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1. Class Intro-Elevate Your Decision Making: Whether do wake up
early in the morning or asleep for more time in
a cold winter morning, whether to have a burger
for breakfast or healthy, owed me whether to
study for the exam or watch my favorite soccer match today because it's the
final of the World Cup. Whether to get into a
relationship or not. When you do purchase an old
car or go for a new brand, whether to partner someone or hire someone for your business, whether to stay to current
job or whether to purchase a specific entity in
subscription package or not. You C or D is filled with a lot of decisions like some big, some small, some routine and
some emergency decisions. But in oil, we take decisions every day and
they impact our lives. What we are today. And then our decisions go wrong, be the business decision of partnering with
the wrong person, the courier decision of putting the job at
the wrong time, the relationship
decision of choosing a person not
compatible with you, or even a decision
that you took for your self improvement to
incorporate a new good habits. But when that doesn't work, we feel dejected
between disappointed. We feel, in fact, I remember once I
was badly scolded by my seniors at work because of
a mistake that I committed. I was very sad in that instance and in
a range of emotion, I happen to give my designation on that same evening itself. But later after a few days, I realized how wrong I was and what will I
do without a job. And I happened to take
back my resignation. I felt quite embarrassed
and disappointed at the same time
after doing all this. Usually this is what bad
decisions due to our life. We take them in a hurry, but we later regretted, even in relationship this
happened that we end up choosing people with whom
you don't feel connected to. But later we feel crashed from within and regulate our choice. Bad decisions cost
a significant value to our lives in every dimension. And hence my dear friend
in this masterclass, we are going to discover what it takes to make
a good decision. What are your personal
specific triggers and tendencies that lead you
to make a bad decision, as well as your drinkers. For a good decision. How should you handle
and take a decision when you are confused between
the two choices? You see this happens a
lot in our life when we have to choose
from two options. And we have to select one. Not only this, I will
also share with you one very effective Vedanta
decision-making technique that you can use
every time for your big as well as for
your small decisions. I will also share with you a matrix that you
can use to align your courier and to
find whether you are moving in the right
direction or not. We will also together create a self decision-making profile
for us as a class project to identify a strength or weakness and where we go
wrong in our decision-making. Believe me, this step
is going to be defining how life-changing for you. By the end of this class, you will be better
equipped with knowing more about yourself and why you take salt and decisions and why every time components of
those decisions remain. Really, will be a
fascinating discovery. All this and much more
about decisions are reading for you in
this masterclass. Believe me, we are going to have superpowers and super
learning together. Just a brief about
the amputation. And I love doing
peace-building and loved designing
glasses on surface. And because I also wanted to improve on my decision-making, I have designed this
class where both you and I are going to
do a write together, do some activities
to find insights, to make better decisions. I'm excited to share all
that I have for you. Are you excited? Yes. Let's march onto the first
lesson of this class.
2. Class Requirements: Well, I'm glad that you have joined this class
and I hope that both you and I are going to have super fun and super
learning together. But before we really match onto further lessons where we
are going to scribble a lot of things I want
to share with you what you need for this class, which is just a blank
sheet or a notebook and a pen so that we can do activities alongside
these lessons. Yes, you need both of
these things and a bit of excitement, I think, will hit just a disclaimer that we are going to write
a lot and do activities, but it's going to be fun
and emotion for you. Just count me for that. So without further ado, get
your pens and paper ready. And once you have that,
we're going to go for the very first activity
in the next lesson.
3. Activity 1-Scribble Your Good Decisions: Welcome to the very first
activity of this class. And in this activity, I want you to think and write at least eight good
decisions off your length, that this could range from your good purchase and
shopping decisions to your business decisions
to the money you have invested for your
self-improvement journey, or even your
relationship decisions. Whatever decisions
that you think you have taken and
they have paid you well-off in the emotional sense or even in the
financial incentive. I want you to think
and write them down. At least try to write eight of those good decision
that you took. And to do this activity
with the heart. And you'll discover in the
latter part of the class that how essential was this tactic. So to start with, as I promised, I'm going to share my
learnings and alongside, I'm also going to do
all the activities. So I will share with you some of my good decisions and
I will write them now. And you can also take
clues from what I have written in part in
your good decisions. This is by no means to
make good decisions, but it's just an activity that we're going to do together. So for me, the first
good decision that I could think as of
now is that I have purchased a preload car that they say is a used car
instead of a new car. That helped our family
with two things. A, we now don't have to travel on a scooter with three people, which was the case earlier. And B, we got it of course, for a less price as
it was a used car, so it saved on
some cash as well. Second good decision that I
could think of is of course, creating courses and classes and self-help and paste meeting because both activities I love doing and they helped
me share my knowledge, connect with you, and of
course, have some money. The third good decision, which is rather a funny one, is that I have restarted
brushing twice every day, once in the morning,
and once at night. After COVID, once I got back from work down
to my hometown, I thought that COVID will last for a few days
and I thought, let's not do it and let
me enjoy for some time. So equated brushing at night, but COVID continue
with for a long time. And so for two years, I didn't start and I procrastinated on
restarting this habit. But after a toothache, I restarted this habit and it took a decision to continue it. So that was one good
decision for me. The foot good decision
I think was to quit even the occasional
alcohol that I consume. Then the other good decision
that I could think of is to choose a marketing team to
do marketing for my courses, rather than me actively
engaging and doing it, right, of course, helped
me save time and let me help create more causes. The other decision that I could think of was to learn the theory of this reading from great
face readers around the world. So initially I discovered
this gift of intuition to read faces when I wanted to
impress our goal, a lake. But later I realized I didn't
have the basic know-how of how specific parts of
fees like a mountain, like your lips lake ice
tell about a person. It was just pure
intuition out of which I was reading for
my clients as well. It didn't turn out to be well, but because my dad
insisted to learn, I happened to learn the
theory of phase reading. And it does significantly
helped me to learn the basics of the other two
recent good decisions that I could think of. Choosing to go for the repair of a broken bone rather than
purchasing a new phone. And of course, purchasing
a high-end laptop or my editing and course
creation purposes. So just scribble down
your eat good decisions. Think of it. It can take time for you to
think of those decisions, but I'm sure once you
recall your past, there will be so many
instances that you could put right
in this activity. So pause this video now and
think of your good decisions. It could be as simple
as I shared mine to restart the daily habit
of brushing twice, or even Jimmy writing
or literally anything, just write them down
as part of activity. We are going to later
uncovered what it does for us. But in the next lesson, I will share with
you activity two, which is also going to
be super interesting. It can make you emotionally, but I bet it too
will be worth it. So let's jump straight into the next lesson to
decode the activity too.
4. Activity 2-Scribble Your Bad Decisions: As we have done Activity one, you may be feeling
quite proud of yourself or you have made such good decisions
in your life. But in this activity to, it's going to be exact opposite. I want you to write it
off your bad decisions. As I told you earlier as well, types of decision could stretch from business to
courier to relationship to anything that you think
turned out to be bad for you. So let me start with a few of my bad decisions to give
you hints and you can then carry along to do this
activity in your blank sheet. So for me, the first bad
decision that I could think of is I committed to being in a
relationship with a person. On the first day itself, I was not sure that
I could make it. And of course, things
didn't turn out well, so it ended up with
a lot of grandma. I want you to add more details with you, but in your sheet, you can mention full details
about your bad decisions. The second bad decision
that I could think of is something that I shared with you in the intro video as well. Which is I took a decision to resign from my
company when I was scolded by my seniors on
the same evening itself. Of course, I took back
the resignation later, but it was bad at
the first instinct. The third bad decision
that I took was that I transferred my business website
to oppose and I trusted. And I also made that
person the co-founder. I was not shown
about doing that, but I happen to do
that and that ended up being wrong decision. Oh my God, this class
is rarely tasting. But I want you to be honest as I am being honest with you. The other bad decision that I
could think of is high-paid one of my fellow mates or commission of $30 for marketing. My question, but I didn't
verify her credibility. Just for a fact. She didn't do anything and out of emotions. I did that, but that was a
bad decision on my behalf. The other one that I could think of is I
happened to purchase a big cost subscription of a platform where I
can share my courses, which there was no user because I didn't have any follows,
so share my coursework. So that again puts a bad decision and it led
me cause significant. I won't share more
of my bad decision now because it is really
feeling awkward for me, but I want you to write it off your bad decisions as
part of this activity, to pause this video and
think of your bad decisions. Decisions where you
feel disappointed, dejected, and where you feel
that you still have regrets. Those are the decisions
that you need to put them. Once you do that, we will
jump on to the next lesson, because in the next lesson, we're going to discover
the third aspect, which is going to be very
interesting for you. So let's do it.
5. Activity 3-Scribble Good Decisions of Others: As you have done activity to, which may leave
you feeling a bit bitter thinking about
your bad decisions. And so not to feel that
bitterness and get over it. I want you to do this activity. I know I'm asking you a
lot to do, but believe me, there is a bigger cost to
our list of bigger ending, a bigger self-discovery
that you are going to unfold by the
end of this class. If you just follow
these activities. Activity three is to
write and scribble for good decisions of
other people around you. This could be the
decision of your parents. Will you follow your role
models, the sports person, your favorite actors, or
any one that inspires you, prayed for good
decisions that you think they took in their
life that work good, maybe inspiring as well. So as always, I will
start with me to give you some hints to write
on your blank sheet. So when I think of the good
decisions of those around me, the first decision that comes straight into my mind is when my mom was for him to get me and my sister educated
in a good school. When you were at
the age of 12.14. Because at that time we were
in a financial crisis and other people in the family was saying that we should
not study in a school. The fees were on the higher end, although it definitely came a good facilities
and better teachers. She was formed and strong to
make a study come what may, and that persistence, I
think from her turned out to be a very good decision
if I deflect it. Now, the other good decision that I can think of is again, off my mom who went with my sister for iron
higher education after high school to a different place altogether than our hometown
when people around us, what suggesting that
my sister should drop to study for entrance
examinations upcoming year. My mom again stayed home. She manage the finances for a study to the new
college she got she took a new occupation for her and my sister
is now rocking. That was again, a good decision,
which I could think of. The third good
decision that I could think of others is when one of my favorite cricket
or Ben Stokes took a decision to declare any means in a test
match against Pakistan. It was a fearless
and brave decision. And they ended up
winning that match. That gave me a lot of
inspiration and life lessons. The last one again is of my favorite cricketer
without coli, where he did something
similar to Ben Stokes and showed his bravery and
that of course inspired me. I use lots of cricket examples
because I loved this game. But for you, think of
for good decisions of others that could be
connected to you or not, as I have shared ago, but think and scribbled them down in your sheet as part of activity three by
pausing this video. Once you have done this and the previous two activities
in the folder lesson, we are going to analyze what it takes for you to make
your good decision. You are going to be
bamboozled because you'll discover some common
feelings and things happening with you whenever
you happen to make a good decision or
even a bad decision. So let's jump straight into the next lesson where we're
going to do activity, which is going to decode a few secrets about
your good decisions.
6. Activity 4-Analyzing Good Decisions: Welcome to this
activity number four, where the task for you is to analyze three of
your good decisions. So get to your
activity one sheet where you have written eight
of your good decisions. We will now get deeper to get
insights into what we did, how that decision happened, and what feelings we
experience during that process where we ended
up making a good decision. So let me again begin with
me to give you a hint as to how you can do this activity. So I'll go to one of
my good decision, let's say to the
ceiling one where I decided to restart
my brushing habit. That decision happened
because I was having a deep dive after consuming
a sweet do at night. And at that instance
itself, I thought, How is the time for me
to restart this habit? So it was a thoughtful decision, are needed decision which
I thought would help my teeth and me stay healthy. So think of what drove
your good decisions. The other example
where I have written, I purchase a car or a used car that again was
driven by the need for it. Because I, my papa and
my mom used to go on a one scooter in the
cold winter night to various functions. It felt bad as well as it
felt quite cool as well. So the need for
it, and of course, a bit of thought into it went
into making that decision. The other good decision that I got my phone
repaired instead of buying a new one when it fell and
broke off was driven when I considered the choice
of it being repaired. So initially when my phone
broke off while tracking, I happen to be very rash and emotional about
getting a new phone. But later I heard from one
of the retailers when I went to buy a new phone that this point also
could be repaired, for which I gave
a talk and I was thoughtful enough to
look at this choice. Also apart from
buying a new one. The other decision where I put the task of marketing
the process, who are different team
altogether was again, thoughtful and driven
by their expertise. So that again, also
proved to be good. We had a good decision,
stay back and take back my resignation
from the company was driven again by the need
and by lowering my ego to realize it's pokey to be scolded if you have
done a mistake. So again, it was
thoughtful and I was fully convinced that app to
take my resignation. So think bead down
about what drove you to make the good
decisions that you made. Was it that you are more
thoughtful and fully convinced and you consider
more choices around you? Or did you happen to
be in a rash and ended up making a good decision? Analyze your good
decisions here. And in the activity itself, we are going to unlock the secret to why you happen to make
those good decisions. Just think of it. You will discover a
commonality or common feeling, a common task that
you do every day. For me, I discovered that all these good
decisions that I made, war well, thought through. I was fully convinced
and I have not picking them in a rash. What about you?
Pause this video, find it out and find
that commonality. And once you do that, we will meet in the next
lesson where we are going to analyze or bad decisions. Believe me, it's going to be
quite a revelation for us. So let's jump straight into it.
7. Activity 5-Analyzing Bad Decisions: Welcome to this activity
for you where the task will use to analyze three
of your bad decisions? Yes, as we have done
for good decisions, we will identify now what
makes our decisions bad, where we have gone
wrong and better? Are there commonalities in
our decisions that to back? So go to the sheet
where you have done activity to start
this activity fight, where we are going to
analyze or bad decisions. So of course, I have to start
with me to give you a clue. And what better to start
with a decision on resignation that I took
initially from my job. Later that I please join. This decision was
dreaming when I was scolded by my seniors, as I told you earlier, and unable to be all
that humiliation in a surge of
emotion, in a rash. On that same evening itself, I took the decision
that I will quit this job and I will reside. If I go deep down and analyze, I would say I was very rash. I took that decision in
absolute emotion out of port, which I think I shouldn't have, which later of course,
made me weekday. Still I get embarrassed
thinking of that instance. The other bad decision
if I analyze of myself, was the commitment in a
relationship with one of the people whom I was not
sure off at the start itself. Initially, I had in my mind
that things won't work out, but still I went ahead and
I think lack of surety, not being clear with what
I wanted, and of course, getting emotional
and carrying on with their decision cost into our decision to go back and
think of your decisions also, not just have a brief
outlook on them. I'm sure you'll get some
commonality with my instances. Also. Let me analyze one more
bad decision that I took, which was when I paid a
commission to my fellow made for marketing the cost that I
talked about an activity to. So when I started out
creating my courses, I enjoyed the process
of creating them. But when it came to marketing, I was absolutely dull as to what should I do in that house? Should I bring more
students to my courses? Then I saw this feasible of my fellow mates
that I discussed. And I thought that
if I tell her to market my costs in
whole new group, that will be absolutely awesome. To be honest. I just
wanted to do it. I just wanted someone to publicize my cost
as I have designed. And because they were
no students in that, I was driven emotionally
that I have to do something. And so she told me to
transfer a sword and commission and I did
that immediately. Once she told that she
will do the marketing, you know, at that instance, also, she didn't
inquire about my costs, about how she's going to do it, about the details of it. I took that decision in a
rush to make things happen, but now I realize I
didn't even verify her predictions credibility
to execute that, I did make a follow up with her, but she gave various reasons
and I realized that it was bad to begin with
because I didn't verify. I just want it out of my emotions for someone
to market my cost. But I didn't take
action of verifying. You see again,
this thing where I took a decision in a
rush, lot of emotions. I didn't look at
other choices and it led me to have and go
my decision is bad. So one commonality that I absorbed where my decisions
went wrong is that I took decisions where I was
unsure whether it was highly emotional and I didn't look at all options and I didn't verify. So what is your commonality
in all the bad decisions? Analyze and you'll get
an insight as to what leads you to make
your decision bag. You'll observe that there are always common triggers
that happen to you. If at that stage you
can figure that out, that will help you stop and
not make that bad decision. And this is the other secret
that you are going to unfold while doing
this activity. So pause this video, analysts three of
your bad decisions and look at the commonality. And once you do that,
in the next lesson, we'll analyze quickly
the components of good and bad
decisions together very quickly that we can imbibe in our life to make our
decisions better. So let's do it. I'll catch you and meet
you in the next lesson.
8. Activity 6-Figuring out components of Good and Bad Decisions: Welcome to this
activity where we are going to quickly ponder over the components that
are present in a good decision as well
as in a bad decision. Keeping these
components in mind will help you improve your
decision-making. And of course, my hand
decision-making as well. Again, we're going to look
at some of our decisions from activity one
and activity two. And we're going to derive
these common companies. This I think will of
course be common between both you and me. So let me first do it for the good decisions that I happen to write inactivity ones. So if I observe my
good decisions, the ones that happen to be good, I caught them through and
I was fully convinced once I took them
out of pressure, it could be out of need, as was the case of a
used car that I took. But I happened to look at all the options that
were available to me. Also, the component of
ego and all of that was pretty less than the
components of rash emotions, but critically less in the decisions that
happened to be good. In my case. Is it same for you in
your booth decision? Ponder over there. If you find a new component, put that in the discussion as it will help the entire community. Now if I look at the components of a bad decision in my case, the very first is when I took
decision out of emotions, not backed by logic
but backed by a horde. Both in the case of resignation or the extra commission that IP, in the decisions where you
are highly emotionally, you just want to do a thing. It's like you feel like that is the only option and there is nothing else that can satisfy. That is the first signal that
you should keep an eye on. The other company that
I think was when we're not fully convinced within
our mind of a certain action. You're not sure in
your mind which of course leads to making a bag. The other very important
component is when we don't look at all the options and we
are blurred four choices. So as I talked about the phone that I got repaired initially, I just wanted to have a
new form of months ago. I didn't even consider the
possibility of a repair, but it was there. So your options and your choices are blurred
in a bad decision. And this is a great signal
that you should keep an eye on while making
your decisions. The other very
important component of a bad decision is
you fail to verify. And at times you want
to trust to make things happen even though
internally you are not sure. So that again, is a good signal that you should keep an eye on whenever these components happen in your decision-making
process, tinker with it. Because now i and u, both of these components and we had better
aware of what can lead us to make a bad decision or even the triggers
for a good decision. The awareness of this
will help you improve in your decision-making
process because there always are these common
triggers inside us, which we haven't paid
much attention to. But now we can do it. So do it, think over them. And if any additional
components you think that I missed putting in for bad as
well as for good decisions? I want your help to put them in the discussion section
because we are on the journey of personal
transformation together and we can
help each other to get. So putting your
thoughts and I have a very interesting segment lined up for you in the
upcoming lessons where we are going to
discuss how to handle confusion when you're
making a decision. It's again, going to be
something that will help you a lot in your daily routine. So let's jump straight
into the next lesson. Once you do this activity, I catch you soon.
9. Handling Confusions : Good Vs Good Choice: I hope that you're
enjoying the course and doing the activities
that I shared. I know that this is harder because you have to write a lot, you have to think a lot. But it's important
because we are working on assets
like it definitely takes time to work on us and it will give us
long-term benefit for sure. Another interesting segment
is now what we begin, which is how do they make decisions when you are confused? What choice should you
make when you're stuck? In this lesson, we're going to think over what can
you do with your present it with two good
choices and you have to choose one of them. Further lessons, we
are going to discuss a good choice versus a
bad choice decision. What can you do in that? And a bad choice
versus a bad choice. It's going to be
very interesting, unraveling all of
that, believe you me. But let's first concentrate on this lesson where
we are going to discuss how to choose between a good choice versus
a good choice. What can you do about that? Think about when you are
presented with two good choices and you have to make
a decision out of it. Good choice versus good
choice decision can come when you have to make a
purchase decision. You can present it with
two good choices, e.g. the milk that we consume last
year was of good-quality. But this year we were
presented with a choice. We can have a better comin, more nutritious, of course, from a better breed cows, but from a different seller. My father was both system
to try this numeral. I and my mom wanted to stay back with the previous
salary itself because that was also
good and we didn't want it to break that
street with the oil mills. However, we tried the new one, and the new one
happened to be better. The other good choice versus good choice decision
can come when two of your favorite matches
are happening and you have to choose to
watch one of them. E.g. I'm fond of cricket. And whenever two matches are happening between
my favorite things, I love to go for a
match where there are better commentators
and of course, the possibility of a better
game, of a better place. These good choices
was a good choice. Decisions can come
anywhere when you're making a decision to
buy a car or scooter, to select your teacher, or even menu to select a particular road that you
need to drive your car on. But things that
can help you make a better choice out of the
good choice is if you think, What can you give you a bigger long-term benefit and what offers you more quality? One that has a larger
long-term benefit and more quality you
can go for that choice. And along with that, if that joy somewhere aligns with
your personality, that is an added bonus
to go for that choice. E.g. my dad had an
entrepreneurial mind senses. He was presented with
a choice to sit in an already functioning
and good revenue making electric shop by his dad with his brother versus opening a new antenna business which had the possibility
of flourishing, but it was not very
stable back then. He has to start
everything from scratch. What he did was he
took a chance in this new business because it was more aligned with
his personality, with the fight he has to establish to build
new things to face more challenges
in these sorts of decisions where you are
presented with a good choice. Go for the one that aligns with your personality
and your mindset. That will for sure help
you time in your life. And of course, we queue
more better decisions. So think of your good choices versus good choices decisions. What parameters you use
to evaluate the cost? Was it the quality
wasn't the benefits? Was it your personality
inclination? Or a mix of all that insert
and proportions, again, is going to be a fascinating
and wonderful discovery for you doing this higher. What if you don't find
this video interesting? The next one is going to be
very interesting for you, because in the next one
we are going to discuss a good choice versus a
bad choice decision. And how even knowing
things to be bad, we end up making a bad decision, again, is going to be
a revelation for you. So let's jump straight
into the next lesson.
10. Handling Confusions : Good Vs Bad Choice: As obvious as it may sound, when you're presented
with a good choice, which is a bad choice. What would you think?
You would say to me, of course, a good choice? What question you're
asking me, my dear friend. Let me give you a few
facts about what we do and how we end up making bad
choices more often than not. And how this thing that
seems so logical that we always will make a good choice versus a bad choice
is not so true. The first instance is this. I think you also
believe waking up early at five in the morning
is good for your health. But what do you do in a cold winter
morning when you're given a choice to be under the blanket and just to continue your sleep
for a few more hours. What choice you make
them ready for me. I do see. I am not that I don't do
hiccup and other cases. Remember when you are giving your exams and you
have to study, but somehow the very
favorite soccer match of yours is telecast it. What did you do? In fact, I remember I delete writing for this
class by one day because I wanted to see my favorite
cricket player will sharpen that in a
particular match. Another instance
that you can see in your life is going
for a more tasty, yummy, unhealthy food
instead of a healthy food. When do you consume more
bodies in your breakfast? Or do you can do purport as the Friedberg Louis be
czars in your entirety. We know that O2 is good for her, but why then do we end up having a ball good
or pizza or a lot of unhealthy stuff in
it even though we know that it is not good. Another incident
that I can think of is when you go out
drinking with your friends versus the family
that is waiting for you to have a meal with you. What do you do using
all these decisions? It's not so obvious that
we make a good choice. We end up making
a choice that is not so good and
it's easy to make. But one thing that
you will observe in all these decisions where you end up choosing a bad choice. Is that in all of those you're driven by your
sense pleasures, where you are driven
by or instant emotion, the urge to do than
the need of doing it. Unfortunate it is, but we most of the time fall for
our sense pleasures. And that is a great hint
that if we can use, we will make more good
choices versus bad choices. Usually when I fell for watching
my favorite player bad, my eyes wanted to
see him at any cost. I even sacrifice writing
for this course. But what it cost me was one day of writing the
course with stealing the whole production process by a week because I only
shoot on a weekend. You see, my senses
were not under my control and I didn't
do the right thing, even though internally
I felt it was wrong. Here we end up making
a bad choice because it's easy to me than the good choice of controlling the census and doing
the right thing. Whenever you feel
they're disposed of emotion pushing you
to do a certain thing over the right thing with
a good choice by anything. Shut that voice in your head. At least try for that. Because once you start
trying that in doing that, you will gain more
control of yourself. And some of you will
be able to control your mind better and make more good choices than falling for the distractions
or the bad choices. I'm also trying
to practice that. I'm not a master at it, but it has helped me. Now that matches still going
on on the second name, but I shut off the TV not to watch my favorite players match, at least at the time when I
have to shoot this video. So start slow. Take control over
your senses and don't fall for distractions. Don't fall for temptations. Don't blindly follow what your mind say that
pushes you to do. Pause, think, and
make your decision. Then you are presented with a boot choice versus the badges. I'm sure you will be
able to do better. And I hope that you're
enjoying this lesson and the next one we
are going to discuss what you can do and how you
can handle when you have presented with two choices. So let's jump into
the next lesson.
11. Handling Confusions : Bad Vs Bad Choice: Well, this is rather
an obvious one. And where you find fewer
incentives in your life is when you're face to make a decision
between two bad choices. This means you have
to choose between a burger or a pizza
instance of your life, which are both high
gallery, unhealthy, means that this means you have to choose
between watching a movie at home previously versus watching a movie at a
movie theater at a time. When you have to
study, you know, my father has to lie
to her mom often when she was suffering from
OCD and a mental illness. My mom's condition was such that anyone who has to come to her room has to wash
their hands many times. And if it doesn't happen, she will make wash
hands in front of all. Whenever he has to go to her. He has a choice to
lie that he has watched his hand versus
actually washing his hands hundred times
before going towards you see both of them were bad
choices or he considered lying. That he has was his hand. Before going to the forum, my mom having a
south Indian food versus a Chinese food chicken. See those both are
bad choices for who? You see. We all know, and we do often that out of
the two bad choices, choose one that is less bad and causes less harm to others. So there also you can
think wisely about lessor harm that one decision
that new they may have. Hollywood, there are always good choices that we
should strive for. But in case you're stuck
with two bad choices, choose one mer, there is
lesser harm to others. That is an obvious insight
you can use to decide. Now that we have done
this segment of confusion between the good choices
and the bad choices, which I hope you will have
enjoyed in the next lesson, I'm going to give you
a five-step queen. Another technique to
make better decisions. This you can use every
time and you have to make a big decision or even a not. So. So let's get into it and
see what it has to offer. I'll see you in the next video.
12. Vedanta Technique-5 Steps Decision Making: We have done quite a
lot of things by now than the activity to
know what we do to take our decisions
and how they turn out to be good or bad,
the triggers of it. We now have an idea of how
to handle the state of confusion amongst
the two choices that we are presented with. But in this lesson, I'm
going to share with you an interesting five-step
Vedanta technique, which I learned from my
teacher that will help you make better decisions. So the technique consists of five steps and the five steps. Step one. A very important step is to know all the available
options before we make. This means not to get blurry on choices as I got when
my phone was broken. So knowing all the
available option, that's a key number one step. The second step is to know
your personality makeup, your mindset, what drives you, what are your values? This means that even though being an engineer or Dr.
is a good thing to do, you may not be driven by
it because you may love being a sports person
or your personality, me and client to be a YouTuber. Here, understand what is your personality
makeup and what are values that drives you in life. Because in certain situations, the honesty pattern meters are also different
for different people. So step two is to know your mindset and
pink on those lines. Step three is to classify your choice into
tertiary ester or a skirt means a
preferable choice that can give you
long-term satisfaction. Versus Prescott means a
pleasurable choice at electable choice
that can give you instead of short-term
gratification, but doesn't carry a
long-term benefit. E.g. having an apple for breakfast is a
three-star because it has good health benefits versus having a chocolate
cookie for breakfast, which is a fresco, which does not have quite good
health benefits. Step three is to
classify your choice into Austria squared
or a prayer sky. Step four is to make conscious,
deliberate decision, which means that even your subconscious should be fully
convinced of the decision. That it's like you're not fully convinced and not half-hearted
about the decision. Youtube, you see one of the reasons we made
bad decisions. We discovered that we are unsure at the time of making it. This means that you may believe
a choice to be good, e.g. waking up early in the morning. But when it is the morning your body fights against
you not to wake up. This means that still
you're not fully convinced in your subconscious
of your decision. You are still half-hearted. So consciously think
through your decision. Step five is one fewer
took a decision, then remove all other
choices from your mind. Because somehow someone
will make you feel bad. Or in a hindsight, you may feel like I could have taken
the other decision. So remove all other options from your mind once you
made a decision. These are the five
steps that you can practice to make
better decisions. They have helped me in my life and they act as a good reminder. So try inculcating this board
any big decision you did. And I'm sure they will guide
you to a better decision. Now that we have discussed a good elaborated
decision-making technique. In the next lesson,
I'm going to give you a guide for the courier
matrix where you can put in your decisions
and see whether they align with your personality
pedometers or not. It's again going to be
a new discovery for you and validation for your
good and bad decision. So let's jump straight
into it and see what it has for you
in the next lesson.
13. Career Matrix For Decision Making: Welcome to this video where
I'm going to share with you an interesting career matrix that I have learned
from my Google. My special guru submits. This matrix again will guide you specifically on the
work that you do and whether it aligns with
your personality or not. So the matrix is, we're making two lines, one vertical and horizontal. On the upper end of
this vertical line, we are going to write in Hindi, which in English means
ethical and moral actions. Whereas on the downside
of this vertical line, we are going to write
a Dharma, which in, which in English means
unethical and immoral actions. On this horizontal
line on the right end, we are going to
practicality in Hindi, which means nature
or personality. And on the left
end of this line, we are going to write
non-proprietary productivity, which means non nature
or non personality. So if we see the top
right of this matrix, which is quadrant one, we're going to put decisions
of assets or of adores, that we consider to
be morally good, as well as they align
with their personality. E.g. we all know Elon Musk. He's quite interested
in entrepreneurship, loves violet ventures with new technology and
loves building company. He's into all that stuff
and that of course, is a moral action. So it's courier and
his adventure into entrepreneurship is what we
can put in quadrant one, because it's a moral action. It says duty as well as it is
something that aligns with this personality and that fuels him and that
he loves doing. For me, if I think I love reading and video making
like class creation, I can put that also in
this first quadrant. For my father, he loves
doing acupressure. It's his duty to
serve his patients. It also aligns with his
personality and it also fuels. And so that also, I'll put in quadrant one. Quadrant one will give us an
activity that is your duty, that aligns with
your personality and something that
you love doing, and something that
you should do because it feeds you emotionally. But everything doesn't fall
in this quadrant one, e.g. I. Also was in an IT job which I think was definitely
model unethical, but it's something that I feel doesn't align with
my personality. It was something that I did that I think that
it didn't fuel me. It was something that I
was not very fond of, so I put it in second quadrant. The other thing that I can
put in this coordinate is my father's investment
in the movie business. Although that was fair
and good to invest in, his personality
didn't align with it. He was not interested in movie or movie business
and unfortunately, he made losses in that. Often you will find decisions in this quadrant to be ones
that are based on need. But not all, not all of them doing things that
stands in quadrant one. Quadrant three,
which consists of a non personality as
well as a Dharma, which means performing
unethical actions. And it also is something that doesn't align with your
personality makeup. I can absorb this in my life and I happened to cheat in an exam. And I wasn't very
good at cheating. Like some of my
friends, I got caught. It was something that
didn't align with my personality as well as it was something that was
not good morally as well. These decisions
that are unethical as well as doesn't align
with your personality. You cannot continue
that for a long time because eventually
you will get caught. So make sure that your
activities or choices of courier does not fall
into this quadrant. Three, the last quadrant means
you have the personality, you have the inclination towards doing some
certain thing. And activity per se
itself is immoral. Here in this quadrant, you can put terrorist
and good thieves. They are great in handling arms. They are great in planning and
strategy and what they do, but they're not doing
a moral action. What do you need
to strive for is somewhere to get your choices and decisions in quadrant one. Whatever you are doing
should fall in quadrant one because it gives you a signal that you are doing
the right thing, as well as it aligns
with your personality. And when the activity is
falling in quadrant one, It's something that
you do out of now. So check whether what
you're doing is falling in quadrant one or is
falling in quadrant two. If it's falling in
quadrant two, It's good. If in one even better, but make sure that
it doesn't fall into quadrant three
or four because it does not continue for
long and will for sure get caught somewhere and you
will later regret for that. So filling your choices and
your current or recent, recent decisions in this matter, decisions of people around you
in what they do and see if this matrix helps you confirm the choices you
made for your work. It will for sure I'll give
you a good validations. And insects pause this video and fill this matrix where
we are now very, very close to making it to
the end of this masterclass. And in the next lesson, I'm going to give you
a class project that will be very helpful
and insightful for you. So let's jump straight
into the next class and see what is the
project for you.
14. Class Project-Constructing Decision Making Profile: We are now onto the pen
ultimate lesson of this class. And in this, I will give
you a class project that Portia will help you in
your decision-making. What I want you to
do is I want you to upload this project to
the project gallery. I'll make sure to upload mine, so check out my project also. Give you a feedback. And I will also love to see your class project as the
class project is this, which is the document
that I'm going to attach. You need to fill it out
and you need to upload it. In this document, there
are three themes, three columns that
you have to fill it. The first column is where
you need to write tendencies that I display a new display when your decisions go wrong. So for me, when I'm
having this feeling of lack of surety or
somewhere, I'm unconvinced. That is one of my payments. The other one is when
I've wanted to do it. I get highly
emotionally to do that. When that feeling
comes that leads me towards a bad decision
most of the time. The other tendency
that I display, which of course is portfolio
up to the upper one, is when I failed to look
at all the choices. So these three are the
ones that I display mostly when my decision
tends to be bad. Again, you can seek help from your activity to bear you have
written your bad decisions and recall those
instances to figure out what tendencies you display and put this in
the first column. Yours can be seen
as my him or her. So that's not the point to
where the second column is, where you need to write
your tendency is when your decisions are
correct and good. So again, starting with me for the good
decision that I took, I do think it through and I
was fully convinced at them. I was rational and I have
looked over all the choices. The third column is, where can I improve? Again, this is
subjective for you. For me, I can improve and asking more questions when in
doubt to seek more clarity, which I don't generally do because I think what
are those will feel about my question or my
question is not that logic. The other thing that I can
improve it is to stop, pause, and whenever in high emotions
not to make a decision. This class project
I will keep as a handbook and as a
pointer in my mind, as well as in the project
section to keep it as a reminder for me to
make better decisions. I want you also
to comment on it. Also upload your
class project because we do learn from each other when we share our good things, as well as our
not-so-good things. Whenever we write something, we acknowledged this, the
area that we need to improve. So once you do that and
finish your class project, click from your phone camera this image where you have done this activity I uploaded
in the project section. I will wait for your project
and I hope that it gives you additional insights
and a reminder personally for you to
make a better decision. And with that, we are
virtually at the end of this masterclass and on to the final video in
the next lesson, where we're going to celebrate. And if I have something more, I'll share more with you. So let's meet in the
final video where I'm waiting for you
with a hind foot.
15. Wrap Up and Celebration: Sorry, I do not have
a handful of roses, as I said in the last lesson because they're
really expensive. But I have a hard pool
of congratulations for you because you have
made it so far. I hope that you have discovered quite a lot about
yourself and your decisions that you have not paid much attention to
when I'm with you. I also had a chance
to learn more about myself and the areas
that I can improve. So I can go from the bottom
of my heart for that display. I think we both have
been good partners together in this
decision-making journey. I enjoyed your company and I hope that the decision you took to do that class
was worth for you. I would just say
by the end of it, congratulations and thank you once again for
joining this class. If you have any doubts
about any videos, you can reach out
to me personally from the links in
the group section. I'm quite active on Facebook
as well as on my emails. So you can ping me that. You can also tune into my
other self and classes, all phase reading glasses to
have more journeys with me. I hope I make the best of
your type there as well. Yes. One more thing, along with uploading your
class project, I would love to have
your reviews on this course because it will help me improve further in
something that I love doing. Yes, The time has
come to say goodbye. But I promise that I will meet you very soon with a new course. Or maybe you can ping me
and we'll have a chat together with a
cup of tea if you happen to visit my town. So bye, bye, take care and have a super awesome and
wonderful thing. See you soon.