Confidence Building Skills - How to look your best !

1. Introduction to the course !: Hello everyone. You're welcome to my course on confidence-building. Well, let me ask you certain questions. You don't know how to talk to people. You find it difficult to deal with difficult situations. You'd like to be alone rather than in groups. You do not know how to talk to someone over the phone. You lack confidence. Now, the problem you're facing is about confidence. You have no more excuse because you have reached the right place. In this course, you are going to learn how to build confidence with me over a decade of experience and soft skills and training. I will teach you how to develop confidence. In this course, you're going to become a paraprofessional full of confidence and positivity, which will help you to get a job. This course is for students, professionals, and learners as well. This course you're going to learn the basics of confidence. What are the characteristics of a confident person? How you can develop confidence, and how you can improve your overall personality by improving on your skills. So can you pass the test? Let's start to learn confidence building skills. It's time to grow in life at courage and confidence with a 100% success. Let's do this. Let's enroll for this course. 2. What is Confidence ?: What is confidence? Have you ever failed? But there is something more to what you do in life. It's not the achievement, but the feeling behind the achievement. It's not what you have gotten life, but how you have received what you have today. And what does that feeling convey? That feeling is confidence. Confidence is your ability to think good about yourself. To feel assured about yourself. You know that you can do it. This feeling is called confidence. And confidence is the key to success. No matter which field you work in, no matter which phase of life you are into. If you do not have confidence, you won't be able to stand straight. You won't be able to achieve your goals in life. You won't be able to do what you want. And lay confidence is the key to success. And that's where your ability to build the confidence comes into picture. How you feel about yourself, your abilities. It is about not feeling superior to others, but feeling fulfilled. From within. You are confident about your knowledge. You're confident about your skills. You're confident about your attitude. And to get confidence, you need lots of practice. You need to gain knowledge, you need to gain experience. You need to learn skills. Only then you'll get confidence. Confidence is backed by an achievement. Confidence is backed by hardwork. Confidence is backed by sense of achievement. So anything which you do in life will give you confidence if you do it with your complete commitment and hard work. So if I put in lot of efforts and my exam, I'm confident that I will clear the exam. But if I'd not work, if I don't prepare well, will I be confident to clear the exam? No. Similarly, if I worked in an organization for three to four years, will I be more confident to appear for the next interview? Yes. Why? Because I have a work experience of three to four years, which has given me the confidence to answer those questions, which will be asked to the next interview. Will a new person was appearing for the first interview? Be more confident? The person who has already got a great amount of work experience. Obviously, the person who has worked somewhere will be more confident. But does that mean a fresher who is just starting his job will have less confidence. Again, it depends. It depends upon the person. As an individual, you need to start somewhere or the other end life. And for a fresher to get his first job, the confidence comes from his knowledge, from his skills, from his achievement in terms of scoring marks and his graduation school days. The confidence comes from working on various projects. So it's not about the situation where you are in life. Whether you're experienced or inexperienced, confidence only will give you the push to move forward. Confidence will be backed by something which you have already done in life. And that's why it's very important to understand that confidence is the key. That can never be success in life. If you're not confident about yourself. The people who are big and life, they get confidence with practice. They get confidence with regular hard work. Each and every small effort which you take every day is going to compound and make you more confident person. If today you don't know how to speak English. And if you start practicing English speaking every day for five to ten minutes, after one month or two months, you will see a drastic change and the confidence level, you will start to speak in front of people. Why? Because you have been practicing speaking skills for the last two to three months. Every day, your efforts have compounded and that has increased your confidence. Why do children or why do students don't clear competitive exams? Why? Because they do not practice. They just learn, understand things, get the concepts right, but they don't practice. Competitive exam is all about practice. And unless until you practice every day you won't get the confidence to clear the exam. So no matter where you go, what you do, everything comes down to the last aspect, which is confidence. If you're not confident, you won't be able to speak your heart out. The people who are shy, the people who do not know how to deal with things around. They are not confident. If you want to do big in life, just get that confidence, work on yourself. 3. What are different types of Persons ?: Let's quickly talk about a person who is insecure and less confident. Now this kind of person will be very judgmental. He form opinion about any and every person will always have a negative view about that person. He'll always find the negative, the flaws, and the person who will never take a positive decision, it will never take a positive view, will always form an opinion about any person, whether the person has good or bad. It'll be a closed minded person. He'll be a pessimist. Even if you give him something good, you will find fault. And that why you have given me this thing, I don't deserve it. This kind of person is pessimist and Lafe. He does not see positive ray of hope and enslave. This kind of person will always be happy where he is. He would never want to grow in life. He will never want to get out of his comfort zone. You will always make excuses. He will try as if he knows everything and he doesn't want to learn anything, he will never make a decision and you always hide his four floors. What are the benefits of self-confidence? The more confidence you have, the better performance you will do in your life. Will perform good in your school, your college, or your company, your organization, you'll be able to achieve targets. Why? Because you're confident about your abilities, on your skills and your knowledge. You will build healthier relationship. Why? Because you feel good from within, in once you feel good about yourself, you will try to build positive relationships. So any person who will be in relationship with you will be happy. You will be open to trying new things because you're not afraid of taking new challenges. You're open to new challenges. You know that if I get a new challenge, it'll be an opportunity for me to grow. You take it as a learning, you take it as an experience, not as a threat. You are, you will be resilient. No matter how bad things become. You will stand up and you will walk again. You will face the most difficult of circumstances in life, but you will still stand up and walk the straight path towards success. You will be resilient. You will grow in your life. 4. What factors determine Confidence ?: What are the factors that determine your confidence level? Well, the most important factor is the people around you do the push you down. Pull you down. I should use that work. And they never push you to go forward. If you want to do something good, they will bring out the negatives. They will tell you that you cannot do it. You should not do it. You cannot do it. There will always be there to drag you down. They'll always be there to pinpoint the negatives. Should you be with these kind of people? Know? You should always be with people who constantly motivate you, who constantly make you a better person, who push you to go forward in life. Never be friends with someone who is a source of conflict. Who is not motivating you, but the motivating you. A friend who's pulling you down to criticize and to bring your negative is a good point. But to constantly bring your negatives every time you'd want to do something good is about frame. And you need to know who's your good friend and bad frame. And accordingly, you need to get all these toxic people out from your life. If you want to be a confident person, if you want to achieve success in life, get out all the toxic people from your life. Just disassociate from yourself from them. It's not that you won't talk to them, but try to just be far away from them. Don't be friends with people who you think are toxic in your life because they will not let you move forward in life. There will be people who will be constantly judging you. There'll be people who will influence your thoughts and attitudes in a negative manner. So you need to pay attention to how others make you feel. How your friends or your family members make you feel. Do they make you feel good or do they make you feel bad? Do they pull you down or do the pushing forward? This is what you need to identify. And once you start identifying it, you will slowly realize who are the people who want you to be better in life and always be tried to, always try to be friends with people who have similar thought process. We want to do something big in life. We want to improve themselves. These are the people who should be your fence disassociated with people who have negative mindset, who are pessimists, who will always talk about negative first, and they will never think about any positive aspect of life. These are going to suck your energy. This will make, these people will make your life edible. So as opposed to a person who wants to do good things in life achieved begun life, you need to surround yourself with positive people. That's very, very important. Also, another aspect of developing and building more confidence in your life is of your body. Taking care of your physical health. The way you look at yourself in the mirror. And if you feel that you have a great body, you are in great shape, that itself will boost your confidence 100 times. How do you take care of your body? Have a healthy diet, to meditation, to exercise, daily. Sleep for at least eight hours minimum. The more you take care of your body, the more confidence you will gain over a period of time. So once you look in the mirror and you see yourself perfectly fit, having given positive energy, your skin as blooming, your hairs are properly grown. Your physical attributes are fine. You're not fat, you're not lazy. You have a healthy lifestyle, you feel energetic, you fail to do something good every day. This kind of feeling will only be there once your body is fit. So you need to have a good diet. Good vegetables, fruits, balanced date. Also, you need to eat healthy food. Not grab all the crap which is available in the market and types of informal fast food burger pieces. While you do have to indulge someday because you feel like having those things. But that can be occasionally once a month or maybe once in 15 days, but not every day. Similarly, piece of mine also plays a very important role in increasing your confidence level. More calm you are from within, from your mind, the better level of confidence you will have. So it's good that you meditate every day, 15 to 30 minutes. Just sit and concentrate on your breath. Just feel how the air is going inside your lungs, in how it is coming out of your nose. This expedience, the movement of air within and going out. This feeling itself will calm you. This feeling itself will disassociate from the world. Doesn't mean take out all the negative vibes from your body, from your mind and will make you a positive person. The more positive you are, the more confident you will become. Always have some form of exercise. And exercise is not only about going to gym, you can play sports, you can play cricket, badminton, tennis, do running, jogging, walking, anything, just include one physical activity each day. It could be 102030 minutes. Why not? And never skip on your sleep. Make sure you have a healthy sleep cycle of at least six hours is minimum. And eat us something which is really great. The more your mind is relaxed, the better you'll be able to perform, the more confident you'll become. 5. What is Confidence Building Process ?: How many times I've seen people being too harsh on themselves. The date failure as a stepping stone. Not to success, but to fail even more. But that's not true. You fail, you learn, you become better, you gain experience. The next time when you move forward, you will not repeat that mistake. So that has improved yourself. You have improved yourself. Your confidence level should increase. So you need to be kind to yourself. If you make a mistake, don't feel bag. Take it as a learning. Move forward. There will be setbacks in life. No person in the slave has moved forward. And a constant straight line, there will be ups and downs in life. You will have good days and bad days. You need to be flexible. And your emotional understanding. You need to understand that things will go wrong. You will not be praised every time you do good work or bad work. There will be days when your good work can turn into bad work. And this is something which you should be ready. You need to challenge the negative emotions. You need to accept that not every day, you will have good days, not every day you will have positive thoughts in your mind. You might feel bad, you might feel negative, you might feel sad also. But that's perfectly fine. We are human beings. We will have mixed emotions. But you need to get out of that emotion. You need to work on your mindset. You need to develop a positive mindset. There will be negative things in life, but you have to emerge as a winner. You need to take it as a learning. You need to make it as a stepping stone for success. Every failure is a stepping stone. You step on that failure and move forward towards success in life. So be kind to yourself, Do not be harsh to yourself. Now another way to develop self-confidence is to constantly talk to yourself in a positive way. In other words, it's called positive affirmation. Say every time if I wake up in the morning and look in the mirror and say to myself that I am the best I can do it. I can improve myself. I can upon myself, I can make my body better. I look good. I am the smartest person in this world. Most hardworking person. I am very good at doing things. So you're doing this positive self-talk with yourself, with your enter conscious. And this itself will build the confidence by the New. You will start realizing that once you practice positive affirmations every day, in the morning, evening, all throughout the day, the confidence level increases. You feel good about yourself. You feel more confident, right? So whenever you get the opportunity, have positive self-talk. Just write down certain positive self affirmations and repeat it every day in the morning. I can do it. I'm the best. I can improve myself. I love myself. I'm the best. These are the things which you need to talk to yourself. These are the things which you need to speak to yourself. These are the things which will go in your subconscious mind slowly and slowly without even realizing. Throughout the day these positive self affirmations. We'll make you work towards your goals and achieve success in life. We need to face your fears. If I'm not good at something, I need to become good at it. I will work on my fear. If I'm not good at writing, I will join a writing course. I will learn what are the nuances of writing? Well, how do I frame a sentence? What are the things which I should remove from a sentence? How do I write? What are different forms of articles, phrases? How can I improve my writing skills? I will practice writing every day and write one paragraph, one blog each day over a period of time. But consistent practice by writing skills will improve. This will give me confidence. You need to face your fears. If you're not good at something, make yourself good at it. Work on your weakness. Work on your fears. Get out all the self-doubt you have. Improve your performance. Confidence people, the people who are confident in life, they will always celebrate other people's success. There'll be open-minded, they'll think positively and there'll be willing to take risks. They will also admit their own mistakes. They'll always be learning and growing tickets, decisive decisions, and there'll be able to laugh on themselves. This is very important to understand. I've seen people, they feel sad when someone is achieving success in their life. Why do you feel that? If the person has done something good, if the person has achieved success, it's because of his hard work. You don't need to feel sad about it. You need to feel good about it. That is what your personality should be. Once you start feeling good about others, what others are achieving in life, you will slowly realize that your confidence level is increasing. You are not becoming a negative person, but you are becoming a positive person and that itself will increase your confidence level. You are an open-minded person. You accept all that, that comes your way. If something is not going your way, if someone is saying negative things to you, if someone is criticizing, condemning, and complaining, you accept that as a feedback. You are open-minded. You think positively. You're willing to take risks. If you make a mistake, you are there. You can stand for yourself and say that, yes, I made a mistake and I accepted I apologize it I regret making that mistake. And I assured that I will not make that mistake again. This is how you improve. This is how you become more confident. 6. How to become more Confident ?: Now how do you become more confident? Now, this is a question which many students ask. How do I become confident? How do I increase my confidence level? Well, first you need to change your mindset. Confidence is not something which you will get any day or at any point of time. Confidence will require you to work first. Confidence will require hard work. Patients, commitment, dedication. Your mindset of working upon your skills, of improving yourself every day, even by just one per cent of improvement every day, will compound you to make you as a person 33 times In a year. Just imagine what you have today. Within a year, if you improve yourself just one per cent every day, you will be improving yourself 33 times in a year, in 365 days. That is astonishing. So what I am today, if I don't myself, 33 times better at the end of this year, only by just improving myself every day for just one per cent. How good is that? And that can only happen with my mindset when I start to believe in myself, when I feel that I can do this. You need to challenge yourself. You need to get out of your comfort zone. Many people feel happy where they are. They don't want any change. They want the same life. They want the same money to come there in their salary account every month. They would not put in efforts to learn new skills. They will happy, there'll be happy to be where they are. They will not learn anything new. Why? Because they are happy doing what they have been doing since passed. They do not want to grow in life. They do not give themselves challenge. And this is where you feel stuck. This is where you lose your confidence. So if you want to be confident person, you need to challenge yourself every day to do something new, to learn something new, to do something better, to improve your performance. Never compare yourself. A person who might be wanting in millions might have spent many years doing the hard work to get to that level. But we as youngsters, try to compare ourselves with that person. Why? Because we just see the success. We see the big Lamborghini, we just see a big bungalow. We don't see the amount of hardware, the number of years that person has put in. So be kind to yourself. Never compare yourself to any person. You do not know how much hard work, how much commitment. A number of years that person has worked to reach to that level. It's foolish to compare yourself, rather compare yourself with your own self. Just see what you have achieved from yesterday. Whether you have improved one per cent of what you were to yesterday, right? Are you making an improvement? Compare yourself with your identity, what it was yesterday, right? That is how you will increase your confidence level. Do not compare yourself with others. Compare your own self. Always know about your strengths. As we have already spoken about this concept which is called emotional intelligence, where your ability to understand your own emotions, your own self, plays a very important role in your success. You need to understand your strengths, your weaknesses, your opportunities, your strength. You need to find the areas of improvement. You need to know that you are good at this, but you need to improve on this aspect of life. I am a good communicator, but I may not be confident to speak in front of people. So what do I need to do? I need to practice speaking in front of people. I need to be good in public speaking. I'll do public speaking courses. I'll speak every day in front of people, or even in, even in front of a mobile phone and record myself a five-minutes every day so that my confidence level increases. This is how I will improve myself. This is how I will remove the self-doubt. This is where I will become a better speaker. Today. I know that I'm not good at public speaking, but over the period of time I'll work on myself and improve myself. And I'll take that self-doubt from myself, right? I'll do my homework, I work on my weaknesses. I'll always be ready to take risk and life. Because unless and until you take, take risk, you would not know your potential. If I'm doing the same thing every day, the same thing again and again, will I be able to realize my potential? What more I can do? There have been many studies in the past where people used to just giving an example. Who shouldn't bold? You might have heard the runner who has won several Olympic gold medal sees the world champion. Well unless and until he first achieved the a 100 meter race competition, there was no other player who had broken that record. But once that record was broken off a 100 meter race, he himself broke that record nine times. So till time you have that restriction in your mind, till the time you know that this cannot be broken, that will not be broken. It is how you see that boundary, that restriction that restrict you from moving forward in life. So you need to be the real, you, you need to question yourself. What is you? Who are you, and what you can do to become better person? And this is how over a period of time slowly, you'll increase your confidence. You need to have the ability to take risks. You need to know about yourself. Do not compare yourself with anybody. Build a confident mindset. Challenge yourself every day to something new. Improve yourself at least one per cent every day, you will see a drastic change in your life.