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1. Introduction: Welcome to the body language
for beginners class. My name is Armand children, the founder of our money talks, a media company which
helps engineers and entrepreneurs improve their
communication skills. Did you ever hear the phrase,
the body speaks volumes? Want to know
something? It's true. Often the body is speaking even when words
are not being said. But the unfortunate truth
is that growing up, a lot of us were never taught
how to read body language. And as we started to grow up, there were a lot
of these classes that were being presented, but it feels a little too logical there to detail focused. In this class, we're
focusing on the basics. I would argue by
understanding the basics, you will understand
the bigger picture. And once you see
the bigger picture, you're capable of
understanding the message. In this class, you're going to understand why body
language is important. The difference
between comfortable and uncomfortable body language. How to get better at
reading body language. And we're going to wrap up
with a final project that will allow you to test your skills, ready to level up at this new language and understand
how to read the body. If so, I look forward
to seeing you inside.
2. Why Learn Body Language?: One of the reasons that
we want to learn how to read body language is because a lot of people will feel a certain
way internally. But they don't necessarily
have the confidence or the clarity to express
themselves and words. Confidence. You know that a lot of people
are afraid of conflict. The reason why is
because the brain typically tries to pick the
path with the least tension. And last time I checked, conflict has a lot of tension. So this person may
feel a certain way, let's say in a negotiation that they do not
want to articulate. However, their body is
moving in a certain way, which if you can read it, you will spot information where words are not
being presented. Other times, someone's
simply lacks clarity. They feel a certain
way internally, but they don't necessarily
have the introspection or the self-awareness
at the moment to be able to articulate
it into words. It is beyond their
conscious awareness. So if you're capable of reading the body in this scenario, it's going to feel
as though that you're reading their mind. Understand this real quick. The body is simply a physical form of what
is going on internally. And once you can read it, it will feel as though you are developing a modern
day superpower.
3. Best Way to Learn Body Language: One of the best ways in
order to learn how to read body language is by
learning your own body. See what typically happens is the exact opposite strategy. As someone goes out of
their way to understand other people's bodies while not having the awareness of
how they feel internally. The reason that this
is sub-optimal is because when we try to
jump into other people, will typically make a lot of assumptions that are
not backed by data. But let's say we get in the habit of reading
our own body. We analyse ourselves when we're
feeling anxious, nervous, angry, and we start to pick up certain patterns each time we feel some of these
intense emotions. Now, we increase the
likelihood of reading someone else's body and
an astute manner as well. Because here's the
thing. Human beings, they have a lot of
patterns in common. But in order to spot
those patterns, first, you got to look at the
person across the mirror. And here's this quick little disclaimer that
I want to give you. It's easy to read your body language when
you're feeling good, which you should absolutely do. But it's very difficult to read your body when you're
not feeling good. The dark emotions picture
your emotions as a spectrum. All the good emotions
are on the top region, or the dark emotions are
on the bottom region. I urge you to learn from
the entire spectrum, but understand this during
the painful emotions. That's when you start to get an advanced language
understanding of your body. So from here on out,
embrace all emotions, but give a negative
emotions special treatment, and use this as a
moment to learn more about how your body works.
4. 2 Parts of Body Language: So the body is broken
down into static. And dynamic. Static is what does not move, and dynamic is what does move. The next two videos, I'm
going to break down more in detail the difference
between static and dynamic.
5. Static Body Language: So static is what does not move. And the main static part of
your body is the posture. The posture should be
still for the most part. And it's good posture if
it's a straight posture. And typically there's different
ways to visualize this. Some people say,
imagine that there's a string on the top of your head and someone is pulling
the string up. One of the ways that I like
to visualize it is to see whether or not you can
put a book on your head. And not only put
it on your head, can you keep it on your
head as you're walking? This will allow
you to work out at the micro muscles or better yet, become aware of the
micro muscles to see all the little variables that make up a straight posture. Just because it's trait does not mean there's not
nuance within it. It takes a lot of work to
have a straight posture. And a lot of people can have the straight posture when
things are going their way. But the posture source gets
scrunched up when things are not going their
way. So here's a hack. The next time you are nervous, you will most likely feel your posture getting
smaller and smaller. And it's going from static
to dynamic in this moment. Rather than allowing it to be
dynamic, make it straight. And suddenly you will
feel a lot better.
6. Dynamic Body Language: So the dynamic body
language can be broken down into the palms to
face and tonality. Tonality. Even though you cannot see it, it is something that is a
part of the body language. We undermine the voice
because the voice is invisible, but we mustn't. A dynamic voice is
a beautiful voice. A static voice, on
the other hand, is known as a monotone voice. Our face, face has
different parts to it. There's our lips and
then there's our eyes. Is your lips always the same? I hope not. I hope you're
not smiling enough funeral or you're frowning
when your friend is telling you about
a job promotion. This shows that the face
is capable of adjusting depending on the
variables that are presented in the external world. Or about the pumps. Let's say there's a
stranger that you just met and your palms are
tucked away in your pocket for the
entire interaction. Once the stranger
leaves and they're going to feel something
weird about you. It's going to feel
as though that there's not much rapport. For some reason. They can't quite articulate
it. But here it is. We trust human beings
whose pumps we can see, but it doesn't always
have to be visible. At certain times. You showed
the palms, other times, you put it in your
pocket once again indicating that it is dynamic. So the palms, the
facial gestures, and the tonality, or what should be dynamic in
terms of body language.
7. Comfortable vs Uncomfortable: So now we understand
the difference between static and dynamic. Whenever spotting if someone has comparable body language or
uncomfortable body language, we should see if static is being static and dynamic
is being dynamic. Once we flip it, that's when uncomfortable
body language is happening. Allow me to give
you two examples. You've had that one moment
when someone is fidgeting a lot or their body is going up, down there being very jerky. This is when their posture, which should be static,
is suddenly dynamic. And typically this person
is acting like this in this particular scenario because
they feel uncomfortable. Maybe you're speaking
about something that they don't feel
comfortable discussing. Maybe they have a
speech coming up. Maybe they have a high pressure networking
scenario coming up. And any of these cases, a static variable,
which is the posture, has become dynamic, indicating that this is uncomfortable
body language. Another example. Have you ever had that moment
when someone is speaking to you like this where they are not breaking
eye contact at all. They're just looking at
you the entire time. Does this feel warm to you? Does this feel good? No. The reason why is
because eye contact, we should be dynamic, has suddenly become static. And this isn't a
good thing because with this type of eye contact, it feels as though that
I'm clearing actual. But every now and then,
if I take an eyebrow, then I looked back
at you at this goes back to being a
comfortable body language. So one of the main
things that you want to focus on whenever trying to spot a comfortable body language
from uncomfortable is to see if static
has become dynamic, and dynamic has become static.
8. People Watching: See people watching is something that's considered very weird, especially if you watch
a lot of these movies. I know you've seen
a movie like that. It's when the villain is
looking at a group of people right before the villain
is about to do something sinister. But here's the thing. What the real-world
people watching with purpose is a masterclass
on body language. Study how these people are
having a conversation and see whether or not it feels
comfortable or uncomfortable. What about this person walking? Why are they walking so fast? What about this guy that's
taking an order from this guy is a comfortable
or uncomfortable. By simply asking
these questions and remaining aware of
your environment, you began to improve your understanding of body
language and rapid rates. But let's say you're
someone that feels uncomfortable looking
at other people. Well, in scenarios like this, it takes some time to analyze
your own body language. How do you currently feel? Do you feel good? Do you feel bad? And when you do feel bad, What's your body like? When you do feel good? What's your body like? By simply remaining curious, you get to improve your body language
understanding like none other.
9. Final Project: For your final
project, I want you to strike up a conversation
with a stranger. It could be your waiter. It could be a cashier. It could be someone
that you just met while waiting
at the bus stop. As you're interacting
with this person. I want you to analyze
how your body is like. And not only are you
analyzing your own body, I want you to spend
some time also analyzing what the other
person's body is like. I take some time and look up for the static
parts of the body, which is your posture. And look up for the dynamic
parts of your body, which are the palms, the voice, and the facial gestures, or the static, the
static and the dynamic. The dynamic. Or are they being flipped? Are you comfortable?
Are you uncomfortable? And get as detailed
as you possibly can and gather the experience or compile it into a report and post it in the final project
section right arm below, I look forward to reading it. And by the way, the more detailed that you are
with these reports, the more that you improve your body language and build further self-awareness
for the future. So on. Get detailed and post it in
the final project section. And thank you very
much for joining this beginner's class
and body language. If you would like more content from your monitor, its brand, and be sure to check out
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Arman Chowdhury, Confidence thru Communication
