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1. Introduction: Hello everybody. Welcome
to my new class. This class is all about goals. Goals are what is
driving us in life. Goals are the most
important thing that you need to take care of. You need to have
goals in your life. Some people think when
I'm talking about goals, they think that I'm
talking only about career, about money, about huge things. No, goals are everything. Everything in your
life is a goal. In your personal life,
in your financial life, in your health, everything
in your life can be a goal. Even if you want to spend
a good day, it's a goal. So today in today's class, we're talking only about goals. This class is going
to be in two parts. Part number one is this. One is how to set your goals. How to know what goals exactly you have in which
criteria in your life. How to define your
goals and make them clear in front of your eyes. And then in the next
part, in part two, we will learn how to plan
exactly to your goals. How to plan to reach those goals and achieve them
better in the best way ever. So in today's class, we're only learning about how
to define and set your goals to make them clear and make the
list about your goals.
2. Setting goals: Hello my friend. Okay, let's get started as soon as
we can because it's a very important class and it's a very important thing
for you to learn, okay? Because today we're all about
success and we're all about being good and happy and being the best
version of ourselves. And this will not happen, you will not reach
that without achieving goals or knowing exactly
what you want in your life. Okay, so today
we're talking about how to define goals
and how to set them. We have some steps we
can take to define those goals and set them
clearly in front of your eyes. First thing you need, of course, a notebook or a
paper or something. And you need to
just sit quietly, relaxing, and without
any distractions around. You don't start to do that step when you're
tired, when you're angry, when you're feeling frustrated, when you're feeling sleepy, when you have anybody
talking around you. When you have a lot of things rolling
around in your head, you have a lot of things,
other things to do. You have to be free.
You have nothing to do. You have to be relaxed. You
have to be in a quiet place. You know, just try to set
the mood to clear your mind. We're making a brainstorm
here and we're trying to extract every single thing,
every single thought, an idea in our minds to just put it on a paper and
start to achieve it. Start to work on
it, set the mood, set everything right
before starting. You have your notebook,
you have your pen, and you are now ready to start
What you're going to do, as I said in the introduction,
goals are everything. Goals are everything
in our life, not just career, not just money, not just buying
stuff or anything. You have a lot of criterias in your life that you
can make goals in. Like you have social goals, you have financial goals, you have personal goals, family goals, you
have career goals, you know, everything in
your life can have goals. What I'm asking you to
do right now is just to start to make categories
in your notebook. The first one is
your personal goals, the second one is
your social goals, the third one is your
family goals and so on. Just make the categories of your life which
you have goals in. And then under every category
you have to write down what exactly do you see
that you have in your mind as goals
in this category? For example, in your
personal goals, personal goals category, you
need to learn something new. Maybe new language, a new skill. Maybe learn, maybe
change your lifestyle, maybe work out, you know, whatever you want to
change your life, maybe change a
habit in your life. Whatever you want
to do in your life, whatever you want to
change in your life, in your personal life, you know personally not
in your life in general, because this is
another criteria. If you want to change
something in your family, something in your social life. Now I'm talking about your personal goals,
your personal life. What do you want to
change or achieve, or in your life? Okay? Write down
every single thing, every single thought that you have in your mind
that you want to change or achieve in your personal goals,
in your personal life. And do the same thing at
the other categories. In your social category, in your work category,
financial category. Do the same thing
in each category. Write down every single thing, every single goal and
thought and idea that you have under each category, okay? But while you're doing this, I need you to be cautious
about something, about the mistakes
that we make while we are setting our goals
or thinking about them. There are some mistakes
that we're making in here. First thing, that we're in
a hurry all the time, okay? You are in a hurry to
achieve those goals. And I can say that
most of the goals are not that fast
to be achieved. You need to take your time. If you want to
change something in yourself as a personal goal, you need to take your
time to change it. Same thing at each category. You need to take your time
to achieve those goals. So don't be, uh, you know, don't be in a hurry. Do you know if you
didn't achieve them? So don't beat yourself
up because you didn't do them as fast as you can. No. Take your time. The second mistake you
make is you're not realistic when you're
setting your goals. Because sometimes we set goals
that are not meant for us, that are not suitable for us, they are not for you personally. Be realistic while
setting your goals. Set the goals that are suitable
for you and your life, and your circumstances, and your health and
everything. This leads us. The third mistake that you set goals while you're not
knowing your abilities, know your abilities first
before you set your goals. Some people do set goals that are not suitable
for their abilities. They can achieve
them physically, mentally, they
cannot achieve them. Just be realistic and set the goals that are suitable
for your abilities. Don't do these three
mistakes while setting your goals in every category that you're doing
right now, okay? So now you have
categories and lists of each category with every single goal you
want to achieve in it. This is clear right now. Take your time while
doing this list because you don't have
to do it all at once, at one day, at one time. Because you need to take
your time to extract all the thoughts
and ideas and goals from your mind. So
take your time. Maybe you can take one
day, two days, one week, whatever you need
to set those goals, you just go for it. Maybe you can do every
category in a separate date. Today I'm working in
my personal goals, tomorrow I'm working in my
financial goals and so on. Because it takes a lot
of effort to extract those things and those
thoughts out of my mind. And do that brainstorming.
It takes effort. It takes time, it takes work. Now, for the second step, you need to prioritize
those goals. Each category I have
a list of goals. In these goals, I have urgent ones or most
important ones, and least important ones
and ones that are okay, they are important but they
are not urgent and so on. So I need to
prioritize this list. I need to do the most important
ones in the beginning, you know, not so important next, and then the least
important ones in the end. Because I need to know which goals that I need to work on
right now and which goals. No, I can just work
on them later. Prioritize your list so you
can know exactly where to start and what to take with
you throughout the journey, and then why you're
prioritizing your goals. You need to know two things. Try to classify your
goals into two lists. Long term goals,
short term goals, not every single goal
you can achieve right now and not every single
goal you can achieve later. Okay? So you can know the
deadline of each goal. Write down, classify your
goals into two lists, long term and short term. Long term are the goals
that you need to achieve. But later in your life,
they are in the future. They are taking a lot of time. They're not very
urgent right now. I can start working on them right now, but
they are moving, walking with me
throughout the journey of my life and I can achieve
them in the future. Or they are a lifestyle I can do them while I'm
living the short term. Goals are the goals that are, that need to be
achieved right away. Like your to do list. For example, today
in the morning, I'm making a to do list
for my tasks throughout the day and I need to
work on them today. Or I'm making a to do
list for this week and I need to work on
them in this week. Those are the short term goals. Try to differentiate between the long term goals and
the short term goals. Two lists, put down every
single goal in its place. So now let's take a look
at the whole process. Now You sat down, you made a category for each
criteria in your life. And then under this
category you wrote down a list of goals that is
related to this one. And then in each category, you are prioritizing
those goals. And then at last, you're
trying to classify them. Long term or short term goals. You do this in every
category in your life and every single goal you do
this to it. Because why? It's not very complicated, but it's easier for
you to achieve. You're making a whole picture, a whole image of this
goal to yourself. So it's easier for
you to achieve. It's easier for you
to plan for it. Because it's easier
if I know that goal exactly where it is
when I want to do it. Is it now? Is it later?
Is it in the future? No, it's not in the
future. It's today. I know exactly how
to plan for it, so it's easier for
you to make a plan. Okay. Now you have an
overall view about this, about goals in your life. You set your goals and
they are very clear. You have a clear
image about them. Do this in the appropriate
time you want. You can do it day in one day
in one week, in one month. Do however you want. And then when you're ready
and it's clear to you, we will start next as soon as we can so we can start
planning for those goals. Now I'm leaving you
with this class to just start working
on setting your goals. And then in the next class, we will talk about the planning for those goals and how will you achieve them clearly
and success on them.
Sarah Omar, Psychotherapist
