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Personal Communication-Introduce Yourself With Confidence

TJ Walker, Public Speaking and Media Training Expert

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9 Lessons (35m)
    • 1. How to Introduce Yourself Promo

      0:32
    • 2. How to Introduce Yourself Intro

      3:14
    • 3. How to Introduce Yourself What NOT to Do

      3:47
    • 4. How to Introduce Yourself The Right Way

      8:40
    • 5. How to Introduce Yourself 1st Video Rehearsal

      1:51
    • 6. How to Introduce Yourself 2nd video Rehearsal

      1:26
    • 7. How to Introduce Yourself 3rd Rehearsal

      5:21
    • 8. How to Introduce Yourself Friend Feedback

      3:17
    • 9. How to Introduce Yourself Conclusion

      6:38

About This Class

You can appear confident and memorable when introducing yourself in business and networking events

Imagine that every time you introduce yourself, you know you are coming across as completely confident, comfortable and memorable. You will never again have to worry about what to say or how you come across.

How to Introduce Yourself

In this "How to Introduce Yourself" course you will learn how to avoid the awkwardness and tediousness displayed when many people introduce themselves. You will be taught how to appear to be confident, comfortable and relaxed when standing to introduce yourself, and you will know how to say something interesting and memorable to the other people in the room. Once you learn these skills, you won't just appear to be confident; you actually will be confident. Your days of being nervous and uncomfortable about the prospect of introducing yourself will soon be over.

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TJ Walker has more than 100,000 course enrollments from more than 14,000 online students around the globe.

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“TJ Walker's single-minded devotion to presentation has made him the #1 expert for executives seeking guidance on speaking to the public and media." Bob Bowdon, Anchor/Reporter, Bloomberg Television

“TJ Walker is the leading media trainer in the world." Stu Miller, Viacom News Producer

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Transcripts

1. How to Introduce Yourself Promo: do you get nervous when you go to a networking meeting or association meeting and everyone's asked to stand up and introduce themselves for 30 seconds? It sounds simple, but if you're like a lot of people, you're nervous. You're uncomfortable. You're not quite sure if you're saying anything interesting or memorable If you look or sound stupid? Well, guess what. You're not alone. It may sound simple and trivial, but how to introduce yourself is an important skill, and that's what you're going to learn in this class, so please sign up now. 2. How to Introduce Yourself Intro: we've all been there that trade association meeting that Chamber of Commerce meeting where the host is OK. Before we start, let's all stand up and just introduce ourselves for 30 seconds. It seems simple, it seems casual. No one's asking you to give a big keynote speech, and still our heart is racing. What'll I say what I showed you were not even listening to the other. People were thinking about what to say. Now, if you've ever experienced that, you know exactly what I'm talking about here. The reality when it comes to simple introduction speeches, there's three possible outcomes for every single introduction speech you give to yourself, Number one make an awful impression. You're stammering, your tongue tied. You can't say anything. You're Paolo. I'm so nervous. You say something stupid, inarticulate. That happens every once in a while. I could think it maybe three times in my life, but that's pretty rare. Chances are that you're really not gonna do that. The second option is you say something. It's interesting. It's memorable. People want to come up to you afterwards, introduced themselves to you, give you their card. That's great. That's an ideal scenario that also doesn't happen very often, but that's what you're gonna learn. How to dio after we finished this course. The third option is you. Stand up. Hello. My name is Bob. I am with Bubble Blower Company. We do bubble butt and brought and then you sit down and the result is nobody remembers anything. They don't remember your name. They don't remember the name of your law firm, your company or your organization, and they don't remember what you do. You just sounded like Charlie Charlie Brown's teacher. Why? I want, want, want, want. It's all generic stuff. That's the real danger for most of us. It's lost opportunity. It's not that we give a bad impression or horrible pressure. People see our hands shaking. The real danger is we make no impression at all. We've taken time away from our family, friends, other activities to go across town to some meeting possibly two, possibly three hours out of your evening or day or lunchtime to meet people to try to advance our organization, make new contacts and we blew it. That's just not a good idea. So I'm gonna teach you exactly how to do this and this is a brief course, folks, as we only have to prepare a 32nd speech. But make make no mistake about it. This is a speech. That's why you're nervous about it. Are uncomfortable with public speaking, is the number one fear. People have so standing up, even sitting down on its share in a circle with eight other people. Introducing yourself is a type of public speaking. That's why people get nervous. That's why we need a plan. That's why we need to rehearse, and that's what we're going to do right now. 3. How to Introduce Yourself What NOT to Do: So here's how I would introduce myself if I were introducing myself the way most people introduced themselves at networking events and professional associations. Ty I'm T. J. Walker. I'm president Media Training worldwide. I founded the company and started training in 1984 and I provide a whole array of professional training services, including public speaking, media training, crisis communications. I've written numerous books on the subject, and I really appreciate being here today in meeting all of you. That's how most people introduce themselves. And you know what? It's awful. It's boring. What's wrong with the way introduced myself there? Well, I started off and everything I said is about me and it was born. I started off with mining. Well, nobody at this stage of the relationship cares about my name. They don't care about your name, either. I gave my title. No one really cares about title. I talked about me, me, me, me. When I started my firm way back with why in the world I think anyone would care about that . It's boring. It's unmemorable. Now. If I gave an introduction just like that, nobody would be thinking, Wow, that guy's awful. That's horrible. That's boring. Well, he seemed. I don't think it would generate that sort of reaction. The reaction it would generate is, Did it? Did it done thinking about what I'm going to say next? I don't even know what this guy you would. It would create a response of nothing. And that's our real danger. Here, folks are danger is not breaking out with flop sweat, fainting and having to be carted out of the room. The real danger we have when we're coming up with our introduction speech is that it's just so boring. Nobody remembers it even two seconds later, and no one has a reason to come meet you. So that's what you don't want In a moment. I'm gonna tell you the right way. I'm gonna demonstrate the right way. But I need you have a firm mental image of what not to do. Don't start with your name, your rank, your title, the history of your company and an abstract list of services. That's what most people do. I can tell you how many times I've been to a chamber of commerce event or other networking event, and some lawyer will stand up my name is this they? My firm is Cheatham and Dewey and how and Bubba. But we do all the array of services of litigation civil, criminal, and it sounds exactly like every single lawyer you've ever heard talking about a midsize or large firm. There's absolutely no differentiation there. Nothing interesting. It's all generic. Generic is your enemy. When you're introducing yourself, people don't remember it. And let's clarify your goal again is not to get through the introduction. Your goal was not to embarrass people. Embarrass yourself in the introduction. Your goal is to have people remember something about you. Have something to talk about later. Have a reason to come up to you. Give you their cards, daughter conversation. That is the goal of a self introduction. So let's be very clear on that. So keep in mind what not to do. I'm gonna tell you what to do in just a moment. 4. How to Introduce Yourself The Right Way: So I've showed you the wrong way of introducing yourself. Let me demonstrate. Not the perfect way. There's a lot of different ways you could do it, but let me introduce to you how I introduce myself. So person next to me has just sat down its mountain. Now my turn. Here's how I would do it. Imagine The New York Times calls you today wants to interview you about your business and they talk to you for 20 minutes. Are you absolutely confident that the one or two quotes you're going to get tomorrow are going to make you look good and are what you want? Hi, I'm T. J Walker and I teach people how to speak to the media to get the results that they want. If you give me a business card at the end of the meeting, I will give you a free copy of my book. Media training. A dizzy That's it. That is how I introduced myself. If I'm at a typical business meeting, Speaker's conference trade association or a chamber of commerce, and everyone has asked to go around 20 or 30 seconds introduced themselves now is that spellbinding oratory and everyone's gonna be. Oh, wow. He's the best speaker ever know. But there are a number of things about that introduction that work that work for me and can work for you. For starters, I didn't start with my name. Me, me, me, me. I started. By the way, that whole introduction was less than 30 seconds. You could go back in time it right now. It wasn't long, but I didn't start with the obvious by saying my name because everybody starts with their name. Instead, I focused on the audience said, Imagine you are called by The New York Times today. People can visualize that to talk about your business. I'm talking about the audience, not may. Basic speakers tip of public speaking. Anytime you talk about your audience rather than yourself, you're winning. People care about themselves more than they care about you. The speaker. So that's the first principle. I talked about the audience. They introduced a problem that actually created a little emotion. It's nerve racking to think Wow, The New York Times is calling me. They're talking to me. What are those quotes gonna be? Oh, my gosh. I don't want to look like a fool. Anyone who's ever been interviewed has had that experience where I don't really know what quotes were going to go in this story. So I introduced a problem, Ah, problem that people could relate to and likely had some emotions surrounding because whether it's happened on them, it's happened to a close friend, family member, a colleague at work where there was an interview. They weren't quite sure how it would turn out. So I talked about them and introduce a problem. Has a particular setting situation a conflict involved they have feeling about? But then I introduce the solution. I teach people how to solve that problem, to get the quotes they want in the story. And then I have a very specific solution. I will give you my book media training, a dizzy at no charge. So I've introduced the problem. I've introduced the solution and I've introduced a solution that costs nothing. I'm not asking them to whip out a checkbook or a credit card, so I don't seem self serving. And now I have given people an excuse to come up to me. Hi, T J. Nice to meet you. Here's my card. Love to take a look at that book. So now we have a conversation. They remember what I do again, If you remember from our first lecture, I said, the biggest challenge when you're introducing yourself is getting people to remember anything about what it is you do now. This works for me. I'm not saying you have to say it exactly like Ideo, but the basic formula of focus on need people having how you solve it rather in a specific format rather than saying something. I'm a communications consultant, and I help people all aspects of communication training. That's why I could have said it Abstract born. But by giving a particular example of imagine, you are called today by The New York Times. They're interviewing you about your business, has not abstract. People can visualize that they can taste. They can touch it. So if you're an employment lawyer to just stand up and say I'm with the firm of blank blank blank and we help people all aspects of of employment law boring an abstract instead to stand up and say What if you walked in tomorrow and your most troublesome employee was gone ? But there was a note saying, I'll see you in court. How would you feel what that gets People's attention, then mentioned your name and how you help people solve those employment issues that would get a lot more attack. Now I don't want to sound like it always has to be dramatic or cheesy or anything artificial, but the basic focuses. How do you help people in a specific manner? That's the first part. That's the hook. The second part is giving people something of value that I realize not everyone is a writer , But I do think if you try hard, you should be able to come up with something that's useful. It could be top 10 tips for reducing your your taxes If you are a small business owner working from home, you're the local Chamber of Commerce event specifically for small businesses. You could put together a one pager with quick tips if you are a C P. A. And that might be something that people would then come up to you and say, Yeah, I would like that. Can you send it to me? It starts a conversation. It starts connecting you with substance with this other person rather than here's just another generic face. Ah, getting it over the cheese plate and the bar. What did this person do again? So that's my recommendation to figure out how you can talk about what you do through the eyes of someone in the audience. The hook. The second part. What is an easy way, an unthreatened on threatening way for people to come up to you? If it's just if you have any questions about how you can keep from being sued for sexual harassment because you're that might be too intimidating people to come up and ask you for questions the beauty of having some product, a video. But all these products are virtual. I'm not lugging around a big stack of books with me. I'm emailing people a. PdF, a digital version of the book, so there's no extra cost for May. So that's what I recommend you do come up with something. A video on online course like this one could be a perfect giveaway, but it could be a simple as a top 10 list to put on your refrigerator of how to reduce your recycling waste if you want to. Something simple and focused that is perceived of have some value where people don't have to talk to you for a long time. Just hey, that thing you mentioned about giving away I'm interested, sent it to me. Now you've got their car. I'm not suggesting you spam them forever and be sending them emails all the time, but it just it helps of the connection. You can now ask more about what they dio. You can see if this is a good possible business connection. Cultural connection, personal connection. So that's my challenge for you. Now, I want you to come up with an introduction for yourself where you're talking about the audience, asking them to imagine something in their life and how you saw it. And then I want you to think about something you can give them. So think about that right now. 5. How to Introduce Yourself 1st Video Rehearsal: okay, I've been easy on you so far. Now is the part you're not going toe like, but it's the most important part of this entire course. I need you to grab your cell phone or any other video camera, and I need you to practice your introduction right now, and you got to capture it on video. I know you don't want Oh, I don't like my voice TJ and my hair's toe. Guess what? Everyone in that room that you're introducing yourself to has to hear your voice. They have to see your face. So you're not hiding anything with them. You're only hiding from yourself, so you gotta bite the bullet you got. Nobody likes to do this. Nobody likes the sound of their own voice. It's the only way to be supremely confident when you're introducing yourself. It's the only way to know if you're being too soft. If you're playing with your ring finger or if you're rocking back and four, you've got to do it on video. So no more dithering. Do not fast forward the video to the next lesson. Don't just sort of kick back and scan. This course is a complete utter waste of time. If you don't follow this step, in fact, canceled and he asked for your money back. It's not gonna be worth your while unless you do this one step. So record yourself on video to be with a Web cam to be an iPad could be on a cell phone. But not just audio. Not to the mere complete waste of time not to your dog but on video. And then I need you to watch it, and I need you to figure out what you like. Make a list. What do you not like? And make a list do that right now. It's the most important exercise and the entire course. 6. How to Introduce Yourself 2nd video Rehearsal: If you've done what I've asked you now have that video that you've done, you have a list of things you like. You have a list of things you don't like. I need you to really look at the things you don't like and focus on the one thing that's bothering you the most is it that your volume is too low, that you're kind of hunched over that you're holding your hands awkwardly. What is the one thing you don't like the most? I want you to focus on not doing that and the stuff you do like. I want you to focus on doing mawr of all that. Let's practice again on video. If there's 10 things you don't like about how you're coming across, don't worry about the other night. I want you to focus on just one element of how you're presenting yourself that you don't like and try to do less of it. Let's try to do more of the stuff we like. Let's do it again right now. Watch it and critique it Now I warn you in advance. If you don't see improvement, that typically means you're trying to do three or four or five things better. Don't get greedy. Focus on trying to do one thing less. So if you're surprised at how low your volume is and you sound scared, you sound like a little bunny. Then practice on speaking louder than normal. You can always bring the volume down, so do that right now again, focus on just one thing. 7. How to Introduce Yourself 3rd Rehearsal: guess what I'm gonna ask you to do now. That's right. You guessed it. I want you to record yourself same sequence. I want you to do more of the stuff you like. Less of the stuff you don't like. Now, this consume tedious. But it's only 30 seconds. I mean, come on. You can do 30 of these and 1/2 an hour. I'm not asking you to practice on video. Ah, 30 minute speech again and again and again. This is short and it's gonna pay off. It's gonna help you relax so much when you are at those business meeting straight associations, professional events where you have to introduce yourself. So here's the key. You're gonna have to be the judge, not me. I want you to record yourself again on video, critique yourself. And I need you to get to the point where you can watch the video and say, Wow, that person's great. That's interesting. That person's really coming across a comfortable, confident way, and what they're saying is interesting. I would want to meet that person if it weren't already made. That's the only way you pass this test. It's not about me giving you check marks or passing you, it's about you passing you. And by passed, I don't mean that everything is perfect. If your tie a little crooked. I mean, I see I have, Ah, wrinkle here. It's not about being perfect. It's just Did you capture people's interest? Did you seem comfortable? Relaxed, And did you give people a reason to remember something about you come up to you afterward to talk to you about something, or to ask you for that free Special Reporter? PDF Her book you had. That's it. That's all we're trying to dio. We're not trying. Teoh get invited up on the stage with Anthony Robbins in Las Vegas in front of 50,000 people, cause we're the greatest speaker in the world. All we're trying to do is be comfortable, confident, relaxed. Talk to people in a way that's interesting about that. Hooked their interest, mention our name, but not in the 1st 5 seconds and give them reason to come up. That's it. That's all there is. So we're not trying to do a whole lot here, folks, but I need you to keep practicing on video until you're happy to something that is very noticeable when people have to stand up and introduce themselves is when they are nervous when they are self conscious, when they're speaking too quickly because they're nervous, so they want to sit down. You don't want to be like that. Come on, you're a professional person. You don't want to seem rushed at all. That's why it's crucial to know exactly how you're coming across. There's all sorts of books and remedies about how toe be calm and relaxed and not be nervous and not be afraid of public speaking. There's visualization of the audience in their underwear. There's meditation. There's beta blocker drugs. There's taking green tea. It hit hypnosis. Frankly, I think all of that is a waste of time, because the answer is very simple. All you have to do to be completely comfortable standing up and introducing yourself for 30 seconds to two people 200 or 2000 is to practice on video until you can see how you're coming across until you can see. That is exactly how I want to come across. So, for example, right now, I'm not nervous at all now, doesn't mean I'm perfect doesn't mean you love me. Some of you might not like my style. So you might not like my accent. So you don't like my hair line? But I'm not nervous about this because I know this is the best I can dio I could redo this . Ah, 100 times. I'm not going to present any better that I'm presenting right now. Therefore, I can't be nervous even if I wanted to be. I also know exactly how I'm coming across because I've seen myself on video. I've seen myself saying basically all this stuff in other videos, so I don't have to worry about. Well, how does that come across? Am I speaking to slowly or quickly allowed or so I don't have to worry about that because I know exactly how I'm coming across. This is a tool anyone has these days because we have video everywhere. Everyone has a cell phone. Everyone has a webcam. You could buy a webcam for 10 bucks at the grocery store, folks. So you cannot use that excuse. You don't have the technology. So this is the final really, really big lesson in this course, and it's gonna solve basically every problem it's going to solve the nervousness problem. And it's going to solve the problem of being awful or unmemorable or boring. Certainly gonna solve the problem of big really scared. An awful So you've got to keep practicing on video, your 32nd intro until you can look at it and really like it. Do it now. Do not skip this lesson. I beg you. This is the most important lesson of all. 8. How to Introduce Yourself Friend Feedback: If you have done what I've asked, you should be feeling pretty comfortable now, fairly confident about your introduction, your ability to introduce yourself in front of small groups or large groups. Now let's do one more test. I want you to take that best video that you made of yourself, and I want you to email it to several friends. But I want to do in a particular way. I want you to call a friend, email it to the right then and say, Hey, Bill or ex Sandy just e mailed you something. Can you take a quick look? I just need your feet bag. It's only 30 seconds long, ideally there at a computer there at a desktop or someplace where they can actually click on it. Watch it here it while you're on the phone and then right after they've heard it and you can hear it coming through the phone. Ask them. Yeah, I just wanted to give me some feedback. What did you like about that? What do you remember about it? See what they say now if they just say, Oh, you know, everything's professional, that's great. Means we probably didn't say something interesting. You want them talking about the specific thing you mentioned the hook. You also want them say, Well, you seem relaxed, comfortable. Ideally, you have them comment that they didn't even know you had that special report or that book or that special white paper you're giving away. They like it themselves. I would also ask if there's anything they don't like. If they say, Well, you seem scared or that the product you give me sounds really cheesy. It sounds like an infomercial Listen to doesn't mean I would change everything just based on what one person says. But here's my challenge. Do want you to call five people. Try to talk to at least three. Let's get some independent verification. You already feel good about your introduction because you've watched it. You practiced it and watch it to the point where you like it. But if you have independent verification from others telling you what the message is that they get it, but they like it. You're coming across well. That's gonna further boost your confidence, and you're going to be fantastic the next time you have to introduce yourself. But there's also a possibility that you are missing something that you're using. An acronym ever an initial, Mrs. This is, frankly, a big problem with a lot of associations. Hi, I'm t j Walker CSP, and I about well, no one outside. The couple 1000 members of the Professional Speakers Association know what CSP is, and it's just confusing my advice other than M d or J D. I wouldn't use any initials when introducing yourself that that wouldn't even use those initials. By the way, I'm not a CSP. I don't want anyone thinking I'm inflating credentials here, so I want you to call five friends Associates colleagues, send them the video, asked them to watch it right. Then you want the immediate feedback, their immediate response. Do that right now. 9. How to Introduce Yourself Conclusion: So what did your friends say? Did they like your introduction? Were they able to tell you exactly what you were hoping they would? Did they ask you for that free item? That special report, that white paper, whatever it was that you're giving away, did they ask you for that? Now you may decide not to do a giveaway. My main goal for you is that you give people a reason to come up and talk to you that you make them remember something interesting about you. So if they see you later, the cocktail hour or over at the snack bar, they can reference something you said in the introduction. And this can start a conversation. Let's not forget nobody is going to make a $1,000,000 deal or get a $10 million contract by a 12th introduction or 32nd introduction. That's not what it's about. What it is about is helping you make the most of every opportunity. You have to meet people to bring more people into your life, whether you're after more clients, more prospects, more colleagues, more industry associates, more people to raise money from more people to give back to you want to connect with it could be completely for social reasons to. So I'm not passing judgment on any of the reasons why you want to meet people. I'm simply trying to make it more effective, more efficient, your use of time. Let's face it myself. Include We've all been to networking events before and may be left with a stack of cards by . People are walking around here. Here's my card. Here's my card. Complete waste of time. And what do you do to someone like that? You typically throw away their car. We've also been to events and you've talked to a few people. But it's just sort of ho hum. How What do you dio? And you can leave the event sort of scratching your head. Why don't even bother doing that? How many of these people Business cards And I even remember anything about them. Why would I even follow up with them? Why not just throw it away in the trash can On the way out of the event? We've all been there, ladies and gentlemen, What I'm trying to do is to equip you so that you can get a lot more out of every single time you goto event every single time you introduce yourself. As I said at the very beginning, it's an opportunity to make a bad impression, which you no longer are gonna dio. It's a chance to make no impression which, in my opinion, is what happens to 99% of hurled or it's a chance to make a great impression and to attract people to you. That's what you want every single time you speak. It helped. Obviously, if you're going to an entrepreneurial event and there's entrepreneurs pitching for money and you introduce yourself as a venture capitalist looking to invest, well, you could be the worst introducer in the world and you're gonna be surrounded. You're gonna be mobbed by old young investors and investors of every age coming to you. But most the time For most people, it's not going to be that easy of just like dangling raw meat in front of, ah, wild animal, the way venture capitalists would be to investors. So that's why it's important to really think about this, not memorize, but to think about Tony and with a note on memorization. Memorization is number one, hard to Dio number two. It's even harder to do when you're feeling stress, so standing up in front of 12 people, introducing yourself might not seem as scary is standing in front of 12,000 people, but it still takes most people out of their comfort zone. And when you're feeling nervous, that's why your palms were sweaty. Your feeder sweating. Your body's telling you, Run, Get out of here! Adrenalin is flowing. When that happens, your mental faculties shut down. Does your body is saying Run? Don't think. That's one reason why I really recommend not memorizing your self introduction. The other problem with memorizing something is your now, like an actor on Broadway, memorizing and delivering a script. Well, here's the thing about acting. It's really hard. We can make fun of dumb actors all we want. It's a really hard skill. I can't do it. Someone gives me a strip to memorize some awful it that because it's hard to remember. If you do remember it were for work. It's hard to deliver it without sounding like you are reading a canned speech or you have memorized something, so don't do it. Focus on the idea you want to communicate and just talked it through in a conversational way. Don't memorize that's extra work. That's extra stress. What I'm trying to do is relieve stress for you on every aspect of this. And you know what? When you're in these meetings now, instead of worrying and thinking, Oh, there's three people away for me, it's gonna be my turn. What am I going to say? You can actually listen to this person over here about what they dio, what they have to offer and why you may want to go up and talk to that person afterwards. That's the other beauty of this is if you plan and you have a process and you're all set, you're not going to be sweating it waiting for your turn to introduce yourself. You could actually be present. I hate to sound all new agey, but you could be in the moment actually listening to other people instead of thinking in yourself. Oh, no, it's gonna be my turn. What am I going to say? I hate this. I hate aged. You don't hate your self hate introducing yourself anymore because you're now good at it. The number one way to get over hating anything or feeling nervous about it is to actually get good at it. And now, since you followed the lessons in this course, you're good introducing yourself. So I wish you luck in all your future. Introductions are also asking you, begging you in the discussion for him right here in this class. Please, please record a video of yourself introducing yourself. I would love to know who you are, and I would love to hear how you're introducing yourself. I'm t j Walker. Thanks for spending this time with me. And I look forward to meeting you.