Glowing with Confidence: Ignite Your Inner Power!

1. Introduction: Welcome to Glowing with Confidence!: Hello and welcome to glowing with confidence, ignite your inner power, transform your life. I am so so excited you're here. I cannot wait to teach everything that's inside this course. This course is designed to truly transform your life and change your relationship with yourself, what you believe is possible, what you believe you're capable of, and the actions that you take once you embody the confident muscle. Once you learn how to be confident, I cannot wait to dive right in. Let's discuss what we're going to cover. Module one is really debunking myths about what confidence is and what confidence is not. There are a lot of misconceptions and there are a lot of things and stories that we've told ourselves our whole lives about why we specifically cannot obtain or grow confidence. Right, so this module is all about shining a light of truth on all of that and gaining a whole new perspective. Module two is I'm going to present to you what real divine confidence truly is. I coined this term I think, although others might have said it as well. Divine confidence. I have a very specific way of looking at confidence. I've been teaching on confidence for years now, and so I cannot wait to share this new approach with you. The way I go about it really seems to click with people and I'm just so excited. Module three is about becoming the confident person. What do we do? How do we become that person? Right? I'm going to give you very specific tools and tips and instructions and walk you through that. Module four is confidence energetics. If you've taken any of my courses or you know anything about me, you know that I love energy work, You know that I love mindset. You know that I love quantum physics and all of that. Every single thing in this world has an energetic frequency. So I want to teach you all about confidence, energetics, and how to tap into them. Then in module five, we're going to talk about the gifts of failure and resiliency. That's really important. Okay, this course is not all glitters and rainbows even though my branding is very pink and sparkly. We go deep and we get to the heart of the matter. Okay, module five is going to be really eye opening. Module six, we're going to talk about the keys to a growth mindset, which is really, really helpful when it comes to confidence. I have an entire course dedicated to success in growth mindset, but I can't talk about confidence without touching on it. Module seven is rising above self doubt. Module seven is, I believe, where you're going to have the biggest Aha moments and breakthroughs. We are trying to not rid ourselves of self doubt because we're human, but how do we rise above it? How do we move even though we feel it? That's what this module is all about. And this is an amazing key that is going to just unlock a part of your life. It's a key that you've been missing. And module eight, Tools for Unshakable Lifelong Confidence. I want to offer you a perspective and an energy shift, and tools and techniques, and a mindset that will set you up for life. Okay? I don't want you to just watch this course or go through this each module and feel good while you take it and then you set it down and it all goes out the other ear. Okay, I want to set you up for lifelong confidence. That's what really sets this course apart. So let me tell you a little bit about me. You're like, who are you? Why are you teaching on confidence? All right. So my name is Juliette Piper. I am a certified life coach and I have experience working with hundreds of happy clients, over 800 as I record this right now. And I'm the author of the book Courageously Creative, which is all about going for your dreams, making your art, bringing your visions forward. And there's a whole chapter dedicated to confidence. And this course really like goes super deep into all of those concepts. I was born and raised in Los Angeles into a very musical and creative family. I became obsessed with songwriting from age seven. I put my music online when I was 15. I've played shows with a lot of acts whose names you will recognize. I'm a composer for Sesame Street. I've had my music placed in all these really cool places. I've booked main stage festival slots. I've had some amazing press and things written about me. And the reason I tell you about this journey is because it takes a lot of confidence to push yourself as an independent artist in Los Angeles. It is not always easy and you really have to believe in yourself. So whether you are moving towards art or moving towards entrepreneurship, or just want to be more confident in your relationships, in your friendships, or at your job, you want to climb a career ladder, okay? I have the background of spending, I'm 32. As I record this from the time I was 15, confidently putting my music on the Internet and manifesting all these amazing things. Okay. I've also run businesses that have been really successful. I'm an entrepreneur in my own right. I'm a CEO of my own operation here. I'm just going to pat myself on the back for a second. What I believe is magical about me and what I want to teach you is that an idea comes into my mind and I do it, I make it happen. And I have the confidence to believe that I can. All of these things are a result of true divine confidence. And I love teaching on it. I love teaching on it. And I love seeing the success of my students and my clients saying, oh my gosh, it clicked. It finally clicked. And I went for this, and I went for that, and I showed up like this. And I took up more space and oh my gosh, my whole life is completely different now. Okay, so we're here to do big things. We're here to have an amazing up level, an amazing time. I'm here to be your cheerleader and your mentor and just I'm going to root for you the whole time and we're going to have an amazing experience together. So let's get started. 2. What Confidence is NOT + Common Myths: Welcome back. Let's get started with module One, What confidence isn't, and common myths. I'm so happy you're here. I'm so thrilled to get started. Let's go through some misconceptions. And you might discover as we go through these that these are some things that you might have thought confidence is, but it is not. Number one, confidence is a feeling, right? We might tell ourselves, if I feel nervous, anxious, or scared, I must not be confident that is incorrect, okay? Feelings come and go. Feelings are normal and natural feelings do not determine how confident we are, not even a little, okay. I hope that that is like, oh, like a bunch of weights off your shoulder. Because I know, personally I go through a lot of feelings. I have plenty of anxious moments, plenty of fear, but confidence is not a feeling confidence. Myth number two is an inherited personality trait, right? Like, well, I was either born with it or I wasn't. We just think that, we think, oh, I'm just not that kind of person. It's not in my DNA wrong. Plenty of extroverted people or people who like the spotlight are not confident and plenty of shy people or wallflower personalities are extremely confident, right? I'm sure we can all think of somebody who falls into both of those categories. Confidence can truly be developed at any time in life, no matter what stage of your life you're in or what age you are you being in this course is perfect, divine timing. Because it's not an inherited personality trait. It's something we can develop and you can develop it at any time. The third myth is that confidence is the same thing as self esteem. I thought this for the longest time I was like it's synonymous, the same Self esteem is thinking positively about yourself. This is not the same thing as confidence. In fact, the need to feel good about yourself all the time can hinder your confidence. You might win more because you lower your standards. Does that make sense? If you need to feel good about yourself all the time, which is self esteem, like feeling good about oneself, you're not going to push yourself. You're not going to challenge yourself. You're not going to confidently walk towards bold new challenges. You're going to stay in this zone where you know you can do something, but that's not confidence. Okay, who Interesting, Right? Okay, here are some more misconceptions. Confidence requires a perfect body, mind, background history, et cetera. I think we've all looked at somebody and thought, well, that must be a very confident person. I mean, look at them, I know I've had a thought like that a time or two, and I'm like, wait, that's not ultimately true. We don't know what's going on in anybody's mind or heart. Confidence has nothing to do with a subjective view of perfection. We've all seen the documentaries of like the star who their life looked so amazing on the outside. And then you really got to know them. And they went through a lot, like Marilyn Monroe comes to mind. Oh right. No one is perfect and no one has a spotless past. And you don't need either of those things to claim your confidence. Okay? You don't need perfection, and you don't need a spotless past flawless mental health, or a flawless, and I'm putting these in quotes, flawless body are not required. We think they are, but they're not. Here's another thing, another misconception. Confidence is something that I have to earn or become worthy of. I'm just not worthy of it yet. I haven't earned it. We need to release this never ending quest for perfect healing and enlightenment. One day I'll just wake up and all my problems will be gone. One day I'll wake up and I'll be 100% healed and 100% enlightened. And nothing will ever bother me ever again. Okay. There are some people who achieve is not the word, pursue that. That is your choice. If that's something you want to pursue. For me and my experience with confidence to release that and say, you know what, I'm not perfect. I'm not perfectly enlightened. I'm not perfectly healed. I'm a human being. I'm an imperfect, beautiful, magical mess. But I am inherently worthy. I was born worthy and deserving. So were you, Is every single human being on this Earth born worthy and deserving? You can tap into that feeling starting today. There's nothing more you have to do or prove to yourself to be worthy. Okay. That was just clicked in a part of you when you were born, they said, we're going to make this person's heart beat and they're going to breathe and they're worthy. That's how I believe we were made in the spiritual realm. Okay. Confident people are arrogant, self centered, and obnoxious. It's like this is a different conversation. But when we talk about money and we say, oh, well all rich people are greedy, all people who want money are evil. Like there's like these negative things we say about money and people who have money, well, why would we ever want to be like that kind of person? We're like repelling that idea from us, right? And then we're like, oh, that's funny, my income never increases. But at the same time I'm saying all these negative things about people who have money. Like our subconscious is listening. So if you're saying things about confident people like they're just arrogant, they're obnoxious, they're self centered, you're going to repel confidence. You're not going to want to be like that. But the truth is that true confidence is pretty quiet, insecurities are allowed. Okay? True confidence is quiet, insecurities are allowed. You need to create a new belief about what confident people are and what confident people behave like. Confident people are helpful, confident people are kind, confident people are generous. Confident people change the world in wonderful ways, okay? Because this limiting belief keeps us playing small. Because we're like, oh, I don't want to be like that person. But deep down, do you do want to be confident or you wouldn't be here? Right? We all want to be confident. We all want more of that. What positive things can you say about confident people so that you can be more attracted to that rather than repelling it? I have two more misconceptions, okay? Confident people never have stage fright, anxiety, or fear. What you are describing is a robot, okay? Confident people feel this way, but they still show up and they still take action. And that is the secret. That's what makes them confident. Not that they don't have stage fright, they don't have anxiety, they don't get scared. They don't have a meltdown once in a while, they just get up and they show up. That's all confident, people are great at faking it till they make it. I have some mixed feelings about this phrase. Okay, I think fake it till you make it when used in the right context is great advice. However, I want to talk about it from the angle of true confidence, does not require that you fake anything. You can be honest and vulnerable in your experience. You don't have to say I'm not s you can say, oh, I'm terrified, but I'm moving this direction, horrified. I want to vomit, but we're going that way. Right? I want you to not fake it. I want you to be honest and vulnerable in your experience and be real and true to you. The confidence is about moving. I'll tell you in module two what it really is and how you can really harness its power. Here's a beautiful journal question for you. What old beliefs about confidence are serving me? Look back at these misconceptions. Did any of them really light up in your mind, Like, oh, I've been thinking that, is that a helpful belief, Is that really serving me, Right? Take a moment, ponder on it, do some journaling, and I will see you in module number two. 3. What True "Divine" Confidence Really Is: We are here, We're going to dive right into module number two. The big question, what is real Divine Confidence? Let's find out what it truly is, one of my favorite topics in the whole world. Okay, divine Confidence is a skill. It's a skill that can be developed and strengthened just like a muscle. It's the willingness to try to take risks and to act in the face of uncertainty. It's the inner trust that you will figure it out and find a way no matter what. It's the soul level, belief and deep knowing that you can do and create anything you dream of and that you are worthy of whatever that dream is. I want you to notice a few things about these four bullet points, okay? None of them have anything to do with perfection, with personality, with inherited traits, with looks, with how we're feeling, our changing emotions. True confidence can be chosen and attained by anyone. I want to talk about the skill, and I'll talk about it more on the next slide. But think about that phrase, like a muscle. Okay? The first time you go to the gym, I'm on a little fitness journey right now. And the first time I went to the gym, I was so weak. Just objectively weak. Okay, I couldn't lift anything. And what it took to get to where I am now, which is not a body builder or anything, but I could lift some heavier things. It had to be built up over time. It took me showing up and doing the work and taking the action. I didn't just think my way to stronger arms. I had to go in three or four times a week, do the same things, right? Remember, confidence is that skill and it's that willingness to, it's that willingness to try. Let me break down these things even further. Okay, let's talk about confidence as a skill. I want you to take confidence off of a pedestal and view it as a skill. Decide it is as possible to master as any other skill that you once learned. Like tying your shoes. Like learning to crawl. Learning to walk. Writing your name, learning to read, a skill. Okay, I think we all imagined as little children, I'll say most of us that I will learn to tie my shoes. I will learn to crawl. I will learn to write my name. Okay, confidence is no different. It is like tying your shoes. But it is just a different type of skill set. It is possible for you to gain this skill, the muscle that we're trying to build in the same way that you would build our muscle, leg, muscle. I'm not being specific, there are names for the muscles, but the muscle we're trying to build here is feeling the fear and taking action anyway. Feeling imperfect and taking action anyway, feeling not ready and taking action anyway. Knowing failure is an option, but taking action anyway. Your journal question for this is, where can I be more, where can I take more brave action in my life? I want to talk about feeling the fear. There are so many times in my life where I feel fear before I go on stage, before I go live in any capacity on any of the different social media platforms, I get a little nervous. This is normal, but I still show up. Okay, Feeling imperfect, you can't see on my screen. But I struggle with some acne and it drives me bananas. I just made a decision a long time ago that I was still going to show up. I've got imperfect skin and I'm showing up. Okay. I also have an imperfect lighting set up today. I don't have the ring light, so I have these two emergency flashlights on a cup. That's what we get today because I was determined and excited to show up and teach, feeling not ready, taking action anyway, knowing failure is an option. I don't know how many people will enroll in this class. It might be two people, it might be 2000. I have no idea. But I'm teaching it because I want to. Okay, this is the muscle, this is the muscle. And I want you to see that it is built up over time by little practical actions, little practical steps, little motions every day. The more we do this, the better we get at it. There is no way to become more confident without taking brave action. I'm going to read that again. There is no way to become more confident without brave action. That's the ticket. You have to learn to ride the bike or swim before you're confident in it. You can't just wait to be good at swimming without getting in the water. Right. You have to learn to ride the bike. You have to practice riding the bike. You have to fall off the bike. Sometimes you have to practice swimming. Take the lessons where the float is, right. Things go in steps. You can't just think about swimming and then be good at swimming. You can't think about skateboarding and be like a pro skateboarder. You have to get on the board and fall off 1 million times. You have to view it all as a skill confidence. As a skill confidence as a willingness to try. Are you willing to take risks? Confidence is built as we move. Despite the uncertainty, nothing is certain. Nothing is certain. We can't wait for that. Okay? The outcome is not guaranteed, but we still start nonetheless, whether we're learning something new, starting a new job, going on a date, making our art, building a business. Are you willing to take risks? Are you willing to try? Are you willing to, even though there's no guarantee that you're going to get exactly what you're setting out to get, right? I believe you're going to get close or something even better or you'll learn something along the way. It's all good. But are you willing to take the risk? Are you willing to be a beginner? Are you willing to feel clumsy or look or feel bad? Confident people trust their timing and find joy in the journey. Okay, this totally ties back to that self esteem myth where confidence and self esteem are the same. They're not, self esteem wants to feel good all the time. This is how I feel about myself and I feel good because I know how to open this glass. This case, look, I'm so good at it and I know how to write my name. I'm so good at it. Oh, do you want to try rock climbing? No, I'm bad at that. Are you willing to be a beginner knowing that everyone begins as an amateur, is huge? Are you willing to be a beginner in your confidence journey? Do you mind wobbling as you practice the skill of confidence and the skill of anything else? Any other area of your life where you want to grow? Can you release the need to compare? Okay, because everyone is on their own journey. Truly, we're all farther and behind and indifferent. It's like none of it matters. You just have to compare yourself to yourself. The rest is irrelevant then, are you willing to fail? Did you just cringe? Does nothing sound worse to you? We have a whole section on failure in this course, but I want you to start thinking about your beliefs around failure and how those beliefs may be standing in the way of your confidence. We grow up, I'll talk about it more later in a school system, at least where I grew up in the United States, where the worst thing you can do is fail, Then you grow up and you learn that actually sometimes the best thing you can do is fail. Because you don't learn things, it's natural to fail. You have to fail at walking before you can walk. As a little toddler, you have to fail at reading before you become great at reading. Like everything requires that amateur stage. Everything requires that beginner era and that era of mistakes. Are you willing to fail? Confidence as a willingness to try, and confidence as a willingness to fail. That might be huge for some of you watching this. I'm feeling like the breakthroughs. And then finally, I'm sorry, confidence as trust and as a belief, can you trust 100% that you're the kind of person who can figure it out and find a way. But can you really plug into that feeling, you know what, if it's possible for anyone, It's possible for me. I'm the person. I'm just that kind of person. I will figure it out, I will find a way and I'll tell you what. Okay? I've tripped and I've stumbled and I've messed up so many times and all the things I've tried to do in different ways, but I'm so determined that I'm the kind of person who can figure it out and find a way, which is why I never quit. Which is why I keep going forever and never, never. It's not even a question. Okay, Let me tell you this about yourself. You are the kind of person who makes magic happen. If it's possible for anyone, it's possible for you in the sweetest way ever. You're not special and I'm not special. We're all special, but you're not special. If we're all special, we're also all not special. Right? This can be decided starting today. Your past does not determine your future. Releasing limiting beliefs is huge. We will get into that. Knowing that you are wholeheartedly worthy of your desires. We will also get into that more too. I want you to reflect back on the past three slides. Grab a journal and reflect what part about this new paradigm of confidence speaks to you the most. Was it the willingness to fail? Was it the willingness to be a beginner? Was it the fact that it's a skill? I'm so excited to see what comes to your heart and what really stood out to you. And I will see you in module number three. 4. Becoming the Confident Person: Let's dive into module number three, Becoming the Confident Person. There are some things that will help you become that person and establish that identity. And the very first thing is that the confident person knows what they want. You know what you want in both big and small ways, unapologetically, boldly and with crystal clear clarity. Okay? In every area, the confident person knows where they're going. They know what they want life to feel like. They who they want to be, they know what they want to create, they know what they want to build, They know what they want to do. If you are a little fuzzy on those things, okay, it is just as important to know what you don't want. Start there. Start out by writing a list of what you know for sure you do not want. It will help you get more clarity on what you do want. If you know for sure you don't want to earn X amount per hour or you don't want to work this many hours a week or you don't want to work for somebody else or you don't want to hide your art away, or you don't want to have 12 children. Right. Like what do you sure not want? You can practice confidence by making fast decisions at restaurants. This totally changed my life. I growing up was the most indecisive person. It would pain me to make decisions. And then I learned that successful, confident people make decisions quickly, even small decisions. And I thought, oh, well, I would like to be more successful and more confident, so I'm going to practice that. I would go to a restaurant and instead of just being so stressed out over this menu, wow my God, what do I pick? I mean, that was always my dilemma. I would just make a choice. I want that right there. And then usually I would like it. Okay. Trust that in theory, you can't make the wrong choice. There is a life coach whose name I can't remember. I feel like, oh, it's Katrina Ruth. Katrina, Ruth. She talked about not making the wrong choice, just believing in herself so much that she just can't make the wrong choice. That even if she made a choice that made her roof collapse in, maybe there were rubies and diamonds and emeralds in the roof and she would be all the more wealthier with all these gems. I love that idea. I can't make the wrong choice. That's not saying that we don't hold ourselves accountable and we don't notice when we've made mistakes and we don't grow from them. But it just lightens this heaviness we feel around decision making. I can't make the wrong choice. I want you to ask yourself, okay, I want you to journal on this. What is my soul calling me to do? Who is my soul calling me to be? Where can you practice making confident decisions? These are huge questions. Maybe you've never sat down and answered them. From this angle, I think a lot of times we ask ourselves, what do I want? What do I want? What do I want? But ask yourself, who is my soul calling me to be? What does my higher self look like? What do they want me to bring forward in this life? What legacy do I want to leave? What stories do I want my grandkids to tell about me in my life? Okay, what is my soul calling me to do? Your soul and your heart, not your brain, not your logic, but like deep in the core of you, the confident person knows what they want. It's okay. Like I said, if you don't know the answers to these questions right now, but start thinking about them, be willing to try, be willing to build the muscle. The confident person trusts their desires. They know their desires are safe, guidance and they follow those desires. Okay. What you want isn't an accident. I don't believe your desires have been placed in your heart to trick you or tease you. I don't believe that your vision of being more visible and more bowls and all these things you want to be. It's not like life dangling a carrot that you'll never catch up to. It's a blueprint for what your highest self wants to do and create. When I realized that my desires were safe to trust, oh my gosh. The whole world opened up. I think a lot of us grow up in a situation with teachers or family members who are well meaning. But when we say I want to be this, I want to do this, I want to be an ice skater, I want to work for Nasa. Like whatever the thing is, they say, oh, that's too hard, that's not possible, that, don't do that, that's not logical. I want you to come back home to who you were as a little child and what you wanted more than anything else. I want you to know that those desires you had then and the desires you have now that maybe you're not willing to admit to yourself yet that you still have are safe guidance. My desires have guided me to some beautiful places including teaching this course. I desired deeply to teach on confidence. I'm so happy I'm here with you right now. Our deepest desires can lead us to lives of abundance and fulfillment if we are willing to follow them. Who do you look up to? Okay, Who do you just idolize? Not in a dehumanizing way, but in a way where you say, gosh, that person's story inspires me so much. It's typically a person who had impractical desires. It's typically somebody who trusted those desires. I just saw the Era's movie in theaters, Taylor Swift's Era's concert in theaters. I thought this little girl, when she was a little girl, knew exactly what she wanted and exactly who she came here to be. She went for it and she trusted it. Look, many people love her. And how many people are inspired by her and how fulfilled she is? Oh my gosh. Right. Here's a question. Another one I really want you to sit with and journal on, What are my deepest desires and dreams? What do I desire without judgment? I would even add, am I giving myself permission to follow those desires? This is where confidence comes in. We know who we are and we know what we want, and we move in that direction. We practice that like a skill and we build it like a muscle over and over and over. It's never perfect, but we keep showing up day after day. We trust that our desires are safe. This is that topic of inherent worthiness that I mentioned. But now we're going to go even deeper. The confident person knows they are inherently worthy. There is no dream life if we don't believe we are worthy of it. When you believe you're worthy of it, you signal to the universe God life. Fill in the blank. Your own word that even on your hardest days, your soul level confidence is unwavering. I love this image of a little orb that when you were born, that orb of confidence that or wesson worthiness was placed inside of you, 100% worthy. Nothing can touch it. It's impermeable. No failures, no mistakes. None of that takes away from how worthy you are and how worthy you were the second you were conceived. You know who you are and what you're available to do, Try and receive. There are a few things more powerful than your belief in yourself. It is a radical act of self love. A radical act of self love. To say, I want this. Not only do I want it, but I believe I'm worthy of it. Does that make you cringe a little bit? Do you feel cringy saying I'm worthy of my every last dream? Okay, that's a great place to start. If you feel cringy around that, start saying that to yourself over and over. I'm 100% worthy. I'm inherently worthy. I'm in the process of believing that I am inherently, completely and wholeheartedly worthy. It's the attitude of me. Okay, I ask myself that all the time. Okay. Something I'm currently working through. I'm 32. I thought I would have a big music career by, I don't know, 23. Right. I set up this little time line for myself. I'm still pursuing it. I'm still going, I think, well, most people don't hit it big in their '30s or whatever limiting belief I have. Why not? Why not? It's possible, right? There is no pie in the sky and there's no hard, fast written rule that says you can't have it. And there's no rule that says I can't have it. There's no rule. More journal questions. There's a lot of journal questions in this course, okay? We get to the heart of it and then this is the part where you really need to sit down and reflect on these questions, because that's where the biggest breakthroughs happen. Do you fully believe that you are worthy of living a life of your wildest dreams? Then what do you think would make you more worthy? Make your list and then go to every single one and cross it off. I'm actually worthy right now, I'm actually worthy right this second. Okay. The confident person does not play small. The confident person takes up space. This is another thing that takes a little practice. Don't be hard on yourself if you can't just go from like the size you feel right now energetically, Maybe a little scrunched up to as big as your whole state or country, right? That's a huge jump. We want to move a little bit every day. We are not going to downplay our brilliance, our beauty, our gifts, our talents, or our dreams anymore. It's good to be humble. We want to be kind and humble. But no more downplaying. No more downplaying. We're not going to water down fancy champagne with tap water anymore. You are the fanciest champagne on the shelf. You are the special occasion champagne that they've been wanting to bring out for 20 years. We're not pouring tap water in it M. There is infinite space in the universe and infinite space online. Think about your social media profiles. You could post 100 posts a day. You could go live 20 hours out of the day. You could take up literally as much space as humanly possible. And it doesn't take away from anybody else. And what they're able to post on their profile, the universe, energetically, is the same way. I can go big, you can go big. We don't have to play small anymore. We don't have to downplay our brilliance and our beauty, and our gifts, and our talents and our dreams. And on Tiktok, just like on Instagram or whatever platform is popular, as you're watching this right now, it doesn't take away from anybody else. Your radiance does not take away from anyone else's. In fact, the more you shine, the more others are inspired to shine. Think about those who go big and who have been an inspiration to you. The people that inspire you are going big. People who are living a mediocre life or are playing really small are not lighting you up inside. You might love them, you might be family or friends with them, like adore the time you spend with them. But they're not inspiring you. It's the people who go big and take up space that inspire you. Again, in the same vein of your radiance does not take away from anybody else's. In fact, you shine to go big. You have no idea the butterfly effect that can happen when people look your way and get inspired. This is not about being loud or showy, unless you like being loud and showy, okay? It's about honoring who you are and what you love and your miraculous life, Whether your passion is parenthood, or raising chickens, or growing a business or needlepoint, or flying airplanes or playing a sport. Take up space, shine your light, go big. A beautiful exercise I love is just visualizing aura. Your energy field, which we all have an energy field. Everything has an energy field pushing out as big as the edges of the room you're in. See how that feels. And then push it to the size of the house that you're in. Then push it to the size of the city that you're in, and then the state, and the country, and the world. And push it out to Venus, and Neptune and Mars. And just feel what that feels like to take up more space. And realize that there's all these infinite layers overlapping. You're not interfering with anybody else. You're not the confident person and this is huge, okay? Takes action and risks. Arrogance, which you are not arrogant is all talk confidence moves. I'm going to say that a lot because we can think about confidence, we can talk about confidence. You can take a course about confidence. Hello, here you are. But you got to move. You got to be bold. Your hands can be shaking and your heart can be pounding. But if you take an action step forward, that is true confidence. What moves do you know? Deep down you need to make? I want you to put that in your journal and reflect on that. The confident person is resilient when faced with defeat. They know they'll figure out another way. Their failures do not define them. They embrace the lessons of life. They get back on the horse. They're not afraid to let others see them fail. I'm going to say that one again. They are not afraid to let others see them fail. I am willing to be seen trying. It is a beautiful thing to be seen trying. That is a confident state of mind. They know that their bravery inspires others. Where can you be more resilient in your life? Where can you decide that when it doesn't work out the first time? It's not a sign that it's not meant for you or that you should quit. Where can you be more resilient and get back up again? How can you be unafraid to let others see you fail? This is heavy, right? These are big questions. I'm going to let you do some journaling and I will see you in module four. 5. Confidence Energetics: Hello, welcome back. Let's get started on module number four, Confidence Energetics. This is going to be a really unique approach to confidence, and I think you're really going to love it. Let's talk energetics. I love this subject. I integrate it into everything I teach. Everything is energy. We have subatomic particles in our bodies. In this table, this microphone, There's subatomic particles. Everything is made of atoms. Inside the atom. The smallest we can zoom into ourselves. Inside the atom, we have a proton, a neutron, and an electron. But what's inside this atom is 99.9 9999 9% space, which is energy. Okay, Why is this important? Because our energy is everything. It makes up 99.99 9999, 99% of who we are. I know that it can be a little woo woo to talk about energy, but it's what we scientifically are. If you took the whole human population and you sucked out of us, just the particles, just the matter, we would all fit in a sugar cube. A 7 billion of us isn't that wild. The rest of it is energy. When we embody confidence, it has a particular energy or vibration. We all know the feeling when a confident person enters the room. They feel larger than life, they just feel different. We know that when we're feeling that energy of confidence, it just has a particular vibration energy. This vibration is available to all of us and I'm going to teach you how to tap into it. But just like for one more second, can we take a moment and just recognize that you are 99% energy? I am 99% energy. Everything is. And so how we take care of our energy, how we lead with our energy, really matters. Here are some subtle yet powerful energy shifts words carry energetic vibrations as well as everything does this will shift your energy. Okay? Saying things like why me instead of why not me? Do you feel the difference of that? Do they like me versus do I like them? I don't belong in this room. I belong here looking down. Bad posture versus chin up and shoulders back. Let's talk about posture for a second. There's some true science in this. When we slouch and have our head down, we are signaling something to our brain that is very different than when our chin is up and our shoulders are back. Even if we put our arms in this Wonder Woman, Superman position are like self confidence spikes. Okay? It sends a signal I don't fit in versus my differences are my greatest asset. I love my differences. I failed versus I was brave. I took a risk, I tried and I learned. I'll wait until I feel perfectly ready versus let's do the thing. I'm staying in my comfort zone versus I'm going to go play in the Unknown. My situation is everyone else's fault versus I take responsibility for where I can grow. I take responsibility where I can and I grow. I can't ever be wrong versus I am always excited to learn from others. Other people's success takes away from my own versus if she can have it, I can have it. If they can have it, I can have it. And I'm not enough versus I am more than enough. I'm inherently worthy, different energy. When you say these things to yourself on the left side, it's a normal human thing. You may have been saying it to yourself for years. Give yourself so much love and grace. If you catch yourself saying it like, oh, that's so interesting. I just noticed that I said that to myself. Okay, I'm going to shift the energy. I belong here. I belong here, I belong here. I'm willing to believe that I belong here. Energy shifts, I want you to remember that confidence is a skill and it's a muscle that we're going to work on constantly. Not even if, When you think a less empowering thought, Give yourself grace. Like I just said, we're human, we're not robots. Thoughts will float through. If we've had a repeating pattern of telling ourselves something for years, it's going to take a little time to rewire it. Most of our thoughts are out of our control. This will always happen. The goal is not to be unkind to ourself. When we think these thoughts, like how dare you say that, right? Just notice them and say that didn't feel good. I don't like the energy that that gives off. I'm going to now tap into my new truth and repeat this new truth to yourself. Repetition. That's the secret. That's how we change our life and our mind. We repeat, because that's how we learn something in the first place. Something was repeated to us over and over and over again. Think about being a kid, like chew with your mouth closed. Chew with your mouth closed. Don't kick the seat in front of you, like in a car, in an airplane. Wherever we sit down, sit down. Have good posture, like we're told things over and over and over and over and over, and then we learn them. Whatever age you are, you got to start repeating these new things to yourself. Because that's how we shift our energy. Practice feeling it in your body, practice feeling it. I'm going to go back for a second. What does it feel like in your body to say instead of, I don't fit in? My differences are my greatest assets. My differences are my greatest assets. I'll talk about mine specifically for a second. I'm a singer, but I cannot sing like Ariana Grande or Mariah Carey or Adele. I cannot belt, I cannot hit big notes. And these are not limiting beliefs. This is just my range at the moment. Okay? But my differences are my greatest assets. My differences are my greatest assets. I actually like that. I have a really beautiful, sweet, folky tone. I actually love like how do you take your differences and make it your greatest asset instead of being so sad that you don't have what this person has, that you don't fit in the way you think you should fit in. How can I say to myself, I take responsibility where I can and I grow instead of, it's everybody else's fault, it's everybody else's fault, right? Practice feeling that in your body. If you feel a ton of resistance. If you're like no, that is absolutely not true. I don't believe this. I feel like a liar saying it to myself. That's when you start saying, and you've heard me say it throughout the course. I am in the process of believing that if she can have it, I can have it too. Repetition, repetition, repetition. This is how we rewire our subconscious mind for confidence. Repetition, action, repetition, action. I want to talk about the abundance mindset, particularly compared to a scarcity mindset. Confidence by nature operates on an abundance frequency. Like I just said, if she can have it, I can have it. I can take up all the space in the world. And it doesn't take away from anybody else because there's an abundance of infinite energetic space. The energy of abundance is filled with possibility expansion, Magic. Scarcity is very different. Most human beings are living in a scarcity mindset. It was taught to us at some point or another. Most of us spend a lot of our lives trying to switch to the abundance mindset. It's a task, but you can do it. How would it feel to live by these rules? There is enough for everyone. There's more where that came from, I am only in competition with myself. I trust my time line. Another opportunity will always come around. My potential is limitless and I believe I can figure out anything I set my mind to. I am a miracle with infinite potential like everyone else. Oh, did you feel that in your heart? I felt that in my heart. That is confidence. That is abundance. That there's more than enough to go around. That is, I can be big, I can go big, and so can everybody else. I don't have to hide in the shadow, so somebody else can shine. I've worked a lot of jobs where I played a supporting role, where I specifically worked for women who were the star. I've been an assistant, I've been a nanny. I worked in sales under a big designer. I've played small. And I'm not saying that a job title like that means you inherently have to play small. I could have been my big, wonderful self in that position, but I shrunk down. Okay, I want you to know that it is safe for you to take up space and be big and have this abundance mindset. Part of this course includes a beautiful confident goddess meditation, which is an opportunity to raise your frequency and your vibration and to rewire your subconscious mind. Like we said with repetition, I would recommend listening to this over and over and over. Okay. I would listen to it every night before you go to bed or whenever you feel inspired. There's no wrong way to do this work. What matters is that the information in this course and the energy of this course clicks for you. You could listen to the meditation once twice, 1 million times. Never. What really matters is that you understand what confidence is and that it's a muscle you're willing to build. It's a skill you're willing to work towards. And it's a willingness to try and go bigger. And that's what we're here to do. I'll see you in module number five. Please enjoy the meditation. 6. The Gifts of Failure and Resiliency: Welcome back. It is time for module number five, which is the gifts of failure and resiliency. I'm talking a lot in this course about being willing to try and willing to fail. And willing to build that muscle. And it's really important that we talk about failure in this new context, as well as skills to develop resiliency. Failure is our big F word, right? It seems so scary until you start to do it often and you realize that we hype it up in our mind, we think, oh my gosh, it's going to be a disaster. The entire world is going to watch me fail. It's going to be a nightmare. It will be breaking news until the end of time. But really what happens is we process the emotions of things, not going to plan, and then we get back up again with new lessons learned. That's all failure is. You're allowed to be disappointed. You're allowed to be upset. You're allowed to feel human feelings when you fail, but you process those emotions of things not going to plan. And you get back up and you have new lessons and new wisdom, and you move on and you keep going confidently in the direction of your dreams. Where does this come from? Why are we so afraid of failure? Well, can you think of any worse feeling than failing a test in high school? Like to fail was just the worst. The worst, right? We're taught, we're taught that it's this terrible fate and it's on our permanent record and all these things. But failure, And really listen to me when I say this, Failure is the best thing we can do. Confident people fail often. Here are some quotes that I love about failure. The first one is Thomas Edison. I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again. This time more intelligently, that's Henry Ford. Winston Churchill says success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm. I would also argue that confidence is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm. And J. K. Rowling says it is impossible to live without failing at something unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all. In which case you have failed by default. But you are a confident person, okay. You're going to live, you're going to live big. That's what we're here to do. I want us to reframe this failure. I want us to reframe it. Reframe it. Reframe it instead of running from failure. Let's be proud of our failures. Is there anything more epic than stories of all the times you took risks and you tried? I like to think about people who've had wild love stories versus never letting anyone in. I will not get into those stories of mine. That is for a different time. Okay. But I'm definitely on the wild love story side. Same thing with chaotic travel adventures versus staying in one place. Of course, not everybody has the means to travel around the world. I'm just listing examples. Auditioning for a role versus never trying, because what if you get rejected? You know what happens if you get rejected? You get rejected, that's what happens. And then you audition for something else. And yes, you feel down for a little bit, or you feel sad, you feel bummed out. And then you move through it, you process it, and you stand back up again, running from failure to being proud of failure. Say it with me, ready? I am so proud of all the times I've failed. Because it means that I tried. I am so proud. I have learned so much from all my failures. My failures are the coolest thing about me. Isn't this so different than what you grew up hearing? Confident people know that their failures don't define them. Confident people know that their failures define them. Confident people who fail have invaluable wisdom and lessons that others don't be. The person who moves and who slips and who trips and who falls and who gets back up and who wobbles And oh my gosh, the lessons and the wisdom and the knowledge that you're going to have. Confident people who fail know that it's just a chore. It is not the final destination. Confident people know that the worst fate is never trying. That is everybody's biggest regret at the end of their life that they should have spent more time with family. That they were too worried that other people thought about them and that they didn't go for the thing they really wanted. I think they've done studies. I think it's like those three things. Is it really a failure if you spent your whole life doing what you love? Think about that for a second, right? Because this could be my story too. I could have my music out in the world and only however many people discover it. And I don't get to do a tour at a giant stadium or whatever, right? Is it really a failure? If I spent my whole life doing what I love, is it really a failure? Isn't that the whole point? Doesn't this perspective make failure less scary? I want you to revisit this particular slide every time you fail, I want you to imagine that I'm giving you a huge hug and patting you on the back and saying you're doing the thing, you're doing it, you're doing it. A lot of people aren't doing anything that they want to do, but here you are. Resilience, if you can choose to be anything, be brave and resilient. This is a huge component of confidence. It's the ability to dust yourself off and get back up again. There was a toy called a Weeble. I don't know if we still have Weeble when I was a little kid. Weebles, wobble, but they don't fall over. It's this little jingly that has a round bottom. And you can push it and it'll tip, but it always gets right back up. Okay, you're able, we're all weeble, decide to be a Weeble. Resiliency is another muscle that builds over time and helps you become more confident. They feed into each other. Like I've said this whole time, feel what you need to feel. Do not bypass your emotions. Let it be disappointing. Let it be a bummer. Have a good cry, because being confident and being resilient is not about being numb, or stoic or unaffected. It is about crying your eyes out and then getting back up. I have lost count of my failures, and that is why they are less of a big deal over time. I probably fail ten times a week and I don't even notice because I'm always trying things and I'm always failing, and then I'm always succeeding. And then I'm always learning, and then I'm always readjusting. Right. This is a side note, but I put it in here. They remember your wins. People don't remember all the times you stumble. They remember your success. They remember the come up story, okay? Nobody's staring at us the way that we think they are. Be so brave and be so resilient that you lose count of your failures. That feels so good to say. I want to share with you some confident affirmations regarding failure. If this is still something that you feel some blockages around or some tension around these affirmations that you can, again, repeat to yourself are going to be really helpful. It is safe for me to fail. And feel free to put your hands to your heart and close your eyes and listen as I read these, okay? And just take deep breaths. It is safe for me to fail. It is safe for me to get it wrong. It is safe for me to be rejected. It is safe for me to have to start all over. It is safe for me to be seen trying. I am proud of my failures. I am proud of my attempts. I am proud of my resilience. I am proud of my bravery. I am proud of my determination. I am proud of my authenticity. I am proud of my vulnerability. I can rise up and overcome anything. Just let that flutter through your heart for a moment. I will see you in module number six. 7. The Keys to a Growth Mindset: Welcome back. We are moving forward into module number six. We're going to talk about the keys to a growth mindset. This is huge game changing stuff and will really help your confidence grow. What is a growth mindset? A growth mindset is something that was coined by researcher Carol Dweck. It means that you thrive on challenge and you don't see failure as a way to describe yourself, but as a springboard for growth, for developing your abilities. Failure is an experience to learn from. It's not an adjective. You're not saying anymore. I'm a failure. I'm a failure. No, I just experienced a failure. See how different that is? You believe that your talents and your intelligence can grow. You also believe your confidence can grow. You believe that things can grow and evolve. You believe in your ability to become better. Through your efforts, you believe you can learn new information and take action To do so, you engage in incremental baby steps to improve yourself. And you focus on trying new things without fixating on the outcome. That's a hard one for a lot of us, we want to win and succeed at every single thing we do and not get out of the park. But it's such a beautiful growth mindset to enjoy the journey and you keep trying, even when you have challenges, you just being in this course signals to me that you have a growth mindset. Or that you are ready to have a stronger growth mindset because you want to learn and you want to grow. There's this amazing thing that happens called neuroplasticity inside of our beautiful brains. It's basically the process where the brain can change and grow over time. When exposed to new things, neurons light up and create new connections. And this is possible through new experiences. When we prioritize a growth mindset, when we believe that we're capable of growing and improving and making effort. And that failure is just something we go through, not a final destination or any indication of who we are. At an identity level, our brain grows. Our brain continues to grow. It doesn't just stop growing. It might if we never give ourselves an opportunity for challenges and new experiences. But you are here for a new challenge and a new experience growth mindset. First is fixed mindset. The fixed mindset is going to say, this is just who I am. It's just who I am. Oh, I'm just not confident. Oh, I'm just not a good public speaker. Just who I am. Sound familiar. It's limiting. It doesn't want to be challenged. It gives up easily. It's like period, this is who I am. I'm not good at it, period. No room for growth. Your talents and abilities are fixed. I'm just bad at this. I'm just bad at social media. I'm just bad at business. I don't know. I'm just bad at whatever. Right? It's all about the outcome and there's no room for improvement. It feels threatened by the success of others. It runs from error. It always wants to look right and smart. It ignores negative feedback, even when it's useful. It avoids new experiences because they don't want to fail. They want the self esteem to be consistently reinforced. I'm always good at this, I'm good at this, I'm good at this, I'm good at everything. We don't become confident through a fixed mindset. It's like locking yourself in a room and throwing the key out the window from a very tall floor and thinking you're going to get down the stairs like you've locked yourself in a room. This fixed mindset is where a lot of times people are in their confidence journeys. I'm just not confident, just not who I am, not me. Okay, this is what we are going to rise out of, the growth mindset, which is like a confidence mindset says I can figure out anything. Oh, it's challenging. Okay. But I'll figure it out. Oh, that didn't work. That failed. That's okay. I'll try another way, because that's just who I am. It's fixed about a positive statement, right? That's just who I am. I figure things out, it's freeing, it perseveres in the face of failures. Talents and abilities can be developed. I'm learning to play piano. I'm learning to be more confident. I'm learning to be more resilient. I'm learning to take more brave action. I'm learning to take up more space. The focus is placed on the process. You find inspiration in others success and vice versa. Your success inspires others. You lean into your errors with a desire to correct and improve and grow. You accept feedback as a way to learn. You embrace novelty with the desire to master new skills. You like being challenged to grow. This is the growth mindset. It just feels so different. This is like confidence energetics in action. Here's how we're going to shift to the growth mindset. It's a lot about these confident energetics, right? Everything has energy. Sometimes we have bad days or hard times. I always like to emphasize that I want to just really just brush off any misconstruing thought or belief somebody might have about, I have to be perfect. I have to be perfect. No, you do not. Certain things trigger each of us individually into a fixed mindset. We might have a fixed mindset about money. I'm just not confident about money. I'm just bad with money, fitness. I'm not confident at the gym. I'm just not a good gym person. Oh, I'm bad at love. Like we all have an area of life where we just default back to this fixed mindset. It's not ultimately true, but we believe it's true because we repeat it to ourselves over and over. How we're going to shift to a growth mindset and ultimately increase our confidence is instead of telling yourself I'm not good at it, choose to say I can do better. Instead of telling yourself I can't do it, choose to say I'll figure it out. I'll find a way I do not have the ability to learn. Because I want to try and not give up. It's better to stick to what I know, becomes I want to explore new ideas. I give up because it's beyond me, becomes I believe in myself. I have fixed potential. It is possible only if I try. This is frustrating, this is frustrating. Say it's okay to fail. This is who I am because I can learn from my mistakes. This is my favorite. This is because I just don't know yet, these phrases on the right. This is confidence. It's that inherent worthiness. It's that skill being built up. It's that willingness to try. This is the growth mindset. This is confidence in action. Just keep an eye out. See when you start saying these things on the left and be like, oh, ooh, I did it again? Actually, I believe in myself, actually, I just don't know the answer yet. This is huge. This helps build confidence immensely. I want you to set learning goals instead of performance goals. I want you to focus on learning every day and growing over time versus proving your worth. I want you to set big dreams and big goals that are out of this world. I want you to dream big, okay? But I also want you to have goals that are within your control. Instead of setting the goal to be a professional runner, an Olympic runner, Okay, And that's the only goal. Keep that goal, but add in a new goal where I'm going to commit to running every day. That's within your control. That's where you can build confidence. That's where you can take action. That's where you can grow. Instead of setting the goal to be a big famous singer. And that's the only goal. And you could be like me and try for 17 years. And you're like, is it happening this year? What's this? Right? I'm still going to keep that big goal, but I'm also going to commit to smaller goals, learning goals, things that I can do. Things where I can feel confident. Am I going to post myself singing online every couple days? Am I going to commit to singing live for people once a week? Right? Instead of setting the goal to be fluent in Italian, you can have that as a big long term goal. Set a goal where you're going to commit to learning ten new Italian words per week. You get to find joy in the journey and enjoy the process. This is a huge way to develop confidence. I teach on this in my success course as well, my growth mindset, Success course, because it's quite similar. Confidence and success have a lot in common. What can you do? How can you build a muscle that's within your control? Setting the goal to be a famous singer is really big and I don't know what I can do about that this week where I can feel confident in my efforts. Okay, keep your big dreams. Do not shrink your dreams. Do not dilute them with top water. Know who you are, know what you want, know the direction your soul is guiding you to create these goals where you can check in with yourself on a weekly basis and say, I'm growing and I'm building my confidence every step of the way. Then I love the word yet. I love the word yet. Okay, This house isn't in my budget yet. I can't play that song on guitar yet. I don't have a life partner yet. I don't know how to run a business yet. I can't do a cart wheel yet. Okay, these are just general examples. But the word yet opens up a world of possibilities. It lets you know that there's potential for you to figure it out. One of confidences, favorite words is yet I just haven't done it yet. But I'm going to, this is a key to the growth mindset that I'm talking about. I just like to add it in because if you hear yourself saying, I'm not confident, I'm just not good at this. The quickest way to shift it from fixed mindset to growth mindset is to say, yet I'm not comfortable onstage yet, but I'm working on it. I'm putting in the time. I will see you in module number seven. 8. Rising Above Self Doubt: Hello, welcome back. We are entering module number seven which is all about rising above self doubt. I really believe that this is something we all experience and probably the reason you were drawn to this course. Because this is something you really want to know how to navigate. You want to feel confident, you want to build that confidence, and you want to rise above self doubt. Let's get into it. We are often our own worst enemies, right? We know deep down what we need to do and who we want to be. But we don't do it. We procrastinate, we expect perfection, or we wait for perfection. We talk ourselves out of it. We feel resistance. It consumes us. We don't take action. And then as a result, we develop self doubt. Self doubt at times is a part of the human experience. Okay, we've all felt it. I have felt plenty. I'm sure you felt it too. Let's discover what leads to self doubt and learn how to rise above it. I want you to grab your journal again and I want you to ask yourself, where do I doubt myself, my abilities and what's possible for me? Is there one area of life in particular where I consistently don't experience confidence? Okay. Another way to phrase that question is, why did you enroll in this course? Where do you want to be more confident in your life? What's, what's your problem? Where do you want to grow? Okay, take a moment, pause this if you need to, and really do some journaling on that. This is something that we do that leads to some self doubt. We compare ourselves to others. Comparison on its own is neutral and natural. Like you might say, I have three cookies. That person has two cookies. I wore a pink shirt today, he wore a red one today. It's sunny yesterday, it was raining. We're always comparing. Okay, we do it all day long in our brains. We're assessing our environment. We're, we're figuring things out. It's a biological function. There's nothing wrong about comparing, just as is, okay. But it gets problematic when we start to fixate on us versus some other person. We say, well, they have this but I don't have this and they are that but I'm not that they have this life or body or advantages. Maybe they're bra or they're better on camera like whatever it is. It can get tricky. This is when it stops being neutral and starts becoming unhelpful and potentially even toxic or negative For us, fixating on comparison hurts our confidence and leads to self doubt. We compare because we're hard wired to compare. However, I need you to know that we are not in competition with one another. There is no one set pathway to success. Your gifts are unique and divinely yours. The way so and so got there, or did it is not the way that you're going to get there or do it. We never know what's going on behind the scenes. We can try comparing all we want to what we think somebody's life is like. We have no idea. We have no idea. Another journal question. Can you trust that your journey, your differences, and your past are all working in your favor somehow? That doesn't mean that you have to love everything that's ever happened to you. But can you try to see it from a perspective where it is all working in your favor? Can you remember that somebody else's success does not take away from yours, Okay. If they can have it, you can have it too. If they can be it. If they can do it, you can build it up too. Give yourself that love and that self compassion. When you find yourself comparing yourself to somebody else, when you find yourself doing this little habit that leads to self doubt, be observant. Notice who you compare yourself to. There might be a lesson in it. How do you feel when you compare? Do you feel empowered or do you feel disempowered? Is there any neutral information you can gather? If you're always comparing yourself to somebody who's a go getter, maybe it's time to start being more of a go getter. Your brain, you're looking over there for a reason, right? What is your mind trying to tell you? Find the gold nuggets, but release the feelings of inferiority. Putting people on pedestals, putting somebody above you is as dehumanizing as putting them below you. I learned that in the past couple of years and it blew my mind. I thought, oh, it's okay to put people above. That's actually nice, but if I put them below, it's obviously not nice putting anybody anywhere other than on the same flat playing field as you. You don't see them as human anymore. You just don't. I want you to ditch that hierarchy model and know that nobody's above you. Nobody is above you. Let the times that comparison bubbles up to the surface be a message of, oh, that's interesting, I'm comparing myself to that person. I'm going to stop doing that so often. But also, why am I doing it? I want to be braver in this area. I want to take more action in this area. There's wisdom in there. Okay, look for the wisdom. Look for the magic in that messy feeling of comparison. Let's talk about impostor syndrome. So if you are on a journey trying to build up more confidence, right? You might run into impostor syndrome. It can lead to self doubt. And it's the feeling of I'm a fraud. I'm not a real artist, I'm not a real teacher, I'm not a real business person, I'm not a real lawyer. Like whatever it is, everyone's going to realize I don't belong here. How did I even get in this room? They're going to discover I'm a fake. The jig is up in Scooby Doo. They're going to pull the mask off of me. Right? This is a really common and normal experience, honestly. It means that you care deeply about what you're pursuing. It also means that you have high aspirations, which is a wonderful thing. I have a very particular perspective on imposture syndrome that I hope sticks with you forever. And it is as follows. Imposture syndrome only shows up when you're doing epic things. Take it as a good sign, you do not feel Imposture Syndrome. When you're folding laundry or brushing your teeth. It's when you really put yourself out there and bet on yourself. It's when you take that confident action. It's when you build that confident muscle when you let yourself be visible and vulnerable. When you take risks and bump up against the edges of your comfort zone, the most confident people feel Imposture syndrome from time to time, because confident people keep pushing themselves. Imposture Syndrome only shows up when you're doing epic, brave, amazing things. Take it as a good sign when you feel that way. Next time be like, oh my god, look at me, Look at me in this new space. Wow, Okay. I love this perspective for imposture syndrome because it's not about running away from it or trying to shove it down or eradicate it, or get rid of it. It's about noticing, oh my gosh, look at me. I'm growing. I'm being confident. I'm being brave. I'm being bold. I'm going into a space that is so new and unfamiliar that I don't feel like I belong here yet. What a joy? What a joy, next time you feel this way, It means that you're growing. It means that you're building your inner confidence muscle and you're making confident choices. Like I just said, you're being willing to grow and try and take risks. Here are some affirmations, you can say to yourself, next time you feel imposture syndrome. I belong in this room. I have something unique and brilliant to bring to this group or bring to this space. I am exactly where I'm supposed to be. I am here on purpose, and everyone is excited to have me here. My skills, talents and visions are immeasurably valuable. I believe I can grow and learn and figure it out. I'm also going to add, I will not feel like an impostor forever. I will make myself right at home here. Don't you love that? Okay, I also want to briefly talk about turning limiting beliefs into affirmations in my success course. I really do a deep dive into this, but I will give you the quick and dirty. A limiting belief versus a fact. Is it ultimately true? Is it ultimately true for everyone throughout all of history? This might be something that you say to yourself, I'm not good looking enough. I will only fail at my dream. I can't find happiness. I will never turn this around. I am unlovable. My gosh, my heart breaks. We'll take one of these or take your own limiting belief, or a way that a belief you have about yourself and ask, is this ultimately true? Is this as real as the law of gravity or blue whales living in the ocean? Or is this just a belief that I've created and repeated to myself for years? Is it true for everyone throughout all of history, people who aren't to have people who aren't traditionally good looking, done, incredible, successful, wonderful, marvelous things. Yes also, beauty is so subjective, creating specific affirmations that are the opposite of your belief. If you bump up against any phrases like this, I am, I am not this, I can't have this right. Flip it into a positive affirmation instead of I'm not good looking enough. You might say I am absolutely beautiful inside and out. My beauty is completely unique to me. My success and my confidence doesn't even depend on my physical looks. Instead of I am successful, I am confident. Take the things that really like hit home for you and flip them. I will only fail at my dream becomes I'm certain I will find a way, or I am in the process of believing that I will find a way to make my dream a reality. It's just who I am, it's just what I do. You tell yourself this over and over and over. I also want to mention when we are bumping up against self doubt, When we are bumping up at these growing pains, you may want to connect with a mentor. It's a great tool if you connect with the right mentor or some type of support system, even a good friend. We're not meant to go through this life alone. You're in this course because you have a vision. You have big dreams. There's things that you want to do that are bigger than the things that you're currently doing. It can feel lonely to walk this path alone. So whether you hire a mentor or you join a program, or you find a great friend or a great role model, it's important to have support, our confidence and our progress can be nurtured with the help of someone who has walked this path before us, even if they're just a few steps ahead. It can keep us accountable. We can celebrate our journeys with others, and we can inspire one another. Sometimes I'm offering group programs, there's 1 million other people offering 1 million wonderful programs. I'm not trying to push mine on you, but if connecting with a mentor is something that interests you, go to my social media at Juliet Piper, shoot me a DM. Send me a message here however you want to reach me. I'll let you know if something's open. But mentorship is amazing. I've been in mentorship and it has helped me grow tremendously in my confidence, in my belief in myself, and rising above self doubt. I just wanted to offer that as a tool. But one of my favorite ways to be mentored is to revisit courses that I've enrolled in. And just have them playing in the background all the time while I'm putting on my makeup, while I'm folding laundry. I love listening back to courses and soaking in mentorship. In that way, you have this forever. That is always an option for you. We have one more module to go and I will see you there. 9. Tools for Unshakable Lifelong Confidence: Oh my gosh, we are already at the end. Let me scroll over to module eight, Tools for Unshakable Lifelong Confidence. Now in the intro I talked about how important it is to me that you have tools for life that you can walk away from this course and you can live the rest of your life building up that confidence, growing that muscle, developing that skill. And it's not just like, oh, this felt nice, and then back to the way things were before. Okay, I want you to have longevity in your confidence and your confidence journey. So that's what this is about. There are some amazing tools I am about to share with you and I'm so excited. Okay, here we go. The first one is I want you to write a personal mission statement. This is so fun and juicy. I've done this. I revisit it all the time and it just makes me feel so aligned with my purpose. And it reminds me who I am on days when I need a, a little more confidence, right? Go somewhere where you can focus, ideally uninterrupted. Grab a journal and a pen and write out your personal mission statement. This is your new empowering story. Who you are, who you want to be, what you value, and revisit it. When something shakes your confidence and plug back into who you are, here's something I wrote, and you get to write your own exactly how you want to write yours. My name is Juliet Grace, Piper. I am a brave, sparkling, wildly confident woman. I am here to create music and art, inspire people to tap into their highest potential and teach on the things that light at my heart. I value kindness, courage, creative expression, taking risks, trusting my intuition, and laughing as often as possible. I am resilient and I know I can accomplish anything. I set my mind to, my life is an ever unfolding expression of my soul's desires. Oh my gosh. I put these slides together about a month or two ago and I'm finally sitting down to record. I forgot I wrote this in this exact way. This is lovely. This is lovely. It just, I feel so rooted back into who I am and what I'm here to do. So that's the whole point of a personal mission statement. There are going to be events in life where our self doubt is going to creep in. And where we're going to face failures. And where, you know, we're not going to feel as brave or resilient as we want to. Because like I've said this whole course, we're human. It's okay, we're imperfect. That's part of the fun. But having this personal mission statement helps you remember who you are and what you came here to do. I cannot recommend this tool enough. Then we have how cute is this? Make a smile file, So cheesy, right? But oh my gosh, is it a fabulous confidence booster. You can create this as saved social media posts. You can make a real life folder, or a collage, or an album in your phone, or any other way you feel called. But it can be a collection of memories that you're proud of. Accomplishments, positive feedback from clients, her family or friends, other people's content that puts you in a great, inspired mood. Your favorite photos of you where you feel your best. Images of people who support you, images of people who inspire you. I mean, imagine having this all in one place. And when you're having a down moment or kind of a rough day, you open up this smile file and all of a sudden you're reminded of, oh my gosh, I have accomplished some amazing things. Oh my gosh, this is something wonderful that so, and so said about me, oh wow, I am inspired by this quote and this person and these memories and oh yeah, this is a dream that I have. And all of a sudden we shift our energy and we snap back. We have that resilience which is a big part of lifelong confidence. Smile files are great, you might be making unintentionally. I love going through saved posts and messages I've sent back and forth to certain people. And it just always lights up my heart. I love love this, I love this. The next thing is a daily gratitude or success ritual. This doesn't have to take time out of your day. You can do it as you make your coffee or you brush your teeth. You can start habit stacking, doing things you're already doing. Just add in this habit on top of it so it doesn't even take an extra second of your day. Listing three things that you're grateful for regarding your own confidence. This has to do with the progress and the steps that you're taking and the ways you're being bold. I'm grateful that I tried something new last night. I'm grateful that I'm working on the project. I'm grateful that I got the rejection and I still sent in another application. Okay, three ways that you're grateful that you have been confident in the past day, the past week, month, whatever, or Three ways that the day is going to be successful. Today, I will show up and share my message confidently on social media. Today, I'll reach out to the person I'm interested in connecting with. I'm nervous, but I'm still going to take the action today. I will look and feel my best. Okay, these are some daily gratitudes. They have done studies about a daily gratitude practice and how it sets you up for success for a long time. Like if you sit down and do a gratitude practice, once you reap the rewards for weeks, like it's just amazing. So take a little bit of time as you stir something into your coffee or get your tea ready for the day. Anything that you do, make this gratitude list a part of your day. Okay, I have the smile file. You have a mission statement, you have a gratitude practice. This is about building a library of inspiration. What we consume matters. Our subconscious mind is drinking up every bit of it with a straw. I want you to ask yourself, who are your role models? Whose life views and perspectives are you being influenced by? I want you to read and collect books that empower and inspire you and ignite that inner confidence, ignite that inner power. I want you to listen to podcasts and follow digital creators who encourage you to be brave and confident. Or who just embody confidence themselves. And it rubs off on you when you look at their stuff. I want you to bookmark this course. I want you to watch it again and again. I love rewatching courses. I've said that already. Keep these resources handy and dive into them for a few minutes. When you need that little confidence boost, we are the average of the five people we surround ourselves with. This can include what we read, what we watch, we consume. I want you to make empowered choices. That doesn't mean you can never watch a silly reality show. Believe me, I am going through Jersey Shore right now. We are allowed to enjoy some quality entertainment. But make sure that the majority of the time you have this library of inspiration where you can pick up a book and flip to any page. And you can read something that inspires you every day. Or you can plug into a podcast and get in that good energy. A library of inspiration will help your confidence long term. I love this one. Mindfulness and breathing. This is so simple, but it's like the hardest thing for all of us to do. For some reason, come back into the present moment as often as possible. Here and now is the only place we can access real true confidence. It's here for us in this moment to claim, okay, insecurities live in the past and in the future, what will go wrong? What did go wrong? Will the past repeat itself, right? When you feel low on confidence, come back into this moment and be mindful. What do you see? What do you feel? What do you hear? What do you smell? How do you feel within right now? Take a moment. It shifts us from fighter flight to the calm parasympathetic nervous system. Okay? Taking consistent, deep, full long breaths. Do at least three. Let's do them together. Let's do it right now. There's no better time, right? I want you to breathe in hold at the top and release. Let's do two more, breathe in hold and release. And one more, breathe in hold and release. Our heart slows down, our blood pressure lower. We're not fighting or fighting. It just feels so good. In this space, we can access the confidence that we need in this beautiful present moment. You can also go deeper. You can breathe a fromatically. It's a 4462 rhythm, where you inhale for a silent count of four. Pause for a count of four, inhale for six beats, stop for two beats, then start all over again. We'll do that together three times so you can practice it. See how that feels. We're going to breathe in for 434, hold 234, breathe out 62 beats, and then again, breathe in 434, Hold, 234 exhale. I'm sorry, six, stop for two beats. Breathe in 434p, 1234 exhale, six. To pause and then you do it again and again. There's a lot of different breathing techniques. Those are just my two favorite. Explore. Try the ones that seem interesting to you and see what helps bring you back to this moment. When you're feeling nervous and anxious and stressed, mindfulness and breathing will get you back into your presence, your confidence, and all that good stuff. Okay? I want to talk about uplifting others. Confidence is powerful when shared. I want you to send out positivity. I want you to send out notes of encouragement. I want you to be the hype person. I want you to be the cheerleader. I want you to tap into the abundance, frequency of celebrating others and their wins for your whole life. It really helps you grow in your confidence when you can truly and genuinely be happy for others release. Feeling threatened by another's success, embody the energy of gratitude, generosity, kindness, compassion. Plus it's so much fun cheering other people on. I mean, I feel like I'm a full time cheerleader without the pom poms. It is so much fun and it feels so good. And the more you say things to other people, when we talk about other people, our subconscious hears it and thinks we're talking about ourselves. If we say, oh my gosh, you're doing amazing. You are just such a rock star. You are such a shining star. You're killing it. Oh my gosh, Look at you. You're being so brave, man. Zu, yes I am. That's why it's good not to gossip. Because what we say about other people, our brain thinks, we're saying about ourselves, our subconscious mind cannot tell the difference. But yeah, uplifting others, this is a lifelong practice. That is fun, it feels good, and it boosts your confidence. We've made it to the end. I have some final thoughts for you. Okay, building confidence is a lifelong journey. Taking this course is a powerful step. You've taken a big and powerful step in the right direction by being here and by doing this. And I don't want you to worry about doing it perfectly. I just want you to keep moving toward your values and moving toward your dreams. Moving, taking action. Being willing to try, and being willing to build that muscle. And knowing that you're inherently worthy, that's the secret. That's the secret. You can do anything you set your mind to. I just got a chill as I said that I really believe this for you, I believe in you wholeheartedly. Feel free to return to this time and reach out to me at any time, and let me know how this course resonated with you, how it landed in your heart, how it was helpful, what your biggest takeaway was. I would love to connect. Okay, find me on social media at Juliet. I'm so excited for your journey. You have everything you have, everything it takes. You were born for this confidence is yours. You've got this, go get them. 10. Confidence Guided Meditation: Welcome to your confidence guided meditation. I am so proud of you for taking this time to tap into your inner magic, your inner truth. To remember how powerful and capable you truly are. This is your time to remember. I want you to begin by taking deep breaths in through the nose, out through the mouth or whatever is possible or comfortable for you. Feel the relaxation washing over your body from your head down to your toes. Imagine every muscle relax, relax your, your tongue, your neck, your shoulders, your arms, your back. Relax your stomach completely your legs, all the way down to your feet. Come back home to your body and just breathe. Remember that if thoughts creep up during this meditation or you have to wiggle or you have an itch that's perfectly okay, you cannot mess this up. I want you to envision yourself walking down a soft grassy path. Feel the grass beneath your feet. Feel the cool breeze. Hear the sound of the birds of a nearby source of water. A river, a small waterfall. Smell the beautiful roses and bloom and the flowers all around you. And just begin walking 1 ft in front of the other toward the sound of this water. Some butterflies flutter past you. It's a beautiful day and you feel the warm sun on your skin. And as you approach the water, you notice there is a magic mirror standing just beside it. This mirror has the beautiful ability to show you the things that you need to release in order to step into your most confident self. I want you to approach this beautiful iridescent mirror, see your beautiful reflection, and notice what messages the mirror shares. Perhaps it is a fear of judgment per a fear of failure. Notice what comes forward and imagine seeing yourself in that reflection, giving yourself the biggest hug, knowing that it is okay that you feel this way, and that this is coming forward right now. So you can release. Once you are crystal clear on the messages of this magic mirror, I want you to put 1 Ft in front of the other and begin walking into this pool of cleansing water. This river with a small waterfall. Feel the smooth rocks beneath your feet. Imagine yourself going deeper and deeper into this water until you dunk your head and your hair underneath it, and you see the little fish swimming around. You float on your back in this healing water and visualize it washing away many fears you have about stepping into the most confident, brave, bold, and visible version of you. It is safe to let these fears go. Now notice how much lighter you feel. Notice how your energy is beginning to expand. Feel your arms outstretched and the way you are taking up more space than ever before. Focus on your deepest desires. What your soul is calling you to do. Who your soul is calling you to be? Why do you want more confidence? What do you want to create? Allow yourself to root deeply into your purpose. As you dunk your head under the water one more time, washing away any remaining doubts, fears, or stuck energy. It is gone. Now you now know it is time to step out of this magical pool of water and once again stand before the magic mirror. Now the mirror is showing you something else. It's showing you who you are becoming. It's showing you what has been inside of you all along. Look in the mirror and notice the most confident, vibrant, courageous version of you. What are they wearing? What do they look like? How do they feel? This is who you are. This feeling and this version of you is always available to you. Just during this meditation, you have jumped timelines, you have called. In your next level, you are exactly where you're supposed to be doing the perfect thing for your soul's growth and evolution. You are confident, you are capable, you are brave. You were meant for greatness, your desires and dreams were placed in your heart for a reason. It is now time for you to rise to the occasion. Take these last few moments to walk along the path back towards reality. And allow yourself to receive divine intuitive messages telling you what to do. Now, what is the next right step As the divinely confident person that you inherently are? Allow yourself to receive the guidance and keep visualizing and holding the energy of this confident, radiant soul, that is you, no matter what you have been through. This is your reminder that you are and always have been inherently worthy. This is your reminder that everything is possible. This is your reminder that you have what it takes. When you're ready, you can begin to wiggle your fingers. Wiggle your toes. Feel gratitude for this beautiful, profound experience and know that you can return here anytime. For now, the world needs you. And your confident heart, I believe in you infinitely. And so it is.