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Self Confrontation; Treated Unfairly; Changing Plans All the Time #2/2021

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6 Lessons (49m)
    • 1. Introduction

      2:56
    • 2. 1. Being Confronted by Your Own Work - Part 1

      8:04
    • 3. 2. Being Confronted by Your Own Work - Part 2

      9:12
    • 4. 3. Angry! Being Treated Unfairly

      11:36
    • 5. 4. Changing Your Plan All The Time - Part 1

      7:26
    • 6. 5. Changing Your Plan All The Time - Part 2

      9:52
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Welcome to my second class for 2021!

In this month's videos I'm going to talk about three different topics:

  • Being Confronted by Your Own Work
  • Angry! Being Treated Unfairly
  • Changing Your Plan All The Time

In each video I'm going to discuss relevant things experienced personally and through conversations with people close to me as well as clients of mine. I will share my personal thoughts on each subject and what I truly believe and apply myself in order to improve and move always forward.

If you enjoy the videos, don't forget to check my other videos as well. There are many different topics on which I've talked about and so if something catches your interest, feel free to check it out.

I hope you'll enjoy! See you soon!

Meet Your Teacher

My name is Dimitar Dimitrov and I'm a musician a mind coach and entrepreneur. I'm extremely passionate and interested in self development and awareness and I believe that all of us are capable of living fulfilled, happy and successful lives as long as we're willing be honest with ourselves and put in the time, effort and energy it takes to develop and grow to our fullest potential.

 In these videos I've decided to share with you my life journey, experiences and lessons I learn. I would like to create a community where we help and support each other and push each other to go further every single day.

 I'm open to questions from everyone and I believe that interaction is what's going to make these videos even more useful and beneficial to me, you and everyone else ... See full profile

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1. Introduction: Welcome everyone to my videos for this month of February 2021. During this year, I've decided that I'm going to upload them skew share every month instead of every week, like I did the previous year, I'm going to collect all the interesting topics I talk about with my clients, all the interesting things I discover and realize myself, put them together and upload them at the end of each month, My name is limited, the metro fan. I'm a professional pianists, performer and a teacher, as well as live in mind coach. And for some time already I've been making videos here on Skillshare about things that happened to me, things I realize, and things I talk about them discuss with my clients. In this month's videos, I'm going to talk about three different subjects. The first subject is going to be being confronted by your own work. What does that mean? All of you, all of us who want to create something, who wants to start something from the ground up? Who want to be successful at something have to be consistent in order for us to achieve anything. It doesn't matter what that is. We have to be consistent and we have to practice and do whatever we choose to every single day for a long period of time. Once you start doing that, once you start doing something on regular basis, you'll experience self confrontation. You start experiencing doubts, you start experiencing hesitations. You question yourself a lot. And so I thought it would be wonderful to talk on the subject. In second video, I'm going to talk to you about anger. The moment when you get truly angry, truly frustrated because of something that happens to you. And you really believe that what happens to you is unfair. It's really not nice. In the video, I'm going to share with you a personal experience, something that happened to me. And I'm going to share with you my thoughts on that subject. I'm going to talk about things that I believe you should do and you should think about when you have a similar situation. And in the third and final video, I'm going to talk to you about changing your plan of action all the time. All of us want to accomplish something and get desired results with whatever it is we do, we need to have some kind of plant. So that's one of the problems. We usually don't have a plan of action, but once we decide to create a plan of action, we start changing it all the time. And so when you do that, when you switch your systems, the way you function all the time, get confused. And at the end you end up having no results. And it's basically the same as having no plan of action arrow. And I'm going to elaborate a little bit more on that subject. If while watching the videos you happen to have any kind of questions, write them down. Anything that's important to you, anything that I haven't mentioned but truly matters to you and you want to figure it out. Feel free to get in contact with me. I recorded these videos for you with great pleasure and I truly hope that you enjoy them. Thank you for being here and I hope to see you very soon in the first video. 2. 1. Being Confronted by Your Own Work - Part 1: Being confronted by your own work. There are two things to very big and powerful things, to very powerful issues that make people give up, that make people give up pursuing their dreams, their goals, their ideas, pursuing things they're passionate about. One of those two things is results. The lack of any results. When we don't have any, very often we give up because of that or the not enoughness of results. We don't think it's enough or the complete obsession with results that it's never enough and that we always want more and we forget what's important. That's one of the issues and it's quite a powerful one that makes people give up. The second is what I'm going to talk about today. That is self confrontation. Being confronted by the thing you do, you do something, but you can stop criticizing yourself about it. It's not good enough. You're not fast enough, you're not talented enough. You look at what you do and you can stop criticizing yourself to the point where you give up. I experienced self confrontation on day-to-day basis. If I think about it, it will be very difficult to find days that I don't experience self confrontation or self-criticism. It's something that I realize is part of my life and he's going to be part of my life as long as I want to grow and develop. Not only that, but I see that self confrontation is a real factor. It's actually an enormous obstacle that determines very often if you're going to make it or not. If you are going to be successful at what you do or not, be successful at what you do. And that's why I wanted to talk to you in this video a little bit about it. I've started and given up on a lot of things. Very often starting giving up, starting giving up because of self confrontation. It kept me from pursuing goals and dreams I had for quite some time. Because you can imagine that when you start doing something and then you give up on that something and then you start again, and then you give up again at some point, you're never going to accomplish anything starting and stopping all the time isn't the formula to success? Consistency is you have to be consistent with what you do. You have to be consistent for quite a long period of time before you truly see desired results. And so self confrontation was part of my life and up to this day, like I said, is still part of my life and I'm constantly looking for ways to build it. I very often realize how confronting and how difficult it can be to do something that you are the initiator of. What I mean by that is you're the person who decides you're going to do something. You care about that something a lot. Maybe no one around you cares or no one around this interested in what you do. But you are, you may have a normal job that you earn your money from. And this is something that you don't even depend financially own, but you want to do it because you're passionate about it and so you initiate it. You are the driving force behind what you want to do. It's something that you want to develop. It's something that you want to grow. It's something that you want to express yourself through. I always find it very difficult to give examples because you are the one who knows best what you're interested in. But for the sake of some clarity, we can say you want to be a creator, right? We're talking about expressing yourself. We can simply imagine that you want to create beautiful furniture and you decide that you want to do that more seriously because you're so passionate about it. And not only that, but perhaps after you're being serious for some time. You want to grow that into a business. You want to express yourself through making furniture. It can also be that you simply want to learn a new skill. Maybe here on Skillshare, maybe somewhere else. Maybe you have a coach, you want to become good at something. Or we can go as far as just a hobby, because when we hear the word hobby, it sounds like something light. But to me, even my hobbies, I want to be good at them. And so again, all those things when you combine them together, it doesn't matter if it's a hobby, a new skew that you want to take series or even your own business. You want to create something and you want to grow that something into a business. It's all about you initiating something and trying to accomplish something, trying to get better at something, the self confrontation is going to be there. It's inevitable, true? Self confrontation and Self-criticism. Self judgment appears once you start being consistent. Once you start doing things on day-to-day basis or you do things every other day or a couple of times a week, the more consistent you are, the stronger the self confrontation and the self-criticism is going to be when you do things on irregular basis, very sporadic whenever you are inspired, whenever you feel like, then you're never going to experience that severe self confrontation Just because you do things from time to time, nothing builds up really. And so it all feels easy and random. And even if you happen to experience a little bit of self-criticism is going to be very mild. It's not going to disturb it because when you stop doing that, something that you're passionate about or inspired to do, you're going to quit after that and for some time you're not going to do it. And then again, when you're inspired, you're going to pick it up again. And when you combine that powerful inspiration that they width doing it, It all seems to be going smoothly. But once you decide to up your game and start doing what you're doing on consistent basis, let alone decide to accomplish something. Then the self-criticism and self confrontation kicks in immediately. The harder you work, the more you work, the more you want to accomplish, the bigger the feelings and emotions of self-criticism, myself, confrontation are going to be. To me, this is really fascinating because when you do things on random basis, like I said, from time to time, whenever you are inspired, you probably recognize this when you're inspired and you just decide to do something for the fun of it, just because you love it and you're inspired. You very often even think, wow, I'm actually quite good at this. You know, it feels that it comes easy to me and I might have a knack for it. It can be a very pleasant experience to do something this way. And I'm amazed every time how pleasant and inspiring it feels. But once you flip the coin to the other side and decide that same subject, that same thing that you do for fun, to do it more seriously, everything changes suddenly. All the inspiration and thoughts of, Wow, I might be good at this, are replaced by seeing your flaws. Because you do something over and over again. You start seeing a lot of little things that you are not so happy about. You start seeing mistakes you make. You start observing your progress. You start analyzing your progress. Are we progressing fast enough, our US fastest that are a person. Am I moving in the right direction from thinking, Wow, I'm good at this. You start actually asking yourself questions like MIT, actually good in this. Do I actually have a talent in this? You know, I thought I had to tell him, but now that I do it, I'm not so sure anymore about this. I even personally had moments from thinking that I'm good at something and maybe I have talent for it to, I absolutely suck. It's like too literally opposite worlds when it do something random, whenever you inspire and when you do something on more serious basis, I'm sure that all of you who are watching this will recognize what I'm talking about. And this is something very heavy. That's why in the very beginning of this video, I mentioned to you that this is one of the two issues that makes people very often gave up together with results. It's very difficult and it's very heavy. Experiencing self confrontation, sometimes, let alone experiencing it on day-to-day basis. Because like I said, when you want to do something and you want to accomplish and get good results, you have to be consistent and work a lot. And then self-criticism myself, confrontation becomes a very heavy burden to carry on. 3. 2. Being Confronted by Your Own Work - Part 2: And how do we better self computation, self-criticism, feelings of I'm not good enough. I'm seeing all the wrong things I do in my work. How do we better it? How do we find it so we don't give up and few, sorry, afterwards, there are many different things we can do. And I was thinking what to offer to you in this video. And I thought the first that came to my mind, and I very often talk to our people about this. Know that you are not alone in this. I think this is very helpful because it was helpful to me when I experienced these feelings, these thoughts, these motions of Self-criticism, self judgment, I truly feel that I'm alone in this, but I know that I'm not remind yourself whenever you feel down and whenever you are on the brink of giving up on what you do, remember that you are not alone in this. I can promise you, every single person who is striving to accomplish something by themselves, who is trying to accomplish something that matters to him or her, is experiencing feelings, emotions, thoughts of self-criticism, and self judgment. It's inevitable you are not alone in this. So whenever you feel bad, remember that for me. It has already helped me to remind myself that I'm not alone because it is a lonely feeling. You're working on something and you're seeing old things you want to improve. It can be very lonely and very upsetting, but you are not alone. And when you remind yourself that you are not alone in this, the next thing you can do is talk to other people who are trying to accomplish something similar to what you are doing. And by similar, I don't mean that they're working on the same subject by similar, I mean, other people who initiate doing something by themselves, doing something of their own, These type of people are going to understand you because they're experiencing the same. Nobody tells them. Finish this in this no, they themselves decide that they're going to pursue something and so they're going to become prompted very often by what they do. And so when you talk to them, they will understand you and you can support and help each other. The most important here is first for the conversation will make you feel better. And the second thing is you will feel that you belong somewhere. You will feel that you belong to a group of people that are doing something similar. A feeling of belonging is very important because whenever you get the thoughts that you will not good, that you're not talented, that you are not suppose to make it because you just suck. It's not true. Our people feel the same. And so make sure that you reach out to those people so you can experience a sense of belonging, of being together in this. Next, you have to make a decision. Are you going to push through this or not? Are you going to pursue it? Are you going to battle this? Are you going to fight this and go after what you want or not? Or are you going to give up? That's a very important decision to make. Why is it a very important decision and why is it an inevitable decision? Because there is no other option, you are all going to push through and you're going to find a way around this through this. Or you're going to give up and you're not going to accomplish anything. Remember, every single person who has accomplished something in a specific area, they had to push through those exact difficulties. Sometimes getting depressed, sometimes hating what they do, even though you may think what they're already amazing, they have so much skewed. They do this with so much ease. It seems that it comes so easy to them. They're so talented, they're so gifted. That seems that way. But it's a result of a lot of work and a lot of resolve to push every day through the feelings of I hate the way I'm doing this, but I'm doing it again because there is no other option. If I stop, I'm not going to get anywhere. So remember, make the decision. Every successful person had to make the decision consciously or subconsciously. They decide, I'm going through this and I'm going to battle this. I'm not going to allow this to stop me and maybe convinced that I absolutely suck at what I do. But I'm going to pursue it because it matters to me. And the last tip I thought I'd give you is fine, your optimum work time and built very carefully. This is something very, very important because each one of us has an optimum. It depends on different factors. For example, are you a beginner? Are you just starting or REO already intermediate in what you do or are you even advanced? Depends what your skills are, depends on what you can handle, et cetera. I will give you an example with myself very often when I'm inspired to start something new and I remember in the past it was the same way. I often start with a work time of 15 minutes, only a day. You can imagine that this is very few, but any more than that felt extremely uncomfortable and I couldn't deal with the self-criticism and self judgment. Many people here make a big mistake. They think that if they start very few, they're not going to accomplish anything. But my question is then, if you start with a lot and you can't handle it and you give up, what are you going to accomplish? Relax. The 15 minutes is just a starting point once you stick to an optimum work time of 15 minutes, for example, after some time, you will be automatically ready for more and you will go to 30 minutes, 45 minutes, one hour, an even more. Don't make the mistake because you are inspired and because you are pumped to start with too much. Because like we talked to you now in this video, self judgment and self confrontation, self-criticism are going to come your way, starting with too much too soon can suddenly hit you and overwhelm you. And in no time you will be exhausted from all these negative emotions and feelings you're experiencing. So be aware before it's too late. You know the advantage of starting with an optimum work time like a cold it is, imagine that it's 15 minutes because you will know about it and because you work on a 15 minutes, you notice how much self-criticism and self judgment comes your way. And if you feel that you are already criticizing a little bit yourself, when you do every day, 15 minutes, you will know that that's a good amount of time. And you know very well that if you increase, also the self-criticism and the self judgment is going to increase. But after some time working like this, you will feel that after 15 minutes, nothing negative happens, that you feel quite well, quite stable. And then it's time to say to yourself, I increase with 15 more minutes and then it becomes a half an hour and half an hour. You can do it once or divided in two separate chunks during the day. That's up to you. The most important here is awareness. You want to be aware of how you feel while you're working and after you're finished working. This is basically what I wanted to share with you in today's video. And these are the tips I thought would be very useful. There can be many more things we can talk about. And I think on this topic we can talk endlessly about. I'm going to do that in the future. I'm going to make more videos about this, but not to make the video too long, our ended here. So you can practice those tips. Let's go over these tips once again. So if you haven't written them down, you can do so. You're not alone in this and you can talk to other people who are pursuing goals similar to yours. Make a decision. Are you going to fight this or not? That's very important. Are you in, Harare out? And third, find your optimum. Look for what's best for you, what works best for you right now and build carefully and gradually, if you have more questions concerning this subject or any other subject, you can let me know. Don't forget that you can also participate in the project section below. If you have trouble, for example, finding your optimum amount of time or still having trouble dealing with Self-criticism, self confrontation, just participate in the project section below, so I can help you further. For example, you can write down your problem. How are you exactly confronted by what you do? What's your plan? What steps are you taking in order to battle this and overcome it? And then together with that, you can put down your question as well. We can solve the puzzle if you like this video and enjoy it. I'd appreciate it greatly. If you leave a review in this way, you will be helping me grow here on Skillshare and reach many more people, which is my goal. If you're on Skillshare to let you know when I'm ready width, and running a new video, all you have to do is go to my profile page and click on the Follow button. In this way, you are following me and every time I upload a new video, you will know about it anyway, this was all for this video. I thank you for being here, watching this video for me. As always, it was a great pleasure recording this video for you. And I'm looking forward to seeing you next time. 4. 3. Angry! Being Treated Unfairly: Anger is a very powerful emotion, a very powerful feeling. And if you let anger stay for a long time inside you without taking care of it, without doing something about it. It's going to destroy your completely. It's going to damage you emotionally, physically. It's going to disrupt and damage everything you want to achieve and your judgment. That's one of the worst things that happen when you're really angry, your judgment gets distorted and you start taking all the wrong decisions. Don't allow anger to take the best of you. Don't let it brought inside you. Make sure that you do something about it and you resolve it. You can experience anger in many different ways, many different things, circumstances, situations, people can trigger you to become angry. But in this video, I want to talk to you about anger that's triggered by what we perceive as unfair treatment. Something that happens to us, and we truly believe that what happens is unfair and unjust. Whatever I experienced a situation where I feel that I'm being treated unfairly, unjustly, or I see other people being treated unfairly and unjustly, That's triggers in me an instantaneous anger. Very few things can trigger true frustration with me, but the feeling of being treated unfairly, the feeling that something is not fair makes me instantaneously angry. I'm not happy about that. I'm not proud of that, but that's what happens. We have different triggers and we should not allow, in any case for anger to live inside of us. If I don't control the strong negative feelings, the strong negative emotions when something happens, I feel that my mind starts to spin completely out of control. And now I'm going to share with you the story that actually made me want to make this video for you. This happened recently and I thought it would be a fantastic subject to talk to you about. What happened was exactly here on this platform, on Skillshare. I've worked on a video. I put a lot of effort. I made a very nice video which I was very proud of and extremely enthusiastic and excited to share with you. I uploaded the video, went to sleep and the next morning when I woke up, I simply had an email saying that my class, my video has been closed. It was just taken down after all the work I did. The video was simply offline. The first initial emotion, as you can imagine, what I felt was anger. I simply felt angry. I felt like why why is this happening? I put so much work into this. I put so much effort into the video. I did it with such a pleasure. And then my video is being taken down for no reason whatsoever. I immediately sent an email to the support team in Skillshare asking why have you taken by video down? And I got an answer that might video simply didn't adhere to skew shutters rules. My video didn't comply somehow would skew shares guidelines to my shock, what happened was behind me, there was my brand name which was visible during the video and that was the reason that my video was closed was taken down. The reasons for my frustration and anger were that first of all, I did not do that on purpose. There was no purpose in me putting my brand name behind me whatsoever. The sign was just there because I thought it makes the videos nicer you knowing my brand name. I had no intention of advertising my video because that was one of the rules that you should not advertise your brand name. And so that was the last thing on my mind to advertise on Skillshare. I would have wanted to advertise. I would have done it in many different ways. And so I had no intention of breaking any rules that never even crossed my mind because look at the videos I'm making. I'm not cursing, I'm not doing a Lego stuff. It's far from that. So you can imagine that I was absolutely baffled When I saw that the types of videos I make that one of them can be actually taken down due to breaking rules. And so I had to come down, take the video Bree edited again, cover my brand name because obviously it was breaking rules and re-upload it again so it can be open so you guys can watch it with this story. I want to tell you several different things. First of all, if you allow anger in these kind of similar cases or any other case, at some point, you're going to start doing all the wrong things. I could have started sending angry emails. I could have started being very rude in my e-mails. I could have gotten so angry as to take my video completely offline and never uploaded again. I could have even left skew share or make angry videos about Skillshare. And that's just a small example I'm giving you. There are many, many different cases in our lives when things happened, similar things happen. It can be with people, it can be with companies. It doesn't really matter that trigger our anger. And you want to avoid at all costs, letting that anger stew inside of you because you want to prevent yourself from doing wrong things. You don't want to regret your actions after that. You don't want to have consequences that you can't live with. Consequences that are going to make you a few. So sorry about what you've done, but that's why I started the video with don't let anger fester inside of you because you are going to destroy yourself and everything you want to build. So please, in similar situations, whenever you are angry about something, come down and don't do the wrong things, actions should never be taken out of anger. The second thing I wanted to tell you and actually ask you, was your anger justified in most of the cases when we get angry, frustrated, upset about something or someone, we feel that our anger is justified. And in most cases, in most cases, it is not. Think about this case. I gave you as an example, skillshare is a company that sells the rules Here. They can do whatever they please. They can do whatever they want. And it doesn't matter if I like it, it doesn't matter if you like it or not. We have to obey the rules because that's their company, that's their policy. So was my anger justified? Did they have the right to be angry? Not really. It was my own problem that I had to deal with. And since I loved that dealing with problems. Finding ways to improve and develop. Those are the types of videos I make. I thought I had to deal with my problem, myself and handle my attitude. And so ask yourself, are you being fair when you're angry at someone or something? Because justifying your anger when things do not depend on u is an absolute waste of time and energy. You're wasting time, very precious time that you can spend working on yourself and improving, talking about Justified Anger. That leads me to another point I wanted to tell you very often, our anger, our frustration in these kind of cases comes easily and it's fused, really justified because we are working very hard, because we're going after goals and dreams, because we're trying to accomplish things. We are a bit agitated, working too hard, sometimes spending every precious minute trying to accomplish something. And in these moments of busy activity, when something happens, something that we think in that moment is unfair. It feels like something is on our way. Something is stopping us from continuing the way we want to continue. There's nothing worse in this world and you trying to accomplish something, working so hard for something, and then suddenly something happens that you truly think shouldn't be happening. But anger happens because we are not completely aligned, come and thinking clearly. So make sure that you first come down. In any case, don't take any rash decisions and relax worst, you are still going to accomplish everything you want, but there is different and better way. Then finally, last but definitely not least, I want to ask you, what's your goal? Is your goal to ruin or damage the company or a person who has cost to be angry, do you want to hurt them? Do you want to make them pay for it? You have to ask yourself, what's your true goal here in the example I gave you, my goal was to be on Skillshare, not to hurt Skillshare, to make skew share feels sorry for taking my video down. My goal is to be on Skillshare, share my knowledge, share my experience, share what I talk about with my clients and breaches many people as I possibly can. My goal is not to put Skillshare down and destroy it. You want to ask yourself, what's your purpose? What's your purpose for doing something? What's your goal? And most importantly, you want to get to where you want to be. There is nothing as important as that, no matter what happens on the way. And remember, accomplishing your goal is going to lead to you having much more freedom, much more choice, much more finances, impossibilities. That's one of the beautiful things about accomplishing your goals and dreams. You're going to have so much more freedom. You're not going to depend as much on people's circumstances in companies. And at some point you're going to be the one who has the final say, the person who can set their own rules and decide what's going to happen and how it is going to happen on your way, whatever your journey is, whenever you start from scratch, from 0, from nothing, you're going to have to go through people, companies, circumstances and situations that have their own rules, have their own ideas and your going to depend on them one way or another. That's inevitable. But you want to go through there. You don't want to get stuck and get distracted with all the wrong things that have nothing to do with your final goals and dreams. If something happens on your way that truly upset you, that truly puts you down and discourages you. Don't let that slow you down. You have something much more important in front of you. Remember the go ahead. Well, I hope I covered everything that was on my mind and even if I skipped something, I'm going to continue making videos in the future and share with you things that happened to me, things that happened to my clients, the things we talk about because I love making videos that way. If you have any questions, any comments, anything that's important to you about this video or anything else that's on your mind. Don't hesitate to get in contact with me, participate in the project sections of this video or any other video of mine, for example, an experience that you had that triggers your anger. What happened? How did you deal with it? What did you do exactly? Or perhaps an experience that you're having right now, something that made you angry, something that made it confused, that may be so upset that you don't know how to solve it and you need help with share anything that's important to you in the project section. And if you need help, don't hesitate to ask me if you like the video, I'd like to ask from you one thing, leave a feedback or a comment. In this way, you help me grow here on Skillshare and be able to reach many more people. And if you want to be informed and know whenever I upload a new video, all you have to do is go on My Profile and click the follow button. Just follow me here on Skillshare. And you'll be always informed whenever a new video is up and running. I'm extremely happy that you were here and watch this video for me preparing it and recording it for you was an enormous pleasure. Thank you again for watching and see you next time. 5. 4. Changing Your Plan All The Time - Part 1: Changing your plan all the time will confuse you and not lead to any clear results in order for you to achieve anything in your life. It doesn't matter what it is. It can be an idea, a dream, a thought. You had a skill you want to develop a job you want to get. All you need to have is a plan of action. And it doesn't matter what that plan is. It can be something very simple. It can be an incredibly simple, incredibly primitive plan of action, or it can be something really elaborate, something very complex, very detail. It's totally up to you. It has to fit you, it has to suit you. You have to feel comfortable with your plan of action. That's it. Let's say that you want to be a photographer, but you really dislike complicated things. You really always prefer something very simple. And so your plan of action can simply be every single day. I'm going to take photographs for the next six to 12 months. And that's it. That's where you start. You don't have to have anything more in your plan of action then this every single day taking photographs. Now on the other hand, you can be a person who prefers and can handle more complicated plans. And so you're going to decide, for example, that every single day you're going to take 20 photographs, 20 different photographs. And not only that, but you're going to also select a few photographs that you consider best. Out of these 20, you're going to edit them, each of the selected photos you're going to edit, collect them, put them in folders, organize them, and that's it. As you can see, the second plan of action is a little bit more complex, a little bit more detailed. We can go much further, of course, but I just wanted to illustrate for you that you can have something very simple and something a little bit more detailed. The important thing here is that you've determined a certain schedule for yourself every single time you decide to have a strategy, something specific to do, a specific plan of action, you're going to move towards somewhere. You are doing something specific and you're going somewhere specific. You are not wandering around, you're not doing random things. You're moving in a certain direction. And that's very important if you want to accomplish something specific, not only that, but you're doing something consistent. And consistency is the foundation of success. If there was a bible of success, I'm absolutely convinced that the opening word would be consistency. You're developing skills when you follow a plan of action in you're doing something on day-to-day basis. You're going to inevitably become better at what you do. Your imagination is going to start expanding. You're going to start seeing the photographs, the images you take in different ways. You're going to start getting new ideas. Perhaps you get the idea that you want to specialize in specific type of photos. And generally your appetite not only for success but for getting better, for working more for being consistent, for wanting to have a purpose in this life is going to increase your overall appetite for everything is simply going to grow. Having a system that you follow is going to help you in so many different ways that you can't possibly imagine. You're going to find this out only if you create that system and follow it. You're basically going outside and you're having a purpose, you're walking towards somewhere without having a clear strategy, without having some kind of a program that you follow. You're just wondering around. You're walking outside without purpose and well, that'll be absolutely fine if you go outside and walk in your leisure time, just wondering, strolling around, that's not going to be enough if you want to achieve something specific, achieving goals is something very different than walking in, exploring around. Otherwise, one day you are doing one thing, Another day you are doing something else. You're starting something, then you're stopping that something. Everything is just a mess. You don't want that nothing clear and nothing specific and come out of random actions. At a very simple example I just gave you with being a photographer and please feel free to imagine your own thing here. I just have to give some example with being a photographer. Imagine Monday you are very inspired and you take hundreds of photographs. But then because you're exhausted until Friday, you're forgetting completely about being of typographer. Friday you're inspired again and you decide that you're going to read some articles about photography. You do that the whole day and then again, you forget for a few days about being a photographer. What kind of a photographer are you going to become? You're not developing any skills. You're not doing anything on consistent basis in so your results aren't going to be there. And so that was the first thing I wanted to tell you. Make sure that you have some kind of plan of action and don't worry, it can be really, really simple. Many people who are worried that their plans are not good enough. A plan, any kind of plan is great because it's going to get you somewhere and it's so much better than having no plan at all. And then I want you to talk to you about changing your plants all the time. Let's say that you realize one way or another that you need to have certain strategy. Perhaps you realize that yourself by trial and error, you're trying different things and you see that it doesn't work and you decided that you have to have something more specific or a friend of yours told you, hey, have a plan of action and you see what great results you're going to get or you're watching this video and you're like, Okay, I'm going to try this. I've seen it with so many other people because I love observing and learning. I've seen it with myself and every single day I actually have to remind myself and be disciplined and be strong to follow my own plans of action because it's always very tempting to actually change them. But once you allow yourself to start changing your plan of action, to start changing your strategy, you can consider yourself having no plan at all because that's the same, changing things every few days doing one thing and then doing something else. And then after a few days doing something else, basically equals having no plan at all. You're still functioning at random and doing random things which is going to give you no clear feedback. You're never going to discover what works and what doesn't change. Never going to discover what you like and what you dislike. If we change all the time, you're never going to discover your own style, what your preferences are simply because you are not consistent with one and the same thing in order for you to get more answers in return. And so don't allow yourself to switch around all the time if you don't want to get really confused, the biggest and most obvious reason that pushes us to change our plans is ambition. While ambition is great, it is absolutely wonderful to have the hunger to achieve and succeeded something. If it gets out of control, it can make it do things that are not good for you. For example, one thing, results and success. While all of us want results and success, it gets out of control. And if you start obsessing over quick results and quick success, you are going to start doing random things. You're not going to be able to stick to your plan of action because he just want somehow to get a shortcut, wanting to get better at something is also part of being ambitious. You want to get better every single day. But when again, it gets out of control and you want to become better, quicker, you're also going to start looking for shortcuts. And so you will not be able to stay practical, stay clear in your mind and fully your strategy. And so watch out. Be aware, don't allow your ambition, your wish for results and success and getting better to get onto way and make it do things that will not serve you. 6. 5. Changing Your Plan All The Time - Part 2: Very often two different things happen. One is, like I said in the beginning of the video, you can have a very simple plan of action. The problem with a very simple plan of action is that we complicated to way too soon and way too quick. We start with something simple and easy, but we make it way too difficult, way too soon. The other scenario is the opposite. We are very ambitious and we decide to follow a plan of action that's very elaborate, very detailed. But what happens is very often we give up, we give up on this plan of action because we can't keep to. It is just too difficult for us to demanding too overwhelming and we give up or we start changing that complicated plan of action constantly because it is so difficult and because we don't want to give up on it, we start decreasing the amount of work, then increasing it again, waiting on doing some things, adding other things to our plan. So we're constantly changing it whenever keeping it the same, both scenarios are bad and are not going to give you any clear results. I'm not a fan of elaborate plans, not in the sense that I don't like to have a very complicated and detailed plan. Not at all. I'm not a fan of them if you start with them from the very beginning, because I find it a natural, the most simple and the most natural thing in the world is to build from down to up, from something very simple to something more complicated, not to start from top to bottom. And so usually what I see is that complicated in elaborate plans from the very beginning actually don't work. And that's why I don't like them because they usually don't work. They don't produce good results. If you can manage to keep to an elaborate plan for six months to a year without any unreasonable and not necessarily deviation. That's great. You have to keep to an elaborate plan. But for most people that doesn't work from the very beginning, they have to build from something very simple to something more complicated. Let me give you an example of an elaborate plan. Since I mentioned being a photographer. Let's go on with that example. What is a more detailed, more complex plant? Well, you decide that for the next six months to a year. And I always mentioned six months to a year because it's very important to be consistent for a long period of time if you want to see any decent results. And so you decide that your detailed strategy would be 24 grams a day. You take every single day 20 photographs. Out of these 20 photographs, you're going to select A5 that you consider best. And you're going to edit those white photographs. Not only that, but you decide that you're going to have an Instagram account and you are going to upload those edited five selected edited follows. Now that's not enough because you're more ambitious than that, because you want to get there quicker. You decide that at the end of the week you're going to create a YouTube video or whatever other platform you're using. But you decide that you're going to create a video where you explain about your process and you share with people that process through a video what happens very often when people have this kind of a complicated plan from the very beginning is simply giving up after a very short period of time. The other thing that happens and I don't know which is worse, is they decided they're going to start doing random things consciously or subconsciously because they don't want to quit. They start changing everything all the time. Since your decision was to select five of those 20 photos and edit those photos. After a few days, you start getting overwhelmed. You start getting a little bit tired, less inspired, and suddenly you realize that you've edited only one out of these five photos, that's going to start confusing you. You are going to start asking yourself questions like, should it continue with one photo a day if I can keep up with the five or should I go back to five bottles and in the next coming days, you start going back and forth, sometimes five photos, sometimes one photo. Another thing that can happen is you realize that sometimes 24 hours isn't enough and you increase suddenly to 30 or 40 photos each day. But because you can't keep that up and you start getting confused and you start asking yourself questions like, should they keep 240, should, uh, go back to 20, you start experimenting all the time. At the end of the week, you're completely tired, you're exhausted, not only of the work that you have to do, but also the inconsistency and all the changes that you're making because that's going to exhaust your mind as well. You decide that you will leave the video altogether, that you are not going to record it. That's going to confuse you. Additionally, all these changes and that's just a simple example. I've done a lot of this kind of similar mistakes myself lead only to confusion. You are not going to know what is good, what is bad, what gave good results? What didn't give you good results? You're not going to know what you're enjoying, what you're not enjoying. Confusion when you're trying to achieve something is the worst possible thing that can happen to you. You're also not building anything consistent when you're changing things all the time, means that you're not being consistent out of being inconsistent, you're never going to get any consistent feedback. You're also not developing proper work ethic if you want to be successful at what you do or be very good at what you do, you need to have proper work habits, starting and stopping, changing all the time, experimenting without any reason and doing random things is not a good work ethic. You're not teaching yourself anything useful. And the worst of all that happens in my opinion is that you end up stopping altogether, giving up on your idea without actually having gained any clear understanding and knowledge. That's the worst. You always want to know what works and what doesn't, what views good and what doesn't feel good, what you can manage to do every single day and what you can't manage today, every single day. And I mentioned the other example, of course, where you start with a very simple plan, but you complicated because of, again, because of your ambition, because of your wish to succeed and get some results. You start, for example, with a very simple plan of every single day, 20 photos for the next six months to a year. But because you find it at some point too simple and it's not going to give you anything in return. You increase after a few days, you start taking 34 and photographs. Again. Later on you realize that that's a bit too much in you're going back again to 20 photographs that again, Xin consistency. It's not going to give you any useful feedback that you can use in the future. You basically be with the same knowledge, if not more confused than the very beginning when you first started when I say having a plan for six months to a year, I don't mean that you are never going to change that plan. That's not at all what I'm saying because it's the most natural thing in the world for your plan to evolve and develop. But the first and most important thing before you decide to change your strategy. To evaluate properly what you are doing at this very moment, what you're doing currently, for example, at least take a week before you decide to change something, before you decide to evaluate something. Because very often we really change our plans after a few days, we can stick to them, evaluate after one week or a couple of weeks is what you are doing. Easy enough. Can you keep it up for six months to a year? Do you think that you can add more things to your plan, this kind of valuation, make sure that you are clear about the things you are doing and what you can handle and what you cannot handle during the period of 12 or three weeks doing whatever it is you're doing, you're going to start getting new ideas. That's inevitable. Don't start doing something about your ideas. Write them down first and write them down and wait a little bit, let those ideas ripen. Give yourself time to decide while you're being consistent with your current work, with your current plan. Give yourself time to decide which one of these ideas that you've got are going to be best for you to add to your plan when you feel stable and you see that you can keep to your plan of action for a couple of weeks. And you have all these ideas written down in your clear which one you want to add, it's time to edit and the idea, and then repeat the pattern again a week, more or a couple of weeks with the new plan before you decide to increase further, build your system, build your plan of action, build your strategy naturally and make it watertight. Don't allow any gaps, don't allow any uncertainty, and make sure that you know exactly what you're doing. You are going to ensure success this way with time, I can promise you that you'll be able to handle more because many people are worried and that's why they complicate things and change things all the time. They're worried that what they're doing right now is not enough and it's not going to lead to anything. They think their plan of action is too simple. What they're doing is too simple and it's not going to give them anything in return. Far from the truth. If you take it easy and make sure that you're ready for the next step. You're always going to be able to handle more and more in the future. We'll be patient pragmatic and do what produces consistent results. At the end of the day, you want to see that you are producing something in return for all the effort you put. You don't want any confusion and lack of clarity because that feels awful when you're trying to accomplish something. Anyway, I think that I covered most of the things that I wanted to share with you in this video. If you happen to have any further questions about this topic, something that's important to you and you still need to know or you want to share something, you can participate in the project section below, just share anything that you need help with if you like the video, enjoyed it, I'd appreciate it greatly. 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