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NLP: Destroy Self-Doubt - Psychological View of Confidence

Patrick Howell, International Best-Selling Instructor

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7 Lessons (32m)
    • 1. NLP Destroy Self Doubt Skillshare Intro

      5:13
    • 2. NLP Intro to course

      5:01
    • 3. Good Wolf

      5:37
    • 4. NLP Pattern Interrupt Part 1

      4:13
    • 5. NLP Pattern Interrupt Steps 2 3

      5:27
    • 6. NLP pattern Interrupt Step 4

      5:53
    • 7. Now Included in Skillshare Membership

      0:21

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Become the most dynamic and powerful version of yourself. NLP Re-patterning can help you get there . . . fast! 

This course is about more than just self esteem or self confidence, It's going to give you a fresh perspective on living a fully expressed life, and provide powerful self image strategies to completely transform your level of personal effectiveness..

Taught by a leader in the field of NLP and applied positive psychology. When you watch the videos and do the practices, you will understand the basic tenets of Human Performance Techniques. 

With a small time investment... Practicing this techniques for just minutes per day can yield exceptional results in your life.

This course will walk you through specifically why, how, when, where and exactly what you need to do to experience greater self esteem. Impacting your personal life and your business.

Here's What You'll Be Able to Do After Enrolling in This Course:

  • Increase Confidence by as Much 100%
  • Release Negative Emotions
  • Attend Any Event or Function and Feel At the Top of Your Game
  • Create a New Path for Living
  • Become Energized and Motivated at Will
  • Reach Your Goals In a Direct Fashion
  • Use These NLP Techniques with Clients and Friends
  • Feel Confident in Your Ability to Take Action
  • Coach Others to Peak Performance

 

Some of What You Will Learn in This Course:

  • The Secrets of Becoming Your Best Self
  • How to Use Neuroscience to Your Advantage
  • Simple Methods to Eliminate Negative Thinking
  • How to Shift Sub modalities
  • How to Condition Yourself for Greatness
  • Mental Success Energy

 

Why You Should Take This Course:

  1. Increased Self Esteem
  2. Increased Self Confidence
  3. Improved Perception of Self Worth
  4. Improved Clarity In What is Most Important
  5. Access to Masterful Tools
  6. More Self Confidence In Your Ability to Achieve Your Personal & Business Goals
  7. Greater Motivation to Achieve Your Goals
  8. Better Relationships
  9. Greater Ability to Be Fully Self Expressed



Transcripts

1. NLP Destroy Self Doubt Skillshare Intro: I'd like to invite you to consider that your thoughts, what you think about yourself, your behavior, your actions, the way you feel about yourself, whether it's a good feeling or a bad feeling, correlates to the internal representation of outside stimuli or experiences that you encounter. Therefore, the experiences, the circumstances, the situations are not a determining factor that decides your self image. As John Milton wrote, The mind is its own place and in itself can make a heaven of hell and a hell of heaven. What NLP and self directed confidence exercises do is they place you in charge of your experience. They allow you to retroactively release and reconfigure the feelings of limited self belief and then to opt into a more empowering context. NLP Techniques, in truth, are similar to any personal effectiveness strategy in that you must make a self directed effort, a commitment to doing the exercises and practising the techniques. You see the things that play tricks on your thinking, the things that create unnecessary drama in your life that give you a low self image. All take place in what is often times referred to as the theater in your mind. this theater, in actuality, has no physical stage. The cast, the crew, the extras, the emotions that are evoked from the studio in the mind, the degradation feelings of being not as worthy as perhaps the next person. All of these things have no absolute truth. It is true that you may experience this sense of not being worthy of this or that, and you may experience not being good enough. But these experiences, what you're feeling is not truth. There is no absolute truth there. They are an interpretation of life's experiences. And the terrific amazing news is that you can start to interpret life's experiences in an empowering way. You convey dramatically. Increase your level of self esteem by shifting your context. The tools within the field of NLP, a Jew in creating this new interpretation and as a byproduct of shifting your sensory experience, shifting how you interpret these incoming messages this incoming stimuli, your outward behaviors modeled on this foundation of self esteem. In success, they begin to emerge. You start to act differently and feel differently and interact differently with the world around you. Now, as a caveat, I say this in every one of my courses. NLP is not about tricking your mind into believing anything. It's not about tricking your mind into believing things about yourself that aren't true. NLP techniques impact your neural pathways and provide a new stage. A new theatre from which you can experience more of what it means to be fully alive and fully self expressed. So we not only talk about feeding the good wolf, we practise techniques that help you do exactly that. And beginning in the next section, you'll learn essential elements for making massive gains in your personal growth. And then after that, we're gonna move into something that is so pervasive removing those false claims against your self worth, stopping and halting that negative self talk so that you can gain confidence and a sense of self assuredness. Moving forward, you're going to learn a process for setting your desired behaviors. Toe automatic in NLP, we refer to this as anchoring. You'll learn the process of anchoring how it works, and you'll also be prompted to print off a downloadable worksheets that you'll use for your very first anchoring practice. You'll then use your anchoring knowledge to gain confidence on demand and to use your physiology to create confidence boosting chemicals when you need them, and even before you get into the bonus and the additional support material sections, you'll be taken on a tour of NLP and human performance strategies from the field of positive psychology, the Science of happiness and learn how to maximize everything from this course that you've learned up to this point. So let's go ahead and we'll get started together when one more thing before we head into the next video. If you would like to stay up to date on any new class that I publish, be sure to click the follow button and that button ca NBI, located either directly above this video or directly below it. It seems as though skill share sometimes moves that follow button. I also share Resource is with my followers and I run contests, and if you are a follower of mine on skill share, you'll be first to hear about any of these opportunities 2. NLP Intro to course: I'd like to invite you to consider that your thoughts, what you think about yourself, your behavior, your actions, the way you feel about yourself, whether it's a good feeling or a bad feeling, correlates to the internal representation of outside stimuli or experiences that you encounter. Therefore, the experiences, the circumstances, the situations are not a determining factor that decides your self image. As John Milton wrote, The mind is its own place and in itself can make a heaven of hell and a hell of heaven. What NLP and self directed confidence exercises do is they place you in charge of your experience. They allow you to retroactively release and reconfigure the feelings of limited self belief and then to opt into a more empowering context. NLP Techniques, in truth, are similar to any personal effectiveness strategy in that you must make a self directed effort, a commitment to doing the exercises and practising the techniques. You see the things that play tricks on your thinking, the things that create unnecessary drama in your life that give you a low self image. All take place in what is often times referred to as the theater in your mind. this theater, in actuality, has no physical stage. The cast, the crew, the extras, the emotions that are evoked from the studio in the mind, the degradation feelings of being not as worthy as perhaps the next person. All of these things have no absolute truth. It is true that you may experience this sense of not being worthy of this or that, and you may experience not being good enough. But these experiences, what you're feeling is not truth. There is no absolute truth there. They are an interpretation of life's experiences, and the terrific amazing news is that you can start to interpret life's experiences in an empowering way. You can dramatically increase your level of self esteem by shifting your context and learning to re experience yourself in a completely different way. The tools within the field of NLP, a Jew in creating this new sensory experience, this new interpretation and as a byproduct of shifting your sensory experience, shifting how you interpret these incoming messages this incoming stimuli, your outward behaviors modeled on this foundation of self esteem. In success, they begin to emerge. You start to act differently and feel differently and interact differently with the world around you. Now, as a caveat, I say this in every one of my courses. NLP is not about tricking your mind into believing anything. It's not about tricking your mind into believing things about yourself that aren't true. NLP techniques impact your neural pathways and provide a new stage. A new theatre from which you can experience more of what it means to be fully alive and fully self expressed. So we not only talk about feeding the good wolf, we practise techniques that help you do exactly that. And beginning in the next section, you'll learn essential elements for making massive gains in your personal growth. And then after that, we're gonna move into something that is so pervasive removing those false claims against your self worth, stopping and halting that negative self talk so that you can gain confidence and a sense of self assuredness. Moving forward, you're going to learn a process for setting your desired behaviors. Toe automatic in NLP, we refer to this as anchoring. You'll learn the process of anchoring how it works, and you'll also be prompted to print off a downloadable worksheets that you'll use for your very first anchoring practice. You'll then use your anchoring knowledge to gain confidence on demand and to use your physiology to create confidence boosting chemicals when you need them moving on in the class, you're gonna learn how to identify and then to literally hurdle the barriers that keep you from achieving the goals that you have set for your life. And even before you get into the bonus and the additional support material sections, you'll be taken on a tour of NLP and human performance strategies from the field of positive psychology, the science of happiness and learn how to maximize everything from this course that you've learned up to this point. So let's go ahead and we'll get started together. 3. Good Wolf : Okay, So here's the main thing that I want to say that I want to leave behind in this particular lecture before we start getting into some of the work in some of the activities. And it is simply this that just because of your commitment, your commitment to jumping in this material, your commitment to taking this course or any course your commitment to growing your confidence to enhancing your self esteem, which may, by the way, be an area of your life, a very core part of your fabric that you feel has been deficient your entire life. So just by your commitment to direct your focus in this area, this really begins toe leverage your ability to to transform who you are today. Just indulge me for a quick moment. If you if you would, I want to share with you a story. It's a brief story, and the reason I want to share it is because I believe that the underlying message really highlights the attitude. It highlights the focus. It highlights the demeanor that will enable you to take this material, take the techniques, take the exercises in this course and take the exercises from any course from any reading that you really take on from any developmental process and will really help you to turn those those that knowledge and those exercises into what may seem like miracles with in your life. So here's the story. One evening, sitting by a campfire, an elderly Cherokee Indian men is there with his grandson and the elderly Cherokee Indian is helping his grandson understand important messages from life. So he says to the grandson, He says, Hey, grandson, When I was in my mid twenties, I had a great insight, a great insight that has provided me the guiding principles and the value to which I continue to live my life to this very single day and whether it's comfortable to hear or not, grandson, the truth is within you. In fact, within every single human being, there is a fierce battle raging between two wolves, a good wolf and a bad wolf. You see, from a distance to wolves, they made look very much the same. They may look identical, but when you get up close and you begin to inspect, it becomes apparent that they are not similar at all. The first wolf is the wolf of goodness and optimism. This wolf. Yes, he's strong and he's tenacious. He's tough, but he's also tender. The characteristics of this good wolf include a confident demeanor towards the things that he wants. A courageous outlook, a deep respect for itself and for others. Second Wolf is the bad wolf wolf of discontent and let down this wolf is self conscious, this wolf this week of mind. He's uncertain of himself and skittish in his behavior. His characteristics include jealousy, anger, bidding, bitterness. He has little ability to lead himself and certainly no ability to lead others deeply engaged in what his grandfather is telling him, the grandson begins to get a little bit on edge and feel anxious. So we interrupts his grandfather to ask, Hey, Granddad, if there are indeed two wolves engaged in this fierce battle going on within me, please tell me, Grandpa, please, which one will win the good wolf for the bad wolf? To which his grandfather replies Grandson, the wolf that will win the battle is the wolf that you choose to feed. Now, the underlying message within that story, I mean it really nails a substantial tenet of human development by focusing on the right things, the things that you want with eager passion and with a great attention to the outcomes that you desire you begin to. Then we'd out or starve the obstacles in your way. You make a path to become the most dynamic version of yourself possible. And so in a nutshell, that's exactly what we're going to be doing in this class. We're going to be working on directing your focus towards the things that you want, not only by by applying NLP techniques, but by using human performance strategies and exercises that rely on your ability to to stay committed to the work. And I'm excited again to be doing this with you and to be doing it in this format. And I love hearing from my students. So please do not be shy. Pop in. Say hello. Send me a message. Write something on the message board. I always love to hear from you learn where you're coming from from what part of the world, and here's some of your challenges in some of your successes 4. NLP Pattern Interrupt Part 1: Theo exercises that you're learning in this section take a bit of work, but the work that you put in now will pay dividends for years and years to come. So in the next few lectures we're gonna use something known as a pattern interrupt. That's just NLP language. But if you break the words down pattern, interrupt its exactly what it sounds like. It's a non ANA. When the internal dialogue is being negative, it's a covering up of our own years and shifting to something else. Ah, pattern interrupt in this process has four steps. Let's begin to look at the 1st 2 In the next couple lectures will look at the third and fourth. The very first thing to Dio is to capture what precisely the inner dialogue? A saying. I get people all the time that I want to know. Well, how do I shut my inner dialogue up? I ask those people well, what does it say to you? And the response is inevitably I don't know. So we want to get really clear, become a detective, become a scientist and find out what it truly is saying to you Carry around over the next few days two or three days a notebook and bring it to work being it on the subway. The bus. Bring it in your car, bring it for your walks at the park. Bring it during your lunch time. Bring it during your social engagements, and any time a negative internal dialogue comes up, pause and ask yourself, What is it saying to me? Typically, negative internal dialogue is set off by an external trigger, meaning that there's something that's causing you fear, something that's causing you anxiety, something that may be making you a bit uncomfortable. And that trigger then sets into motion a routine. The routine, in this case, is an internal routine. It's a routine of thinking. Now you want to get very clear so soon as you hear that negative internal dialogue, open up your notebook and just jot it down so that you could be clear on it. That's step number one, Step number two. After just two or three days of capturing this negative internal dialogue, I'd submit that there's a good chance that you'll come up with two or three common themes that that negative voices consistently saying to you, and then look at those negative dialogues. Look at that negative dialogue. Distill it down to the two or three and then ask yourself this specific question. If I allow this negative dialogue to continue, what are the consequences for me now? And what are the consequences for me in the future? The reason for Step two. If you truly answer this question and then you go back to look at what the consequences are , you'll see that the consequences are grave and that alone will get you pissed off. It'll set in motion a sense of indignation and indignation from this standpoint can be a tremendous propellant for making massive shifts. Because when you read it and you realize, Hey, this is holding me back from meeting the man of my dreams, meeting the woman of my dreams from getting a new job, a better promotion from meeting my neighbors from expressing myself from looking at people in the eyes from making more money. Whatever it is that you determine of the consequences, then that alone will help set in motion that you're not gonna take this anymore again. The 1st 2 steps are captured. The inner dialogue get really clear on it and then ask yourself the question. If you allow that negative internal dialogue to continue, what are the consequences for you now? And what is it holding you back from in the future? In the next lecture will then begin to look at steps three and then steps four of dealing with this inner critic. 5. NLP Pattern Interrupt Steps 2 3: step three of the process is to interrupt and then to replace. You're going to interrupt the negative, disempowering dialogue and then replace that dialogue with something that's empowering. And I'm gonna show you how to do both in just a moment. Now this interrupt and replace strategy is a very commonly used by my colleagues by psychologists When they're dealing with people who are having negative internal dialogue were in post pulse control or challenge is just really, really focusing. And the interrupt piece. This doesn't have to be complicated, by the way, and I don't want to make it complicated cause it really isn't. It's fairly simple. The interrupt is literally just butting in at the moment when you hear that negative internal chatter kicking up. So, for example, if you're negative, internal dialogue is saying, Well, I'm a loser. Then at the moment that you hear it start to say I'm a loser, then you want to interrupt that what I have found works really well is using simple language. For many people, the word release works. They hear the negative internal dialogue as it's starting to impact them internally, they say to themselves, release another word that works really well is the word stop here, the negative internal dialogue it starts to kick in. Maybe it's triggered by something that you're fearful, fearful of something that you're anxious of. The dialogue starts to say something to you. You recognize it as being negative and unhelpful, and you say to yourself, Stop if it's a pervasive dialogue, one that's really deep in that leads to specific behaviours. Sometimes clients find visualizing having a visual depiction of an interrupt. So in addition to saying the word stop, also picturing at the same time a bright red stop sign. So that is the the interrupt piece of Step three. Almost simultaneously, as you're interrupting that negative pattern of thinking, either with a word or a visual depiction, you want to then replace the negative internal dialogue with something. Empowering this again does not have to be challenging or difficult. It's fairly simple. For example, let's say you're going out to meet a hopefully the new love of your life. It's a blind date. Perhaps you have an internal dialogue that says, Well, I'm not handsome enough for I'm not pretty enough. I'm not beautiful enough. You want to interrupt that pattern with a release for a stop and then replace that dialogue with something like, I am absolutely perfect and beautiful. I am just the way the creator made me. Or let's say that your internal negative chatter says that you can't. You can't be successful. I can't do this. I can't do that. Then you want to interrupt that pattern with release or stop and then replace it with something like Of course I can. I have all of the ability within me. I just need to tap into it right now. All right, So now that you have the 1st 3 steps really simple and again, this is not a complicated thing. That's what I want you to get. You can make huge changes just with this exercise. You have the 1st 3 steps. So what? I'd recommend that you dio is determined right now. What interrupt pattern you're going to use. Just choose one of the the three that I gave you. Perhaps you decide right now that when you hear that negative internal dialogue, you're going to use the word release Or maybe you choose you like the word stop better. Because if you make that decision. Now it does something, and it's highly recognized in the psychological communities. Is that what it does is it frees you up from having to make any in the moment decisions when the challenges upon you. So when you're having that internal dialogue, the last thing that you want to do is say, but which words should I use? You wanna have that? Now? Choose it, commit to it, work with it for 30 days, and before you move to step four in the next lecture, spend five minutes, please. Just five minutes and craft exactly what it is that you're going to say to yourself that's going to replace that inner dialogue after you interrupt it with the release or the stop get really crystal clear on this. So again, it doesn't take any banned within the moment. You don't have to think about it. It's already there. You know you're gonna work with this new statement. I am beautiful. I am proud. I am capable. I have all of the tools within me to succeed, whatever it is that you come up with that you're comfortable with and the next lecture will go to Step four where will tell you what to do now that you have this new crafted internal dialogue and you have your own interrupt pattern. 6. NLP pattern Interrupt Step 4: All right. So the four step to the processes to take action and before you disconnect, trust me, I get it. I know that you didn't pay for this course you didn't invest your time your energy to have anyone tell you to just do it right that's so pervasive around the world. Just do it Model. Therefore, when I want to do is hopefully present action to you from a different context so that you understand how it fits as a piece to this puzzle on how essential it really is. Let me introduce you to something known a self perception. Self perception theory was originally identified by Dr Darrell Ben from Cornell University , and probably the easiest way for me to help you get your your thinking around. Self perception is through an example or an exercise. If you would just for a moment, imagine that you look outside the window, your window and you see a young man. Maybe he's 15 16 years old and he's helping a little old lady across the street. He hazard gently by the hand, and he's helping it to navigate the traffic so that she gets safely to the other side The only thing that you know about this young man is that you saw him help a little old lady across the street. Yet I bet you would make some value judgments about this young men. You probably would say things to yourself like, Well, that's a really kind young kid. Wow, What a polite young boy. Or you may say to yourself, Man, if I ever have kids, I hope my child is just like that. So you've made value judgements. They were good value judgments. They were based on what you saw that young man doing What self perception theory says You make value judgments about yourself the same exact way that you make value judgments about other people based on what you see yourself doing in the moment, in some sense, to simplify. There's almost an alternate version of you, and that alternate version is hanging out 10 feet above your head night and day. It's got his eyes on you. She's got a rise on you. She's picking down, and that alternate version is keeping tabs based on what it sees you doing. The alternate version does not care what you feel does not care what you're thinking about and does not care what you're saying to yourself. The only thing that that alternate version cares about is what it sees you doing in the moment. So if it sees you helping a little old lady across the street, it's going to make a value judgement that says that you're kind person. If it sees you acting in accordance with your new empowering beliefs, the beliefs that you scripted out, the beliefs that counter act, the negative internal dialogues, the ones that we created in the previous lecture, then it's going to look down and say Wow, I see myself taking bold actions towards the things that I want. Therefore I must be bold. I see myself taking confident steps towards the things that I desire. Therefore, I must be confident I see myself date making difficult decisions when difficult decisions are necessary. Therefore, I must be the kind of person who could make difficult decisions in psychology. This is referred to as a self fulfilling prophecy or a snowball effect, because what happens is Theo alternate version makes this value judgment and then the value judgment than Forster's and propels the similar or like behavior So, for example, let's say that previously you were terrified and felt really unconfident and giving presentations or talking to large groups of people or even small groups of people following the model of self perception. What you would need to do is to volunteer to raise your hand, to say at work. Okay, let me give that presentation or if perhaps you never shared ideas at meetings, is to speak up. And remember that, according to self perception, that the only thing that matters is what your alternate self sees you doing. So even if you take on a presentation and the audience, if they don't respond the way that you want them to respond, that's not gonna matter. What's going to matter is that your alternate version sees you taking that bold move is going to say wow, okay, this is a person that is confident, And if the crowd doesn't respond well and you handle it the right way, you take the right actions, then yourself. Perceptions going to say Okay, this is the person most had a handle. Adversity. If you typically go to networking or social events in your a wallflower, but this time you see somebody across the room that you'd like to meet. Then take the action with the comfort of knowing that just by taking the action you're creating a snowball effect by walking across the room doing something different. Your exterior self is going to say Ah ha! I must be confident. Look at me, boy. I'm going across the room. My shoulders are back. My chin is up. My chest is out. I must be confident. Give it a try. You have the four steps. These four steps would integrate it when worked on for 21 to 30 days they become a new habit and they start to really infiltrate every fiber of your being and start to shift how you not only see yourself, but how you interact with the world around you. 7. Now Included in Skillshare Membership: