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1. Welcome to Find Your North Star!: You feel there's
something missing in your life that you're not quite sure what it is or where
you're going or who you are, even what your why is what
your purposes you might, you might be feeling really. Personal mission
statement, a North Star, one single centers that
guide who you are, will help you, will help you determine the life
that you want to live, will help you determine
the impact that you want to make on
the people around you. Even just helping you refine. What do you want to be? Who do you want to be that
the why of your life? My name is Jeff Tan. Am I personal mission is to inspire people to
break free from their inherited-limitations
to live a life of purpose and potential. So a little bit about me, I'm and innovation leader, one of the world's largest
technology companies. A company that just so
driven by mission itself. And in my role, I help
companies and organizations help define what
their North Star is, their innovation impact of may want to lay behind and then
just helping them live it. I'm wondering just a few
people in the world who have successfully run a marathon
on all seven continents. That's right,
including Antarctica. I give workshops and Canaanites all the time on
exactly this topic. Hoping people like you overcome that feeling of
myth in order to live. Over the course
of seven lessons, we're going to
explore what's truly important to you way
Your Priority Pillars. We're going to be
looking at what are Your Heartbeat Principles, the guiding beats of your
life that define who you are, your principles, what
does good look likely? What's Your Peak Potential? What's the impact that you want to live in his
world around you? You're gonna be
distilling all of that into one single sentence. North Star personal mission
statement for Growth is going to guide you through
the rest of your life. So I hope you can join me
in a series of lessons. I can't wait to get started. Thanks for watching and
I'll see you in lesson one.
2. The Class Project: So in the class
project, you'll be actually writing out
your north star, your own personal
mission statement. We'll start off by defining what are our priority pillars. What's really important to us? How we want to invest our time and our resources,
and our energy. Hopping principles. Guiding values for
how we want to live our life will be
defining our peak potential. What are we doing when
we're at our best? And we define that as
float plus fulfillment. What's that impacts? What's our desired legacy that we want to leave in
the world around us. There's a workbook for you on
our projects and resources. So you'll be filling
this out as it will go. And the final project is that
one sentence, Northstar, that personal mission
statement that's unique and meaningful and
relevant to you. It's gonna be a guiding light for how you're going to
live the rest of your life. So the class project is to
post that final Northstar
3. Why Do You Need a North Star?: In this lesson, we're
going to explore what exactly is a North Star. Why didn't need a personal mission statement
in the first place? And let me start by
asking you a question. Do you know why you exist? What is your purpose? What you're doing
here on this earth? If the answer is
no, like probably most people, it's totally okay. That's why this class is video. We're going to define
that you might be following the formula. The formula that society
dictates these study. Hard. Good job, getting good to
create whatever good names. Find the right person
you married at present, you maybe buy a house,
raise good children. Now there's nothing
wrong with that. Nothing wrong with
following the formula. I'd certainly have the problem occurs when that's
the only thing. If following the formula
is your North star. That's when you start having
feelings of and fulfillment. Or you might be
thinking, is this it, There's a lot of people walking around web followed the formula and they're very successful
by conventional terms, but they feeling empty. And Australian
palliative care nurse published the top five
regrets of the dying. She interviewed those people right at the end of their lives. And the number one
regret of the dying. I wish I had the courage to live life that
I wanted to live, not the life that
others expected of me. Now that's a direct
consequence of not being clear on who it is that you are what
your purpose is, what your, what your North Star, what your Personal Mission is. Most of the people in history do have had a direct impact
on the world around them, have had a Personal North Star. Walt Disney's is simple. It's to make people happy. For Winfrey's it
to be a teacher. It's been known for inspiring my students to be more than
they thought they could day. And Richard Branson,
entrepreneur, is to have funny
my journey through life and learn from my mistakes. So now let's dive in to gain
further insights about you, which is gonna be critical in later on shaping
Your North Star. Open up your workbook
under Project Resources and just take a few minutes to reflect upon the following. On a scale of one to ten, how satisfied are you
with your life right now? Can think about it too much. Just circle one to ten
where you are right now. What are the reasons
behind your rating? Just spend a couple of
minutes writing down some insights as to why
you circled that number. Now imagine it's five years
from now and you've done nothing to change your life over the last five years,
how would you feel? Be honest with yourself,
some thoughts down, at least the insights
are critical to gaining a better
understanding about yourself. So thanks for watching, and I'll see you
in the next video.
4. Unearthing Your Priority Pillars : So we've looked at the
importance of having a North Star personal
mission statement and how you can use it
to guide your life. Now, I want to uncover what's
truly important to you. What are your priority pillars? If you like clarity about
your priority pillars, you may find yourself investing
your resources so time, energy, money, emotions
into doing activities and doing the things which aren't really giving you a
sense of fulfillment. There may be a disconnect
with what you're doing versus what's
truly important to you. I grew up in Australia, in a Singaporean
Australian household. In Singaporean Chinese culture. As a child, you have
one metric for success. It's to get perfect
academic results in. You need to do that to
become a Dr. or a lawyer. There the only
acceptable professions. And the problem
is I couldn't get the grades and I didn't
become a Dr. or a lawyer. And so I felt like my failing because
that's the only thing that was told to me
that is important. But since they're not defined, my own priority pillars, what's, what's truly
important to me, and that's what I
want you to do. I want you to write down
what's truly important to you. If it was taken away from you, your life would
not look the same. And you can get to
that layer of detail. So for example, a
friend of mine, one of her priority pillars
is Homeless Advocacy. Another friend of mine
playing music and bands. And then another person
that I had been coaching, she actually wrote
down a mobile phone as one of her prior to the
pillars. Everyone's different. But I pushed it onto
the real reasons why that's important too, which was a sense of connection with her friends and her family. Now, I want you to think
about some insights. You might have
quite a few things and look at commonalities. I want you to narrow down this
list about three or four. If you're struggling
to narrow down, think about what's so important to you that if it
was taken away from you, your life's going to
fundamentally change. It's not going to look
the same every again, now these privacy pillars, the remaining three or
four that you have now, they could be of
equal significance. For me personally, I have Korea health relationships and experiences and all for me
are of equal importance. So here's how I use my
priority pillars and it's primarily for decision-making
and alignment. I'll make sure that any major decision that
I make in life, I look at how is it going to impact my fourth
priority pillars. So ten years ago, I moved to New York and
I was wearing my mind, should I do this or should
I stay in Australia? Well, let's have a look
at my priority pillars is moving to me are
good for my career. Is it good for my health? It's maybe negligible. I'll probably drink a
little bit more and I did. Is it good for my relationships
while I'll be leaving a ton of relationships
behind in Australia, but I'd also be making
new relationships. What about experiences? Well, it's a great experience living in New York, I
highly recommend it. And so net benefit
is, yes, I should, because all four
priority pillars are more or less either
positive or neutral. Let's look at another decision. Should I drink alcohol
every single night? That really late partying or maybe taking illicit substances? Good for my career
because of my health. Absolutely not.
My relationships. No, not at all. He's
a good experience. Yeah. You can argue
that that might be a fun experience for a
while, but it's negative. So absolutely not. You also use my priority
pillars for alignment. So if I've been
spending a lot of time, say focusing just on my career, I'm neglecting and
not spending enough time stay on my health
and my relationships, then it's maybe it's a time to rethink how I'm
investing my time. So now I want you to
think about what are your priority pillars would so critically important to use, even jotting that down in
your workbook and now, analyzing your life today, how have you been
spending your time? How have you been making
decisions historically that have impacted positively or negatively
your priority pellets. So thanks for watching and I'll see you in the next video.
5. Creating Your Heartbeat Principles: So now we've defined
around priority pillars. Now let's take this, this
next step further and define what's critically important to you from a values perspective. Introducing Harpic principles. Now just like the steady
pulsating of your heart, hopping principles
are so core to who you are as a human being. These are your beliefs, your principles for how
you live your life. In the business world,
most people would agree that values are critically
important to accompany, which will define the type of company that you want to be, or the type of products
you want to launch, or the type of people
that you would hire. And I'll give an example. Patagonia, a well
renowned outdoor brand, values, environmental
sustainability. And you can really see
this in everything from their marketing materials for the products
they launched it, to how they operate
as a company with environmental sustainability
at the core of what they do. Similarly, Microsoft's global technology
company really values empowering the individual to
achieve more via technology. And again, you can see this through everything
that Microsoft does. Yet, while most people
will agree that values are important
for a cooperation, a lot of people haven't
given it thought two values for themselves
as an individual, what's truly important to you? What are your beliefs,
your principles, a core to who you are. If you were to act
in a different way contrary to your beliefs, it wouldn't feel real. And all in a lot of times, people who are feeling stressed and burned
out and anxious and depressed and not
feeling like they have a sense of fulfillment
is because they're acting in ways which misaligned to
their own values, their own heartbeat principles. So let's start off by
defining your core values. So these are your
fundamental beliefs that are so critically
important to you, who you are as an individual. Now I've provided a
list that you might want to gain some
inspiration from, or you can brainstorm your own. So first up, I want
you to circle alright, down the top 20, limited it to 20 that are
critically important to you. Now, I want you to narrow
that down to just five. This is quite difficult
because you might say, Hey Jeff, but all 20
are important to me. If that's the case, look at assigning a relative
value to each. What's more important,
this value or this value. The next step is to assign
a verb to that value. You might be thinking, What,
what are you talking about? Jeff, values are one thing, but heartbeat principles
are how are we going to live that particular value? Now finally writes an
instructional phrase. So just a handful
of words could be two or 35 words maximum for how you want to
live this particular value. So for example, let's
look at some of my heartbeat principles
and I have just three. The first one is based on
the value of curiosity. My hobby principle
is always exploring. I'm always running along a new trial or hiking different
mountains and camping. But also from a
psychological point of view, I am always exploring new ideas and that's
really important to me. My second heartbeat
principle is based on the value of the innovation. Ask what if simple as that. And my final hobby
principle is based on the value of learning,
learn from everyone. And I really believed that from the janitor all the
way up to a CEO, all the way to a person
in, at a coffee shop. You can learn from them. You can learn by
talking to them, learn from their experience, learn from their story. So go and do that yourself now, get to your list of values
narrowed down to five. Max, assign a verb
to an Internet into an instructional phrase for how you want to live your life. The heartbeat principles
that are always there, they're constantly post editing
that you can take away. Its defining who you are. So thanks for
watching and I'll see you in the next video.
6. Defining Your Peak Potential: So we've defined our
priority pillars and we defined our
heartbeat principles. Now the next step is to look at defining what
our pigs potential. What are we doing when
we're at our best, is a simple formula
for take potential. It's flow plus fulfillment. Now when you're at your best, you are often in a sense
of flow in subpoenas, tensorflow is a wonderful thing. You know exactly
what you're doing, where you are, timestamps
still for a moment, your sensors are taking in so much inflammation and
it's an amazing feeling. And creators in particular
aspire to be in this sense of flow as often as possible when they're leaving
their creative potential. For me, I experienced a sense of flow when I'm
holding a microphone, when I have an
audience's attention and I'm giving a
keynote speech or, or running a workshop
when your workbooks, I want you to define your
flow moments to do that. Look at your activities
in the last week or last month or last
year and think about what were the
activities which brought you a sense of flow. And I hope you have
experienced this recently. And if not, go back further in your life
and start analyzing, start writing them to
specific activities that you were doing at the
time when you were in flow. So let's dive now
into fulfillment. Fulfillment really is a sense of satisfaction. In achievement. I laid a running club, the largest running club
in the US actually. And I get a sense
of fulfillment. Seeing people who have never run a marathon in their life and thinking that
they can't do it. So you're seeing them
cross the finish line, the Los Angeles Marathon. And that sense of joy and
fulfillment themselves, that gives me a huge
sense of fulfillment. Now in your workbooks, I want you to analyze in your life and write down
the moments of when you had that deep sense of satisfaction and achievement
and fulfillment. So now that we've defined
our flow moments and we'll define the moments which gave us a deep sense of fulfillment. I want you to look at
what you've written down and start looking for commonalities,
similarities, patterns, or there may be completely
different, like mine, keynote speaking
with a microphone, leading a running club,
they're very different things. Start looking for
insights about yourself, because these
insights are going to be you at your peak potential. Peak potential is flow
plus fulfillment. So thanks for watching and I'll see you in the next video.
7. Shaping Your Impact: So we've explored our priority
pillars are heartbeat, principles, are pig potential. Now let's look at
what's the impact that we want to leave behind
in his world around us. And I'll start by giving you
an example from my life, I grew up in a quiet, a fundamentalist religion
and I was told every day. But the impact that I
need to leave behind is to convert other
people into my religion. That was the metric for success. But a lead me feeling
quiet, empty, I didn't necessarily
feel aligned to that. Now having impact
that I've since defined that I wanted to leave behind is my personal mission, which is to inspire
people to live their best lives and
reach their potential by overcoming their
inherited limitations. Most people actually haven't
given their impacts, thought they go through their
life during activities, maybe living their
values, maybe not, maybe focusing on their
priority pillars, maybe not. But they don't often think about what's the impact was the
legacy that I want to leave. Some in your workbooks now. Define and spend a few
minutes defining what is the impact that you want to have on the world and
the people around you. My friend Sunil, he's impacted. He wants to leave behind his on his immediate community in
his immediate neighborhood. And here's local temple,
another buddy of mine, Kim, she cares so much about environmental
sustainability. So she wrote down the
impact she wants to make on the environment through
the work that she does. Whatever it is, it's gotta be unique to you. Write that down. And I've provided a few
statements status here. So consider writing
things down such as bio will drive impact
by the impacts my actions will make
on this audience is this horror in 100
years time might impact, will be felt by and
then write it down. So think about 100
years from now, you most likely don't exist short of a
scientific miracle. So what's the impact
that your actions today and in your life have made
on those in the world. So in the next lesson,
we're going to bring it all together by writing our Northstar
personal mission statements. Thanks for watching. I'll see you in the next video.
8. Bringing it Together: In this lesson, we're going
to bring it all together and write our North Star
personal mission statements. We have defined our
priority pillars. What's really important to you? Where's defined our
heartbeat principles, how you want to
live your life was explored what peak potential
looks like for you, which is flow plus fulfillment. And then we've explored what is our impacts
which are legacy. So now let's pull from all of these insights that we've
gathered throughout these lessons and it's right around meaningful north star. Remember, nasa has to
be personal to you, has to be actionable, guide you in decision-making. It's gonna be that shining
beacon that Northside that you can always look
back on and go run. That's how I'm
gonna live my life. It's something that I
want you to be so proud of because you wrote it
comes from the heart, it's authentic to you. In your workbooks,
start jotting down some drafts sentences around
what that could look like. And I'll give you
a couple of tips. As you do this, you
should aim to be concise, to be actionable, to include
a Y, extend beyond yourself. And remember, a good
Northstar above all, should help you with your own decision-making so that you
can see whether the life you're living or the decision
you're about to make is in alignment with who you really are and what you
really want to achieve. So go and do that now, good luck as you write your
personal mission statement, and I'll see you
in the next video. Excuse me.
9. Your North Star in Action: Well done. You have your own Northstar around personal mission
statements for growth is going to guide you to
living the life that you want. I want you to think about now, how can you make your north
star visible top of mind, you could simply write it out and hanging above your desk or stick it on the wall so
you see it every day or tattooed on your arm. Or you might want to
create a vision board or a visualization of its
however you want to do it. Think about that now,
for me personally, I've created a vision
board based on my North Star or use an
online tool called Canva. I put this vision
board on my desktop, so I say every single day. So in your workbook, start
jotting down some ideas around how you want to bring your
own Northstar to left. Then I want you to think about the challenges that are
going to come up and how you want to mitigate those
challenges would be because if life were easy, everyone would live in
their Northstar and OB. So, so simple, so
straightforward, large, not easy. Things
are going to come up. Obstacles, setbacks, write down, what do you think some of those
setbacks are going to be? Those obstacles in your life prevent you from
living in North Stars. Finally, I want you to
be really actionable. So over the next 30 days, what are the specific tasks and actions that you're gonna do now to bring your north star
to life in your day-to-day, it could be the work
that you do are the relationships that you have, the people around you, your
community, whatever it is, write down specific tasks and actions that you're
going to commit to over the next 30 days to bring
your north star to life. And finally, remember that your north star should
not be set in stone. I hope you realize
that by now you can constantly come
back to iterate it, involve it, and refine it. So for me personally,
every six months, I'll put it in my
calendar and I look at my Northstar and I reflect
upon how I've lived. That's all. Haven't lived that over
the last couple of months. I want you to do something similar cetera, minor
in your calendar. Keep coming back to it
time and time again. My personal Northstar
have evolved as well. The wording has
changed over time. So I encourage you to do
the same thing to make sure that it's constantly top of
mind and meaningful for you. So thanks for watching
and I'll see you in the final wrap up video.
10. Wrap Up and Next Steps: So congratulations,
we've come a long way. You've got your own Northstar. You've looked at how you're
going to leave this over the next 30 days and for
the rest of your life, remember to constantly
refine it and evolve it, okay, I really want
you to do that. Thing is most people
don't actually take this time to
invest in themselves. So, um, I actually am really proud of you that you've
come along this journey and thank you for allowing
me and opening yourself up to allowing me
to get to this. I want to leave you now with
this one final question. When you're living
your north star, what do you think people around you will notice about you? Think through that and
reflect upon that. What's the change
you're going to have in yourself that will be noticed
by the people around you. Follow me on social media. I hope to stay in
touch if you've got any further questions or
insights or comments, or use the discussion
board below. Thank you so much for watching
and I wish you all the very best of success as
you live an amazing, fulfilling life,
living your north star
Jeff Tan ⭐️, Guy that ran marathons on 7 continents
