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1. Introduction: Do you have a high pressure
situation coming up? If so, one of the
easiest ways for you to improve your confidence is
by focusing on your fashion. There's a lot of things
you can't control, such as the feelings, the worrying thoughts,
the anxiety and such. But you can always
control your wardrobe. In this beginner's class, you will learn why is
fashioned important. The basics on how
to get started on your fraction of focusing
on the micro details. And in the end, you'll be given a final project that will allow you to upgrade your wardrobe. And by upgrading your wardrobe, you will upgrade your
confidence along the way. If you're ready and excited to improve your fashion style, I look forward to
seeing you inside.
2. Why Fashion is Important: For plenty of years, I thought fashion was a complete
waste of time. I mean, why bother with it? When I was in this one
public speaking club, I thought one of the
most important things was the speech. I didn't really
focus on fashion. Now here was what was happening. I would get out of work. Soon as I get out of work, I was already wearing
dress pants and a dress shirt because that
was the attire for work. And I would go into these
public speaking meetings. At this point, I was
completely unaware of the role that the fashion was
playing on my perception. But there was one day where something very strange happened. There was this one gentleman
who is going to be giving his first ever
speech in this club. And we were expecting
him to be nervous, just like a lot of
newbies speakers are. But here's what happened. He was amazing in
terms of its delivery. His speech, beautiful,
the conflict, amazing news talking
about how him and his daughter got separated
for plenty of years. And the resolution,
heartwarming. He talked about how his daughter and ham
reunited after many years. You would think that
this guy played great role in terms of its perception to
the audience, right? No. Because what happened was
that this guy had just gotten done playing basketball and
showed up to give the speech. We looked at them
and we're just like, this talk is so good, but I just can't get over the
fact that he smells so bad. His shirt is wrinkly, is pants. Let's just so big on him. It just seems weird. That's when I was realizing
that human beings, they process a ton of
information with our eyes. So if this gentleman
was over here, at least somewhat dressing up, his speech would've gone from
a B plus into an a plus. Another remix to this was that
a lot of speakers who had speech anxiety once they
dressed up as they felt better. And the audience would
often just gloss over any fumbles that
the speaker made. Slowly. I was realizing that fashion plays a huge
role on our psyche. And if we can just understand
some of the basics, we have an edge in terms of
our communication skills. So what do you think is important in relationship
to your life? Think about this and the rest of this class will be
much more appealing.
3. Knowing When to Be Fashionable: The first thing is to know
when to be fashionable. See some people overdo it. When they understand some
basic fashion skills. They reorganize
their entire life to just keep dressing up. And if you're already
someone that doesn't see it, that much benefit of fashion. But you're forcing yourself to see some of the practical
benefits of it. And now you're open
to rearranging your life to a somewhat degree, to incorporate fashioned
into your life. You want to make sure
that you're making the journey easy on yourself. You don't want to be one of
those guys that's wearing a three-piece suit
when you're going to get the groceries. You don't want to be one of
those people that's wearing this nice dress when you're
going out for a jog. Some people actually do that. They just turned their entire
identity into fashion. So by knowing, when
should I be fashionable? And just thinking about that, we're starting to
understand that fashion is very similar to, let's say, an accessory. We don't always have to wear a watch or a bracelet
when we're going out. But in certain
high-profile events, it's like now would be the smart time to where
that watch and bracelet. Similarly in
relationship to my life, when are some good times
to be fashionable? Let me take a wedding speech, maybe before a YouTube video
or something like that. And by unequally
that compartment in relationship to my reality. Now, the likelihood
of me incorporating fashion into my life
skyrockets in the process. So think about it. What are some moments that you think it's important for you to be fashionable in
relationship to your life.
4. Know your Body Type: Let me share the first rule. It doesn't matter if you have
the nicest shirt out there. It's expensive, it's
sought after by many people. If it doesn't fit. That is the golden rule
in terms of fashion. And this is a lesson that
we're often going to learn. The hard way is because our
bodies are not stagnant. Sometimes we're bulking,
other times we're cutting. Sometimes a shirt that fits
really well, fits well. But other times it looks
a little too small on us, or it looks a little
too big on us. But factoring n, does this shirt fit me at
this stage of my life? Simply asking that
question of, does it fit? We make much more strategic
fashion decisions. So start to weigh that
n. Does the clothes fit? It fits, then you're
going to look way better than if you have a very nice
short and it doesn't fit.
5. Think Evergreen: Have you ever seen one
of those fashion shows? And people are walking
down the walkway. You see them wearing a lot
of these extravagant stuff, like our big hat. Now just a regular hat. What is big? It's like floating
over their head. Some weird a dress or pants, shoes that is missing a
soul, all of that stuff. Looking and you're
like wolf people were that you need to understand. A lot of these companies
are trying to make money. And how do you think they're
going to make money? By selling you, close that you buy once and where forever. Or by trying to always be introducing you to
these new trends. It's the latter group. They're all trying to create these new trends and be like, This is what's hot right down. Now, you could play this
game if you are like, look, I trust these companies to
give me the trends, go for it. But my path is a
little bit different. I believe you should buy
clothes that you could see yourself wearing at
least 30 years from now. From here on out. Just think about that.
Like, is this something that you vibe would
personally for me, I wasn't always like
this for a while. How was that guy? I was always chasing
the new trends. I was like, okay, this company is telling me this, the
cool thing to wear. This particular musician
is wearing the clothes. I need to do a two. But roughly around age 25, I was like, I'm tired
of playing this game. My closet is full. I have analysis, paralysis,
wardrobe, addition. I need to change. And that's when one day I want to get this custom suit made. And just the process of making this custom suit
was very unique. Like I was getting tailored
and all of this stuff. These guys were asking
me all these questions. And they were like,
hey, you know, we could put your name
inside the jacket. Would you like that? And I thought this
assumed that I could see myself wearing
30 years from now, 40 years from now, 50 years from now. I know I'm not
getting any taller. If I keep this rough body shape, I'll be able to work this one. I thought like that. I was like, Wait a minute, why am I only thinking
like that with suits? I should be thinking like
that with all of my wardrobe. Now let's turn and stuff.
There's a higher wear and tear like shoes and such. But other close if
you think like that and even if it doesn't
last like 30 to 50 years, but you can just
think like that. It saves up so much
mental bandwidth and you're not reliant
upon these companies. So try it out for yourself. Think evergreen,
think ten years, 20 years, 30 years, even 50 years into the future.
6. Quality over Quantity: Now that we're thinking
into the future, we're hopefully factoring
in quality over quantity. See what quality is very
important because with clothes, whenever you're going cheap, you're actually not
going that cheap. If you're just
factoring in the math, you're like, wait, this shirt, anytime I put it in the
laundry and the dryer, it looks all right, buddy. I probably can't wear
after four washers. You know what happens
then? You need to buy another shirt like that. Repeat this for your
entire closet and you'll see that you're
stacking up a lot of money, a lot of mental bandwidth. It's what I call the opportunity
cost wardrobe style. So whenever you're thinking
like into the future, it not only helps you decide
what sort of close to buy, but nowadays you're willing to spend the money because
you're like, okay, this shirt, when I
put it in the washer and the dryer is not
looking Rhapsody. It looks the same. Once it
comes out. This is good. How about I do this more? And rather than filling
up my entire closet, I just have a couple
of pieces that I can alternate around. So with this strategy, then quality over quantity, you may be like quality. I don t know if I have
the budget for that. You do. If you're seeing that you're already
spending that budget, but with poor quantity. Once you are willing
to put the money down, you're not constantly repeating the process over and over. You spend it once and
then you forget about it. And now you can keep wearing
it for future occasions.
7. Focus on the Micro: One time there was this
really big debate on Twitter about our
shoes overrated. And different people. We're having this heated debate where some people
were like, Oh yeah, I invest in my shirt, my pants, my belt, the jacket. But forget the shoes. No one's looking at the shoes. While another group
of people were like, Oh yeah, that people are
looking at the shoes. For sure. I was thinking about this
and I was like, oh, like, why is this even a question
in the first place? Because think about
it like this. Imagine if you go to the barber and they cut
at the top of your hair, the side of your hair, but they don't clean
you up on the edges. How are you going to feel?
You're going to feel like, wait a minute, I didn't
get my money's worth. I paid my barber
for the haircut. He should have done
the entire job. Likewise with fashion, we don't want to be one of
those people that are like, Okay, well the shoes
aren't important. We just want to
focus holistically. Holistically speaking, we want to focus on
the micro as well. I think about the belt, think about the shoes. Think about earning
your clothes. Mind you, we're focusing on
the high pressure events. First. By thinking like that, we're starting to understand
what really is important. You have speech coming up. Are you going to
neglect the shoes, then know where the shoes
and then shine them up. By focusing on the micro, we're beginning to slowly
respect fashion more. And the more that we respected, the more that we're likely to apply it in
relationship to our life.
8. Where to Get Ideas: I have a confession to make, roughly around 2,018 h, obsessed with Bow Ties, I would go to these
different stores and buy unique Bow Ties. Heck, I found out
that you could get a regular type and turn
it into a bow tie. You just got to YouTube some
videos in regards to that. And initially, I
never thought I would be in this stage of my
life for a long period. I used to insult Bow Ties. I'm like, I would never
wear something like that. But one day I saw this social media posts
of someone wearing it. And he's basically wearing this bow tie with
this particular suit. And I had a very similar
model of that suit. That's what it planted the idea. Why don't you at least
experiment with the bowtie? And once I did, I started to get a lot of compliments
in regards to it. And nowadays, I'm not
really obsessed with it, but it's in my arsenal. So what I learned
from that moment was that we should experiment, but we need to be mindful
of our experiments. We don't want to be too
outlandish with it, especially if you're thinking
out into the future. But every now and then, inspiration is going to hit you and it's going
to hit you hard. One of the places that you
can get the inspiration are from pages like Pinterest. There's a lot of boards on that. You could check
out Google images. You could check out a
different fashion pages on Instagram Internet much more. So, just look out for
inspiration every now and then. It may help you out
tremendously in changing your wardrobe and
seeing what you like and what you don't like.
9. Final Project: For the final project, I want you to mentally
imagine that you have a very high pressure
situation coming up. And you may not even
have to imagine it. Maybe you really do have a high pressure
situation coming up, such as a wedding where you are going to
be giving a speech. Maybe it's a conference where you are going to be
giving a lecture. Maybe you're going
to say what you do for a living at
your kid's school, whatever it is, I want you to imagine how you are
going to dress. Once you have imagined it, I want you to actually
dress like that. Go all the way in. I'll focus on the shirt. The parents iron your clothes, make sure it fits or shine
your shoes and such. How do you feel? You feel good? Once you are done dressing up and you're
focusing on the macro, along with a micro, I want you to create a report of how you ended up dressing. What was your style like? Did you keep it simple? Did you just wear a dress shirt? Dress pants, shoes? Call it a day? Or did you wear a dress
in regards to your event? Depending on whatever
you prefer to wear. A talk about this, get in depth with it. And don't just
focus on the style, focus on the emotional state. How did you feel? And the more clarified
that you get, the more that you're
gonna be like. Fashion isn't that bad? After all, I used to judge it in a very negative way
because it required work. Sometimes putting it at
work is a good thing. And in this situation, I learned that it
was a good thing. Once you have dressed up, you analyze your
emotional state, your physical state, or
create a report talking about the experience and posted on the final project
section down below. I look forward to reading it. If you enjoyed this
beginner's class on fashion and want to learn more about the
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Arman Chowdhury, Confidence thru Communication
