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Top Ten Skills to Boost Your Confidence

teacher avatar Fiona MacKay Young, Handwriting Analysis & Personal Growth

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13 Lessons (41m)
    • 1. Introduction to Top Ten Steps to Boost Your Confidence

      2:34
    • 2. What is Self Confidence

      3:57
    • 3. #1 Use Positive Affirmations

      3:27
    • 4. #2 Look for the Good in all Situations

      2:12
    • 5. #3 Keep an Open Mind

      1:54
    • 6. #4 Get out of Your Comfort Zone

      3:12
    • 7. #5 Give Yourself Credit

      3:19
    • 8. #6 Find the Lesson in Disappointment

      2:37
    • 9. #7 Learn to Appreciate your own Abilities

      3:13
    • 10. #8 Examine your Successes

      3:23
    • 11. #9 Recognize your Strengths and Weaknesses

      3:00
    • 12. #10 Think Positive Thoughts

      6:28
    • 13. Wrapping it all up

      1:51
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You need confidence to succeed in any area of life. A lack of confidence can prevent you from being who you were born to be and doing what you would love to do. This course takes you through 10 steps to boost your confidence in every area of your life, to help you enjoy life more, and be willing to thoroughly make use of your unique personality, skills and talents that you were born with.

Don't be the one hiding in the corner, or holding back from what you want to do. Gear up to make the most of you, with confidence and joy.

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Fiona MacKay Young

Handwriting Analysis & Personal Growth

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I've been involved for over 20 years in helping people move ahead with their lives through identifying their gifts, strengths and overcoming blocks or limitations. It is my goal to inspire those I meet to develop their potential to the fullest.

There are a wide variety of ways to do these things, and I love to explore, adapt and create new ways.

As a Graphologist and Grapho-Therapist (Handwriting Analysis),

And also as a Career Counselor and Personal Development & Law of Attraction Coach,

I love nothing more than to help people be the very best they can be, to realize their hopes and dreams and love their lives. 

I also love 'techie' things, and have worked as a Graphic Designer, creating websites (WordPress) and creating videos fo... See full profile

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1. Introduction to Top Ten Steps to Boost Your Confidence: I'm feeling Makhaya, and this is the top 10 steps to boost your confidence. Confidence effects every single area off your life. And if you're lacking confidence in even just one area, it can have a huge effect on your success in life in general, in various areas of life. But in general, having confidence affects your relationships with other people, whether it's making friends, keeping friends guessing along with a family, whether it's your job, whether it's to go for a job or not to go for a job, whether it's to take a trip or not to trick a trick, I mean absolutely everything that you do that you want to do that you think of doing. It's affected by your confidence, our lack of confidence. So Teoh gets become confident to to do things that will help you gain confidence is well worth it for anybody at any age. It will make a huge impact on your life to become more confident, and maybe you are quite a confident person. But if there's something missing, if this even just one area of your life where you're not confident it was, have great benefits to you to gain more confidence in that area. And other people just feel like we just don't have confidence will stop. They don't have any, is what we feel they probably have more than they think they have. But that's again is you got the lack of confidence in your confidence, so to gain confidence can change your whole life. It can allow you to go where you want to go with your life, to have more friends, to get along better with everybody in general, there is absolutely nobody in this world who cannot benefit from having terrific confidence in themselves on I'm not talking about overconfidence that be egotistical. I'm talking about a good, healthy level of confidence. And that's what this course is about is going to give you 10 very practical steps to gain more confidence, tell you how to go about it, give you exercise to do it on. Hopefully, by the end of it, you will be feeling a lot more confident. So if you feel like you're lacking confidence in any area of your life at all, then give this course to try, because I think it really could benefit you on. I'd love to hear afterwards what you think about it. And if you like the course, please follow me on on skill share and find out all the other parcel development courses. I'm coming out, so let's go into the eight top 10 steps to build your confidence. 2. What is Self Confidence: what is self confidence? Self confidence carries conviction. It makes other people believe in us. Orson Sweat Margin Self confidence is your self assurance that you can accomplish what you have decided to do. Self confidence and self esteem are connected, but they're not the same self esteem. Is your evaluation off your own self worth? And as such, it could either help or hinder you in achieving your goals. Self confidence is your conviction that you can and will achieve your goals. It is possible to have self confidence is some areas of life and not in others because one believes in oneself. One doesn't try to convince others because one is content with oneself. One doesn't need others approval because one accepts oneself. The whole world accepts him or her allowed to. Self confident people are able to perceive their vulnerabilities realistically and accurately. Onder often described as optimistic and positive, looking on the bright side, expecting things to work out, well assertive, confident and independent, willing to take the initiative to go their own way and do their own thing able to handle criticism. They don't have to like criticism, but they can handle it on won't let it distract them from their goals, their vibrant and full of life and hope, because they know they can achieve what they want to achieve. Whereas lack of confidence is an unrealistic view off your abilities. Pessimistic, full of doubt and often an inferiority complex, they're very sensitive to criticism, getting hurt very easily, even when no hurt is intended passive and dependent, dependent upon others. You don't believe in your own ideas or goals. You feel you have to wait for others to turn the key to get things going. The thaw Arctic and lack of energy. Lack of motivation because you have no faith that you will succeed, Which would you rather be? Lack of confidence, unrealistic view of abilities pessimistic, full of doubt and fear or itchy, complex, passive and dependent upon others Very sensitive to criticism on lethargic with a lack of energy? Or would you like to be self confident, self assured, Perceive your own abilities realistically on accurately optimistic and positive, assertive, confident at independent, able to handle criticism and vibrant coming up. Next, the top 10 steps to help you boost your confidence 3. #1 Use Positive Affirmations: number one used positive affirmations. I'm sure you've heard of positive affirmations, but have you tried? Um, they're well known and well used for a reason. Because they work. The basic way to use, um, is either to make up or collect a Siris of positive statements about yourself and say them repeatedly to yourself regularly. The premise is that if you keep saying them often enough, your program your subconscious mind to believeth, um, on when your subconscious mind believes something, it guides your behavior to do everything possible to make that thing come true. So if you're positive, affirmations are all about how self confident you are. After a while, you will indeed start to believe what the affirmation said is true, and you will find that you do indeed have self confidence. Positive affirmations can be spoken aloud to yourself. Spoken aloud to yourself while looking at yourself in the mirror. Record it and listen to regularly. Proton. A vision board are written non notes, post sitting places. You'll see them often, regardless off which method or methods you choose. Repetition is the key to affirmations working. Here's a short slide show off Positive Affirmations class project right out for yourself. Or find online at least five affirmations that fit what you want in your life. And if you need to increase your confidence to achieve, then read these five affirmations to yourself out loud, regularly coming up next number to look for the good in all situations. 4. #2 Look for the Good in all Situations: number two look for the good in all situations. When something happens, many people look at only the negative side of it on being mown how unlucky they are. What that does is it has some focus on the negative. So the likeliest thing toe happen is for them to find even more negative, which, of course, gives them even more to mourn about. But if you want to have confidence, confidence that things can work out, that you can achieve what you want, you need to look in each event for the positive because once you find the positive, you will find even more positive on more positive. It doesn't mean you pretend you don't see the bad stuff. It just means you focus on the goods and you get in the habit of focusing on the good. This way you will feel happier. I'm more confident in your ability to succeed. Here is the class project. Think of something that has happened in your life in the recent past, which appeared negative to you find on write down at least three positive things that could come from it, no matter how small and then making you haven't from now on to look for the positive. In every event, there is a positive in something. Sometimes it's very hard to find, but if you look hard enough, you'll find it. And if you focus on it, you'll feel an awful lot better coming up. Next. Number three. Keep an open mind. 5. #3 Keep an Open Mind: number two. Look for the good in all situations. When something happens, many people look at only the negative side of it on being mown, how unlucky they are. When something happens, many people look at only the negative side of it on be mown how unlucky they are. When something happens, many people look at only the negative side of it on be mown how unlucky they are. When something happens, many people look at only the negative side of it on be mown how unlucky they are. When something happens, many people look at only the negative side of it on Be mown how unlucky they are. Here's a class project I think is something that has happened in your life in the recent past, which appeared negative to you. Find on, Write down at least three positive things that could come from it, no matter how small, and then making you have it from now on to look for the positive. In every events, there is a positive in something. Sometimes it's very hard to find, but if you look hard enough, you'll find it, and if you focus on it, you'll feel an awful lot better coming up Next. Number three. Keep an open mind 6. #4 Get out of Your Comfort Zone: number four Get out off your comfort zone. Your comfort zone is what you're used to, what you comfortable with situations and places where your ease and feel in control. So you have low levels of stress and anxiety, and for that very reason, it's very difficult to grow when you stay in your comfort zone. Author Neale Donald Walsch says it like this life begins at the end off your comfort zone. When you go outside of your comfort zone, you push your boundaries on boundaries. One's broken never fully meant, so it will become easier and easier to move outside your comfort zone in the future. I know you can handle. This will work wonders for your confidence. So if you don't have confidence already, you need to grow to gain it. And you can't do that in your comfort zone. So here are five suggestions to help you get out off your comfort. So one next time you're out driving, take a different route than you usually do. It's a small change, but it gets you started. Number two Sergeant Project that you're not sure you know how to complete. Then just keep working at its on learn what you need to learn to complete it. Number three. Choose something that you've deliberately avoided so far because you have a fear of it. It can be anything at all. And then do it. Number four. Take a stand with someone in a way you never have before. It could be asking for something or refusing something or just saying no. When you have a fear of doing so, how can you take a stand and number five. Join a group or take a class on a topic of interest to you that you previously haven't felt confident enough to do? Here's a class project either. Choose one of the five suggested ways to get out of your comfort zone or create one for yourself. Write down what you plan on doing on by what date, Then do it coming up next. Number five. Give yourself credit 7. #5 Give Yourself Credit: number five. Give yourself credit. Most of us are brought up to be modest, not to boast and brag about her successes. That is some ways that's good. But in other ways it's bad for us because it tends to have a stone, play our successes, even to ourselves and not fully appreciate what we've done. But if we're to have confidence and courage in the presence on din the future, we need to acknowledge our past successes to help us know what can succeed on that we can do so again now ended the future as well. So for this lesson, put aside the concept that being proud of yourself is wrong. It is right, and it's good, and you need it just now. What successes, however small have you had? Do not be modest. If you achieve something, recognize it as such that you did something worthwhile to be recognized on approved off. Even if you think you're the only person who feels that way, What have you done that perhaps can't really be considered a success of such, but that you were proud of having done? What are you currently doing that you need to give yourself credit for. Remember, no modesty allowed here if you did it or are doing it, you deserve the credit. Keep thinking like this. You may want to start your list, then come back to it each day. Toe. Add something new you thought off and keep going to have a long list of things for which you can give yourself credit. If you're uncomfortable about writing them down, you couldn't do it on a password would file on your computer. If it worries you that someone might see what you've written, here's a class project. Put your list of successes somewhere. You will see it daily whether on your computer. If you chose the password file, are pinned out somewhere in your home and read it, or at least part of it part of your lists every single day to remind yourself just how much you've already achieved on this Silly creates your confidence mawr each time you read it coming up next, Number six Find the lesson in disappointment 8. #6 Find the Lesson in Disappointment: number six find the lesson in disappointment. Finding the lesson in a disappointment can be tough because something you wanted or wantedto happen didn't. And that's in itself can be hard to take and to find and learn the lesson within it takes guts. You have to sit down and consider what happened on what you can learn from it. Did you go after something too fast without taking time to learn or prepare enough? Or did you put your trust in something or someone who you really have no reason to trust? Or that you did have reason to trust on the failed you, no matter what the cars? Your job at this point is to ask yourself. So what can I learn from this and write it down? Our minds play tricks on us on. Our memories are not always perfect. So by writing down the lesson or lessons, the situation is teaching you. You have less chance off falling into the history repeats itself trap again. It's not easy, but it's worth its Take the time and put in the effort toe work out the lesson. Each time a disappointment happens, how you be much less likely to find it repeating itself. Here's a class project. Think of a time recently when things didn't work out as you had hoped. What lessons can you learn from that? How could this help here in the future? Write it down somewhere that you'll be able to check it at a future time coming up. Next, learn to appreciate your own abilities. 9. #7 Learn to Appreciate your own Abilities: number seven Learn to appreciate your own abilities. Do you know what you're good at? Are you sure? You undoubtedly know some things you're good at, but there, perhaps a great many that you're not aware off. What do friends ask you questions about or ask for help with? They obviously consider that an ability of yours. What you lose track of time when you're doing that is the perfect indication off something you're not only good at but also love doing what have you taken a course in or learnt on your own? What you love to read about or watch videos about, sometimes out. That will be just because you're like it's but at other times, Bill, because you have an innate ability in that area. Underestimating ourselves is very, very common, partly because we're taught to be modest about her Selves on partly because we only know what we can do. We can't see how other people struggle with the same things on an ability is just being able to do something that others can't or that others have a problem with doing. Or perhaps you have great interpersonal skills that are who is that coming up with solutions to problems. Arkan communicate with charm and tact in difficult situations. If it's something physical is easier to see how others manage. But if it's mental, I thought process or internal ability It could be really hard to understand that what you do so easily can be difficult for others. Like most things in gaining confidence, it takes sitting down and thinking about it to work out in what ways you have abilities to celebrate. And, as always, writing them down helps you both appreciate that. Now on, remember to appreciate them in the future. Don't shortchange yourself on your abilities. You have a great many more than you think you have. So take some time to discover how great you really are. It will help your confidence. No end. The class project is to take time to consider what unique or strong abilities you have. I'm write them down, started lists and add to it any time you become aware of something else that belongs on the lists coming up next. Number eight. Examine your successes 10. #8 Examine your Successes: number eight Examine your successes. What have been your successes in life? It doesn't have to have small or seemingly insignificant what were the By focusing on times when you feel you succeeded No matter of what it waas you help yourself to have confidence that you can succeed again at the same type of thing are at something different. How did it feel to be a success, right then in that moment, how did it feel? Now I think of another time when you were successful again. It doesn't matter when, where or what it waas You were successful and that's all that counts Just now Close your eyes and feel the feeling Feel how it felt when you first realize that you had succeeded Feel how it felt to tell other people in your life above Just spend some time feeling the feeling off success Do you like that feeling most people do on the best way to have it happen again is to keep feeling it deliberately on often and take that feeling with you into new ventures. It really will help you succeed as well as feeling, though. Take a look at what it waas that made these situations successful. What is the key to that success? What did you do that made the difference between success and failure? There's no magic formula, of course. What helped you succeed one time won't necessarily help me succeed another time, but on the other hand, it just might. So it's worth looking at it hard and working out just how and why you did what you did and when you did it and evaluate that as a possible strategy for future success. It may need some reworking or alteration to work the next time, but don't give up on it. It worked once. Hey, come work again. Here's a class project. Come up with at least three successes you have had and evaluate what you did that made the difference between success and not succeeding and write it down. If you can see patterns between different successes, that's very important since you've been used these patterns in the future for further successes coming up Next, Number nine recognize your strengths and weaknesses 11. #9 Recognize your Strengths and Weaknesses: number nine. Recognize your strengths and weaknesses? What are your strengths and what are your weaknesses? Knowing them is just the start. Once you know them, where do you go from there? There is an age long debate about whether it's better to concentrate on using your strengths or whether it's better to work on improving your weaknesses. There's no doubt that using your strengths will help build your confidence unless your weaknesses hold you back from doing so successfully. So here is the middle off the road. Suggestion. Use your strengths as much as possible, but if you find it, a weakness that's holding you back are causing you not to be able to take full advantage off your strengths, then work on that weakness to guess it's at least to a level where it would no longer pull you down or back. Then go back to working with you strengths again, until or unless you find another weakness, which these to improve to let you move forwards. Bye, guys along. In this way, you're bolstering your confidence by working with the best off you that are preventing anything from deterring you. The other, comforting confidence boosting benefit is that as you work on a weakness and improve it, you'll be proving to yourself that you can on this will give you even more confidence than next time you find something that needs improvement. No one is good at everything. Not you, not me, not anyone. So enjoy what you're good at. Revel in it and take yourself wherever you most want to go. Here's a class project. Draw a line down the middle of a sheet of paper, right? The strengths. Have the talk off the left column and right weaknesses at the top off the right color. Now fill in the columns with as many things as you can. Be gentle with yourself on coming up with things for the right column underlying your main straps and celebrate them. And each time you improve on a weakness, move it over to the left hand column. Coming up next. Number 10. Think positive thoughts 12. #10 Think Positive Thoughts: number nine. Recognize your strengths and weaknesses? What are your strengths and what are your weaknesses? Knowing them is just the start. Once you know them, where do you go from there? There is an age long debate about whether it's better to concentrate on using your strengths or whether it's better to work on improving your weaknesses. There's no doubt that using your strengths will help build your confidence unless your weaknesses hold you back from doing so successfully. So here is the middle off the road. Suggestion. Use your strengths as much as possible, but if you find it, a weakness that's holding you back are causing you not to be able to take full advantage off your strengths, then work on that weakness to guess it's at least to a level where it would no longer pull you down or back. Then go back to working with you strengths again, until or unless you find another weakness, which these to improve to let you move forwards. Bye, guys along. In this way, you're bolstering your confidence by working with the best off you that are preventing anything from deterring you. The other, comforting confidence boosting benefit is that as you work on a weakness and improve it, you'll be proving to yourself that you can on this will give you even more confidence than next time you find something that needs improvement. No one is good at everything. Not you, not me, not anyone. So enjoy what you're good at. Revel in it and take yourself wherever you most want to go. Here's a class project. Draw a line down the middle of a sheet of paper, right? The strengths. Have the talk off the left column and right weaknesses at the top off the right color. Now fill in the columns with as many things as you can. Be gentle with yourself on coming up with things for the right column underlying your main straps and celebrate them. And each time you improve on a weakness, move it over to the left hand column. Coming up next. Number 10. Think positive thoughts. Number 10. Think positive thoughts. Have you noticed that the recurring theme throughout all the lessons in this course is think positive thoughts. This is not an accident, and that goes for everything in life. If you look at life from a positive angle, several things will happen. You'll be happier because you will see the light. Even where there's a lot of darkness, you'll see hope. Even when you're surrounded with problems, you'll be able to see new opportunities. Even when everyone else is sticking to the old, You'll be able to move ahead into new, untested territory instead of sticking to home. Because it's what you know, you'll be able to congratulate yourself on your achievement, even though it may be small steps. At first, you'll be able to look at a situation that didn't turn out well. I'm realized that is taught to a valuable lesson that will help you in the future. You'll realize that you are, Ah, unique, gifted and special person on Learn to love yourself. And that's always the first step towards loving others, too. You'll not only celebrate your achievements, but also look at them and discover how they can help you achieve even more. You'll gain an appreciation off what you do particularly well on what you prefer to arrange for others to do so you can spend more time doing what you excel at, so notice your thoughts and keeping them in a positive direction has more benefits and just feeling cheery. It can change your whole life. Positive thinking doesn't mean that you look at things falsely pretending things were good . When they're bad, it means you look for the positive in everything. On while you recognize the existence off the negative, you choose to make the positive your focus. Here's a class project. Spend a few minutes each day looking for the positives. Some very Selby easy, because the whole day will have been positive. But other times it will be more difficult. So on these days, spend a little more time, if necessary, to come out with several positives that were there all along but perhaps needed a bit more effort to uncover. Think positively every day, coming up next, wrapping it all up. 13. Wrapping it all up: wrapping it all up. So there they are, the top 10 steps to boost your confidence. Each step can help all on its own. But obviously the more you use, the more your confidence will grow. So here is the overall course project for you. Start working on anyone off the 10 steps, whether it takes a day, a week or a month. And once you find yourself using that one regularly, that in itself will bring you confidence. And then at another offer 10 steps until all 10 are part of your life. Positive affirmations. Look for the good. Keep an open mind. Get out of your comfort zone. Give yourself credit. Find the lesson in disappointment. Appreciate your own abilities. Examine your successes, recognize your strengths and weaknesses and think positive thoughts and then you'll see, are more confident. Happier. I'm more optimistic you