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Superpowers For Modern Life: How To Be Calm, Happy, and Enjoy The Ride

teacher avatar Colin Stuckert, Entrepreneur, Podcaster, Writer

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9 Lessons (18m)
    • 1. Course Intro

      1:11
    • 2. Change Your Mind

      2:31
    • 3. Remove Ego

      1:57
    • 4. Curate People and Info

      2:35
    • 5. Cultivate Non-Response

      2:21
    • 6. Comfort is dangerous

      1:21
    • 7. Think For Yourself

      2:02
    • 8. Shrug Your Shoulders

      1:55
    • 9. Conclusion

      2:35
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We live in the most complex world humanity has ever seen.

This tugs at our mental state, our happiness, our peace of mind.

There are certain first principles you can cultivate that will mitigate much of this so you can live happier and be calmer and more effective.

This won't happen by accident, though. If you let your environment dictate your life, it will do that and you probably won't like the result.

Here are some SUPERPOWERS you should cultivate for living a better, calmer, happier life in the modern digital age.

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Colin Stuckert

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1. Course Intro: Welcome to the course Principles for a balanced life. I'm gonna give you some of my first principles that I've learned over 15 years being entrepreneur working for myself, having a family and even a bunch as a crazy bunch stuff. The more that you can go principles and stick to the basics, the happier, the more productive and the more things you're going to get done in life, you're also just going to enjoy it. You're gonna have a better path. You'll have a better journey. So when you do get to the destinations that you're after, you will have also had fun along the way. What's the point of slaving away being miserable for years so that you can make a little bit of mind, have little bit of power, fame, or success. If you're then miserable. Because the journey is what makes you who you are, right? So I'm going to help you focus on today, things that you can do, things that you want to build into your daily life. Had to think how to keep things simple, had a focus on the basics of human fulfillment, actualization, happiness. I'm CEO of wild foods. I blog over Conda coach, and you can learn more about me obviously and the teacher section, I hope you get some value out of this course. Let me take some action that helps you one way or another. You can always reach me, call it refers OCO, and I'll see you in the next one. 2. Change Your Mind: When was the last time you changed your mind? And something is especially something that was part of your identity that you were wrapped up in. This skill right here is a superpower. Why? Well, let's analyze it real quick. Every single day, there is more stuff coming out information wise that is available basically to the world. Then, you know, the last 100 years of information, every single day year, whatever it goes on to have more and more and more massive amount of information. Things change all the time. New developments in technology and things, rewrite the rules all the time. You have an inability to change your mind. You're going to very quickly be left behind. We see this with the expert fallacy. We see this with entrenched incumbent industries and just a lot of things that are based on a status quo and maintaining that and the profit motive. We see how quickly these things have been left behind, though they try to grasp for power. They tried to hold on to what they have. And we're going to see even more of these revolutions taking place in the next ten to 20 years. If you can't change your mind, you can't even just get better at not clinging onto idea so strongly. Become a little bit detach, a little bit, stepped back. That's gonna make you have more of an open growth mindset. You're gonna be able to bring more information in your build, assimilate it. And you're gonna constantly navigate to what is likely truth, or at least as close as you can get to through this possible. That is a framework for the technology internet based world we live in now, the information abundant world. But it also happens to be the best way to learn, adapt, and grow. To the first most important principle you want in the current world today to be in actualizing flourishing human is you wanna be able to change your mind. And you want to be able to be less rigid in your thinking and your thoughts. And that's why I spent so much time on principles. Because principles we can know for sure when we really broke things down, distill into the basics, we can focus on those as the foundation. And then everything else can just be whatever. We can just be completely open and not really committed to anything. That's what I found is the best operating framework to survive today, to force today, and also surprisingly, to be happy and become actualized. Because the more you wrap up your identi into things and ideas that are likely going to change or be tested the more stress and anxiety are going to have. So take a step back, folks and the principles, be willing to change your mind. Be a little bit hesitant to commit to ideas. Game-changer. 3. Remove Ego: Now I'm not going to pretend that it's easy to remove the ego. And I would even say maybe we want to take a step back from our ego and continually pushed herself back because it's going to be a constant. We get wrapped up in our beliefs and our ego and our identity. And it becomes hard to hear things were interact with people or see things on the internet, for example, that might challenge our idea of who we are. The thing about an ego though is the closer you get to being tied up in your ego and your ego being very strong in your character is you become less resilient because the ego is a fragile thing. It's like a, a glass house. It doesn't really get better by being stressed. It's just something that if you throw a rock at it enough, the walls will crack, it'll come tumbling down. When you remove yourself from your ego, you become more resilient, become more even anti fragile. You'd have an open mind. Ideas can come in you to hold onto any one idea too strongly and you can adapt and grow in iterate. So you want to step back from the ego as much as possible. You want to be resilient. You want ideas to come in, you want challenges to come in. You want even threats to come in and kind of bounce off or just kind of go through and to the side. And ego is this kind of sturdy thing he tried to build up and you try to protect it. And the world's keeps dormant stuff at it, right? People always have criticism W, someone is always going to tell you how she'd do it better or wasn't good enough for whatever. And the more you wrapped up in your ego, the more that glass house is going to continually be pinned and cracks, right? And eventually it will break. Ego also keeps you blind. You can't see things as clearly. You're not as open-minded. You are literally more fragile the more you are tied up in your ego and your idea of how things should be or how the world should perceive your what's fair, what's not fair, the more you're going to suffer. Take a step back, remove your ego as much as possible, constantly fight it back. That's how going to be more resilient. You're also going to be happier. And you're going to have just more clarity and peace of mind. It's just a better way to live. 4. Curate People and Info : You are the average of the seven people you spend the most time with. You are the ideas you consume, the media you watch, you are the foods you eat. You've probably heard phrases like this, quotes like this, etcetera on a daily basis. Are you asking yourself, is this person idea or content helping me? Is it making me stagnate, keeping the same place, or is it regressing me? That's the real test that not many people are thinking about or really paying attention to. We tend to default to what's in our environment, what's easy, whatever. And we don't have to pay attention to it. And we get a lot of times negative results. So what you want to do is you want to carefully curates people and ideas or really content you let into your life. When you interact with people, when they're around you, when you're absorbing their ideas, run them, talk to you, you'll hear them Gaza. You're letting them be negative, whatever it is that is affecting your life in the moment and in the future. You're quite literally letting them dictate your happiness level the way you think. You're letting them manipulate you. And a lot of times people are doing this on accident because maybe your negative person or maybe we're just gossiping or whatever. But if that's not what you're into, you need to curate that coal that from your environment. I'm not gonna give you about strategies for doing that because it's very myriad mixed up topic. I mean, if it's friends and family gotta fund strategy as coworkers got to find a strategy like, you know, whatever. But as far as ideas go and information you let into your mind through this thing. What apps are using, what videos or you're watching? What do you, are just scrolling aimlessly on Instagram or Twitter or whatever you can build, you must build a consciously curated method for consuming information. Even something as simple as watching Netflix. And it's an aggressive, violent show or it's depressing whatever I've in my adult life realizes, there's just certain bits of content that I won't watch anymore. I've never liked whore. And so that kind of is natural, just don't want to watch it. But there's also negative content or things that are really depressing that I might have watched when I was younger, but that it was good or whatever. But now I'm just not looking into my life. I'm not letting you into my consciousness. Gotta figure out what those things are for you and then replaced with better content, better information. Maybe read a book instead. Carefully curate the people and the information they ideas that you let into your life. If you want to control the results you get and the happiness that you have in a peace of mind that you can acquire right now, it is so important and inner modern environment with all the distractions and all things that are vying for our attention. Not a lot of people are paying attention to this. 5. Cultivate Non-Response: This one's actually my goal for 2021, build or cultivate non-response. And you could all say non judgment, none opinion, et cetera. You want to remove your gut instinct or gut response to your external environment, you wanna become removed from it as possible. So there's a little bit of a gap so that you don't immediately respond to the first thing that comes to mind. I'll give an example. I was driving and this was a couple months ago, which really brought this idea in my head. I was driving and somebody kinda quickly cut me off in traffic. I felt myself going to that, you know, about to get angry, whatever. And I was like, why, why am I going to let this person upset me, disturb my mental equanimity right now. Why? And I couldn't answer that. Like is it's going to feel good. I'm gonna be angry, I'm gonna feel justified more like it literally makes no sense. And I was like, well, you know, I don't want to kinda gut respond to things. I don't want to see common Instagram and let people get to me, you're upset me or whatever. I don't want people to cut you off in traffic and have any say whatsoever in my mental state or how respond. So it came the idea of for 2021, I want to build non-response. Now this can also be non-story, non judgement. Very good idea to apply to other things in your life. So if you tell yourself stories all time, i'm not good, I'm not this, I'm not that or whatever. You've got to stop telling yourself stories if you want to, Julie need to label everything, have a peanut. Everything like you're expending energy to do that. There's a negativity bias to that. Like it leads the gossip and other things like that. Most of us, I would say most people should get better at not having opinions rather than having opinions. And there's reasons for this are ancestral reasons why we want to label things, put them in a box. We want to build these heuristics because our environment is very complex and we want to be safe. I get that. But in a modern world, we don't have to worry about dangerous as much. We actually need to be aware of the danger of our mind and how it can kind of do its own thing and lead us astray. Build non-response, non judgement, non stories, as much as possible. Remove yourself, or at least get a gap between something happening in your environment and you responding to it negatively or irrationally or harshly or whatever. You want to have as much of a gap as possible. So you can give yourself a pause. And then you can think, well, do I really want to respond to this or really wanna be upset right now? And then you can objectively, but no, I don't. And then poof, it goes away. 6. Comfort is dangerous: It is your natural tendency to seek comfort. We all wanted to seek comfort, but how is that holding us back? That's the question. Are you trying to be too comfortable in your physical environment and therefore, you don't want to work out because it's too cold or too hot or to, to this and therefore your health degrades. Are you seeking convenient tasty foods because that brings you comfort and you don't want to maybe make a home-cooked meal of real food. There's a lot of examples where comforters killer, not saying yes to opportunities because we're afraid or we have some resistance to it. We're not challenging ourselves. We're not trying to personally developed, we're not trying to grow. We stay in our comfort little bubble doing the same thing every single day. Over a long enough period of time, these habits become ingrained and before you know it, 10-20 years, you've mid-life crisis because you've never done what you wanna do. You never pursued your goals, et cetera. That's how dangerous comfort can be. Comfort can be something that over years you don't even realize it's taking place until I don't want to say it's too late, but in some cases can't be too late. If you end up on your deathbed. If you end up at the end of your life and you've not done the things you want to do because you saw comfort too often. That's going to be a tragedy. I don't want that for you or for anybody. Resist the comfort and resist the path of least resistance, the path of easy, convenient, comfortable, because it's holding you back in more ways than one. 7. Think For Yourself: This one is hard. We live in a world where people get a lot of the information. You and I, from our phones, from devices. Maybe for mainstream media. Maybe we're not reading as much. Sure, whatever, maybe watching YouTube videos and influencers. Thinking for yourself. It's, it's hard to do. I'm not going to sugar coat it. Our species, a design to kinda follow monkey, see monkey do well, people around us do what society does, what culture does, that's what we default to. If you want to have an extraordinary life though, in extraordinary life, you have to go beyond what is ordinary. It is easy to think the way everyone else does. It is easy to follow what mainstream media says or this says or whatever. But you're taking a risk when you do. And if you actually think about it, if the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation, as Thoreau said back in the 18 hundreds, if you don't like how the masses today are leading their lives was like we talked about a lot of issues with following the status quo. If you do whatever one does, you're going to get the same results as them. So if you want extraordinary results, you have to do something that's outside the ordinary. Thinking for yourself is the foundation to doing anything that is different from what everyone else is doing. And there's ways to do this. You go to source material, you read, biographies, read history, build your own knowledge base from good sources of information rather than just listening to mainstream. Your worldviews outweigh. And again, not many people do this. So this is kind of a very tough thing, right? You definitely to stand out in some ways and have to separate yourself in some ways. But if you are genuinely interested in thinking for yourself, you will go to the source. You will then use your own logical framework to ask yourself a bit of information that tries to enter your mind. Is this right? Does this make sense to me? Is this just something people are saying? Because everyone is saying it. And then you can really analyze things and critically think for yourself. I wouldn't say that today, one of the most valuable skills you can have if you want a successful life is to be able to think critically for yourself. 8. Shrug Your Shoulders: And finally, cultivate the habit of shrugging your shoulders. It is amazing how much a6 in stress you can save yourself from by just saying, help me. Maybe, maybe not. I don't know. Who cares. Just think about that. So much of our inflamed current affairs driven fear mongering mainstream narrative is based on people yelling at each other, arguing, debating, and research shows that nobody ever changed anybody's mind, right? So I'll does stoke tribalism. You can save yourself from that entire game by just shrug your shoulders. Being willing to not have a frequent opinion. You don't need to have an opinion. You don't need to have thought about everything. Or this is one I like the best catches people off guard because most people don't do this. But you're like, you kinda shrug and say, I've thought about that, or I need to think about that more. Or like, I don't know, I don't really spend my time thing about that. Like, you know, there's a lot of variations of this, but when you remind people that you need to think about a topic to come to a conclusion. It immediately kinda cuts them off guard. It almost disarms him and it reminds them, maybe they forgot, but it reminds them that, well, they have opinions on things you should spend some time thinking about it. Imagine that instead, most people get caught up in that current affairs news cycle. They want you to pick a side and say, oh, this, that whatever, what do you pick aside, join me or are opposed me. But when you just throw your shoulders, you imply that you either don't care which is disarming in itself, or you let them know that you haven't thought about it. You haven't expended energy to come to a opinion about something and that's completely fine because why do you need to have an opinion about everything? 9. Conclusion: So I hope you enjoyed this short course. I hope you take some notes and maybe have some ideas about things that you want to implement your life or things that you want to cure rate or change. Nothing that you just learned in this course is going to matter if you don't take daily action. So you gotta figure out how to connect some of these ideas to either change something you're currently doing, add something in or removing something. And hopefully towards a better end, you can use things like a spreadsheet of daily tracker, a journal, phone reminders. Maybe you uninstall certain app on your phone. Maybe you do some research on how to better use Twitter or not get this or whatever for me, I'll give you a quick example. So for Instagram, I very rarely go into the News Feed in Scroll and mostly I just post and then I'll like reply to comments here and there. With Twitter that I started using recently, I've always kinda been suspected twitter, it is a very powerful tool. I think it's a very dangerous tool at the same time. But what I realized is I don't check dimensions or it's like the comment section where people can reply. I just don't click on that tab, so I don't see people that might reply to something. And then I kinda feel compelled to go back and forth with them. You know, I don't know if I'm gonna be able to use Twitter effectively doing that. I'm using as a publishing tool. And I kind of look at the feet of people, I follow and it seems to, it seems to work. So I guess time will tell, but I've at least developed a conscious strategy. And Twitter, instead of letting Twitter developing strategy for me to use it, which is usually based on addiction and engagement, et cetera, right? So find ways in your current world's habits, whatever, whatever you're doing, to curate things and have a strategy for things to get the effects you want into downplay or eliminate the effects you don't want. That's really the core of living a good life in our modern information-rich, constantly connected world, you have to have a strategy for this. And if you don't like, you will be used, you will be used as the product for advertisers. You'll be used as an ideolog for those with a political agenda. And that just want to convince you of something so that you go into the world telling other people same thing. That's just very, very dangerous. I feel like to hand that over to hand over the keys to your mind into your happiness as someone else or to other things that maybe don't even know you're care about you. That's not the life I want to live. And so if you don't wanna go down that path as well, you have to have your own strategy and you have to do things on purpose and not on accident. Just because you happen to be somewhere at some time or your environment is whatever it happens to be. So you can reach me, call into office. I Kofi Annan, questions or comments, appreciates you following this course. I hope you take some action with something and I'll see you in the next one.