Starting Being More Patient Today: Genius in 21 Days #9 | Jerry Banfield | Skillshare

Starting Being More Patient Today: Genius in 21 Days #9

Jerry Banfield, Teaches 105 Skillshare Classes

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    • 1. 25)How is patience a core value of genius and what does that look like?

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    • 2. 26)What can you do to find and practice patience in your life? How do I do it?

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    • 3. 27)Today look for one opportunity to be patient with yourself and with life

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Would you like to create an amazing amount of helpful videos, graphics, products, blog posts, books, or whatever you are meant to share with the world today?  Watch this video as a part of Genius in 21 Days to learn how you can continue to build your patience today and greatly enhance your creativity!

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1. 25)How is patience a core value of genius and what does that look like?: a core value of genius is patience. Patience means having the ability to not have instant gratification in what you're doing. Patients allows for all good things toe happen by having a little bit done every day. Patients has taken me a long time to develop in my life for a lot of my life. I want an instant gratification all the time. I love things like video games because they would provide instant gratification. You do a good job biting the boss and bam! You get a great reward right away. Life, on the other hand, rarely seems to give a good reward in proximity, toe working hard. I do really good in school, work hard in class and finally getting a at the end of the semester. It was really aggravating. Same thing with girls. You try and get to know a girl and ask her out and finally get to go out with her, and then it wouldn't even work out. My patience was tested at every moment of the day, and I had a hard time with patients. I thought of the race of the turtle and the hare or the tortoise and the hare or the rabbit in a turtle, the rabbit running fast and I could see the wisdom of the turtle running slow. And yet I lived my life like the rabbit. I'd run forward in these bursts and then stop and forget about it and go backwards. And always, the people who weren't like a turtle could get farther ahead than me, and it drove me crazy. Core of genius is having patience, and you can see when I talk. Patience is important. That allows me to talk more smoothly because if you don't have patience when talking, what you end up doing is stumbling over your words all the time and having to say um and ah and get a break for time to think. If you slow down a little bit, the words come out more naturally and you don't have to make a many mistakes. This allows me to make my videos with almost no edits, which allows me to produce way faster. Patience is huge, and here's how patients plays a big role in genius. Think about Steve Jobs with his idea for the iPhone. Now, how much patients do you think he had between the moment he had idea which he said came out on a meditation as faras. I've heard out on a retreat. So he had the idea. Then how long do you think it took before? It actually was available in stores. And how long do you think it took between when he had the idea and people could actually start using it? How long between when he had the idea and it started to make some of the changes he would have hoped for. How long from when he had the idea? Tell what? Someone like me actually got one when I originally had everything but an apple device. Patience is an absolute requirement for genius because you're unlikely to do any of your genius work very quickly. What you can see with me on you, to me is a little bit of consistent work over time. What you can see with someone like Steve Jobs is the little bit of consistent work overtime to make the iPhone a reality. Once he had the idea, then there's tons of steps thons of things to go through and get it actually idea. Developed, tested and out for release make new versions thons of time and energy and effort. And the thing is, you don't have enough time in one day or even a week or a month, usually to do your best work. Usually your best work takes an incredible amount of time and energy, and you can have that much time and energy if you'll do a little bit every day. Some of my best work takes me hundreds, if not thousands, of hours to do, and it's founded on everything I've done. So the thing is, I can do thousands of hours of work in a year if I'm willing to do just around three hours a day every day. That seems like something that is impossible from the point of view of wanting to get something done. Patience is absolutely huge. Think about someone like Einstein developing his theories of the universe. That didn't happen overnight. That happened with a lot of work and thought, experiments all the time, tons of effort, tons of mistakes, tons of things that didn't make sense over and over and over a little work all the time to get it right. Finally, and then more work to get the next thing right, so patients means accepting your limitations and saying, You know what? I only have a few hours of good work I can do every day. Patients means being okay with delaying gratification. And I know that's difficult. I know because I go through that myself. And yet the more have developed patients, the Mawr exceptional work I've been able to do. I know I used to serve clients. I had very little patience, very little patience, and they had very little patients. Also, they wanted things. Now, now, now I paid you and want these sales. Now I had that a lot. My own business and having no patients or little patients mostly hurts me. I suffer when I don't have patience, and now I try and design my life around being patient. If I know something is going to take time like sending a letter in the mail, I try and do that and send it well in advance. If I know something like making a new Google AdWords campaign is going to take some time, I try and plan for that and say, OK, I'll just throw this one campaign up and leave it in check tomorrow. I used to be so impatient all the time. I wanted to check things, and it's amazing the amount of energy you waste. Being impatient. I wasted ridiculous amounts of energy in my life being impatient things like double checking, micromanaging, getting all anxious and nervous and calling customer support right away and immediately going after and trying to solve all these problems. Sometimes it just takes a day and everything will work. I used to flip out if I couldn't sign into a service online, and usually all I had to do was wait till the next day and it work. I didn't need to call customer support. I didn't need to send that email. I didn't need to get all frustrated. I didn't need to put that Facebook status up. Complaining. All I had to do is wait till tomorrow and it be fixed. No effort required. Patience is at the core of genius, and so I'm grateful you're here. I'm grateful you've already had enough patients to get to this point. With me, that's a really good sign. I've set this course up in a patient's format where you do a little bit each day, every day because that works and I know that works because that's what works for me, and that's what I see for people working around me. And so I've built this course already based on patients. And if you think I'd rather not just be able to power the whole 28 day course out, I would love to be able to do this all in one session and have it be good. The truth is, I can do about one day worth off this course in one day and have it be good. I know. Based on my previous experience, I built most of a una me course and one day before, and you know what? The quality was not very good. Most of the course had to be replaced. I only have so much time and energy I can put into doing something creative like this every day and have it be top quality. Same with something like video games. I only have a few hours. I can play video games before I start. Not playing is good. I don't know exactly how it works like this, but I know with most things I could only do them for a few hours at peak efficiency exercise. I could only exercise for an hour or two. It peak efficiency. After that. My body really wants to rest. And so patience is about doing a little bit every day and being okay with that. It's about being okay that this course is taking me over a month to make because I don't work on in every single day. I have other courses I work on, and I visited my mom between some of the lectures, so I didn't work on it then. And patience is knowing that I'll finish it when it's time to finish it. Knowing that doing a little bit every day will get it done and when I don't expect the gratification of having it done are out there and getting sales, and I just enjoy doing this with you then not only does it get done, but it's awesome and you're liable like it so you can see me practicing. Exactly what I'm telling you about here and when I'll do next is talk more about how to cultivate, practice patients and be in the habit of patients and how to diagnose. Rather, you're in the habit of impatience or patients and rather, you can find opportunities in your life and where you might be ableto look to change impatience into patients. So thank you for spending this time having patients with my speaking speed, having patients with my course set up and thank you for continuing with this course. 2. 26)What can you do to find and practice patience in your life? How do I do it?: So what can you do to find and build patients in your life? And how do I do it for myself? First, you want to know what those patients feel like. Patients feels like acceptance. It feels like a comfort with how everything is. It feels like things are moving at the right pace. Not too fast, not too slow. Patients feels like tranquility, like peace and serenity. Ah, look at the world as if everything is just fine. Everything's good, just how it is a look at your work and what you're doing as the patient doing, and that's just fine. The place you're at is just fine. It's a place of acceptance, so that's what patients feels like. Here's what impatience feels like. And getting to know what impatience feels like will allow you to step out of it into patients because I get impatient. Believe me, I get impatient, and so I have to know what impatience feels like so that then I can transition and become patient in patients. Feels like restlessness. So, like if you're sitting somewhere, you know the bouncing around that happens if you're sitting somewhere and you have your leg moving constantly I used to do that a lot. Your legs moving. When you're sitting down to chair that Jim patients, that's impatient. You're trying to go somewhere. You're trying to move ahead. Impatience feels like irritation. Ah, car pulls out in front of you and you're like, Damn it, I'm late. Her I'm late. That's impatience. Patients, when a car pulls out in front of you, feels like Okay, a car pulled out in front of me. It's fine. I'll get there. When it's time, patients feels like I don't have to be anywhere. Do anything. It's a wonderful feeling. I don't have to be anywhere or do anything right now. There's nothing else I need to do right now. This is great, and that's how I feel with you right now. I don't need to be anywhere else. I don't need to do anything else. I'm where I'm supposed to be. Impatience feels like you don't have time for that deep breath. I just took the short, shallow breasts. All right, What are we gonna do? Come on? Commands. That's what impatience feels like. Impatience feels like a means to an end. Let me get this out of the way. so I get to where I want to in patients. Feels like being in a hurry. Come on, come on. And I know I've spent a lot of time in impatience in my life, and I share this to help you. Justus. Muchas to help myself in patients. Feels like being late. Come on, come on. Impatience feels like, man. I'm never going to get this done. I'm making this lecture. I'm only 1/3 of the way through the course. I'm never going to get this done. Why even bother? That's what impatience feels like. And so, if you know one impatience feels like, then you can also be in serenity if you know what patients feels like and you know what impatience feels like, You will pull into patients just by recognizing impatience and having some space from it. So Thursday it was 9 40 I got in a hurry to go the gym, and then I realized, Oh, this is impatience. Deep breath, all right. Everything's fine, just where it iss. So when you see impatience, then you have the option to go into patients, and the easiest way to go into patients is just to take a deep breath. And if you got impatient watching that, then that's impatience. There it ISS, and there's nothing wrong with it. You just have to notice it and know that patience is much more effective if you feel like I'm speaking in slow motion because hurry up, get the damn words out. Come on, come on, come on. If you feel like that, that's blocking your genius. It's getting in the way of your genius because genius happens with slow, consistent patient work. Your brain needs time. Your brain needs to be able to process things and to put things together. You can have a great idea one day and it might not be a great idea the next day. I know I've had a lot of those you might call them. Ah ha! Moments. Oh, yes, this is going to change the world. And then I wake up the next day like that was dumb. The idea is you want to being a place where you understand life comes and goes in various things. So this helps with moods a lot. I used to get sad, and all I could think about was not being sad. I want to not be sad. What can I do? So I'm not sad now. If I get sad, it's fine. It'll pass. I'll be happy at some point, and I don't have to do anything. All I have to do is do what I normally do, and Sad will pass when I'm happy. Hey, that will pass to and at some point I'll either be kind of neutral or I'll be sad. And that's fine, too. The moods I have are okay. I'm patient now with myself, and it's easier to start off by trying to find patients for the world. Things like people cutting in front of you in line, The cashier taking too long at the store, the book you ordered in the mail not coming or what you did online. You submitted your information and no one's responded. Yet you called customer service and you have to wait. It's easier to see the opportunities to be patient with life outside. The ultimate goal is to be patient with yourself inside, because if you get impatient with yourself, you'll start things and not finish them. You will get in the way of your genius. Your genius is peaceful, quiet, consistent and always there. Impatience gets in front of that. It's like a big distraction of big Party. And it might not be a very fun party lots of times, and it gets in the way impatience blocks out your ability to see your inner genius. So when you get all frustrated and upset, I know it freaked my wife out one night. I couldn't log in to HBO. Go and I flipped down like I wanna watch this. No. Are you? Uh, and the next day it worked fine. The next day it worked. Fine. That's the value of patience is being able to accept things and that most problems will solve themselves. You know, I found I have a lot less problems when Im patient most problems will solve the ourselves and the ones that don't. For example, my sprinkler pumps been out for several months now, and I've just let it go. The ones that don't solve themselves if you're patient will often have an opportunity presented to you that makes an easy solution. Rather, it's time to fix the problem. Things like my pool pump. I didn't know what to do with it. I was fairly patient with it. And then I got a nice new pool pump from Pinch A Penny. Things like the HBO go sign in if you just wait, a problem goes away. Playing legal legends Last night it kept disconnecting. I said, Okay, I'll go play a different game. Patients will lead you to make decisions that are smart patients will lead you to stop banging your head off the wall and it, damn it. Work, work, work, work it work. And if you are trying to make a new invention, if you're trying to do something, like make a course like this if you're trying to write a book, if you're trying to paint something, no matter what you're trying to use your inner genius to do, you will need patients for it because sometimes things will go wrong. Some days I go to upload my videos to you, to me and they won't upload. They take forever. It doesn't work. It drops. You know what I do? Okay, I'll try once again. Usually I'll try twice and after it doesn't work on the second time, I'll try again tomorrow. Engineers will fix the problem. They're aware of the problems because the people who are impatient are very quick to bring the problems to their attention. And so usually, if you are patient, other people will go ahead and solve your problems for you. They'll call the company. I'm complained, and soon enough things will get fixed on their own. I used to get crazy, impatient when the Internet wouldn't work. Oh my God, I remember flipping out so much, I'd have made drinks up. I'd be sitting at home trying to play a video game. And, man, I'd flip if that Internet wouldn't work. And what did that get me? A night full of pain and misery and suffering when I could have just said, Okay, it Internets work, not working on Go watch a movie. Then the next day I feel bad. I didn't watch a movie, and all that time I had available, I drink too much to try and numb the pain. I was causing myself over being impatient. So today, the easiest thing you can do is just take a deep breath and understand that having patients with the world is inseparable from having patients with yourself and then having patients with yourself Will not only allow your inner genius to come out, it will let you have a brilliant life. So thank you for having patients going through this lecture with me. Thank you for having patients going through this course. And next, I'll talk a little bit about what you can do today to find a little patience. A little bit more patients in your day. Thank you. 3. 27)Today look for one opportunity to be patient with yourself and with life: today find one opportunity to transmute patients out of impatience. To change impatience in two patients, find one place where you already have patience and maybe noticed one place you don't have impatience and take those times. Find a place where you are being impatient and see if you can change that into patients just by your awareness, even if it's just with the way I talk. I just did this right before this lecture. A plane flew overhead and it's loud and I can usually talk over it. I waited to start the lecture until the plane finished flying over, and I recognized I had got impatient over planes flying over lots of times, like Come on, get done up there. You know, some of us have stuff to do on the ground. You know, I had had plenty of the head and so I took the opportunity right before making this to say , Okay, go ahead and fly over. I don't have anything else to do. I'm fine. I'm just fine waiting and I don't even have to wait. I'm just fine with how life is now, and this is OK. This is what supposed to be happening Now, if you want patients, it's more of a matter off recognizing all of the places you are impatient, recognizing all of the places you are patient and then doing your best to try and bring the patients you already have into all the places you're impatient. So, for example, I did have good patients with school work most of my life. I was pretty patient when I would sit there, work hard on a paper, go through, do it, turn it in, wait for the grade. I was patient enough because I knew if I had patients and did a good job, I'd end up getting in a on a paper and it all be worth it. And then if I had impatience, I'd put it off the last minute to be really stressful. I wouldn't do a good job. Then I get something lesson, and then it would all not work out. So your mind is really helpful. Your mind could be really helpful to show where you have patients where you don't you might have patients driving you might not. Either way. The next time you're driving, think about am I being patient now and notice whenever you go from patients to impatience. That's the most critical thing for me, because as soon as I notice it's happened, then it can stop like Thursday. A couple days ago, I noticed at 9:40 a.m. I saw had 20 minutes to get too personal training, and it's a 13 to 16 minute drive, and I didn't even my gym clothes on. I quickly switched from patients doing my work to impatience. Oh, I gotta get the gym and on. And I noticed that a minute or two in, I noticed all that mental stress coming on, and I noticed it, and I took some deep breaths. Breathe out from the naval with the deep breath. Start that breath in the bottom of the lungs so your lung should go out. So when you start a deep breath out from the belly and then the top of the lungs fill up towards the very end of it. So I started taking deep breasts. I took several deep breasts and told myself, It's okay. What you're doing is fine. You don't need to go anywhere. You don't need to do anything. You're just fine right now where you're at and then I was able to return to patients. I got back in a state of patients, and then as I was driving, somebody made aggravating driving move. I've went to impatience, and then I saw It's okay, and I quickly dropped back in the patient's. If you've been impatient for years, sometimes it can take a little time to recognize all of them patients and to get into patients. But it all begins with recognising where you already have patients and where you have impatience. And so no matter where you're at, if your life is 99% patients or 99% impatience or somewhere in between, you can always push one step farther. You can always be a little more patient, and I know I can, and I know today I'm taking the opportunity to have patients with making this course. So far, this is the longest course I've made before getting it approved, and I have rushed out a lot of my courses in impatience to get them done. I want it out there. I want some kind of product and what's happened. Sometimes I've put out courses that if I had taken more time to make them better. They would have immediately gotten better reviews and more sales, and they probably be doing even better now. So today I'm having patients with making this course. I'm on day nine right now, and I may rearrange the days at some point. So I don't know if this is Day nine for you or if you're watching this in some kind of preview video. I don't know exactly where this is. What I do know is I'm exercising today what I'm sharing with you. I've had a lot of impatience when it comes to doing work in my life. Things like making these course of at a lot of them patients. And so today I'm practicing. Having patients. Three lectures is fine. That's 30 plus minutes of HD video I've created. That's fine. I know one agency locally, they charge 1500 a minute. That's $45,000 of value that I've created today. And I don't know if it will actually work out to that much. Probably not. What I do know is I'm enjoying being here with you right now. I'm very happy, very happy to be here with you right now and That's what patients feels like. The course doesn't need to be out there and done. Yes, I'm talking to my webcam right now. And yes, you probably won't have seen this for quite a while after I make it. And that's okay. That's patients. So today I'm exercising patients with you because I do this course genius and 28 days I do this course every day in my personal life and in my professional life, these are the values of principles I live by. And so the only way I can do a good job do is be a living example. So that's I'm doing my best to be patient with myself, be a living example for you and be patient with you as you go through the course as you ask questions. And I'm honored you're here with me. So thank you for experiencing having patients with the patient section. And I love to know what you think, and I am honored to be part of your journey two. And in being a genius. Thank you.