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Non-verbal Communication: Confident Body Language for Social Skills

Felipe Yanez, Confidence & Social Skills Coach

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19 Lessons (50m)
    • 1. Welcome & Course Overview

      1:25
    • 2. Change Your Self-Talk

      7:21
    • 3. Improve Your Self-Image

      2:27
    • 4. Power Self-talk

      3:04
    • 5. What is your body language saying?

      1:58
    • 6. Audit Your Body Language

      1:40
    • 7. Empower Yourself with Body Language

      7:02
    • 8. Personal Space & Physical Connecting

      2:29
    • 9. Creating a Physical Connection & Handshakes

      2:47
    • 10. Connecting with Your Eye Contact

      1:40
    • 11. Eye Contact Tip #1

      1:40
    • 12. Eye Contact Tip #2

      2:09
    • 13. Eye Contact Tip #3

      1:15
    • 14. Eye Contact Tip #4

      1:29
    • 15. Smile and Increase Your Happiness

      1:36
    • 16. Projecting a Confidence Voice

      2:08
    • 17. Step Outsize Your Comfort Zone

      1:56
    • 18. Course Summary

      5:32
    • 19. Keep Improving Your Confident Body Language

      0:22

About This Class

Hi, I'm Felipe.

I'm a confidence and social skills coach.

Imagine if every time you socialize or meet people, you appeared ultra-confident, relaxed and projected an image of a leader. More importantly, imagine using your body language & certain internal tools/methods to not only “fake it” or appear more confident, but to authentically BE more confident, relaxed and empowered. 

I believe that body language introduces you before you even speak a word. To take it a step further I also believe that your vibe, your energy, not only introduces you, but it arrives at a place before you do. This is the mental image of yourself, what will happen in a situation and your perception of other people. 

You are ALWAYS communicating, event when your mouth is shut. In fact, most of your communication is non-verbal.

I’m sure you’ve heard that the mind can change your body. Well, it’s the same with the body, it can change the mind. As you embody these body language techniques and tools, you’ll become more of what you are projecting to others. You’ll not only communicate confidently to others, but to yourself as well.

In this Body Language and Non-verbal Communication course you will learn how to stand, move, what to do with your hands, powerful eye-contact techniques, voice and even touch to communicate better when you are socializing. You won’t have to worry if you look awkward, or nervous again. Even if you are feeling nervous meeting new people or in conversations, you will look relaxed, calm, cool and collected, as you go through the process of BECOMING IT. 

Learn how to use your body language, your mindset and other non-verbal communication tools to connect more effectively. In addition, these tools will also teach you how to truly BE more confident, happier and more relaxed.

  • Improve your self-image through mental tools and techniques.

  • Develop a confident social vibe and charisma

  • Develop empowering body language, confident voice, posture, and eye contact.

  • Use your body language to not only appear more positive, but feel happier and more confident.

Why risk messing up the next interaction because of your nervousness and not projecting the best version of yourself? Join this Body Language and Non-verbal Communication course today.

Transcripts

1. Welcome & Course Overview: What is going on? Guys, welcome to this non verbal communication and social skills course. So in this course, I'm gonna cover everything from how to really create the right mindset and the right energy and survive when you are socialising being friendly in connecting with people, communicating with people, as well as the nonverbal tools that you might need to better connect with people. So we start with reframing under Limited believes we start with creating a new perspective , a new way of seeing the world a new way of seeing yourself. And then we go into the actual aspects of how toe create a more empowering body language to communicate confidently powerfully and to have more of a relaxed and carefree friendly demeanor. So that is what this course is about. Um, I would suggest that you pay specific attention to the beginning of the course when I go over the inner game, if you will, of the actual number of communication. So, other than that, I look forward to seeing you on the course and yeah, thanks for joining 2. Change Your Self-Talk: all right, this nets method that I'm gonna be sharing with you I've shared with thousands of people and has some tremendous effect has just really amazing effects. So it is all about changing yourself talk and changing your identity. So the first thing that you want to be doing is start writing down all your negative thoughts that you have when it comes to socializing when it comes to meeting new people, having conversations away to connecting with them, inviting them to something or getting invited to something whatever limiting believes you have around that or situations that have come up around that right, all of that down. In fact, I used Teoh go out and and socialize, especially actually, when I was back in college, I would go and write down everything that would come up in my head before I would start conversations with people something like While they're busy, they their they're with their friends or they're with so and so and so is not the most opportune time to start conversations. I would always have all these excuses that we're just limiting beliefs or rather thoughts that trying to protect me from rejection, which is something I'm gonna be talking about in the future lecture. But all this was all limited. Believes in limiting thoughts that again were there to protect me. And that would have been have been there for a long time. And they would just run in the background without me even knowing about it. I would just get the feeling off, you know, fear or feeling off. Like, Wow, you know, I can't talk to them or something like that can talk to these people. So you want to write down everything that happens in your head before you start conversations as well as let's say that you do that. You do start conversations or you are in networking event and it always gonna turns a little awkward or you feel awkward around it. Figure out what's going on in your head. Are you thinking, Oh, my there judging me or wow, I shouldn't have set that or what kind of things go on in your head. So once you write everything down the process and the process has been you know, this is an incredible process that works like magic. By the way, you will see almost immediate changes and how people interact with you when you begin to shift your negative belief systems on identity and chef duck. So once you finish writing down all your negative stuff, you're gonna write down, theocracies it on the other side of the piece of paper. Now, when you read the opposite, you're gonna say everyone you know. It's for example. Let's say that you have the limited Believe off. Wow. People don't want to talk to me because they're Basie and so on and so on that I want to meet me, You could say everyone already wants to meet me even before I start talking something like that, or especially when they're with other people. If that's one of your excuses, or especially when, um, you know, during the day when they're headed to work, they want some escape, that kind of stuff. Whatever your excuses, make it into the recent why it will work and why it's an advantage to you being successful socially. So that's how you want to rewrite your story. Ah, few very important elements that you want to take note of are the following, and this is how you're gonna create this social empowering story. the 1st 1 is that, um you want to make it into the positive, and so what that means. It's not just in terms of, you know, having a story where you say positive things to yourself, but you also avoiding negative words such as Never don't, um, stop and so forth. Like, for example, um, I never get nervous around, um around big groups, for example, so that could be turned into. I'm always super confident around. Big groups see the difference. It's you focusing on still on nervousness, even when you say never get nervous, as opposed to focusing on being confident. And so it's like me saying, Don't think of the color yellow, and then your mind goes there. So again, keep it in the positive. Keep it focused. His attention and focus is what the most important things in life. So keep your focus and your attention on the positive. The second thing is that you want you want to bring in a moellemann of giving when it comes to socializing. So you could say I'm always being social and I love being social just to spread the get energy and how people have a good time and maybe connect people to each other. Those kind of intentions people can feel him. So when you start conversations and you generally program yourself to start being this kind of person, that's more giving, then they'll feel it. The second thing, the third thing rather that you want to incorporate into your story is an element off care . Frieda's on. That means that you are simply not attached to a result. The giving part helps with it, but also, um, changing the idea off. Even if you start conversations in finger mind, you're being pursued and you're being sought after as a celebrity or is the owner of every place. Then you will have a vibe that's more chill, supposed to more needy. So you could say, for example, you going along those lines of the story that we just talked about. You could simply say, you know, they step a person or the step of people are always approaching. You have to end the interactions first because they won't stop talking. So again it's you trying to get away from him as opposed to you trying to be social and be friendly, to get validation or attention which is something that many times we fall into unconsciously in wanting validation and attention and so on. So this helps with that in the House project, um, or not only confident, but just chilled out energy. Other than that, I would say, um, going back to the exercise that I was just mentioning as other than these elements, is that, um once you re write your story and you're right the opposite, you want to exaggerate it, so you want to take it to the extreme. So I mean, one of the perhaps it might sound very extreme to say to yourself that these kind of people are approaching you or so on and so on are that you are a celebrity. That's what I mean by that. So if you in your affirmations, you have something along the lines, so I can't start conversations with strangers and then you change it to I can start conversations with strangers, you could simply take it to another level and say, I'm always getting approached by so and so type of strangers. So it's a type of person, and I always have to in the conversations first, because they won't stop talking or that kind of stuff. So again, just continue to really, what's it called? Um, push it, push your comfort zone in terms of your story as far as possible, and that's why you have to do. Other than that, this is basically one of the most powerful things will be able to do. You will be doing in this course, really, it's so important because within a week within a few days you'll notice a difference in how people interact with you. People look at you how people react to you so on its own. So that's all for the junior storage in your self image. Engine yourself talk. Let's go into the next section. 3. Improve Your Self-Image: All right. So some areas that you want a journal as you start doing this exercise is you know, what are you saying about yourself? In terms of socially and otherwise when you're saying, Hey, you know what? When attractive. Are you saying I'm not very interesting? Are you seeing? I don't know what to say. You know, those gonna thinks whatever is in regards to your identity into yourself, you wouldn't write it down so you can reframe it. This is some of the most powerful things you can do when you rewrite your your belief systems about yourself. The second thing you want to talk about in your story when you read it out is situations. What situations are you coming across, over and over and over again? Whether you know, it's something that has been happening for years or it's simply, ah, thought that keeps happy happening or popping up in your head in certain situations. Either one Still a story. So the third thing you want you really right about is what is your perception of people, whether it's specific people that you want to meet, or just anyone in general, do you find people generally friendly. Yeah. I mean, there are certain people. They're gonna be more friendly than others of different cultures and so on and so on. At the end of the day, though, whether we like it or not, we are affecting people based on our perception of them. So that is huge. So you want to write those things down so you can begin to switch him in this next lecture ? I'm gonna include some of the affirmations that I've personally used. Teoh really feel more confident we're comfortable socially that I believe, will be able to help you a town right from the get go. So final note is that once you begin to create your story and you have your final story and have all these affirmations, you want to do them in front of the mirror every single day without fail. And that's really what's gonna create change. So other than that, that's about it. Um, you know, if you want the fastest most, you know, effortless way to get very confident, socially, very, very fast. This is the way other than that, creating a particle story creating informations. Check out the document I'm going to include and um, that's about it. So you have any questions? Let me know. But I'll see you in the next lecture. 4. Power Self-talk: All right, so here is an exercise that I want you to try out and really embody it. Like, right now I'm sitting down. I'm not standing up, but embody it in terms of your body language and the your tonality and get excited about it . So before you leave your house today and you're gonna be doing this, you know, every day, Um, for the rest of the week, you know, hope that you can stick with it for 30 days. I've been doing this for 3 to 3 years, nonstop, almost every single day. Maybe I have missed a week or two weeks, and it's incredible. So you will project a different energy, and you will have very different results when it comes to your interactions with people as well as how you come across. So now that you ran your story, you want to say it in front of the mirror and just get excited about it and get pumped up about it. Um, And so here is mine. But you want to do this before you leave your house or before you get toe, please. If your going out at night for a social event for example, you want to say this, you know, story here is mine. For example, I'm gonna say to myself, You know, on a celebrity in the owner women place, I go and love being social and talking to everyone just to spread the good energy and help people have fun. They already want to talk to me before they even meet me. In fact, I have to end conversations first because they won't stop talking today In tonight is gonna be amazing is the best day night of my life. Everyone's gonna be coming up to me. Tell me you know you're incredible. Your you know, your super attractive You incredible. You're awesome. What's your name can happen for number and so on and so on. And I'm gonna have the most positive energy and people gonna be saying you have the most positive energy and they're always gonna be asking me to hang out and invited me to the coolest events all the freaking time, and that's what's gonna happen. So that's what you do before you get to a police or before you leave the house every single day without fail, you want to visualize it as much as possible. Where your ad Where you're going. What are people doing? People coming up to you Say hello. Hey, can I get your card? If you're looking to do, there should be more social for a professional perspective than you want to say it before coming up and asking for my card and wanted to work with me. And they're like, Yeah, you know, I love that type of business that you're doing and love to work with you. And I love to sell your products or whatever it ISS. So you put in the details of the specifics, but that's how it works. Um, on a Z, in all of my experience of me trying things from body language tricks, too, um, you know, having something to see pre scripted, if you will. And all of the above I found that energy, and what I'm saying to myself is so many times more important than even body language. In fact, this takes care of body language. Um, so, yeah, I would say that in other than that, just do it every single date and yeah, keep me posted on what happens 5. What is your body language saying?: what is going on, guys. So in this lecture we are diving right into body language now bottling, which is fascinating in regards to you know what people are thinking about you, how they're reacting towards you, how you're coming across as well, within your body language as well. And for those reasons and many others, it's very important. It's important if you go into a job interview. It's important of your meeting someone new, and you might want to making your friends or you want to go on go on a date or something like that is very important. But what's even more important and what I'm gonna emphasize as I go through each one of the body language, tools and waste of being is that it's even more important not only what it communicates about you to others or what others are communicating to you through their body language. But what is your body language Communicating to yourself again? You know, just like that, you probably heard in the past that you know the best or the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. It's the same thing with body language. What is it communicating to you about you or about your reality. So that's very important. Uh, if you've never heard this before, I want to say this, which is your body can actually change your mind. So in other words, is not just, you know, I have been going through a lot of the inner work and different things to really improve your body language and your on your energy and that sort of thing. It's also how can your body empower you to project a more confident presence, more positive, one in a more friendly one as well. So let's get started with that. And yeah, I'm excited for it. 6. Audit Your Body Language: So right now, I want you to do kind of an audit on your body language. What is the saying about you? Are you You know, you kind of slouching a little bit forward. Are you standing up straight? Are you close off a little bit? Are you gonna You know, what is your Beilin? Which, at this very moment, it's very important. Not only because you know you're probably gonna take this type of body language when you're out in public and we were out interacting with people. You might modify it. But in essence, the way you are, you know, in private. And when you have the way you are, before you go out is the way you're gonna be in public. So take an audit of your body language right now. Are you being kind of open? Are you relax or you, you know, leading back a little bit. Are you? What is What is your body language? Of course, if you are, you know, slouching a little because you're in front of a computer. That's normal. Still, I would recommend that you have a straight posture and that sort of thing. It will affect the way you feel. And so in this on it, I want you to relieve you. Don't figure out how you're you. You're standing, how you're sitting, how you're moving and that sort of thing. And take inventory of that because in the next lecture, we're gonna be going over a quick exercise on, you know, doing turn things for a few minutes to really see how you feel. And as you probably heard in the past week until you make it, what this concept is gonna be all about is faking it until you become it. So check out the next lecture and after you do the audit in the inventory on your current body language All right, we'll see in the next one. 7. Empower Yourself with Body Language: all right. First of all, I want to say if you're incorporating a lot of the inner, you know, habits, the affirmations changing your story and all this going to stop with these body language, tools and waste of being, then you're working with both with your body and with your mind in regards to transforming your identity and ultimately creating a more confident and powerful presence when you show up anywhere or with anyone. So the other thing I want to mention is we're gonna try a few different things of your different exercises and try these for a few minutes, see how they feel. You could do a comparison between empowering body language and things that make you feel a little bit weaker or more low status, or where that you could do that as well. But I would just say it's going to a powerful, um, empowering body language. And so the 1st 1 is creating a powerful body language and prescence in posture. So if you're sitting down, you know you want to open up, you wanna say you're in a couch or something like that, you want to open up again? This is not about overtaking other people or or being Alfa. All that kinda stuff. Just simply open up. Relax. You know, breathe deeply. Just chill out. Maybe, you know, spread out your legs a little bit in terms of, you know, you should know your space and that stuff. And so in that way, see how that feels. You know, maybe your legs are being crossed or that kind of thing. Whatever you feel comfortable with, but take up space, that is a very empowering way, Teoh To sit or even stand. If you're standing, you might have your kind of your hands over to, you know, each side in regards Teoh your hips. That's another kind of power posture or, you know, that kind of thing and see how that feels. The other thing is maybe getting to your head in terms of or people that you admire and see how they see how they stand. See other moves. He had to do everything in regards to their body language, and that could be another way to incorporate it into how you move, how you, Stan or how you sit. So, um, the other thing, speaking of movement, is practice doing more slow, deliberate movements. Now, if you notice movies like in James Bond or some of these very high status women in movies or men that have it together, if you will, they are usually not. They're the opposite of jittery or opposite of being, Um, maybe that where would be skittish, like a little bit like neuron IQ? A little bit? That's there, the opposite they when they move or when they're about to grab the glass of a martini or when they're about to do something or they when they turn, they turned slowly. They move slower than normal in some ways. So that's another way. Another trick in terms of appearing more, not only more confident, but feeling more confident. So again, this is not just about faking it and appearing a certain way. This is actually about transformation and shifting your identity. So again, movies lowly is another way to really project a more confident and assured the meter. So the other thing I want to say is again, If you're sitting, you can try, you know, maybe putting your hands a little bit back and relaxing again. Your legs might be crossed or that sort of thing. What else was going to see? Yeah, you could do that. Or you can just kind of, you know, there's a cashier you can put your hand over here or are simply lean back in this way. Nothing wrong with that. So again, spread out again. Not in a domineering, wailing your Alfa for that kind of stuff. I keep repeating that it simply just relax. And, of course, again, some of this stuff you might want to do it prior to you going out or prior to you going to interview or on a date or whatever it is not necessarily in an interview you're not probably not gonna be doing you're probably not gonna be Want doing one of these. It would probably look very unprofessional, but again, it is about shifting your way. You're feeling about yourself in the way you are projecting, um, your presence when you do show up. And so it's similar to the affirmations of the story that you we went over to do that at home, and you do that in preparation for when you're out interacting. Same with this. So another thing that you want Oh, um really keep, uh, keep it out on and I out on is your posture. You know, when you're standing again, you could have your hands by your what's it called by your, um, hips. Or you can simply have your your hands in your back pockets with your thumbs looked in your back pockets too. Give you a more of a straight posture, push out your chest a little bit and kind of, you know, prevent you from slouching a little bit when you're have that type of posture in terms of your hands If you ever find yourself, you know, at a lost what are you gonna do with your hands? You know, besides putting it by your hips, you can always kind of just do this and just kind of, you know, you stand like that a little bit like that, and your answer just going on the side a little bit, and that's gonna be kind of a natural just weight of putting your hands by your sights. Um, other than that, um, stuck about space in the nets lecture, But again, practice this type of confidence, body language, ways of moving waste, of even looking like when you look somewhere. Take your time. Be slow about it, Be, um, deliberate about it. And so even the way that you, you know, move your facial expressions make him slower than normal. And you can hear the way I'm speaking right now, which I'll talk a little bit about in a minute. I take my time or create posits to really slow things just result things down and not seem like I'm in a hurry or that I'm generally or nervous or that sort of thing. And of course, breathing comes into play into this, so I will be going over voice and that sort of thing in a future lecture in the scores. But for now, that's about it. Practice doing that on a regular basis for a few minutes. A Squire's these power postures movements in body language. 8. Personal Space & Physical Connecting: all right. So I wanted to make a very, very quick lecture on space. So depending on its similar to touch, depending on the culture, depending on the situation, the context that is a very it could be a very delicate thing to think about. Because in baby someone space can make someone be very apprehensive about it, just like touching someone. You know, you are intruding into someone space or body so that I would say tread carefully. But in terms of space, the biggest, the biggest tip I can give you when it comes to space and, you know, seeking to get closer to someone, let's say you are on a date or let's say that you're you know, you're simply, you know, went into connect at a deeper level. The best way is to simply when you are when you are getting closer to someone and you get closer in this way, it's almost. Confrontation was very awkward, and it feels weird, So the best way is to simply do it a little bit sideways. So whenever I am actually interacting with someone in that when I bridged that gap of space , I do a little bit sideways. Or if I'm touching someone, I don't touch him and do this or like to emphasize a point. I usually just kind of look away and then looked back and that sort of thing. So that is my tip for space and touching, usually touching. I do it on again. This is in the context of especially nonprofessional. Like, you're not gonna do that. Obviously, in any of you, not that you can. They might be sitting, you know, a few chairs down, interviewing you. But when it comes to a social interaction or something like that, or even a networking event, I will connect at a more personal level rather than just the professional level on. And that's just my style. Whatever. You're still Maybe it's up to you, but yeah, so, again, that is the way to do it. So I might even not to talk about too much of the verbal stuff, but I might even throw a joke before I touch someone. And I will simply, um, you know, throw a joke and then gonna touch to emphasize that I'm joking that I actually I'm just messing around and then, you know, I care for them. But I'm cool with him. Not that I'm just bashing them or something like that. So that is the way that I use space in in touch. So other than that, let's go into the next lecture. 9. Creating a Physical Connection & Handshakes: Alright, guys. So in this lecture, I wanted to finish what I was speaking about in regards to touching. So we're touching. It's again. It's all based on context, culture, and you know, the situation who you're speaking to. A swell that is very important. So obviously gonna act very different when you are in a networking event as opposed to Ah ha. Obviously I want a day or that gonna think, you know, leave that up to you and to determine what context Ready. But normally when it comes to let's start with handshakes. So handshakes again. The traditional, you know, advises that, Yeah, you have a firm yet not too strong handshake. And normally I would say, you know, it depends on the culture. But you know, I'm here in Spain right now. So in Spain and you know, you give Teoh into in terms of, let's say it's the opposite sex, you give two kisses on the cheek and as you do the handshake thing in that sort of thing, so it depends on the culture as well How you how you attract with that. But one thing I will say about handshakes is them. When I do part ways when I finish a conversation. Um, I always, um no, almost no matter what, Almost 100% of time when I go to shake a guy's hand before I leave. I always kind of shaking like that and kind of give one of those hugs with the handshake type of thing. And when it comes to women, I never shake their hands. When I'm about to leave, I just give him a hug or that sort of thing. Or again depends on the culture here. I would normally just do the kiss on the cheek and that sort of thing. But when it comes to, um, you know, the U. S. Or other places aside from maybe Asia not gonna think I will simply give him a hug and wish him well and head out that sort of thing. But that is what I have to say about handshakes and also departing from a conversation. No, the other thing I would say is, whenever I'm emphasising a point, I might touch them and say, Hey, you know, yeah, absolutely. Or when I agree with something, I touched them and that's that starts to build a physical connection with people if I agree with something on my high five them. And again, as I was speaking about before, I do things normally kind of sideways as well. I'm not too in their face and that sort of thing. So if I touched them, it might look away and that sort of being or like Oh, yeah, absolutely. But when I agree with something, they say otherwise, that's about it. With touching again. It's all about concepts, culture and who you're speaking to or with. So take that that advice with a grain of salt, definitely. So that's about it. 10. Connecting with Your Eye Contact: All right. So in this section, I want to talk about one of the most important things when it comes to body language, energy and how you how you present yourself, Really, it is eye contact. They say, you know, your eyes are the window to the soul, and it is so true it they communicate basically everything you're thinking about how you're feeling and basically everything that we've gone over in regards to your inner story yourself talk and those are things. So it's very important. I mean, from an evolutionary perspective. When it comes to, you know, I contact, you know, if a gorilla and another gorilla cannot make eye contact, that could be a sign of, you know, confrontation or something like that. Even a guy with another guy in terms of you know, it just everyday life up a thing could be confrontational. So it communicates so many things, depending how you're feeling, depending on what you're thinking. That is why I started with the inner work with the affirmations with story. And that's why it's so important for you to do those things in front of the mirror because essentially you are recreating your identity and you are transforming yourself. Talk into something that's empowering. It is communicated through your eyes, your vives in your body language. So that's why it's important. And so, in this section I'm gonna be talking about a few tips on how to use eye contact to connect with people and build report. 11. Eye Contact Tip #1: All right. So the very first tip I want to talk about when it comes to eye contact is improve your self image. I mean, I've been talking about this for the whole course. It is the most important thing. And so when it comes to this, there are certain ways that you can do it, as I have mentioned, changing yourself, talking your story and all that sort of thing, but also perhaps begin to write down. You know, 25 50 or 100 reasons why you're incredible or why you are amazing at X Y C. Whatever area you're working on, let's say that it has to do with your profession, professional life, your social life of your dating life. Whatever it is, you know, begin to write down all the reasons where you're amazing under the best at it or that sort of thing, because it will be communicated through your eyes and it will be communicated through three or vice, so your eyes cannot lie. That's one of the reasons why some people can make eye contact more easily than others, because they either don't feel like they have permission, or they feel a little bit intimidated by doing that or simply they are afraid of what other people might see in their eyes. So when you are making eye contact, essentially, you are kind of peeking into someone else's reality, and they're doing the same to you. So when you are doing that, you're only also creating trust, which is another way to build report in instantaneously when it comes to even strangers that you're walking by on the street in that sort of thing. So that's why I contacted. So it's so important. And that is why creating and empowering self image is so important. So you have a really effective eye contact when it comes to connecting with people and engaging people. 12. Eye Contact Tip #2: the second tip when it comes to eye contact goes along with this whole course, and it is about taking eye contact very much like a game. Don't take it so seriously, so make it into a game. In regards to figure out the best ways to make eye contact, for example, you might start with small steps. If you're not fully comfortable with that, you might. You look at people and see what color their eyes are in that sort of thing. But you want take a step further and you're comfortable with eye contact. You might, for example, one of the ways that works for me very well in terms of making eye contact with strangers is to just kind of being age with certain things. Let's say I'm walking down the street. I will look at certain things and I will look, for example, at the sky looks nice or certain views, or I'll get distracted by something. And I know there's someone coming along and across from me in the street, so I'll wait until maybe a couple meters until the approach. Me ever approached me, but they come close to me in an encounter. Meat until I will make eye contact, because most of the time people will look at people that are not looking at them. That's just how works. I mean, look at the whole people watching dynamic. When it comes to people drinking coffee and the people watching all that stuff, it's almost like television, right? Like reality TV, you're watching them and they're not watching you, so that makes you feel safe. That is the same dynamic when it comes to making eye contact that if you're distracted or appearing to be distracted, your engagements or in things, your attention somewhere else, and then you make eye contact with the person that's coming towards you. More than likely, they will not only make eye contact may be smiling that sort of thing, but they will likely keep that eye contact and be more engaged with you in that, you know, non verbal communication. Then, if you were to try to make eye contact from, you know, whatever a mile away to exaggerate a little bit. So that's that. All right, let's go on to the next step 13. Eye Contact Tip #3: All right, So the third tip, when it comes to making eye contact, is to simply prolong that eye contact. So if you're comfortable with eye contact, then you know, keep it up a little bit longer than the normal, you know, and the way to break it. They're gonna know how toe break the eye Contact is your simply to smile, and you may be you look away or they look away more most of the time, If you are engaging in this practice, most people will break your first, which is fine. Oh, you can simply wave and not in that sort of thing. But that is a way to practice eye contact when it comes to prolonging it and building kind of instantaneous trust. When you are going keeping that eye contact and not in like, a staring way or like a glittering temp away, just simply, you know, you make eye contact, you can not or you waive or you say hello where you smile, So that's how you break it. But you want to prolong the eye contact to, um, to really establish a connection, respect and conveyed that you're comfortable with yourself with being seen, and you're also comfortable with them seeing you, and that is what it really conveys in a nonverbal communication tucked away. 14. Eye Contact Tip #4: all right, So the fourth and final tip when it comes to eye contact, and I know I've given you quite a bit of tips when it comes to this, it's just so important for communication on verbal communication on the 4th 1 is to connect with people using your left thigh. So if you have you already know, our left eyes ruled by the right hemisphere, which is our emotional side of the brain are left. One is the the What's it called the more logical and practical set of the brain, which controls are right, I So if you wanna make eye contact, you don't necessarily know. Some people recommend some trick strikes, like stare in the middle of their their eyes or stare at their eyebrows or their nose or something like that. For me, I would recommend, if you truly want to connect at an emotional level and even make it easier than just trying to stare at both eyes is to connect and look at their left eye with your left eye to have a more of emotional connection with them. And that works great whether you're, you know, in a business meeting or urine What's it call You just mean exam for the first time. Potentially new friends. Potentially. Maybe you're out of No, this is someone you might be interested in dating. I don't know. Whatever it is, it's always good to have an emotional connection with people and in terms of eye contact, this is one of the best ways that I've found to connect very fast with people I am speaking with. 15. Smile and Increase Your Happiness: All right, So now that we've gone over, um, I contact Let's stock a boss Miley, so smiling can be very, very powerful when it comes to not only appearing a someone that is approachable, friendly, and an overall good person, but also it could make you feel great. So one of the things that I began to practice, I said, began to socialize more war and went out to events, is smiling more. I would do it simply right before I would go out to an event or to whatever it would be maybe even his interview, and that would put me in a better mood. Aziz. Well, as I would more than likely keep that smile s I'm going in there unconsciously and that again would make me not only appear more approachable, but I would feel better. So again, this is not only about what you're communicating two other people through your nonverbals, but what are you communicating to yourself? So this is a way to use your body into user. In this case, your smile to affect your face affect you face the figure your mind and affect your emotions to feel more happy and and confident. So that is what I have to say about smiling. Try it and again put any comments or anything that's working for you in this course. I look forward to hearing about that next lecture. I'm gonna be talking about your voice and breathing. 16. Projecting a Confidence Voice: all right. So now talking about projecting a confident voice One of the one of the biggest issues that I used to have was that I was very fast when speaking. In fact, sometimes I still do it. When it comes to this video is I kind of just got used to slowing down. But if you have that, you want to really practice slowing down, creating bosses and taking your time when you're speaking, there's nothing wrong with being a little bit slower when it comes to speaking now into in actuate in Naturally, obviously, I'm not even Nancy ready. Very well. But not only, you know, make whatever you're saying mawr understandable, but also to create an air of a little mystery confidence. And that's everything. So with those specific processes, you can create mawr mysterious air about you when you're conversing with someone. But more importantly, you know, as opposed to you being someone that is speaking very fast, moving very fast and jittery, you come across a lot more sure of yourself when you're speaking slower. One of the ways to speak slower and have process is to breathe to breathe deeply. One of the things that can help with that is meditation. I do have some courses on meditation and consciousness and that sort of thing. But for the purpose of this, of course, I would recommend that you practice meditation in whatever way you can. It will help you not only in terms of the way you speak in the way you breathed in everything, but also when it comes to be impressive in conversations in present in your body, so that you can communicate more relaxed demeanor about Ewing through your body language and the way that you present yourself. Um, the other thing I would say is, actually, that's everything I would have to say about speaking and using process and breathing deeply when you're speaking. So that's all next lecture. I'm gonna separate everything we've gone through, and that's about it. 17. Step Outsize Your Comfort Zone: All right, so a few extra tips before before I summaries everything. First of all, I want to see if you want to also improve your body language and your nonverbals. It's important to step out of your comfort zone and to do things that scare you socially or in other ways that will automatically be internally. Shift the way that you see yourself the way that you interact with others but also your body language. So if you're afraid off, you know, maybe speaking in public or you're afraid of this and then the other. As you begin to conquer these fears, you begin to relax within these fears and then project naturally, a more confident body language. Another thing is that is really important when it comes to body language. In every area of your life is building a positive environment around. You have positive people around. You have, you know, friends, family members that empower you and they're raise you up. It's a very important thing when it comes Teoh just building a positive and confident Vives and nonverbal communication and the final thing I would want to say as final tips would be to practice gratitude you know, in an everyday everyday basis, similar to the to the things like practicing empowering body language for a few minutes, everyday practice, you know your story and then go into what you're grateful for again. All these things will begin to shift the way that you think. But the way that you act and ultimately, the results that you get from your interactions. So be grateful for your lively grateful for your help. Be grateful for the food, the water, simple things like that, or the friends of family. Your significant other anything like that begin to be grateful for and will affect your nonverbal communication. All right, try it. And again, let me know how that feels and they works for you. 18. Course Summary: All right. Well, congratulations on making it to the end of this course. I wanna really go over everything that we have covered in this course. I think it's important to really remind you we have been learning and what you want to practice on a daily basis to not only learn these skills and learn how to communicate better, but have them be who you are. So the first thing that you that we cover was learning about yourself and your limited beliefs and values that you might have from there. You know, we talked about how to transform your story and really make it into an empowering, even a far fetched story that just creates this energy in this perception about you and your reality that empowers you. Now, another thing that we cover was, you know, not being so attached to the outcome and focusing mawr about giving without expectation. Or, you know, that sort of thing when it comes to socializing, engaging people in that sort of thing. And that will affect your your demeanor as well. When you're interacting with people and when you are even walking by people, they will feel that energy one more thing that we talked about is, um, getting out of your comfort zone. So again, as you begin to live outside your comfort zone and whatever goals that you have, whether it's social goals or whether it's, you know, professional goals, whatever they are, the more you push your comfort zone, the more confident you become, the more courageous you become. And so your communication will be improved simply by overcoming all these fears. So again, step out of your comfort zone and begin to live a live true to yourself. I know that's a little bit outside the scope of the body language of nonverbal communication, but it does apply because it's all about who you're being when it comes to nonverbal communication. The other thing I want to mention is using body language. We talked about this using body language, too. Create a feeling that only you know, really create a powerful and confident in a confident presence. But also Teoh great a feeling off confidence within you and feeling more empowered. So you seem body language on a regular basis, you know, kind of expanding your your your body language and, you know, whatever you feel give you know of a person that is confident you begin to adapted into yourself, and you begin to fake it until you become it in regards to practicing, empowered by language, Whether it's a smile that you're feeling happier when you do a smile or simply yes, sir, in posture or that sort of thing, you begin to do that on a daily basis. Another thing we talked about it is, you know, gonna begin to Towards the end, we talked about building an environment that's positive again, a little outside the scope of this course. But it is completely related because you silk and the way that people are around you, whether it's in regards to their nonverbal communication, their values, their thoughts or belief systems and so on. So it's really important for you to be surrounded by be positive people that are looking out for your best interests as well as you for theirs. And the last thing we talked about was gratitude. Again, Gratitude is not only in terms of the law of attraction attracting more positive things into your life, but it also affects the way you come across with people. In other words, you are creating this demeanor, this identity, this way of being where you are grateful you're not wanting anything from people. You're committed to miracles, but you're not wanting anything, and you're simply friendly, seeking to give and you're confident in yourself and you're you living very much very courageously. All these different qualities get projected into your body language. Aside from simply that, using the techniques as techniques and so everyone can tell when you're figured it. I want to see that as we finish this course. But when you are passionate about something and when you are it, there's no denying it. You are it, so people will respect that. They will listen and they will connect with you because it is who you are, not what you do. So other than that, good luck out there again. I want to hear what you have to say about this course in regards to any ways to improve it . Anything you've learned anything you've taken away from it, Andi, that's about it s o things again for being part of this course that really, really appreciated. It means a lot. I'm doing what I love when it comes to teaching this when it comes to working with my clients and those sort of things. So I am immensely grateful that I was able to be part of your life for a little bit and hopefully help you project a more confident energy and nonverbal communication. So we'll see you in one of our one of our other courses. But things again and enjoy your game. We'll see you. 19. Keep Improving Your Confident Body Language: What's going on, Phillip? A here. If you like this class, please make sure to follow me and stay in touch. I'm sure a lot of information and a lot of different contests. Resource is and free stuff. And my followers are the first ones to get it. So make sure to follow me on. Uh, yeah, I'll see you in a future, of course.