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Positive Psychology and Philosophy for the 21st Century

Greg Vanderford, Knowledge is Power!

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18 Lessons (3h 36m)
    • 1. Philosophy of 21st Century Promo

    • 2. Lesson 1 Intro to 21st Century Philosophy

    • 3. Lesson 2 The Stoics

    • 4. Lesson 3 The Greeks

    • 5. Lesson 4 The Romans

    • 6. Lesson 5 Taoism

    • 7. Lesson 6 Buddhism

    • 8. Lesson 7 Confucius

    • 9. Lesson 8 The Renaissance

    • 10. Lesson 9 The Enlightenment

    • 11. Lesson 10

    • 12. Lesson 11 A Powerful Exercise

    • 13. Lesson 12 The Psychology of Time

    • 14. Lesson 13 Happiness and Relationships

    • 15. Lesson 14 Happiness Through Achievement

    • 16. Lesson 15 Happiness in the Present Moment

    • 17. Lesson 17 Philosophy for 21st Century Conclusion

    • 18. Lesson 16 Happiness in the Flow State


About This Class

The word PHILOSOPHY literally means "The Love of Wisdom".

Unfortunately, what the word PHILOSOPHY for a lot of people has come to be connected to is  boring lectures from boring professors and a lot of very confusing technical jargon.

In this course, we are going to explore the PRACTICAL side of philosophy, and focus on HOW IT CAN BE USED TO IMPROVE OUR LIVES.


1. What ancient philosophy has to teach us

2. How to apply the best of ancient philosophy to our lives in the 21st century

3. What the Renessiance and Enlightenment have to teach us

4. How to apply the best ideas of the Renessiance and Enlightenment to our lives in the 21st century

5. Some of the most useful ideas that the greatest thinkers and philosophers throughout time have shared with the world, but that largely remain misunderstood or unused

6. How studying philosophy can change your life for the better

7. How an understanding of philosophy can increase your health, well being and happiness

8. How modern society is actually designed to decrease our happiness and well being and what to do about it

9. How to start becoming the best version of yourself and begin building the life of your dreams

10. How to avoid some of the most common causes of stress, anxiety, and fear in modern society

11. Much more!

Join the course, and learn how to apply the teachings of Philosophy from throughout the ages to your life in the 21st century!


1. Philosophy of 21st Century Promo: when you watch the news and you look at the modern media landscape, it seems as if the sky is falling. Were experiencing these huge challenges right now in the 21st century. And a lot of those challenges are leading people Teoh, chronic anxiety, chronic depression. People feel like they're not being able to make ends meet financially, all of these problems. But the stuff that's happening right now has happened before throughout history. And the great teachers, thinkers and philosophers throughout time have a lot to say that is directly applicable to what's going on right now, things that we can apply to our lives to the happier, healthier, calm or more peaceful lives. So what I've done in this course is I've selected some of the great teaching, some of the greatest philosopher philosophers and philosophical traditions throughout history, and I have applied them to a lot of 21st century to look at. How can we take? But this philosopher said, with this person taught and immediately apply into our lives in a way that can improve something and it make us happier that make us healthier, can achieve something that we can use to improve our lives. A lot of it is looking at positive psychology and look at how can achieve the different states or the different forms of happiness. There are very different style. Their various different forms of happiness have been identified. States of flow, happiness to relationships, happiness through achievement, all these different forms of happiness that psychologists now have identified. And we now know how that we can achieve these forms of happiness. Maybe which ones are most suitable for our personality and many other things like that that can help us. So this course basically takes a two pronged approach of looking at philosophers throughout time and then modern research on happiness and well being and see happen. We take the most useful stuff out of all that information and apply it to our lives immediately to improve ourselves, improve our families and prove our well being so well. Because choose to take the course and I will see you inside 2. Lesson 1 Intro to 21st Century Philosophy: so philosophy has a very long and rich history, and there's lots of different types of philosophy. When someone says philosophy, I mean, what does it even mean? We mean religion to We mean the philosophy of the ivory towers of the university and the complicated logic and Cilla Chism's of Aristotle and Plato, etcetera. What we meant philosophy. Well, my philosophy courses. My interest is in exploring things that air directly applicable to our every day lives, especially in the time and culture in which we live. Because we live in a unique time and place. What's going on now in the world and the culture that we are experiencing right now in the world, especially due to things like technology and the Internet. And the world's getting much smaller, much different things. We're human beings thousands of years ago, let alone 50 or 100 years ago. Things have been changing rapidly, and the biology of human beings, though, hasn't changed in some 200,000 year science tells us that current Homo SAPIENs, homo erectus, whatever the most modern newest form of human that we are, we haven't really changed at all in one or 200,000 years except for culture has been changing rapidly and technology has been changing our culture extremely rapidly. Accelerated rate on, we believe have the Internet for some 20 or 30 years. We have only had smartphones or some 10 or 20 years. These are very, very recent changes and things that are changing our behaviors, Our attention. A lot of attention is being now taken up by media by assuming content like television, like the Internet, like reading and you know, probably a lot of that stuff. Hopefully, like this course is educationally useful, very valuable content. But of course we know that most of it is not a lot of our attention. Basically, we are being consumed by the information itself. It takes a lot of our time. A lot of it is mindless and we could see some of the manifestations of that in the real world by who we are electing to powerful position the government by how low voter rates are currently, especially in the United States, where I'm from where a record low voting turnout, that doesn't mean that things were all bad, but things are changing and a lot of people, despite the fact that actually research shows pretty much across the board that violent crime is going down, that the number of wars and the scale of wars is going down. It may not seem this way because of the media and because it basically the you know, 99% of news is showing the 1% native things that go on in the world. It seems that the sky is falling and everything is terrible. It's causing us to feel distressed. People have a lot of anxiety when in fact the reality is pretty much the exact opposite. So it's one big thing that you have to understand. When we talk about philosophy, we talk about being a modern human being. We have to recognize the perspective in which we are understanding reality, the culture in which were invented, and we're going to talk about what we can do. Teoh, you know, avoid a lot of this negativity and to be happier, I mean these these things are causing a lot of psychological problems for the masses. But there are solutions to these problems, and the solutions to these problems mostly live in Phil philosophy. You know how we think how we perceived reality and in psychology. That's what we're gonna talk about in this course. You know, great philosophers have been teaching us really similar things for thousands of years. A lot of the stuff that Plato and Aristotle back in Greece and allow zoo in ancient China really, really similar to what a lot of modern philosophers, people of the 19th and 20th century, like Emerson Rough, Waldo Emerson, Heaven, Henry, David Thoreau and all kinds of other thinkers from all over cultures, all different time history have have thought have have taut and the things that they've come up with after deep, deep analysis. A lot of it is very, very similar overlap, so I think that's because it a lot of validity. It's very, very valuable and useful and very reports very interesting that these great thinkers from the Middle East, from the Faris from the West have come up with some very, very similar and overlapping realizations. And we can, of course, utilize these and help our apply that our own lives and help ourselves become more peaceful and happier. So there's this great come thread running through the teaching of philosophers throughout time and culture reading over that throughout the course, Ondas common thread can be thought of as a sort of universal set of laws or truths. I mean, Jesus and Buddha came to very similar realizations, you know, allows Do and Confucius and the Stoics of Rome and Greece. They came to a lot of very, very similar realizations. Now fundamental religious scholars and people that are really sparse ing what was said in different texts like the Koran, the Bible, except for the Bhagavad Geeta, the Hindu texts, they may say, Well, actually, these things totally disagree. And there are some very fundamental differences. The actual founders of those religions. You, by the way, weren't trying to found a religion. In many cases, they were just teaching. And what they were teaching was so profound that the followers were like, Oh my God, they're they're awestruck by it and then enforced overtime. Their teachings became a religion. And a lot of the stuff in these religions, you know, it was never ever mentioned it all by the people that were supposed to be the founders. That's one interesting thing Teoh always keep in mind. But this course we're gonna explore some of the most poignant and with useful of these truths, I'm not going to be focusing on a lot of big philosophical jargon that you would have it. Universities. There's no tests. This is not about, you know, knowing a lot of intricate little details, had a little logic, puzzles things that are not applicable to everyday life. We want to know how to improve ourselves, how to be happier and have a better life, how to think in ways that are more optimal. And there are a lot of things that we can do to make ourselves be healthier, happier, have overall better well being. We pretty much know now if we just take the time to look at what has been passed down to us from great thinkers. And of course, we have a lot of great thinkers of living today, and if we kind of survey the landscape of philosophy and a lot of them like musicians, they might be doctors. I mean, a lot of wisdom comes from all different walks of life. It doesn't have to be. Philosopher doesn't have to be a religious teacher. It could be any type of a writer, any kind of a type of teacher any professionally. We're all human beings, and we all have insights to share. So that's one of the basic truths that we want to realize that we should be able to learn from anywhere. It is a matter of we're learning from a child or we're learning from a great scholar. There are truths out there in the world, and if we are open to them but we can perceive them, then we can get value and insights from our everyday lives. And we need to be open. Teoh, uh, that so this course will attempt explain how we could apply these truths wherever he lives and through the application of these truths to our everyday lives. Over time, we can all learn to be healthier, happier, more calm and more generous without the worry and anxiety that is rampant in modern society . And the statistics here really startling. It shows, you know, the increase in anxiety of suicide and depression, despite the fact that we are in general, more affluent than ever before in the history of the world and a lot of people right now, especially like in the U. S. There's a a growing gap economically between the have and have nots or whatever. But if you look at things from sort of objective point of view, of the average American actually has a lot more well than we had in the 19 fifties and sixties, despite the fact that doesn't feel that way, and we'll get into more of the reasons for that. But one of the reasons is because we just assume a lot more. We can sue a lot more now that we didn't want to generations ago, for example, the average size of a house or apartment in the fifties waas approximately half of what it is now. So we leave feel that prices are going up. Rents going up can afford things that we used to be able to afford. In fact, if you look at the things that we used to consume, were consumed much more food, Now we're being much more real estate consuming, more everything. I mean, we didn't even have smartphones or mobile phones or video games back that, and so all these things that we feel that we can't afford I mean, we didn't buy them back then he probably consumed no things like you had a deck of cards and let the games, you might have to board games. And, yes, there was television and movies. But you had a couple channels, and you know you didn't consume six or 10 hours a day of television like we do now says lots of things that when you look at it side by side, were actually far more affluent, more wealthy than we were back then. But it doesn't always feel like it for various reasons. Reasons that we're gonna talk about throughout, uh, this course and the finally for this introduction to the course. Just a very simple quote where fear is happiness is not very simple, but there's a lot of fear in society right now. There's fear, war. There's fear of, you know, the other political party. There's fear of what people will think about us, for your criticisms, a lot of fear in society right now. And it's just so sad and so ironic, Like what I just said about how we have more resource than ever before on average now, that may not feel true for you. We pretty much have control more or less of our destiny to a large degree than we ever have before in human history. And yet we don't feel like we don't feel happier than we used to be. And a lot of that has to do with the dissolution of family and has a lot of these cultural factors. But we're gonna look at throughout this bores with some of the greatest philosophers and thinkers. Throughout time at the state, teachers had a live, a good life. I had a happy life and how we can integrate those ideas of right now into our everyday lives and improve ourselves. Eso this course is geared towards, you know, applying these juice 21st century to the problems that we seem to be struggling with most right now in the present time. So thank you guys for joining the course of hope. You get a lot out of it, and with that we will we will get straight to it. 3. Lesson 2 The Stoics: that still looks are really good place to start when we look at philosophy in general, they had a lot in common, actually, even though the stoics that we talk about were primarily from Greece, ancient Greece and Rome about 2500 years ago, give or take a couple 100 years, depending on exactly when the particular person in question was alive. They have a very similar philosophy Teoh, the Buddhists and a lot of other ancient Eastern thinking. And so I think one of the things here is that they figured out really, really effective strategies to cope with time in which they were living with a relative lack of wealth, dealing with things like politics and wars and how to get on a society. It's so interesting that thousands of years ago they were grappling with the very same issues that we're grappling with today. So things haven't changed all that much in the last couple 1000 years, it turns out, and some of the insights that they have are very, very useful for. So I put a couple quotes here from Marcus Aurelius, who is considered to be one of the most prolific stoics. Of course, we know that he was a, um, emperor of room. For a time. He was an emperor philosopher, and he has a famous book, his meditations, and it was basically his journal. But there's a lot of profound stuff in there, and I pulled a couple of good quotes from that we can discuss briefly. One thing he says is that you have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this and you will find strength. Basically, this is something a lot of philosophers talk about is that when you learn to let go all the things that are outside of our control, things that we constantly worry about, then it's really easy to kind of deal with life, and it's a lot easier to be happy and not have anxiety when we really realize when that truth really hits home, that there's some things that you're not gonna be able to control, but you control. You can control how you react to things. You can control your attitude, and you can learn how to, through meditation and increasing your discipline, how to control yourself, you know, through willpower and other strategies. Then you could really take control of your life and you realize that a lot of things that you were worried about one don't actually come to pass it ever happened. Some Mark Cling quote about how you 99% of these are worried about life never happened. The other thing is that, you know, there's a lot of peace knowing that there's nothing you could do about something. So why worrying? Worry is such a waste of energy. It's been put in one way that, you know, worry is a misuse of the imagination. Once you really realize that some things are just gonna be outside of our control, there's nothing we can do about it. There is, um, a piece that will come and then you can also get busy focusing on things that are within our control. You know what work you choose to do, how you choose to spend your money where you choose to live, how you choose to eat. I mean, those things are within our control, and so when you really that's very, very empowering, and this is a very, very useful trick toe learn, stop worrying about things you can't control. Give you a simple example. If you want to invest your money and get wealthy. You might want to put your money in the stock market now, and you can't control whether a company's stock was up or down. So a lot of people that spend a lot of time worrying about that Oh my gosh, my stock went up Today I'm so happy. Oh, my gosh, my stock has gone down 10%. That's my hard earned money. I'm just stressed now, But this is kind of good analogy for life because some days before goes a beautiful bad. Once you learn how to be, once you gain wisdom, then you realize that you know you should be calm and peaceful and just generally happy whether or not your money is going up or down. Whether or not you know things are going your way in life, life's gonna have up ups and downs. That's the way it is in the stock market. It's gonna fluctuates, going to go up and down. That's the way it is. And the people that actually do the best investing throughout time we will buy stocks in general. Ever. Just forget about that. It's let their money compound overtimes big ups and down. But if they are holding good stocks, it's gonna go up and you're gonna get wealthier over time. It's the same thing with our attitude in life. If you have a generally positive attitude, a cheerful attitude and just focused on things that you can control, focus on your work. What was on loving your friends and family? Most of the rest of the things in your life they're gonna turn out okay, but it's a hard act to have, because we consume a lot of media that is constant, scaring us. We have a lot of people around us that tell us constantly. We should be living a certain way. You have 11 advertisements, know that bombarding us with messages of what we should buy, who we should be, who should emulate and so big portion of solving this problem how to be happy in the 21st century is learning how to cut a lot of that stuff out. You know, you need to find ways to reduce your exposure to advertising. You find your ways to cut out toxic people in relationships from your life, people that maybe, you know, long time friends, but ones that now they're no longer supporting you. They have plastic attitudes. Sometimes they do the hard thing and say goodbye of some of these people. Even if some of those people are in your immediate or you know or extended family, sometimes you have to do the right thing for you, and it means making some sacrifices. But once you learn this truth about letting go, things you can't control, they could have a big impact on you. Another thing markets really is said, was that put from you the belief that I have been wrong and with it will go the feeling. I reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears. Basically, it means not having self pity. You can never feel like a victim, no matter what has happened to you. I mean people like Nelson Mandela, for example, he spent 27 years in prison for being busy. Is a prisoner of conscience right in South Africa simply for being against the apartheid government there. I mean, how many of us can actually imagine 27 years in prison on me? I can't imagine that. But not only did he come out of that 27 years, not hateful and wanting revenge. He came out of it having gained much wisdom, having made himself much stronger, having learned a lot of good use of his his seclusion in prison and not feeling any self pity, you know, he accepted, in other words, what had happened at some point along the line. I mean, I'm sure, you know, I think you said that he was very angry. He had to deal with a lot of struggles while he was in there. It's not like it was easy or anything like that. But he found a way, did not have self pity to make the best use of his horrible situation and to come out stronger. You see the same thing with people who have no arms, no legs, people. They're handicapped in some ways, and you have a love these amazing lives. People like Helen Keller and others you know people are alive today that have this amazing lives and are very productive despite huge handicapped. I mean Helen Keller's case, she lost her sight and her hearing, and then she ended up being one of the most influential thinkers and writers you know of the 19th century. And so there's a lot of lessons to be learned from that. And another thing I'll say here is that a lot of this stuff is very simple. It's not very complicated to understand, but that doesn't mean it's easy, right? It's It's simple, but it's difficult. That's pretty much out. Everything worthwhile in life is, it's hard. No one was successful in a career. It's hard to work at it, but it's not like it's not rocket science. What you have to do to be successful, you have to work hard to and a and you'll get there. It's the same thing with being happy. Same thing with lost. The problem with philosophy is that it's not usually taught in school. If we don't have, you know, philosophical, good parents that are mentoring us actively, it's not gonna be taught to us by them either. And of course, in modern society we're all so busy. We don't really have time to spend a whole bunch of time with our kids anyway, which is pretty much an absurdity of modern culture, something that we maybe we don't question as much as we should. But I tell you for myself. I want to spend as much time because that possibly can't. And if that means foregoing some income, that that means foregoing some comforts, things that we've become accustomed to. Well, then so be it. Because life is not made up of having things. Life and happiness and well being is made up of our relationships, our help and how we feel, how we think. And this is how ah, philosophy and psychology can do a great deal for us. I have something that Seneca said Seneca and Epictetus were also because it'd be Stoics. They share the similar philosophy. Terrible. Uh, Greek. Actually Seneca was a Roman, I believe. And imitators with Greek and Seneca said, Throw aside all hindrances and give up your time to attaining a sound mind. And so you'll notice you know, people like Gandhi. People like Seneca Stoics, Buddha Jesus, they mentioned over and over again. No de emphasizing. Well, now that's a hard one for us. In the 20% your toe wrap our minds around because you need money, right? In a modern economy, we need money. We need things, you know, No one who wants to be poor but I think there's a big difference here between being destitute and having no money. No resource is no income and, um, being relatively poor in terms, Okay, we have all their basic needs met and beyond that, you know, spending most of your life trying to gain wealth. Trying to attain a lot of resource is, and comforts is mostly a waste of time. According Teoh. You know, most philosophers that we considered to be great throughout time. They come to the realization at some point that that stuff's not gonna make you happy. It's not gonna get you where you want to go. Where you want to go is that is to just be at peace and be happy, have a good life, have good relationships. You have to have time. You have to have a leisure. You have to have the mental space. Teoh cultivate peace in yourself to cultivate relationships, to love people. That takes time and takes energy. And how are we going to do that if we are spending most our time getting a living? Or, you know, building a party goes through our careers and competition etcetera, basically everything that the Western modern society is based on. A lot of it has to go according to the stoics. So when you throw aside a lot of those hindrances, um and you know, throw and Ralph roll roll. Emerson also talk a lot about this kind of thing. It does a lot for you. Makes you feel light and free and not having to worry about your mortgage is in your debt and all the crap that you've accumulated. Um, you can focus on who you want to be. You could focus on how you really want to spend your life because, you know, you only get one shot. I personally have a mid thirties right now, and I don't know how many decades I have left. I've lived a chunk of pretty big chunk of my life already. You know, my main part of my youth is gone. And while maybe somebody listening this may think, Well, 35 that's pretty young. I mean, it's still a huge part of my life having been passed. I only have so many years left. And how do I want to spend those years? I've really gotta think about that and said These guys tend to focus more on unlike and less on on things, I guess is a rooster way to put it. And then, eh, potatoes said. Keep company. Will new people who uplift you? It's kind of echoes what I said a few minutes ago. You know anybody that's holding you back, even if it's a long time friend or family member, it may seem harsh to basically cut them off. But I mean, it's no life for talking about happiness we're talking about, and the people you spend time with have a huge impact on you. And so it's one of those things. No, if you want to progress, you have to make some sacrifices just like an exercise, right? No pain, no gain. If you want to be fit, you gotta exercise. You want toe, be happy. You need to make some big adjustments. It might mean getting rid of alcohol and all types of intoxicants it might be in. Getting rid of toxic people in your life might mean totally genuine careers that might be including a job like me. Moving is to a new city might be moving to a new country, you know, only you can decide what it is that will truly making a difference for you. But these guys and girls, these philosophers, they point the way. They give us a lot of tools under the one by Seneca, who I really like. He's got a lot of really good stuff. He's got a book called Um Oh, I can't remember the book notes letters from a stock called Letters from a Stoke and really , really Good. And it's a pretty quick read that's got a lot of wisdom in it. Short chapters. Um, anyway, I recommend that book. He says to happiness is to enjoy the present without anxious dependence on the future. Now this is this is being the same message of Buddha Jesus of so many philosophers throughout time. There, obviously there must be something to it. And what do we do? Why why were we so anxious? Because we're always worried about the future. We're readout running out of money. We're worried about old age, were worried about what we have to do next. We're right about what to do tomorrow. And the message that we're getting over and over again from philosophy is stop. Just stop worrying about the future, you know, um, it's been put, you know, you'll meet the future with the same tools with which you meet the president. I mean, when you were a kid, you worry about the future. And now the future CEO, everything's fine. And then, you know, when you maybe when you were a university, you worried about what was gonna happen at the university, and after that, you had your job, your life and everything was fine. And so on it goes, but we continue toe worry. And so if you could find a way toe learn how to let go, let go of the future. It's hard to do this, obviously, if you haven't even started yet. But in increments, we can learn how to do this. Just like we learned how to play a musical instrument or of sport or whatever. In slow increments, we can learn how to let go things that we worry about over time, and eventually we'll learn to basically live in in daytime compartments. As Dale Carnegie put you think just this one day, I'm not gonna promote small. I'm not gonna worry about next year. I'm not gonna worry about where my kids are gonna go to college. I'm not gonna worry about which money I'm gonna happen. I retire. You just worry about the task that you need to carry out where you want to carry out today , how you want to spend today. And it might include a lot of work and might include some rest. Whatever you decide to do is fine, but don't spend a huge chunk of your time worrying. It doesn't do anything for you. And actually, harms are helping. People who are chronic worriers gets sick more often, and it can cause a serious diseases. So the stoics definitely agreed with Jesus and Buddha and most of the other religions. Um, finally, Seneca says we're more often frightened than her, and we suffer more from imagination from reality. This is so true when you think about how much stuff you worried about your life. And then how much of that stuff you worried about has actually happened, right? Very little of this happened. Now, have you listening to this, you say? Well, actually, I got in a horrible car accident and so pass It has happened before I got sick or my family got someone with family. Got cancer. But the thing is, we have no way of knowing of those things are gonna happen. So why should you worry? I mean, worrying doesn't help. Situation doesn't solve the problem, doesn't avoid it. So it doesn't make any sense if something bad is gonna happen, he was just going to happen. You you still have to let go and not worry about why worry about, Okay? Some things may happen to us that are very bad at that point. That's when we deal with deal that in the present don't deal with all of possible future calamities Every day of your life, you worry yourself sick and you'll miss out on life. Okay, so I think that's the message. Just one of the messages that the Stoics and it's one of the ones that I want to focus on today and next. We're gonna look at the Greeks were pretty similar things to stay the stones, but some inside different 4. Lesson 3 The Greeks: So the Greeks and the Romans, you know, they were to city states were side by side, the Greeks a little bit older. The room and the empire came later and became more powerful later. But there's a lot of crossover between the two ways of thinking. Aristotle, along with Socrates and Plato, obviously are some of the biggest names in ancient Greek philosophy, and I like a lot of what Aristotle on Socrates had to say in particular, just a simple one here to start us off is that Aerosol said educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all. I completely agree with this, and when you look at our institutions of education throughout the world, you realize that we're not really educating the heart at all. I mean, I didn't have much guidance or any mentoring from my teachers. They're too busy trying to stuff so much knowledge in my head as they could. I don't have a single conversation with my guidance counselor in my high school in the United States in the nineties, and, you know, if educating the heart is at least as important as educating the mind filling our brain with fax. We're obviously failing at miserably, and this is something that, you know, Aristotle understood over 2000 years ago, but we seem to not understand now. I guess the philosophy is the idea being that the state, the government, their job is Teoh. Give us, uh, skills and the ability to maybe to get jobs and then educated. The heart is up to the parents. But how are the parents supposed to educate their Children in terms of giving them moral standards and such when it's too busy working and is getting a living? A lot of them, you know, they weren't morally educated themselves. There's no system in place. There's no culture in place anymore. Does it seem like to do this? And so our schools are failing miserably, and we need to find some new way, educate the heart, as he puts it, rather than focusing entirely on academics. Aristotle also said that it is the mark of uneducated mind to be able to entertain the thought without accepting it. Okay, so this is applicable Teoh a lot of modern society. But when you think about how we all are in our little bubbles and little political bubbles , a little media bubbles. And we basically just project all ideas and be clinging to these things that we believe. You know, you're there on the red team with the blue team and nothing ever changes. I mean, it's kind of this question kind of goes two ways. One, we should be able to entertain ideas and think about them and then reject those ideas. On the other hand, we should take in new information and also something to change our minds. Right. One of the things that politicians are always getting criticized, or the fact that you change your mind on that. Last year you were in your position with this, and this is your position. Is this for a flip flopper, your foot clobber? But I mean educated, intelligent, human being. If they look at new data and they think about something deeply well, then obviously we're gonna change your mind sometimes. And I mean, the whole scientific method is based on the idea that we have evidence we're going to follow that evidence. We change our minds. We used to think the world is flat and that the world is the center of the universe. We've learned through studies that that's not true. We changed our minds. And so that's what the educated mind, uh, educated mind could can entertain a thought and rejected. And it can also, uh, take in new information and change your mind. So we need to be thinking constantly in our minds were made. You think they're not made just toe learn facts and just to, you know, basically memorized things. We have Google for that. Now we have the Internet to give us information and knowledge. Our minds need to be used one for problem solving, critical thinking and or for love, for loving each other for letting ourselves in for loving each other. That's how we want to develop when it comes to most of education. Now continues to be, which is just give facts of students. I mean, we don't need to do that anymore. We need to educate different parts of our mind because we have the Internet to give us backs look stuff up. Nothing. Aerosol centers of energy of the mind is the essence of life. How many people do you know that spend most of their day working in a job they don't like there's an actual study that shows that over 80% of Americans dislike their jobs. That's a pretty amazing statistic, even if it's even remotely accurate. That means the vast majority of all people in American society to society that it's still envied by a lot of the world or is at least considered to be. You know, the wealthiest, the most successful or whatever society and the whole world. Most people are miserable or he's they're less happy than they used to be at a time of maximum affluence, and it's because we don't have time. We don't have mental energy to do things that we're passionate about to reflect upon our lives. Note on the leisure to spend with our families and our friends. It's all being sucked out to try to make a living, to pay for things and largely that we don't need to impress people. Largely that we may not like. It may be strangers. I mean, it's a pretty crazy society that we're living in right now, and most people don't even realize it, you know. First of all, you gotta recognize you gotta look aside and recognize what's happening so that you can take a step back. Okay? I don't really want to be living this life. Are these things really making me happy? You need to do some self reflection. And these philosophers, their statements and their thoughts, they can sometimes give us a jolt and help wake us up and say, Well, okay, I'm 40 years old, 50 years old, years old, 60 years old, not happy. What can I do about this? And, you know, start thinking about your life and read, Read philosophy and it can point you in the rhetoric, prayer, direction and may even change your life. And Socrates famously has said the unexamined life is not worth living. Obviously, most people are not examining their life. You know what they want out of it. If they spend six hours a day watching television programming or if they spend eight or 10 hours a day working at the job, they don't like and then the rest of the time, watching TV because they need to relax, and then they go to sleep. I mean, we're not living very conscious. Lives were living these sleeping lives where we're basically dead, and then we just haven't our body hasn't actually died yet. This is what most people are living their lives. You may disagree with that, but I think this is what a lot of philosophers have recognized. It talk about waking up from being asleep, and I definitely agree with this. And I think one of the things that we have to do we have to watch less news for Spoleto. Watch less TV. Second of all, we have to be very careful about who we associate with choosing your friends and colleagues , if you can. If you can't do those things because you have a job, you don't like that you eat and you got callings around you that you don't like, but you can't avoid. I mean somebody. You have to make you the drastic thing and quit that job and find a new way to live. I mean, literally. Your life depends on our lives. Literally depend on being able to sometimes may big, drastic changes. I mean, for me personally, I didn't put my job. I left the United States. I live abroad. I'm a teacher. I do various different things that I enjoy doing to make a living, one of them being teaching on you to me. I also have a substitute schools. I like. I learned what I like and I only make a living doing what I like, and it makes all the difference. I only spend time around people that I like. And, you know, I had to make some big sacrifices to do that. But it took time, took sacrifice. And I've never been happier. And I think that that's really what it comes down to is finding out who you are, who you want to be and then, you know, as Thoreau said, uh, there to go in the direction of your dreams and live the life you have imagined, not all of us are gonna be wealthy. Not all of us are gonna be, you know, successful in the eyes of the world. But all of us can be happy. All of us can be happened if we just discover or search within ourselves who it is. We want to be what we want out of this life, how to react to the challenges that are facing us. And, um, you know, go from there. And where the first place to start is by reading philosophy or at least looking at what these guys have thought. Her clients said. Character is destiny thing. That's kind of goes along with the idea that you know, when you have certain habits, habits lead to character. Our thoughts like that. Actions actions lead to habits and habits lead to character, and your character is your destiny. What you continuously do well, you continuously do day in and day out that's going to lead to your desk. That's gonna lead to the outcome of your life. So in other words, if you're a good person, you're hardworking person, and you consistently do good things, whether that means being productive in your work or whether that means we have being good relationship. If you give those things in and out over time or a long life, you're gonna end up with really good life united with a really good destiny. And, of course, if you don't, then you have the opposite. So whoever you become, that's the kind of life that you're going to have, in other words, and so it may take a long time, but at least you'll get there right. It's like a journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step. And if you never take that step, you're never gonna get where you want to go. And so you know, you really have to. Sometimes I do a long term thing. Where do you want to be in 20 years? Here. What do you need to do now to get that? What do you want me to? Five years? Okay, what do you need to do now to get there? And instead of maybe thinking, what do you want to you want to think about? Who would you want to be? That's a much more profound question to answer. Who do you want to be? Me personally. I'll give an example. I've always wanted to be the teacher, And so what I did. I went back to school after being a business person, and I got all my teaching credentials, and I went to work in schools and I realized, you know, I still want to be a teacher, but I don't necessarily fit in with the modern modern system of what we call education. How we seek to train students in society is a lot of fear based stuff going on. There's a lot of regimens that does not suit individual needs. I mean, I could go on and on about education, but what I'm trying to say here is that I am focusing on what I want to be. I want to be a teacher. So right now, hopefully I'm being useful by teaching you guys some stuff about philosophy. I read about the stuff every single day. I think about it every single day. If I can help even one person you know in their life that I'm a teacher and that's what I want to be. Instead of thinking like what I want to do for my career, I want to teach in a school, I think, who don't want to be. And that clarifies a lot of things that I'm gonna do it like I could be a teacher in many different forms in many different ways. I can get tutor. I have a A block that could be a writer. I can teach you to me. I can teach in a school. I could be a sub. There are so many different ways of being a teacher. I could simply be that could be a coach or mentor to people. I could be a teacher in my family. I can have a big family and I could teach my kids. There's an unlimited number of ways to manifest certain things, but we start asking the question. Who do you want to be instead of what do you want to do in terms of like a job, which is the way that you know, we are trained? I think I think it's much more helpful and will clarify a lot of things for you. Okay, next, Aerosol said. There is only one way to avoid criticism, which is to do nothing, say nothing and be nothing. And this is in fact kind of what society wants us to do it don't take risks, you know. Don't don't leave your job. Try something new. You could fail. Oh, don't say that could offend somebody. Oh, don't do this. This could happen. That could happen. Life is full of risk. I mean, there's no way to avoid it. The only way to avoid it, according to Aerosol, is it. Do nothing. Say nothing. Well, that's not even really a life, right. It's like Helen Keller, who I already mentioned who also said you know that there's no avoiding dangerous, no avoiding risk in nature. You can't avoid it. Basically, the best thing to do is go out there and be totally exposed and become strong. Or, in other words, Bruce Lee. Once he said, don't wish for an easy life. Wish for the string to endure a difficult one. So what it comes down to is you got to go out there and lift. You got to go out there and try things. Yes, they're going to get not down. But if you want to be happy, you gotta go do things that you're passionate about. And I know that a lot of you guys listen to this right now are thinking yet but how? Economically, I need money. I can't do it. You gotta find a way to let go and take a leap of faith sometime. I don't take a leap of faith. When I left the U. S and moved to Vietnam, I don't take a leap of faith, but I changed careers, went back to school. I don't think leap of faith. When I left school, I was working at Do what I'm doing now. Lots and lots of leaps of faith, lots and lots of overcoming fears. Still, overcoming them or life keeps getting better. And I keep getting happier because I'm following my intuition. I'm thinking about what I want to want to be, and I'm willing to make sacrifices if I have to live on less income in Soviet. If I have to have a lot of uncertainty in my future, then so be it. And maybe, you know, for a lot of you don't need to make any drastic changes. Maybe you just need to tweak a couple things. But in any case, I hope this, uh, this course will help you do that, at least to a small degree. With that, we will move on. Teoh the Romans. 5. Lesson 4 The Romans: So I've got a couple more Marcus Aurelius quotes. He was so prolific and he was so, so profound that I use a lot of his stuff. He was, Ah, stoic. Of course, he was also a Roman. He was the emperor's already mentioned at one point in time. One thing he said was that everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. And everything we see is a perspective, not the truth. Just remember to question everything. Question what your parents tell you. Question. Your boss tells me. Question what your government tells you. Question when your own thoughts of bigness, William and where did they come from? A lot of things that come from our surroundings. We think what we think because of our friends or because of our families or our society, whose around it? How is it that every culture or every religion or every political party thinks differently ? And they always think that their point of view is right? How is that possible? They can't all be right, right? So what is right? Well, I think that comes down to what we believe should be based on our own analysis, our own feelings. But We have to learn how to sparse what is actually our own original idea or thought and what was just implanted into our brain when we were growing up, as we were. So, you know, educated, quote unquote as we were brainwashed. In other words, to think everything that you hear is just an opinion, everything that you see just a perspective. And so this is This is basically like the first step in philosophical training is to question everything. So Socrates said, it's basically with all the philosophers have basically done throughout. Time is to question things. There's, Ah, great Indian philosopher named that Krishnamurti, who basically says, You know, you don't need book knowledge at all In order to be happy, you need to analyze yourself. You are a human being. You are born a human being, and that's enough. Teoh have a good life. We don't need to necessarily achieve something like in a career or be something that someone says we should be. We should choose how one of the who we want to be. You don't need anything outside of yourself. Teoh do that so well. Means questioned everything and exploit or your mind. That's what Buddha did food explore his mind and he meditated. And by meditating he learned a lot simply by sitting there and thinking and working with his mind. I'm s e quieting the mind and just being at peace, I think markets really a said was very little is needed to make a happy life. It is all within yourself in your way of thinking. Now, if that's true, just imagine how profound that is. Do you need millions of dollars to be happy? No. Do you need to have a successful career to be happy? No. You need to have a lover or a deep, important long term relationship to be happy. No, basically with the philosopher throughout time tell us is that you're happy if you decide to be so. And usually people actually become successful after being happy, rather the other way round. We kind of have this backwards. You think if I have X amount of money, my bank, I'll be happy If I have this type of relationship will be happy, etcetera, etcetera. But actually, if you learn just to be happy with any situation with where you're at right now, you realize that success comes your way because you attract people that are similar to you or they just like you to be around. You attract the work and jobs because you know people want to hire you or you you can get customers because I'm doing something useful on you and you're positive. You start to attract things in your life by being happy. I was kind of related to, you know, the law of attraction and things like that. But you don't need that much of this guy. Uh um Ananda, who is really famous now because Steve Jobs quoted his book, The Autobiography of a Yogi, as being like the most influential book that he ever read. And one of these, he said, is he will simplify your life. You'll be amazed at how happy you could become. Jesus, Buddha, all the great philosophers. Gandhi, Yeoman, on all of these guys, toss simplicity because when you have less clutter in your mind, was clutter in your house is a big thing that Henry David Thoreau and Ralph Waldo Emerson also focused on is that you can you have more space just to live, to enjoy being alive, to enjoy being a human, you know, to contemplate what it means to to be a person t to exist in this in this crazy, wonderful universe, we have to have time to do that. And how do we do that? If you spend 10 hours a day just making a living so by things that we're gonna lose when we die anyway, there's no saying that a shroud has no pockets, right? We can't take anything with us when we die. So why don't we accumulate so much? And of course, we may need a certain amount of resource is very no retirement after we're done with our working life or resource to help out our family. But when you simplify your life, you realize that those resource is the shrink. You don't need a huge house. You don't need 20 pairs of clothes or 10 pairs of shoes. You know, once you learn, kind of had to be. I guess the properly trend right now is a minimalist. The more minimalist you can go with your physical things you own. And then also with just how you organize your thoughts in your life in general. Then it's very simple to have a happy life. Be kind of people, you know, eat healthy food. Get exercise, don't overwork. I mean, confusions also said that life is very simple and yet we make it very complicated. We do it to ourselves and already mentioned some of the causes. Modern society is very, very good at distracting us and making us want things that making us want toe by things. I mean, one of the things that actually was taught to me when I was studying business in college was to create this satisfaction. One of the the jobs of marketing to create dissatisfaction in other words, actually make people unhappy, so they'll buy your product in order to make themselves happy. And, of course, it doesn't work. We get a brief endorphin hit when we buy something new we think is going to solve a problem . I mean, I mean, just this course I'm teaching right now. You can think about in the same way. You know, you take the course because philosophy you think it's gonna solve some problems, and I hope that it actually does for you because you have philosophy is stuff that life is made of. Hopefully you take it and you actually utilize it over time. But if you don't, if you just use it as entertainment, that is the same as any other product. You getting endorphin hit and you need to go buy something else. You go buy something else in our modern society, and our modern capitalist economy is based entirely on this. So in a very real way, in order to have lasting happiness. According to these philosophers, you kind of have to step outside of the system. And it's some some wage of to reject. This modern side that we live in seems like a hard thing to do, of course, because we are embedded within our family and friends are embedded in it. So we don't want to be an outcast or be isolated for the same time. If you just unquestioningly follow, you know the message of the media of the ways of living that we have. It will lead you to where we are with these high levels of unhappiness, anxiety and stress and disease. So we got to find some way to have a happy medium. We got to find some way to have balance, and each of us needs to figure out what that means for ourselves individually. But there again, philosophy points the way it gives us tools to give this ways of thinking, and it will. It helps to guide us to where we need to go right. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it. Drink were the ones who have to drink the water of knowledge. But there are lots of sign posts along the way. Cicero was a famous Roman from um, he was famously assassinated. He was a politician and a great order. He had a lot of profound things that he said, when things he said was to remain ignorant of history is to remain forever a child, and I'm a huge mystery. But I love history, I think, supported, understand where the human race has come from and how we got to where we are today. This is one of the reasons why I'm doing a course on philosophy that includes a lot of these, you know, ancient people, because the stuff that's happened in the past and things that people have discovered it said in the past, you know that teaches us a lot about the present, and it teaches us a lot about ourselves and how we live a great life. So history is an important subject, basically what he's saying, I totally agree with that. He also says life is nothing without friendship. A huge study was done by I think It was Harvard, a 75 year studies with longest studies of its kind that showed that the happiest people of people that have nurtured a deep relationships and it doesn't mean that you have to have the most relationship. But what they learned is that, um, it's quality over quantity. Having a safe you is one or two really meaningful. Deep relationships with either spouse, a family member or just a friend can have a huge impact on your happiness. And a lot of the most oppressed people in the world are isolated from friendships. So on the one hand, we want to stay away from people that are negative, as I already mentioned and that bring us down. We also want to coal debate positive loving relationships, and sister really hits the nail on the head here. I think having a few good friendships, um, having a simple life as a result of mention, uh, you know, you can simply just be happy with your life. We don't need a lot of bells and whistles. You don't need expensive car, expensive house centric. Those are things that feed our egos and help us to shun, compete with others and try to compare ourselves to others. And then it gets reinforced by society. You know what marketing telling us now. You should be happy now. I should be. It doesn't work. That system doesn't work. It doesn't make you happy. And that's maybe maybe if you're in the top 1% in terms of well, and you become super wealthy and powerful, maybe that will make you happy. But the thing is, even even look at somebody like Warren Buffett, who is one of the richest men in the whole entire world. He was a pretty frugal life, sitting on riches. You got like a $300,000 house. He's living in like, 50 years. He knows what he loves to do. He likes to invest. He likes to play bridge. He's got a couple friends and that's it. But he's really, really happy because he's done the work that he likes to do his whole life. He's had a pretty simple let and so despite the fact that he's worth like, whatever 70 billion or $100 billion or whatever it is, he only uses a teeny tiny portion of that money. You know, Green forces the fact that once you have your basic needs met, you know, you got some relationships, you got your help. That should be enough. And if that's not enough, then the problem lies with you and not with the world. I mean, if you're not happy, once you have some good friendships and you know the basic needs that you have to be met, then you haven't learned how to be happy. You haven't learned how to be an artist with your life. Sister also said a gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others. This is something that is constantly being brought up by all types of thinkers, philosophers and writers. You know, the feeling feeling of being grateful for what you have. It sort of generates thing energy within you. You realize that there's so much to be happy about in life. Just the fact that, you know, I already mentioned if you were born with no arms and no legs. Have you lost your hearing? And you lost your your site. I mean, if you're sitting here listening to this and you're healthy, individual or where someone who has a group of brandy of food, I mean, you're literally in the top, like 1 10% of all human beings live right now. Think about all the millions and millions of people in Africa and Asia and throughout the world. I don't have what you have, but we actually don't feel grateful. The media and others make us feel like we never have enough. So what do you need? What do you need to have? Enough, You know, $1,000,000 to make $100 million in the bank. What do you need to have? Enough. But when you realize is that we don't need very much. And once you start to realize that you could be happy right now with what you have right now and not only can you be happy that you could be really grateful for it. And that will change your whole perspective about everything. Another thing. Cicero said, Is that the more laws, but less justice. And this is interesting. You know, we see that the more regulations you have and more laws, you have more rules. We have, the less free we are less free. We feel even though you know the lawmakers, probably they're doing this out of you know what they think is good. This is good intentions, which I keep a safe. We need more rules and you were lost. But laws and rules are predicated on fear. We're fear punishment when we also have to know what the laws are, so increases complexity in society and stuff from America. He's an American reference. You know, the founding fathers of our country. They left the England and they or or the new nation based on actually Greek values, right. We became a republic, were kind of modeling after Greece and Rome, and the whole idea was one of more freedom. We wanted small government, one of fewer laws and the last now in the 21st century. And we have ah, bureaucracy as present Ian as almost any other in the world, maybe a little less so than the you not to offend anybody there out of. But, you know, there's something you said it think about, like, how many rules do you need? People that are going to break the rules? Criminals. They don't care what the laws, anyway, they're gonna break in. About what? Okay, Yeah, We could have stiff punishments. They could go to prison and be taking out of society. But if you're gonna break the law, most people just gonna do it anyway. And good people, whether or not you have good laws or rules, they're going to do the right thing. Anyway, It's like this old business saying where a handshake deal is the only deal that you need because if someone's gonna break a contract, if someone's gonna be dishonest, they're gonna break a contract whether you have it or not, if someone is a good person, they're gonna honor the deal, whether you have a contract or not. So having a contract actually isn't even necessary and having a lot of laws, actually, all it does is it hurts society, and I mean, you may not agree with that. That is something that Cicero said, and I think there's a lot to be learned in that perspective. Okay. And for that, we're gonna jump from a Western philosophy. Teoh. Ancient Eastern philosophy, ancient china and house. Um, on bears a lot of interesting stuff that the Founder of 1000 louse ooh, has to teach us as well. 6. Lesson 5 Taoism: 1000 is this sort of religion that is based mostly on the teachings of one person. Lousy do or it's also spelled and pronounced. Allows say not too much is known about himself that he was like a scholar slash Liberian, ancient China, and he was asked to write some of his teachings down because he was considered to be such a wise person. And he has a lot of a lot of very interesting things that he has said, and actually, he said, a big influence on even modern culture. The jet I order in the Star Wars movies is largely based on towers, and the idea of the force is largely based on cows and mixed in with some other religious ideas. And stuff like that talks about the way, the way of the universe, so sort of universal energy that is at the root of all things. So it's very interesting when things that allows, you said, is that nothing is softer and more flexible than water, yet nothing can resist it personally. He was a big A follower and reader of the house. Ooh, he talked a lot about the qualities of water as l that is bull hard and strong. It's flexible, it adaptable on. And yet you know it could be turned into ice. If you hit it with force, it is is firm. And so weaken, weaken model our cells after water. In our lives, we can accomplish a lot of things, sometimes need to yield and be flexible. Sometimes you need to be firm and strong and then kind of go with the flow. And so talisman has this very sort of analogous nature. Teoh to nature, to the environment, allows You often relates things to the natural way natural rhythms of the world. And so he One thing he said that I really like is that nature does not hurry. Yet everything is accomplished, right? I mean, nature does things very slowly and methodically, but it never it never stops The seasons come and go. The rotation of the Earth and the stars, everything. It's continuous. It never. But I've never heard never rushes. Animals don't hurt. They don't rush. That is live their lives. Naturally, everything is fine. It's just us. Humans try to force them to try to rush things and then we cause all these problems we have violently kill each other. And there's all sort of discord that we for whatever reason, it's a complicated question, right? That's what we study. Philosophy. Why? Why are humans like this? Why are we the way we are? Whatever the case may be, allows Do observed that maybe we could be more like nature and let things just take their natural course. Everything would be better. Lives would be better, he said. By letting go, it all gets done. I recently read a Zen quote that said, Let go or be dragged You know, that's kind of respect what I was saying about You need to learn how to not worry about things beyond our control. If something is gonna happen to you and you can't control it and you have to face up to it and you have to let it happen, we've gotta be kind of tough. Sometimes in life, you know, life's never gonna be easy, even for people you might think it's easy for even for like, you know, successful, wealthy people. They have family members died, they get illnesses, they they have reversal of fortune. Everybody has big challenges in life, and it's important to not compare ourselves to others. Think about only your own life, at least when it comes to you know, worrying or feeling, you know, successful or not successful. We want to think about other people in terms of helping them being kind of them and loving them etcetera. But we don't want to compare ourselves to others and then have self pity. If we feel like somehow we're not a successful or not as good as other people, we need to let go of all that and that could help us a lot. Another thing allows, you said, is that life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them. That only creates sorrow that reality, the reality and let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. And so I think this kind of goes totally against modern society. Right? We're taught to really try to force things we have. You regiments, these plans, we're gonna go to this school. The work of this university of this career, this much money, we're gonna this spouse, we live in this place and we kind of have a preconceived idea about how our lives can go on of course. You know the best laid plans of mice and men. They don't turn out the way that we planned in 99% of the time. So why have so many plans? It's not going to work out that way. You know, Bruce Lee talks about how you know it's okay to have a goal goes off on something to aim at . We aim at some objective, but we don't necessarily have to hit it. We may go way beyond our original objective. We may never actually get to that object. We actually change our objectives along the way because life is spontaneous. Life happens to us. We don't know is gonna happen. I never thought that I was gonna live in Vietnam. I never thought that I was going to be, you know, making a living off the Internet. I never thought that I was going Teoh raise a family and home schooled in, which is what I'm doing. I never thought many, many things that have ended up happening in my life, But I've never been happier because I followed my own pathway. We all have a different pathway and lousy. You would definitely agree with this You know, life should be spontaneous and we don't need to have so many plans. I think animals and trees and nature doesn't have a big master plan. They just are. They exist that live, and everything is OK. It's only a human to try to clean and enforce things that happened there lives and then they don't work out. When we suffer, we suffer because things are different than what we expected. And so, you know, having a lot of expectations, having a lot of plans, you know, they cause suffering most of time because things are never gonna go go exactly the way that we want. Every once a while, things may go the way that we planned. It may work out that way or whatever, but most of time it won't. And so you need it. Once again, you need to let go of that gold, those ideas and just let things be the way they want to be. You may have an idea of what you want to do for your worker for career. That's fine. You may have the type of person that you want to be with in terms of a spouse. That's fine. But don't be so rigid that you can't have any spontaneity. Can't be flexible because all the joy is going to get sucked out of your life. You're gonna suffer a lot. At least that's what allows you thought. Nothing, he said, was that if you realize that all things change, there's nothing you will try to will want you. If you are not afraid of dying, there's nothing you cannot achieve. You know a lot of people that have lost a lot in their lives. They talk about this idea of having nothing to lose. John Edwards, who, actually is it just a disgraced American politician for for infidelity, to a spouse or whatever he one time had interview, though, where he had lost his his child, his son died tragically think it was in a car accident, and some reporter asked him, You know what gives them the courage? Teoh fighting big political battles to run for office because he was really close to being president of United States at one time. And he also was like super successful as a trial attorney or whatever, and his answer was, You know, I lost my son, and once you lose something like that. Once you lose someone you love so much, what else I get? What is a political campaign? What is a career? I mean, there's nothing to lose when you lose something for Riel, you realize that we really don't have much toe lose on the stakes are not that high when it comes to picking jobs, choosing little bit of these things that we fret about endlessly These things that we worry about our life, they're really quite trivial. And that's another reason why I'm always bringing up, you know, comparisons. Like what if you we're born with no arms and no legs Or what if you were blind her death? What if you you know, you lost your Children to illnesses? You realize that our everyday worries are quite trivial. And once you realize that you have no fear of dying, you have no fear of loss. You can really seize the day and live your life. You know, as the Rose said, to dare to live the life that you have imagined face reality and go for it because the worst thing that could happen is what you're gonna lose your money. Who cares? makes him or, you know, you could be disappointed in your venture's gonna fail. Who cares? Try something different. Try something else. Thomas Edison Field. You know, when trying to make the light bulb, like, 10,000 times just trial and error. He just kept trying new stuff. And along the way, he invented, like, thousands of things. So, you know, louse. Ooh. Definitely would agree that we weren't too much. And once you learn that, you know, life is gonna change. Things are gonna happen to you. You can't control it. You let go. Um, you're gonna have a much better life. Probably be a lot happier. And then finally, he said, all streams flow to the sea because it is lower than they are. Humility gives it its power. And there's a lot to be said about about humility. I think I think one of the causes of suffering and modern society is that we're very, very proud. We were proud of our accomplishments. We want to show off our things. Our career accomplishments are our cars or houses were constantly showing could look at me . Look at me. Look at me. And I told you I live in Vietnam, and I find an Asian society, maybe even more so than Western society. I'm not sure it's all modern society at this point, but I see this very intense competition to keep up with the Joneses and flaunt your wealth . People that make only a couple 100 bucks a month in their incomes have $1000 smartphones because the status symbol and you suffer a lot because of this, you know, to be to be humble, to let people go before you to do not try to always be fast, be top. It goes a long way towards giving you peace, you know, Why do we always to strive so hard to be better to be stronger? I mean, by all means accomplish what you want with your life. I mean, I've got goals for my life, but I don't want to always be thinking on better than other people putting myself first. When you do that, it makes you mix ingredients selfish and those air emotions that research shows psychology has taught us actually a tely sta less happiness, and it leads to less well being and more social isolation. So cultivating humility is a really, really powerful thing that goes along with cultivating gratitude. And all of us have something to be grateful floor and always have something to be humble about. And if you can really sort of see that truth, um, you know you'll be a lot better off for it. On next, we will move over to another Eastern philosophy slash religion Buddhism. 7. Lesson 6 Buddhism: so obviously, Buddhism is a well known major religion, but it doesn't differ from the other religions. In many ways, probably the most important way it differs is that it's much more like a philosophy, and it uses a lot of psychology basically, whereas all religions have psychological element in sense of, you know, when you believe in God gives you sort of peaceful feeling, it makes you maybe worry less and things like that. Buddhism directly discusses ways of thinking ways of being and talks about basically, you know, you end up becoming whatever it is that you think about all the time. You really are what your mind is and talks a lot about detachment, um, from things so they will suffer non attachment things like that in his first boat here, it says that happy people build their inner world. I'm happy people blame their outer world. Now this might sound a little bit controversial if you're listening to this in your maybe a typical Westerner who's grown up in a country like the United States, like I did and you might think, well, we can't do anything, sometimes about what the government is doing, what the billionaires and big corporations are doing of the crime of this and that its nest . But because of what's happening around this, the whole point about Buddha is trying to teach people, was trying to teach people when he was alive. Is that no matter what's happening in the world, we can choose to be acting. We could choose to be called. We can choose to be peaceful. No, we could take that away from you. It's one of the lessons Nelson Mandela by already mentioned on. He was literally imprisoned for a huge chunk of his life 27 years, and he found a way by the time he left to be a peaceful, happy person to spy it, literally being in jail for a huge, huge portion of his life. Someone, the lessons of the Buddha is that you could be happy, underprivileged, any circumstances, even even Victor Frankel, whom you may know of who wrote man's search for meaning and is a survivor or was a survivor of concentration camps. He became, ah, psychologists, a researcher, and he developed ah type of therapy called local therapy. But one of the things that he observed while being inside the Nazi death camps was that there were some individuals that even in those circumstances, were able to cope much better than others and even find peace and even find joy. And people that did that, he observed, found joy helping other people, even though no one had anything. What everyone was starving to death there on stuff some people still would share what little we have. Some people would try to comfort others. And so it is in these extreme examples of death camps and starvation. People still chose found a way because of their inner world because of how they felt on the inside, because they choose to believe that they could be relatively happy. Not totally happiest. This is one of the main lesson of booze, and obviously Buddhism has a lot of things teach. I bet a whole entire course on Buddhism, but just to kind of go to the meat of some of the core things that are useful from Buddhism , that we can use in our lives that in the core sort of philosophy, uh, what the Buddha top. We can look at a couple of these major things and they can help us Um really, The major thing that the Buddha had to say was that the root of suffering is attachment human. We suffer a lot. We suffer mostly because of our attachment. Things in our expectations of things is really similar to what some of the Greeks to some of the stoics said. You have no expectations about. Well, your life's gonna be like or especially have really high expectations. Like for Americans. You know, we're told our whole time, childhood, most of us that you could be anything you want to be. You grew up and everything would be wonderful. You can change the world. In America, anything is possible, etcetera, etcetera. And we have really high expectations of the time. We grow up and realize the world we like. We may be really disillusioned, and we're gonna be a disappointment. But we're going to suffer a lot because of that disillusionment. And the Buddha would say, you know, there's no reason to be attached to any anything, Ato. Highest level. We don't need to be attached to things that we're gonna die anyway. So what good is it to spend your whole entire life acquiring stuff, you know? Don't be attached to other people in relationships. You could lose it. Don't be attached. Anything because you lose. If you're attached to your career, your tax, your job, you might lose it. You're gonna suffer a lot. And now a lot of confused by this. They think, Well, I've never attached anything. We're not gonna have any enjoy, either. I'm not gonna care about anything. And I don't think what he's saying is you don't care about anything. It's just that, you know, since you know that you're gonna die first of all, and you know that you are gonna lose eventually. Everything that you have. This is principal impermanence that talks about. Everything is impermanent. Everything changes. And if we understand that, they were kind of OK with that, we're OK with life. We know what we're gonna die. We can live more fully because no, our time is limited. We know that our careers living it we know that a place that we live in is limited in time that we're gonna lose that. We can appreciate it much more because we haven't now whatever it is we're talking about, but it's money, relationships, things, jobs, whatever we have them now and the precious because they're gonna be gone someday. And maybe we're gonna happen for a really long time. In terms of a human life, baby will have whatever we're talking about for decades. But being a tache and then losing something is what causes us suffering. So if you're not attached in the first place, it can learn to be unattached. Toe Danes, people events, at least to some degree because we're very much talked to be attached to things like What I already described is how you know the marketing. His goal is to make it attached to want things, to cling to things so that we want to keep spending our money to buy things, hoping it will fill those voids we have in our life. And of course it doesn't work. And so we have this endless cycle of spending and disappointment. Basically, our societies are literally designed to make us discipline. It's no wonder that everyone is so stressed out and depressed, and they were literally designed to be this way. So, you know, philosophy that that's why I named my course philosophy for the 21st century, because the world is certainly. Now it's different. We didn't have Facebook instagram constant social contact on, um, our smartphones. Innovative, smart bones. Everything was different a long time ago when these philosophers were teaching us. But we're still human, still the same problems. It's just even more difficult now to detach from the culture and from the toxicity around us because we're just so embedded in. And I mean, most people check their phones like, hundreds of times a day. Believe that or not. And I have already mentioned if you watch television for 45 or six hours a day, which is the average for most people. I mean, two generations ago, there was no such thing as television. So what did you do for those six hours a day? You probably did some socializing. Probably discuss it outside. You probably got some exercise. Maybe you play cards with people. Most things that you would have done at that time, probably mawr healthy. Of course, TV compute really powerful tool. Just like any tool. Socially, you could get her to as well if used with awareness and with used with limitations, right? Everything has to have a limitation on it. So without a tigress. But one of the main main points of Buddhism and Buddhist teaching is at the root of suffering. Attachment. Understanding this Chouf will help us a lot in our lives. A little help helps to worry less, but nothing you said it was. The less you worry about what people think less complicated your life becomes. I think this is just so true and a lot of people may already kind of understand it on a basic level. Like don't try to keep up with the Joneses will never be happy, you know, trying to compare your life to others. But if you really take us, take us to its conclusion and learn how to not care at all what people think of you. It is extremely liberating. One of the greatest fears that people have in Dale Carnegie, the gate public speaker and writer taught this is fear of criticism. We worry about what our parents are gonna think. Worry about what our friends are gonna think way even worry about what strangers are gonna think. Which is so ridiculous when people that we don't even really know we worry about what they're gonna think Because humans were these extremely social animals. And so other people around us influence a great deal almost automatically. That's why they say, Be careful who you spend your time around because you are the average of you know, the next five people you spend this time around whether or not that that's actually true. Point is of people around us have a big impact on which is why you need to a boy tops of people that you need to try to be close and build relationships with pure, wholesome, positive people. But overall, you can learn to live your life and not worry about what people think to the point where you literally don't care at all night A little bit, you're gonna have so much peace and you're gonna have such a simpler life needed before you don't worry about what? Where you don't have to worry about what kind of car you gonna buy in terms of what it looks like, Whatever this, of course, you just you know you like style and you want to have something that you love for yourself . It was truly for yourself, right? You don't worry about having some big old house I mean, if the necessary lodging I could make a human being happy are all that's necessary. I mean, you don't need to spend that much on a house or apartment, But I think for me, the main issue is is the place that I'm living in safe and does it have everything that I need? I mean, as long as it's in, like a neighborhood, an area that is safe and maybe, you know, conveniently located two things that that I want. That's all I'm looking for. That's just meat. But I mean, if you look at it with the Buddha Todd stuff, you don't want to go much beyond that because you actually start to call yourself suffering . Sometimes as you become more affluent because you become more desires. Okay, Now I have a lot more money. I'm gonna get a bigger house, came to get a better car, can fill this house with better furniture. It's a very slippery slope. And the problem with these desires is that where they end. I mean, you got billionaires that are depressed and unhappy, and they never feel like they have enough. That's a pretty deep affliction to think about that you got basically unlimited resource is And not only are you not happier than some people that might just have, like, a average income, but you are less happy and have much more anxiety. Now you're probably comparing yourself to other billionaires. Maybe your now famous is you got a deal of being famous. You'll be famous for most people. If you If you listen to celebrities, it is probably more of a curse than it is a blessing. Yes, we're famous. It might be easier to make money and things like that. I mean, honestly, it is, But you listen to them and they feel like prisoners that can be outside. They've got only interact based with other celebrities of the otherwise weird. Everyone wants your autograph. Everyone's take a photo with you. It's really more of a prison than it is something that frees you. So again, the point that boot is making your those is the proportion of which you learn to not worry about what anybody thinks about more free. You are. I personally and always felt when I was a school growing up in America has somewhat of an outcast. But like most people I blended it very well, right? Were really really good at blending in, trying to fit in because you kind of have to have to conform with how you feel on the inside. It looked like other people have sounding other people, and you kind of get by that way. But what if you were just always yourself? You know you're going for job interviews or you go to do something that you used to have to fake it. You need the job said to take you got you know what? What is his job? Do you want from me? And you've got to try to pretend a little bit. You gotta spruced up your resume, make yourself sound also. But what if you literally just always being yourself is going there, be relaxed and just be you? And if the job interview doesn't choose, you don't feel rejected. You just be you just always be you. And the thing is, when you live that way, you're going to find relationships and companies to work for excusing situations that are truly a good fit for you. And so you may it may only be five or 10% of the people that you meet all the places that you that you went might work for. But everything is gonna actually be compatible for you in your life becomes so much more fulfilling. This is what has been happened in my life over the years, as I've slowly integrated these philosophies into my life. It's why I live abroad is why do I do? And it makes all the difference in the world. There's this quote that every loved by Anthony Hopkins, a famous actor who said, I am what I am. I do what I dio and it's none of my business what people think about me, you know, and I accept everything. I expect nothing, and it makes life so much easier. And so I think that really says it all. I mean, he's almost quoting Buddha there when he says that. But of course he just came upon that realization from his old life experience. And it's just so freeing not to worry about what anybody thinks. The Buddha said. The mind is everything. What you think you become, and so this is one of the reasons why in our toxic media culture, when you're watching the news and almost every single thing that comes through the news is negative. It's really, really hard for us not to be negative as society or as an individual. And then, of course, we have our political parties. So way vilify the other political party. They're evil. They vilify are part of the party. I think we're evil. We have this great stratification. They split and it never stops. The force is great for business. Economy does really well, actually, when they're just bored because the media making money off of all the chaos, everything, more advertising dollars spent more money spent. It's a con fine. But as an individual, if you realize what you consumed your mind and the thoughts that you think, they make you who you are and they make you either peaceful or not. And this is why meditation is a really good practice, that you sit in silence and just breathe and just reflect or just be quiet, and it's very calming. It's very peaceful. It lowers your stress levels and you're not consuming a bunch of toxic stuff. I mean, when you gossip, when you shoot the breeze and chat about this, enough of the people. Most of the conversation is negative. If you reflect on that thing to say you talk about or maybe it's meaningless like he was talking about the weather or something. I mean, having meaningless conversations with people that may be having some social contact and having means whether conversations isn't all that. But the point here is that just imagine me to the opposite of everything you fed into your minds of lifting or positive or something that you're passionate about or interested in. If the work you did the job did was something that you were at least interested in, Warren Buffett says. You know, eventually you got to take a job that you like. I don't care what it pays and you might say, Well, he's him, Sammy, he's a billionaire. The thing is, he was not always rich When he was young, he was just really, really interested in finance and numbers and stuff, and he actually, despite the fact that he went and got a master's degree in economics, he could have gone to Wall Street or whatever. He went back to Nebraska, and he just opened up his little fun. He talked to his like parents friends and said, Hey, I'm gonna be investing in the stock market and we're managing a little fun They started out with a small amount of money. It's just that he was extraordinarily talented and yeah, he ended up, you know, being very, very wealthy. But if he was interested in something besides that, he would have done that. And again, he lives in like a very modest for a billionaire. Very, very modest sort of average house, a little above average house. He still lives in it now. And employers, we don't need very much to be happy. If you do what you love in life, you're gonna be happy. And the economic resource is that it takes to do that. It's really not that much and live listening to this, May said. Yeah, well, but that's easy to say. Just think about what you spend your money on. Do you really need 100 channels? Do you really need all those electron ICS? Do you really need to have a two or 3000 square foot house? Do you really need that car that you have? Maybe you can downsize. I mean, really, we spend a lot of things that are not necessary. And if you realize how much we do that because it's a habit or because we're comparing ourselves, either you know, consciously or unconsciously to other people. If you could detach from what people think about you, I mean you could be happy and almost any environment in almost any situation. But we need to learn how to cultivate and prioritize happiness and being free from the trappings of, you know, material. And I think as an American, someone who gets kind of view America from abroad now because I've lived abroad for several years, I view our societies being extraordinarily materialistic. America, all the Western societies isn't in my view, by far the most materialistic and materialism. It does cause us problems. It caused a lot of anxiety, and it was a lot of competition. And we really hard for us about lots of friends back home that they just can't help it. They feel pressure to make money. They compare themselves, others, they never feel like they're very wealthy, even though some of that makes six figures and they still don't feel like they really well off. They were really, really hard, and they never quite get ahead. Addison. This is related to what the Buddhist saying about the line. If you can free your time and you can spend a lot of time thinking about things that are uplifting or doing things that you like, or even just consuming information that you know, makes you have happy thoughts, basically positive thinking. It will do wonders for you, and you've got to cut out all of the rest. This is when one small example is my wife and I never watch for. We don't want any four movies or any scary movies because even though it is entertaining or whatever, and some of them are very well made, some of psychological ones you're pumping his top six stuff in here brain might give you nightmares. It's just not. It's unsettling, right? The reason Watch it is because it's unsettling. It's entertaining. But you gotta think about the stuff that you're putting into your brain and your feeding your brain. This food basically it just like when you want to nourish your body, what do you feed it? You feed fruit and vegetables and healthy things. You're gonna have a healthy body it, Zack. Something with the money. Only the mind is maybe even more important body, because the body could be relatively unhealthy. But how you feel mentally is you more or you wanna have a perfectly fit body. And then he crazy or under duress in line, right? But at least even if your body is not perfectly physically fit. But you're happy, healthy, individual emotionally. Well, then you're gonna have, ah, pretty good life. So this is a really big one. Another thing the Buddhist said was believed nothing. No matter where you read it or homesteaded, no matter if I have said unless it agrees with your old reason in your own common sense. So in other words, like soccer to second question everything. Question everything. I mean, we're human beings. We have the power to analyze and think we should never just listen to something that some, you know, old religious leader or some scholar as Ivory Tower says, because we think they're smarter than us, they know. I don't know. I mean, we're human beings, even if you don't think your super intelligent person we all have intuition. We all have feelings. How does something feel to you, you know, used to follow that intuition and the food is gonna stay in here. Don't even believe what I'm saying to you. It doesn't follow your own common sense of your own reason. You know, like all right, it should be what works for you. This is when the great problem modern society is that we want everyone who can four everything has to come for a lot of education is standardizing exams, standardizing the curriculum's everything. That's saying I'm a teacher by trading and I think I'm a teacher so that I could be a great teacher. I have impact on these kids. When I work in schools, they give you a curriculum that give you the textbooks that give exactly what they want you to do. That they don't want you to deviate from it at all. They prescribed everything, and it's like you don't need to be training a teacher to be able to deliver that curriculum . You're basically just a Thomason and, you know, course human beings, we have great diversity, so it doesn't work. And so, of course, is there strained their stress that's caused by this. And there's a lot of problems is depression. I mean, in some of the schools in which I work right now, over here in Asia, there's these private schools and they're very affluent students. But there's a lot of pressure on these kids to get high marks so they could get good examine stores so they can go to good universities. It's all based on economic support and these very wealthy kids, I feel so bad for them. They're so stressed out they don't get to have a childhood. All they do is study, and there's extraordinary pressure on them because they know their parents are paying a lot of money for the schools. And I just feel so bad for them. And maybe that's a little bit of attending here. But I mean, basically, if you get to choose what to believe you to live your own life and you have some independence of freedom, No, Ralph Waldo Emerson said in his book Self Reliance. You know the independent person is really the free person, but society doesn't want to be independent. Society wants is to be very much dependent on products on the political system, etcetera, etcetera and so you know, after after a lesson like this that I'm going through that's got a lot of information. You know, I urge you to pause and reflect. Think about these things and take your time. And Ah, I hope that some of this stuff will be very, very helpful to you. Maybe it will spark a change. And you can use it in your life, uh, to help you guys out. Okay. And next, we'll take a look at another Eastern philosophy confusions. 8. Lesson 7 Confucius: So Confucius has had a tremendous impact on Asian society to this very day. Confucius was a philosopher and he was a government official, actually in ancient China, right around the time of the Buddha, and he very much was into things like the power of ceremony and ritual. There's love formality in the stuff that can futures taught he talked about the family unit is being the proper basis for society. Many things that he taught are still at the very core of the what the way Asian societies are organized and what a lot of agent people believe. I know this because I live. You know. Vietnam's culture is very similar to Chinese in many ways, and a lot of it is derived kind of a mixed of Confucianism and Buddhism in many ways and horses also some towers that mixed in their asses well, basically, the way we describe it and its history teachers is that China was a cultural heart, and all these satellite countries all around the region, they were deeply influenced by that culture because of you know, wars because of trade and everything else like that, whereas in the West, like right now, you probably look at like America is being cultural art room, you know, we're exporting. Our values are are used to the movies and Hollywood, and, you know, some places I know America has a bad reputation. Actually, Asia has a really good reputation, people still people who really still aspire to live in America, and we look up to American values. That's kind of interesting. But anyway, Confucius a huge, huge impact and he said a lot of really this inciteful things and so we're gonna look at some of the things he said and how they can be useful to us on day. It's interesting to hear the different philosophers and different times say what is essentially the same thing, but put it in a different way, different phrasing. And I like that because the things that they say the kind of rhyme and that kind of coming out of a different culture in time place. But it's essentially teaching us the same lesson. So when Confucius says wherever you go, go with all your heart, he's basically saying be in the present moment, which is what Buddhist I was stoked, said. That's what Seneca was talking about don't worry about the future. You know you'll meet the future of the same tools and with you when we should be present, future will find Don't limit the past. I mean, it's water under the bridge has nothing to do about it. So worrying about it is totally useless elegance. It hurts. Your president makes you not enjoy the present moment. And that's what confusions is saying. Wherever you go, whatever you do, be there completely. Don't be distracted, you know, go with all your heart. If you're gonna be working, just focus on your work. You're gonna be with your family. Focus entirely on your family and this is very, very difficult today because we have so many distractions. And this is why this message of simplicity in general is so useful. If you get too many social media accounts, we got to me bank accounts, you got too many friendships. And a lot of your friendships probably aren't really close friendships, but you're having to communicate with all these people all the time. You've gotta simplify your life because we only have so much attention. Our attention is completely taken up now and we feel stressed out and there's a lot of anxiety we need to simplify. You know, it might be better to stop a few really good friends and maybe stop contact with a lot of other people. This is an example. You know. It's if we make our income in multiple different ways. Maybe we should focus having one or two, maybe income streams or, you know, if you make your money all from one job, that may seem simple, but maybe you hate your job. You need a different job or whatever. But whatever you do in life, try to be there completely. This is one thing that meditation helps again with lock. It helps just to be in the present moment. Enjoy that mold it and I've seen this play out with a lot of really successful people. Like, I remember whatever you think about Hillary Clinton and I don't know. But like one time in the midst of her presidential campaign against Barack Obama, you know she was doing like 45 banks every single day for months, for months at a time, and so most of us would just be extraordinarily burned out. By that, I mean, I don't think I could even imagine working that much in that hard and traveling around non . Stop it. You're killing me. And she seemed, for the most part, because her health issues that she had, um we're in the next election when she was running against, um, Donald Trump. But, uh, one reporter asked, like, how did you do that? How do you go? Just every single day, so hard like this and not break down? And her answer was pretty confusion. Basically, she was like, I only worry about what? Something scheduled for today. I don't think about the next several months. I don't know anything about the next week. I just think what's on the schedule for today and focus on doing, You know, the event that's next has to one thing at a time. And whatever you think about Hillary Clinton, nothing. Those wise words, that's a good way to get through things. Hopefully not only get through thinks that's a good way to enjoy what you're doing now in your life. Another thing I already mentioned, you know, Warren Buffett says about choosing a job you love. Confucius definitely would agree. Choose a job you love, you will never have to work a day in your life. Probably all of us have heard this quote before. But Charlie Munger would say, Warren Buffett's right hand man. He would say, We take a simple idea and we take it seriously. It's nothing fancy what we're trying to dio, but with focus on doing it well. So if you think about that, don't think about how much money it makes. I mean, let's say, for example, you're really happy being a hairdresser. I was actually looking at jobs the other day and being a hairdresser or, you know, someone cuts hair. Whatever is one of the lower paying jobs in society. Think that average is like $20,000 a year, pretty little pink. But if you really happy doing that, you're gonna find a way to live on $20,000. You could be a lot happier than the overworked a lawyer who only went into law because maybe society urge them to do so where their parents, or is that to do so and they're miserable and they're overworked, but they make a six figure salary, maybe even make you know, a seven figure salary. They're gonna be much less happy in the person on $20,000 a year who was a hairdresser. And, honestly, you could make 20 or $30,000 a year go a long way. Even in America, if you don't worry about what people are thinking, you can get a decent used car for a few 1000 bucks. You could rent a decent apartment or house for a few $100. You don't need to have that much money. We have this habit because marketing and the company that there's so effective at brainwashing us, we think we need a lot of clothes, new clothes. We think we need to have a certain car. Otherwise, you know, our friends or people around us will judge us, and maybe there will judge us. And that just tells us we need new friends. We need to be around different people. We need to be around people that will never judge us except, er, you know, in the words of lock picking Jr. Because of the content of our character, not the color of our skin or how much money we make with the car that we drive. If you feel that your friends or family judge you because of your car. This is a really good test. You need new ones that pretty much all it comes down to. We shouldn't have to feel crappy because we don't have expensive stuff means ludicrous. If you think about that ludicrous, our society is insane. And the craziest thing of all is that for people like us who are trying to go in the opposite direction in order to have peace in order to be happy in order not to be a slave do this materialistic society. We are the ones that are either subtly or not so subtly ostracised or felt feel crazy, you know, And it just is really, really weird to society in which we live is really weird. And Krishnamurti my mentioned before Another thing he said, which I really love is he said that being well adjusted to a profoundly sick society is no measure of mental health. We think that if you fit in and you conform to society because everyone accepts you that you're going Teoh, be happy. But the opposite is true. I mean, you fit into society. Society is sick. I mean, you actually not mentally healthy you're just ill along. Everyone else doesn't years crazy along with everyone else. But you feel normal because you're part of this try. You're part of this crazy tribe, basically, and you know, it's a weird thing. Another red one time. It's really useful, I think, is that they said that the reward for conformity is that everybody likes you except yourself. And that's a really, really good one to think about. You know, you do things for other people. You might fit in really well. We might think of this person's the cat's pajamas, but you won't be happy because you're not being yourself. And that's ultimately all that matters. Okay, next, Confucius said. It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. Abraham Lincoln said something similar. Gonna walk slowly, never walk backwards when you are slowly learning over the course of your life, not stopping a year, you know the end of your formal education or when you are slowly getting, you know, more more healthy with your eating habits and exercise routine or your are slowly incorporating. You know the ideas from this course and other good readings on courses that you take your life continually, get better over time, all the weapon till the end. I mean, Warren Buffett, Charlie Munger. They're still working full time in the eighties and nineties in love with they do, despite the fact that they've been billionaires for decades in love what they do, so they just keep doing it. Jerry Seinfeld has been very, very wealthy for a very long time. He's got a show comedians in cars with coffee and whether comedians asked him, Well, how long you gonna do stand up for but still also stand up? He's like he's a chemical woodchuck, woodchuck Chuck Wood. So it was a funny way to put it, but it shoots like you've got your passions. You've got the things you want to do in life. You just gonna keep doing those things. And it doesn't matter how quickly you become successful. Doesn't matter how quickly you require. Well, if that's your goal, what matters is that you doing what you love to do and our time on earth is limited, so we should be spending that time. Well, if you think in your mind well, when I retire, I'll be happier once I have X amount of dollars only happy. Once I have a BCG, I'll be happy. It's not going to work. You need to be happy now. And you're spending your time the way you want to now. And yes, there are economic considerations. Yes, we have to earn a living. Yes, obviously, obviously that goes without saying. But the thing is with it, with a quote like this, it doesn't matter how slowly ago. As long as you don't stop, it may take you a long time to be able to do the work that you wanted to you or even maybe just to do something that you could tolerate. Maybe you hate your job just wanting something that you know that pays the bills and you can tolerate so you can spend the rest of your time, you know, working on whatever is you got to work or doing nothing. Whatever the case may be, Denzel Washington once said, Do what you have to do in order to be able to do what you want to do. And if if we can think about that and we can not worry, worry about what people think about us and we could be patient and go slowly like Confucius is saying, I think that we can pretty much have everything I mean took me about 11 years to kind of designed life that I have right now, which is what I what I want when I want, which is where I get to write books and make horses. And I get to go teach in schools when I want to go and live in a tropical country and travel whenever I want to. And I'm not trying to my own horn here. It took a long time in a lot of work, but I think I I kind of followed this Confucius idea that as long as you're making progress in the direction that you want to go, there's no rush. I mean, you will get there, and the journey is the most important thing anyway, what you learn people that you meet and living your life in an authentic way. You know, there's something that was said in the movie Dances With Wolves to the main character played by Kevin Costner on he was having a conversation with his best friend, you, the medicine mayor and the medicine man said that he sees that you're dancing with wolves, is walking the path of a true human. You know he's walking, He's on. He's on true path because he was being true to himself. He was living out his life the way they wanted to, and our society can make it very, very difficult for us to do this. But if you can see the truth, if you get if you can take in these lessons and kind of let them stew within you, maybe they can lead to some very positive action on your part and help you guys out. I hope so. 9. Lesson 8 The Renaissance: So, just like with these are the topics. The Renaissance is a huge topic, I think the big period history. It's mostly associated with these famous artists like Leonardo and Donatello, Raphael etcetera many, many other artists of the Renaissance with the times and an explosion of of science and art and thought after the Middle Ages, right, we associate a lot of time with Italy with Florence and this time, period, of course, the most famous of all the Renaissance painters. If Leonardo da Vinci, who was much more force that a painter, he was an inventor and philosopher and many things besides and this idea, we see it show up and get it again, he said. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. And, um, you know, Einstein. His groundbreaking, uh, very formula e equals M. C. Squared is too neat little formula, but completely altered our view of what the universe is. Energy is mass times the speed of light square, simple little formula, but has huge, huge implications. The same thing with philosophy, the stuff that we're talking about in this course, you know, Go go with all your heart wherever you go, Don't be attached, you know your life, you know? And you are what you think. These ideas are simple ideas. There's nothing complicated about. And that's the point. Life does not have to be complicated. I mean, you just work backwards from okay? I want to be happy. How should I spend my time? How should I do my work? Who should I associate with those air? Pretty easy problems. Assault. Actually, once you get some clarity and once you kind of cut through all the Bs in our society and and around us, a lot of us have a lot of talks of people around us. We gotta get rid of. A lot of us are consuming a lot of toxic media and ideas. You gotta get out of that environment somehow, especially for some of you and maybe more difficult than others. Whatever community or culture you're embedded within, it may be very, very caustic. And it may even be hard to see how talks it is that you're really used to it. And it's all you've known throughout your entire life. You should know. I mean, there's seven billion people on this planet and growing. There are thousands and thousands of cities and hundreds of countries. There are a lot of communities. It's easier than ever to connect with them now on social media, which I kind of have been vilifying a little bit. But it also is a powerful tool, just like television can be a powerful tool for education if used well. You know, if you watch documentaries, you learn a lot about things. If you live in how much you consume, it could be very, very positive. So everything has its place, right? Eso when I talk about social media, basically is being abused, probably most people, but that doesn't mean it is. It's not valuable, obviously valuable, or wouldn't you still addicting and things like that. But this idea of simplicity shows up again and again by all philosophers and all the religions. If you can find a way to simplify your life again, yoga Nonda, he said, simplify your life. It's amazing how happy you could become Henry David Thoreau, he said. Simplify, simplify, simplify you need. You know a man is rich in order in the amount of things you can afford to let alone. You know if you're wealthy man or one, but your entire day's consumed by business business and managing a company managing a household, managing just all these details all day long. Is that really a happy life? It might be for some people in my suit Dipper salad. Right then, that's the whole point. There's no one life that's best for all. But for most people, you know, simple finally things down so that they're manageable and you use up less cognitive space, it to make fewer decisions. You're gonna be more at peace if you think about people in a tribal indigenous society. They didn't have to make all the decisions they had to hunting it food. They had their community supporting them. They had childcare and heather medicine man. And I'm not saying we should go back to living like the natives, But actually there's a lot to learn anything from the simplicity of their life. And since we do have the benefit of all this knowledge and education and technology, I think that we what we can do is we can sort of take the best that we've learned from native cultures of modern culture, from philosophy, and then sort of discard the rest. Take what's useful and get rid of us, not useful and kind of build a philosophy of happiness that we have all the tools necessary . The problem now is we have over abundance. We have an over abundance of information we have. In some ways, we have an over abundance actually have money to, which sounds kind of crazy. You may be thinkable. I don't have an over abundance of money. There's an interesting thing that John Maynard Keynes, the very famous economist British economist from, like the 19 twenties and thirties, he wrote a lot of stuff that impacted the way that economists think manage economies today . And one of the things he predicted was because of the Industrial Revolution and the rate at which standards of living were increasing at the time. He predicted that by the 19 seventies, you know human beings, and we wouldn't have to work for two or three hours a day because our economy would be so efficient and because of factories and economies of scale technology, everything to be so efficient. And now you might look at that unstable. Obviously, he's wrong because we're working, you know, maybe not more than ever, working a lot more than the last couple of generations did in order to make ends meet. But the thing is, they didn't have smartphones, televisions, the Internet on all these things that we have had fewer articles of clothing to buy. They as subscribe to fewer magazines, newspapers, services, etcetera. They live in smaller dwellings. As I already mentioned, even the 19 fifties was. Just consider this big boom periods big period of huge athletes After World War Two, the size of the average home, I was lifting half of the size of the average home now in America. So we have become accustomed to consuming an extraordinary amount of stuff of services and things compared to just one generation ago. So why we may feel pinched for pennies and you're making minimum wage. United States, you understand. It is really hard to make ends me if you have a family, probably. But in general it shouldn't be so difficult. We just didn't buy so much unnecessary stuff, and one of the first steps you can take that's really helpful is unplugged from the media. Don't watch the news. In other words, don't watch the news, and you're worried about not being informed don't be because you're gonna hear about anything important that happens from people around you. You still live in the U. S or any other western country or anything for that matter, People talking about big events that happen in the news. You're gonna get it just from just listening to It's gonna be all around you. You're not gonna miss anything. We're not watching the news. So other words, you go on information diet. And that's one way to start to simplify your life. And I tell you, it could do you wonders. Um, Francis Bacon was another Renaissance thinking and he said, a little philosophy in Climate Man's mind to atheism. But death and philosophy, bringing men's minds about to religion Does this kind of controversial, I'm sure. And I think it's a little problem now. This word religion and the way it was used in the past compared the associations we have sometimes with organized religion. Now something you could insert a different word. Here you get insert spirit, spirituality or whatever you want here force the universe, whatever. You may disagree with this, but I do think it's interesting upon her a little philosophy incline of the man's mind. Atheism but death and philosophy, Bringing men's minds about to religion It seems like Mawr time we spend reflecting about the nature of existence by the universe, even if you're a scientist of a lot of friends who are biologists and doctors in the Kennedy Ekeus because they think of things such a mechanistic way that what they've learned about the way by all of you worked it just seems so mechanistic. And we know so much now about such small details about how everything works. But that still does not describe first cause. It doesn't describe what caused the universe and all this energy, and it's something to think about. This is something to think about, and I just think useful is your Francis Bacon was really prolific Renaissance thinker. He wrote a lot. I had a lot of big ideas, and I think this is probably true that on some level, most deep philosophers will come back to some feeling of spirit. You know, the so called transcendentalist Henry David Thoreau and Ralph Waldo Emerson. They were very, very spiritual, but they didn't like organized religion. You know, A lot of the stones and the Greeks and Buddha There they were very, very spiritual, but they didn't think about what they were doing when they talked about God. They weren't thinking about organizing some religion and having rituals and having church. That was not the point. The religions sprang up after them by their followers, in many cases many generations later, because they're teaching her so profound. Big considered those those founders themselves to be gods, you know, and Jesus gave. She talked about being gone, stuff like that. But in many cases, like especially with the Buddha and Confucius, they didn't say that they were, you know, extraordinary or God or anything. They were just teachers, human spend their whole entire lives learning and reflecting. And compared to, you know, the peasant class. At the time, they were almost like gods in terms of how much knowledge they had. But any case, obviously, this one to you guys and let you ponder that things really interesting. Next Spinoza, another very, very prolific Renaissance thinker and one of my favorites, he said. All things excellent are as difficult as they are rare, and I think this can solve a lot of problems for us because we have this idea. I think a lot of times in a modern society we want to get rich quick. Like maybe there's Maybe there's a shortcut toe. Well, right, so we read books about it. We find some way we want to get that stock is gonna make us wealthy. Everyone of I Cryptocurrency is gonna make us wealthy. We wanna have a short cut to losing weight and take diet pills or whatever I want. Have a short cut to, um, getting beautiful. We mean we have plastic surgery, but the reality is that all things excellent are as difficult as there are rare. You want to be skilled or something, you have to put in the work and slowly improve at it until you're skilled on whether it's learning a musical instrument or becoming a doctor lawyer. Something's just take times the same thing with investing. Warren Buffett has a really good analogy here, where he says he says some things just take time. I can't produce a baby in one month or getting nine women pregnant, right? You can't force the process of making a baby. It takes nine months. It's the same thing with investing Why? Because investing in a company the stock goes up because that companies burns go up. It takes time for company to sell products itself, mawr things and make more money and have that expansion in the business, which is all a stock is a reflection of. So anything in life is valuable, whether it's your career, your relationships, building well, or just becoming happier. Like reading and learning about philosophy is a process that takes time. But don't be discouraged if it feels slow. I remember when I was first learning beating his language. I remember feeling that extraordinarily slow. I feel like I wasn't making very much progress after I haven't studied it really hard for five or six months. In fact, I was learning very, very rapidly, and I was on the constant, basically, having you know, some fluency with it. I just had to keep going. It just that someone we don't feel that we're making progress is something because you want it to happen so quickly. And when her inside of the effort itself, it seems slow, said he was saving money. When you're saving money, you consume. Okay, I'm saving money for five years and we have X amount of money. The stock market hasn't gone up at all or whatever. You know, whatever you're investing, you have gone up. You have to be patient. That's part of life. And of course, our society teaches the exact opposite. Buy this product. It will solve your problem quickly. Over here in Vietnam, we have all these English English language centers that are big business because everyone's trying to learn English, get better jobs that they speak English. Well, things like that. And they give guarantees like, Oh, you'll be fluent in three months which, of course, is impossible. Um, but they sell it that way. And so we have his bias Fast food faster results fast. Well, and it goes against reality. It goes against nature. And so this Spinoza quote is a really good anchor. I think all things excellent article as they are rare. You've just gotta put it in time. And, um, you know, that may be hard for something you guys to hear, but it's something that you really want in your life. You just wanted to be peaceful and happy, you know, The good news is it doesn't take money it doesn't take anything except for you two. Slow down, Start meditating. Start reflecting on who you are, what you want and over time you'll get there if you, you know, continue to go. Just like Abraham, Lincoln said. I walked slowly but never walked back. Was Abraham Lincoln became president after multiple careers. He worked as a lawyer. He kept a shop. He had lost different handyman jobs and he was a lawyer for a really long time. You become president. Tell uses sixties, I believe. And he was even a politician up until we can present, like he had no political office until then. But he just had a huge network of friends in the legal community, and he was known to be very, very upstanding person for a smart, wise man. Good man. And then circumstances kind of came to it with this new Republican Party, needed a candidate, and he was the first word that they thought off. And he once he became president. And then, of course, of the war happened and he became this great man. It's huge historical figure, but someone like him and many others, their success doesn't come until after a very long period, time of development, of trying different things. Except so patients really is a virtue. And I think it's a lesson that we all need to learn our modern society. Does this No, no service when trying to give us everything quickly. And then now we're gonna jump ahead to the enlighten. 10. Lesson 9 The Enlightenment: so the Enlightenment was another huge period of growth and empirical knowledge. It was an explosion of scientific knowledge, and it had a big impact on the world. Had a big impact on the founding fathers of states at the time. A lot of people don't realize that when the United States broke off from Great Britain, formed our country, the Constitution have been wrote this this new Republican nation. It was the first republic in the world since Rome since the early days of Rome's Is the Greeks on? They modeled it after them in a lot of that, because of the thinking of the Enlightenment of people like John Luck. And actually, the wording in the Declaration of Independence that Thomas Jefferson drafted is really similar to things that John Locke and Rich John Locke talked about life, liberty and property. And Thomas Jefferson wrote Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of happiness. Very, very similar stuff. So it's had a huge impact on the world, and one thing, John Locke said, is reading furnishes the line. Only with materials of knowledge is thinking that makes what we read hours, and this is a big point here. It's somewhat what the Buddha is saying. You know, don't just accept what you hear or what you read gonna think about it. And again, this is a simple idea. Nothing complicated about thinking. But thinking can be hard work. A lot of people don't want to do it. We want to read something. One of some. Expert. Tell us something. Okay, now I know that Check that out. Books. But a lot of experts disagree. I mean, just look at what doctors doctors are very, very, very well trained happen. Doctors often disagree about what we should do for a patient or even the diagnosis of a patient. Or why is it that when you read articles about, let's say, some stop in the stock market? 10 are 10 experts over here. Seo just sell. It's gonna go down. Whatever. And the other experts say the exact opposite thing, although they're all experts, happen to disagree. We need to take the responsibility to think our own original thoughts about any information that comes our way matter where it comes from, especially if it comes from the so called expert, doesn't mean you should trust it. An expert of just someone who spent more time doing something, then you in the case of medicine or law, Yes. They're gonna be very, very, very well trained compared to you with the lay person. That still doesn't mean that everything they say is gospel. Everything they say is right. It just means they've been training is very specialized field. But when it comes to reading about, you know the person that you want to be like that you want to live. I mean, you really need to think deeply about that. You shouldn't conform to what society says. This is the life. Go to college, get a job, get a house, get a car, get a pension, retired. That's the American gene. That's the life. No, that's one idea. That's one version of one way of living. Maybe in the 19 fifties or something when resource is were still more scarce. That were just coming upon this period of of greater affluence, where it was still sort of a novel idea for most people to maybe be able to afford all those things that sounded pretty good. But even then, it doesn't mean it's the right life for everybody, so people don't want a house and have a more. Some people don't want to have a job for 30 years and have a pension. Some people don't want that like everybody is different. That life might be perfect for some people, and it might be horrifying for others. I choose a little brother and I'm happy being an expat. That's not the right life for everybody. A lot of people come in. They visit Vietnam, Ryland, and they really don't like it of the people you love it, such as myself. And so when it comes to anything that we read, you know, really be critical about that is what Socrates talked about. The unexamined life is not worth living, but also question everything. Question. Everything you read. It will make you or intelligent little Nicky less easy to be duped and tricked, and it will strengthen your mind. Benjamin Franklin, he said. An investment in knowledge pays the best interest, and this is why, even still, despite the high cost of university education and lower yields that you get in terms of, like use pure economics, it's still one of the best investments investing education. Now that doesn't mean that university degrees the only type of education that you should get. I mean, even this taking courses on you or other online platforms you need anything that you I can learn from is going to pay dividends. And this again is a simple idea, but happened. Most people don't do what most people think. I don't need a degree. I don't need that education. I was gonna go work. But if you go and get a job that pays whatever $15 an hour, which might be a pretty good starting wave, but you never make more than that, and you could have spent five or even 10 years investing in more knowledge of the end of me , $50 now are $100 or whatever, then it's gonna pay the best inches. But one thing that people often times lead out of the equation is when Bennett Bacon says it pays the best interest. He's not just talking about money, of course. One of the reasons that going to university is very valuable for most people still is that you make a lot of lifelong friendships there. You have a lot of experience. Is there a lot of edifying experiences that happen outside of the classroom. So when you invest in things like traveling, you take a trip to Europe trip around the world. That's a really big expense, something from America. You know, you spent a lot of money on tickets because we're far away from everything. But what is the experience that you're going to get out of extended travel around the world ? It's gonna be very, very enlightening and eye opening for most of us. And so when we think about how to spend our money, we think about investing in assets, buying things toe own. But when it comes to getting the most out of our dollar spent both economically, as well as just for our own happiness and development, investing in knowledge and whatever form usually pays the best interest. So it might be investing books might be investing travel. It might be investing in actual university degree it give me any of these different things . You could also just be learning a trade. Whatever. In general, this is a good idea to have in your mind that investing in yourself and in education is gonna pay a lot of dividends in some form or another for example for me. I learned Vietnamese because I live in Vietnam and it's very different language in a long time. I hear a lot of enemies people wondering why you spending so much time learning this like it's not really that useful. You can't speak being needs to a lot of people outside of this one country. Rather, you learn English or Spanish or French or Chinese even use it all of the rule because of those languages spoken all over the world as a goddess, like learning it, Linus enjoyed being. I will live here and speak a language communicate role of people. But it turns out because of you, to me and other online platforms, I can teach Vietnamese and is an income stream for me. I didn't learn it for that reason, but it's paying interest in multiple, different ways. Saving It's true from a passion for chest, about a lot of chest forces on the Internet, on you, to me and other places, and I never thought I was gonna be taking just as love, Jess. I studied it, play it very seriously for many years, and then I actually ended up profiting from that knowledge I never intended that. But again, an investment in knowledge pays the best interest. As Benjamin Franklin said to us, another Google John Locke, he said, Men's happiness or misery is most part of their own making on again. This might be something that you would say, Well, that's not true. I've had really bad luck in my life. But if you look at people's lives, as I mentioned before, some people are are blind. Some people are missing lives. Some people are named in war. And yet you know Nelson Mandela in prison, right? They find a way to be happy because they realize at some point or another, you can choose how to react to things, even choose your attitude no matter what, we can choose our attitudes. You could learn how to do that. Maybe you never learned that knew that you had no positive influences. Your life maybe didn't have you know your parents and mentor you or you have a teacher's. Whatever the case may be disagree with this. Whatever your circumstances are, I guarantee you there are people that have more difficult circumstances. Victor Franco, who are you talking about? He is a survivor of the Holocaust. He was literally the worst possible situation you could be in as a human being, starving to death, other people starving to death and being tortured about treated in a death camp. And yet he realized in there that in fact, you still have control over your beliefs over your attitude, how you deal with that horrifying situations. Now take this quote this lesson and apply it to a normal life where our main struggles of making a living and having relationships and just being happy and healthy General and I think it's very clearly true that our happiness is mostly part of our own banking. And if we're unhappy, it's mostly in most cases due to us not being skilful now. No, not learning how to be content with our situation and with what we have. Obviously, if you're clinically depressed when you have some very serious psychological condition of, that's not what we're talking about here. We're talking about a normal person in normal circumstances facing little challenges. And when you actually study the life of a lot of really successful people, I mean, we may assume, had an easy life or whatever you see a a lot of hardships, a lot of loss, a lot of really hard knocks of life, almost without exception. But they overcame it, and to some degree or another in some form or another, they realized that their happiness, their success. I was up to that. Now I may not have been born with skill of someone who's gonna become a famous, you know, check the box celebrity actors, singer, athlete, businessman or whatever. But that doesn't mean that I can't be as happy or happier that it isn't. But I can have as good or better of a life than that. We don't need to be rich and famous to be happy and, in fact, received. In many, many cases, those people are not. Why are there so many celebrities die from drug overdoses? If that was the pathway to happiness, every celebrity would be living. You know this happy life and of course, it maybe glitzy and glamorous as we see it on TV appearances obviously could be deceiving. So read John Locke on your own Re the Enlightenment thinkers. Benjamin Franklin had a lot teach. He's obviously famous for being the American statesman that helps Teoh form the country, but he has a lot of writings that really good autobiography. It's called a Poor Richard's Almanac, and you know recently what these guys said in longer forms, and I think that you will you will gain a lot of benefit, as you do, and next we're gonna look at this idea of subjective is a which is a really important idea and philosophy as well. 11. Lesson 10 : so I've chosen the words Objectivism. This is an idea that if you want to actually go to the way that is taught in universities and philosophical philosophy courses, I'm probably not doing it right. But my point here is this is very, very basic idea that has been passed down through the ages by people like Shakespeare, soccer keys and many, many others the Oracle Delfay in ancient Greece. This idea to thy own self be true. And to know that I self because each individual is different, you know? So why should we conform to rigid systems and try to make everyone be the same, whether that be society or a company or school or a church? Wherever social group you belong to whatever club, whatever team you know as in this image here says to ensure a fair selection, you all get the same test. He was all climbed that tree. How can you have a standard test when all of us are different? And this image books, of course, shows different animals. The elephants not going to go climb a tree. The monkey will excel wonderfully at this test. That doesn't mean the monkeys better. It just means the monkeys better is one thing. This is pretty much the problem in many cases, in a larger large agree with modern education. And it's even getting worse as we speak. I spent a lot of time in schools, different types of schools. Well, I'm also a parent, and I've also got a master's degree in education and all these different things and what I see in terms of what we're doing education is just horrifying, basically, which is why I personally choose toe homes for my kids. But this idea that we're all individuals, all different, right? We're all are each individual, unique snowflake as it worth of the way of putting it right. It's true, and this is what all of the different thought systems, philosophies and fingers throughout time I have been teaching us. This is one of the conclusion that they come to, so it's a really, really important to wrap reminds around. And for a lot of fundamentalists, religious people, this is totally against. This is what they believe they believe. That knows there's one way is one best way one got one best religion. We need to conform to that. But the history shows reality shows. That's gonna be a lot of people very unhappy, trying to fit into some system that doesn't fit you. And that's obviously a controversial thing to say for some people. But I think this is one of the deepest lessons of philosophy and knowledge traditions throughout time. Understanding yourself is really the key to being happy, living a good life, making your own choices, being independent. It doesn't mean that you don't care about people around you. You don't care at all about society or your community or your friends or your family. That's not what meat some people might think. That's very, very selfish. What it means is to know yourself and in general, to make choices and be the kind of person that you want to be in the kind of person that you want to be, maybe someone who is very, very involved in the community, in politics, in your company or whatever, but do it in your own way, have your own style. You know, um, it's really important. Subjective ism. Ask these questions. Is there one objective truth? I mean, if I'm right is I mean, everyone else is wrong. If I believe in the Christian God and Jesus and the old test with New Testament. Everything that that says Does that mean everyone else in the world is wrong? And if so, I'm gonna feel pretty proud of myself. My ego is gonna like that. Okay, I'm better than other people. I know more than them. I know it's true. They don't. It causes conflict. Okay, So believing that there's one objective truth and then you're the one that owns that truth is a very dangerous idea. It's caused many of the wars and problems throughout history. How can only one religion be right and all the others be wrong? It doesn't make any sense. What is science have to say about this? Right? If you look at all the tribal, the indigenous tribes, that every single society throughout human history, they all believed in some sort of day, some sort of a god. Now, that doesn't mean that atheists are wrong, either. I have no answer to this question. We all have to find it out for ourselves. So scientists think that we have a gene openness that makes us believe in and 80 because comforted. It's comforting us to know that maybe there's someone watching out for us. That's what a biologist might say. Others say Well, the reason that we search for God is because you know that's our nature is to seek higher power, that the power that we came from, whatever. I don't want to get into a really complicated discussion about religion. But this idea of coming up with your own answers to a large degree with your own worldview , based on your own intuition, based on not only what you I believe you are, but what you want to believe and who you want to be, right. We have a lot of things we can't control because of our d. M. A right, the whole nature versus nurture debate. But we have a lot of things that we can control, how we choose to behave, what we choose to believe. And I think, you know, in my personal life, the turning point for me was when I realized that I could just be myself and I could I could live where I want. I could do the work that I want. I could be my want. And once I learned how to do that be independent. It was extraordinarily liberating. And one of the reasons why I personally like the expat kind of in between cultures. I get to be myself. Nobody cares, no expectations for me. If I go back to my hometown to go back to the States, all the all of a sudden immediately, I feel expectations I should dress a certain way. I should behave a certain way. I think a certain way I should have opinions about this to that other political candidate. Of course, we'll talk about politics nonstop in the U. S. And mine choose something different that just my choice doesn't make it better. Doesn't make it good, doesn't make it bad. It's my choices for me. And if people would make their choices for themselves after a deep search into their own hearts, I think this would solve most of the world's problems. And so this is what the great thing is in the past, says well, know thy self into my own self. Be true. Encourage everyone to read self reliance. That essay by Ralph Waldo Ever since, very, very helpful of these. In my humble opinion, science tells us there are some objective realities, right? We know that evolution is Israel. We know that gravity is riel. We know about atoms and molecules and things like that. So I'm gonna be careful when we choose. What's June? What's not? So we don't get brainwashed myself. Were cold out there. We're not. We're not trying to be Scientologist here, so something's are true. This is the whole point of science is that when you can use the scientific method, have a theory of the test, that theory and then see whether or not it could be reproduced. Something's are true. We know that the Earth is not the centre of the universe. We know some things about the nature of matter. I mentioned Eagles. EMC squared. OK, so when it comes to science, some things are objectively true to a certain degree, right? I mean, even this, though, could be tested. Newton's laws seem to be absolutely irrefutable. Until Einstein came along and said, Well, but on the huge grand scale, the universe on the teeny tiny quantum scale universe, Newton's laws are so helpful anymore. So we're gonna continue to learn more about science. We continue to learn more about the nature of reality some people have suggested were living in a simulation, something that can maybe even to like the Matrix, the film, right? But my point here, being that in terms of our own lives, in terms of our beliefs, in terms of who we want to be sure it's who we are, we could be totally subjective. Basically, we can live our want, whatever makes us happy. But it isn't to say that we can make up our own fast, so philosophy and what it means to live a good life or be happy there almost entirely subjective. There are a few exceptions. What makes you happy is to kill others, right? Happiest thing appears to be a serial killer. Well, that's an exception. But in general, living a good life, that's our choice. We get to choose. The key idea here is to be able to distinguish between what is objectively reality and what is subjectively chosen. What can subjectively be created by ourselves, and I think all of life is really it's a game of finding balance between things. I think politically it's a game of 20 balance. If you're on any extreme, you're gonna see problems when it comes to what you believe philosophically, spiritually. If you believe in some very, very extreme idea, even though it makes you happy, it might cause problems. So I think a new idea here is to be yourself. Know thy sell in a subjective matter, but in a balanced way, it gets a pretty helpful idea. And then the next lesson, we're gonna look at a really good exercise for the deathbed exercise that could be very, very helpful in helping us or internalized. 12. Lesson 11 A Powerful Exercise: In many ways, talking about death is taboo in modern society. We don't want to think about it. The depressing subject. It's a McCobb subject, but the fact the matter is all of us are going to die. And, uh, knowing that is really important thinking about that, maybe even thinking about often was really important because it could help us to prioritized things properly. If you know you're going to die, it makes your time precious. If you know your time is limited, you're probably gonna make different choices. Do you really want to spend most of your existence? You're on earth watching meaningless television shows or talking about your human drama between, he said. She said, You know, that's just it's really a waste of time. If you've got one life, one chance to live it, we should be doesn't mean that you have to be doing something profound and changing the world and being some great leader or anything like that. You don't have to be Mother Teresa, but the point here is that since that time is limited and we can recognize that we can take more care to be kind to cultivate on relationships to tell people that we love that we do love them to make sure that we do the things that we want this life. If you want a traveling to do it, if you want to try some sort of a job or start a company, you should do. If you want to be an artist, you should do it. And some people might see what's not practically all the money. Stop practice. Not practical. Well, really Think about big picture. That not practical thing to do is to live a life that you didn't want because you're gonna wake up at the end your life with a lot of regrets, and it's gonna be sad. OK, that's what we call this the deathbed exercise. When you imagine yourself lying on your deathbed and thinking back type of here, thinking back over your life and thinking about what you would have regretted and what you would have been happy about, what you would have been proud about, most of our petty fears will seem ridiculous. We're looking back over our lives. Things we worry about a day today basis are very trivial, especially money, which, it seems it seems so extremely important because we need it right now to pay for basic things. But when you look back over your life, you realize that we're worried about money, most of us to an extraordinary degree that was totally unnecessary. That's why it's so important to put money in its proper perspective. Once you have your basic needs, met food, water, shelter, money should not be an issue. The reason it isn't issued most of us large. What I've been saying society are materialists are super materialistic. Culture makes you think we need so many things that are absolutely unnecessary and we waste our life. We give away a lot of her life in order to get these unnecessary things. Our obsession with acquiring money and things will be Sicking Lee tribunal when you look back over your life from your deathbed. So I really want you guys to when you finish with this course already finished with this lecture to try to do this, even if it's only for five minutes to think about looking back over your life, what will you have wanted to accomplish or what type of a person would you have wanted to be and just stuck being that person and just start doing those things because, you know, we think it's risky to go after our dreams in life. We think it's unpractical or risky, but in the big scheme of things, it's riskier to not do that because what we're giving up is our life literally giving up our life. And if you can really put that in perspective, I think very, very helpful. And it could be a catalyst kind of this for us to make some changes or catalyst for us to be the kind of person that we want to be usually what was reported by people on the death bed because, of course, has been millions and millions of people throughout time that have been on the death beds and have been talking toe others around them. Usually we regret the things we didn't do. We've got the risks that we didn't take and the experiences we didn't have, things that we thought were too risky at the time. We didn't dio for, you know, all these different reasons. I've got kids, I can I don't have the money. I can't or I'll do it later. Whatever. If you really want to do something. You have to do it now. Now is always the time. Never gonna be the right time. There's never gonna be some perfect time In 10 years, everything will line up. It'll be perfect. No, you have to learn that There's never a good time. You just do it now. You know, when I left the U. S. And came to be a non, I wanted to travel. I want to try something new. I had to quit my job. It was an extraordinary risk. The time it was in the early twenties, maybe I didn't have a lot to lose in terms of a family. But I had no idea it was gonna happen. I mean, I had no idea what was gonna be like, but it was the best decision I ever made. I think a lot of this intellect that you feel some urged intuition to do something or be something. Just do it. It's OK if you make mistakes. Maybe you make a big mistake. Fine. You learn from it, just learn from everything you do. Everything will be OK. Um nobody regrets the things that they did not buy. Where the extra work they did not do right. I don't think anyone on the death bases I wish I would have worked more or I wish I would have made more money. And this may be in some cases, you know, they wish they would have provided better for the Children or something like that of that might be something, but almost nobody, According to all the stuff that I have read about this regrets, you know, working too little or regrets not having bought nicer things. More things, bigger houses. Okay, that stuff's gonna look that you looked at as being absurd when you're looking back over your life and you're about to die all the time and effort and energy we spent accumulating drops, useless, useless stuff. I mean, we have so much stuff that we never giving, use it just absurd. If you think about it clearly, just think about how much stuff you have that you bought didn't use thing with a labor. It took for you to earn those things and then how little you use them. It's really crazy if you can think about it. Clearly, most people regret this is a big one. The relationships that have not fostered people they do not spend time with. People grab not spending more time with their kids or their parents. People regret not visiting the friends mawr. Mostly people regret experiences and people experience that didn't have people. They didn't spend time with those. The biggest regrets and the biggest reason for not doing those things usually is work. And so again, a big part of the solution has to be working less, getting by on fewer resource so that you are more free to. But you want to be to learn things. You want to learn how the experiences you want, toe do the traveling that you want to do and to see the people that you want to see, maybe even is just working on yourself. You know, the philosophers of ancient Greece talk about having leisure time and a lot of the philosophers of the Enlightenment renaissance. They're actually very wealthy, and the reason they're, well, things because that meant they had time to read, to think, to write it, to be philosophers. And so they were privileged. They do it. But some people like Diaa, Ginny's of ancient priest, you know, he chose to be poor on purpose. So we have all this time to just contemplate universe to be happy and to, you know, think about these things. So please take the time to actually do this exercise and think deeply about what you would have wanted. Fear for your life when you're on your death. But this could be a huge game changer and put everything in perspective. All the trivial things that we worry about well almost immediately cease to be important. And you really get some good perspective. Look back over your life, maybe need to do something re figuring, redesigning of how you're living your life and what you're doing. And maybe we'll put you on a better path. Okay, so doing the definite exercise that provides clarity. It helps us see the triviality of most of our fear, desires and prejudices. And it could help become a good long term, help us become a good long term decision maker, and live a life of meaning and satisfaction. So it's one of the best things that you can do yourself, especially if you are scared of thinking we're all gonna die understanding This is really, really important thinking about it even on a daily basis is really important because it helps you think, like, is this really important? But I'm worrying about right now. If you look at the big picture, usually the answer is is no. It's like that, Oh, quote. Don't sweat the small stuff and everything is small stuff. If you really realize that there's no point arguing with your kids, your spouse about most things, there's no point arguing politically about who's right or wrong. You know, you get to go vote, you get to have your say it was more important, arrested, be civil with each other and the kind and be happy. That's more important than thinking that you're right and vilifying somebody else's. It's obviously true on your deathbed, you're gonna look back squabbles. You have this fights you had. They're gonna seem utterly ridiculous to you in the present. They don't seem ridiculous. They seem very, very important because our egos we want right we want to win the argument because I think we need were being a good parent, controlling their kids and making them be the kind of person we want to be on. It's not right you know we want to behave in such a way that we would be very, very proud of. We'll look back our life, and I hope you guys find that to be helpful. And now we're gonna look at something that's kind of interesting with psychology of time. This is a big one for modern society. Time is very limited, and most of us feel rushed. We feel we don't have enough time to do things we're gonna look at, why that is and what we could do about it. 13. Lesson 12 The Psychology of Time: so the psychology of time has become a really important thing for us to think about because it's limited with one resource. Forget it's living. Having a billionaire has the same 24 hours in a day that we have. So if our time is limited, obviously becomes important how we spend that time. But in modern society, as I've already mentioned, we spend in something like five or six hours a day, and it's increasing. Watching television. We spent hours and hours on social media, and then we say I don't have time to exercise. I don't have time to get stuff done And so we need to think about what time is, how we can spend it more wisely and also, um, sort of the tearing of time, having to constantly watching the clock. You have a lot of meetings, a lot of appointments that could be very, very stressful. Always be trying to be on time, right In Western society. We don't want to be late. It's considered very rude, but we have to deal with traffic. Some things are out of our control causes a lot of stress. This is why Krishnamurti Glove quoted a few times throughout the course, he says. Time is a psychological enemy of man. And what I was thinking means by this Get a couple examples. One is that when we lose track of time because we're doing something enjoyable, right? We all know the saying that time flies when you're having fun and a watched pot never boils things like that. Well, those things are getting out a pretty deep truth, which is that usually we're happiest when we lose track of time. If you're doing something that you love and you totally lose track of what time is, it means that you were in with psychologist called State of Float. When you're maybe you're playing music or maybe you're cooking, or maybe you're playing a spore. Maybe you're in a great having great conversation with a friend and you lose all track of time. Oh, my gosh. Four hour just went by. We didn't even notice it. But you're not thinking about what time it is when you're constantly check what time is, it will have to be somewhere. I have to be a working late. This causes a lot of stress, and it's something that we take for granted are so used to it now in our modern culture having to keep track of time. I felt this very, very acutely in my life because I'm a teacher of you work in a school, you're constantly having to worry about how long the lessons you're gonna take, how much time students are gonna have to get things done. I'm sending. We have for breaks, understand? We have prep and things like that. You're constantly watching the clock, and that has a lot of stress. You get used to it because, of course, we humans are very, very adaptable. We can get used to anything. I mean, we can get usedto horrifying lives and just think about people like North Korea right now that are living in an entire police state. A lot of her probably Akkal immune to that, and they're used to it. That doesn't mean that it's good. Were healthy, right? And so, thinking about time, how we spend our time and how we deal with it give me very, very useful. For example, I have chosen not to work as a full time teacher in schools because I have recognised the stress that it causes I would like to have a Mormon open schedule, so I choose to live that way. Now I have to make certain sacrifices to do that right when I worked as a teacher in a school. I have this stability of a guaranteed salary, but there's a cost of that. In my case, I consider to be a cost that isn't worth it. For most people, they anything? Well, I need this ability. Job mostly. That's because in our school system, in our society, we are conditioned to think that way you go to school, you get a job, you work 40 hours a week, you get a pension. That's the plan. That's the pathway. And we don't really question it that much. We'll just start to question, you said realize maybe they're all turning. This is this and some things you may realize that Wow, maybe not only are there alternatives, but this is, uh, a pretty crappy plan. It could be much, much, much better than this s o. It might be well, the first time you really thought about time in this way, but time could be very tyrannical. And when you can live your life mostly in a way when you're not having to think about the time, it really could do a lot of your happiness. Right now, I work on my own and having on schedule, and some days I don't even know. I don't care about what time it is, really. I don't know what time it is that you have a date is like Tuesday's Wednesday. I don't know. I don't care. I don't need to care something. This is one less worry, and this is related to the idea of simplifying your life of simplicity. They don't have to manage your schedule by the minute, about second every single day it can. We're wonders for your mental health and their happiness. It's yet another benefit from old school I to the most woman kids, and therefore we also don't have to follow the clock of the school. Worried about being late, worrying about the small amounts of time to get for recessive play wearing. There's all kinds of things that go into about about that, but just as an introduction to it, you know, Krishnamurti says, Time is a psychological enemy of man, and I think that's kind of what he's getting at the tyranny, having to worry about a thing. It's not just the clock on a daily basis, but we have these pressures on us by society. Feel like, Oh, I'm in my twenties or thirties, actually get married or I should be having kids or, Oh, I've been in this career for this many years. I should be at this stage of my career in my life. We're always checking these things. If I'm on track for retirement or not, how much money do I have to retirement all these things that it adds of burden to us? Why should we be thinking about that? I mean, didn't just people never had to worry about retirement? Never had to worry about being late, being on time never had to worry about. Is this the proper time to be having Children and just live their lives And, yes, an indigenous life. Their life span is much shorter, and they have many, many things that were uncomfortable compared our lives. So again, I'm not saying that you go back and try to live like Native Americans or anything, but there are things that we can learn from the way that humans live in our natural state of things before are complicated civilizations. We can take some very important lessons out of the way they lived. I think this is a good example of how we can do that. So, in a state of nature, we didn't keep such close track of time. We didn't need to. We could live by the sun, moon and stars, right? We had a daily cycle when the sun was up. Okay, we start being active when the sun goes down, where you start getting ready to sleep. And we had this natural cycle, we had a sort of circadian rhythm, you know, keep track. Exactly what time you could tell the okay to midday because of sons roughly in the middle of this guy. So it's about midday. Right now, we have this much time roughly until the end of the day. Later on wants we used candles, you know, way started to keep track of time. Maura, Q B. We have a candlestick time. So you would say if he will be back in the three candles or whatever. Because we knew roughly how long it took for a cannibal down and as civilization has gotten more complicated. We've kept ever greater track of the exact amount of time spent doing things which seems sensible in the modern, complicated economy. Like we have you checked Tie berry How much time they spent on this, because I get paid by the hour, right or I have to work for eight hours or I need it. I need you each of these things with a specific amount of time, and we don't question the burden that puts on us. But if there is a way to lessen that bourbon or in some cases almost extricate yourself from it completely, I can tell you from first hand experience that it can have a huge impact on how you feel having to constantly watch the clock. It creates stress and fear because you were in a moving late. You're worrying about maybe you sometimes being too early, how long you have finished on task and working on eccentric. Such of the examples that I've already given the clock was like a dictator that we created ourselves when our society you can't ever more complex, and now I think it's gone too far. But the clock told the rules over us, and it's interesting to be in a different culture. In Vietnam, they have something called River Band Time, which is that because traffic is often bad here pushing the city, at least on the people schedules are a little bit more loose. Life is a little bit more natural here, I would say, maybe a little bit less sophisticated, way safer Westerners point of view. But one thing that drives a lot of us expats crazy especially, you know, as we are managers and companies we work in his businesses is that the people are off the lake. It drives us crazy. Have you no respect? Why you always late They here They call it Rubber band time and it's because, you know well, we can't control traffic we can't control. You know, having I had to get the kids ready for this. Have this head death. It's but it's But it's concede. Seen in the Vietnamese culture is being okay like you're 20 minutes late. Normally, just everyone is gonna have to wait because, you know, big city people have things to do. They understand that it's not that big of a deal, but for us to get really angry because Western society, if you're 10 or 20 minutes late, you should call ahead and say, Hey, I'm late. But if your you know your motorbike in traffic, it's not very practical. Stop. Get out your phone and call Sam very late. It's just one of these things that I know. This is a big difference, and it's very interesting. They are much less stressed out about time. They're much less worried about always being on time. And it's actually it's ironic that not only do we worry more about being on time, but we also get angry when the Vietnamese people aren't on time. So it's like a double stressor like we want everyone to be on time and we want ourselves of your time. Anyway, I find that to be an interesting example that I have seen firsthand about the psychology of time, how stressful it is. So what can we do about it? We can try to arrange our life so that you don't need to count every second like I already gave the example of not working inside of a school for this very reason. It's it's done wonders for me if you're your own boss. You can control your schedule. Let me. A lot of times we know that once you become your own boss, a lot of working, maybe even more. Then you did when you were employees. But at least you control your schedule. You choose when it take breaks. Teaches went to be in the office or not. You work at 90. Cover up in the morning. You control your time, usually to a very, very large degree. In some cases, you control your time totally. And so the neuro basket helped lessen the burden of time. If you can learn to live up passive income, then that obviously helps. So it's a, for example, the most basic example. The You guys probably don't know this, but you know, if you have a rent a property and your income comes from people paying rent, that's passive income. You don't have to worry about working for those for that time you have. If you're a writer, you can write books or you make all my forces like this one. Then you can work whenever you feel like it. And you don't worry about meetings being on time. You know people are gonna pay for your product on the Internet wherever they are world, whatever time that is. This is something that can that could help doing some job with a flexible schedule of being a kind of give us examples. Writing, being online entrepreneurs, you living off the website something like that, or is being a freelancer When you're a freelancer, let's say you're a graphic designer and you're making money off of what we call like the gig economy, right? So people hire you Internet. They say they want you to create this for them also works for programming any kind of job like that where you're a freelancer, you have a flexible schedule. You can work it whenever you want to, and that frees you in large part, having to be at one particular place and time of every single day. If you work from home in any capacity, on the Internet or on the phone that can, that can help release the burden A lot. Working from home is good because we spend a lot of time in our cars traveling. I mean, we might spend a couple hours a day or more communing that time adds up a lot more about the weeks, months and years. If you calculate how many time, how much time your spending in a vehicle that might be thousands and thousands of hours in our lives that we could get back simply by working from home or teaching our kids at home. So whether or not these things will work for your life or not, there is some ideas and examples ways that we can reduce the psychological burden of time. Another example of you. If you could live off the land rights, some sort of farming or agriculture, you have a small plot of land or you have a large part Plan B, a rancher or you can be, you know, botanist Garden. Live off of what you grow now. You're still not totally independent of time, of course, because now they're gonna be living the natural cycle again. When the plants are ready, when the fruit is ready, then you can eat them. But you are living off of more of a natural cycle on your own land. At your own pace, you're basically you're self employed and you're not having the key as close track of time like, you know, that tomatoes are gonna be done. Eight oclock. I gotta get out there and work on them, right? You wake up, you work on them when you are available, and it's Mormon natural rhythm. So these just some ideas of what we can dio about time and this burden of time. But, um, I encourage you guys to think about that and see if there's any way that you can rearrange your situation so that the tyranny of time is a little bit less burdensome. And with that, we're gonna look at happiness on relationships in the next lesson. 14. Lesson 13 Happiness and Relationships: so a lot of people base their happiness in large part on their relationships or in some cases, their unhappiness. Or a lot of people are very unhappy because it had bad relationships. But they don't also don't one of the single because they're lonely. A. So this is something that's a big part of being human being. We crave love. We need relationships. But sometimes that means we entered heartful relationships for all different kinds of reasons. Then we would come attached Teoh that relationships and therefore we suffer if we want to leave but can't or we break up, didn't want to write. This has caused a lot of a lot of misery of human relationships, and someone will be cleaning to the other. And we never separate because of fear, and then it causes both of us to suffer. So this is something that it is useful to think about. And, uh, consider what can we do about this problem of one of the first things we do is try to choose whom to love based on our shared interests, personality and values. And don't use him. The love solely based on looks, sexual attraction, etcetera. There may be somebody that you know there's a chemistry there and have a passionate sexual relationship, and that's the main reason why you enter into this relationship. But in the long term, those things will fade. It's just the way that it ISS and again today. The things that keep you guys of loving each other are gonna be your shared interests, shared values and the way that you guys get along with each other, the initial animal chemical attraction of 90% of time. That will fade in some cases. Maybe it won't. But if that's the sole reason you guys together, you're still going to have big problems. So there's really no way that I could get course about about happiness about philosophy and not get into this problem of human relationships. Another thing that a lot of people do is that they choose to love based on their profession , right, Although shared interests are a good thing, Toe have doesn't use makes sense in terms of love to you, for you to choose your mate based on what it is that they do. For example, I was told a number of years ago by one of my mentors was actually my my partner slash boss at the time in the business and for some reason we were talking about relationships. They said, You know, bring. I think that you would be happiest with another professionally need, a professional woman, someone well educated. And of course, that sounds sensible. If you're a certain person doing certain type of work or whatever, you think, that would make a compatible match. But thing is, it's not a job interview. The person that I want. It used to be my partner for life. It's not someone that has been open to check certain boxes and say, Okay, same level of education, same level of success, same beliefs That's not what it's about. Love is different. And so I think for most people, if we choose our partner based on a combination of our values being the same on our interest, being the same, of course, is probably gonna happen to some some level of physical attraction there. But the more important thing in the long run are gonna be your values and your interests, because most the time you know you guys are going to spend time together. What do you want to go, do you're gonna want to go do similar things. And if you guys don't enjoy similar things, you're not gonna wanna be wanting to do the same things together. You're spending all your time apart. It's not gonna work now. This may sound like common sense, but one of the biggest reasons for human unhappiness is poor relationships. And so, as simple less on this may sound. Obviously, most of you know length ships are anything but simple, so hopefully this can provide a little bit of giants. So the two biggest correlate er's to good long term relationships are having some of values . What you believe about, you know how to behave was good. What is ethical things like that and having similar interests over time. Those things are predictors of positive relationships. Research shows this. My own situation shows this, and I think that it's just common sense. Um, Khalil Gibran, famous writer, said, If you love someone, let them go. But they come back to you, they're yours. And if they don't, they never were. Thing is a really important lesson here that's related to the Buddhist said about not clinging about non attachment when it comes to love, I usually love someone and I guess the right way. For lack of a better wording. You can let them go because you want them to be happy no matter what, whether they're with you or not. If you're only happy with that person being with you, then you're clinging to them and something is wrong there. You're lacking something within yourself. If you're not happy without that other person in your life, we should be able to be happy independently, whether or not we have a significant other or not, whether not were low or not, we should have the ability within us. We should cultivated the ability to be happy individuals. And that's of course, is all about. That's what philosophy is all about. I mean velocities a love of with them. And of course, if we have wisdom, we're going Teoh have a sense of well being and sense of happiness. Otherwise, what good is what good is being wise if it doesn't help us be happy in our own life, right. And if we're dependent on having a significant other in order to have that, well, then we're not wise. It's not true happiness because we're in need of something that is not always gonna be there on DSO. I like this quote. You know, we need to be able to let go. We want to have a love in our lives that that person shoes is something else we need to let go if they come back, what they choose to be with us than and that's a good measure, I guess of true love for lack of a better word. So something to think about So in love, justice with life. Just with all this other stuff that we've been learning about scores you have to learn to let go even with, you know, with the Children. We love our Children so deeply. I myself have two kids that young. I can't imagine the day that you know when they want to move out and live on the road with their adults, that's gonna happen. I have to learn to let go. To some degree, they're not gonna be my little babies anymore and something that we all have to deal with. What most people do is we try not to deal with it. We tried Teoh just put it off, Put off that thought for another day. But just like with the deathbed exercise, when you face it, the problem actually starts to be resolved When you realize OK, this is an impermanent situation. I have my kids with me for a certain amount of time, and then they're gonna They're gonna fly the coop as it worked. And so that means that the time here is precious. Maybe I want to yell at them a little bit less. And if you want to be a little bit kinder to that, maybe we want to give them a little more freedom or whatever. But it can put things in perspective for you to let go preconceived ideas about the future of who you should be about how society sees you. You can choose your relationships better instead of thinking about what will people think about this person that I've chosen just Onley thinking about what will make you happy and what will make that other person happy? This goes along with what we were talking about earlier about not worrying about will think about you, the fear of criticism. All of these different ideas are related to each other and could be applied to different aspects of your life because we're talking about our work. We're talking about our relationships. We're talking about our individual satisfaction with life, all these ideas, simplicity and letting go and the psychology of time centric center. These are all related, and they're all applicable in different ways. So if we kind of get used to using all of these, I think of them as tools in our daily life. They started to solve a lot of the problems that we've created that we have in our lives, and our life just keeps getting better. We get happier. That's like that. That natural end result of learning about these philosophical tools. You know, you let go of results and live based on your choices, choosing what work to do because you enjoy choosing to spend your time with because you share values and interests choosing. Wanna live because you actually want to live there? Not just because that's where you were born, or that's because that's where you got a job and you're afraid to go somewhere. New independence and a happy life in large part of the philosophers Tell us, and I agree comes with us having free will and making free choices. And, of course, if you're gonna have a partner, they all obviously need to have their own free will in their own choices to, which means we need to give them the freedom to do what they want and we need to be able to let go. In life. The ability to let go is a powerful, powerful Billy. Whether it means letting go money, sometimes letting go relationship, sometimes letting go. That job that you had for a long time maybe letting go some idea about what your future is going to be like right? We all have these plans. I plan to be a lawyer. I plan to be a teacher. I plan to be rich. I plan to be an astronaut. It doesn't work out that way. Life tells a different story. Life gives you different options. And not only is that okay, but that is great because we don't want a life to be that predictable. Anyway, do me, don't we want to have a life that is interesting. We say variety is the spice of life for me. I'm gonna try and lots of different things. I don't want to have lots of different jobs. I'm not want to live in lots of places for now, I like to live. We're on that right now. I could do what I'm doing right now, but that doesn't mean that it's gonna be forever. I only have a few decades left, and I want to dio what I want at that time. So I think especially with the way technology is changing, everything in society is changing so rapidly. We need to be flexible, and it's okay to change your mind. So, Teoh, change your career, you know, do what makes you happy. That's what it's all about. And you could be happy without any reason at all. Just thinking about Children. Children are happy for no reason. They want to play, but they want to explore the world. They want to ask Mommy getting. Why about a floral daughter? She's a live any wife. She wants to know she's secure. She's an eight week period. She doesn't do it because she's gonna get a great Well, because she's gonna get a money reward for doing it. She wants to paint because she wants to paint she wants to play with Play Doh, but she wants to play with doing things just for their own sake. She achieves a state of flow when she plays. She doesn't have to worry about times. Doesn't care what time it is. Just they have all that long of a letter. So in some ways we could learn a lot of Children that some ways we can learn a lot from indigenous people. And in some ways we can learn a lot from a modern society from what we know about science, from what we know of from study of religions and philosophy throughout time from history, I mean, the more broad based our education is more open. We are to learn from from all different experiences in life and from all sources, the better off we will be. And I think this is very, very true in relationships. We have to learn not to cling and not to be afraid of losing those that we love is kind of paradoxical. But the more that we learn to let go in life, it seems like the more we actually get to keep it allows you the palest founder, he said. all truth of paradoxical, and I think that's true. Paradoxically, I think that's true and you let go. You give more. When you're frugal, you get wealthier. You know, when you're kind and generous and give more, you actually get more back. That's the way the universe seems to work. And it's kind of things idea of karma. Maybe not the direct karma Buddhism, where you're gonna come back each in each reincarnation and have a better life. Although that may be true, I just think that the way the universe works, there's cause and effect in play. When you live a certain way, we mostly meaning when you learn to let go, things have expectations, not a preconceived ideas and just live naturally. Things come to you whether that's the law of attraction, whether it's karma, I don't know. But it seems to be the message or one of the core messages of what the greatest thinkers throughout history throughout time, in place from Asia, Teoh, Middle East to the ancient Greeks to modern times have to teach us so a lot that we can learn from that. And I hope that in a small way of this course helps you guys to incorporate some of these lessons into your life. And with that, we're gonna next turn Teoh the former happiest that coast through achievement. 15. Lesson 14 Happiness Through Achievement: So, in addition to achieve instead of flow and focusing on human relationships and things like that, a lot of people get a large portion of the happiness through their achievements. Usually we think of achievements as things like professional achievements, making money or gaining prestige or accomplishing something that was difficult to accomplish. Right now, I will say here that again, everyone's different, right? It goes back to will be learned about knowing myself. Some people achievement might be the primarily primary way in which you gain happiness or you feel good about your life. Other people might be relationships, other meatball people. It might be a cheating flow through their art or work or whatever eso, whatever. Wherever you fall on this spectrum. Uh oh, which category gives you the most satisfaction? You have to decide for yourself, but especially for modern times, especially in the West, a lot of people feel happy because their achievements accomplishing things might be academic. It might be business success, career success, eccentricities definitely worth exploring, Uh, this whole idea so which even drives some people to push themselves, and it leaves a deep satisfaction when the difficult goal is achieved. We feel like we did something that is worthwhile and it makes us feel strong. It makes us feel that we are worthy when we work hard to get that degree or we work hard to make money. And we worked hard to get to get a level higher in our career. It feels that they would get this satisfaction from it. I think an important thing here is to make sure that the satisfaction that we're getting from it, though it comes from ourselves and what we actually want a lot of time, achievement, something get become empty achievements because we're only trying to achieve that to satisfy our parents are satisfied society or maybe your friends. And then the achievement is hollow because we get it to go home. Well, I did that. I'm still not happy. Why is that? Society says I should be This is very confusing and we become disillusions. We want to make sure that if we are basing our happiness in part on our achievements in some cases, in large part on our achievements, that we have freely chosen those achievements ourselves and they were Children to us by others, which in most cases I think is actually what happens. Our achievements are chosen by our parents or our society, and that is a problem. Everyone is different, so each type of happiness were more suitable to each individual based on the personality as I already mentioned. Some are driven by achievement, others injectables relationships, others of German to thrive through an activity that allows them to achieve flow. So I want you to think about this for yourself. What types of achievement, or what types of activities tend to give you the most satisfaction and then focus on those . It's a simple is that if you happiest when you're doing some activity, well, then you're gonna achieve happiness through that Are whether it means literally art, like painting or music, or whether it means, you know, cooking or your business or your job, your job. Your work can definitely art. You know. It's your craft, as it were on. You're gonna identify that, then you're good to go. If you get most of your happiness through being social and through your relationships, your friendships, well, then you know that's when you can focus on, and then if you're highly you know what we call right type A personality. You get a lot of your satisfaction through achievement in your work in your job and just do sort of like advancement in your career will. Then, you know, understanding that about yourself is really important. Achievement also allows you to look back over your life with satisfaction. We did the deathbed exercise. We look back at our regrets when you've achieved a lot of things, their life for most people, that gives you a deep, long lasting satisfaction. I know for myself I look back with satisfaction on the fact that I have achieved a certain level of education. I've had a certain things that I've done in my career, and I'm happy all those things that were difficult things. And I finished with those parts of my career, those parts of my education on Now I've got new things that I want to achieve, and I get satisfaction that I know that about myself. For me personally, I like to have a balance. I like to achieve things in my career. I like to achieve things financially, electric chief things in my relationship I'm sort of a jack of all trades. I'm sort of someone that seeks to balance. That's not true for everyone. So we're gonna get much more satisfaction just from one category. So again you got it introspect and feel what is best for you and then focused in that area . When a goal is difficult to achieve or takes a long time, to realize years with satisfaction is more deeply felt. That's why winning the lottery, for example, it causes a little satisfaction after the initial euphoria of suddenly being rich because you didn't earn anything, you know how it ends up causing more problems than you had to begin with. I mean, study after study shows that nine out of 10 people, which is really hard to believe, that win the lottery and worse off than they were before, like five or 10 years after it, because people come out of the woodwork wanting money from them and of squandering it. What happens a lot of times, it turns out, is that people become wealthy based on this pure luck, right win the lottery and they realize that actually doesn't solve their problems. They have money now, OK, it's solved their money problems in some cases. Some case is, it actually doesn't because they squander it, but it doesn't actually give him happiness. Happiness is something that we have to cultivate within ourselves and all of a sudden, it being rich, it doesn't actually do the job. So it's a very interesting thing. Think about. But when you become wealthy over time because you've been saving and investing, working hard, sacrificing to get higher levels of education or whatever, Now that's well that you earned. And so it feels different. It's a different Teoh achieve and earn something it doesn't have it given to you. It's like saying easy, come easy, go right if you get somewhere. So if you inherit $100,000 you're gonna probably feel pretty happy about that. But you're gonna spend it easily and you didn't accomplish anything, So it's gonna be You're probably gonna be happy, but it's gonna fade away. But if you work for years to accumulate $100,000 through saving and investing, you're gonna feel very good about that, usually because it took hard work and you understand the sacrifice that was made. You made a trade to get it. Basically, when we achieve something, we're we're trading our time and our energy and really retraining part of our life for thing that we've achieved. So I think that's why it's gratifying. But also we want to be very careful that since we're trading our life for retreating, are scarce. Time to achieve things we definitely want. Make sure that's worthwhile and that we have chosen them freely and they weren't chosen for us. That goes back to this Spinoza quote from earlier. All things excellent are as difficult as they are rare. Something was easy to achieve. The satisfaction from it is generally going to be Les. This is one of the great problems with modern society the promise of products and services that they're going to give us this quick fixes shortcut. You know, this promotion, you save money, Okay, something was free or there's a promotion. But you have to wait in line long to get it. That takes time or, you know, you get plastic surgery, but you spend money on that and you're taking a risk by cutting your body open. And then it still may not solve the problem that you had. You may not like the way you look after the plastic surgery, you know, or do you think diet pills or some other exercise regimen And you know it gives you may be short term results, but it doesn't solve the problem of you having bad eating habits and not exercising on a regular basis. I mean, I think basic common sense goes a long way in making us happy and making us wise. You know, it's like bedroom, Finger said. Early to sleep early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise there. I don't think there are any shortcuts, you know, you simply have Teoh do the work and and wait for the results. But the good news is when you learn that lesson you can get, get focused on doing the actual work that you want to do with your life and be very satisfied with the achievements that you gain. So I think there's a lot to be said through, um, the gratification that comes from working hard and achieving something. But there's no shortcuts against one of the big lessons, and in the next lesson, we're gonna look at happiness in the present moment, which reports the theme as of our dimension that comes up over and over again through all the great SAGES and teachers throughout time, 16. Lesson 15 Happiness in the Present Moment: So during the lecture on Confucius, he said, Wherever you go, go all your heart. The Buddha talked about being in the present moment, not worrying about the past. The future Jesus talks about knowing about the past or the future, and this is a really, really powerful lesson that could be really hard, especially for a modern Western person to grasp. It kind of goes against with, Yeah, what were top talkto? Worry a lot about the future, Make plans, achieve goals. The last lecture we just talked about achievement so happened to things co exist. How can we achieve things their life and get that satisfaction, working hard and earning things, but then also having a focused on the present moment again? I think it goes back to finding balance. We want to focus on. The president would be happy about today, live in day tight compartments right where we don't worry about the future. But that doesn't mean we can't work toward something. So it's his balance. You gotta find where you kind of hold 22 ideas in your mind. At the same time, pretty much all religious traditions emphasize living in the present moment and giving no thought to tomorrow. That's how Jesus put it when were fully present. Were not worrying about the future or stewing over regrets about the past. And so it is very liberated, and we feel like we're not going to be checking time either. So we talked about being instead of flow, talked about psychology of time at noon here in the present moment, not really worried about what time it is. You're not worried about things that may or may not happen in the future. As you're basically at peace. When you're in, the president will focus on what you're doing. You're at peace, and when you're at peace, we're happy. It's a simple of that. And so, like with everything else we've been talking about, it's simple, but it's not easy. It could be difficult, but the idea itself is not complicated. And when you are completely focused on what we're doing, we could achieve that flow state again like a child, maybe, like an indigenous person who is only focused on simple things, getting their food, you know, maybe dancing around the fire, I don't know. And just being part of the tribe living their normal daily like it's simple, it's natural. And this is one reason why meditation is such a healthy activity is it teaches us to quiet online, down no worry and be in the present moment. Invitation was taught by the Buddha and lots of the Eastern traditions. And now Western medicine is coming round, seeing the benefits of meditation and describing it to people that are stressed out and have anxiety. And it's even being used in schools. In the more forward thinking schools. Teoh help kids be calm and it works really, really well. So you can even incorporate literally as little as five minutes of meditation into your day . Maybe in the morning you start your day, it could have significant positive effects. Um, you know, think about animals. Animals don't worry about the future. You know, Birds, dogs. You know any animal? Obviously they're living in the president. They're locked into the president. Animals don't worry. Even though they could literally be eaten or killed at any moment that dogs lower. I Q. Does not stop him from being content in each moment. Dogs happy. If he's around his master and he's got food, you know, that's that's all he worries about. So again, we don't want to be like animals effect that we humans. It gives us these higher order thinking skills, and that's great. It also has drawbacks. And we have a lot that we can learn from looking at Children from looking at indigenous societies and looking at animals and how they live. They don't worry about anything, and they live in a way that is natural. So I think the more that we can incorporate that attitude that were being into our lives, I think that's one of the big messages of the movie. Forrest Gump, right? With Tom Hanks, won best picture that year sometime in the 19 nineties. He wasn't very smart, but he was Ernest. He was sincere. He followed his intuition like you just did wherever he felt like he just kept on running right. But he ended up having an extraordinary life. He had deep relationships and had a really good life despite the fact that he was below average intelligence. Hey, didn't think about feature at all, right, because he was basically to dump Dio. He only focused on what it is that he was doing. It made him amazing ping Pong player. It made an extraordinarily brave in war. And so I think there's a lot of messages to be taken out of that movie, and that's kind of like what I'm getting at when I give you these examples about animals, indigenous people and Children. So in the modern culture in which we live, we think a lot about being intelligent, being smart, being successful. And in many ways those very things are the things that make us less happy, causes anxiety and cause us to worry because we are focused on this fixed results that we really want to get. You know, we're learning a lot except gold hit those goals. And if we don't hit the goals of the set, were disappointed because you've got a preconceived idea about something that we want to do . Of course, the natural world is not going to conform to what you want all the time. In fact, it will rarely turn out exactly how you wanted it to. So that doesn't mean that we don't aim for something. We can aim to achieve things weaken, get gratification from achieving those things, but just be prepared tohave the path be different than you expected and learn to let go and just enjoy the process. You will be a lot better up by doing that. Evolution caused humans to be intelligent because it helped us to survive and reintroduce. Okay, this may no longer actually be helping us all that much. We don't need to be super smart in order to be happy now that we have our survival mawr less guaranteed or at least more easily attained of than ever before in human history. I think it's time to turn back the clock a little bit on our modes of thought and our behaviours and sort simplify our lives to a degree that is practical, right? We don't necessarily want to go live out the florist on our own like that, like a native anymore. We probably wouldn't survive very long. Most of us if we did that. But to the degree that we that we can incorporate simplicity into our lives, you know, cut out the tyranny of of time of the clock. Um, make sure that we choose relationships that are meaningful. Make sure that we choose work that is suitable and meaningful for us. Aziz you incorporate these things in your life over time, you're going to feel your well being increased. You're gonna feel word joy. You're gonna feel less stress and, um, just sort of, like usually the laws of the universe. This is what the greatest thinkers throughout time learned. And that was what our society right now seems to be very, very effective at cutting off from us and actually causing us to be the exact opposite of what we should be, which is just content is happy. Our modern capitalistic society, for all the wealth that it has given us rights is another paradox. The reason we have such a heist that are living in large part is because of this free market economy. But this free market economy, maybe it's gone too far. We've gotten to the point now where everything is a product, everything is based on commerce, and, um, maybe we need to tone it back a little bit. Then we need to rein it in a little bit. I think that there's something to that idea, so find ways to slow down live in the present moment, do activities that you enjoy our sports music games whatever it is for you, this kind of a thing helps incorporated in here. Do you schedule Try to live in some ways more like a child, you know, do things that are just fun lived through play. This helps if you like playing video games like playing sports. These things can can help be more like and under a bird, and just let each moment comes as it will. This can help a little bit. Learn to reject the fear and conformity of school of society. This can help a great deal letting go of your criticism of what people will think, how you proceed but simply just be yourself all the time. That means be yourself in a job. Be yourself when you are on a date. Be yourself when you're at home for yourself. When you're a tamal, be yourself in every different situation in which you find yourself. This is very difficult to do, you know, Do you continue to be yourself in a world that is conflict, trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. I think that's Ralph Waldo Emerson said that one as well. I'm obviously I've read a lot of his stuff. I think that's true. It really hard to always be yourself. In our modern society, you want to be successful. We feel that we have to conform. Do the company or to what? The interviewer wants it to what this potential partner wants. But it's not gonna give you happiness to constantly be changing ur depending on the environment that you're in, if you learn where you want to be, who you or who you are, and then you're always that person, it may cause you to sacrifice some things. In fact, it's certainly will. You're gonna have not have some relationships you have before. Maybe you're not going to offer some jobs that you have got offered, but you don't want those things anyway because they weren't good mash for you. You want the things in life that are gonna be long lasting, and they're gonna be a good match for you. And so simply being yourself a simple as that sounds Oh, I think we all can agree that it's it's hard to do all the time, but you get practice in doing it. It will go a very, very long way and making you happier person. Next, we're gonna look specifically a happiness in the flow state that we've mentioned the several times throughout the course. 17. Lesson 17 Philosophy for 21st Century Conclusion: I want to start this concluding lesson with a little quote similar for the probe. A sign of the beginning of the course about fear. This one says happiness is a virtue, not it's reward. And this is by Spinoza, who was one of the Enlightenment thinkers that we learned about. And I think we have a backwards mostly in modern times. We think that if we do A B and C than the result will be happiness or as what the great thing of the past have actually learned is that it's the exact opposite we choose to be happy is happiness is an emotion. It's not the result of things we do, although maybe sometimes of those things help. We talked about states of float like my relationships and all these other things, but usually we will. We will get those other things. They will be drawn to us because of our emotional statement, our emotional state of happiness and eso. Happiness is it's like a skill. It's something you can learn Toby without having to have things. I mean, the evidence of this is really clear when again you look at people who are deaf and blind but are happy or have no arms and no legs were happy or live in 1/3 World country. But they're they're happy, despite the fact that they're they're poor or there il They're happy now all poor people aren't happy, and all people with these afflictions that I just mentioned aren't happy. But the thing is, is we know that they can be so it's a skill People in the Holocaust could be relatively at peace, despite the fact that there literally starving to death, being tortured to death in the worst possible environment that you can have on this earth. So happiness is something that we can learn. It's a skill that we can learn, and there may be a genetic component to it. There may be huge obstacles in your life, but relatively speaking, you can increase your levels of joy and happiness by learning how to do so. You don't need a reason to be happy. The reason to be happy and simply be that you exist, that you're a human being, that you were lucky enough to be born with this brain that can think and in a time where we have extraordinary abundance, relative to previous times. One of the reasons I love reading history is to appreciate what we have now. We may feel poor and we may see stuff in the news. It says, you know, real wages, air going down. We're working more than we have been generations. Everyone's stressed out about not having enough. But in reality, if you look at 99.9% of human history, we are living in a time of extraordinary abundance. It's just that the bar keeps going up every time we have a new invention. Every time there's something mawr toe by, we we start consuming more were just consuming more than ever before. Really, if you're assuming at the same rate of someone from the 19 twenties, you and feel wealthy. But they didn't have all of the stuff that we have to buy, it's just healthy, nourishing food and shelter that you need, including right then that is a easily, easily met threshold. I mean, if you buy used clothes, you read use books, you have the Internet and you have enough food to nourish the body and stuff like that. You do not need much money, and if you can achieve that, doing something you love and having wholesome relationships. Well, then, what more can you ask for? You know, an American that makes $30,000 a year is in the top 1% of worldwide incomes, so we are a lot wealthier than we think. But we need to learn how to see it clearly and not compare ourselves only to people who have more than us. Having the attitude of gratitude helps having Millie helps all the things that we've learned about in the course. You kind of combine all these together, and what you have is a sort of a cocktail for for peace, for well being, for happiness. And you know, it's hard to immediately drop, switch and change your life as you start to apply this stuff to your life. You will start seeing the benefits, and over time you will see riel long lasting change. And that's what it's all about. So I heard you to turn off the news. Watch much, much less news. Don't worry about not knowing what's going on in the world. You can't avoid knowing the big things that are going on in the world. You hear them from people around you. You will see them in headlines. When you just walking around literally, the information will get in your brain. That problem now is information over abundance. You need to learn how to turn some of that stuff off. Or if you really want to be happy, turn almost all of it off. Find a way to do work that you enjoy. You'll never work again in your life. Whatever it pays, you gotta find a way to make that be enough because you're you will benefit from your life , will benefit from you, will be happier. And for some of you, this may be a revelation is facing totally impractical. But please, I urge you just take the first step to start exploring those possibilities. Who knows where it will lead? Find something that maybe gives you into the flow state. After a lot of practice, you can achieve a state of flow doing pretty much even if you never become a professional doing activity that gives you into a state of flow. Maybe you could find a way to just make a living doing something that is tolerable, like the burger flipping story guy and then spend all the rest of your time achieving a state of flow in the activity that you love. It doesn't have to be your profession. Sky's the limit for thinking outside the box here. There's no limitations. It doesn't matter what other people society doing what matters is what will make you happy . That's all that matters. And 75 year Harvard study remember it found that people who nurture their relationships were the happiest of all the people. This is the longest study that had ever been done on happiness. It's a Harvard study coming from, you know, one of the top it not the number one University Research University, the entire planet. And the results were very, very strong, that the happiest people in the study of time, of thousands of thousands of people that they watched through most of their whole lives the ones that had good relationships, will be with friends or with their family. They had good, wholesome relationship. So that's, you know, your introvert. You know, that doesn't mean that you can't have good relations. You only need to have one or two. Do you have a big impact? Have someone that you can trust someone you can confide in, somebody to love and who loves you. It's quality over quantity. This is one research shows, and I think it is also what common sense would lead us to. And I have Ah, Voltaire quote here that says, I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death Your right to say he's talking about freedom. We have the freedom. We should other freedom in a modern society to live, how we want to live, being who we won't be to say what we want to say, anything, what we want to think. So some of the stuff you know, it takes courage to change, especially if you are living in an environment that is very different than what you actually want to yourself. We gotta find a way to dig deep into ourselves and find that courage to make those changes . Another quote by Benjamin Franklin, who I really I really like Teoh. Listen to, to read his stuff and think about, he said. Do you love life? If you do, the Indian not squander time for That's the stuff life is made of when you go and spend eight hours every single day doing a job that you dislike or maybe even disdain. You are just destroying your health, destroying your happiness, destroying your life. We only have so many days and hours of life. Let's not make that trade. Don't make that trade anymore. And again, the initial reaction for most people when they hear that a state. But I have to make a living or I have kids. I have to make a living. Yes, that is true, that goes without saying, but you can probably reduce your expenses. In most cases, you can probably reduce your expenses, like in half if you really look at what's necessary and what's not necessary. And most jobs, even a middle wage job in the United States, which is lower than most other places of, is probably sufficient for most people. If you if you truly look at what you need and what you don't need, and if you find something that you like to do, the money is not going to be that important. It's a big transition for a lot of us. We've been brainwashed and condition pretty hard from birth. Do you want certain things. I think we need certain things. But once you can take a step back and in a moment of clarity, realized that most of its unnecessary think that solves a lot of the problem on another long term study found that in the US, after about $7000 a year in income for household money, did not add anything to happen. So people did seem to be happier. The more money they had, basically until all of their basic needs were met and then maybe like a little bit extra. So in this case, have $70,000 per year in household income. So if you make less than that, maybe maybe you are struggling. It will take more creativity and more skill of in terms of how you live. Teoh. Be happy. But this is, you know, this is an average. Just remember that this isn't necessarily means will apply to you. Some people are very, very happy with their with a lot less with very little dial. Ginny's is the extreme example from Greece. I think I already mentioned early in the course he was admired by none other than Alexander the Great because he had heard about him. You heard that he lives on the streets and he went and he saw Diaa Ginny's bathing, and it's a really good story. Alexander looked down from his big elephant that he was writing on his way to some theatre of war to go conquer into the land. And he was so impressed by the reputation by Argenis when he first showed up, he says, the diabetes, he said, Your reputation precedes you. I will grant you one wish, anything that you could desire. What will it be? And actually simply said, Get out of my light? Because Alexander was blocking the son that he was enjoying at the moment. And Alexander was so impressed by by that that he didn't want anything else except with sunlight that he already had. Who is content with so little that Alexander reportedly said, as they had relieving Val Ginny's, uh, place. He said that I could be anyone other than Alexander. I would be die allergies, and so it just shows you that way. We can indeed be content with very little in terms of a financial resource is and, you know, learn to relax, you know, the anxiety of modern society. It's literally killing us. Time for us to slow down, take a step back and just learn to live one day at a time. You know, if you don't have enough money to retire right now, that shouldn't cause a panic attack. You know, start saving Mawr, make some changes and just try to enjoy the present moment and try to enjoy. Today the future will take care of itself. Are you literally killing yourself by worried they'd be better right of money, but not be experiencing chronic stress that it would be to worry and have anxiety your whole life. But be financially solvent because your health is what it's suffering. In the latter case, I learned to have a Warren Buffett calls an inner scorecard. It means don't compare yourself to others. Keep track of you know how well you are, achieving what you wanted to do with your life and who you wanted to be or who you want to be. Now, as long as you're living the life that you chose, then you are successful. In some cases, you may be extraordinarily successful relative to people like billionaires and others who seem to have the perfect life but in fact are suffering or are addicted to substances or are depressed or whatever. We don't know what other people's lives like. We don't know what it's like a walk in their shoes A lot of wealthy, rich, famous people died from drug overdoses and suicides, so obviously that is not solving the problem for them. I think some of the things that we've learned in this past Consol the problem for us. And, you know, one of the biggest causes of stress of all is envy. Uhm, and another one is the fear of criticism, fear, criticism. You can learn not to worry. It will think about you and not to care how much other people have compared to you that's gonna solve a huge part of the problem right there. So, please, I encourage you guys to think over everything that we covered in this course, thinking over it deeply. Don't just reject it out of hand. If it goes against what you have have been taught or what you believe right now, try to be open to these maybe so new ideas and start applying them into your life and see what the results can be for you and, of course, encourage you to ask questions or at comments and the discussion board. And I'm really happy to get comments and interact with everyone in the course. I can usually do so within 24 48 hours. So thank you guys for being in the course and good luck with your life. And I hope you found some value in the content of this course. 18. Lesson 16 Happiness in the Flow State: Now it's time to turn to this idea of happiness in the flow of state. Achieving a state of flow is how many individuals primarily find happiness. This would be any skill, high level of skill. Usually in an activity like our or cooking or sports or your work, any activity. You even be an activity like just talking about the people. Maybe you just love socialising a really sociable person. When you're talking with people, you achieve a state of flow. You lose all track of time. Basically, you know, you're in a state of flow when you are doing something. You're so focused on dure enjoying it so much that you lose track of time. Ideally, we would want to have all forms of happiness think although a lot of us will tend to gravitate towards one. High achievers get most of their feeling well being in happiness from achieving things artists are others might get most of their happiness from getting into a state of flow. Some people drive most of their happiness from their relationships and their families, etcetera. So we all have some sort of combination of these different forms of happiness. But most of us will add enough I with or gain most of our happiness from one or two of these states of flow. I think for me personally, I definitely think I have a pretty equal balance. There are times I get to the flow State. I definitely drive a lot of my joy for my relations with my family. I also like to achieve things, So I think I'm pretty sort of equal balance between the two. But a lot of people, you know, all of our makeups are gonna be different again. Doesn't have to be your work or something that is serious or difficult, like becoming an expert in music or sports. You can achieve a state of flow doing anything you can achieve a state of flow just going for a nice, peaceful walk, playing with your Children, cooking, even washing the dishes, you know, So it don't get into this idea that you have to be some master in something to achieve a state of flow in meditation. Whole point of people meditating is that you're in a way achieving a state of flow like concentrating on your breathing and concentrating on being calm by by letting your thoughts sort of flow on their own and eventually slow down. You're achieving a state of flow and you'll oftentimes lose track of time. And that's really what life is all about. When life is flowing, you lose track of time. So obviously, this is related to the earlier lesson about the psychology of time. When you lose track of time, you're in the present moment when you're in the present moment. As most great thinkers throughout time have said, that's basically the ultimate experience being in the present moment, because when you're in the present moment being in a state of flow, when you've lost track of time, you are not worrying. You don't have any anxiety. You are are not experiencing stress. You're not experiencing fear. You are engaged in some activity, and the and the ideal activity probably would have something to do with love. Being in love with someone in a relationship or being in love with TV that you're doing. Maybe it's just being in love with yourself. Maybe you achieve a state of flow and lose track of time in meditation or just being alone . And once you can identify the activities or the states that make you the happiest or that make you achieve a state of flow, then you're really on to something. And of course, in modern society, this is very difficult for a lot of the reasons that we've already looked at in. The courts were constantly being extracted, were constantly being told to conform. You're constantly being told that you got, you know, maybe only a handful of choices in terms of what worked to Dio. What kind of attitude to have. We're live eccentric? Centra List goes on. We never get trained. We never learn to truly be ourselves to truly live a life that is come grew int on all levels with who we are and who we want to be. This is something that Gandhi said Gandhi defined happiness as being When what you think, say and do are all in agreement. If you can truly be yourself in all different situations, whether you're in a board room, whether you're out on the lake, whether you're at home with your family, you're just being yourself when you're doing your work. When you're playing your sports when you're washing dishes, but you're in a conversation, especially when you're in an environment where the people around you have different personalities or different energy than you, or when you're in a work environment where people have different personalities of different energy than you. But you can still be yourself. It goes back to what Ralph Waldo Emerson said when he says that the greatest accomplishment is to be yourself when the world's constantly trying to make you something else. So all of these, I'm really just kind of finding, um, in explaining all these different forms of the flow state or all these different avenues to get into a flow state. Remember not to put limits on yourself so and a good example of the flow state is people getting lost in art or sports or whatever some activity, but that those are just examples. There's really no limitation or no single form of what the flow state could be for. You could simply be listening to these videos or reading a book could get you into the flow . State could be watching a movie, hopefully a really good movie that touches you emotionally on some level, or that you learned something from on some level on one of the problems with with television is That's very passive, and it's very easy to abuse. It's just like a drug right now. Things like marijuana course alcohol. I've always alcohol has always been legal, but it's very easy to abuse whether or not we should or shouldn't consume any intoxicant at all. That's definitely gonna be up for debate, right and personal preferences. But we gotta be really careful about anything that we do. That is television that's so powerful, how it could be abused spending too much time. Reading can actually be bad. Spending too much time on social media can be bad, so we're always trying to seek about. But if you find something that is active that gets you into a flow state, you're gonna have ah, really, really high threshold for what eyes going to be abuse. For example, if you're doing some sort of art like music or painting or whatever, you should be able to spend, you know most of your day doing that and you're probably not abusing him because it makes you so happy. But then you can go to the extremes like Van Gogh, you know, famously lost his mind he said, You know, trying to paint light or whatever. So some of the artists have gone to the extremes that they paid. The price has gone crazy, or, I think, in his case, to even his, uh is he neglected his kid and the kid like starved or something like that. But the point is, any of these things could be of use. But when your flow state doing something positive on the threshold for abuses really high, whereas the threshold reviews with drugs or television or Facebook or whatever is much, much lower and be very, very careful with some of those things. So with practice, any of us can achieve a flow state without having to do any special activity again. Washing dishes is a good example. Even Bill Gates, the richest man in the world or one of the richest man in the world. He definitely doesn't need to ever wash dishes, but he finds it relaxing. He finds it calming, and so some 90 washing dishes, and maybe he gets into a nice bit of flow. While I was doing that kind of his mind, Wander, he could concentrate on thinking about whatever it is that he wants to think about. I just recently heard a story about a famous author. A brilliant man can remember the guy's name, but he spent a couple of years flipping burgers at a fast food chain because he wanted to have the time to think so that he could write. And, um but he needed I also have a little bit of income to at least pay his bills. And so you figured Well, um, you even making minimum wage or slightly above minimum wage as long as I can pay my bills. But I can spend most of the time while I'm earning that money thinking, because what I'm doing is very easy. You know, flipping burgers is a repetitive, simple, passed and nothing like micromanage very much at all. Then I will have the ability Teoh focus on my art focus on my writing. And so he found a way to get into a flow state and think about his books and his riding all day long and get paid to do so essentially because his task was mindless. That's just a you know, another example. There's lots of different examples. Don't limit yourself so you can achieve flow while driving, washing dishes, reading, meditating anything and all flow states. They're essentially a form of meditation. What a flow state is is. It's a form of meditation where you lose track of time and essentially you are at peace. I mean, ultimately, the reason we do anything is for happiness, or it's for peace. And so anything that gets you into that state is, ah, what we should all be trying to do. Basically, if you have to goto work eight hours a day, or mawr, you know, every week, day of your life, except for maybe a little bit of vacation here and there you are trading on extraordinary amount of value, your actual life, the time of your life for something that you don't even want to do. So, even though we all need to make an income if there's any way at all. And for most of us, that, actually is if we could start to explore ourselves and kind of go within and follow our feelings, if there's any way at all that you can pay your bills, maybe by reducing your expenses to an extraordinary degree for a while to make a living and also spend most your time doing something that allows you achieve of state of flow. Then that's what will probably make you happiest. That doesn't mean that we all have a calling a lot of people that didn't get the stress because there's a lot of pressure them from society to find your calling I'm supposed to be avoid are supposed to be a future or my calling is this or that. Maybe some of us don't have a calling, but that doesn't mean that we can be happy and achieve flow in our life. Our flow might come from just living and not having not have anything to do with working. All we could do with that. The guy in the story didn't find something that pays his bills so we could spend his time while he's at work and outside of work, actually working on his passion. So someone we have to be creative and some of them to think outside the box. But society again doesn't help us very much with this, and so sometimes the thing to do the prescription is to have some isolation for some time. House of Solitude, in fact, I know that's a solution for most people. We need to have some solitude so that we could really figure out who we are and who we want to be, how we can achieve the states of flow. More often, I mean, meditation is now recommended by doctors and supported by scientific Western medicine as a way to reduce stress and blood pressure. Increased longevity and generally support all around well being. Used to be looked at as some weird eastern religious Buddhist, you know, mumbo jumbo. But now we know that it has very positive effects on our health because it reduces anxiety , reduces stress, and it calmed us down. And of course, the reason that stress is bad for us chronic stress is because, uh of the cortisol levels in our body, it causes disease, and it leads to problems. So fixes type of here. So we know it has value, and it's not just, you know, because it feels good. Do it. It has actual health, tangible help, benefits. So it's obviously worth doing, and all this stuff is worth exploring. I mean, we're it's our life. We're talking about talking with one life that we get And so you know how to achieve a state of flow. That's wonderful. I hope this reinforces that and do more of that. And you don't yet know Never stop searching until you can find whatever it is in your life . It helps you achieve the state of flow. And you'll know, because whenever you're doing that activity, you'll lose track of time. That is the way to know. And we're gonna conclude the course with one final summary lesson about what we've been going through.