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NLP Master Class Part 3: Values, Strategies and Techniques to Create Change

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26 Lessons (3h 29m)
    • 1. NLP Master Class Part 3 Intro

    • 2. Anchors Introduction

    • 3. Anchors

    • 4. Chaining Anchors

    • 5. Collaping anchors

    • 6. Spatial Anchors

    • 7. Modelling

    • 8. Key Stages in Modelling

    • 9. Testing the Model

    • 10. Modelling Demo

    • 11. Strategies Introduction

    • 12. Stratagies

    • 13. Strategy Elicitation

    • 14. Motivation strategies

    • 15. Values Introduction

    • 16. Values

    • 17. The evolution of values [Autosaved]

    • 18. Metaphors Introduction

    • 19. Metaphors

    • 20. Ideas for metaphors

    • 21. Parts Introduction

    • 22. Parts Integration

    • 23. Parts Integration Demo

    • 24. Prime Concerns

    • 25. Foveal Trance

    • 26. NLP Master Class Part 3 Conclusion

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In this Class we get more in to the actual change work involved in NLP and some techniques that will assist you in being able to do so!

Some of these will allow you to change the direction of your life as well as the lives of those that want your help.

As always there are the reference material that you can download and go through and practice with. These topics will come in very handy as we lead into the next part of the course which is about Hypnosis.

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1. NLP Master Class Part 3 Intro: Hey guys and welcome to part three of the NLP masterclass. In this one, we're going to have a look at various different techniques, values, strategies that we use, metaphors that we can use to help induce a bit of change. Very powerful part integration. And of course, starting off with one of the staples of NLP anchors, as well as modelling, which is what NLP was basically founded with. This is where we start to put all the pieces together. Start to create a bit of change in your life, somebody else's life, or even in a general community. So this is very exciting stuff. Now paying attention to it and start to utilize some of the other stuff that we've been going through. So how do you gain rapport with that person to create this change and that sort of thing. But this is a very exciting course and I hope you enjoy it. 2. Anchors Introduction: Hey, welcome back guys. In this section we're going to have a look at the wonderful world of anchors. Anchors, as you'll find out a stimulus, The brings us back to a certain state. Whether that these Song, whether that be a touch in a certain area, I got fingers or something like that or a pat on the back that makes us feel good. They'd bring us back to a time as well. To win that anchor was first established. So we're going to find out how to use anchors to more effectively communicate, to get our point across more, to help people bring on states that are more beneficial for them. So we're going to look at, at collapsing negative anchors. We're going to look at chaining anchors. We're going to look at stacking anchors. So you get all these resources at once. And much, much more. So, join us now as we have looked into the world of anchors. 3. Anchors: So welcome to our first lesson on the wonderful world of anchors. Now, I love anchoring and I find it very, very useful. This is one of the core sort of NLP skills that you will learn throughout it. And we'll be using this too in a lot of other processes with an opaque so that you can anchor certain states and come back to them, as well as a lot of other uses. So without further ado, let's get into anchoring. So anchoring is a natural process that attaches meaning to a set of stimuli. And an example of this would be driving along the road in your car. And a song starts on the radio. If in the first bar of music you have a flood of feeling sounds, images of the past where you first heard that song. So frequently you'll be able to describe what you were wearing, the names and the faces of the situations and people in there with great clarity. The song is the anchor to the memory or state. So the song attaches the meaning to a set of stimuli, all that memory of where you were. So important things to remember a bearing is as we get into it, more than anything else, it needs to be congruent with my behavior. So as we get into it and as we said anchors, they need to be congruent with our behavior. So if I'm a nice counts or a person, or are always bake in the same tone of voice. I can't be doing fast things to set off an anchor. Then we'll more likely break state or get someone out of rapport with me. They need to elicit and intensify the state I want to anchor. So as we get into it, as we go through anchoring different states, we want to intensify those states. So if it's happiness, it has to be really happy. Can't just be unhappy, sort of thing. We really want them to experience the ultimate of happiness that it is for them. And NCA always within the context of rapport, as I was saying before. If our nurse calm, confident, happy, or I want to anchor someone into layer expressive, blah, raw sort of stuff that I'm not all that conversation is not if that makes sense. So the elements of anchoring, one, we want the intensity of the state. We want that state to be pure. So if we're anchoring for happiness, it has to be just happiness, not excitement and happiness. Not happiness with a little bit of doubt or worry or whatever, just happiness. And then as we get through to, with this lesson and stacking anchors ME can do happy, excited, whatever else is well, the timing. So we have to know when we hit the peak of that state, which we'll talk about later. And as well as holding that anchor for that five to 15 seconds, which we'll also talk about as well. And the pacing of it, which comes back into that timing. The uniqueness of the stimuli. So if it is just to touch on the finger. If it is just the hand movement, is it unique? Is it's something I always do? Where I'll see you in the next lesson sort of thing. Or is it it has to be something unique to that situation. So you're not confusing an anchor. So if I, if I always put my two fingers up, then wiggling them, always doing that might do something else. But it has to be unique so that when we fire off that anchor, it hits that state. And that too for if you anchor something onto your own body. So we'll talk about more that ladder and identical repetition. You have to be able to identify and fire off that anchor. Exactly. So if and again, it's this one, I can't then have my finger to the side to do that because it's not the identical repetition of that anchor. So on the way in which I install the ANC and must be congruent and within the context of ecology. So that person, it must make sense to them and be what they want. It can't be my own mind raid on them to what they want. Now it is one of the most exquisite, powerful and natural communication tools that we have. And it is awesome when you use it, right, when you do it, right? I have collapsed and done all sorts of anchors where it's really gotten people passed some stuff that they were going through. So some examples of it, if it's not quite making sense. Now a teacher might elicit a state of perfect learning, then anchor that state so it can be reactivated for the next lesson when I have those students. So elements to this day, my B excitement, curiosity, wondering what new things are, are to learn and how they relate to other learnings. So I don't know how the tangent modulus and might just be a touch on the face. It might just be a clap, it might be an action like her are we're learning sort of thing. And as I come in and say, yes, we've got this class again reenacting that stimuli to get those students read. Excited, curious, wondering. Again. Or the coach might elicit a state for achievement. Elements of this state may call up that animal instinct within that wheel to win, that competitiveness, the passion for competition, the census, speed, lightness and vibrancy. Now how they do that? It might be an action. It might be something that they do there. So as that athlete goes up to compete, they give them that action. So calls upon that sense, fires of that anchor and brings back that state for achievement. Now looking at the process of anchoring. So it's four easy steps. As we'll show in an example as well. We have the person recall a vivid experience. Now this produces a steak as we've been talking about. So the state of happiness or a state of excitement. Whatever the case may be. But we want that vividness. So see he feel touch as well, whatever it maybe, maybe it's a certain smell as well. Can you smell the sand of the, Can you smell the ocean or something like that? We provide a specific stimulus before the Pig or state. So as you can see in the diagram there, where we're looking at setting that anger near that specific stimulus might be hand action. If they've got their eyes open, It may be touching them on the shoulder. It might pay a certain sound. Anything at all. That is a specific stimulus for them. From you, all by themselves as well. They might be setting off that anchor by touching themselves in a way, we change the person's state. So this is after that five to 15 seconds, we're holding that anchor, whether a toner on them or keep repeating that noise. Whatever the case may be and really said that anchor in, then we change or break the person's state. What did you have for lunch? You know, we fall asleep. Was that your phone that was going off? Then we set off the anchor again providing that unique stimuli, whatever be the touch, the sand, anything at all that we used to test to see if it allows that state to come back as pure and as good as it was when our Recalling that vivid experience in that five to 15 second window where it reaches its peak. And that is a follower. Calibrate that return of state wasn't as good, wasn't as PR? Or do we have to go back and fire off that anchor again to set it in a even stronger this time. But now we'll have a demonstration of simple anchoring. So now we're moving onto stacking anchors. Now as we move into this, this is where we elicit several instances or state and anchor them in the exact same position. So we're firing of that same Anka. Mistake chosen for particular stacked anger can be the same or different. Now this is very similar to the previous process, but we're just repeating it for various different states on the same anchor. Such stacking anchors. An example of stacking Angie's maybe used to recall very powerful resources for states of will. For example, a time where you were totally powerful, locking that in breaking style. A time you felt totally loved locking that in then breaking state. So here I'm just using the Weber my handy because I can hit that. I know when I hit the right spot. You may get the person to do this themselves. So when they feel the peak of that, just holding an anchor in letting go as at state dissipates, then breaking state by asking question, but just getting him to shake it off literally whatever the case may be. Then number three, a time we felt you could have what ever you wanted. We felt you could not fail when you could have it all. Break state after the hit or NCA. Now Tommy felt really energetic where you had a ton of energy and so on and so forth. For a photon laughing way, feel totally confident in control. So feel free to use this. I will put this example then in PDF below or in the resources section. So you can use this test one on yourself to on someone else. So you can start to create anchors for them or get them to create anchors for themselves. But this is an example. You can throw some other stuff in there. For weight loss. You might wanna put really determined to lose white or were you loved exercise? Or we felt really fool, you couldn't eat another bite. Those sort of things. So start to think about what else you can use them for. Being my guys. Nail. Let's go with an example of stacking anchors. 4. Chaining Anchors: And welcome back guys. Next in our little list of anchors that we're using is chaining anchors. So this is moving through negative states. This is really helpful if you get caught in one negative state and can't move past it, can't find your own way past it. So enchanting anchors, it's a great way to assist people and being able to move from one state to the desired state. For this method, you'll identify the undesired state that is currently present. From there, we move through progression of states, breaking state each time until we arrive at the desired state. For example, we can move from anger to worry, then from worry to curiosity, and finally from curiosity to car. Now we cannot move from Angular calm that fast because they are such polar opposites. We need something, we've less of a shift in between. The end result is that when we feel anger about what was anchored, we instead feel calm. So once it's done, now, unnormal, use my hand for this. So we've got anger to worry, curiosity to come. So then once we hit the anger, we move through these in quick succession. Anger, worry, curiosity, car. Now you don't need a far more thought that need fire one, the anger. Thank you. That anger break state. Get that. About the worry. Where would you like to go from that guy? What do you actually angry about? I think it's a worry that whatever it is. Okay. So we anchor that worry Bragg state. So instead of being worried, are you curious about what else could be? Okay, cool. Yep. Break their curiosity. Then, what's it like to become? So after you've figure something else out, what's it like to be their car breaks down and go through that. But we'll go through a bit of a demonstration on that right now. 5. Collaping anchors: And welcome back guys. In this lesson we're having a look at dropping negative states or changing negative anchors. So we're removing those native anchors so that they no longer have any effect on you. The first one we're going to have a look at is a desensitizing anchor. Now to start this process, you need your self to getting to a neutral or dissociated state. Then you want to start to introduce the problem in small doses. Now for example, if it is a diet related problem, start with one lolly and allow yourself to get into a state where you're able to easily say no to that. So a state where you're really determined to lose at White. Well, you really determined to eight better for yourself. So you can easily say no, thank you to that. Then you want to practice being tempted by an ever-growing margin. So start with that one line and work all the way up to full junk food meal or a bag of volleys or multiple bags alloys or whatever the case is for you. So this is essentially assisting you in creating a new habit because you're creating that new driver by saying no, you're making that choice. You creating a new neural pathway. Then by TO LOS, you're strengthening that neural pathway. Now I mean, this can be designed for cigarettes as well, but there's a lot more attached to that. This is a good start though. So this is one way of desensitizing that anchor, of seeing that stimulus and immediately going forward or being, or reacting to it. The next one. And what I find is more effective in a therapeutic situation is collapsing anchors. So it's another strategy in the use of blankets. Now it's done by firing off to, I guess at the same time, both a positive and a negative one. Now, as both a fight off together, you release that negative one. So that only the positive one remains for another five seconds or so. So positive, negative, take the negative 12y, so only the positive remains. Now, I mean, I've used this, the most common way or use it is present the sort of thing. So have it out. Drop the negative 12y, present the positive one closer to the person, sort of thing. It may take a few times. So I repeat the process until required or until only the positive anchor remains. So you can say to someone, so what are you going to eat? Are you going to eat the healthy? Healthy, healthy. And mentioned some of the things that healthy ones going to have, better body, less white, live longer. Those sort of things. Or the negative is going to only harm you and increase y clog your arteries, whatever the case may be. So which one are you going to eat? That sort of thing. But we'll go through a full demonstration of that one now. 6. Spatial Anchors: Hi guys. In this lesson we're going to have a look at spatial anchors, which anchors that occupy space in the real world. So in that space you can put so many positive resources in anchors that recall up so many feelings. This is a really useful technique for public speaking or anything where your bed to go and present something some way. And what a whole flood of positive resources states in everything the flood through just before you step on that stage. So as I just started, spatial IQs occupy space in the real world. And then very useful if you wish to summon up so many positive resources and states just before a performance or when presenting. It's a simple process of finding the stimulus that you want the anchored attached to. Either the ground or on a painting, for example. And the sites that you wish to awaken in you. Then you repeat that process three times to set that Anka. So really you just want to strengthen that anchor and get it set. Sorry, you walk into that circle three times as we'll go through in the example. Or you'd look at that circle three times on a wall or something like that or painting or whatever you want to attach that I can turn. And then you just will get it three times as we'll go through an example just to strengthen it. So the most common spatial ICA is the power circle, or the circle of excellence, as it may be called in some learnings as well, which we'll go through right now to give you a better demonstration of a special icon. So let's have a look now at an example of a special Anka. One of the most common examples, the power circle. So you have the person making enough space so that they can move in and out of the anger. Now the power circle is something used by world leaders, actors, sports people. By older this bear there a 100%. So you get the person nice and relaxed and let them know that you want right there in front of him. And to notice that there's a circle, this circle can be any color you want it to be. What color would you like your circuit obey? Yeah. So that just makes it there's now noticing that beautiful yellow circle. That's right. This is your very own bow circle. It's there for you and only you. This is just swirling around and around and around and around. Everything you want, everything you desire, all the universe has to offer you. It's right there in that space. It's there for a year. You'll start to notice now that all the colors of the universe and filtering in, swirling in amongst that beautiful yellow are all the calories. Are there. Everything you want, everything you desire. All universe has to offer you. It's right there in that space. So let's throw in lots more good health or to peace, prosperity, abundance in all areas of life. Lots of confidence, strength, courage, power, the ability to easily be due, having create all that you desire. Lots of fun, lots of joy, lots of laughter, and great times with family and friends. What else would you like in this space? He said, Yeah. Excellent. That's okay. So everything you want, everything you desire is in this space. Let's make it so much bigger, so much brighter, so much stronger. That's right. Just building it up and building it up. You'll feel those energies bouncing off your legs or mice. And if you listen carefully, you can hear them calling you. And they're saying stepping stepping in async zeros. Do you want these things? Yes. Well, I'm not going to have him yet because I think you deserve them even stronger. Let's go five times stronger, ten times stronger, 15-20. Let's go 100 times more powerful than it was an island. That's right. We're building it up and building it up. Everything you want, everything you desire, all the universe has to offer you is now 100 times stronger than it wasn't library. Go, building up and building up. And now, whenever you're ready, step in and claim your power. That's right, I breathing in or that good health, the pace of prosperity, love the guidance, the abundance, the funny adventure or the love, the paints that passion, the excitement, the confidence and the strength, the courage and the power, the ability to easily Baidu haven't created all you've ever desired. Feel the power, own it. Breathing and into each and every cell of your body. Feeling so tall, so strong, so alive. And so for me, you are the parent, your world, you are everything. Feel it, feel the love and the warmth in your heart. Feel that amazing energy flowing through you are the pair in your world knew everything. And taking a step backwards now, out of that space and shaking it off, get rid of it. Shaking your arms and your legs and making room for something even bigger than that. And that's right, we are going to make it even stronger now. That wasn't 1000. Let's go five thousand, ten thousand. Actually a 100 thousand times more powerful than it wasn't moment ago. That's right. Building up and building up and building it up. So much stronger, so much bigger, so much brighter. A 100 thousand times stronger than it was imaginary guy, building up and building up. Now whenever you're ready, step in and claim your power. For I breathing in all the good health, that piece of prosperity, that wisdom, the guidance, the abundance, the fun and the adventure, the love, the pace and the passion, the excitement, the confidence, the strength, the courage, the bow, the ability to easily Baidu having create all that you have ever desired. Feel the power, own your power. Feeling so tall, so strong and so alive and so free. You are the power in your world. You are everything. Feel that love the warm. No. You are in charge of your life. You are the power in your world. And from now on, you only ever think about what it is that you do want. Because you know that you have the power to manifest easily. And you know that you are that power. That's right. And again, taking a step backwards, error that space and shaking it off, its Ryan, dumping it, getting rid of every last bit. Because this one is going to be huge. Ok, so that was a 100 thousand. Let's go ahead and one million, one million times more powerful than it was a moment ago, like scratch that. 5 million, actually, ten million, ten million times more powerful than it was just a moment ago. That's right. Rebuilding and are building it up. It's so big, it's so bright, it's so strong. Just building it up and building up and building it up. Everything that you want, everything you desire, all the universe has to offer you is now 10 million times more powerful than it was a moment ago. You have to be careful that this one doesn't lock. You were ever just swirling around and around and around and around. And now whenever you are ready, stepping in and climbing your power. That's right, stepping in to those energies, breathing in or good health, the peace or prosperity, the wisdom, the guns, the abundance of font, the funny adventure, the love, the pace of passion and excitement, the confidence and the strength, the courage and the power, the ability to easily be due having create all that you have ever desired. Feel your power, iron, your power. Feeling so much tours, so much stronger, so much more empowered. Feel that power are in it. Feel that joy. Knowing that you are love, you are courage, you are confidence. You are everything. You are the power in your world. And from now on you, I may have to ever think about what it is that you want to do because you know that you have the power to manifested a heartbeat. You are the parent, the world. Feel RNA. It is who you are. And now, taking a small step forward, noticing those energies to go with you. And again, another step forward. It is who you are. You are love, you are courage, you are confidence. You. The power in your world. You are everything. And the beautiful thing is anytime you want to amplify these energies or that you ever need to do, is to see your circle step in, breathed those energies in and step through and carry them with you. And that is a parallel circle. I like to follow up with something like every step you take for the next two weeks is in your circle just to further solidify and amplify those energies. Because once again, like every other anchor, the more you use it, the stronger it gets. But if you don't use it, you lose it. But that is the power circle and an example of spatial anchors. So we heard Amy move in there a couple of times to just further solidify it, making it stronger each time. And it really is how you sell it. If I was to say there, feel that you are the love, the pace, the power, the passion, the feeling that gives the Aimee wouldn't be as strong. But in my guys, that is spatial anchors. I will see you in the next lesson. 7. Modelling: Welcome to the next section. Here we're going to talk about modelling. Now, modelling is what NOP has its foundations in. So it is very important and is very important in most aspects of life as well. I would say any, but there are some where you've got a forger. I my butt modelling helps make things a lot easier. So let's have a brief look now what modelling is. So modelling is an easy way to acquire new skills. Thanks a lot less time to achieve then going into classes, watching videos or reading. The difference here is that rather than learning the material, trying it out, adapting it to your world and incorporating into your life. You can accelerate your skills in leaps and bounds. So modelling starts with a desire to say what makes others function and how they get the results that they get. So how does someone do something so effectively? So modelling is the whole basis of what NLP started from and has grown to include modelling the principles of leadership, genius, organizational development, creativity, health, wealth, and relationships, as well as so much more. Modeling involves an exemplar who is competent in a particular field, and the Mandala who studies the example. So in this case, we will pay the mandala and we will choose an exemplar through the process of studying observation, the model, or creates a model. An explanatory framework of how the exemplar function's behavior modelling involves observing and mapping the successful process or processes which underline exceptional performance of some type. The purpose of behavior modeling is to create a pragmatic Mac or model. So going back to our model of the world, that sort of thing, creating that model. And hence why it's called modelling of that behavior, which can then be used to reproduce or simulate some aspect of their performance by anyone who was motivated to do so. So we can create a model of what we do as well. We can own exemplar, so to speak. But once we make a model of someone's behavior, whether they are own or an example. We should then be able to teach that to someone else's. Well, we should be able to show them our model. And then they should be able to get similar results as well from that model. Now having a look at some common applications of modelling, we use modeling to understand something better, but developing more metacognition about the processes which underlie it. So in order to teach about it or use it as a type of benchmarking. So I've had some military experience and shooting is a huge one of this. Everyone in the army should like to shoot, but not everybody is good at it. It takes some modelling of some of those top shooters. To be able to get those results. So I'm talking control of you breath because if you don't have any exposure to it before the rise and fall of your chest, especially when you're lying on the ground. Changes has shrunk dramatically the way you hold yourself. How to manage fatigue in those situations, if you lying there for you might be they're shooting for 20 minutes, ten minutes, whatever the case may be. How do you manage fatigue being in that one position? As well as where do you live to shut up, how do you manage wind resistance? Everything like that. It all takes some sort of meta cognition. So things we don't normally think about. So to teach it, we have to be able to teach the steps that people don't normally think about. Repeating or refining a performance. So going back to the shooting again, because you need to score going I need to have a 100 mil group over a 100 meters. Such as in a sport or managerial situation, by specifying the steps followed by expert performers or during optimal examples of the activity. So for instance, in your own world, you might think, well, are really did that well today. What did I do? So you want to go back and trace your steps. That's why so many rituals come out of sport performance. So you've got raffinate Dao Hou bounces ball huge amount of times, touches everywhere. Does that because in his mind to leads to his performance. And if a ball doesn't go, He's Why you want a ball out of the sort of thing. Because that's not the lucky ball. But by having that lucky ball, it allows him to repeat that performance again. So you might not need all of that. But how do you model the steps of actual his performance? So this is the essence of business process and modeling for business stuff as well. How does a manager get the best out of their people they attain? Now also, we want to achieve a specific result with modelling, such as effective spelling or the treatment of phobias or allergies. So rather than modelling and single individual, this is often accomplished by developing techniques based on modelling qualities of a number of successful cases. Now that can go for anything as well. So going back to the managerial situation, you might have some managers who are great in one spot, but suck in another. So say you've got five, they're all good at different things. So you want to take those parts from them while forgetting about the bits that are trash. And use those to create your managerial model. Take those good parts, those five parts of dialogue separately have to create your managerial model and then be able to teach that to the managers below, you know, extracting or formalizing a process in order to apply it to a different content or context. For example, an effective strategy for managing a sports team may be applied to managing a business and then vice versa. In a way, the development of the scientific method has come from this type of process where strategies of observation and analysis that were developed by one area of study, such as physics, have then been applied to other areas such as biology. So they were taking, so let's go back to the managerial style, how we get the best at about tame. Then we can apply that to a sports team. How do we get the best out of our sports team? Using this model, we might have to adapt it and formalize it or extract bits out of the business bit to put into the sports bit. And deriving an inspiration for something which is loosely based on the actual process of the model. So, for instance, Sir Anthony Conan Doyle's betrayal of Sherlock Holmes, which is based on the diagnostic methods of his Medical School. Professor Joseph Bell is a good example of this. So that one speaks for itself. And why is Medical School professor would go about things in a very detective sort of y, which led him to the creation of Sherlock Holmes and how he would deduce income to and find these clues. So that sort of thing. So think about that too. How can you take the iron will ever sports performer who always gives it there 100%, and then apply that to your business world as well. So what steps, what focus points do they go through to develop that? But anyway goes, that is a brief look at modelling and what it is. Next, we're going to go on with how we create a model or the key points of our model. But anyway, guys, I will see you in the next lesson. 8. Key Stages in Modelling: And welcome. So now and having a look at the key stages of modelling. So we're just going to look at what modelling is and what it can do. So let's have a look at how we make our model. So the key stages in modelling or the steps you take when you identify someone in your life that you would like to model an aspect of. This is a generic process so that you can take these specific skills and have them at your disposal. The key stages are as follows. Knowing your outcome, identifying your exemple, finding a modelling method that you can work with. Gathering your data, building your model, testing the prototype, and then refining for simplicity. So we're gonna go through these in a lot more depth. So knowing your outcome. When you know your outcome in any scenario, you focus your attention on what you want. So be specific, being specific about the capability that you want to model is helpful. The focus is especially useful in modeling to help you know when to stop. Because you recognize when you have reached your outcome. You always learn more when you practice what you discover about and discover from your exemple. This attention to the outcome is much more important than being overly precious about your methodology at this stage in your learning. So get specific about what it is that you really want to model. Do you want rather than the way you go about it? So what do you want? And think about how you want to go about it, but don't hold onto that because the answer or what you discover from your exemple might be completely different or lift feel to what you're used to. Next is identifying your exemple. When choosing exemplar, you're looking for one. And often several examples of people who do precisely what you'd like to do well, in the same or similar context. Your exemplary may well have reached a stage of being unconsciously confident at whatever they do. Well. They are so skilled at what they do. But they find that unpacking the details when others asked for advice hard, they simply say, I just do it. So you need to do some detective work to retrieve that information. So if you were to ask like a tennis player, how did you do that? If you were asked Conor McGregor how he gets his timing so well, and some of these things just seem natural to these people now. Now in a way, it might be just a natural talent that they've worked on and conditioned in designing the digester. But there will be certain steps and stuff. But to them it's natural. So you're going to have to do a little bit of work, research and watching to find out how they actually do it. For example, your example. You may choose someone who was successful at one of the following things. Building an active social network, coaching clients through divorce. Creating a warm and welcoming environment. Those people where they instantly make you feel at home. Displaying an aptitude for learning new languages. Finishing a DIY project format includes documents, franchising businesses, raising money for charity, staying healthy while looking after others, which is a good one as well. But these people are exceptional at one of these areas that you want to model. Now you cave you modelling simple at first. The more clearly defined a skill that you want to replicate, the more accessible the example, the ESEA, you're going to find this task of modelling. So I try to model Picasso or a very private celebrity is going to be extremely tough. Even though some cane NOP modelers have done exceptional work on modelling public figures. So I choose a broad range. So if it is a sports thing that you're after, Choose a few exemplars to start with. Then you can narrow down to that specific refer serve, jockey, which backend or whatever the case may be. And also consider one specified desired behavior or skilled the exemplar has that you want to replicate. You do not want to capture all of the person's behaviors. So as I was talking about, we've referred there, you don't want to capture the bouncing of the ball and the touching of the headband and face. Every single time he goes to serve. You just want that serve. And you don't need to take anything from his outside tennis world. Either you just want his performance that specified desired behavior or skill. Finding. A modelling method that you can work with. Modelling is about finding out at a deeper level how exemplars experience a world that enables them to do what they do successfully. And a bear creating an understanding of what they are thinking, feeling, behaving in any one moment. Your trying to get inside someone's head and need to acquire the most appropriate tool for the job. Inevitably, the quality of the information gathering tool that you've doped has a crucial effect on the process. So the aspect raises a fundamental chicken and egg question and modelling. Do you create the structure for your model first? Or does that develop after? Our view is in having some framework or hypothesis as a beginner in modelling is helpful as he's letting go the model, if appropriate. Sorry, if the whole thing doesn't seem to be working, let it go and start again, and start with a different modelling method. For this reason, Robert tilts clear and practical logical level structure is a popular styling point for both information gathering and analysis of your examples. Here are some of the initial points to consider about HIV or examples at the different levels. So there are environment where, when and with whom do they spend their time? They behaviors, what do they do? What are their habits in their strategies, their capabilities? What skills did I have? The beliefs and values. What do they believe to be true? What is important to them? Their identity? What is the sense of themselves? Who are they in these contexts? And their purpose? What is a sense of purpose and connection to how they fit to the bigger picture. So, find out this about who your exemple is going to be. Remember that you are human too. So you come to modelling with your own knowledge and your preconceived ideas. Your model itself acts as a filter on what information you observe and collect. So as you're building your model, just be aware to keep thinking outside the box. You're only going to gather the stuff that you think is important. Whereas it might be something outside of one of your filters, that is the important key to this model. Working. Gathering your data to prevent yourself getting overwhelmed by data, we suggest you begin with a mix of two information gathering approaches. So there's the unconscious uptake. So in this approach, you hang out with your exemple as much as you can so that you can intuitively get a sense of how this person operates. Arrived with no fixed agenda other than to employed. They Breathing in physiology and get a sense of what being in that person's shoes is like being in their model of the world. Ideally, you start out with a model in your head and move into the second perceptual position where you have a deep rapport with your subject. Notice what you see, hear, and feel. So start to get a real feel of being that person would be like, how do they hold themselves? What do they feel in their body? What do they say? What do they hear, what bits of information? And then taking the most interesting and analytical information gathering in this approach, you construct your entire data collection around tools such as the logical levels. This process is an effective way of building information, especially when you have limited time and access to your example. The NLP tools and techniques that we outlined throughout this course can assist you in developing your information gathering. Your analysis of data and modelling is an opportunity to refresh your knowledge and hone your skills. So here's her assumptions or presuppositions. From what assumptions do 0 subject operand the beliefs and values. What beliefs do you notice in your subjects? What are this person's key drivers? Why do they do what they do? Their emotional state management? What can you discover a barrier exemplar in regards to this aspect? How well do they kick their Cool? When did they know when to allow emotions to come out? Or what do they do to manage that? Then metaphors and stories. So what stories did they use? Or do they responsive? Are they bigger softly that responds to everybody's hard luck story? Or are they completely shut off from that sort of thing? Or are they a good storyteller? And the emitter programs? Can you spot meter programs in the person's language? Going into example, detailed verse global towards and away from and all of those little meta programs that they use. Then taking a look at their perceptual positions, does your exemplary tank, the different perceptual positions, trust dipping into three or four perspectives yourself as a modeler, just to get that different perception. There are strategies. Can you identify the strategies your subject adopts? And then can you code that? Can you find a way to link those strategies, how they get to that time? What is this person's sensor time as explained by time on work, which we'll get into later in the course. Do they operate in the moment? Or are they good at planning? So are they reacting to things and taking control right there in the situation? Or do they have their day mapped out, their time mapped out effectively? And how are they going to go about it? Are they looking forward? Are they relying stuff from the past or in dye in the present moment? And the vk predicates. What do the language patterns tell you about how this person communicates in their particular context. Your exemplary is going to be good at some things that you are already competent at yourself. So concentrate your investigation on the areas that are most unfamiliar to you to save your time and energy. If you're already good at something, why would you want to go over that? Choose something that's a little bit earlier, comfort zone that's going to challenge you a little bit. So the better you are at that it improves all areas of that skill or behavior that you want. He gets a building your model. When you've gathered your data, you'll have all you need to build a model that demonstrates the patterns you uncovered in your example. This structure is a coherent description of the essential patents and demonstrates to other people what they need to copy in their attempts to get the same results as your exemple. Testing the product time. When you have your model, be willing to test and continually improve on it. Use the test operate test exit method to test the prototype. The best way to test the model is to teach it to other people and say how it works with them. Do they get the same results? If not, go back and tests are indifferent, operated. So it works for you. Then test it with someone else, and then exit. Once it's good. Otherwise go back and start testing again, operating and testing in a loop fashion until you have something where you can teach that skill to anybody. Then refining for simplicity. The question for the modeller to decide is which elements of the exemplars behavior are essential parts of the model and which are just interesting pieces of information. Does the Gulf is premature ritual make the difference to the winning shot. So as I was talking before with raffinate down, that sort of thing. You need to isolate at least three occasions when the desired behavior is present so that you can spot the common patterns between them. This approach may mean choosing at least three exemplars. So three people who are good at business. Three people who have made a hole in one of part, of course nine or something like that. Or if you want one person's particular wire doing something, at least three separate instances. So my bass or USA, three times, someone's got somebody into a submission really quickly and easily. And what steps the US did they fake out beforehand to get the person to raise their arms and before they shoot in, those sort of things, you have to be willing to stay for longer than usual in the space of not knowing, absorbing the details you've gathered. And then chunk up to the essential elements and what needs to be in your model. When you have your model and try it on for size to work out what is essential to have and what you can safely leave out that white disrupt the model. You also need to check that someone else's model fits with your values and whether you need to do some work on your own beliefs. Here, you can induce a supportive and NOP coach or a life coach if you are developing a model to make changes in your own life. So this will bring us to the end of the k points. But some important points to remember is the difference that makes a difference is unlikely to be immediately visible. You will need patients and curiosity. So stay curious when looking at your example and find out what is the difference that makes a difference. Modelling gives you the ability to raise your game in any field of learning. It does not mean that you can become an expert in when it everything. So it gives you a better chance. It gives you the skills or teaches you how to get those skills. But it doesn't mean you're going to, for instance, bait your exemple. However, if you can identify the strategies of excellence in your example and replicate them for yourself, you are likely to get similar results. Modelling gives you a practical method to get better and better at what you want to do. Obey. To open up options for your life and to learn in a way that you know best simply by being with competent people and keeping yourself awake. 9. Testing the Model: Okay, so now that we've built our model, it's time to test it out. So we know our outcome. We know that we want to punch through that board or whatever the outcome is that you've built your model around. We have studied are exemplars. So we've gone through what they do, how they do it, the focus that they have, the mental mindset that they put themselves into to achieve that. Whether it's pain experiences that they've had. We've practiced what we've done. So we've put it into some practical skills. Maybe with, if it's charisma or something like that. We've used it on friends, family, tested it out on them first to see whether it works, to sit it out on colleagues, if it's in a business sense. For this one, for this example. I've done martial arts. I've practiced on different surfaces, bags in the air, making sure that my techniques good. What else do I need? Maybe it's a clothing I'm wearing as I'll go into this one can be a little bit restrictive, especially from that y. So something like that. Space as well as I'll get into, as well as we get into testing the model, as well as a whole bunch of other things right then and there to do it there. So what else do you need? So it's worth looking at that as well when you're in that situation because it's very well and good to sit back and observe. But we need to take into account all these other things when we're in that situation as well, when we're actually testing the model and refining. So what else do we need to do to refine this as one? So in this case, thinking about that plank of wood, What size do I need? Those sort of things, as well as the area in which we're doing it, as well as any other distractions or anything else ran as well that might impede on your focus. Is it a good day to do it? Have I hurt my risk doing something else or am I fatigued? Those sort of things now thing, think of this in another sense as well. If it is going after more sales, isn't a good time. What's the financial state of the world we're in right now? What's happening in your local area? What are people going to buy this? Like? Let's say you're trying to solve farm equipment in spring. Perfect time in winter, not so much, but maybe in a furnace do have that money in winter. I don't know because I didn't model that. If that's something you're after, excellent, more power to. So those are some of the things that you need to think about too in the external part of your model. So when is the perfect time for this? What sales pitch to I need what report do I need to get with that person to get this model to work the way that I wanted to. But anyway, guys, without further ado, let's move into testing my model for that. So we have, here is a book, you can see. The grain guarantee, otherwise, the, this, that's pretty thick. But the most important thing is that grain is going down by, say aircraft will be good and it hasn't been a given, it's not too high. So other things to note too, we have gone through her exemplar rep saying what he can do for how to look at others. I have a personal exemplar in real life that I can refer to. Other things too. We've got an area that is open enough that after this board breaks, it's not going to break anything else. Which is also pretty important. And things Quote, notice I'm indifferent shirt because the other one can be restricting on that patch. Now, all we need to do is to put all of this into motion. So those are some other important things to look at when building our model is the environment that we're going to be doing it and testing in air in so that we know where and where we can't do this. So think about that too. So in this case, yeah, you want an open area. You want non-restrictive clothing so you can get that full range of motion through. The thing is that too on how to do it. I want to drop this ball rather than throw it up and have it twirl and do all sorts of things that could potentially lead to that injury. And also to somewhere where I can just they focus and do what I need to do. If I did this with a bunch of crying children or something like that, leading up to it and not practicing could potentially get me to lose my focus and hurt myself on that board. But reheat. We've gone through our knowledge, practice with practice on other surfaces, but practice through breakup or to a practice other techniques like a palm hill. So our model is complete. So we have changed things around that needed to be changed. Now we know what we need to do to achieve this outcome is to have two parts to this board. So without further ado, let's see if our model works. So that is our model. Now. I hit right on there. Hopefully I can slow that footage down a little bit to show you. Nothing was broken, nothing was hurt. And model was a success. In his case. I practiced my art practice that I've watched videos. I known what to do. So I'd studied the exemple, I built my model, knew what paces needed to be done, that into being able to focus on that goal, knowing that outcome. So there is a demonstration of the model in practice that makes it a little bit clearer to other things that you need to look at. Say the environment, what you're wearing, what you're doing, the place that you're doing it in. To help gain a little bit more understanding and a little bit more clarity on how to do the same. And so they began the model for me was a success. Now to make that even more successful would be to teach it to you. I'm not going to do that because one I can't say or I kind correct corrective technique. I can't help you along the wire. Can't stop you from doing the things, having injury there. But I mean, by all means, go to a martial art school, get an exemplar who has good technic, who will be able to probably teach you how to throw that punch through the board so that you don't injure yourself if that's what you want to do. But how would you be able to, in cytosol situation, get other people to increase their sales or so on and so forth. How can you teach this model to someone else to make sure that your model is complete and that you can pass this knowledge on. You have your little model for sales or wherever it is, and you can just hand it to someone else to find the simple step-by-step procedure. If everything you need, everything that you need to do, everything you need to model to get this to work for anybody. But anyway guys, I hope that brings modelling to life for you. Any area where there are big sales, Communication, mental health, even how do some of these people move past some of these other things? Anything whatsoever? Look at who you want to model, do, what they do, get as much information as possible on that person, maybe even a few other people on how they do it. So you can create the best model you possibly can and achieve what you want. But anyway, guys, that wraps up this section on modeling, on removing. And I'll see you in the next lesson. 10. Modelling Demo: And welcome to the modelling demonstration. Now for this, I thought bait Marsyas orientated sort of thing. Again, why not choose something? That's cool. That's a little bit out of the ordinary self gone with the floating board break. How cool was that? So famous day in age. A lot of self-help seminars and stuff like that and get you to break through a board while it's being held, while it's got a solid foundation around it. So the difference there is, so let's get into our stages and model. Know your outcome. So from there, we know what we wanna do. We want to be able to drop or have someone drop a ball and be able to punch, strike through that board. So we know our outcome. And so we identify our exemplar. So we're going to use that video there. So now we have our exemplar and we know what we want to do. Now we can start to find a modelling method that we can work with site when we're modelling error exemplar. A, modelling methods have to come from what environment do they spend, their timing? What is their behaviors? What do they do? What are their habits and their strategies? So being in this example is guys obviously a black belt, obviously been training for a while. So It's fair to say he spends a fair bit of time on his martial art and other martial artist. He's behavior. So obviously he's been training in building up his technique, being able to do what it is that we want to do with fair outcome. Now, sure, we can go and research other examples as well. Who do the exact same sort of thing or very, very similar in how they don't ever have a look at their capability. So what skills that I have, obviously martial arts, psi, we take that the beliefs and values, they are going to have some confidence in that technique as well. In the sense of themselves as well. Like that guy's probably punched through hundreds of boards to get to that stage. And he knows is quite competent martial artist in this case. Now his purpose is maybe that video being up on YouTube is to inspire other people to give it a go or to show what people can be capable. So we've got a few different bits and pieces there. Now we can start to gather our data. Now we look at what they do, how they do it, why they don't cite. When we're gathering the data. Could be things like so. Knows how to write a big one if you're going to attempt to punch her boy, if I get up there and I'm trying and slap it, or try and punch in a different way than my risks should be. There is so much cause for injury. Now, I've chosen these skill because I actually had to do it as well. And as you might be able to see, this now go is so much larger than this one from punching through, repeating and overheating that knuckle. So then we need to know where the stripe lands. What we eat when he said I want we hit with is meant to be the front two knuckles right through that board. But we also need to know a little bit about the craft itself. So I'm hitting through. So if a board is he, we don't hit to the board. We hit through the board to break it. And coming back to knowing how to punch. You need to have some sharpness, antagonistic sigh. Take for instance, this is a very, very poor excuse for a board sort of thing. We need to be able to snap through it rather than punch it heavy because that's just going to knock it away. Sterile technique needs to be sharp enough, clean enough, and through enough. So rather than a big heavy slow punch that needs to be a quick snap more side. So we can break through the board. So we need to know what sort of force that we're heating with as well. So there we would watch, there's many videos or watches many people trying that technique to see what to do and what not to do. Then we would start to build our model. So let's take it any example that would never throw out a punch before. So now as we build our model will just block that bit off there. So building, we would want to take a few karate lessons so that we know how to punch, say our wrist isn't up, a thumbs hese are not in there. Those sort of things, those sort of things that are going to be very helpful in us being able to still use our hand afterwards. So for step two would be a practice, practice, practice, practice. Yeah. So practice are strikes in the air then moving to hitting something to make sure that we're hitting with the right points. Then maybe going on to using a different strike to save your knuckles like a palm heel strike, at least breaking a board to secure your belief that you can do it as well. Then once you have that. So you're building that belief. Belief will then lead to you having the confidence in ability. Say, Not that they're actually watching you for your camera right at this moment. But had so once you have you say I, it then becomes about testing it. So you get your belief, you get your mindset, right? It does take a certain set of mine. I've seen kids struggle with boards because one, they think it's going to hurt, which it does for very split second, but it's no more than a bit of a slap sort of thing. So you get that feedback too. So we have built a model more or less. So we know our technique needs to be nice, sharp, crisp. Being able to hit with what we have. We need to have that mindset to drive through. And the confidence in our ability to know that we are going, once we do strike, it's going to split that board in half. And it also helps having a bit of experience with it. But then with this model, you should be able to take that to someone who has never thrown a punch in their life. And even if it is just for solely the purpose of being able to hit through that board, you should be able to teach them how they're going to do it. Which brings us to testing the prototype. So this comes back into all that practice, practice, practice, practice. Martial arts or something that you can only get good at by repetition and practice in it. You do have some people who are uniquely talented and can do whatever it is straightaway. But for the layman, testing that prototype, practice, practice, practice, practice, then help someone else get through a test that prototype with them to see whether they get the same results that you do. Maybe even tested on a few people to sit if they get the same results. Where they can get that mindset, where they know that their technique is going to be crisp enough, sharp enough, fast enough to smack through that volume. Then refining for simplicity. So in this case, there's not a lot to refine most of the elements that we've talked about. So knowing how to punch. What we're hit with getting through sharpness of technique and that confidence in our ability to do it, that belief system are pretty good. But let's say, you know, before he and they do a 100 punches before he died due so many push-ups or something beforehand. If that was the case. That case, you might be able to cut that away. Maybe you don't need to warm up before you punch through that board? Certainly not the first time. I didn't know it was the backyard. I just saw Canada this bang, bang. Yes. So a those warm up things might be cutaway. If the person has someone come up and slap them to fly them up or something like that. Maybe that's not needed. So we would cut those elements away so that we lived with this. Whereas maybe refine if you know how to punch, maybe you don't need to take lessons. Maybe if your skills are there enough, you don't need a practice. That is refining for simplicity in its simplest terms. And finally, the difference, that makes the difference. This may not be readily apparent straightaway. So watching. And so that was one example of someone breaking through a board. Maybe watch some others, watch at least a couple so that you know what you're looking for. What is the common denominator in that? What is the difference that makes a difference? What is the key elements that they can break through that board? Isn't the belief is that the confidence and ability is that their practice martial artist. If you can identify the strategies of excellence in your example and replicate them for yourself, you're more likely to get those similar results. But in regards that is how to build a simple model. Knowing what you want to achieve, identifying someone who's done something similar. So maybe it's not breaking through a board. Maybe it is you just want that belief in yourself, that confidence your own ability to be able to take that somewhere else. Maybe you want to pitch to your boss as a board and just break through the back of his neck. And I find your modelling method. So the hierarchy of ideals is a great way to start. And even just watching, mapping everything out. Obviously they gathering your data to then build your model. So what do they need to do in order for me to be able to do that as well. What is the difference that makes a difference? Then testing, testing, testing, testing, and refining. If the test doesn't go, that we'll come back to hear, what more do I need to add or what's not important? What do I need to simplify through this, just so I get that element. But I guess that is a modelling demonstration of something simple, something that is achievable, but something that's a little bit cool, little bit left of field. Take this applied to look at millionaires, self-made millionaires, how they did things they'd thought processes. Look at people who achieve in competition consistently. What the methodology is, what they believe is, what their preparation is. Anyway, guys, that's it for this one. Any questions at all about modelling? Feel free to shoot me an e-mail or message for this. And I'm more than happy to answer. Burgos, That's it for modeling. I will see you in the next section. 11. Strategies Introduction: In this section, we're going to have a look at your strategies or get used to have a look at some notes and strategies. So your strategies are how you do things coming straight off the back of values. So your values and beliefs, influential strategies. So did you know that you have a strategy for buying things? You have a strategy for love. You have a motivational strategy, all of which we are going to talk about, plus many, many more strategies. When you have a strategy for how you brush your teeth. And we can install new strategies. We can work on these strategies to see if they're working effectively. If they're not. We can change things. Or we can help you install a strategy that works for you into someone else that has a similar list of values for their son. This is going to be a very intriguing part, falling a little bit more about yourself. If strategies aren't working for you, the why behind it, and how you can change this, changing your behavior just that little bit. Or we can even shorten those strategies down so you get to the end a lot quicker and a lot smoother. But anyway goes, let's have a look at Near into the subject of strategies. 12. Stratagies: In this section, we're going to have a look at strategies near moving straight on from values are strategies. Follow those values and how we do things. So what are strategies that, how you organize your thoughts and behaviors to accomplish the task. Then the result of deleting, distorting in generalizing. So going back to our communication blueprint, it gives us our internal map of the world. We use this map to navigate our reality. And this map controls their programs are perceptions, communications, behaviors, states, et cetera. We describe these processes as strategies. As we run our brain and nervous system in a structured and organized. Why? Deleting, generalizing and distorting our brain gets into the habit of going to the same place. It develops his strategy or sequence of representational systems to generate its experiences. For this reason, we say that every experience has an internal structure. Strategies provide a formal description of what we do inside our head and nervous system to generate a particular behavior. So we have various different types of strategies as well. They involve everything that we do. All of their daily activity is generated and maintain by our strategies. Whether or not we finished what we do is governed by a strategy. So we have strategies for love, hate, learning, for getting parenting, Sports Communication, Sales Decision motivation, happiness, sex, aging, health, disease, creativity, relaxation, tension, fun or boredom. Marketing, wealth, depression, poverty, fee, and even procrastination, as well as everything else that we do. You have a strategy for everything. So there are various components to the strategies as well. And it's important to understand these in order to be able to change the strategies. So elicitation. The first step to dealing with strategies is to discover the person or personal strategy through the process of elicitation. So drawing out and defining the particular steps of an individual's cognitive program or strategy for some activity or mental ability. So basically why they do and how they start to do what they do for that strategy. Now, effective strategy elicitation involves the ability to recognize and read are accessing cues in sensory specific language patterns, which is why we went all the way through that in the communication module. Another important aspect of elicitation is the mapping or notation of the strategy sequence. So utilization, The next step is to utilize the strategy by feeding back the information to the person in order in sequence. That what is elicit hated. So pacing in matching in order to influence another's response. So first you did this, which lead you to do that. So we're pacing and matching it, so it makes sense to them. What we feed back to them. Then change and design. The next step is then to be able to change the strategy, to make changes in it to produce the desired outcome. So, for strategy isn't working or it keeps leading around in circles. We can then change parts of it and design different structures for that strategy. That gets us to where we want to go. This component includes the design of strategies, creating a strategy that will seem or secure a particular outcome in the most effective manner where there is no appropriate strategy immediately available. So we can create new strategies for people, which is exciting, which is wonderful. So this is where a coach comes in handy. So your life coaches, health coaches, even exercise coaches, designing a strategy for you to be able to obtain that help that business relationship, more wealth, whatever it is, that is a coach's job. Then the installation of the strategy. We then want to install a new strategy if needed. A purposeful step-by-step process followed in order to help someone internalize a new cognitive strategy. Now there are two basic ways to install strategies for anchoring and inserting steps of the strategy or through rehearsing the strategy sequence. So this is self a anchoring, also known as feature pacing, which we'll get to in another lesson as well with a bit of future pacing. But being able to go through those steps, whether it be physically, mentally or even emotionally, in some cases, how you're going to feel doing the steps. So we use the test operate test exit method for days. Now they follow this sort of simple flowchart, most of them anyway. He, we go through, we test the strategy, we operate it. We find out the test afterwards whether it has been completed. If it has, we exit strategy. If not, we go around and operate the strategy again to see if it works, which is where we get caught in that loop. The tote method also allows other variables and sequences, like the example above. So that first test is a queue or trigger that will begin that strategy. So if it's a strategy for buying something, we first have to have that want for whatever it is that we're buying. Which will trigger us to begin that strategy for buying. If it's love, we have to feel that trigger for whatever triggers us to one love, to find love. Whether that's something showing us that we're being lonely or feelings of being lonely. Something like that. Trigger that, that's our first test. So it establishes that criteria. Why we're operating this strategy. It's fed forward and uses a standard for the second test. So it says pretty much for that second test, this is complete. Then the operation accesses the data by remembering, what is it like to be loved or what is it like when we go to buy something? Creating or gathering information required by the strategy from the external or internal world. Then the second test is a comparison of some aspect of the access data with the criteria established by the first test. The two things compared must be represented in the same representational system. So there we go through our representational systems again, so visually doesn't match what we want from our internal world or our external world. Does it look like something that's happened there? So on and so forth. The exit or the decision point, or choice point is a representation of the results of the test. Now, if there's a match, the strategy exits. If there's a mismatch, and strategy cycles around again. Now the strategy may cycle by changing the outcome or redirecting that strategy, adjusting the criteria, chunking laterally or reorienting. So okay, we didn't get to where we wanted with focusing this way instead. So that goes back to our, there's no failure only feedback loop. Now, refining or further specifying the outcome may be our outcome was too broad. So let's say I want to buy food. Then we come back with a whole bag of lollies and stuff like that. Hang on a second. This isn't going to sustain me. This is just empty, crappy calories. So we have to specify the outcome. I want to buy fruit, I want to buy vegetables, I want to buy mate as well, so that I can sustain a healthy meal. Or accessing more data as well. So maybe there's something missing there from EHR data, like what is food in this case? Or how much can we spend on this third, sorry, for our strategy to base excess or for us to notice access, we need a structured, well formed conditions. Do we have a well-defined representation of the outcome? Do we know where we're actually after? Does that outcome use all through the major representational systems? So I visual, auditory and kinesthetic. We need at least three points in every loop. Every loop includes an exit point and goes external after a certain amount of steps or a certain amount of time. So rather than just an internal sort of thing, we have it out there in the external as well. Uses the least amount of steps to get the outcome. So this is not creating any unnecessary work for yourself or whatever. So we can get there, streamline it, get there effectively. And it uses a logical sequence with no steps missing. So let's say we want to drive across the country. Can't be just car go. Then it should be other steps involve like buying a car, like showing the Calvin petro, maintaining the car, having the car ready to go. So we don't get caught out. Has the internal and external sensory modalities to get the desired outcome. So what does it feel like for us? What does it look like out there? What does it feel like out there? Preserve the positive byproducts and eliminate negative consequences. Why would you want a strategy that just hits you into these negative consequences? So, let's say a strategy for buying, then it leads us to buyer's remorse. Why would you want that? But it also follows a test operate test exit model and it minimizes bad feelings. So there are well-formed conditions. So we need some of these things for our strategies to be effective. And are functional, well-formed conditions. A trigger which starts the process and carries with it the final criteria. Operations to alter the present state to bring it closer to the desired state. So we have little things going on, little wins in between. So we know that we're getting closer to that desired state. So buying, We want to feel happy that were bought something or, you know, maybe happy with that meal that were bought sort of thing. So getting those feelings like, yes, this is a meal I want to buy. Yep. I'm going to feel so fulfilled once I have this or I've got it in my hands and ha, this feels really good. And then eating the meal and then feeling that fulfillment of it or whatever the case may be. With that strategy, with that process, what you're aiming to achieve. A test which compares a present state to the desired state based on presorted criteria. I'm feeling hungry and a little bit down that I don't have that meal in my stomach array. So comparing that to the fulfilled state of when we do have that meal. And a decision point which determines a next step based off congruence or a lack of congruence of the test comparison. So we have our test model at the start and our test model at the end. Are they congruent or incongruent? And what steps do I need to take from here to here sort of thing. What we'll look like here to here. And I congruent, are they not? Or if they incongruent, What do I need to do to change? To get to this? Knowing the functional well-formedness conditions allows you to ask very specific and directed questions. And knowing the functional properties of strategies that allows you to recognize when you receive an answer to a different question than the one asked. So are you effectively communicating with that person and other giving you the right answer, so to speak. So there are just some things to think about. Which strategies, what to look for, new strategies, how to know when your strategy is working, and some of the well-formed conditions and aspects to look for. So you can ask, define those strategies, work out the list those strategies, and go from there. Whether you need to change it, delete some stuff, add some stuff or whatever. But anyway, guys, that's a brief look at strategies. I will see you in the next lesson. 13. Strategy Elicitation: Now we're going to have a look at the process of eliciting the strategies from Paypal. So we look at the questions that we would use to elicit the strategies. So test. How do you know when you begin the process of being motivated, learning, willpower, designing, buying, et cetera, et cetera. How do you know when you do, what you do? What lets you know when you're ready to or when you feel ready to do that thing. So this could be for absolutely anything. As we've gone on say whether it's for love, whether it's for buying something, whether it's for doing something, whether it's getting ready to learn, whether they need to feel in trade, curious, anything like that. Now we need to get them to the upper-right procedure. So what do you do first? What happens as you begin? How do you know there were alternatives or that there weren't alternatives? What do you do when you don't feel sure that you've reached your goal. So basically, how do you know what it is, what you're doing? How do you know you are motivated? Had he know that you are learning, you are retaining that information, you're doing everything the way you should be. Then back to the test. How do you evaluate alternatives? So all the other options out there. So how do you know you're motivated but not just living in the moment. Motivated as opposed to just doing or just being there. How do you know you're learning rather than just having a casual glance at a book sort of thing. How do you know that you are in love as opposed to just lust? For comparison? Dmaic. How do you know when you've satisfied your criteria? So these are things people will sign that might take a little bit of coaxing. So you may need a bit more information or questioning to get the answers out of them because they may not even know that they're doing this. So especially to if you're going for that model, you want to get everything there. You want to get them into that space. Then the exit. How do you select which alternatives to take? How do you know or what lets you know that you have decided? So I had a you know, or what do you feel that lets you know that you have finished that whole thing where you're motivated. That you are in fact in love, that you are in fact learning, that you're going to buy this thing, those sort of things. Now, this does include a lot more. So when you want to know how someone does something, for example, biking cake. We need to be specific. We need that specific information from them about the elements. There are males, the order in which I do things, et cetera, et cetera. The same holds with getting the structure of subjective experience. So establish a positive frame, a rapport. Now this is very important. You want that person feel nice and relaxed and be able to go into that state instead that strategy. You do that very well. Could you teach me how to do that? Which is a great one because if people want to teach something that makes them think about how they hold themselves, what they do to start with. Suppose I live your life for one day. How would I do this? To you want them to access at stein? They need to associate fully and congruently with the skill or state. To fully elicit their strategy. Take the person back to the place where this behavior naturally occurs. So this might actually mean putting them in that situation where they learn, if they learn best when they're studying, put them there. If it's a classroom situation and you can't do that, mimic it as best as possible. What needs to happen first as a teacher need to say something. Is the book or interest? Or do they have like a favorite pen or something like that that puts him into that stack. This lets the context with its natural anchors elicit this response. So they in the zine pretty well, they've got the natural anchor xj. This happens, so then this happens and fires off. Then you want to intensify the state. So the more of the stack we invoke, the better the more information will be our gather, the more we'll be able to see them living this strategy. Explore the how spicy questions such as, how did you decide or how do you decide? No. But you're in this or think this. What happens first? How do you know when to start or finish? This process of learning? This process for buying something, this process of love. Even look for their eye patterns and listen for the predicates that use. So you want to backtrack to get the next step. So what happens next? Okay, so you've done this pin in this bit, sorry, where are they going with their eyes and a feeling? And they're hearing, are they saying I constructing something? Those sort of things, loosening for those cues. So they construct something to get the idea of something while they're learning. They construct or the things that they're going to be able to do with this item before they purchase it. There are sort of things. Then what happens doesn't meet the certain criteria that you have, the buying. Explore the hell, still. Using accessing questions to invoke a person in recalling the experience. What did it feel like? How did you do it? What do you feel best? When do you feel best able to do it? What do you need to do it? What happens if you do do it? When did it last occur? And so those sort of questions, getting as much information as possible about how this person does this strategy. So make sure you get a logical sequence. Notice any loops or a current sequences of steps. The backtracking to make sure the test operate test method. Make sure you have all the k functional paces and elicit major representational modalities until you can play. Then you want to calibrate from an uptime state. So being fully alert and open to the person's external cues allows us to calibrate to the state. As we watch the person demonstrate the strategy. So we want to be watching everything, everything that they're doing, how they hold themselves. So our LV i, k, even our supposed smell, can be put into this one depending on what it is that they're doing, what strategy really satiety is going all on. While we're watching them do this. Then you want to feed the sequence back and calibrate. So is this correct? So I need to do this bit first, then this, and get that response from them. Then you want to test and future pace. So just testing that strategy out for yourself. Or with them, they're too. So if there's something at too that we want to change in this strategy, we want to find out where that bit is that we want to change in their strategy. Then we want to be able to change that around a little bit, offer them some other suggestions. Maybe. But the purpose of this lesson is to just get that step for the strategy. But two, in the testing and future pacing, we want to be able to successfully get through that strategy. But anyway guys, that's it for strategy elicitation. Get out there and give it a go. Ask your parents, ask you partner, ask you friends something and they do. If you have a really supportive friend, ask them what they need to do in order to be able to give a 110% of that performance. And how they get there, or something along the lines of that. But that's this lesson goes. I will see you in the next one. 14. Motivation strategies: So for our final look at strategies, let's have a look at our motivation strategies or an example of Motivation Strategies anyway. So people either move away or towards something when they're motivated towards it, or away from the bad aspect of what they're trying to get away from. So people who move toward to strongly, you may never get around to doing the unpleasant things which are necessary. While people who move away, men of a move until things get bad enough. The kinda motivation is to really easily and effortlessly do the things that are unpleasant. Most people do not need help in doing things that are pleasant. So think about yourself. How willing are you to actually do the things that you need to do to get where you wanna go. That's what changes or the difference between a motivated person and an unmotivated person, so to speak, or someone who will succeed versus someone who weren't. So here's a typical Motivation Strategies. So there's a visual construct of task accomplished leading to a positive kinesthetic. Well, there's a visual construct of negative consequences of not doing the task leading to a negative kinesthetic. So what that means is you can see the picture of the accomplished task which leads to good feelings. Or there's a visual construct of negative consequences of not doing something, which leads you to feeling bad or bad feelings. Motivations strategies are related to procrastination strategies, which is one or the other sort of thing like a vice versa. They are the flip side of the same phenomenon. Now let's have a look at elements of an effective motivation strategy. The strategy, if it has voice, has good tonality. The voice uses modal operators of possibility instead of necessity. So they're what could be the possibility of what could be rather than the need to do it. You won't be very motivated. If you need to do something. It happens out of necessity. So it will happen regardless more or less and can have a negative connotation to it. Whereas in the realm of possibility, we want to do things now and includes a representation of what is desirable about the task, the completion or the consequences, rather than a representation of the process of doing the task. So you'll have that outcome. What would be like when I'm fit, when I'm healthy, rather than the processes of running, doing the white's going through the pain, the aches and pains that come with that. Now the task is chunked appropriately. So where does it sit on the chunking hierarchy of ideals? Now towards strategies are more enjoyable and result in less stress and away strategies. So you're either moving towards being fit. Boy, I've taken 30 seconds of my time on that run or I'm lifting a little bit more. So I know I feel healthier rather than that away strategy of boy. Hmm, so happy I'm not as Wake is where r was, has that thing you're working towards something rather than moving away from weakness toward, away and mixed strategies work. Now mixed is the most general because I don't want to be awake, but I want to be strong. So I'm looking towards this while I'm looking back at that, saying, I'm glad I'm not there anymore. But boy, I'm looking towards this rare as mostly towards people will be looking towards that strength. While the way people will be looking back thinking, I can't ever go back to that. I can't go back to being Wake, which is why it's so stressful. It mixed. Think of negative first, then the positive. Boy, I was wait, but look at how strong, unbecoming, Look at the road to that. I'm improving each and every day. Now you want to try to replace away with a towards strategy. Set the frame that if you do not learn a new strategy, you will have to feel bad over and over again in the future, which uses the current strategy of moving away. Association and dissociation are critical elements. So putting yourself in there, as well as seeing yourself that fit healthy person that fit healthy being. At the end of the strategy. How do you know when you've reached that? Now good strategies work across contexts. So think about those contexts of why you're doing it and how are you doing it. Always check the ecology. Is this the right thing to do for removing negative feelings or anxiety? If I become healthy, I don't. I want a negative feeling or anxiety would be, How do I Cape it? Will only be healthy for so long. What about the costs in everything else involved with being healthy? So if the ecology is good, you won't care. I'm spending more money on being healthy, but I'll be able to earn more money. I'll be able to have more money. I'll save money on my health bills, hospital bills, those sort of things in the future from being healthy because I might need to go to the doctor. I won't need any drugs or anything like that to keep me there. It may be necessary to adjust the sub modality of the representation of the task being done in order to get a strongly motivated response. Boy, I want to be fit, but I hate running. So you have to move running from dislike to lock. For an example. If representing the past as completed does not produce a strong motivation, then focus on the consequences. What happens if you don't get healthy? What happens if you don't quit smoking? What happens if you just sit around on the couch for months and months on end? Procrastinators are often good planets. So use a time where you're procrastinating to plan how you're going to get that fitness. How are you going to stop smoking? They going to do all those things that you want to do on that side? Now here's an example of a good motivation strategy. Your internal dialogue is a pleasant voice. It will be so good when it's done. Leading to the visual constructive completed tasks of positive consequences, leading to a positive kinesthetic, leading to the beginning of the task, or future pacing appropriately. Now here are some typical problems with motivation strategies. It begins with overwhelm. How can I do this? How can I get fit? It's gonna take so long. How will I know when I'm there? The person begins to feel overwhelmed and needs to jump down and get specific. Run one kilometer first, time it, or run a whole complete kilometer first, then make it two or 1.5 and move up. The person only moves away. Either this is not enough to motivate them, or the person experiences too much stress, anxiety, and unpleasantness. We won't do what feels unpleasant tourists or what creates that anxiety. So it's easier just to not do it. If we're happy where we are, Mike, let's say, which ends my Can we change maker may change Mike, but we want that fitness, we want that health. But let's just cut down smoking for a little bit. How can I live without smoking? Those sort of things, those sort of things that hold people back. They get so far to a point and then I stop. At least I'm not there anymore. I'm here now. And this this is comfy. This isn't causing you any stress, anxiety or unpleasantness. So here I stay. Where if we will look towards we go, well, if I cut down even further and do a bit more exercise and Ada Barbara, and go towards using modal operators of necessity. So if you use a modal operators of necessity with harsh tonality, it results in bad feelings. Why aren't you fit? What are you doing? You eat, you need this, you need to do this. Creates guilt, creates stress, that sort of thing. Now, a word of caution. There are some things that one should move away from. Yeah, be careful about removing a WAI strategies entirely. It is better to design a strategy with both having that mixed in a way that you know, when you're making that progress and you know, when to sort of stop. I mean, if I was to do a fitness and just continue to move towards women, I know that I'm fit, I'm healthy, but I have to fast for six days every week, eight for one. But only a good foods. Being that calorie deficit run ten kilometers, 12 kilometers, 15 kilometers each and every day to know that I'm healthy? Or can I look back and say, well, I've lost this amount of white. I'm this percentage bodyfat. I am eating so much better. I am doing so much more exercise. This is a good place to sit for a little while until I'm able to move it up again. So I don't kill myself pretty much with fitness and health. Remember, life isn't about learning how to weather the storm. It's rather about learning how to dance in the rain. So take the positive, enjoy, the strategies, enjoy being motivated. If you doing everything with a negative mindset and connotation, you missing the point. But anyway guys, that's a little bit of a look at motivation strategies. Hope you took something out of this on how to design I strategies, how to get the most out of those strategies. Whereas looking at Y0 towards, in going from there. But in my guys, that's it for this one. And I'll see you in the next lesson. 15. Values Introduction: And welcome. In this lesson we're gonna talk about the values. So what they are, and how you use them to get more of what you want, change your purpose or someone else's purpose. The primary purpose of barriers is to act as an internal compass. Values tell us how to spend time and more is important to us. Everybody, a very set that is unique. Values are an important part of modeling is they can inform us of the time focus, energy, and direction spent on specific tasks. So going back to modelling, you want to find out those values that your exemplar has. It is possible to collect value sent on many subjects. How a person has fun, what they look for in a romantic partner. What they think is important in a car, computer house, anything at all. So things are gonna be like safety. An example of that car, or looks depending on where they're moving towards or away from or what their campus is set up. So if family, security, those things are most important to them. So I'm having fun, Probably not skydiving. But whereas if they are more into join experiences and adrenaline rushes, Yeah, that might be fun for them. Now how we elicit values collected by asking the question, what is the most important thing about that car? Having fun? You wait for an answer and ask and after that. And keep asking until the person has exhausted, all steps have important. So for instance, what is most important about the car might be that safety might be hell, it looks maybe how it feels. They, you've got 123. So here's an example here. What is the most important thing in life? Love and after that family and after that paypal, and after that learning and after that security and after that fun. Now the first couple will be the top values. So utilizing those values, the main purpose behind collecting these various sets is that they possibly the best method for motivating an individual. When the various city used, it sparks interest and desire. All that has to happen to use various It is to use those keywords in the same order that they presented. For an example, there is this new position available that I think you will love. It will give you the time to be with your family and work with a diverse group of people. It will be an environment with plenty of learning opportunities. So we've taken the first four highest value sets fallen and use them in that aura to sort of sell them on the position that they're going for. Now talking about the values alignment, the primary issue that surround values or whenever values are out of alignment with our goals. Example. So someone comes in and says, I never seem to be able to save money. And their goal is to assign money. From there we elicit their values. So what is the most important thing in life? Needs a family, friends, learning, serving, relaxing. Various tells us how to spend time and money. The above value set money is obvious by its absence. Time with family, time, with friends, time studying and surfing will come before earning money or any education or time spent on the subject of money. Now while it can be possible to earn money with these various At the moment it's earn will be spent on these various AT making saving next to impossible. The solution in this case is to switch money just in behind family. By doing this. It will raise important. It's in time spent thinking and behaving in a way to generate and save money. So we have family, friends learning, surfing, relaxing in, in, we swish with money. So you can do this in a variety of ways. You can use an anchor. You can use just a swish pattern or many of the other techniques that we've gone through and that we will go through. That is, values. Now values are very important, especially in being able to change your mindset. Get your goals clear. Where I goes. That's it for this object values. I will see you in the next lesson. 16. Values: And welcome back guys. So here we're looking at values. So the primary purpose of our values is to act as an internal compass. And values tell us how to spend time and what is important to us. So this is people spending more time on cars or more Tamar computers, more time cooking, those sort of things. Why they do that thing? Everybody has a very set that is unique values. Now, they are an important part of modeling as they can inform us of time, focus, energy, and direction that we spend on specific tasks. Or the exemplar spins on their specific tasks. So they're very important to say what the values are, list of why they're doing it. It is possible to collect value sets on many subjects. How person has fun, what they look for in a romantic partner, and what they think is important in a car computer or house. Hell, we elicit those values by asking the question, what is the most important thing about whatever that is for them? Sorry, if it's earning money, what is the most important thing about earning money or money in general? Or why do you do what you do? What is the most important thing about doing what you are doing? Wait for an answer and ask and after that. So if it is about earning money, what is the most important thing about earning money? They'll give you the answer. And after that, they'll give you another answer. What is most important thing? After that, several kids start to collect a list of those values and keep asking until they've exhausted all steps and important. So for example here, what is the most important thing in life? Love and after that family. Now after that people and after that learning, security, fun. And you could keep going until that person has nothing left to talk about there. Now how utilize those values? The main purpose behind collecting these various sets is that they are possibly the best method for motivating an individual. So now we're moving a little bit aero modelling to in terms of why you would want to motivate someone to do something. When the various city used its barks, interest and desire. All that has to happen to use varies. That is to use the keywords inside owner that they presented. For an example, this is new position available that I think you will really love. It will give you the time to be with your family and work with a diverse group of people. It would be the environment with plenty of learning opportunities. Now having look at how we can align or problems with alignment of their values. The primary issue that surrounds values or whenever values are out of alignment with our goals. So we want this big mentioned sort of thing. But we don't like stepping on people. We don't like spending money or anything like that. We like analyze normal little community where we are. For an example, the client might say to you, or someone might say to you, I never seemed to be able to save money. Where the goal is to save money from their we elicit the values. What are the most important things in life? Family, friends, learning, surfing, relaxing, various tells us how to spend time and money. In the above various it, money is obvious. It's obvious it's an issue because it's absent wherein there is money to that person. So Tommy family, Tommy friends, time, studying and surfing will come before earning money. Now while it is possible to earn money with this value set, the moment utter, it'll be spent on these various it, making it next to impossible to save any of it. The solution in this case is to switch money just in behind family. By doing this, it will raise its importance in the time spent thinking and behaving in a wider generate and save that money. So we have analysed the values that the person's got Revit, elicited from them. And we just swishing money just behind family. Now you can't do that using some modalities or any of the other techniques that you have light, we'll learn following this lesson. But that is a little bit about values, how they impact our life so much. And just a quick example of what to do with that. If you're looking at working with someone or even in your own life, how are your values getting in the way of your goals or not being the most beneficial and most efficient way to get to your goals. But anyway, guys, that's it for this one. I will see you in the next lesson. 17. The evolution of values [Autosaved]: And welcome back. In this lesson, we're going to have a look at the evolution of values or our value system. Now this is a little bit linked to values, but this is just giving more of a look, a hall on what we're going through in the world at the moment and where we've come from. So in the evolution of values and level one is focused on the self and survival. We're having our own needs met. In today's world, examples of this are babies in very young children because they've just got to survive. They're doing whatever it takes to survive. They cry when they're hungry, so we fade them. Also individuals who are suffering with degenerative conditions like Alzheimer's or someone who has an extreme drug dependency. They do whatever it takes to get what they need or what I feel I need. So that's level one. Now our level two is our band or tribal. So we band together. It's very much use centered, whereas other one is eye-centered. Now the theme is tribal, individual farmers a stronger dominant later. There's possibly a value level three, which we'll get to. The core value is safety and security, safety in those numbers. We still say forms this value level thinking today, where people stick together. The children lived down the road from their parents said that very close to their security net or people from the office who always got to lunch together because they're in their little click. It also encompasses rituals, rites and superstitions like carrying a lucky charm or even taking your car, talking to your current computer. Those sort of things. Sorry. How do we value level to perceive other value levels? By say, undervalued level toes being one of us or possibly one of them. So I can create a bit of friction there, as well as where religious, they're not sort of thing. They say very level three is a dominant later who must be obeyed. Or on the other flip side as well, if it's the other dominant later, who must be rebelled against sort of thing. I say very level for a state or maybe the government. Level five is a next Master. And available six under do good is now moving onto level three. Who is the egocentric? Which can often be aggression oriented. Now they are very eye-centered. They focuses on themselves. And it often has a lot of rage or anger associated with it. There's some set and controlling. The core values include power, avoiding shame, immediate gratification, and being respected. Now this can be seen inside the terrible twos of a toddler or the rebellious teenage behavior where everything is at to get me INA to pay the lattice. Screw you and mom and dad sort of thing. Or some people never graduate parser, as it can be seen in business to where the business owner wants to crush the competition. Or in Criminals where they have absolutely no regard or awareness for the consequences. They want, what they want, and then going to get it no matter what. Now how does a value level three perceive other value levels? They say value level two is a tool that can be used so they can get what they want. So influencing people to get more of what they want. And the value level three is a threat that needs to be overcome by any means necessary. Very little FOR usually the enemy, but definitely authority over them. Failable five, what variable three is spliced to pay? Very little six? Well, via lunch, they are just pretty much pride for valuable three. Now the level four, the absolute or saintly, which is a system orientated. You centered once again. Theme is sacrificing self to be rewarded lighter, submissive, and following a fixed plan or set of instructions from the manual. Now this can be the health and safety manual, or the Bible or the law. The motivation at this level is a Y from multivariate, the person will have a very strong sense of right and wrong, good and bad. Namesake older instability, with the covariance being security, justice, and morality. So this is government sort of thing before it gets invaluable threes and fives in there as well. So I had very little to say about the values available to. They need to be saved. They need to be saved and at there and get some experience or get those rules in place for their society. Failable threes are just bad. Value level four is seen as right, as long as I have that same moral card, if they don't, then this semaphore is wrong and it creates conflict. Pretty well available. Five is self-centred gradient, arrogant. 67 and ICT to add there, and a y with the fairies NAD come back down into the structure. But that is level four. Level five, the materialistic and it's shader. Now they are materialistic, Lee, orientated, so they want things now are very much I centered. The theme is individual with a strong personal drive and motivation. They are popular and they want to win. But it's okay if you win too. So it's less agar and more, let's just gather all the things. But hey, if you get those same things to cool good fear. So anti-Israel level, the person has a lot of energy is using a towards motivation strategy. They're going towards their goal. This is the entrepreneur very aspirational with the desire to succeed and enjoy material possessions. This person wants to be in control of their own destiny. And the common values at very little fog around creativity, success, and achievement. So these are the ones that think outside the box that want to do things that will gain them great rewards. So how did they perceive undervalued levels? Variable too, can be a resource that can be exploited. Getting those people to do everything for you. Failable three is dangerous because they can sort of aligned with you until I get what I want and then now just knock you off, sort of thing. Available for a rigid, inflexible and too bureaucratic. They are too structured there to buy the book that I think outside the box. But a variable five would. Another value of five is a rare competitor or someone who aspire to it so that it can be that mentor for another variable, five, bi-level six, Don't get it. All. Say how it is important to their personal success. And 79 make things far too complicated. But that is very little five year entrepreneurs, very much sort of where we are at the moment. While the rest somewhat available 60 back invaluable for. So value level six is air relativistic or social. These are grouping, cause orientated people. They're very much use centered. This is a more spiritual approach to the world where the focus is on consensus, agreement, and being involved in a group. This value level is about healing myself, finding in a pace in connection the core values or setting the human spirit fray, equality and fairness. Putting an end to racism, poverty and osha agonistic y's are also present in this mode of thinking. Now, the problem that these guys come into is that nothing can get done unless everybody agrees on something. Sorry. Yeah, while there's still that inequality, nothing sort of moves forward. How did I view other value levels are very low level to a marvelous communities that we should value. So they've got that connection that these guys had been aiming at. Bi-level, throwing even ADB educated in new eyes are behaving all I need to be saved, which they probably get into fought against. So these guys are pray for them and can be taken advantage of very easily available for a biased, unfair, and authoritarian center to buy the book once again, by local farms are the ones damaging the planet because they're very much I centered side. They're not going for the greater good, they're going for their own personal gain. Other various level six is enlightened, like well done for you. And I sort of things available 7's insensitive and very little ICT is okay. Now available cysts seven is a systemic integrated. So this is functional flyers and balanced in y. Individually oriented, a point of view where the person is self-motivated, expresses spontaneous and can deal with complex paradoxes with their cognitive strike. The view, the view everyone is interesting. They can learn everything or anything from anyone sort of thing that have great flexibility, functionality, and personal freedom which existed this value level. Uncomfortable available seven thinkers can leave a situation, find one that suits. And think of win-win situations for everybody. So everybody wins while gaining new ideas and using that out of the box. Thinking once again, it is somewhat I centered, but it's not so much in a guy thing OR materialistic thing. It's if I have this idea, I can do great things with it. And that is sort of where we're moving. At the moment. We do have people like this who are striving to do those things. But it does come at a bit of a cost, maybe to the environment or the world undergrad hall. But then is via a level seven and very level ICT other global renewal list. So this is once again a more balanced one. So they're not so much I use centered. The individual thinks and acts globally. They are seeking spirituality to enter unify living systems while recognizing the possible native sacrifice itself and maybe others as may be required for the overall survival of life. And this value level the individual seeks to end his aide, war, poverty, hunger, and political oppression. So these guys, you true visionaries. And they realized that it might take, you know, magnetic crack a few eggs to make the omelet sort of thing. So they might put themselves out there to catch the bullet. But if that ends disease, war, poverty, hunger, sorbet. What? Sacrificing one for the needs of the many sort of thing. But then he's very little ICT. So how do we move through these levels? So available to? We need to let go of being a victim. We need to feel that safety, which gets us to a level of understanding. Once we let go of hurt rejection. Level three, that the whole world against us that we need to pay their strongest, biggest balancing out there. We get self-acceptance and moving through the level four. But once to a level four, we get rid of that guilt that I'm wordiness. We can start to forgive or GYN and forgiveness. And level five, when we get rid of those unfulfilled expectations, that thing of the next best thing, that car being the better thing, that new computer being averages so much more or the phone or whatever. We're going to go with the flow and roll with Paypal. Now available six, when it didn't go of control. And we'll GYN pace, faith and trust. Which is very ironic saying is that's what these people are all after. But yet in such a controlling y, now in seven millennial like go those roles and duties. So the housewife, the garbage man, they can be more, they can do more. Once we get through that, we get that commitment and that constant flow of giving and receiving through that. And moving onto level ICT will go their social expectations. Who's meant to do what and who can lead and who can't laid those sort of things. Which gets us in the next level of let go and bail later. Then in Lebanon when native-like GAR, of that fee of power, which is a huge one. Because a lot of people don't want to make the wrong choice. Now, especially if at packet valuable I-T there, it is a band that sacrificing on living through to this level nine. It is about that sacrificing one for the money. We need to be able to make that call. So our money to be able to like go that fear of power making those columns so we can feel the power and bear it. That is a little bit of a look through the value levels. One value level do you think you're sitting at? Well, who do you think your friends, family, your boss sitting at? And what do they need to do to be able to move through to get that, to get a more unifying, more gratifying experience in life. But arrogance. That's the end of this one. I will see you in the next lesson. 18. Metaphors Introduction: Hi guys. In this next section, we're going to take a look at metaphor's. Now, metaphors, something I've been using little bit, threat is cost already. A pretty much stories to help you gain a better understanding, to find out what resources are available to you all, to be able to see what are the options or a wind around something. So think of your fable stories, movies, anything at all that involves a story of someone overcoming something. That is basically what we're doing with metaphors. Or also to, to put up a new perspective on something. But now this is one of the most useful, easy techniques to get to enact a bit of change in somewhat, but without further ado. Let's get into metaphors. 19. Metaphors: Welcome to metaphors. Here we're using the arm storytelling for positive change. Think of any movie, anything at all that you've ever saying that's left you with a positive feeling. Chances are, well, not chances. It was a positive metaphor. Sign. The major purpose of the metaphor is the pace and later person's behavior through story. The major points if construction consist of displacing the referential index from the person to a character in the story. So what are you going through at the moment or what do you want to achieve? And putting it in to another story that has similar things to your life, to what you're facing. Pacing the person's problem by establishing behaviors and events between the characters in the story that is similar to those in the person's situation. Accessing resources for the person within the context of the story. So it'll be very easy to put a story about a superhero on there that had all the superpowers in the world that you don't have. And the metaphor would fall apart and it wouldn't be anywhere near effective for you. So you want to finish the story too, so that a sequence of event occurs in which the character in the story resolves the conflict and achieves the desired outcome. So we get to where we want to pay and how we want to do it. First, we use pre mapping. So identify the sequence of behavior and all the events in question. So this could range from conflict between internal parts to or physical illness to problematic interrelationships between that person and the parents or their boss or their spouse or something like that. So there's a problem. Then, strategy and analysis. Is there any consistent sequence of representations contributing to the current behavioral outcome? It goes without saying, what strategies are we using, how we analyzing things, what representation is happening for us to be acting like the way we are? And how can we put that into the story? Then you want to identify the desired new outcomes and choices. How do we change and resolve these outcome? Now this can be done at any level of data, but it's important that you have an outcome to work for. You can't just want to change for the sake of it. You need to be able to aim for something, to achieve something. Then you want to establish anchors for strategic elements involved in this current behavior and the desired outcome. For instance, in one ne, tapping that one day, you might have got all of the strategies and representations and stop a person from having the necessary choices. And on the other day, you might not get any personal resources regardless of the specific contexts that the person may have. Now we get to our mapping strategies. So we want to displace a referential indices map over all nouns, sorry, objects and elements. To establish the characters in the story. The characters may be anything animate, inanimate, from rocks to forest creatures, to cowboys, to books, et cetera. What you choose as characters isn't important. So long as you preserve the character relationships, how they into mine, or intermingled in the real world. So very often you may want to use characters from Bono and fairy tales or miss the little engine that could Hansel and Gretel, how they got out of that context or out of that situation, and how they interrelate there. So if it is sisters, you do want a brother and sister sort of relationship that's well-known. It could be best friends, going somewhere, aging, going through a change of pace, sort of relationship. So you establish your isomorphism between a person's situation and behavior and their situation and behaviors of the characters in the story. You map over all the verbs, the relations in the interactions. So sine behavioral traits, such as their strategies and representational characteristics, the parallel those in the person's present situation. So you place a person's situation with the story. You into law, your story over their current situation. Make use of any anchors you've established, your net's to establish that previous secure relationship and really hone it in for that person. You want to access and establish new resources in terms of the characters and events in the story. So what are they aiming for? How they're going to get there? This one, what new resources that I need to discover about themselves or find or utilize to be able to get there. Now this may be done within the framework of re-framing or re-expressing a forgotten resource. Again, using any appropriate pre-established anchors. You may choose to keep the actual content of the resources ambiguous, allowing the person's unconscious process to choose the appropriate one. And suddenly they found what they were looking for. As you're telling that story, the person will go, yeah, cool. That's that bottle of whatever that I needed to get there. That's a power of positivity, that's an internal grit that I needed to get there. So they'll come up with their own resource there. If you keep it ambiguous, then use non-sequiturs, ambiguity, and direct quotes. These break-up the sequences in the story. And direct conscious resistance. So if there is any resistance there at all, it will turn it away from there. So if such resistance is present and he's hindering the effect of the metaphor. Conscious understanding does not, of course, necessarily interfere with the metaphoric process. So if there's any resistance, get more ambiguous, chunk up. Rather than getting down to the specifics. Keep your resolutions is ambiguous as necessary. So this allows that person's unconscious process to make the appropriate changes. Collapse a pre-established anchors, and provide a future pace if possible, to check your work. So what does that character do now? How does that character feel now? What's changed for that character? How they're going to live this new life. But keeping the resolutions is ambiguous and necessary for the situation so that they'll come up with their own solution to how they did that. And maybe I'm just like Harry Potter. I could use or warned or use my internal grit with whatever Harry Potter uses to overcome the evil sorcerer or stepmother, maybe for their story. But anyway, guys, that is how to map or ideas on mapping strategies will go through a little one now of what sort of metaphors you could use. But that's it for this one. I will see you in the next lesson. 20. Ideas for metaphors: Some welcome back. This is just a little thing to give you some ideas on how to create or what to use for your metaphors. So this just something to jog your memory to get those ideas. There's juicy metaphors flowing. So think of movies, stories, fables, anything at all that involves an example of someone overcoming adversity. Use your person that you're explaining the metaphor to their personal experience to help you formulate a story around the issue. Use your own experiences with overcoming a similar adversity. Oh, just make something up. So for example, just letting yourself go and talking, creating a story rod there on the spot, using what that person's issue is. I can never find a girlfriend. I don't seem to be able to hold onto money, whatever the case may be with that. So think of maybe Soren idea and a movie that's quite similar to that or fable or anything at all. Somewhere where someone has gone through, realised as an issue and overcome that issue. That's what you're looking for with any sort of metaphor. So think of your superhero movies, had to debate the big bad guy, the one that was stronger than them, that could run faster, could do everything better than I could. What strategies did they use? What values do they have that you can link to the person that you're making this metaphor about. Ann in just make something up, just start talking. Remember an example of when I was going through my uno patron and we had to just make something up. This person was worried about other people's energy coming into them so that we're getting all these people's negative energy. And they didn't really know who they were. So when that happened, I created a story about a paint can that all these other little paint cans were throwing their paying on it. And you know, that became a bit of an anchor. So then it's paint came and saw this teddy bear or whatever the created this beautiful bubble shield around it. So no longer could any of the other pipe fall into these beautiful colored pink. And to say it worked was a bit of an adipocyte specimen burst entities to because I was saying at our beautiful psi, you can multilayer that and get more than just what you want out of the single metaphor. That's just one example. And another one is the movie, the hoovering or hoovering. Whichever one it is where he's in Japan. And hoovering ends up getting a sink attached to an image into its heart, which allows or stops is healing factor from working. So this person said they had in their sternum which felt like a core of jaggedness. So I'm pretty much led them down the path of what would it take for you to pretty much rig that app and throw it away because it's stopping you from being who you are and who you want to be. This core of Iraqiness. Pretty much like them over AND sign is another example for someone who's had a past, whether had an absent father or he was always why at work or something like that. Just a y. You can set up the following metaphor. So the captain of the ship is the father. The first night is the mother. The crew can be the other siblings or people who are always around. The ship is the harm. Now, the captain is always way or in the cabin. You know, he's not accessible. But here you've got your first main. So the mother always talked to the father hopefully in this case and the Family Stone together in this one. You've got your other crew majors, siblings around. So how often do the crew normally get to talk to the captain? Probably not a lot. But when the captain makes time for them, that's even more special because the father or the captain in this case is trying to lead them somewhere, laid them somewhere better, doing all of this, sacrificing all of his time to do this sort of thing. So you can make a metaphor era that. But anyway guys, I know this one is short, simple to the point. It's just to give you some ideas and examples on how to create stellar metaphors. So get out there, start creating a stories for people. But I guess that's it for this one. I will see you in the next lesson. 21. Parts Introduction: Welcome back. Goes. In this section we're going to have a look at part. So what are the parts? How we can use the past to integrate them into something more congruent. So normally we have a part of us that wants to do something in a part of us and wants to stay safe. So they battle it out more or less. So we're looking at integrating those parts to make something more Hall and to get where we want and to make life a bit easier for us. So we're not constantly pulling in two directions. Barriers. This can be helpful for so many different things as well. So without further ado, let's jump into parts and parts integration. 22. Parts Integration: Welcome to part integration. They are, this is one of the most beautiful, empowering and effective techniques are found with NO pain. So let's get into the parts before we actually get into the process. What are parts? Now? Parts, a part of the unconscious with a purpose or intention and a function or behavior. They are functionally detached from the rest of the nervous system, so they're not unintegrated. Often they represent minor personalities, significant others, whether we've modeled them or imported them. Usually too, they have their own values and belief systems. So they can be two different parts or different little personalities that we have in our head that are in conflict with each other. One part of you that knows that you can do this. One part of me that thinks that you can't do this, that sort of thing. Something that are in charge of maintenance of the system. They are born from significant emotional experiences. So getting rejected is succeeding at something, excelling at something. Protect and continue. Our non integrated behavior. Parts are a source of incongruence in an individual. They themselves are incongruent. The incongruence is usually in the difference between the purpose or intention or the function and behavior. So why do I keep doing this? I can't get it. But this is really fun and I wanted to keep doing it. Those sort of conundrums that we can find ourselves in. Now, apart usually has its opposite number and alter ego, or a flip side of the coin. These two parts will have the same highest purpose or intention, which normally is peace and contentment. They were once part of a greater whole. Integration is possible on this basis. So we can exempt them up, get them to see the greater Hall in Go from there. So for structure, you want to identify the conflict and the part involved. So you wanna make sure that you identify the parts clearly and understand the nature of their conflict. Want to have the person rest both pions Dan, in their lap. Ask the person to think about Part a and notice which side of the body, which hand is that living? So as it left or the right hand. And then have them turn that palm up, still resting gently in their lap. Now makes them have a visual auditory kinesthetic image of that part is it comes out in the hand. Ask, it might be a shape as symbol occur anything at all. What does the image look like that this part of you isn't like a wider in color. If you were lifted, would it be heavy or light, rough or smooth? Now if it had a voice, what would it sound like to get that VA cave that image to really flesh that out for them so that they can see it and then talk to it. Then you want to separate the intention from behavior by chunking up, ask, what is the intention or imagine that. What would that then give you? After the person says what the intention of the part is. So they'd behavior might be something different, but we want the intention of it. Why is he? Why do you do this? So, for instance, might be safety. What's the intention to safety? Well, to feel safe or so that I can be confident in what I'm safe. So I imagine being confident feeling that what would that then gives you all the confidence, would give me the courage there go and do X. Then the confidence to go and do x would give me that pace or that contentment, which is where we want to chunk up to. So as you do this, make sure that the person's intention stays associated, why they're doing it. Do this until a place of peace and contentment is reached. Give thanks, and then turn that palm down. Then you want to elicit the opposite part to come out and allow the image to come there to vacate so that they've got their complete image that they can look back to. Then as it comes out on the other hand, we want to chunk up again until that place of peace and contentment. That same higher purpose is reached. Now two, it may not always be peace and contentment. That is just the most common one. In that too. You might get things like freedom, happiness, a place of absolute bliss, those sort of words. If you keep hitting those sort of words, you know, you're at that higher purpose. Then you want both hands to face each other and know that they were part of a greater whole. Then joining those parts together. This will take a little bit of while and we'll go through a real life demonstration of this one in a second. Now, as those hands come together, give additional suggestions for integration. So breathing in all those amazing feelings, or can you see he feel as those thoughts and feelings, as those parts, as those energies near join emerges one in your body and take the integrated part inside and have it merged into the hollowness inside. Then you want to test and future pace. What does this feel like? What can you see he feel now that you have become this, you are this, these parts are now hall. But I guess once now for a demonstration. 23. Parts Integration Demo: And so now we're gonna go in with a different type of parts integration. This one is a lot more personal and relates to the person's self esteem. So this is taking the part of the person that knows that they can do something and then the part of them that knows that they doubt chunking up until you find the common ground. Now in most cases that would be something like peace or contentment. But you may find some people get stuck on things like happiness or just joyful or just at really good feeling. And they haven't got a word to describe it. So you just take it as you count. But you want to go into it, you start getting that sort of repeating cycle on both sides. So you've got that same sort of feeling, even ask them. So is that the same sort of feelings you had last bit? And if they say yes, then you can move on. But anyway, we'll get into this part integration site. I've I mean, close their eyes. Just thank you. Notice taper in getting that rapport with this one, with the script in there. And starts with some really positive stuff that they're here today because they're ready, ready to move forward, step fully into your power and live the life that you were born to live. Now, I want you to think about the part of you that knows that you can, that part of you that knows that you can step forward into your power and live that life that you were born to live. We need to think about that part of, you know, as you think about that part of you, you will notice that it lives in either left or the right side of the body. Which is say it lives in either the left or the right hand. All right. Turning that palm up for me. Now, when you'd allow an image to come to mind, an image that represents that part of either part of you that knows that you can, might be a shape or symbol or color, anything at all. What does that part look like? Fireball. Now, if that fireball had a voice, I'm gonna speak to you. What would it sound like? Would it be loud, soft, feminine, masculine, grizzly. What does it sound like? It's quite deep, quiet day. Now knowing that everything happens for a reason, being that there is always a positive intention. The only reason these parties here is because it's trying to guide you, trying to teach you. It has incredible tools and resources to offer you. I wonder, what is this part trying to teach you? What does it have to tell you? What does it say? Couldn't go? Yeah. When you feel that you allow yourself to feel as though you're good enough. What you feel in ancient every cell of your being really own that feeling. Then noticing, what does that give you and how would you feel? Now that good feeling? Oh, either land a good feeling to spread throughout your whole body. Each and every cell, three rounds and free legs. And noticing, what does that good feeling than give you narrowed you feel. Now that lightness. Or you really feel that, oh, when you really allow that lightness to take control of you. And you feel each and every cell becoming lighter. The noticing. When does that then give you inherit? You feel a sense of freedom. They're, they're afraid and you feel that frayed and want you to really feel as though you're free. You feel that freedom in age, in every cell of your being. Really owning that sense of freedom. And noticing, what would that thing give you? And how would you feel. Now, what does that good feeling feel like? Dislike, good feeling give you if you really let yourself get lost in that good feeling. Just saying stuff and why? I say, this part has so much to offer you. It says all you need to do is know that you're good enough. And this lightness in his freedom is yours. But really give thanks for this part for communicating with you today. Then when you're ready, just turning that Pontiac literally it'll turn up the left path for me. Now this is a part of you that doubts, since unsure, feel stuck or way down. Now what you'd allow an image to come to mind that represents that part of you. What does that image look like? Now if that rock had a voice and really speak to you what it sounds like. A pretty deep. And again, everything happens for a reason and there is always a positive intention. You might actually be very surprised to find out what amazing resources that this rock has for you. I wonder. What is this part trying to teach you? Does this part say? Okay, so what's a positive intention about not being good enough? This is a positive power that you get are not being good enough. I hold myself to highest and good. Now, you feel that you feel good. That sense of holding yourself to, I stated everything you do is to a high standard. Noticing what does I think give you inherit you feel very high. Yeah. But what does it feel like holding yourself to that high standard? Knowing everything you do is to IEEE standard. What does that give you a sense of achievement and ones like it. Now when you feel that sense of achievement and what you'd allow that seems to flow through your whole being to each and every cell of your being. Really hiring that achievement. They noticing. What would that then give you? Inherit you feel proud. That sense of pride. Feeling proud. When you allow that to flow through your whole being, becoming one with each and every cell of your being. You really feel proud of yourself and noticing. What would that then gives you? And how would you feel really good? That good feeling? What does that feel like if you are aware that good feeling to spread throughout your entire body. So if you were to allow that lightness to become one with each and every cell of your being to really iron that feeling of lightness. Then just noticing, what would that then gives you inherit you feel pretty free. If you really feel and sense of being frame. Really just allowing yourself to be free and just noticing. What was that thing give you inherit you feel? Yeah. Is that like the exact same as what you felt with the other part? Yes. See this part isn't the enemy after all. It has the sanitation for you. It wants to take you to that place of freedom and lightness as well. Isn't that the Ottoman? Isn't that what we're all here for? Now? Want you to raise both hands with the palm spacing HR few inches apart, but just facing each other. As soon as you do that, you'll feel an incredible energy building up between your palms. Now as I look at each other, they recognize maybe for the very first time, that they want the same outcome for you. They both want to take you to that place of freedom and whiteness. You'll start to notice that energy building up stronger and stronger. Now. You see they were once part of a greater whole, but some way over time they became fragmented and started pulling in different directions. But now that desire to become one is so strong. And as all other parts of you that have ever become fragment now merging to join with those energies, just feeling and stronger and stronger, pooling together in your own way, in your own time you can allow those parts, those hands today I'm emerge feeling that pool, feeling how strongly they want that same outcome for you. They want to come together. I want to be home once again. I'm just placing your hands idea, heart, and breathing in all those energies. Feelings, sensations as those changes now take place, feeling them three rounds for your links. And then when you're ready, taking an ISDN briefing. And as you exhale heavy fear for that. Yeah, good, good. So there is a parts integration there. You will have some. 24. Prime Concerns: Hi guys. Now are having a look at prom concerns. So think of this one as the next step up from iPods integration. So with the parts, we've got two parts here. We're looking at four different areas or quadrants of the brain. So a prime concern in NO pain describes our deepest identity level belief about ourself. We all have concerns in our life. Now a prime concern is one that spans all areas of life. So for example, a deep level limiting belief in yourself, I'm not good enough. So quite often AV node affects all other areas of life. We don't know what it is consciously. So I, for example, there is something within you that hold you back and prevent you from being who you want to be, doing, what you want to do, or having what you want to have, but you don't know what it is. This could be the prime concern for you. If you were able to discover it and get rid of it, it would totally change your life, wouldn't it? So to get to the bottom of this, it normally consists of two questions that help you to know a lot more about a person, their motivation, and their life. Here are the questions. What are you best at starting changing or doing or stopping things? What do you worse that starting changing or doing or stopping things. Now the premises. And this is a generalization, not a rule. If you worked at starting something, this might interfere or influence how you say your identity. Or you might not feel like you can be who you really are. Now If your worst at changing something, this might stop you from doing what you truly want to do. There might be the all beliefs that don't give you permission to do something new. Whereas if you're worse at stopping something, this might create a conflict. If having what you want to have and you might ask yourself, why can't I have that? Personally? If I noticed that there is a conflict within me and I'm incongruent about starting, changing or stopping something in my life. These are the first aspects I look at. Now we're eliciting that prime concern. So starting changing, stopping. So for the purpose scenario elicitation, there are six possibilities that operate in conjunction with one another. So in other words, a person will be best at 01:00 AM worst than another. So those two Plus One more question to ask teeth and in-order. So what are you best at? Starting changing stopping. What it was that starting changing stopping. So who or what is it that you're not being doing are having that you want to be do or have. Now, person who's worse at starting things will have trouble being who they want to be. Why kinda Bay who I want? Where's it changing? We'll have trouble doing what they want. And the person who's worse at stopping or finishing things will have trouble having what they want. So now we elicit the static style. Sorry, well, we're looking for that prime concern. We're not really looking for the static side. We're looking for the non mirror image reverse of the aesthetic style. That'll make sense in a second. So this elicitation will provide a tremendous amount of information. Firstly, we asked them, can you remember a time when you were totally static? Do that, would you place and getting them into that state saying what they saw, hearing what they heard, feeling, what they felt. They IK. Now, as you remember a time you were totally studying, what was present in that state that's not usually present. And you get them to write down the exact words that they give you. Make sure that they're fully accessing an inline style. So you want to say them in a static or start to get a static having that energy. Then we asked them what was missing that's usually present in your normal waking state. So again, running down exactly what dy psi. So the answer is that the person gives you in questions 23 will give you a level of words that are either prime concerns, all leading to prom concerns. Now with this information, we can begin to construct sentences to balance his prime concerns. So, yeah, we want to sets of answers. Normally you want to bet two or three words for H or even more if they start saying that. So in the second question, they might be excited, motivated, passionate, confident. And the third question, they might be missing, worry, doubt, boring, this mundane as those sort of things. Those are the answers that you're looking for. But whatever they sign. Now sentence structure, what makes sense? And it's not meant to make sense. So if Azure rotting it out, you'll have to go over it a few times probably. And Avinash is saying it to them. You'll have to go over a few times to be able to get it to flow smoothly. Sorry, a prime concern, as we'll get to in the example. But let's just say having money is anything less than doing fun, excitement, joy is having worry, concern, doubt. So that is basically what your sentence will look like. For the theorem. One. There's not a lot of difference between them. Just introduces the word not at different points. Say for example, here. We've got having money is anything less than not doing joy, excitement, fun. Whatever I said before, is having worried that concern. Then for inverse, having money is anything less than doing joy, fun, excitement is not having worried, doubt, concern. Then a non mirror versus our last one. Having money is anything we're not doing. Joy fun. Wherever I said, is not having worry concern down. So as you'll have them written down as I do in the example as well. So don't worry if that was true. But you'll get the sentences and you wrote ammonia and you'll do them in different order. So then you want a future pace. So you use this point to go back and forth across the threshold and the boundaries. Now repeat as many times until it makes sense. Now, I may make sense to that person. There'll be times. What, what, what, and then all of a sudden it all just clunk. And Olga, even though structurally it doesn't make sense, it will make sense to them. All that problem will disappear. So then you want to future pace and test that problem. Then you were to ask the person to tell you more about what is it about having money that's such a problem? Tell me more. Tell me more. Tell me more until they've told you everything that I can think of, then what is it that you haven't told me that you're not thinking about right now. Then we fall off the null set anchor as I consider problems, problem states or strategies that created that problem. And that is prime concerns. It is confusing. But the more you get the hang of this one, the more powerful you'll be able to become added. It is a very powerful technique, especially when there's just something he can't get past. So using this one for problems where Paypal just yet I can't get past it. No matter what techniques you try or wherever else you've done, wherever else they've done, they just cannot get past this concern. But our eye goes near, we'll go through an example of that. And hopefully that'll make a lot more sense. So welcome to our prime concerns demonstration. So here we have Amy who's not being doing or having something that is really important to a, there's just something it's not quite meshing there. So we start by asking you a few questions. What are you best at AMI, starting, doing or finishing things? Starting got start. Which then we look at a little chart here, which turns into being, what do your worst at starting, doing or finishing things? Finishing. Finish, which once we look at our chart again turns into having. So here we've got our x or y values. So who or what is it that you want to be do or have that you're not being doing all having to be healthier. And yes, sir, it is. We'll put healthy there. So now we have zed value as well. So we get Amy to think about a time where she was totally static, totally in control. Now, can you remember time when you were totally ecstatic? Yeah. Yeah. When I got my black belt. Yep. Good. So thinking back to that time, what was present during that time? That's not usually present. Being motivated, confident, I suppose just knew I could do what needed to be done. So I knew I could do it. Do it now. Okay. And so that will give us our a value there. So what was missing during that stay? When you're a totally static and it's normally missing all the normally present ear everyday usual waking state. Wasn't lazy. Yeah. I didn't have any Mozi. Yeah. Wasn't stressed, didn't feel pressure, stress, pressure. So now it doesn't matter that we've only got three values here and we've got four here. We can still use this and uses very well. So this gives us the IB value. So now we start to construct our sentences because we've got a, we've got our x and our y a, and yeah. So with this one, I mean, as I say the sentences, they're not gonna make sense. But if they, in a weird way makes sense, then we can move on to the next one. Okay. So I'm gonna close my eyes all day. You can close your eyes, you can do whatever. Okay. So healthy is anything less than being or having motivated, confident, knew I could do it, is having or being lazy doubt stress, pressure doesn't make sense. Go. So then we just repeat. So healthy is anything less than being or having motivated, confident knew I could do it, is having being. Lazy doubt, stress, pressure. Now, OK. And so to speak is in the case I, when you've actually got it written down in the proper certain seeing it does make a lot more sense and can flow ESEA. So healthy? Healthy is anything less than being or having motivated, confident knew I could do it. Is having being lazy downstairs pressure. No. That's right. Healthy is anything less than being having motivated, confident knew I could do it is having being lazy down stress pressure. So yep. Okay. So it will only sort of make sense. So then we can move onto the next one. Healthy is anything less than not being having motivated, confident knew I could do it. Is having being lazy, doubt stress, pressure. No. Healthy is anything less than not being having motivated, confident knew I could do it. Is having being lazy, doubt stress, pressure, healthy is anything less than not being having motivated, confident knew I could do it. Is having being lazy dab stress pressure. Okay? And you might find too that you will get stuck on one. So then just skip to the next one. So healthy is anything less than being having motivated, confident knew I could do it. Is not having being lazy, doubt stress, pressure. Go again. Yeah. Healthy is anything less than being or having motivated confident knew I could do it is not having been lazy, doubt stress, pressure. Healthy is anything less than being or having motivated confident knew I could do it is not having being lazy, doubt stress, pressure. So then we can move on to our last one. He healthy is anything less than not being or having motivated confident knew I could do it is not having being lazy doubt stress, pressure. Makes sense. And what makes sense? So I've got 123, several go back to that second line. Healthy is anything less than not being having motivated, confident knew I could do it. Is having been Lozi doubt stress, pressure. Healthy is anything less than not being a having motivated, confident near aka Do it. Is having being lazy, doubt stress, pressure, healthy is anything less than not being having motivated, confident, knew I could do it. Is having being lazy doubt, stress, pressure. Makes sense. It makes sense. Okay. So how do you feel now towards being healthy? To do it? Yeah. Yet, but how easy does it feel? How do you feel that you could be healthy? Fill is blocked or stock. Good, excellent. And so that's pretty much it. Now, another way you could do that is to go read one. If that doesn't make sense, who cares? Move on, 2341234. Now this one makes sense. Just 234. Or read this one, it doesn't make sense. If this one does, then leave it out. So 134 would be the next round until they all make sense. Or you could do it this way. Repeat one until it makes sense. Gotta to, for a period of time, unless it doesn't make sense, then go on and on. But in regards that is just a demo on how to do prime concerns. So that's it for this one. And I will see you in the next lesson. 25. Foveal Trance: Hi guys, welcome back. So in this lesson we're going to have a look at five-year-old trends. So I foveal traits is a trends that you can induce on someone or yourself, even without actually having to go into trance like the fool trans dat state. So it uses the I and our awareness of the surrounding to help us get past issues, emotions, behaviors, and more. This technique is great when you can't find another way around something. So you're just focused solely on that problem and the problems there. This is a great way to find a no solution out there. So this is like a software version of hypnosis where the person having the technique done to them is someone who puts himself into the trends just by focusing on a single point. So the foveal, the focus. So as you'll see in the example, I just get Amy to stare at a TV screen connected to the computer where I've just gone into paint and put a black dot in the middle and just had a focus on that black dot. But you can use a point on a wall if you've got a picture there or something, or even just like a hanger sitting there. You can focus on that point. You can focus on the corner of a ceiling, any point whatsoever. And just having that person focus on that. And in addition to being in the state of entering that Dave trends while maintaining that external awareness. The state tank something from the material realm into the void and vice versa. But we'll get into that in a sec. And according to the assumptions of quantum physics, you can create your universe based on your personal observation. So if you didn't know something existed, then it did not. So by knowing something, you are actually creating it. And at the same time, the knowing at some level also a creative boundaries and can be limiting to your choices since it stops you from being in touch with all the infinite ways of knowing. So that basically it comes back down to a blueprint of behavior. Again, the things that exist to us, we know r, we know what they are. So for instance, here is a pair of glasses. This is a pair of glasses because it has to I think it has to stem the whole thing's on. We know it to be glosses where limited into knowing that these are glasses, braze. Who else knows what they could be in the realm out there. So when we're using foveal trends to get rid of a problem. It's a simple, easy way to do it, and it can be used for a single negative emotions, behaviors, or complex problems in situations that involve more than one emotion. The k is a person's ability to get in touch with that whole problem, to focus in on that whole problem. So technically, the technique works by lighting up and removing the boundary conditions of the problem, thus dissolving in, Into the void. So we have the problem on that focus point. So aware that focus point is in front of us. And then we elicit an option or something out here are outside that boundary of the problem here. Realists, it's something else said, problem no longer can exist. Because now we know that there's something outside of that problem. So we tend to the person to go into trends, say pick a spot on the wall or wherever that spot maybe. Now as you focus on it, now paying attention to the peripheral part of the vision. And then we just anchor that Stein. Sorry, we have them focus. But then as I've become so focused, I become aware of everything else around them so I can see my fingers, they adhere, twinkling, cool, and so we anchor that. Then you elicit the problem. Ask them, what is the problem. Have the person talking about the problem. Have them get in touch with how you know, you have that as a problem. So we really want them to feel and getting to that feeling of the problem right then and there. Now go into that five-year trends. So focusing back on that spot. And in that sport you can see your problem and then you fall off your Anka. So I suggest to the individual that they preserve any positive learning from that problem. Bragg stack, and repeat step 23 until the person can no longer access that problem. You may even need to do it once. It is incredibly quick and you'll notice a person start. Essentially. Once you start looking at the face, they'll start trying and to look away from that problem. And you can say just that sensory acuity kicking in. And you'll know you've got it. Now if we're using folio trans for getting rid of attachments and manifesting and outcome. So I, since in quantum physics, the whole contains the part and the part contains a hole. Every desire contains a potentiality of the opposite in its essence. So every time that we want something that isn't inherent potentiality of not being okay with not having that. This technique can be used to get really the desires that causes to lose their balance and to be less than totally centered. So paradoxically, by resolving the desired outcome in the void, you may actually enhance it happening spontaneously. It's that thing of wanting something so bad that you can never obtain it. Now the process for this is very, very similar. Teaching the person to go on to further your trends. Again, picking the spot on the wall, firing of that anchor. As I now focus on the peripheral vision, elicit the problem. Had the person talk about their problems, desire. So get in touch with how you know, you want that financial flexibility, that new job, that new car, whatever it may be, that confidence. Now go into that verbal trends. Right there on that spot is what you want. It's everything that you want. Everything about it that you want is in that spot. But heavy paid attention to whatever he and reform if that anchor and just watch the facts, preserve any learnings. Brixton. So you've got that completely blank again. Get them to do the problem if they can again, focusing on that spot, firing that anchor, and just repeating that. So very, very simple. Now if we want to use it to explain consciousness, this is something that you should be very, very careful with. If you want to go beyond all illusions, you can use this process for removing illusions created by time-space matter, etc. Now the result is a rapid entry into a profound state of transcendence spill connected while connected with waking reality. It's a rapid way of achieving awareness of a simultaneous reality. This is cool. This is like a natural high. But the warning is there. This is a powerful technique and requires you to be a balanced person who is well-grounded in life. It may produce significant altered states. Using it for this purpose is for yourself. Ima uses primarily for yourself and another person only if they have gotten rid of a good amount of negative emotions and negative beliefs. And so they're not gonna freak out. They're not gonna become trapped in an alternate or altered state. That's a bit of a nightmare for them. And they have a good reality strategy. So you want them to be able to eventually come back into reality, but just having that experience. Now you do not have permission to teach this to other people. Only use it after you have cleared all negative emotions and limiting decisions. So I go through with this. Do you timeline therapy, do you part integrations, do whatever you can to get rid of all of that. Then you can try this one. So the process, going into five-year-old trends that spot on the wall and anchor it. Elicit the knowing these and similar issues. Such as a person focuses on that spot or you focused on that spot? How do you know that there is time? How do you know that you are you're how do you know that these are glasses? Now go into five-year trends, far off that anchor and then calibrate all that for integration. Are I know there is any positive learning in this. But once again, break that state. If you want, you can repeat that again. So going back in, how do you know that there is time? How do you know that you were you in getting a person? Once you get this, it's quite amazing. I didn't do a demo and is one because it is, it's pretty wild. I've actually had the experience of having it done. To me. I was a demonstration for a whole class and there was a good couple of minutes. I couldn't actually spake because even my sentence structure was challenged. But all of this. It was a pretty natural stone sort of feeling like it was just and you could project yourself. It's a most spiritual experience I've sort of had in that sense. But anyway guys, that is foveal trends. This is another one that is quick and easy and produces solutions very, very rapidly. But especially with this last one. Use it with caution and practice, practice, practice with this one. But let's have a look at the demonstration for how to use it to get rid of a problem. So welcome to our foveal trends demonstration. So that for this one, you can use like a corner in the ceiling, spot on a wall, anything at all? Say here I've just got a little time way out in front of us with basically a little black dot on it. And I'll show you a picture of that API. So we're going to get angry to focus on that spot. Now this is just to establish this and angular. So I mean, I just want you to focus on that spot. Now, as you focus on that spot, you'll notice that your awareness starts to expand so much so that you can see my fingers are here. Looks good. Okay? And so you can say this rings any good. Okay. So now we're going to break stay with me. Yeah. Usual what you had for breakfast, wherever else. But we've established NCA. So now, I mean, when I what what is the problem? Suggested that many job stress the bad new job. Okay, so I want you to see that problem as you look at that spot now. As you focus on that spot, I want you to say everything that they had that problem there. Everything that that problem is on that spot. But then you notice something new as well? Yeah. Okay. How do you feel that that problem there? Like I can believe that the better you can bring it up it better. Now, you essential acuity will have got you that as well. If you watch the person, you will notice that something happens in. Because we're working on the unconscious and the conscious mind at the same time. So we're consciously getting them to think about that problem while we're coming out side the problem he, and forming of that anchor to allow our unconscious to solve it. And that is why we are trends. So how quick and easy, Mazatlan, how quick and effective was that fear? Very quick and good. And that's a magical. But as long as someone's clear about the problem and you've got a clean spot. You can't have their eyes dying around all over the place for this one, it's just going to be a clear one spot. Focus goes. That's it for this one. I will see you in the next lesson. 26. NLP Master Class Part 3 Conclusion: So that brings us to the end of part for a well done. Now is the time to go and practice, practice, practice these skills, start thinking about what metaphors can I use? How do I change this strategy to work more efficiently or produce a better outcome? And how do I push myself to get my values in alignment with what I actually want in life. As well as being able to anchor things in conversations. Get people to remember you better, or for whatever purpose you may want them. Even stepping out in a stage environment and being able to present a lot better by using that power circle. But anyway, guys, I hope you really enjoyed and got a lot out of this one. This is more or less the fundamentals of NLP. So these are some of the things that we can use to do what we want to do and how we want and help people change. Barry guys, That's not all there is more coming up. So we have hypnosis and timelike there a bit ago as well as a whole bunch of other processes and stuff that sort of didn't fit anywhere else. Barrel throwing at the end. So stay tuned for those ones. And I'll see you in the next course.