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Public Speaking Secrets from a TEDx Speaker

teacher avatar Griffin Frugé, Learner, Teacher, TEDx Speaker

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9 Lessons (44m)
    • 1. What To Expect In This Course

    • 2. Powerful Gestures

    • 3. Making Your Voice More Powerful

    • 4. Practical Application

    • 5. Mastering Movement

    • 6. The Presentation Template Explained

    • 7. How To Make Impressive Slides

    • 8. Becoming More Comfortable And Confident

    • 9. Comfort Challenge

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Have a presentation coming up soon? Work remotely and spend a lot of time on the phone? This course is the quick fix to communicating what you really mean in the conversations that matter most–whether it's a presentation to a thousand people or simply a conversation with your boss.

In this course, you will go from not knowing what to say in presentations to learning how to manipulate your voice to make people feel happy, sad, nervous, or excited.

Enroll now and start blowing people away in your presentations and conversations!

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Griffin Frugé

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1. What To Expect In This Course: you know this feeling well, your boss walks up to you. He looks at you and says, You're presenting this week and immediately this rush of panic comes over you. You back to your computer, your on monster and glass door, looking for new jobs. Doing anything to avoid making the presentation will have really, really good news for you. I specialize for a career in helping desperate people make amazing presentations that leave their hard to please audience saying, Well, that was really good. But how do I do this? Because it's not magic. Some people aren't born with it, not being with us. That's not what happens when you want to learn to present. Well, it's very recently I'm gonna teach you these things. So I want to talk to you about tone of voice, learning how to use your voice to make an impact. I want talk about gestures. You know what I do with my hands? I want to talk about body movement. Do I stand one place? I move around. What do I do? And then, lastly, to make sure you get tons and tons of value out of this course, I've made a power point template that I used. Every time I want to give an amazing presentation and it's gonna be yours, you can plug stuff in and roll with it. But I want to warn you, as we step into this, this course is going to be difficult. Becoming a good presenter isn't easy, and it's gonna take a lot of work, but I can promise you it's going to be worth it. So that's my goals. We step into this is to push you and push you. So the next time that your boss walks up and says You're presenting this week, you can look at him and smile and know that when you give that presentation, you're gonna be more comfortable and confident than ever before. And everyone that audience is going to say, Wow, I was really good. Sweet. Thanks, Patrick, you know, just off script. I want to say one thing before we get into this whole class. I want to say thanks for being here. I'm really excited that you're here learning with me about public speaking. The other thing I want to say to the O is if you have feedback or questions for me, like this is gonna be a lot of info. And what a packet of value. Because you have questions or feedback. Send me a message. Let me know. My goal in life always is to improve, not impress. So if you have feedback, I want to get better. I want to grow. Thanks for being here and let's jump into this course. 2. Powerful Gestures: What do I do with my hands? You know? Have you ever had this complaint? You're like, hands appear like I don't know when I speak, Do I? Do I, like, just bear in my arm pits? Do I put him in my pockets waiting around the crazy person? No, no. And definitely no. When we present, we have to realize that our hands convey a message. In fact, there's an author like a lot. His name is Marais Bian, probably destroying his last name, but he says that 7% of our communication is verbal. So with their words, 38% is with the tone of our voice. But 55% 55% is from body language, which means our hands are facial expressions like smiling and such. The way we move around, that is a big percentage, which means that what I'm saying here often says a lot more than what I'm saying with my mouth. So with that in mind, I want to teach you today some very simple gestures like there's a whole world of gestures . Don't get into that. I want to stay very, very simple today, and I want to teach you three different gestures and and why Some are good and some aren't . So let's talk through three gestures. The 1st 1 I want to talk to you about is the point. And you've seen this. Some politicians use this. Your mom probably uses that you The point is a very authoritative action. They look at you, they say you're in trouble. How dare you do that? Can you feel that right when I look at you and I point and it makes my face turn a different way, it is a communication. And I would say, Honestly, I don't use this one much, because when you're authoritative with people, I said you need to do this one. You don't like to be talked to like that. In fact, I don't think anyone likes to be talked to like that. But you have that one in your suitcase if you want to use it, the authoritative point. But the next thing I want to talk through is when you talk with your hand down, I see people do this sometimes talking like this saying Hey, you're in trouble. Why did you do that? You need to come with me. I Can we just be honest here? What does this remind you of? Do I even need to say it? This is not emotion that we need to be doing. Avoid it. Just don't do it. You see, people do. It'd be like a not a good one. They're not trying to say anything wrong. But this is an authoritative way to talk away, to use our gestures that we don't want to use, so just avoid it. But now I want to talk about my favorite gesture a gesture that when you start using it, not only will it make your audience feel more comfortable, it will change your tone of voice. And that is the poems up approach. Whenever you're talking, practice this the next time you talk to someone, just put your hands up and talk this kind of approach with your palms up. This is an invitational approach that says I am open. I am open to what you have to say. I'm here to listen. I'm inviting you into a conversation. So we think about all three of these. Let's just put these together and let's try saying one phrase with all three of our hand gestures. So I say to you, you're in trouble or you're in trouble or you're in trouble. Can you feel that? Can you feel how different that is with each one that the way that we gesture makes a huge impact again? 55% is through how we move and only 7% as to what we say in that other 30% through our tone . So the way that we use our gesture is very, very important. And just as a quick bonus, I'm gonna give you one more you can use. This is outside of the three. If you ever want to look really smart, no matter what you're saying, here's a cool one. Just, uh, take your hands and just place them together like this and you can say anything like I'm an absolute idiot. But when you're doing this for some reason, you just look smarter, right? You could even practice it, feel it. You say you're like, Oh, yeah, I feel smart. So those are our gestures. Okay, Right now, take a break. Hit. Paul's whatever you need to after this, and practice talking to someone. Turn your neighbor turned your dog turned your dolls that you saw earlier and start practicing talking like this, this and this and feel the difference. And if you want to feel smart, just getting a little bit this action. 3. Making Your Voice More Powerful: Hello and welcome. Hey, I want to show you all just a quick way to make your next presentation more powerful. And if you're anything like me in the past, people have complained that you are monotone or don't change your voice structure often, then this is a great place to be. So in this course, I want to help you make your next presentation more powerful by learning how to use voice intonation. So let's talk about it. So if we want to change our tone when we speak, for instance, you know I'm speaking right now with a tone I'm talking. Hi, I'm talking to low. I'm talking really, really fast. I'm talking slow in all the ways that we speak affect our communications. For instance, I was looking at a study of the day by this guy named Albert Marais be and he's a guy from UCO A, and he said that when we communicate with people, only 7% of that is our words, he said of that also 38% as our tone, so 7% or the words were speaking. But 30% is the way we're saying. It's like when you say you're sorry to someone like No, don't say it that way. It doesn't mean it when you say it like that, right? Our tone means a lot in the last part. Here is that 55% of our communication is non verbal. For instance, 55% of what I'm saying to you You can't even pick up because you can't see me, right? So being able to see someone's very important also. But today, with so much communication being over the phone, let's talk about our tone. How do we have an impactful tone? Because we control this. We can control a lot of what we're saying. We can learn to say a lot without even having to think about our words if we just say it the right way. So let's jump into this. How do we use our tone effectively in presentations? So whenever you're giving a presentation, what should my tone be? Well, I want to give you a secret form of it I use. It is a way that I think about changing my tone because I know you've been in presentations before, where you're sitting there and you feel like this, right? Everyone sleeping? No, there was like, I want to go. Like this guy has his hands over face. Like please let me out of here. So how do we avoid that? Let's look at it. I want to show you what I call the public speaking sphere. Now, what you see here is volume. This is your voice. So this is talking really, really quiet. And this is talking really, really loud. Where's this? Is talking really slow? And this is talking really, really, really, really fast. And what I want to show you is that when we speak in each of these four quadrants, people will hear what we're saying in a very different way. For instance, let's look at the 1st 1 here slow and loud. If I'm talking slow and loud, this is a very authoritative way to talk. Can you feel that I am talking slow in loud and it feels authoritative, like in school. The teacher says, Everybody sit down. That is authoritative. Let's look at the next one here. Let's look it fast and loud. Never heard the name like Tony Robins or some of the speakers that get really crazy and really psyched up this is called being and made. When people are passionate, something there, they're hyped up. They're going. They're going fast, talking loud. This is what it means to be loud and fast. This is animated or passionate. You're getting excited about some of your loud about something. That's when someone says You need more passionate. You need to be in this high volume, high speed places. I'm crazy about this thing. I believe in it. I love it. I'm animated, all right. That was a lot. Wasn't that's like the next one. Let's look at slowing down the way that we're talking and getting really, really quiet. When have you ever seen a A televangelist or somebody giving some really sad speech? They're gonna get to the end, and they're gonna pull on your heartstrings by talking slow. Glad because moves us so much. And I'm not even saying anything of substance right now. Your view of ahead in Is that not crazy? We can talk slow and quiet it. It affects us. Let's look at the last one here. This one is talking really, really fast, but talking really, really quiet. And this is anticipation. This is often times and movies. They do this with music but have musical really, really fast but really, really quiet. That's also happens when we talk. If you want about anticipation, you can see The other day I was walking on the street and I saw something I walked about. Holy cow, You would believe what I saw. Do you feel that anticipation there? We talked really, really fast. But we keep it really, really quiet. And we talk like this. It makes you really, really acceptable. Were about to say that we have something is gonna be really recorded were about to say, even though not really what to say anything. So these are four quadrants. And instead of just telling you these, I want to give an example Here, let me Let's use it. I'm gonna say these words. Hear what I am saying has no meaning whatsoever. And I'm going to say in all four of these quadrants and I want you to feel the difference between each one. I'm going to say the exact same words, but they're going to feel different. So let's start here in the top left and will go around this way. Let's not with authoritative. What I am saying has no meaning. What so ever authoritative? Let's look at animated. Who's what I'm saying has no meaning whatsoever. It's animated, passionate. Let's look at the next one. Anticipation. What I'm saying has no meaning whatsoever. You feel the anticipation there. Let's look at the last authenticity. What I am saying has no meaning. What so ever. All right, Now you feel what all four of those quadrants are. You see by saying the exact same words, it still sounds different. This goes back to that fact that we looked at earlier that when we speak, 38% of what we're communicating is with our tone that 7% of verbal 38% is the way that we say it. Okay, so let's look at some practical ways to apply this. Let's get hyper hyper practical. 4. Practical Application: Okay, so let's look at some practical ways to apply this. Let's get hyper hyper practical. So let's say that someone comes to you about your public speaking and says, You know, you're just not intense enough. And if this is your problem, what I would tell you and your and you're speaking is that you really need to focus on this authoritative talk whenever, whenever given a speech of someone says, You're not intense enough. Not serious enough practice being authoritative. So when you're you're giving your speech when you're talking, talk slow and talk loud, this brings authority. This brings an air of seriousness. This brings that intensity. Let's look at the 2nd 1 here. If someone says you're not exciting enough, you know I have a friend who does data presentations for a living, and he gets this often. You're not exciting enough. Well, you would know how to be more exciting. Then get in this anticipation side of getting in and saying, When you're presenting something, get in this spot of speaking really, really quiet, but really, really fast, cause this builds anticipation. Something's gonna be really, really excited. So I was really excited to hear it. This is the idea. Speak really fast and really low in This will build anticipation in your audience. Let's look at the next one here. So you're not passionate. I I hear people say with old time, all the guys great, but he's just not passionate enough. Well, my friends, let me give it a quick fix. The always sounding passionate get animated and this is gonna be uncomfortable, but you have to learn to speak loud. You have to speak fast, cause when you talk like this, people think you're passionate about something. For instance, I taught a CT prepped for a long time. I'm talking like a CT standardized tests to help high schoolers get into college. We are talking boring. It's like the S A T, but its Midwest. So it's a CT, but not teach it. It's big, really, really loud. It's been really, really fast. And when I do that, people think I'm excited about it. So if you want to be passionate, speak really fast and speak really loud and the final one here and maybe my favorite when people tell you you're not emotional enough, yeah, I love the way he speaks But, you know, here she they're just not emotional enough when they speak. Well, friend, we're going to change that forever. Because if you really want to hone in an audience and you're bringing home your final point , I'm telling you, slow the talk down and keep it really quiet. And when you talk like this, everyone will be on the edge of their seats and there will not be a dry eye in that entire audience. That is emotion. So these are the four things right? The four things that we tackle. And we do that through this public speaking sphere where we learn to navigate all four of these quadrants. So as we're learning to change your tone again, 7% Super Bowl, 30% is tone and 55% is non verbal. Today we just focused on this 38% tone. Now I have a course. I teach that I hit the verbal and I hit the non verbal as well. But I just wanted you to get a taste of what it looks like to start taking control of one of these three sections. We can start using our tone to change the way people here what we're seeing and to start making our presentations more powerful as we learn to no longer be monitor. So thank you for listening in, if you like more info, you look at the next spot. You can get in my bigger course and you can learn to dominate, not just tone, but also your verbal and nonverbal communication. Now get out there, use those tones and given amazing presentation. Thank you. 5. Mastering Movement: So maybe you've been here before. You're giving a presentation, you're feeling great. And then all of a sudden, your legs just start shaking under you and your, like looking for something to grab a podium. Anything to just get your legs to stop shaking, right? It's like you got little Twizzlers under your body, and as you try to control them, they start shaking mawr more mawr, and soon your twister legs go to just like drunk Twister legs. And now you're all wobbly and that you've been here and then you start getting into this almost Texas two step lean. I know that this happens, but what I want to say if that's happening to you, this is actually a really good thing, I promise, because what's happening here You have all this energy, and I hear people say the time, take your energy and presenting suppress it like put it away. Don't use it. And I'm sorry, but I think that stoop because when you present that energy, it's a good thing what I want to teach you to do, kind of like when you bust open a fire hydrant, water shoots out. But then this fireman comes and puts a hose on it and he has control over it. I want to do the same thing with you. With this energy that you have. I want to teach you how to control. So whenever I speak, energy is my favorite thing. Nerves actually love nerves because it makes me better. So when I speak, when I do any talking, how do I move? Do I move around a lot? Do I stay in one place? If you're giving the State of the Union address, yeah, you're played a podium, but for most other things were moving around. But how do we move effectively? And this is what I want to teach you is very, very effective movement, and it's very simple. This is the way it works. Whenever you're speaking, you're speaking to an audience. Let's say there's 2500 people. Whenever you want to speak, you lock eyes with someone. Yeah, and it might. It might wear them out a little bit this helpful, or just lock eyes of the part of the room. You walk toward that part of the room and you make a point and then you pause. You shift your gaze to a new part of the room and you start walking and speaking again, talking to that person and then you pause, shift your eyes and you walk toward that person and you make another point. Can you? Can you feel the engagement here? This is what happens when we think about how to use our movement in the craziest part of this is your taking this energy that's like making you feel crazy and you're turning it into something that is powerful for your audience. And that's the magic here. We're not taking away nerves were not making ourselves more calm. We're learning how to use all that water, come out of the fire hydrant, controlling it and making something really amazing out of. So now it's time to practice. If you don't practice is you can't get it Like what I just did a minute ago, I had to practice that a lot. So the practices here's the thing you need to do right now, like hit hit pause. Meaning to here in a second, go find three pillows. Three kids. I don't care what it's cut out. Three faces. Three dolls don't care, but get them and just set them out in front in the room like set out. 123 Put him out. Okay, Go do that right now. Hip hop. Let's go. Do it. Great. So they get the creepy doll room going on. Awesome. Now that you have these, I want you to practice. Look at your doll or your cut out face or your pillow or your dogs. I don't care. Walk toward them. Make that point. Pause. Turn. Eye contact. Walk. Make that point pause in practice is just take 30 seconds and do this time and time again. Because if you just try this once, you get stuff you gotta think of that. You're saying, if that's on your mind and you're trying to walk and stare and pause, it's impossible. But the more you practice, the more natural it gets. Because again, we're pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone to get better and better at public, speaking at giving awesome presentations that leave our audience speechless. So practice it and we're getting better together. Nice work 6. The Presentation Template Explained: Hello and welcome as I promised. I want to give you my go to presentation template. We never have to give any presentation. We have to prepare for one. Were always overwhelmed saying, What do I do? What I put on there. How should I make it flow? And I want to show you my mindset every time that I go to create a presentation and just give you the template you can copy and use your own discretion. So as you've been going through this, we've talked about tone and we've talked about nonverbal. We talked about that, that sphere with the fast and slow talking and really loud and really quiet talking. We talked about non verbal gestures, but now I really want to hit this verbal part right? And a presentation. The words on the page, what you put up there, that's the verbal. And here's the good news. Your presentation is important, but we said this over and over again. 7% of Howard communicate is happening with our words. Lucky for you, your presentation is only a tiny piece, you know, learning how to gesture and learn how to use your voice and to move around the room. Those things will go a long way. But your presentation is still important, and that's why I want to show you this template. Now, let me ask you this. Whenever I make a presentation, I know you may. Maybe you've seen these before. Have you ever seen a Ted talk or heard of a Ted talk? I've done a lot of research on why Ted talks are so fascinating, and the reason that they are fascinating is, well, I'll show you. Whenever anyone gives a Ted talk, they always start with a problem. And in my presentations, I always wanna have problems I'm addressing up front. I want to talk about them as early as possible, because if there's no problem, then people aren't interested. Me. Think of every good movie you see at the beginning. There's like people that are happy. And then something bad happens and it's a problem and has to be solved. And the whole movies about that solving problem, like Jaws happy people on the beach shark comes, bites somebody. Oh no, we have a shark problem. Do you see? This makes good presentations. So here's a template. I always just say Hey, my name is I put my picture on here, My logo of whatever it is I given agenda. I tell them what we're gonna address that day, and then I tell him the problems. I say. Here's the problems I want to talk about. But the thing that I hear often is people say, Griffin, I I'm just not funny. My presentations are too serious. And if you're in that place, if your presentations are really serious, I have good news for you. I have a way that I always get a laugh, always as I move into my presentation, and what it is is I throw a picture in there that just shows up as a surprise, and I'll just show you how it how it works in the flow. Let's say so. Here's the problems I want to dress today because I know each of us. You know, we we get to the grocery store river and we feel really exhausted or were starving. And when that happens, wind up with this room. Everybody giggles or they laugh. Now you can. You couldn't really land a punch line with a great photo, and it has to play into whatever problem it is that you're solving. And when you do that, you get a great reaction. So let's keep going through this. I then bring up my problems again, and then I have problem one. You see it here, and I list out my solutions. You know, you could have graphs. You could have videos. It could be multiple slides. Where you're talking about the solution. I do the same thing for problem to enter the same thing for problem three and maybe really gonna have one problem. Maybe you're gonna have five problems, but always go through, talk about what the problem is and what the solutions are. And then at the end, haven't I? Thank you with your audience orbits an online course. You can just say, hey, leave comments below whatever. And then at the end, little things. But let me let me just show you. I just want to prove to you that I've actually been using this for most of the slide shows that I show you and my courses. Let me just take this one. You went through this course? No, this class over how to make your next presentation more powerful and a Z. I gave this, you know, learning our tone. You'll see at the beginning I give the agenda. And then with a picture, I talk about the problem. I see. Here's the problem that we're facing. We give presentations and people fall asleep, right? And it's funny. So I get a laugh and then I get into what are the solutions to keeping people from falling asleep? And I talked about all four of these quadrants and then to drive even deeper into solutions , I started talking about different practical applications. You're not intense enough. You're not exciting enough. They're not passionate enough. You're not emotional enough. And again I am. I'm talking about a problem and then giving a solution over and over over again. People love this problem solution, and I let me just show you one from work. This is what I did for my work. A few weeks back, I sort of my name, I told in the agenda. And then I was talking to schools about the city standardized test. So I talked about problems that they're facing, and then I put up a funny photo and then problems, solution, problems, solution, Problem's solution and then more problems and solutions at the end of had an f a Q A couple graphs, and then it was done. This is how I'm structuring every single presentation I give. And then next thing I want to do real quick after this video, maybe that you see slides like this and you say, Griffin, that's beautiful. How do I make that happen? Well, I want to throw in a quick bonus just in this next video. I want to show you how to make slides. It look really, really professional. But I do that the next video. But this is it. This is my presentation template. Take this from here on slide for on Download it. Use it. Change of the photos. I'm gonna show you how to make each of these look really, really pretty, but uses through next presentation. Give me feedback. I'd love to hear your thoughts, You rock. Keep it up 7. How To Make Impressive Slides: Hey. So as I said, we faced this problem where we make a slide and it just doesn't look professional. How do we make our slides look professional? Because for me, I would see people make slides like this and I just said, Man, my sides air ugly like my slides would look like this. And it's a This is ugly. This is pretty ugly. Pretty. So how do I make my slides stop looking like this? Let me show you. This is actually really, really easy thing to do. And this Use this anytime you make slides. What I do is go to unspool ash dot com. You can get free high resolution photos you've gotta figure out. What are we talking about here? What problems are we addressing? Let's say to busy, you're talking about being too busy. That's what the whole presentations about Why can write on here busy and I'm gonna get a bunch of photos and I can grab one like this and I can download right. I like to always copy and give rights to the person that I get it from. And then you take that photo and you throw it on here right, And you can put it up here, and I always drag it to be as big as my slide. And once it's here, we we need to do a couple things. One we need to send it to the back towards, although in the back. Okay, but now we see How are our words are We can hardly see them. We want to take our words and we want to change that phone color, toe white on all of these. So we take all these. Let's change them toe white. All right? And then for a logo. Let's put a logo in there. I'll just steal. This one would steal this logo. We'll see how that will look. It might look really ugly. See here. Yeah, I don't I'm not gonna like that one. What? Do this Instead, we're just delete it. We don't need it. But now the problem is I have white letters and white here, but you can't see them. Well, let's take this up another notch. You right. Click your photo and you go to format right? Quick format options. And then you go to adjustments and you take the transparency and you scale it down like this. And then you get this. And let's just take we'll just take this photo and I'll copy it so you can have something in the top corner. It gives it a little more balance number that the top corner, whatever it iss right. You can write too busy at work. Question Mark. And now you have this beautiful slide that looks professional. You have steps, one problems. 123 Your title. And that is a good looking slide. And you see that? That's all I do for mine. I find a picture put in the background and then it looks beautiful. I mean, look at this one again. Over and over again. Pretty picture. Take the brightness down. Put some words in front of it in your moving. Another good thing to our recommend. Montserrat font. It makes it look really great. So whenever you make your slides, use this. I promise it will make your slides look better and is always as you're creating things. Please share them. Posting of the class. I would love to see your work. Thanks 8. Becoming More Comfortable And Confident: Griffin. I'm just not a good presenter. I can't tell you how many times I hear that phrase. You hear it all the time, and at this point, honestly, it makes me will have because I read people all the time who think they can't present. And I want to be honest with you, presenting a scary standing up in front of people having to talk. It's nerve racking. In fact, I still get nervous when I speak in front of people, but I use that energy right like we talked about. But since I know it's nerve racking, what I want to do is I want to help you. I feel less nervous speaking in front of people. I want to give you the tools to feel comfortable and confident. So the end of this video, I want to give you a phrase that I use any time I'm doing any public speaking to make myself more comfortable and confident, and to make my audience very impressed with my presence and like, Oh yeah, this guy's got it together. So in order to do that and to get into that phrase in this belief, I want to tell you a quick story about a friend named John. So I hired this guy named John for confidentiality. That's what I call him. And John came in and the guy just got it that he got into presenting and he was doing really well. He was learning really quickly, had a lot of skills he was learning picking up and is, he learned, learned the day came for him to do his first assignment. I remember we were three days out and then I get a call from John. John calls me is like Griffin, I can't do it. I'm horrible at this. I'm terror presenting. I have no future in it. I can't do this. I might just take me off and I'm on the phone and I I just smile because I've been there before. Well, so I get together with John in person. The next day, we sit down and say, What's going on? John, just tell me what's up and we talk and we hash it out. And two days later, John stepped on a stage and no surprise. He knocked it out of the park. But what helped John do this? John had three core beliefs that he started believing about himself and I want to share those with you. I want to share these with these air beliefs. I'll get into the phrase a little later, but let's start with these beliefs. The first thing that John believed is that he is not bad at presenting. This is very important that he's not bad. It presented a lot of people say Oh, I'm bad at this He said, No, I'm not bad at presenting the 2nd 1 he believed, and this one's going to sound a little crazy is he was not good at presenting. So I said, I'm not bad But I also said I am not good at presenting in the 3rd 1 and the most powerful of all three of these. He said, I'm not good and I'm not bad. I'm just trying to get better. They're so much power in this mindset. I want to unpack it. So let's start with the first on this idea of I'm bad at presenting. If you're one of these people that beats himself up all the time, says I'm bad at this. I'm bad. I'm bad at this. Then guess what's gonna happen. You're gonna be bad at it. It's like the person who says I want to go to the gym. It's the New Year. I want to get my beach bought on. So you get a gym membership, you show up and everybody stronger than you that faster than you and immediately say off. Oh, this isn't for me. I'm bad. I'm bad at going to the gym. I can't do this and you quit. Well, you believe you are bad. You look for all the reasons that you thought you were bad. And sure enough, you said I'm bad and you quit. But we have to get rid of this mindset. Whenever we believe we're bad at something, we look for all the reasons that tell us were bad. So you have to stop believing your bad present. But the other one I want to get into a very important one is people who say, Oh, I'm really good at this and you've met these people Fortunately, and unfortunately, you know that person who says, Oh, I'm really, really good at baking pies. But I'm really, really good at cooking and then they make you a meal. And let's be honest, It's terrible, but you can't tell him anything or you can't say this is really bad, cause their feelings will be so hurt because whenever we say, we're really, really good at something. Any time anyone gives us feedback, you're like, Oh, how dare you? I'm amazing at this, and this is a terrible mindset that had because this keeps us from ever receiving feedback in growing because believe it or not, even if you if you think you're really good at something, I don't want to burst your bubble. There are people who are better, and even in the good news, they're people who want to make you better. Let's talk about mindset number three, the most important one, this belief that I'm just trying to get better. And to illustrate this, I want to tell a personal story. When I first got into the my career and I was working a 40 hour week job, I felt so much pressure to perform to be better and better. And better to say I have to be good at this. I don't want my bosses to tell me I'm bad with my employees and tell me I'm doing good and I got so consumed with trying to be good that I wouldn't let anyone tell me if I did anything back. My goal in life was just to impress everyone. I wanted everyone to say, Oh, Griffin's hair looks nice. His jacket looks good. He's so good at his job, is so good at speaking in public in this finds that was poisonous for me, and I and I had to realize note in my life my goal is not to be impressive. It's just to get better. And thus was born this idea of improve, not impress. And that's what I want to give to you with I want you to give I want to give to with this mindset of our goal in life is to get better in the beautiful part of this is that if you go into anything saying, I just want to get better When someone gives you feedback, it doesn't. It doesn't make you say, Oh, I am terrible at this. No, and it doesn't make you say all. They told me that like my identity was in this. I feel crushed. Now that doesn't happen. So now I I want to tell you the phrase I promised earlier. I give you this phrase, I'll give it to you now. And this is a phrase that I use any time I do any speaking anywhere. And this is a phrase to get my mindset primed and to get my audience feeling comfortable and getting them pregnancy. Oh, yeah, this person has it together. So here's the phrase. Here's what I say. Hey, everyone, I'm really excited to be here. I have a lot to cover today, but I want to make this short into the point. So as we get into this and as I'm teaching you these things, give me feedback, asked me questions. You know, my goal in this isn't to be perfect. It's just to get better. So if the ft back critique anything, find me after help me out. I just want this presentation to get better and better. So what? That said, Let's get into this. So with that, you can take that Copy that word for word. Use that because as we start to change our mind set, I promise you these speaking engagements, they're going to become more comfortable because it would change our minds that we change our beliefs. Public speaking will only get easier and easier and easier as we seek in our lives to improve. Not impressed. Now get out there and dominate your next presentation. Thanks for watching. 9. Comfort Challenge: if you've made it to this point that I know you are serious about presentations. And with that said, What I want to do is I want to present you with a challenge that, as a presenter, changed my life forever. Yes, this is something that I call a comfort challenge, and it's designed to push you out of your comfort zone and make you a better presenter. But in order to do that, I need to tell you a really quick story. See, when I was in college, my professor, my sales professor, came to me and he said, Griffin, I have a challenge for you. I said, Great, let me know. He tells him the challenge. I accept it. But I had no clue what I was getting into. I had no clue. And five weeks later you won't believe it. I was sitting at a table with the president of my university, and then I got up right in front of him and I spoke to over 1000 people. Now don't get me wrong. I was so nervous I could not even eat the salad that was in front of me. But I got up and I gave that speech to over 1000 people, and what's crazy about it is they liked it so much. They invited me back the very next year. But this journey I went on, this challenge accepted. I had no clue where it would take me. And before I knew it, I was speaking to thousands upon thousands of people. I can now say we say I've spoken to tens of thousands of people and some of those speeches haven't even been in the English language. And it's all because of one challenge that I accept it. And I'm ready to give you that challenge right now. But I'm gonna give you one chance. You have one chance right now to hit, pause and walk away and not hear this challenge. But when I give it to you, you have to say yes. You're ready for it. Okay, here it is. Any time anyone asks you to speak in public, you have to say yes. You heard it right here. If someone asked you to speak in public, you have to say yes. No matter what best friend calls you and says, Hey, I'm getting married. Come get the toast of my wedding. You hate weddings. Guess what? You're given that toast because you made the commitment, the comfort challenge or your boss says, Hey, you need to present data over this and that. You know what you're saying? You're saying yes because you made the commitment or your sweet daughter says, Hey, Daddy, Mommy, come to my school and present over what you do. And you're like, Ah, you say yes to that sweet girl. You go in there and you present because you have accepted this challenge. And here's the best part. When you accept this challenge, is it gonna be nerve racking? Yes. Are you going to sweat a little? Yes, But the more and more you step into this and more and more that you present, you're only going to get better. So in this this comfort challenge and said you've made the commitment that never saying no to a public speaking opportunity. Ah, you're you're gonna hate me for this. Uh, I would like you to do some public speaking, and this is what it is. Very simple. I want you to grab your phone just to get your phone, whatever it is or your webcam, and I want you to record yourself giving a 32nd speech. Now, this 32nd speech, it doesn't need to be complicated, but here's what you need to do. In this 32nd speech, I want you to record yourself going through all four quadrants of the public speaking sphere that we talked about in the earlier video where we talk about speaking really, really fast, really loud, loud and slow. Really quiet and really slow. Really, really fast. Really, really quiet. And I want you to use all four of those in a 32nd video and then post it to the group. Is this terrifying? Yes. But you have said yes to the challenge. And just cause I've asked you it also means I'm gonna ask myself to do this challenge as well. So here it goes. Here's mine. You ready for this? I've been hit all four quadrants. Look for I'm gonna start with loud and slow. The other day you would not believe what I saw. I was running through it and I saw this crazy person running around trying to hurt somebody . And then they were running. I looked up and I saw it and I noticed something. Notice something incredible. It waas my mother, so I did it. It's not perfect, but it's done. And that's the point. I want. You hit all four spears of that of that quadrant and do your first challenge. This is the comfort challenger, never saying no to publicly speak public. Speak engagement ever, ever again. Welcome to the club.