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Start Your Own Life Coaching Business: Part 4

Libby Seery, World Renown Self Development Expert

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11 Lessons (26m)
    • 1. The TGROW Model In Practice

      3:16
    • 2. Exploring The Topic

      2:17
    • 3. Coaching Jenna Part 1

      2:31
    • 4. Setting Specific Goals

      1:51
    • 5. Coaching Jenna Part 2

      2:30
    • 6. Assessing Reality

      3:05
    • 7. Coaching Jenna Part 3

      2:00
    • 8. Exploring Options

      3:20
    • 9. Coaching Jenna Part 4

      1:38
    • 10. Wrapping Up And The Way Forward

      2:04
    • 11. Wrapping Up With Jenna

      1:47

About This Class

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In this section, we’ll be looking at the next major coaching model, which is the TGROW model.

For the purpose of demonstrating this model, we’ll be using a practice client called “Jenna”.  The TGROW model starts off with exploring the topic of the client’s goals, before moving onto setting specific goals with the client.  Next we’ll be moving onto assessing the reality of the client’s goals followed by exploring the various options surrounding the client’s goals.  We conclude the TRGOW model by wrapping up the model by looking at the way forward for the client. You’re also expected to go through the resources attached for this course.

Part four content include:

The TGROW Model in Practice                     

Exploring The Topic                           

Coaching Jenna: Part 1  

Resource - TGROW           

Setting Specific Goals                       

Coaching Jenna: Part 2                     

Assessing Reality                                

Coaching Jenna: Part 3                     

Exploring Options                              

Coaching Jenna: Part 4                     

Wrapping Up and The Way Forward                          

Wrapping Up With Jenna                             

                                 

Transcripts

1. The TGROW Model In Practice: next will be describing and discussing the T grow model Andi. We'll be looking at a case study that we can use to demonstrate the principles off T grow upon. The T Grow model is a newer variation of the classic grew model that has bean inwards for juice since the late 19 eighties. Grow and by extension, T Grow is an excellent system for gold directed areas such a sports and business. It can help your kind, clearly define and walk the path to success in a mere five stages. If the area your client is seeking coaching for is something a bit deeper, such as life, long career planning and aspirations, you may want to supplement t grow with something that also allows for discussion that go beyond just setting and working toward specific goals. T Grow does not have to be seen as mutually exclusive to the other, more philosophical approaches. As a coach, it's up to you to select and craft solutions from all the tools in your arsenal in order to help your kind achieve what they desire. T Grow has five stages, which will be discussing in the following lectures where you'll see exactly how T grow can be applied to a real life situation now for ethical and privacy reasons. This example Case study is not based on a real person but is typical off the types of issues T grow is best suited. For now, it's time to meet our client. Her name is Jenna, and she's in her mid twenties. Jenna has recently graduated with her degree in English. She's a little bit older than other graduates with first Degrees, but she took a break after school to travel the world for a bit. Besides, that General also has to redo a few subjects and therefore took a while longer to finish the average. Jenner is from a fairly well off family and isn't in a rush to get her self employed. Her aspiration is to be an author. It was the whole reason that she studied English in the first place. But after 10 months of trying to write her first novel, she is essentially nowhere. She needs help to organize her life and goals in such a way so that she can actually produce the outcome she wants, which is to write her first novel so that she has something to approach a publisher with will be applying the five stages of t grow to Jenna's situation to try and help her satisfy her aspirations. 2. Exploring The Topic: here will be discussing the T IN T grow. The T in T grow is short for topic. This is the only difference between the T grow and grow coaching models, and it is an important step in the process. By topic, we simply mean the broad area within which the coaching is to take place. The reasons this is so important is that the desires that the client comes to you with may not in fact be what they really want or need. The topic phase is therefore the first conversation you'll have with your client. This is where you ask a series of questions that are meant to carry if I the broad parameters off their desires as well as the scale. After all, there's a bit of a difference between wanting to lose £20. Andi wanting to be the president by discussing the topic area before getting into specific goals, you can first get the bigger picture view off what your kind wants to do in the life Andi, which will form the soil from which their true goals will grow when it comes to goals. It's very important that both the coach and kind understand the motivations behind those goals. Having the topic discussion will help avoid the setting of goals that are relevant or not motivated enough. Before we finish this rupture, let's have a look at some example questions that would fit under T for topic. What would you like to talk about? What is important to you? What areas do you want to address? What is behind this on? And what would this mean to you in the next lecture will be looking at supplying these questions to our clients, Jenna and seeing what we get. 3. Coaching Jenna Part 1: So let's now go ahead and reply these questions to our client general. Remember that not all of these questions will be relevance to each case and that you may have to formulate traditional ones to get the information you need from your client. The coach asks Jenna, What would you like to talk about? I'm trying to write my first novel, but it thing months and I'm still nowhere. I can't seem to get any work done, and I'm getting really worried that I'm never be able to do it. Why do you want to write a book? Ever since I was a child, I wanted to be an author. I even studied English at university so that I could become an author. Why did you want to become a North a general? I wanted to be respected and wealthy. Now let's take a moment to reflect on the fact that in real life you would have had a much longer conversation, and the client may have Bean much less ready to simply state their true motivations as generated here. Still, what we have found is that Jenna is not pursuing her goal of becoming a published author because of pure artistic sentiments, but because she wants certain things in her life, such as a claim and money, which she thinks being an author will do for her. Of course, these are not always the best motivation, but they are motivations. Onda. We could use them to help General formulate better goals that to take advantage of her true mace ovations. Alternatively, it may turn out that there may be ways more suitable to Jenna's personality, abilities and situation that could still lead to the acclaim on Dwell that she craves. At this point, we don't know what path the process will take, but we have discovered some very important details about the general area of coaching when it comes to Jenna that can give us overall guidance in the next lecture will be looking at the G in T grow. 4. Setting Specific Goals: Let's have a look then at the G in T Grow, which is short for gold. In this phase of the T grow process, we're going to set goals to strive for in cooperation with the client. If you remember from earlier on in the course, when we set goals, they need to conform to the smart criteria. In other words, they must be specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and timely. We also want to have goals along a trajectory. In other words, we need the larger long term goal. But we also need smaller goals for each. All that need to be complete by the next session. You do not. I cannot to find all of the's goals in advance because you may need to reassess in life's of new information or the rate of progress your client is making. When trying to identify goals in conjunction with your client, you may ask questions such as these. What specifically do you want to do? How will you know when you've reached your goal? Can your goal be achieved in principle? How is this goal relevant to you by when do you want to complete the goal? As you can see these more or less conform to the smart criteria and in the next picture will be applying these to Jenna. 5. Coaching Jenna Part 2: using the questions we've just covered in the previous rapture. Let's now of High LEM to Jenna's case. The coach asks. What specifically do you want to achieve? Jenna? I want to write a manuscript and submitted for publication is a book. How will you know when you've done this successfully? When literary agent agrees to take my book to a publisher, can you actually do this in principle? Yes, of course. Plenty of people write books. I have the education and ability to do it, so I know that I can do it in principle. Why is writing a book relevance to you? General? Because it has bean my lifelong dream. I love the written word, and all I want to do is write and publish by. When do you want to finish your manuscript? General, I want it done no more than a year from now. So admittedly, Jenna is being a marvelous client by giving us exactly the answers that we want to hear. In reality, each of these questions is actually a conversation or by itself, where you may question your client to make sure that they conform to the smart criteria and set goals that can be attained using the T Grow model. Remember also that short and medium turned girls need to be set. For example, Jenna may commit to writing at least 50 pages between sessions, or that she will hire an editor to give her feedback. Given the total time span of a year, which you may have also negotiated as being unrealistic, you could also have medium term goals for months 36 and nine. The point is that General must set goals for tomorrow, next week, next month and so on. She must never be in doubt about what she should aim for next. Next, we're going to be disgusting. The section of T grow, which is our standing for reality. 6. Assessing Reality: here, we'll be discussing the are of T grow, which is short for reality. In order to reach a destination, you need to have an accurate idea off where you are. More often than not, you'll find that your client is not self aware enough to have a good idea of where they are . It is one of the reasons you see people show up to talent shows brimming with confidence only to encounter utter failure. This part of the process is about guiding your kind through a reality check. It's where you must explore the things that are holding the clients back. This can be something about them as a person, something about their physical condition, something about their environment, anything that has an influence or constraining effect on the client's potential towards achieving their overall goal. This is an easy phase to keep going round in circles in as the coach, you must take charge of this process and continuously summarized the clients responses on repeating them back to the kind. This is the part of T grow, where you will often learn of the clients underlying fears and convictions. These should be worked on as part of the overall coaching trajectory. Remember that your goal as coach here is to get the client to self evaluate, to find the obstacles that hold the kind back in cooperation with each other. Let's look at some of the kinds of questions you should ask in this phase. What's happening to you now? What, when with whom and how often? What is the result of that? Why is this theme of problem? What are concrete examples of this problem? What's been going wrong so far? How do you manage to fail? Teach me how to do it. What's went well. Is this always a problem, or are there situations in which it isn't? What are the defining factors? What can make the difference? And what have you done so far in the next lecture? We're going to be prying these to Jenna's case, remember that these are not the only questions you should ask. Nor do you need to ask all of them. Each case is unique on Do you should act accordingly 7. Coaching Jenna Part 3: Let's start by asking general the questions we learned in the previous lecture. The coach asks, General, what's being going wrong? So far? I just can't seem to do any writing. Whenever I sit down to write, I feel like I want to do something else. Well, what have you done so far? I've managed to write an outline of my novel. I know the story I want to tell. I just can't seem to bring myself to sit and write it. What's happening to you now? Right now, I'm feeling very anxious that I seem to have wasted all my time preparing to be a writer, but now it seems like I can't actually do it. Maybe it's because I'm just not good enough. My grades weren't all that great, you know, and I took longer to finish my degree than everyone else. What is it? Do you think that you're really afraid off? I think I'm afraid that I'm simply not good enough. This is, of course, only a small slip it off what the often long and involved conversations in this phase look like in this situation, you would continue to explore and note the various issues you pick up during the reality check. These must be fed back to the goals that they need to pursue. You need to help the crime and overcome the many obstacles that all come together and prevent the client from achieving their goals. Next will be looking at the O in T Crow, which stands for options. 8. Exploring Options: in this lecture will be discussing the O in T Grow, which is short ful options. Now, once your client has a firm grasp off what their reality is surrounding their needs and desires, you can move on to exploring the action plans that are possible for them. From that point onwards, they need to think about actions, solutions, Andi ideas that will help deal with their situation as they progress forward. Formulating options and clearly outlining different piles ahead is a very empowering process. It helps to eliminate the feeling on the client's part that they lack control. Having options makes us feel that we are back in control. What is even more powerful and effective is if the options that are on the table come from the client themselves. It is therefore in portions that you not overtly force or even outline options to the client. Rather, if you feel that there is a good and effective option that the clients missing, you should notch them gently in that direction with care so that they can come to the same conclusion on their own steam. Don't worry if no matter what you do, they don't come up with the exact options you wanted. Remember, you're merely a guide. This is their journey, not yours. Something that he is likely to happen is this part of the process? Is the appearance off self limiting beliefs. As the name suggests, a self limiting belief is a belief a person has about themselves that indicates something they can't do when in fact, they are very much capable of it. An athlete, for example, may think I'll never beat the world record when in fact they are capable as a coach, it's important that you challenged and counter the expression of negative, self limiting beliefs when they come up in a session. Obviously, some self limiting beliefs aren't reasonable, such as believing that one cannot fry by flacking one's arms. What we are looking for here are unreasonable release that are plain to see. Here are some common negative responses that you may hear. I don't know it can't be done. It can't be done like that. They would never agree to that. It's bound to take too much time or cost too much money. As coaches, we can counter these negative statements by asking what if questions to demonstrate we're going to be a prime nous to Jenna's case in the next video luxury 9. Coaching Jenna Part 4: let's now put into practice what we've just covered in the previous fracture, the coach asked. General. So you said that you're afraid you aren't good enough to write a story that would be published. What could you do to find out if you do have what it takes, maybe something a little less ambitious than a whole novel? Maybe I could write a short story first and see if that gets published. But wait. The competition in short story publishing is much worse than in four novels. I probably could never get a short story published, but what if you did get published, then I would know that I was a good enough story writer. Okay, I think it could be worth giving it a go. As you can see, Jenna did come up with their own option at the help of the coach, prompting her, but doubted her ability to do it. The coach used a what if question to motivate Jenna by reminding her how this would help one of her biggest problems in turn, that motivated her to attempt the goal. In the next video, we'll be discussing the W in T grow, which is short for the way forward 10. Wrapping Up And The Way Forward: Yeah, we're going to be discussing the W in T Grow, which is short for way forward. In this final step in T grow. The client is now armed with a set of specific goals has identified obstacles and laid out options. This is the right time for your client to now commit to one of the options they outlined and follow an action plan to make that option a reality. We want to take that option and converted to a concrete plan of action. This is the step where you will set measurable targets and decide how you'll know when the cry int has been successful or is on track to reach their goals. These are the questions you might ask off the client in order to flesh out the details off their action plan. What exactly will you do to reach your goal? And when Which of these options will you take? What concrete step can you take now? What steps come after? Are all of the obstacles taken into account? How will you overcome your obstacles? How motivated are you on a scale from 1 to 10 to go for this option? What do you need to have a 10. Where can you guess it? How can your surroundings support you? Will? This can get you to your goal. Will it solve the underlying problem too? In the next lecture will be wrapping the session up, using general as our example. 11. Wrapping Up With Jenna: we're going to be a prying this to Jenna's case, imagining that she has opted to rather first try and guess Short Story published instead off producing a longer novel on this will be a way to overcome her confidence issues. Since we on the cry and have agreed on this option, we can then talk about specific things that she has to do, such as complete and outline, consult with a professional editor, attend writing workshops and research the short story publishers she'll be submitting to and so on. It's important to break down the necessary steps in the action plan so that it is actually something that the kind can follow. Take care off what we've shown you here. It's an outline off the tee grow process, not the entire run off a coaching relationship. In real life, you may run through the T grow cycle multiple times. Go back and forth, rework things, change plans, etcetera. It's all very possible as the coach it's your job to ensure that the kind gets what they need when they need it in service off their goals. Models like T grow are only tools in your arsenal. They are not divine rules, so be sure to use your judgment and experience to decide how you will apply t grow in each individual case.