Self Love for Beginners | Denice Rosanne | Skillshare
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10 Lessons (53m)
    • 1. Class Introduction

      2:14
    • 2. The Importance of Self Talk

      4:17
    • 3. Letting Go of Perfectionism

      5:02
    • 4. Forgiveness

      8:03
    • 5. Loving Your Inner Child

      5:12
    • 6. Embracing Who You Are

      3:54
    • 7. Using Affirmations

      8:09
    • 8. Daily Self Love Habits

      9:19
    • 9. Additional Resources

      3:54
    • 10. Putting It All Together

      3:11
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Do you struggle to feel positive about yourself? Do you want to love yourself more, but you’re not quite sure how? 

This is the class for you! 

In this class, I’ll teach you practical, simple ways you can start loving yourself more and how to develop a positive self image. You will learn how to cultivate a loving attitude toward yourself and how to move past self-hatred and judgement. 

You'll learn easy steps you can take to love yourself and short exercises you can use to open your heart to greater self love. 

This class is for anyone who wants to learn how to love themselves more. No prior knowledge of these concepts is required and it doesn't matter what your background is. All that is required is an open mind and a desire to love yourself more. 

This class will be a safe, loving space for you to learn how to relate to yourself in a positive way. 

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Denice Rosanne

Self Love and Spirituality

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Hi, I'm Denice Rosanne! Don't forget to click "Follow" so you don't miss any of my future classes.

 

I am a self love and spiritual coach who teaches you how to love your divine self, so that you can live with joy, freedom, and purpose. 

 

My work is based off of my own experience overcoming severe depression and other mental health issues rooted in self-hatred, and how I used the principles of spirituality, law of attraction, self love, and positive mindset to create a joy filled life. 

 

Everything I teach is based in kindness, positivity, and spiritual connection. Change can be simple - and fun! 

 

If you'd like to learn more from me, visit my Youtube channel Denice Rosanne, or check ou... See full profile

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1. Class Introduction: Hi, I'm Denise Hertzian and welcome to my course, self-love for beginners. So do you feel stuck in negative patterns and thoughts about yourself, but you're not quite sure how to move forward. Have you struggled with hatred and criticism for a lot of your life? And you want to learn how to relate to yourself in a loving way. Or maybe you already learned about some concepts of self-love that you want a refresher and you want to learn new strategies on how to love yourself. Either way, this course is the perfect course for you. In this course, you will learn how to begin to love and accept yourself no matter who you are, where you come from, or what your story is, I'll teach you practical, easy to implement strategies that you can use to really take yourself love and acceptance to the next level so that you can start to live a life where you truly love yourself every day. I'm a self-love and spiritual coach, and I teach these concepts because I've learned them personally for most of my life. I struggled with extreme self-hatred and had a really negative opinion of myself in very low self-esteem. In fact, I became severely depressed and almost didn't make it. And that was until I began to do a lot of therapy. I began to read and study and begin to learn how to relate to myself in a new way. And now I'm living a life where I truly do love and accepts in a fruit of the person that I am and I live each day with ever growing self-love. And I want to teach you what I have learned so that you don't have to go through many years of struggle so that you can begin to day to start loving yourself more. So I hope you'll join me for this class, and I want this to be a safe, loving space for you. So if you are going to join me for this class, just know that we're practicing lots of kindness, lots of patients and lots of love for ourselves as we go throughout these lessons in slowly learn how to develop greater self-love. Thank you so much for joining me and let's go ahead and hop into the course. 2. The Importance of Self Talk: Hi everyone and welcome to the first lesson of this self-love course. And in this lesson we're going to be talking about self talk. So what is self talk? So we are actually talking to ourselves in our heads all day long. I mean, probably not out loud. But in our heads we have this internal dialogue of thoughts running all day long. And scientists have tried to estimate how many thoughts we have a day. And of course, it's difficult to quantify, right? Because in order to notice your thoughts, you have to think of your thoughts. But we know that we are having thousands of thoughts a day, if not tens of thousands of thoughts. And oftentimes, these thoughts are very negative. We have been conditioned by society, by our culture, by the people around us. Oftentimes to have a lot of negative thoughts, to have a lot of self critical thoughts to be thinking down about ourselves and down about the world in general. And the thoughts that we're having in our head are contributing to our overall feeling of self-worth and confidence. So these thoughts that we're having all day long are going to influence how we feel about ourselves. So it's really important if we want to grow self love, that we pay attention to this self-talk and we start to change it to be more positive thing. So if you think of like a plant and you have a tiny seed that you want to grow into a beautiful tree. A, you have to plant that seed in good soil. So if you plant the seed and soil that's really rough and dry and barren, your seat is not going to grow into a plant, right? It needs to be planted in nice nurturing soil. So if we think of self love, if we're growing this beautiful plant of self-love, We need to plant it in soil that is going to let it grow and that soil is our minds. So the self-talk we do enriches the soil of our minds, makes it a more positive place to be, and allows us to grow that beautiful plant of self-love. So how do we change ourselves? Talk from negativity to positive. The first step is awareness. So you're already doing a great job at that by taking this class, you're starting on the first step of being aware of how you're talking to yourself, how you're thinking. We can't change anything until we're aware of it. And what we wanna do is if you start this awareness and you start to notice throughout the day how your thinking when you notice a negative thought, instead of using that as an opportunity to criticize yourself, we can congratulate ourselves because that means that we're beginning to notice and we're beginning to change how we're thinking. So it's actually a really great thing. If you notice that you're having a negative thought. And all we wanna do is replace it with a positive thoughts. So a nice simple one is, I am good enough as I am. You could replace it with I accept myself, I love myself. Anything that's nice and positive and short and simple and easy for you to remember. So when you have that negative thought, like if I'm thinking, oh, I'm so stupid, I never do anything right? I pause. I noticed the thought and replace it with no, I'm good enough as I am, and that's my new thought. And over time, we're going to change this self-talk to be more positive in general. But of course it is a process. So of course it takes time to change this. It doesn't happen overnight. But if we have patients with ourselves, if we take time and we have love and compassion for ourselves and kindness, we can begin to change our self talk and I know because I've done this myself talk used to be super negative and I've been able to change it until it's like mostly positive now it's not a 100% of the time, but no one's perfect are gonna cover that in a later lesson. But just try to notice and be aware. So I just invite you as you take the rest of this class to be more aware of your self talk and try and knows what you're thinking. And if you notice any negative thoughts come up like, oh my gosh, I can't do this or I'm so negative or this is never going to help me. And just notice that if I replace it with something nice, like I'm good enough as I am. 3. Letting Go of Perfectionism: Hi and welcome to the second lesson of this course. And that is letting go of perfection. So perfection is a myth. And I mean that perfection is a myth. No one is perfect. And here's the truth. If you're waiting to be perfect, you'll never love yourself, okay? If you're waiting until you check all the boxes and you're the perfect person and everything in your life is perfect. And then you want to love yourself. You'll never love yourself because no one is ever, ever going to be perfect. Unconsciously, we may believe that we need to be perfect to be lovable. And this is because we oftentimes grow up feeling like we need to earn love. So what I mean by that is oftentimes we feel like we need to perfect for our parents or for our friends. We need to have the perfect job or their perfect body or the perfect grades. And that makes us lovable because oftentimes it's how we were shown love and affection as children. And so we grow up and we can bring this into adulthood and think, oh, well, this is the way I need to be an order to be loved, but that's just not the truth. And there are really many, many ways that we can be consciously or unconsciously seeking to be perfect in our life. So some examples are the bought by our bodies. Are we seeking to have the perfect body to be in perfect, perfect shape before we love ourselves, do we think we have to look perfect, have the perfect hair or make up, or look as beautiful as the movie star? Do we think we need to have the perfect job or the perfect relationship? Finances, school grades. There's so many areas where we could be seeking perfection and it's important to become aware of this. And I want you to understand. I'm not saying that it's wrong to seek improvement in these areas like absolutely, it's great to get in shape. It's great to get a great job that you love. It's great to have a wonderful relationship. But we can't hold off ourself love until we have that or we can't wait until we check all the boxes to love ourselves because like I said, you're waiting until you check all the boxes. You're never going to love yourself, okay? And so I love this quote by my favorite author Louise Hay. She says, we don't need to earn the right to breathe. It is god given because we exist. So too, is the right to love and be loved. The fact that we exist means we are worth loving. So if you think about that, we don't have to earn the right to breathe, right? We don't have to be perfect in order to breathe. We just breathed, were allowed to breathe. And so if you can start to think of self-love and love, accepting love that way that you don't need to earn it. That it's just one of your rights as existing as a human, that you are already good enough to be loved. So what is the truth? The truth is you are lovable as you are. And I a 100% mean that whoever you are, whatever your life looks like, whatever things you still want to achieve in your life, or things that you may think are wrong with you. It's not true. You are lovable as you are. And that is where our process of self-love starts, is by really truly understanding and accepting that we are good enough and lovable in, in this moment exactly as we are. And no one is perfect, not even the people we think are perfect. So oftentimes maybe we might look at models or movie stars or celebrities and we think, oh, like their life is perfect, right? But then if, you know, if you follow them around for a day and after they got home and they took off the makeup and the fancy clothes, you realize they're just regular flawed pupil like the rest of us, you know. And no one is perfect, no one on this earth is perfect. But that doesn't mean that we're any less deserving and love. In fact, if you realize they, no one on the Earth is perfect, then that means that we're all deserving of love and self-love is unconditional. So what we really want to be striving for is to get to this place where we can love ourselves and accept ourselves no matter what's going on in our lives, we can love ourselves through the good and the bad. We can love ourselves when we're proud of ourselves, and also when we make mistakes. And that's what unconditional love means. So stop waiting for some day. The time is now. Now it's the only moment we have are never going to be perfect. Our lives are never going to be perfect. Of course, they can improve and get better. But the time to love ourselves and the time to step into this new era of self-love is right now. 4. Forgiveness: Hi everyone, welcome to class three. And in this class we're talking about forgiveness. So what is forgiveness? Why do we need to practice forgiveness in order to love ourselves? So forgiveness is the key, I believe, to developing self love. And that is because we need to be able to let go of the past in order to change the future. So if we want to change how we think about ourselves, what we believe about ourselves, and to really be able to love ourselves and accept ourselves, we have to let go of those past experiences that taught us that we weren't good enough. And when we do this process of forgiveness, we're replacing those old thoughts that happened from old experiences. And we're practice, we're replacing them with new thoughts. So I like to think of forgiveness as kind of like cutting energetic ties to the past where we're no longer going to be tied to what happened to us in the past. And we're going to instead create the future that we want. Create this really loving, beautiful future for ourselves. But it doesn't mean, so forgiveness doesn't mean that whatever happened was okay. So I think a lot of people struggle with forgiveness because they say, well, I don't want the other person to think what they did was okay or I don't want to forgive that person for doing that to me. And it's absolutely true that there are things that people have done to you that I'm sure were very painful and very hurtful. And it doesn't mean when we practice forgiveness, it doesn't mean that we are saying it's okay or not saying that we want it to happen again, all we're saying by practicing forgiveness is we're giving a gift to ourselves. And we're saying that I'm no longer going to be tied to all the energy and anger of this situation. So forgiveness is for us. Forgiveness gives us freedom because it allows us to release the anger, resentment, all of the negative feelings about ourselves and about life that came up from that situation. And when we forgive the situation, we're releasing it from our consciousness and we're just releasing it back out into the universe. And we're stepping into this new era of self-love. So there's this Buddhist quote that I really love and I think it really describes forgiveness. So holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You're the one who gets burned. So if you're holding onto anger or resentment, it's not hurting the other person, it's hurting you. And so forgiveness means that we don't want to hurt ourselves anymore. Well, we want to be able to move forward with our lives. I'm going to explain this forgiveness exercise. I want you to know that it's also available. The written instructions are available in the PDF that is downloadable with this course. So don't worry about writing everything down, but I just want to walk you through the steps so that when you do, do this exercise, you kind of know what to expect. And also, I really do recommend doing this exercise. I have practice a lot of forgiveness and I, like I said earlier, a really has been a key for me to developing self-love because it just allowed me to let go of all those experiences that made me feel like I wasn't good enough. The first thing you're gonna do for this exercise is make a list of ten to 15 experiences where you felt either not good enough, you felt ashamed, maybe embarrassed. You felt like people were laughing at you or someone hurts you. And a really painful way, anything that kinda comes up for you that you think is getting in the way of you being able to love yourself. Maybe it's something you feel really guilty about. That's okay too. We need to practice forgiveness towards ourselves, not just towards other people but towards ourselves as well. So make a list, just tend to 15. There's usually more than that. I've done this exercise several times, but we don't want to overwhelm ourselves, right? So you just start with ten to 15. And in the future you can do this exercise again and again and just get deeper into the forgiveness. And then starting with the first experience on your list, you're going to recall how you felt for about 30 seconds. So you're just going to mentally close your eyes and return to the situation and really just allow yourself to feel whatever you felt. Did you feel ashamed? Did you feel embarrassed? Did you feel not good enough? Did you feel ridiculed, whatever it was? Just recall that for about 30 seconds and we don't wanna do any longer than that because we don't wanna get too caught up in the emotion, but we're just allowing ourselves to feel it so that we can move forward from the situation. And then what I want you to do is to visualize the person who hurt you in front of you. And if you're forgiving yourself, this can be yourself. But just try to get as clear of a pictures you can of the person at the age that they were in that situation and say to them directly in your mind, thank you. I forgive you. I love you. I set you free. So we're saying thank you because we're saying thank you to the situation. Whatever it was there to teach us, whatever it was there to help us grow or to experience or whatever roll that experience. I believe everything in our lives helps us develop and grow. So whatever that experience was there to teach us and you can say Thank you, even if you don't know what it was there to teach you, if it just feels like it was just a painful experience, we say thank you anyways, because it had some role to play in our lives. And we say, thank you. You say I forgive you. So we're truly forgiving the person. Or saying I love you because we want to send love to everyone. And sending love out allows us to get love in and allows us to feel loved to ourselves. So we're gonna send love to that person. And then we say, I set you free. So we're setting them free from our mind. We're setting the entire experience free. And really what we're doing is setting ourselves free. And when you see these words, I want you to put as much feeling as you can into them, okay, try to make them sound is true as you can. And then what I like to do is repeat this with yourself. So imagine yourself in that situation, however old you were in that situation, and picture yourself in your mind's eye and say the words again to yourself. Say thank you, thank you for the situation. I forgive you. I love you and I set you free, okay? So we need to not only forgive the other person, we need to forgive ourselves for whatever rule that we had to play in that situation, especially if we felt like embarrassed are not good enough or something like that. And then we're just going to repeat. So go through the list, go through all ten to 15 experiences doing this and you probably will find his, I've found from doing this several times that you feel immediately so much freer after you do this exercise, it's really amazing. And I just want to let you know like emotions are normal, right? So these are painful situations, these are formative experiences and it's totally normal to have emotions come up as you're doing this, to cry, to get angry, to feel embarrassed, whatever is coming up. Just honor that welcome. That. No, it's part of the process. And if you're getting really, really overwhelmed and it's just feeling like too much, then listen to yourself and honor that and that's fine. Like if you only get through two experiences, that's fine. You got through two, That's great. It will put the list away and we'll come back to it when we're ready. Okay, so just have compassion with yourself. Have patients that yourself, that's a theme throughout this course. But yeah, you do want to get through these experiences and really start to experience that freedom of being free from these experiences. 5. Loving Your Inner Child: Hi and welcome to class four. And in this lesson we're talking about loving your inner child. So loving your inner child. I do believe that within us, in every one of us is our child self. So what I mean by that is, as we grow up through life, we go to different ages, we grow, we change. But we carry with us all those past versions of ourselves, right? So that part of us that was three and experienced those things when we were three and has the joys of a three-year-old is still with us and so is our 16-year-old self and our 20-year-old silicon, however old you are at the moment, right? So we always have these parts of ourselves with us. And this is important for self-love because it's often easier I find to send love to your inner child instead of your adult self. So we often have a lot of judgments towards our adult self. We say, you're not good enough, you're not doing all these things I want you to be doing your life doesn't look like that person's life, right? We're, we're a lot more critical of ourselves as adults, but we tend to be a lot more forgiving and understanding of children because we think of children as being NSA and inherently worthy. And of course, we are still inherently worthy as we grow up. But it's often easier if you're practicing self-love to really get in touch with your inner child. So when you start to criticize yourself or you start to get really down on yourself, you start to be really negative on yourself. I want, I want you to picture that inner child, that version of you at like four or five, that lives within you and picture yourself. Are you going to criticize FAT child? Probably not, right, because they're an innocent kid. You're not going to yell at a little kid. And so why are you talking to yourself that way? You don't want to talk to yourself that way. That inner child is still within you and still needs your love. And you can also do things to express your inner child. So you can do things like some things that you love to do as a childlike color in a coloring book. They make adult coloring books. Now, you can dance to a favorite song, watch one of your favorite movies as a kid. And that's just an opportunity for us to express that like child-like innocence and playfulness and happiness and love ability that lives within us and it's a good way to connect with ourselves further. So here's a short inner child exercise, and this one is also available in the downloadable PDF. So you're just going to get into a comfortable position. Maybe put on some nice music. Close your eyes and picture yourself as a child about two or three standing in front of you. So whatever you looked like at that age, you know, maybe you could look at a picture of yourself and remember what you looked like at that age and picture yourself as clearly as you can. And then imagine that child looking to you, your current adult self, and that child is asking you for love. Maybe they're holding out their arms, asking you for love may be there side and heard and they need someone to give them a hug and imagine them looking at you asking for this love. And what you wanna do is wrap them up in a big hug and tell them you love them. Tell them they're good enough and send them so much love. So something you can say is, I love you so much exactly as you are. You're wonderful and I love you. And just really try and Sam loved to that child version of you, really feel it as much as you can. And that is just like a great exercise to do every now and then, especially when you're getting really down on yourself. Or I also find it works for fear. If I'm feeling really fearful, I can picture my inner child that's just like scared and just need someone to hug them. Tell them if okay. It's going to be all right. And you can do the same thing when you're criticizing yourself. It's okay, I love you, you're good enough and your wonderful as you are. And it also, this exercise also works with people you have a hard time forgiving. So we did forgiveness in the last lesson. A, you have people in your life that you have a lot of resentment or anger towards. Oftentimes this can be parents or caregivers, people who had a really important role in our lives growing up, it can be difficult to forgive them. That's totally normal. And a way to make it easier it is to picture them as children as two or three and picture that child looking at you and it needs your love and you're not going to be angry to that child. Ru, You can send that love to your parents as children or whoever it is as children, and understand and recognize that that child never really leaves us, that child still lives within whoever it is that you need to forgive. And so when you have trouble interacting with their adult self, maybe just try and picture them as their child self. So yeah, it takes some time today or in your life to connect with your inner child. And you might find that it really does enrich your process of self-love. 6. Embracing Who You Are: Hi, welcome to class five, embracing who you are. So for me, self-love didn't really begin to truly become true for me and really a part of my life until I began to own who I am, until I began to embrace the unique, wonderful, weird person that I am. And it's the same for you as well. In order to really love yourself, you need to be able to embrace all aspects of yourself and celebrate the unique person that you are. So each person is completely unique, okay, so no two people on this earth have the same fingerprints. It's just like no two snowflakes are alike. Each person is unique. There is no one else like you on earth. And that is the coolest thing is that you are a completely unique person and that is your strength, that's your power, because no one else is U. And that is, that means that we need to honor and love the unique person that we are. But we've oftentimes learned to hide our true selves to fit in. So especially like I remember in junior high, you know, I would try and fit in with the crowd, which is a totally normal thing to want because we want connection, we want people to accept us, we want love. And we might have felt like we needed to be a certain way for people to love us. So we learned to hide those parts of ourselves that maybe people didn't accept. We learned to pretend we're not interested in certain things that we're interested in are not dress in ways that we actually wanted to address are just kinda like dimmed ourselves down a little bit. But now we're reclaiming ourselves. We're really stepping into who we truly are and we need to accept and love who we really are. Because if we're just pretending to be someone that we're not really loving ourselves. That's not really true, unconditional self-love. And actually you'll find that there's so much freedom in being u because the more that you learn about yourself and the more that you just like allow yourself to be who you really are, it feels really natural, it feels really good, and it really does allow you to, allow you to love yourself. So it's extremely freeing. It's a really great experience to start to own those parts of ourselves that maybe we put off to the side before. So here's a quick little exercise also available in the PDF. Make a list of 25 things that make you unique or that you like. So this is just, we're just discovering who we really are and it doesn't have to be anything groundbreaking, okay. It can just be like my favorite color is blue. I'm from Toronto or stuff like that or maybe stuff that's a little more weird. Like I'm into like some specific hobby or something like that, but we're just discovering or getting to know ourselves, right? Like let's really gets to know ourselves and begin to honor who we really are. And so when you have your list of 25 things, you can read it back to yourself and say something positive. I'm owning who I am. I love the unique person that I am, ok, and we're beginning to make that true for ourselves. We're beginning to own who we really are. And so keep adding to your list as you learn more about yourself, you know, keep it in a journal or on your computer. And then as you start to learn more things about yourself, you start to own more preferences, more you things that make you unique. You can add them to your list and you start to learn more and more about yourself. And so you just start to step more into, more into that self-love for the real special, unique person that you are. And you tell yourself you're good enough as you are. 7. Using Affirmations: Hi and welcome to class six, affirmations. So what are affirmations? Affirmations are positive statements, so we're making ourselves. So if you remember when we talked about, in the first lesson, we talked about self-talk affirmations are those positive thoughts that we're using to replace the negative ones. So we're making statements that we either want to be true or were starting to believe to be true. We're learning to make the way we talk to ourselves, the way we speak about our world more positive. And they help us change our self talk and increase our self love. So when you start saying an affirmation, it may or may not feel super true for you, but as you start to practice it, it starts to get stuck in your head and that's a good thing because over time, your thoughts begin to change. You begin to believe them, and then they start to become to feel true for you. And then you're able to get to that place where you really do feel self-love for yourself. And so yeah, like I said, with repetition, it becomes a new way of thinking. And the most important thing when doing affirmations is not the words that you use, but it's how you feel. So we don't want the focus to me so much on the words, although I am going to give you some examples and some tips to use when you're making affirmations. But the important thing to focus on is not the words. It's how you feel. So when you say an affirmation or you're thinking of choosing a new affirmation. I want you to pay attention to how you feel and what you want to feel. To feel good is to feel comforted and loved and excited maybe or just like really like it makes you feel like just good inside. You know, it's, it's hard to put into words, but if it makes you feel good and as you say different affirmations, you'll see which ones kind of really click with you And those are the ones that you need to practice right now. Those are the ones that you need to hear. And so one important thing when using affirmations and creating affirmations is that we always want them to be in the present tense. So we want to say things like, I love myself, not, I will love myself or my life is wonderful. I'm a wonderful person. Not I will have wonderful life. I will be a wonderful person because when we're saying I will or I want to or I'm going to we're putting it off to the future. When we're putting it off to the future like that we're seeing right now. We're not good enough for right now. We don't have that and we don't want to use affirmations that way we want to use them in the present tense. We're saying we're stepping into this new reality. We're stepping into this new existence where we do love ourselves, where we do have that self-compassion. So how do we use affirmations? I would suggest that you want to pick one or two at a time to practice. You don't want to overwhelm yourself with too many affirmations. And the good thing about doing this is picking one or two at a time to be your affirmations of the week or the month or whatever, that allows you the chance to memorize them to get them really stuck in your head and they really start to become a part of your thinking. And the most important thing with affirmations besides how they make you feel and using them in the present tense is to repeat them often. So, like I said before, we have a lot of negative thoughts. Usually most people have a lot of negative. Thoughts and that's a habitual way of thinking. And so if we want to change to a positive way of thinking, we want to change to self-love. We need to repeat our new thoughts. Often. We need to repeat them maybe more often than the negative ones, if we can, or at least as often, right? To kind of give them a chance to take hold or else they're just going to be drowned out by all those negative thoughts. Some ideas for how you can practice your affirmations often Are you can put them on post-its. So write out your affirmation on a post-it and stick it around your house, you know, stick it on your car, stick it on your fridge, stick it on your mirror, whatever, just stick it all of your house and then you're constantly reminded of it. And you can also write on your mirror with a dry erase pen, Not a Sharpie, right? But right. With a dry erase span on your on your mirror so that every time you look into the mirror, you're seeing a positive affirmation. I love myself, I'm doing great. Today is a great day. You can also set reminders on your phone. So use the reminder app if you have an iPhone or on another type of phone, use the reminder app to set reminders to go off like let's say three times a day with your affirmation and then you see it pop-up. And then when you see a pop-up, you say, Okay, I'm gonna say my affirmation, I am lovable, I'm good enough as I am. And that's a good way to remind yourself, right? And then another thing that people like to do with affirmations is to write them out in the morning or at night and their journal. So you could maybe pick ten times. It would be a good amount to write out your affirmations and every morning take five minutes to write out your affirmations of the week ten times or at night if you prefer or both, both would be even better, right? And again, we're just using that repetition to really get it stuck into our mind. And my favorite way of using affirmations personally is to make a voice recording. So I've learned that I'm someone who learns very through very auditory ways. And so I love to just make a voice recording of my affirmations and then I can play that to myself throughout the day, can play it when I'm driving. I can play it in the morning when I wake up and I just listened to my affirmations. And that helps them really sink into my mind and get used to them. And also there are lots of people who've made audio recordings that are affirmations that I also listened to and you can find them all over the internet of pre-recorded affirmations set to music. You just wanna make sure, make sure you give the affirmations and listened to, make sure that they're good affirmations, right? That they're ones that you want to be using, but, but that's also an option for you. So all of these are great ways and like we said, we just want the affirmations to be in front of us. We want them to be at the top of our mind. And so you want to have some way to remind yourself of them other than just like, oh, this is my affirmation. How are you gonna remind yourself? Because it's super easy as we go throughout the day to get distracted by our daily lives. And then we get to the end of the day and realize we didn't say our affirmations that all right. So we don't want to just say them once a day. We wanna be reminding them, reminding ourselves of them throughout the day. So pick one or two of these ways that feels good to you and that's a great way to integrate your new affirmations into your life. So you may be saying, well, what are some good affirmations for me to use? You can always, always write your own, okay, so that's honestly sometimes that's the best way to do it because you know yourself what you need to hear the most. But that can often be hard if you're new to this. So here are some affirmations You can use. Pick whichever ones sound good to you, or just change them up a little bit until they sound really good too. And again, we're going for that feeling. We want them to feel good. So a classic one, I love and approve of myself. I accept myself exactly as I am. I am loving myself more and more every day. I forgive myself and I send myself only love. It's great to do after you do a forgiveness exercise, it's getting easier and easier to love myself. And I loved the unique person i am. So these are just some sample affirmations. And as I was reading those, like, did you notice any of them feel felt really good to you or you're like, yeah, I would really like that one to be true for me. I would really love to believe that that is a great affirmation to start using because that kinda shows that's what you need to be practicing. So take any of these affirmations, use them as you like, create your own and just start reminding yourself of them throughout the day. 8. Daily Self Love Habits: Hi and welcome to class seven, daily self-love habits. So it's important to have daily self-love habits and important to stay conscious of our self-love throughout the day. So I like to often say, self-love is a journey, not a destination. You probably heard that quote, Happiness is a journey not a destination. Well, it's true of self-love to some, we're not gonna get to this place where we are totally like self loving and we're good for life. Okay. I hate to break it to you, but that's not how it works. Ok? Instead, it's a practice that we cultivate and we consciously practice every day of our lives. Now before you start to get stressed out, it gets easier and easier. So now for me, self-love is a habit and it's just something I do like it's like brushing your teeth, right? That's not something you have to stress about or worried about. It's just something you do. And so for me, self-love is a habit, it's something I do. And so in the beginning when you're forming a new habit, it can take a lot of effort. It can feel a little hard because you're changing and change can feel a little difficult or a little unusual. But if you keep at it and you keep up these habits and these new practices, it's going to get easier and easier with time, I promise you. And Lun De, you'll realize that you're already practicing these self-love habits and you're just like are naturally in this new rhythm and that is really cool. So it's not a place to get to, but it's a new way of being. It's a new way of interacting with ourselves and it's a new way of loving ourselves and it's a new way of living our lives. But please be gentle and have patience with yourself, okay, so there's no point in berating ourselves throughout this process. There's no point in saying that we're doing a bad job or we should better already, right, that's defeating the entire thing we're trying to do here. So please, please be gentle and have patience with yourself as you begin the steps to change. It takes time. I didn't change from being super negative and self hating to solve loving overnight. It took process of time and practice and trying and falling and getting up and getting back up again. And so have patients as you go throughout this process. You didn't form the negative patterns over night, right? You didn't form these negative thoughts about yourself overnight. And so it's unrealistic to expect them to change overnight either. That's not to say that you can't change them. You absolutely can, but just don't expect it all to change right away. And if you do notice that there's still a lot of negative thoughts coming up for you. That's okay. It's part of the process. You're still doing great. You're still on the journey. And self-love builds over time. It's like building your know, your building the foundation, and then you build the first floor and the second floor of your building. This beautiful houses, beautiful plans of self-love, whatever you wanna call it. And it just builds on itself over time. So each step you are taking to be more self loving, each time you replacing a negative thought with a positive thought, you're slowly building that building of self-love and you are doing great and all built upon itself, okay. Here are some of my favorite ways to incorporate self-love into your daily habits. A great time to practice self-love is your first thought in the morning. So are you conscious of what you say to yourself when you wake up in the morning? Is it something negative or is it something positive? And can you possibly replace it with something positive? And this is like super simple. So as soon as you wake up and you're conscious of your thinking, sometimes, you know, you're thinking you don't realize you're thinking until you are conscious of it. Okay, so when you're conscious of your thinking, you would say something positive like, I love myself and today is a great day. So there you go. I love myself. Today is a great day. I'm good enough as I am. All is well, I am safe. Those are some of my favorite affirmations. And so that is a great way to get your, your day going on a positive note because you're going to your day is going to unfold depending on how you start it. And again, going with them warning it's a great time to have a solid morning routine. I love morning routines. I'm not going to cover how to create a morning routine in this course, but there are lots of other courses on that topic. But you can journal, you can meditate or you can listen to affirmations in the morning or do all three. Or some people like to dance or some people like to go for a walk or anything that in the morning and do something that is helping you incorporate that self-love. So if you're going for a walk, let's say, let's say positive self loving thoughts ourselves as we're walking, which actually I do quite often, it's quite fun to do. You say I'm good enough today's and create. Say, I am doing so great. I'm loving myself more and more every day. And you say this to yourself or whatever your affirmation of the week is, as you're journaling, you're meditating or you're listening to your affirmations and that will just help. Again, it will help your day start on a positive note. And another great Daily Practice for self-love is whenever you pass by a mirror, whenever you look into a mirror, say something kind to yourself. First. So oftentimes when we look into mirrors, I think especially for women, but of course men can have this as well. When we look into a mirror where often the first thing we do is we start picking out all of the things that are wrong with us. My hair doesn't look right, my makeups not right. I don't I haven't SSID or whatever, you know, like we start saying all these negative things to ourselves. And so instead, let's change that. And let's, everytime we look into mere habit, the first thing you say to yourself, be something positive. So I personally, when I look into a mirror, I like to smile at myself, which I know is a little cheesy but no. See you doing it right. I mean, if other people around maybe don't do it, but when you look into a mirror, smile and just say something nice, like I love myself, you're great. You're doing a great job. I love you, you know, and you can talk to yourself in the mirror. It's actually something called mirror work, which my favorite author Louise Hay, that I mentioned earlier, she was big on. But yeah, you just want to say something positive to yourself when you look into a mirror first, instead of immediately criticizing yourself. And when things go wrong, encourage yourself instead of criticizing yourself. So no one's perfect, right? We covered that earlier. You're gonna make mistakes. Things are not going to go the way you plan. You might embarrass yourself every now and then. But instead of immediately going to, oh my gosh, I'm so stupid, I can't believe I did that. I'll never I'm a failure. I'll never do anything right? Instead of going there, we encourage ourselves. We say, you know, it's okay to make mistakes. I love you anyways, you're doing great. This is gonna turn out fine. And you know, it's fine to make mistakes like going back to like the inner child. So we're putting this all together, right? When a child makes a mistake, you don't, hopefully, you don't criticize them. Instead you encourage them, right? When a child is learning to walk and they fall down, you don't say, oh, you're so stupid, you're never going to learn how to walk. And you say it's okay, you can get back and it again and try again, you're doing great. And so we still need to talk to ourselves that way. We still need to hear those encouraging words as UDL and actually people think that criticizing is going to change themselves, but actually encouraging yourself is going to change you way more than criticizing ever, ever well, okay, so when you create that sort of like safe, happy place in self loving place in your mind, then you are able to change into an even better version of yourself instead of getting so down on yourself. And that just doesn't make you want to change, that doesn't make you want to make your life better because you feel so bad. So when things go wrong throughout your day, encourage yourself instead of criticizing yourself, tell yourself you're doing good in it's fine to make mistakes and that you love yourself anyway. And then the last thing is you can also forgive yourself at the end of the day. So when you're laying in bed at night, you're getting ready to go to sleep. Just take a little bit of time to forgive yourself for anything that maybe didn't go the way you plan throughout the day. Maybe anything that you felt like was a mistake during the day. You just kinda send yourself some love, forgive yourself. You can do the little forgiveness words that I taught you. Thank you. I love you. I forgive you. I set you free And we're just setting that day free. That allows us to go into sleep with nice self-love bots and start over fresh in the morning. We're not carrying over any like negative thoughts from the day before were just forgiving ourselves for not being perfect and we're loving ourselves anyways, that's the theme of this course really, is just love yourself anyway. You don't have to be perfect, just love yourself anyway and always encourage yourself and do the best you can. So, and these are just some ideas of how you can practice self-love. Maybe you want to find your own daily habits, but we do want to as much as we can incorporate self-love into our daily routines. So it's not just something we're doing in the morning or at night, but it's a new way of living. It's a new way of relating to ourselves and a more positive way. 9. Additional Resources: Hi and welcome to class eight resources. So these are some of my favorite books that can help you on yourself, love journey. The first is Louise Hay, who I've already mentioned several times. And she wrote the book, you can heal your life, which is one of my favorite books. And I would say the book that has helped me the most on myself love journey. And so I really recommend giving you can heal your life or read or listened to the audio book. It's a really incredible book for learning how to love yourself and learning how to create the life of your dreams. Another book I really loved that will help you with self-love is radical acceptance by Tara branch. This book covers a lot of Buddhist principles. She really talks about her own experiences going through kind of like how I went through a lot of self-hatred and then moving into a lot of self-love and how she got there. So definitely recommend that book. Third book is the gifts of imperfection by Bernie Brown. You might have heard of Bernie Brown. She definitely is big in self love. You can listen to, talks by her. I think she has a podcast, but this is a really great book in this one deals a lot with shame and how to release shame. So a lot of us feel a lot of shame for in our past for what happened to us. So this book will help you deal with that. And the last book is Women, Food and God by Janine roth. So this one, you know, the title may throw you off a little bit, but it actually does talk a lot about self-love. And especially for those of us who might have had some issues with food in the past. This is a great book. If you've had like maybe some eating disorder behavior or with a lot of people have dealt with. But even if you haven't, I really do recommend this book for women because it will just help you understand why we feel not good enough and how to move forward with ourselves. And some other resources for you. I love to listen to positive self loving music. So Karen Drucker is a great artist you can listen to. She has a lot of really positive, encouraging, self loving songs. And then there are also some great YouTubers whose videos you can watch, who will help you on your self-love journey? I'm Katie Morton is a therapist who makes YouTube videos and she makes mental health YouTube videos and you can watch her videos to learn more about self-love, learn more about healing, trauma and stuff like that. And I forgot to mention, but all of these resources will be listed in the PDF. I will include links to these YouTube channels. So don't worry about writing everything down. I'll have them listed in the PDF so that you can go and use these resources to further yourself left journey. I also recommend Yoga with Adrian, and she has a lot of really like compassionate, self-compassionate, self loving yoga videos. And I find that yoga is a really great way to connect with self-love through our bodies as well. So not just like mentally, but using our bodies to connect with self-love. And then therapy is a great resource for developing self-love through working through some of those traumatic experiences we might have had. There's many different types of therapy I've done DBT, which is dialectical behavioral therapy, CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy. There's many different types of therapy and you just have to find a therapist and a therapy style that works for you. But it really is agree, a great way to make some really positive changes in your life, especially in the area of self-love. So I'm giving you all these resources just because I want you to know like your journey doesn't end here you're during the journey doesn't end with this course. There's, it's going to be a lifelong journey. Like I said, it will get easier over time. But check out some of these other resources. Read some of these books, watch some of these YouTube videos, and really start to learn more about yourself and how you can love yourself more. And I am supporting you on that journey. There's so many wonderful resources out there for you. 10. Putting It All Together : Okay, welcome to the final class of this course and putting it all together. So great job, first of all, for making it through this course. You have started yourself love journey. You're starting to change. You're starting to find new ways to relate to yourself. This is a beautiful started to your journey and I'm really proud of you for making it through. I really am. And yeah, it's a wonderful start to your journey. Take your time and go through the exercises that I listed in this course. I think they're all going to help you, but especially the forgiveness exercise, I cannot emphasize enough the importance of forgiveness. So if you're not gonna do any of the other exercises, I really do recommend doing the forgiveness one, but of course I recommend all of them if you're really dedicated to yourself, love journey, and of course, feel free to go back through the lessons at anytime, anytime you need a reminder of these things. Oftentimes we need reminders of what we're learning, what the new concepts we're integrating into our lives are. So go through this course at any time and go through the exercises anytime that you feel like they're going to help you. And also, you know, as you're going through the exercises and maybe you're gonna go back through this course or you're moving on to other ways of practicing self-love. Maybe you're going to explore some of those resources I shared with you, journal and explore all of the things you are learning about yourself. Explore what self-love means to you. What you're forgiving from your past. How, what are you new affirmations? How is this process feeling to you or talk to a friend, someone that you can trust to talk to you about how you're changing and growing and all of these wonderful things. And that will just help you support you on your journey. But just remember at the end of the day, if you take nothing else from this course and remember to encourage and speak positively to yourself. We all need to be encouraged and supported. And the beautiful thing is, the more that you can learn to love yourself unconditionally, the more you will learn to love other people unconditionally as well. So it doesn't just benefit you, add benefits everyone in your life and everyone you come into contact with. And we truly are creating a better world for everybody when we learn to accept ourselves, because we are often the hardest people for us to accept. So when we can learn to accept ourselves, we can accept anyone. And so just always encourage yourself, don't criticize yourself, encourage yourself, speak positively to yourself. You are worth it and I am sending you so much love and support. Thank you so much for joining me for this class. I hope that you enjoyed it. If you'd like to learn more from me or connect with me further, I am on YouTube at Denise Rosanna. You can find me on Instagram at Denise Suzanne and also be sure to follow my skill share paid here for future courses that I'll make in the future. Thank you so much for joining me for this course and wish you so much love on yourself, love journey. You're doing great and I love you.