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11 Lessons (1h 47m)
    • 1. Lesson 1 Super Motivation Introduction

    • 2. Lesson 2 Life is Short Don't Waste It

    • 3. Lesson 3 How to Live Without Excuses

    • 4. Lesson 4 Start from here

    • 5. Lesson 5 How to Overcome Fear

    • 6. Lesson 6 Overcoming Obstacles

    • 7. Lesson 7 How to Overcome the Fear of Criticism

    • 8. Lesson 8 Learning to Let Go

    • 9. Lesson 9 How to Let go of the past

    • 10. Lesson 12 The Cost of Non Action

    • 11. Lesson 13 seize the day

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Learn How to:

Motivate Yourself to Live Without Fear

Motivate Yourself to Live with No Regrets

Motivate Yourself to Live the Life of your Dreams

When I was 24 years old I decided that I was going to live the life of my dreams. Deeply influenced by the quote from Henry David Thoreau to "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined",

I took the leap.

For me, the leap was to quit my sales job and move to Asia. I wanted to travel and teach, so I did what many decide is the best way to do that, by teaching English in Vietnam.

The decision to start living the life I had imagined profoundly changed my destiny and a continued focus on this attitude has led to many unbelievable experiences.


In this course I WILL SHOW YOU HOW I became motivated enough to starting living my dreams and successfully:

  • Learned a foreign language (I have several successful Vietnamese language courses on Udemy),
  • Built and sold a successful business (Saigon Sports Academy),
  • Met the women of my dreams  
  • Changed my career (I am now a master teacher with a teaching certificate, master's degree, many of years of teaching experience, and thousands of dollars in passive income from my online courses and real estate).

My story can be replicated by anyone who chooses to follow the motivation blueprint in this course.

I have already helped many of my friends, family, and acquaintances to see that they are only living a shadow of the life that they could and to take massive action to get motivated to change their destiny.

Now I hope to do the same for you.

Join my course, and learn to live with NO EXCUSES, NO FEAR, and NO REGRETS.

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Greg Vanderford

Knowledge is Power!


My courses are designed based on my many years as a teacher and student of education and business. I hold a master's degree in curriculum and instruction and have been designing curricula for over a decade.

The business, language, and chess courses that I have built are a reflection of this experience and dedication to education. My goal is to reach as many people as possible with my courses, which is why I have chosen the internet as my ideal mode of delivery.

The following is a little more about my expertise and background. I was born and raised in Sandpoint, Idaho. I attended the University of Idaho where I earned a bachelor's degree in Business Administration in 2004. After a few years in the work force as an account manager I moved to Vietnam where I lived for over 5 ... See full profile

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1. Lesson 1 Super Motivation Introduction: look into the new course. Super motivation. No excuses, no fear, no regrets. Excuse me. I became interested in the subject of human motivation many years ago in college, and since then I have been reading about it. I have been trying out different techniques and seeing what works, what doesn't work and really going deep into human psychology to understand. How can we get motivated? How can we stay motivated? How can we? You have control over the feeling in our lives that gives us energy so we can go into the world and basically design the life that we want and build the life of our dreams. There are hundreds and thousands of books about motivation. There are psychologists all over the country and all over the world that have been producing content about this. And so this course we're going to just still some of the most powerful techniques and information that has been discovered through research through human trial air and basically compiled it all into this short course. I hope everyone gets a lot of this course. I want you to finish this course and feel not just pumped up shortly and and motivated to go out there and start, you know, trying something new in your life. But I wanted to have a deeper understanding of how you can sustain the ability to be excited about life and be excited about your future, whether you're in a rut right now or whether you're already a highly motivated person who is a self starter and likes to go out there and and seize the day. And you're looking for something Teoh to enjoy and some maybe some new information or something to keep you going wherever you are in this spectrum. I want this course Teoh B shot in the arm for you, and I also want it Teoh to give you some information that hopefully you will remember and be able to use for a long time in the future. So I call this course no excuses, no fear, no regrets from hundreds of people that I've interviewed and talked Teoh in preparation for this course and another work that I've done. It seems like what hangs up most people is that they have all these excuses, have always excuse about why they're not where they want to be in their lives. It's been other people's fall. It's been lack of money has been lack of help here. It's been this that the other thing and everyone has those right, including, including those of us and others who are relatively successful or very, very highly successful in designing the life that we want and what really separates us. I've learned from those who have excuses, allows them to stop moving forward is that we basically just ignore them, the challenges we learn to deal with them. And there are ways that we can learn to think and and practice so that no matter what obstacles we face, they are just small speed bumps in our long term plans. And this is something just like when you're learning to ride a bike or learning music or learning anything in school, just like with all those other things. This stuff takes practice and you learn how to think in such a way that accomplishing your objectives in life, whether it is to lose weight or to go find, ah, significant other or to make money, it's all just a thought patterns. How we react with what we encounter in the world and how we how we think and feel about ourselves, and basically you just train yourself to think a certain way. It is not just positive thinking, mumbo jumbo. It's it's basic human psychology that we know works. And so that's we're gonna look at in this course we learned. How do you know what happens to us? We have no excuses, and all we need to do to do this is look at all the people who were born with, with hardships like like disabilities, No arms, no legs. But they go on to be no state championship wrestlers or people you know, like Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. Who maybe they're exceptional, you know, they became exceptional because of their hardships and despite the fact that they encountered unbelievable challenges. Not only did they get through those challenges, but they transcended their lives. They consented life itself to become something greater. So not only do we not need to make excuses, and not only can we learned, you know, get over some of the big obstacles that we face, but we can turn those obstacles into fuel to drive us forward in our lives, and not only is that possible, but it's actually very easy to do once you learn how to do it, okay? And once you learn that there's really no reason to have any fear, we can train ourselves not to be afraid of what can happen to us not to be afraid of the future. And this is really against something that you could be trained to do. Fear is something that we learn in our lives and we're born. And when we were kids, really afraid of anything, are we? We don't even know We're gonna touch that hot pot. We're going to jump off stuff until we get hurt. We don't know what the learn fear, and probably a certain amount of that obviously is healthy so that we don't get hurt. But in our real lives, it appears based on research and based on interviews with successful people based on spiritual leaders, the humans now by and large, are far too fearful of things that will probably never happen to them. And in fact, this is one of the strongest factors that holds people back from living the life of the dream. So we'll look at how we can get past our fears, and we're going to look at how we can live with no regrets. Life moves forward. Any mistakes you think you've made in the past are in the past. You simply have toe, learn to look forward and not look back. There are techniques and tricks and ways that we can train ourselves to do this as well. And so that is what my course is all about. I want to leave my course feeling in power, understanding that everything will want her Life is achievable no matter where we're starting from right now. And that's not just my opinion. Research bears it out. Examples abound of people who have done this, and these people are just like you and I and the starting point from how to get from where we are, not where we want to go is to believe that that is true. So that's what my courses about. I'm looking forward to having you share this journey with me, and in the next election lecture, we're going to go ahead and get right to it. 2. Lesson 2 Life is Short Don't Waste It: any conversation about motivation about achieving our dreams. Our goals has to start from this one fundamental truth that life is short and we shouldn't waste it. We're all givens. One life were all given 24 hours every day. Whether you are a powerful politician, a billionaire or a peasant from the countryside, we have the same amount of time in which to live our lives. And we need to have this either in our in our subconscious or be something that we're thinking about moments a moment as we go through our day, because we need to make sure that we're living a life that is meaningful and that that feels meaningful to us, that every day that that is spent was spent doing something meaningful. Whether that means enjoying your work, whether that means taking care of your family, where that means engaging in any type of activity that you want. If you find yourself in a life where you're just surviving, you're just getting through the day. Obviously, that's not fulfilling. Obviously, that's not what we want. Most people's lives are actually spent this way, and increasingly, researchers showing higher and higher levels of dissatisfaction, stress anxiety, etcetera. So we need to start from a place of understanding that this life is not guaranteed to us, Right? People die in car crashes every day. People are getting cancer. We don't know how long we're gonna live. So if we put off living until some future, you know, Rose tinted future when we you know we'll have enough money, maybe someday will retire. Someday. I'll do this. Someday I'll do that. That is not going to give us what we want. So this doesn't mean that we don't care about money and we don't care about managing our health. And we, you know, just spend all of our money, do whatever want because tomorrow is not guaranteed. That would be irresponsible and won't give us what we want in the long term, right? So what we're talking about is living with a sense of urgency so that we can develop the habits that will give us we want in the long term while living with meaning and purpose and being fulfilled. And of course, that's what this course is all about. And it's all based on this attitudes realization as a starting point. So I think a good thing to do is if you can manage it every morning when you wake up when you're taking a shower, brushing your teeth or having your coffee think about today being a gift. Think about how you choose to spend your time, who you spend it with and what you're doing with your life. Do you find yourself doing things living in a way that is not what you truly want? Well, maybe you can't just snap your fingers and and change everything right away, right? Most of us can't do that. But no matter how difficult your current situation might be in the long term, if we have faith in our ability to change our life over time, there is basically no situation at all that cannot be overcome in the long term. And this course we're gonna look at a lot of examples. A lot of examples of a lot of people that have situation that I can almost guarantee you are harder than yours. No matter who you are listening to this right now, there are people that have been born in more different circumstances than you and I, and not under the overcome it, but They basically lived life of their dreams eventually because they believed that was worth it to get up every day and work towards it. They believed that they deserved to live that life. They believe in their ability to do it, and because of that belief, they actually did do it. Sometimes that might have taken 20 years or more. In some cases, it's unbelievable how quickly we can get on the road towards living the life of our dreams . Once we actually commit to take actions every day that are on that path. You know, it's amazing and I'm trying to tell too much about my personal story in this course. I don't want it to be about me. But I do have some pretty good examples of how these principles have profoundly changed my life and continue to do so today. And it's just another testament to the fact that these our laws there are laws of psychology, their laws of the human spirit, and there are things that we can learn ways of thinking, ways of being that will fundamentally shake the root of our our life to the core in the way that we want and need in order to rouse ourselves from the lethargic E that most people in modern society are now feeling and don't know how to escape from. Okay, we get to choose what to do with the time that we have on Lee. You can choose what to do with your life if you're letting other people, whether it be your parents, your friends, your callings or just the general culture, dictate who you are, who you think you should be and what you need to be doing and thinking through time. Well, that's not going to lead to a satisfying life. It might lead to a life where you can get by. You feel okay. You have some people that you consider to be your friends and you have a job, and maybe you live sort of a a mediocre Okay, life and you get by. That's what most people are doing. But is that good enough? When you look back over your life on your deathbed? Are you going to be satisfied with your decisions with the way you spent your life? Are you gonna have any regrets for most of us if we continue to live the way they were living right now probably have a lot of regrets, and there are tons of examples of people who have reported on their deathbed something they regret. And a lot of those regrets are the same. We're gonna look at that throughout the course, but just to give a couple of examples, people regret not spending more time with their loved ones. People we've got not taking bigger risks to do the things that they really in their heart wanted to do, but thought, Well, it's not practical. It's not possible. What if I fail when you're looking back over your life? From the end, you're gonna look at those wrists and with laughter. What was the worst thing that could have happened to you? Oh, I lost some money. All I had to start again from the age of 30 or 40 or 50 or, you know, you were afraid of criticism and which is that's the worst one of all, being afraid of criticism because it's afraid of something. It's not even riel what people might think about you, what people will say about you and that has no effect on your actual life. That's something we're going to focus on quite a bit in this course because the fear of criticism has been one of the worst and most powerful things that hold people back living the life that they want. And we're gonna need to overcome that if we want to really seize the day like we need to do . What we want is the experience of being alive. We want to feel alive every day of our lives. And that doesn't mean that we have to be cheerful and happy every single second. And that, you know, our life is just is amazing, you know, blissful, You know, Siris of moments, every single second. But in general, we should be on a trajectory where we have more and more meaningful experiences where the where the work we're doing, the friends we have the relations were building are are going in the direction that we want . And just like with learning anything else, we learned how to do this. We slowly put the polices pieces in place. And while we do want to start today right now, from the moment or listening to this, we also don't want to be in a rush because we realize that while life is short, things do take time to put in place. A lot of people will give up because they feel like it's not working for them. It's too difficult. It's taking too long and you'll see that most of successful people in life they were the ones that stuck it out and believed through thick and thin. And and they kept going no matter what. So it's a little bit of a paradox here when we need to have a sense of urgency. Life is short. Don't waste it. Start today, do what you have to do. But once you start on that path, you need to realize that there's going to be some sacrifices is going to be some time that's gonna have toe pass, and not everything's gonna happen all at once. So I hope that sort of sets the stage for you. You kind of understand where we're starting from here, but I want you to really take a few minutes after. Don't listen to his lecture, Teoh, think about the fact that you know your life is partially over. I'm 32 years old. That means my life is more than likely at least 1/3 of the way over. I only have 2/3 of my life left in which to live. Most of our childhood just spent just learning basic things in school, trying to figure out who we are, basically doing what we're told to by our parents and peers and teachers. And now that you know, we become an adult, we actually have the hopefully the freedom start to choose who we want to be, where we want to live. We want to love a lot of times past before most of us ever get there. If we ever do to a point where we're truly living, the life that we have chosen and one that has not been chosen for us And with that we're gonna move on to the next lecture, focusing on how to live life without excuses, and you'll notice that I have sprinkled some visualization exercises throughout the course . I don't wanna have one after each lecture. I want it to be put sporadically throughout the course. So at the appropriate time, after we've had a particularly good lesson about a specific thing, we will have that accompanied by a visualization. So some of this course will be will be these lectures, as some of you will be exercises that you need to do on your own in order to hopefully spur the feelings within you that you need that will lead to the action that we want to see. 3. Lesson 3 How to Live Without Excuses: Some of the things that you're gonna cover in this course might be a little hard for you to swallow, because when you really get down to it, there are no shortcuts, right? Most people that you'll see, in fact, pretty much everybody that you'll see who's successful, whether that means that they're they're wealthy or they're just happy or healthy or overcome some major challenges. They really had to do the work. They had to make sacrifices, and they had to have attitudes that led them to where they were. And the most fundamental attitude that is at the core of the solution to learn toe live a life without excuses is have a gratitude no matter how difficult your circumstances are. And this might be hard for somebody to accept to live in varying, challenging, challenging circumstances. There's a lot to be think before. Let me give you some examples. I am a white male in America, so I'm in the majority in terms of my race, which has obvious advantages when you look at the statistics and males have the advantage of still, you know, making more money than females. As unfair as that is, America is Still, you know, one of the freeze countries in the world is still if not the wealthiest, depending on how you measure that one of the very wealthiest country in the world, we have access to an education. We have a passport that allows us to travel anywhere in the world, which is actually still pretty where when you compare it to the hundreds of countries in the world, it's hard for people to get a visa to travel to the rich. Rolled if you're from the poor, a lot of things to be grateful for, even the poor in America, while it could be really challenging, Sometimes we have a family and you're struggling without job. We do have social programs. We have welfare, we have food stamps. We have wick toe help mothers with their babies. We have the G I bill. In the past, we have a loan program for now to help students with their their debt. This is a lot of stuff that wanted you generations ago they didn't have in America, and still in most places in the world they don't have. So there's so many things to be great before, if we would learn to focus on gratitude instead of what we lack, right? We live in a culture where we're basically conditioned to feel that we always need more bigger house, better car, more money, better job. It's never enough. It's never enough. And while it's did just drive for things in general, right? That's kind of what this course is about. It's about striving to create the life we want in a lot of that will have to do with having good finances and building wealth. A lot of it has to do with simply how we feel about ourselves, and this attitude of gratitude is a basic starting point. It's a building block, Teoh having is a college that we need to be happy and to be successful. And this is what people report who have been born with disabilities, who have been born with diseases in interviews. You know, some people are asked, you know, how do you get through your day? You're born with no arms and no legs, and now you become, you know, successful engineer or you. As I mentioned before, you became the state wrestling champion, which is unbelievable, right with some of no arms no legs. They don't work 10 times as hard as other people. How is it even possible? And invariably, the answer these people give some variation of it anyway is that they didn't look at the disability as a disadvantage. They just accepted. Accepted it completely. And it's okay. Well, I need to start from where I'm at. I in the work from here. I worked harder than everybody else. And so that's what he did. They had the the attitude that there's still a lot of great before they're still alive, right? If you have no arms, no legs release, you still have a mind. You can still go on work. You still live in a free country. So what can you have? How can you make excuses? Right? Those people have done it. They have gotten past it. So if we look at our small minor challenges and related to that, they look ridiculous When you think I don't have any money or, you know I don't have any help. I don't have an education or whatever. Other excuse you have, right? Oh, your addicted to drugs or urine? Alcohol or you have some disease. Those are all excuses. You look 1000 millions of people that have overcome much more difficult circumstances in that How can you let the things that you struggle with hold you back? So we just need toe We need to be aware of. First of all, that we don't have it that bad, even though most of time it might feel that way to us. And secondly, we need to flip the script in our minds, and we need to be grateful for everything that we do have is no matter who you are. There are things to be grateful for. I need to find a way to feel that gratitude. You need to find a way to see the things you have in your life that might be your best friend. It might be the health that you have left. Even if you're not totally healthy, it might be living in a free country. It might be your mother, Father. It might be the clothes on your back. It might be, you know, realizing that we had access to a free education. We're in a lot of places in the world, in Africa, in Asia and other places. Kids would die to have access to school. Not a lot. Not only do they not have money to go, you know they didn't mind to go. They have to walk miles. Or they have to go through a war zone to get there. Or in some Middle Eastern countries, they literally have their life threatened just to try to go to school. Think about that for a minute and think about your struggles with school, how you didn't want your homework or how hard it waas. We put everything in perspective and have perspective means to understand that we have these wonderful lives that I'm given to us. We have amazing amounts of abundance, abundance, Even if we feel whore and one of the reasons we feel poor. It's simply because we have learned in our society to compare ourselves other people. We see all the rich people on television and we see all the nice cars driving around. It makes it feel poor when instead we should be looking at the opposite way. We should be realizing how much more we have than most people in the world. We should realize what we have, not what we lack, and this is a problem that is fundamentally in the mind. And again, throughout this course, we'll look at ways in which we can overcome this. And after this lecture, we're going to do a little visualization exercise to try to help us develop this mindset of having gratitude instead of feeling lack. No matter how hard your life is not always possible. This is what most successful and happy people have done. Look at Martin Luther King Jr. Who had to overcome, you know, going to prison, speaking up for a whole entire race of people in the face of enormous violence and hate from a large number of the majority of the population. Not only did he overcome that, but you could look at him and see that he was. He was happy he was fulfilled in his work. He had love in his heart, despite the fact that he had been violently attacked and put in jail. Gandhi exact same thing. He led his whole entire nation to victory over the most powerful country in the world of the time in the British Empire, and he did it with love. He did it with Grace and did it with a good attitude despite the fact that he also was facing violence in jail. And ultimately both those peoples were martyred that were killed and they even gave their lives and they did it without fear. Now these just examples, you know that that could help us have something to strive for. Right? You and I are not Ghani. We're not gonna be called on to do what Martin Luther King Jr had to dio nor Nelson Mandela . However, we realized they were just normal people who chose to act that shows to live their lives a certain way. And when you look at what they had to overcome to do what they did, it makes our challenge is quite trivial. So other side, let's do a visualization exercise to help us learn how to cultivate this attitude of gratitude so that we can realize that we have no excuses. There are no good excuses if we truly mean it when we say we want to live a life of freedom and want to live the life that we designed for ourselves 4. Lesson 4 Start from here: this lesson is going to be a follow up of the last one when we looked at having gratitude because when we have gratitude for everything we have, despite our challenges and despite our maybe difficult circumstances, we we learned that we can simply start from where we are, wherever that is. And of course, if we're lucky enough to start from a position of advantage, having been born into a loving family may be having some resource at your disposal having education, living in a free country. But then you really realize, Wow, not only do I don't have any excuses for not doing whatever I want to do with my life, I've got huge advantages that most people don't have, and not only should I take advantage of of them and utilize them, but really you're almost disrespecting. People that are at disadvantage is when you have been given this amazing gift and you don't use it. We should be honoring how lucky we are by taking advantage of all of these amazing opportunities that we have. And again this feeds into the having gratitude attitude, realizing that we're so lucky that was wasting it. Where's wasting the gift if we don't go and seize the day and live the white, the life that we that we really want to and all of our petty fears and jealousies and excuses are so ridiculous when you look at the big picture that you really can laugh out loud and looking at some of the things that we're afraid of afraid of failing, afraid of losing money, afraid of what people think about us. I mean, it really makes no sense. And so sometimes we need toe look at the big picture to realize that and then come back into our our daily lives. And to take the action that we need to take to get from where we are to where we want to go . We need to let go this narrative. If on Lee, right? If only I had more money If only I had a better education, If all in this person would help me, if only I was luckier, full and win the lottery, this whole entire way of thinking just needs to be thrown out the window and just forgotten about. We need to be grateful for where we are and take advantage of every advantage that we have instead of saying it only saying, Thank God, Thank God I live in a free country. Thank God I live in the 21st century thing going. Have access to a free education and and simply focus on maximizing those tools that have already been given, and you will be able to get where you want to go Eventually, I already looked at the examples of people like Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr. Nelson Mandela and many, many others who have overcome just amazing circumstances to live a fulfilled, meaningful life. So we'll leave those alone for now. I want to look at this quote. Here is ancient Chinese proverb. A journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step. Pretty basic wisdom, right? There's another one that goes a jar of water fills up one drop at a time, and basically there's different ways to read this. One of them is that, you know, in order to get where we want to go, you have to start. And even though it might take a really, really long time to get there, everyone who has gotten there they had to start down the path and When you start going on the path, here's a way to think about it. Time's gonna pass anyway, right? So let's say you think, well, 10 years down the road or 20 years down the road, that's a long time. I'm never gonna get this too much of a sacrifice When you realize that, Well, you're gonna be living anyway and time that time gonna pass Anyway, you may as well be aiming yourself in the direction you want to go and be taking steps to go towards the life that you want because you're gonna get to that age. Anyway, You're gonna be living your life anyway, So you may as well be living the life that you want because that time is going to pass regardless. So hoping that helps you guys get in the right mindset. Start thinking about what can I do right now today to take the steps, I need one of the thing that might be. Just listen to this course to help you get in the right mind set. One of them might be setting aside some time when you can this weekend or after work, whenever you can, you start thinking about what you really want to do with your life. Most people have never spent the time to even know they don't even know what they want. You think? Well, this is this all sounds great, but I don't know what kind of work out when I do. I don't know where I want to live. I don't know what changes I would make because you never had the option, right? We've been so focused when we're young, having to go to school, having do what our parents tell us a lot of time just trying to fit in socially. We don't even know. You know that there's another life out there that we could choose, let alone how to go about it. So for a lot of people, the starting point is simply going to be taking time for that yourself to think about who you are, who you want to be, what you love, what you love to do, and ultimately what you value. Because whatever you value, that should be where you're spending your time with it, whether that means that needs to be your career. Or that means that you spend your time around people that also value that whatever pattern works for you, that's usually what will lead to a fulfilling life. For example, if you love music and you love the arts, Ah, lot of people discourage you from choosing a career in that direction because, right, a starving artist narrative, it's it's too difficult, and you'll be poor. Well, the solutions that are a maybe it's worth it to be relatively poor because you love your work so much that you're happy doing it. Or you find some other way that, you know, pays the bills so that you can not to worry so much about the financial side of things and just enjoy the art, whether it's painting or music or whatever and and know that you're living a meaningful life with purpose that you to be happy about. Maybe you're talented enough that ultimately, with really hard work, you can become wealthy and free financially while doing your art. It doesn't matter exactly how it happens, right, But the point is, whatever you whatever you love, that's what you should be doing. All right, if you love teaching, you should be a teacher. Whatever kind of teaching that means, it doesn't mean have to work in a public school or a university, or that you have to be this kind of a teacher, right? Right now I'm teaching a course online. I love teaching, and this is one of the ways in which I can express myself, make a little bit of money, hopefully right, and and get to enjoy being a teacher. So there's no one way. There's no one way to do anything. There's no one way for it for people, especially now that we have the Internet and we have so many tools at our disposal. So again, there's no excuses. We've got amazing modern tools. We've got this world now that is open to everyone because of the Internet, because of the ease of travel and because of basically more freedom and more countries. Despite the fact you see on the news that there's wars and is always all these problems. One of the reasons we see so much that is because we know about everything instantly because of social media and because of of smartphones and stuff, research actually shows that the world is not becoming more dangerous and more violent. It just appears to be that's the interesting thing toe. Think about. But to go back to our original point, you simply have to get started today. And the cost of not getting started right now is to live a mediocre life or deliver depressing life or to be unhappy and again you take it back, Teoh, looking over your life from her deathbed. You don't want to be one of those people that has those regrets. You wish you spent more time with your families. You wish you would've started a family. You wish you wouldn't have tried so hard in your career and spent so much time at work. A lot of people report they wish they wouldn't have worked so much. This is one of the big ones not staying of time with the loved ones not working too much. Unless, of course, their their work was their passion. And they loved it were you know, for most of us, that's usually not the case. Most people don't get to do a job or build a career or do work that they absolutely love. And we have an opportunity right now to realize that you can do work that you love and maybe if you if there's no function activity that you have a huge passion for that, you do love well, hopefully you can find a way to do work that pays the bills so that you can spend time in your life becoming the kind of person that you want to be. Okay, But you've got to start a journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step. And I hope that for you, that step is today. 5. Lesson 5 How to Overcome Fear: and this lecture would look at the power of self reliance on we see the power of self reliance. What do we mean by that? This power is a psychological power when you're not reliant on other people. When you support yourself financially, when you make your own decisions independently, the amount of personal power and you feel about a freedom that you feel is unlimited and this is a problem with a lot of aspects of our modern culture, where we're getting support from the government or getting support for our families are really support from people. We get used to having this supporting. You use it as a crutch, whether that means like financial support, or that this means emotional support. One thing that a lot of the great teachers through history have have told us. And we have some quotes here from Buddha from Ralph Waldo Emerson from Jesus. They said similar things about the power of independent thought, of supporting yourself and of being independent. Okay, there's obvious reasons that we want to be independent in terms of our freedom, in terms of the government, in terms of finances, right, That stuff kind of goes without saying at this point, hopefully, but psychologically, we also rely on other other people and other things, and it holds us back in a big way because it reduces our confidence. It creates more fear, thinking that now I need whatever it is that we're relying on, and we never can quite get to the next phase in our our lives, in terms of our self actualization. As Maslow put it, in his hierarchy of needs right in school, you may have learned about Maslow's hierarchy of needs. How once our basic needs are met, the next steps are self actualization and in self transcendence, getting toe higher levels of life and running into too much of that. But the power of self reliance gets us to a higher level on Maslow's pyramid in terms of living a life of freedom psychologically. So, Buddha said. Only when you reject all help are you free. And so that basically just gets to the point that I already made you become free. When you no longer rely on others, it doesn't mean you can't have friends, relationships and family and doesn't mean that you, in a way you still need that interdependence because humans, of course, were very, very social, and we can't live in a vacuum. But I think what he means by this in general is that you know, we shouldn't rely on people too much. We shouldn't need them, especially when it comes. Teoh, I think work and finances because it kind of makes a beggar out of us, right. We need help getting a job and you helping. The government can't pay our bills. We need to learn how to support ourselves, our families, and then you can feel independent, and then you can feel the energy knowing that you are capable. You're the one who's doing. You have the power to to take care of yourself and has a big psychological effect, Emerson said. In his book Self Reliance, he said The original man is a happy man as a paraphrase, and basically what he's saying is that when we make our own decisions, we have our own thoughts, not the thoughts of our political leaders or of the culture of society. When we're the ones who are choosing our own directives, who we want to be, where we want to live, we want to love what work we want to do you. There's amazing empowerment and freedom from having your own original thoughts. And this is one of the problems with our modern culture because we watch so much television , we consume so much information from the news media and Internet and elsewhere that we're becoming less less original, kind of regurgitating these ideas and means a mean right is Ah is an idea or a notion that has spread throughout different media. That means in books and television and conversations. This this this idea that gets spread around and continues not It's not all right, do you anymore. It's like in politics. We have this narrative in the United States, where we have two political parties. You're either Democrat or Republican, you either conservative or liberal. And then, of course, that means you're put into this blocks when you think a certain way. It's a totally false set of choices, and all of a sudden we have, you know, his whole debates and conversations and all the articles in the news and basic, a whole generation or two of us just thinking it is very limited ways, and he's very limited set of choices and Of course, this would kind of go against what? What Buddha would say. What ever said was saying what Jesus would say, Probably right that we are living our own lives. We need to be the ones to choose how you want to live. And at first this is scary because we get a lot of support from following you know, our peers and, you know, getting a lot of, um, of feedback that what we're doing is good. Oh, you're a lawyer. That's a good thing to do. Are you going to school? It's a good thing to Dio or you're starting a company is a good thing to do instead of really thinking about is really what I want to do. Is this contributing Teoh humankind? Is this the kind of work that I really love most of? Time was automatically going all these things because we think we should all right, So I think the point is a Severson put it to be original and a thing for ourselves, and it was a long way Teoh empowering us and getting his confidence. I would also said the secret life is that have no fear now this is obviously easier said than done. But once you can identify some of the things that we're afraid of, realize that they're they're false things, there was no reason to fear them. It's not rational. So I already mentioned the fear of criticism. Most people are deathly afraid of being criticized, even though most of time they won't be criticized, depending on the different decision that make it even if they are. A lot of times a criticism comes from people that we don't care about or we shouldn't care about. Um and it doesn't actually affect our lives way. Give it power over us. You think, Oh my colleague and my friend doesn't agree with what I did for my parents don't support what I'm doing, and they have so much psychological power over us as human beings. We value other human beings opinion so much that we let it dictate who we are and what we do with our lives, which, if you take a step back and think about it, is absolutely crazy that people are basically throwing away their dreams because people that don't even know them or don't really know their hearts. Even in the case of family members like your parents, they're holding you back because they don't agree, and in many cases, those people that are holding you back there actually doing it out of out of love. They think because they want you to be safe. But really, it's their own fears that are being projected onto you. So it's like we scare each other by, so you should be careful. You should worry about this. This is for this. All of a sudden, I have always ideas about things that you should be afraid of. And then the fear spreads around as the exact opposite. When you spend time around really optimistic and high energy people with a lot of confidence, you start to feel like what you're doing is going to work is going to succeed in that. You know, your ideas have merit. You should be living the life you want. Teoh. You listen to my core issue. Read books about motivation. You go out there in the world, you and you and you do the things you want. Tokyo and you realize, Wow, this wasn't really that hard. Once I learned to let go and expect success rather than fearing failure. So Buddha said this. Each life has had no fear, and we need to learn how to do that. And it's hard. There's a lot of ways to do it. One of the ways in the morning alluded to toe try to spend time around people that are positive to rid of negative people. One of the ways to realize that, you know, fearing criticism is not rational. It doesn't actually hold you back. It's all in your mind and one of the things that Seneca, the ancient Roman stoic philosopher and a lot of the stoics, the Greeks on the philosopher's back in Rome and grease a couple 1000 years ago. They their solution to living life without fear, into living. Ah, life happiness was to basically realize that even the worst case scenarios that could happen to you are really that bad, like a lot of the things that we're afraid of. As Mark Twain said, You know, they don't really happen anyway. They don't really happen. Any waivers, afraid and then it doesn't happen. But the stoics, they thought, well, imagine losing all your money or having a disease or having to start over again whatever. Whatever the thing is that we're totally afraid of, it's holding us back, living the life that we want. You realize that even if that happened, it wouldn't be that big of a deal. Really? Im you still alive, you know. Okay, so you got to start over without any money. But you try anything you wanted to try, you were actually doing the thing you wanted to do. You wouldn't have any regrets looking back on that And you probably learned a lot in most case. Still need a lot of new people. You'll make new friends, and you live the life that is truly the one that you want. You're going to be meeting people that are like you. You're gonna be going to places that of the places that you want to go through This all these synergies that happen when you are choosing things for the right reason for yourself , right? Not for reasons that other people have given to you. And that helps us to live without fear, projecting all the things that could go wrong instead of being afraid of those thinking. Well, if that happens, I accept it. You just accept all the risks us, except that maybe you'll lose your money to start that business. But you have to do it anyway. You accept that. You know, maybe your kid is going to get heard of. You have a child and you're afraid of them going out on their own or trying that spore or moving to that country. You accept the risk and you accept all the worst things that could happen. You know, maybe people are getting injured. Make it. We're gonna get sick. Maybe you are gonna lose money. But in the big picture, in the grand scheme of things, it's much riskier to do nothing and to continue living this life of mediocrity or in many cases of depression, There's really nothing to fear. And this was This was FDR's point, right? Franklin Delano Roosevelt, the president, United States during the Great Depression, when he said, there's nothing to fear but fear itself because fear itself is one of the biggest limiting factors in human psychology, and it takes practice. But once you learn to visualize and accept a lot of worst case scenarios, all of a sudden you face them already. You face them in your mind without having to face them in real life and allows you to move forward. Okay. And finally, Jesus said, give no thought to the mark tomorrow. Don't worry about the future. We will meet the future with the same tools with which we met today. Think about the past. And you. You've been afraid about the future. Maybe you're afraid of going to college. Or maybe you're afraid of that new job. Or maybe you're afraid of moving to that new city. But then after you did all those things, everything worked out fine, right? There was challenges. Maybe, Ah, force is always gonna be some sort of obstacles. But then all of a sudden, now is the present again. And we have new fears and it's the same thing. It's gonna happen again. You're gonna meet the future situation with the same tools you have now, many cases, more tools. Because, of course, we're growing ever learning as time goes on. And so it really shows you help your rational. Our fears are as humans, especially today's world, where most of things we're afraid of don't happen right in the past, we had to be afraid of being eaten alive by animals of flying, shelter, finding food. And so, you know, because of evolution, we have a certain builds in fears that used to help us survive. Now they hold us back in a world where we want to thrive. And so again, understanding the root cause of a lot of issues because unravel them, We could learn to move forward in our lives and get to where we want to go. And so now we're gonna do a visualization exercise about living without fear. 6. Lesson 6 Overcoming Obstacles: another major problem people have when trying to live the life of their dreams. Trying to change your circumstances is the idea. There's too many obstacles that get in the way now. We've already talked about being optimistic, right? Like we're living without fear. We talked about just accepting your circumstances, of having no excuses and all of those things work. But another thing that works is to realize that the problem is not that there are problems . Problem is thinking that having problems is a problem now. At first it sounded kind of a tongue twister. It's a quote that I came across actually quite recently and distilled an idea I think is very important. And that idea is that when you realize life is always going to be filled with challenges, obstacles and so called problems that you just need to accept that and get used to it. So when things happen, you don't go Oh, no, here's another big problem, or how am I gonna fix this or this is a pain in the butt. You just expect it and you take it in stride and you deal with that. You just deal with them as they come. And so basically, you're normalising. These ask tickles, and therefore your neutralizing them. It's not an obstacle when you expect it, and it doesn't feel like an obstacle. So that means of a healthy She comes up going to have surgery. You okay? Well, that happens. Let's take care of it. And this deal that you move past it or financial situation comes up and you're not ready for it. Maybe you need to go in vet. Maybe you have to put off that purchase you were planning on making. That's gonna cause for most people, some suffering substrate s. But for us, we just know that what this thing happens and you trained yourself to deal that you say. Okay, well, there goes that $5000. Or maybe it's, you know, maybe it's a huge thing. Maybe 50,000 was a heart 1000. Maybe have to lose your house. And of course, we're not trained. That's a big deal toe pump out a whole bunch of money or going to a big debt or lose your house. Right. But when you've learned that those kind of things are going toe happen, you cannot avoid them. Things will happen to us, we will lose loved ones. We will have financial problems. We will get sick because we're human beings. These things will happen. We learn in our society to try to avoid this stuff, right. We're basically condition from a young age. You try to avoid these problems. Here's how you can avoid it. Here's how to deal this. Here's how to deal with that. But we're not taught internally how to think about issues, how to psychologically deal with them. And just like with the ancient Stoics. You know, um said and believed when we prepare ourselves mentally for these outcomes, when they happen in real life, we trained ourselves and so it's not that big of a deal. Okay, so this is a really big one, because when you get adapted to basically going with the flow, no matter what happens to you, then your life seems pretty smooth. Even when most went looking and say, Wow, you had a lot of tough stuff happened to you in your life, you know? How did you get through it all? Just like with the people born with no arms and the legs are born with disabilities, who seem cheerful and live a totally fulfilling, successful life. It was just their attitude. They accepted it and they moved on. Now, obviously, it's That's hard to do. Two simple thing to say. It's a hard thing to do, which is why we need to revisit these ideas. We need to practice it. We go into the real world, and then we have a big thing happened to us, and it's an opportunity to practice rolling with the punches, going with the flow, accepting that challenge. Everything takes practice. The art of life, as the Dalai Lama puts it, right. The art of living. It tastes practice, and you know we need to be good at it. We need to learn how to do it. Well, because we are humans. We have this life, and maybe we never learned how to play the piano. Or, you know, we never master a subject in school or become get a sports well, one thing that we should try to master, Since all of us have to live a life of human beings, it's how to live well, how to deal with challenges out of love, each other, and had to choose meaningful work that this course is all about. And this particular problem? I think, um, that's one of the challenging ones as a Western person to wrap your mind around. And this is one of the basis of a lot of Eastern spiritually traditions and paths and also a lot of modern day psychologists when they're counting people, helping them get through challenges, you know, it's just it's the same fundamental approach that, um we have to be flexible in our minds and learn to accept things that come our way. Okay, so that means to become a problem solver. Whatever. Whatever comes up, you start thinking, okay, How can I get around? This happened. I solve this problem. You know, you have to be creative to focus on solutions, you know, maybe the traditional way that someone told you you should do. That's not gonna work. Maybe there's a way Teoh avoid the problem. Maybe there's a way that you sent to confront it head on. And you know, there's no one solution to everything right. I think one thing that bothers me personally a lot about our modern culture is that we have all these talking head experts on television and elsewhere telling us this is what you should do about your financial problem. This is what you should do about your legal problem. And we give these these people that we don't even know general advice or, you know, you have, like, the judges on TV where the financial group was on TV. Listen to someone call in and listen to their their scenario and they give advice and were in many cases, Maybe that's maybe that's okay. Advice. Maybe it's good advice, but we don't really know those people, for one thing, so I might end up being really terrible advice that hurts them over everything. We discount our own ability to be creative and solve problems. If we focus more on critical thinking and had more faith in our own minds, we wouldn't need so much expert advice. We wouldn't need so much help. But we're not trained to think this way, and we're not whole that we have the ability to think for ourselves. And so I think about half the problems, maybe in our lives would be solved by us just having faith in our own minds and focusing on creative solutions. Um, and I could go a long way. So finally, if you if you expect things to go wrong, sometimes you know, then you'll never be shocked. Will never be surprised when something happens. And I think the trick to this is to expect things to go wrong and to deal with some some, you know, sometimes really big big challenges in your life without becoming cynical. Orange aided. As a lot of people get a lot of experience in life, they get older. It's almost like you go down in one of two pass. You either become cynical and you become a negative person. And you just think, Well, he of course that happened. Life's always like that stuff started. You know, you've had Cem some hard knocks, and so you expect more of those things and just becomes grumpy person, right? Or you choose the other road where you look at those challenges. Do you think? Well, what can I learn from this? Okay, well, that may be stronger now. What should I do with my life? Well, look what I have to be great before that happened. But I still have this. You lost a loved one year, but I still have this other one, you know, whatever the scenario is, we choose how to react to what happens to us and a lot of people they don't. They can't accept that right? They think why didn't choose this to happen to that to happen? But we do choose how we react to it. You know, Martin King Jr shows what to do during the civil rights movement. Ghani shows what to do. In response to the oppression from the British, Nelson Mandela chose what to do in response to the apartheid government. People that were born in his abilities chose Teoh uplift the situation and have a positive attitude. You got single mothers, you've got people born in the inner city with no economic prospects that shoes to find solutions to the problems are working hard to having faith in the future to having a belief in themselves, whether it means in their own abilities, air just in their heart that they can build a life for themselves. We make these choices, we choose to take risks and they choose to love people. And so you know, we have to make these choices every day and again to get back to our theme here when you learn to expect challenges to come your way. Hopefully not every day, not every year, but knowing that they will happen. You won't be shocked by them, and you'll be able to move past them in a way that most people can't because they're not prepared. So that's, I think, a powerful way of thinking that a lot of spiritual teachers have have pointed to that can help us a lot as one and this lecture with ah perspective, sort of a quote from a great philosopher named that Krishnamurti You, an Indian philosopher who lived the turn of the 20th in the mid 20th century. He became very famous and give a lot of public speeches, and he was well known for being wise. And I'm also for being very happy, having a cheerful, happy disposition despite having many, many challenges in his life, for his people and for himself and towards it was life. Someone asked him, You know what's your secret? You know, you seem you seem to be so happy despite having such a difficult life. What is it that you know makes you different from everybody else? and he didn't talk a lot about himself when he was giving his advice, or Ewing is his writings and speeches. But this is one of the rare times where he kind of opened up and he said, You know, I have a secret. It's that I don't care what happens first, Like how That sounds kind of crazy like, Well, we certainly we need to care what happens. But when you go really big picture and realize what he meant was that he accepts the world accepts circumstances, no matter what they are at the highest level. That means, you know, getting through great hardships. You know, being in a war zone, having people die around you having a disease. But even for, you know, for us on a day to day and level, Um, you know, the minor annoyances. We have the challenges with work, with our health, with loved ones. We we realized that when we just sort of accept everything as it is, we learned that we could be happy, really, no matter what, There were people happy in the concentration camps during the Holocaust. They were happy people in different wars and different, crazy, hard circumstances throughout history. And so we understand how that was possible. We get an insight and we get a glimpse into how maybe I'm even just a really small scale, a small way we can use that attitude in our own lives. Teoh, help us get where we want to go. 7. Lesson 7 How to Overcome the Fear of Criticism: I mentioned Notre that one of the greatest fears is the fear of criticism, and this has been brought up in some popular books and self help literature out there. One of the most famous is on the Polian Hills, uh, think and grow rich. He identifies the fear of criticism as being one of the main culprits, one of the things that really holds people back. So we really needed to look at this and be able to see you know why we allow this to happen and what what we can do about it. And one of the drivers of this one of the main drivers has always been our society and the fact that we tend Teoh compare ourselves to each other. We look at who has the most money. He was the nicest things who has the best job. And we tend to get into this habit of, um, try to keep up with the Joneses. And of course we feel worse and we feel like we have less than others, and then we feel smug or better. If we see that we have been more fortunate, others or we've been more successful than others and So we we learn because we're such social creatures to kind of judge each other this way and a judge ourselves this way. And so once we really realized that we can start toe, look at some solutions, first of all to realize that just because somebody has more stuff than you, that doesn't mean that a they're better than you. It doesn't mean that be they're happier than you. And ultimately, we realize that it's completely meaningless. At the end of your life, you're gonna look back in your life and say, I wish I would have had a bigger house. I wish I would have one up my neighbor and had a more expensive car. Of course, that's ridiculous. And so it's another situation where when we look at the big picture, we realized that our worries, our fears were totally irrational, and we let them dictate our lives in a way that multiple it is very sad. It holds us back from living how we want to live, and this is probably crushing your dreams than anything else. Being afraid of what people people think about us and Bob Hope. He famously said that you know when you're 20 years old. You worry about what other people think about you. When you're 40 years old, you don't care about what people think of you. And when you're 60 years old, you realise that nobody was thinking of you in the first place. And I think that that is true. We spent so much time thinking about what people think about us from worrying about it, whether it's our boss, our loved ones or just general, you know, people in society we don't even realize that most of time just like us. We're pretty focused on ourselves. People are really thinking about you that much anyway. Now that may make some snarky comments to their spouse or little judging comments to their friends. But another thing, we realize that people that are making those comments are that are judgmental. They're the people whose opinions we should care about the least, right. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. I think that's really true. The people who really care about you know their opinions, that matter. They're gonna be our true friends, our loved ones, and they're gonna be supportive of us no matter what we dio, right? So that really shows us that there's really no reason of your criticism anyway, cause those who really love us and those opinions who we really value, they're going to support us no matter what we dio. And when it comes to your people's parents, which is often times one of the biggest backers and holding holding people back because they're afraid of what their parents will think about them, especially their parents are, you know, traditional or are conservative in terms of wanting you to have a certain sort of predestined path. Let's say for your career they always want to you to be a doctor or a lawyer or some sort of profession that will reflect well on the family or that they could be proud of or whatever. And then you realize sometime in year in your twenties, let's say that that's not what you want. You want to do something else, but you're afraid what your parents will think you're afraid with will say, and so that keeps you down a path that ultimately is not fulfilling and will not make you happy. Well, one thing to realize there is that usually our parents are thinking in ways that are worried about our safety and our that they're conservative because parents worry about their kids. Paris naturally, want Teoh. Keep your kids safe, and so they'll look at a lot of things that you want to do as overly risky and as maybe even being a reckless. And that's just natural because it's built into us as parents to worry about our kids. So first of all, we can we can look at that and realize, well, they're gonna do that. You said, Get over it because you can't control them. And secondly, you just have to realize you cannot that hold you back no matter how much you may love your parents or respect them or fear them, that's not a good enough reason not to live your life for you right again. It's it's It's not a good excuse. It's just fear. It's purely psychological, and it has no bearing on the world, except for what you choose to allow it tohave. Okay, so hopefully with some clarity about that, we realized that worrying about those things irrational. It can't hurt us, it can't stop us, and in fact, it holds us back more than almost anything else I had a really good example about This is a fear of public speaking. They say that you know, most people fear public species speaking as much of death, which is pretty hard to believe. But there's, um some research after that shows that people are almost that afraid of speaking in front of other people. And, you know, imagine when you're listening to someone speak, you're not really wishing that they're gonna mess up and I'm gonna feel right. You actually want to hear a good talk, whether it's, ah, formal speech or just someone you saying a few words at a party or something, You just years listening, you're not really judging them or thinking much about it all. But when you're not used to public speaking, you're the one up there talking. You get really nervous, and you hope that what you're saying is profound and hope you don't mess up and you realize that it's just totally psychological, and no one's really judging you anyway. But when you're standing up there in front of 10 20 your you know, 100 people or 1000 people, it's very scary until you get used to it. And I think it's the same thing with worrying about what people think about your decisions and what kind of house you have, what kind of job you dio once you realize that no one really cares. No one who's with thinking about you anyway, it doesn't matter if they are, it's much easier to let it go. And once you can let that go, you can start living for you and stop living for other people. And the final final thing I'll stay on this is that you want to be really alert when you feel this emotion because once you start to feel it, Okay, this is what I'm feeling right now. When you're talking in front of people or when you're thinking about doing something, you're afraid to tell your parents that you're gonna go. You know, change this about your life, and once you're aware of the feeling you can pinpoint what it is. You can start to overcome it and say, I'm I'm gonna do it anyway. And then just like everything else, it takes practice and you get used to it. And so we have to We have to go out on the road to practice these things get to listen to it. If they believe it, let me to do it and you'll get a good feedback cycle going work. It's easier and easier. And a few years on the road, you're not aware what people think about you. You're gonna be living the life that you want to live. You're gonna be overcoming obstacles more easily. You're not letting things holding back. You're not making excuses, and everything is gonna be going the way you want it. And you'll and you'll be getting easier, easier. And almost all of this stuff is purely in our minds. So I hope that helps you and, uh, that will move on to the next lecture. 8. Lesson 8 Learning to Let Go: So in this lecture, we're looking at something that's a bit paradoxical if the idea of letting go results or outcomes now, a lot of times when we're trying to achieve something, we have specific goals, and we're also taught that you know, we should have goals. We should have timelines for those goals, you know, with clarity what it is that we want to accomplish with our lives, whether it's in our work for a personal life or whatever. But paradoxically, often times you know, there's so much stress involved with trying to force outcomes than a timelines and and worrying about having things be a certain way that it ends up holding us back. So the point is not that we shouldn't have goals. We shouldn't set ourselves into a direction that we want to go and hold ourselves accountable. But the point is to also realize that sometimes we need to. We need to let go of the results and let things happen as they will. So it's like you put yourself in a direction, you make a plan and you have specific, detailed plans. But then you also realize that life will not always follow those plans will not follow your timelines and that you need to be flexible. And so once you learn to let go of that, you learn to sort of, ah, release a fixed idea in your mind about what's gonna happen or what you want. Then you can enjoy your work more. You'll usually end up achieving more success, and you'll do the work for its own sake. This is what ends up happening. So it's like, you know what you want and and you really do believe you're gonna get it. But then you're adapting your your fixed plans to reality to the fact that I've never really goes exactly where we want it does it. And so most people never really learned this, right? And so a lot of suffering results from the fact that, you know, it never works out that we wanted to, or maybe feeling he failed because you didn't achieve things in your business or in your job or in your relationship exactly as you wanted to. And you get confused because you know you're reading all these books about how to do it. You getting good, your job. You're a good person. How come that person didn't love you back, you know, whatever the situation, that you could become very confusing when the outcome is not what you planned for. And then you get down on yourself. But we need to realize that this is normal. Just like with the lecture on on having problems and obstacles and realizing that that's normal, those things are gonna happen. Well, no matter what we planned them or how how skillful we planet. This is also gonna happen in terms of the outcomes from a work. So maybe we have financial goals. Or maybe we have goals with our work and timelines. For them, it's probably not going exactly as we want, and in many cases it might far surpass what we were planning. So this goes both ways, right? It's not just that things won't work out, and it'll be the lead worse than we thought sometimes. And we had to go the Joe the flow on that. But oftentimes when we let go the results and we just focus on the work, we focus on the important things. We focus on what we value. Then the results may far exceed our expectations, and this is something that we see. It happen a lot with people who become famous or successful out of the blue there. They didn't expect it. They were just focusing on their art or their work. And because they're doing such good work and because they were so skilful and just, you know, improving all the time. All of a sudden they catch the attention of the public. And then it seems like they became overnight sensation because their movie became a huge success or their organization had some big impact. Or they won a Nobel Prize, you know, for literature or for science or whatever. Left behind it seems like they were lucky or that it happened overnight. But really, it was people just loving what they did and becoming really good at what they did because of that love that led to that suspect success. So it's paradoxical because they let go, and they didn't think about the outcomes. They didn't in many cases, right, um, worry too much about the results. They just wanted to do the work anyway, and it leads more success. I have a small number from El my life that fits in with this when I was living in Vietnam, other there for five years, and I learned to speak Vietnamese, and I remember during the first year when I was studying it, it was hard and I would get frustrated. Oftentimes, no, it go out and practice and people would understand me or I wouldn't be saying things correctly. And I remember having a few different thoughts about man. This is a lot of work. It's not really worth it. Maybe I should give up. And indeed, most people that do learn total languages and and, uh, Vietnamese language. If you're a Westerner, they do. They give up because it's it's arduous. And it's something different from our language that it's really hard. And I remember one person saying to me Why you working so hard to learn Vietnamese? You don't need it. I mean, you know, you learn. You already know English is your native language, and this is the language that what else is trying to learn? Why study a language that you can only use in this one country when it's such an investment ? And I remember thinking at the time that you know, because I also enjoyed studying it, it was interesting and it was fun. And even though it was challenging and I was struggling at times to improve, I wasn't proving. And I was having success, and I realized no. Eventually I'm gonna be fluent in this language, and I didn't really care so much about when that waas I didn't really care. Ultimately, how fluid on he came. I was just enjoying the process, even though it was hard. I was learning. I was studying and I was slowing in better. And then, um, the funny thing about it is that I got fluent base, that we have to look about a year, which is really fast when you're learning a language to be really good after about a year. So it seemed hard and it seems slow, but it actually happened fast because I was just focusing on the process. I was taking it one step at a time, one day at a time and just enjoying it. And then, inevitably, it leads where I wanted to go. And I think that's true for any in depth, whether it's a small endeavor like money, language or a large never like building up a business or getting your PhD in school or whatever your major life goals are, If you just focus on the process, you just focus on the work and just take things one step in time not thinking about it. I'm gonna make a $1,000,000,000 off of this. Or am I gonna be a huge company in 10 years? You just, you know, doing you need to do right now. Enjoy that process and the results will come if you have faith in that. And if you if you if you really understand that principal that's gonna help you with almost everything you do in your life, it's applies to relationships and applies to raising kids. It applies to your work. It applies to exercise and fitness. You just focus on the right things, and the results will come and that comes from learning to let go. So I hope you can go out there and practice that in your life, maybe start small and try to let go of some small outcomes just from today, um, in terms of maybe it's you know, how someone reacts to something you say or do, or how a lecture or a meeting goes at work just learn to let go of small outcomes, and then you get to a habit where you can learn to let go of a much larger outcomes as well . 9. Lesson 9 How to Let go of the past: Another major factor that holds people back in moving forward with their lives is that they are very attached to things that have happened in the past. And just like with letting go of outcomes, we need to learn to let go of things that happened in the past and maybe let go who we were in the past, because for a lot of people, it seems like they're attached to the person that they were the person that they're perceived to be by others, whether that means their peers in school or their family or their friends. We realize that we have changed and who we were or what we did back then. Basically another life. We don't need to let that dictate what we do now or feel that we should be down going down a certain path because we we did in the past, okay? And so this is another major major factor that really holds people back psychologically from moving forward and becoming the kind of person that they really want to be but never seemed to be able to achieve. And you'll realize that most successful happened people were looking forward. They're excited about the future. They believe that they can do the things they want, the lives in the future, and they're focused on what they're doing now and what they're working towards when you're focused too much on the past. Unless, of course, it's a positive focus. Just looking at things you've accomplished and letting that motivate you and living it help you move forward when your focus a lot on the past and what you what you've accomplished or what you went through. And, um, she holds you back. You need to find a way to realize that that is water under the bridge. It's gone. It's done. And while that may be challenging, it's the only way for you to truly move forward. Okay? And, ah, a lot of spiritual teachers and leaders through history have pointed to the present moment as the most important moment. Why is that? Well, a big part of the reason is because the future and the past, you really think about it. They're not even really things. They're just memories in terms of the past and then projections in terms of the future and all we've ever really had. All we've ever experienced truly is the present moment and what we're going through right now. And so when we learn to focus on the present and use it Teoh to move forward in the future because this is powerful psychological edge where we're not attached to these things that already happened. But don't define us right there. Is that saying that the past is prologue, and the way I interpret that to mean is that, you know, it's the is the precursor to the story. We're living a story. Um, our life is ah, the tail and everything up until now is what happened. But we make the future our choices. Now they're gonna lead to who we become, and we have the power to choose whatever we want. So we want to make some big changes, our lives, and we believe that's what we should do. Then we should just do it. Don't let what you you know what happened. You in the past hold you back. So an example for this might be maybe your business failed in the past, But you still want to be a business person. And you, uh, you know, you think you got some insights from the past situation that you've learned a lot. But now you're afraid you don't want to have to go through what you went through again and and risk that money and put in that time. But we look at the big picture you like. This is truly who you wanna be. It doesn't matter so much that you fail or even if you're gonna succeed the next time. Ultimately, it's who you are. And ultimately, you know that you want to give another shot. And so we have to learn to let go of the fear failure. Let go of what happened in the past because you still want it. So you still have to go get it. Same thing with relationships. A lot of people have a lot of pain from a past relationship, and then they're afraid of being there, heartbroken again. So what do they do? They become misers and they never get into another later ship because they're afraid to take the risk. And ah, it's that old saying of once bitten twice shot and we need to find a way to let go. Things have happened to us, of course, is very difficult because human beings, we We are conditional, right and we learn from the past and it's away from keeping are keeping ourselves safe psychologically. When something traumatic or difficult has happened to us, then we nationally will want to avoid that they happen in the future. But it's the worst thing that we can do. The fear of having something happened again just because it happened to past it's irrational because just because it happened once doesn't mean it's gonna happen to get. And in most cases, if we're diligent and we learned from the past, whether it's ah, business scenario or relationships in a row, any other scenario we will learn things that we did wrong. So mistakes we made and then we'll apply Those in the future will avoid those things that will do it better next time. So a rational person you know, would be able to see that. Actually, the chances of that failure or that hardship happening next time have decreased because you're older, wiser and you've learned more. And this is definitely the case with business where you interview most successful entrepreneurs. They will report, having failed many times before this one business venture became successful and in some cases, they made huge sacrifice into giant risks after having gone through many so called failures . And, of course, those failures weren't really failures. They were just stepping stones to your success. That hadn't happened yet. And so really only fail. Once you give up, you decide. OK, well, I failed, and now it's over because you chose. And if you say, well, I haven't felt yet, I'm gonna keep going. You're still successful. You just haven't gotten to the final destination point, whatever that may be for you. Yet Thomas Edison famously said that he hasn't failed. He just figured out 10,000 ways. You know, not to make a light bulb, Henry Ford said. No. Either you think you can or you think it can't and either way you're right, and that speaks to a fundamental truth that you know whatever's happening, the past never so called perceived failures that you've gone through. All that was was actually progress, and it's trial and error, and it was getting you to where you are today and move you forward into the future, and there's a big problem with our society when we judge each other based on our failures. Okies have failed this or that. He's a failed this or that, and we let it hold us back and again. We're afraid of criticism. Or you're afraid of being called a failure in many cases, when the last thing that we should do is let that get to us and allowed to let us lose heart. Because once we lose enthusiasm and once we lose heart because of things that happen in the past, well, the jig is up. The game is over because once you have lost your motivation, well, then you have no energy to achieve the things you want, you know? And, um, Ralph Waldo Emerson said that nothing great light could be cheap without enthusiasm. So we have the guard or enthusiasm with to guard our hearts, because if we allow the world to to make a cynics and make us, you know, become jaded and we've lost, we've already lost the game. We have to stay enthusiastic and fresh, which is hard to do. It is hard to do as we get older. We experience more things that we experience more negativity and more challenges. That's why a lot of people they get over. Their tend to become grumpy here and maybe get a little calcified. And they're believes that become negative and they become jaded. But they haven't learned. They haven't learned how to maintain cheerfulness and optimism a month. Life's challenges. That's what makes you successful, and that's what most successful people do. That's where you see your 60 70 80 year old. You know, Grandma and Grandpa are still successful, professional, doing what they love and, you know, and being cheerful despite hardships. You see people in their in their eighties still going to work and loving their their jobs. They didn't want to stop because they love their life. Why stop? Right? And that was because of their attitude. It's because they chose to live a life that was meaningful and shows work that was meaningful. It doesn't mean that they have to be wealthy or that they have to be successful by all kinds of these societal measures. You know, these arbitrary measures that you came from, God knows where where they started from, right? Uh, letting culture dictate what we do. It is quite insane when you realize that we're all such individuals and we should be living a life that that we have chosen those Those cultural norms are quite arbitrary in most cases. So, um to get back to the point here, we need to learn to let go the past. Don't let it dictate where you are going forward. And don't let your fears of things that haven't worked out the way you wanted to in the past hold you back Because tomorrow is a new day, right? Hope springs eternal and for good reason. We should always have hope in the future. Even if your business has field 20 times, you get up, you try it again because life has to have meaning. And if we let ourselves become disheartened and we lose our enthusiasm, well, we're not alive anymore. We're basically dead emotionally, and we only get one shot. So it's too important versus to let that happen. It's too important for us to let that happen. Choose to live for today and tomorrow, no matter what happened in the past 10. Lesson 12 The Cost of Non Action: Yeah, of course. One of the main purposes of a course about motivation is to spur. You can act right. And one of the best ways to spur action and people I have found, of course, is to look at the cost. The amazing, astounding cost to us of non action, of just accepting another day the same as before of not carrying out actions that lead to our dreams that lead to are ideal life that leads to a life of purpose, A life of meaning, a life of love, a life of contribution. When we start to look at what our lives are gonna be like in 10 20 or 30 years, if we never get off our butts and go out there and season, they take control of what we want. What is our life going to be like? It's gonna be depressing. It's gonna be filled with regrets. It's going to be sad. You're going to be living in life that basically society or other people have chosen for you. You are going to be wasting the one gift that you've been given. This light is a gift, especially if you've been fortunate enough as we said. To be born into a free country, we have free education. And when you have all the advantages of all of technology and everything else, that is, modern life offers to us. You live in fear, you feel like a failure, and you ultimately may live a life that is emotionally, psychologically depressed. If you put off action into sometime in the future, someday I'll go on that dream vacation. Someday, when I have enough money, I'll get that house or someday I'll go and meet the person I dream someday someday, someday and then. Of course, it never happens over the course of thousands of interviews that have been conducted not by me but by researchers in some cases by makes I do have some friends that work for hospice, and I have had, um, some interviews with some of those people. By and large, the biggest regrets again people had about their lives. We're not spending more time with loved ones, not working on their relationships, not investing in their families, and people who didn't have families never had kids. That's one of the biggest regrets here to I wish I would have had kids. Are I really didn't realize how big of a mistake that was until I was too old to have them . They wanted the freedom. They want to have fun when they were young, but then they're middle aged in their later years. They're good, you know, 50 years in many cases of, you know, having that big, gaping hole, their lives not having family, not having kids to raise and to love and to experience life with to share it. Another huge regret is always they wish they wouldn't have worked so much, especially in the West, where we have this mentality. That means work as hard as we can so that we can retire and have safe, comfortable, so called golden years, right? He's golden years in the future where someday we'll have enough money to stop working and live the rest of our lives. And at first blush, of course, that sounds prudence, right? Who wants to be old and poor and not having money? But when we think about it from a different perspective, and we look at these these working years as being a prime of our lives, not just the prime for working, but the prime of our lives. We're having energy to enjoy life, to travel, to experience new things, to meet new people, try different kinds of work, live in different kinds of places. This doesn't mean that you want to bounce all over the world and be a nomad, right? Although that might be a good thing for some of us to dio, the point is that when we put off living to some future time some theoretical, you know, retirement time, we're giving away the best years of our life. So of course I don't think this means that we don't work and you don't save money. Of course, is the opposite. We can save money and enjoy our jobs that we can do both of these things at the same time. It's not an either or a zero sum situation. All right, you can do a job you love and live simply that modestly save for retirement, save for the future. Also traveling while also focusing time and energy on your family on your loved ones. And when you lift simply and when you learn to lower your expenses and you learn that you don't need to have a big fancy house car, and you don't need to keep up with the Joneses. Also, you realize that your money stresses decrease because you don't have as much to worry about there. You don't have debts hopefully and get rid of your debts, and you realize you're still just as happy in a modest apartment of home as you would be in one triple that size. In fact, in many cases you're happier because you have less material possessions, toe worry about that cost expenses. You have to manage you to keep. If you move, you move all that stuff. It could be a really great burden. So, in fact, multiple things happen when you live simply and you all of a sudden have more time because you're not overworking yourself. You have more mental space to give love to your kids, to your friendships, to focus on things that matter to you. Maybe you volunteer. Maybe you've got some hobbies. I know a lot of people who used to play music who used to pain as they get older. They so I didn't have timing or to me, responsibilities of my kids jobs, and we have to stop and think about that for a second. We're giving up the things that our life that have the most meaning in the name of essentially material possessions. Because, of course, when you say you don't have time because of your family, your kids or this and that, really, what you're saying is you think that you need to have a bigger house or more stuff or to give your kids more material possessions when in fact, what we've learned is that in all cases you know a better gift you can give your family. Little is your attention and your time. That's better than giving a teenager a car. It's giving them your knowledge, your wisdom and your love. It's always better is irrefutable. Okay, so if you're one of those people, that's thinks, well, I need to save money for them to go to college. I need to give them a nice, nice clothes. So you know they have the respect of their friends or they're cooled school. Whatever you have it backwards. You have it backwards because you're actually enslaving yourself to a life of stress, worry, anxiety and of non action of not focusing on the things that are truly important so again record. We're talking about the cost of not living a life meaning of purpose. Okay, so with this as the underlying guideline for we're trying to do, it helps declare by everything else, because it helps to reduce the amount of obligations we have and forced income combination with living, for the moment, focusing on the future and many of the things that we're learning in this course, we're making it easier to take action or make it easier to step forward and start to do the things that we truly want to do with her life. Because we got a whole bunch of material possessions and pressures and keep up with the Joneses. We don't need to spend half our life working. We have a modest job of the modest salary. Or, of course, if we're lucky and we love it, we doing a really good at it. We can do both. We can become very wealthy as many people do, and enjoy all of our life and have me more. Resource is the point, isn't that there's one way, but the point is that there's a way for everyone and these stories like that the guy just told you about are just really good examples. He didn't have any advantages in life. He didn't even get an education. You know, most people look at his life and be like, Well, I wouldn't want that life. The thing Waas is he was happy. He was happy with his life. He had a really simple life, but he was grateful for what he had. He was grateful for always having work. He worked really hard. We didn't complain about it. He has accepted it. And so we see that a lot of our mental well being is simply our attitudes if simply accepting our circumstances. Our culture makes it really hard to do this because we're constantly being told that we need more things. We need a different situation. We see on the movies how successful and happy people are received A celebrity stylist money . They have all those athletes, all the money they have and we're constantly looking at The grass is greener on the other side of it impoverishes us. It makes us feel really bad when we have nothing to feel bad about that living at an amazing time in human history. Free countries 21st century amazing technology, amazing medicine and knowledge and research about science, and we're discovering new things every single day. It's an amazing time to be alive. But how can you feel that it's amazing Time to be alive with all of your attention is diverted to surviving, comparing yourself to others, trying toe get and keep possessions trying to save for some future retirement? Let me ask you this. What do you think is better straining and stressing for 30 or 40 of the best years of your life and then having a successful retirement where you know it won't say You're 65 onwards , you are safe and comfortable, and you have the amount of money that you need to live for those final years or not, having those final years be guaranteed in terms of being comfortable and having a lot of savings and investment. But living a very meaningful, exciting, happy life during your prime will say from the age of you know, 25 65. Let's say those main years and then maybe those later years having fewer resource is but having all those wonderful memories, having lived a life that's still continuing to live a life Because, of course, you know you you change based on the things that you do when you're living a life that is meaningful and exciting, it makes you the person that you become And it makes you, hopefully a happier, more satisfied person. Or as when your life is about survival and you're always putting everything off to some future, you become a different person. And so you're not gonna enjoy Probably those so called golden years as much anyway, because you're tired. Now all you want to do is arrest, right? You need rest now, whereas the attitude before of living with balance of living for now, living simply that of not putting off your life for this idea of retirement down the road 30 40 years, you are happier, you have a deeper, more fulfilled life. And so I hope that this spurs you think action. I hope it spurs you to realize that today is the time to start making some changes. Now is the time to go out there and get a new job or moved to a new city or if you're happy already and you just you just want to expand your business or you want that promotion or you want to take a trip. Whatever it is, it doesn't matter what it is. I just think it's never a perfect time. It's never a perfect time. You'll there will always be excuses. There are always obstacles. And one thing that people always say they regret is that they wish they would have done things and not hesitated so much. That means you are going to make mistakes. Without a doubt. And some of these you might look back and say that I was gonna stupid, right? I can I can think lots of things that I wish I wouldn't have done, kind of. But there's no point in looking back with regrets. You do what you think is right now and then you move forward, right? That's what we're always looking toward the future because we're going to make mistakes. We're gonna do stupid things. In retrospect, right? Which is 2020. Hindsight is 2020 as they say, things are gonna look like they were really dumb. You can't leave. Well, why did I do that? How could I have thought that was a good idea? But the point is you felt like it was something you needed or wanted to do. And so that's what you should do. Don't put it off. So just summarize this. The trick is you know, when you're feeling afraid or or having doubts is to just take a perspective of looking back over your life from from the end and thinking, Would I regret doing this or not? But I look back over my life when it's all said and done. It is something I would have wished I would have done. Is this something I would have wished I would have tried? In most cases, it's something that you wanted Dio. The answer will be yes, you over Brett not doing it. That's the cost of non action, living with painful regrets and all we have to do to avoid that is to be brave, take some risks and letting it 11. Lesson 13 seize the day: I want to follow up on the lesson about the cost of inaction with a call to action. Okay, carp ADM. Seizing the day, We must rouse ourselves out of stupor that we're in modern society. This routine of going to work, watching television, just getting by, feeling anxiety, feeling worried, wishing things were different. We must rouse ourselves. We have to find a way to rekindle the excitement of childhood, to get excited about life again. And we have to do whatever it takes to make us feel that I have to start taking action and stop hesitating. Don't look back, okay? It will always be worth it. When you take bold action to live the life that you want, it doesn't mean it's going to be easy. It doesn't mean you're not gonna have reversals. It doesn't mean you're not gonna make mistakes. But we only get one life and we must seize the day. The results of thinking this way of feeling this way of living this way is the have deep satisfaction and who we are as human beings. We will have meaningful relationships because we will take risks. We'll see. I like that boy or that girl or I want to make friends with that person to share my values . We will make deeper. Late shift will take the emotional risk of putting ourselves out on a limb to talk to them , to invite them to coffee, to invite them to our homes. That takes risks, and it's scary. But that's how we see the day we take risks. We'll have more self esteem because we see that we're accomplishing the things that we want . We're living the light that we truly want, and we're realizing every day that the risks were taking and the speed bumps that we hit there nothing. We just get right past them. You develop a habit of taking risk to develop a habit of moving past hardships and challenges, and it just becomes normal for you. When we start doing this, your mental in your physical health become more and more powerful. You get more confidence, you are more happy, you exercise more and you get this positive virtual cycle going and having more energy, having better relationships, having better success at work, going in, having new, invigorating experiences, right and then, of course, we also will have amazing golden years. We just talked about the problem with focusing everything on the future and putting everything off to is some idea of retirement in the future and sacrificing everything now for that. But when we live this way in the present, we don't sacrifice what we want. We're gonna have wonderful, advanced golden years as well, because we probably will be more successful and we'll have invested and save money. But we're gonna have all of the memories, all the relationships, everything that we accomplished, everything that we did. We carry that with us into our old age instead of is thinking I want to be comfortable And , of course, having always regrets Too curious forward. We're going tohave. All of these wonderful experiences that carries for all the people that will be in our lives because of the action that we took is one thing that I think that we don't factor in enough is all the relationships and all the people we meet. All the friends we make women live in such a way. That is the life that we want because you are more invigorated in terms of the work you're doing. Whether you're a teacher, of scientists or an artist. When you're living out your passion when you're doing work that you're passionately, then you're gonna be interacting with other people who share your values. You're gonna be have having better relationships, your meeting, all kinds of people. You don't even know what you're gonna meet. That's one of the great things about traveling. I lived in Vietnam for five years and traveled all over Europe and Asia and everywhere. And you meet some of the most amazing people you're traveling because you're meeting people that are also like you, who value going out and seeing the world and those relationships. A lot of them. I have kept them up for 10 and 20 years because even if you live in different countries, we can now communicate with each other on Facebook or Skype or whatever we can meet up were visiting each other's countries. In some cases, they become lifelong friendships, and those friendships are so meaningful. May I add so much to our lives we wouldn't have made them. Usually it was living in a regular day to day boring, mundane in many cases, depressing existence. Okay, so I want us to be able to look at the number of the cost of non action. But what you get when you start taking risks, what you get when you start going out there and living the life that you truly truly wanted . If you don't know what it is you want, well, now is the time to figure it out, right? Shakespeare said. No, thy self to then own self be true. We need to know what we want, and it's hard in our culture sometimes to know who we are because we're being fed these archetypes. You're being fed these images about what a normal middle class successful. In my case, Americans should be right house in a car, family and a job in a pension. And it's like this narrative is like this narrative that this is how everybody lives should be. This is what you make you happy. And so, of course, is a men's confusion, because that's not the best line for everyone, right? Of course, that makes no sense that most people will be happy with the exact same scenario, the exact same five or 10 choices right of a career, and most people go into the same pathway through life it doesn't make sense, were diverse. The human spirit is so vast, everyone's life is different. It is something that we don't learn in school. It's in fact, the opposite. Our culture tries to make us conform. It tries to make us everything standardized, which, of course, is a good way to manage things. If you're in a system like a factory, you know which a lot of times how our culture and our government approaches many problems. But research is showing us we're learning more and more than, in fact, the exact opposite is what is healthy for the human spirit. We and more customization. We need more diverse solutions. We didn't mawr different ways of thinking about things, different ways of living and the way to really unlock the key. Unlock the secret to living a happy, fulfilled successful life is truly, truly explore deep within yourself, discovering who you are and who you want to be on Onley When you know who you are and who you want to be and you start to take the massive action that we're talking about, can you decide? OK, this book out. This is the kind of thes kind of people. I want my way and then you start collecting those things. You start, you know, taking action. That leads to the results that you want to get. You don't look back, Focus on the future and you focus on the present moment and all the things that we've learned about in this course. These are the things that successful people, happy people, leaders spiritually gurus throughout time have told us, and they're all they're all condensed into basically these few lectures and this is the stuff that works. These are the attitudes at work. These things that people are telling us gives contentment. And these is the ways that we need to learn how to let go, to reduce our stress and to learn to love each other more. So I hoped this sparks you not only to go up there and take action today, do one of two things today to start taking that first step in that journey of 1000 miles. But I hope that it motivates you to to take daily action to start new habits that will form character within you to lead you into the future. There's a wonderful saying that Watch your thoughts because they lead to action. Watch your action because it leaves the habits and want your habits because it leads toe character. And then watch your character because that leads your destiny. It all starts in our mind, which is where we are now and then. That leads to the actions which leads to the habits which leads to our character, which leads to our destiny. And it just individual steps, individual things that we can do starting today to get us where we want to go and give us life that we all deeply your for as human beings. I thank you for taking my course, and I wish you all the best of luck in your perspective endeavors.