their words. And then on top of it, there's their voice. There's the tone that they're taking, the inflection that they're giving words. So you have a little bit of that with a phone call because you are hearing them. But without the context of their body language, it can often be very, very difficult to read the situation and respond appropriately, especially if you are struggling through the anxiety piece of having to communicate and that way to begin with. So what can we do to prepare ourselves and set ourselves up for success when it comes to phone call communication? Well, regardless of if you're making a phone call or if you're discussing and work with a colleague, or if you're talking to a client or talking to a family member. One of the most important things that you can do is to do your research before you dial them up. What does that mean? Well, okay, let's think about this. If you are calling a client, let's say do your research beforehand. Make notes, get a detailed list of everything that you want to talk to him about and also make a secondary list of anything that you think that they may bring up in this call. Let's say that you are a logo designer and you are calling a client to follow up on a round of cops that you sent them. So you decided to make a list of Okay, I want to talk to them and make sure that they received it. Okay, first of all, second of all, if they've received it, I want to know what they thought of them. I want to know which one was their favorite. I want to know what revisions they anticipate having, and I want to know how quickly they can get me the remainder of their feedback so I can get going on this project. OK, that's what I want to know from the smoke all now that's a little bit of interior research and thinking. And let's think about what they may ask. They may ask, How long will it take you to, you know, complete the next round of revisions? They may ask, Hey, I want to add something else of this. How much more will that cost me by thinking through both but what you I need to ask and get out of the conversation and trying to anticipate what they may ask you. Either That goes along with the questions that you come up with their that may be totally from left field. By thinking through things in advance, you will set yourself up for incredible success. It will eliminate a large portion of things that come with the conversation that may surprise you or take you off guard so that you feel prepared. And then you're able to enter into that conversation with confidence, speaking calmly and able to direct that conversation in the way that you want it to go. Now let's say that you are cold calling companies to try to drum up work for your freelance business. Well, you could just pick up the phone, punching a number and hope for the best. Or you could do 10 minutes of research on every company before you call them. You could look at their Lincoln. You could look at their Facebook pages. You could find out as much as you can in a short amount of time about their company culture , their interests, anything that you may need to know that would be relative and relevant information that would help you tailor your communication to their unique interests. Not only will this make you a more successful cold color, but it will also help you tamp down that anxiety that comes with those awkward, unsolicited conversations and will help give you a framework where you can build report with that potential client on at the end of the day, doing your research is just going to make you more prepared, more confident and more able to speak intentionally and professionally over the phone 14. 013 Scripts: Another great way to prepare for phone call conversations is to practice reading scripts now, even though it's incredibly rare that a phone conversation will follow a script exactly to the letter. It is still a very helpful practice because it helps you develop that the tone and the cadence that you want to deliver your side of the conversation so that you're better prepared to interact when it is a actual real life phone call. So in this lecture, you can download a sample script and just work through it. Edit it at it, add to it, adjust it based on your unique industry and your needs, and make sure that you go over it with intentionality. Don't just read through it like this, like you're really bored. No, approach it as if it were a really call. Give life and energy and confidence to your words, because how you practice it is how you're gonna deliver it in real life. So if you don't take it seriously in your practice, you're going to get to that professional moment, and you're not going to know how to deliver it in that realistic, professional way. So I always tell people it is important to practice up to the level of how you want to perform when you are in a real life professional setting. This is another really great opportunity to film yourself as you are reading this, even though you if you're on a phone call, they're not necessarily seeing you. We're seeing more and more where zoom calls and Google hangouts are happening. So it might be nice for you to have the opportunity to film yourself doing more of a scripted situation like this so that you can feel confident when you're faced with those types of interactions, such as a zoom of meeting eso that when when it happens in the real world, you can become and collected knowing that you've practiced for this and you're ready to approach it head on and you're confident with the way that you look on camera with the way that you look on screen and how you are delivering the information that you're sharing with your colleagues or with your clients 15. 014 Practice makes perfect: So I now we have covered quite a bit when it comes to professional communication techniques like parodying how to ask questions to provide the person that you're talking with space to expand on what they're telling you. We have learned how to do power poses and how to use hand gestures. When giving presentations, We learned how to anchor ourselves. So how do we put this all together? Well, at the end of the day, it boils down to giving yourself space and breath to practice now, going back to what we discussed in an earlier lesson about the importance of filming yourself. Okay, once you have developed some of these skills to a point where you felt confident using them , it's time to test them out in the wild. Now that might look like biting the bullet and approaching someone and starting a conversation at at a work function that may look like, you know, raising your hand and offering to give the next presentation at work. Whatever that looks like. Once you have the baseline of these techniques and you've practiced them, it's time to put yourself in a little bit of a of an uncomfortable situation. to test these things out, because until we are able to push the boundaries of what we find comfortable, we won't ever be able to grow beyond a certain point. Sitting here and talking in front of a camera, practicing, you know, reading the script to yourself. Can Onley take you so far, you will never fully develop your skills as a public speaker and as a confident communicator, you're never going to tamp down that stage fright or that social anxiety that you feel unless you are able to put yourself in positions where your comfort zone is tested and where you can put the things that you're learning into real life practice. Another incredibly important thing to do is to practice self reflection after any type of work, communication or presentation or interaction with someone that you know that you've just randomly run into while out and about. It's important to reflect on how it went. You want to make sure to find things about that interaction that you can congratulate yourself about pat yourself on the back for the things that you've done well and, if possible, find one or two tangible things that you can work on moving forward because if you just go blindly from one interaction to the next without ever taking ah, pause to consider what you've done while in what you still need to work on again, you're never going to grow beyond a certain point. And if your end goal is to reduce your fear of public speaking, to reduced the anxiety that you feel when you're put in social circumstances in order to grow beyond that, you have to be able to self reflect and take the time to see what you're doing well and to pay attention to how you can continue to improve.