NLP: Destroy Self-Doubt #3 - Psychological View of Emotional States | Patrick Howell | Skillshare

NLP: Destroy Self-Doubt #3 - Psychological View of Emotional States

Patrick Howell, International Best-Selling Instructor

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3 Lessons (13m)
    • 1. NLP Confidence Anchoring What You'll Learn

      0:57
    • 2. Anchoring Psychological Overview and Examples

      6:21
    • 3. Practice Anchors with Script Skillshare

      6:00

About This Class

Join Life Coach Master Trainer Patrick Howell for a thorough, informative 13 minute course on the Psychology of NLP Emotional Anchor Process

During this 13 minute course you'll unpack the psychological underpinnings of NLP Anchors and then you'll be prompted to apply the strategy in your own life.

Who's teaching this course? 

I'm Patrick Howell. Over the past 25 years In the field of life and business coach training, I've worked with tens of thousands of people and currently have more than 36,000 students in 172 countries. 

Transcripts

1. NLP Confidence Anchoring What You'll Learn : we're gonna learn what NLP anchors are, and then you're gonna have an opportunity to practice your very first anchoring exercise. And as you'll see in the next video, the first exercise comes with a recommendation to practise the exercise with a partner. It is on Lee. A recommendation watched the next video. You'll understand better why that recommendation is in place. It is not essential you can use the exercise as I explain completely alone. That's completely fine. Once you've learned the psychology and the neurobiology of why anchoring works and then you've practiced this very first exercise later on in the course, we're gonna have more opportunities to in green your own personal anchors to set self directed intentional anchors with in your life. 2. Anchoring Psychological Overview and Examples : the terminology. Anchoring is often time somewhat convoluted. You may have heard the term before, but students often times have a difficult experience grasping what anchoring really means. So by the end of this lecture, you should understand the practicality of anchors, recognize their place in human performance and be prepared to implement anchoring within your own life as a whole. Anchors typically occur outside the realm of consciousness. In other words, they happen organically. You become anchored to a particular state, a particular feeling when presented with a stimulus that triggers an intense emotional state of being anchored. Feelings can be positive or negative when left unchecked on wanted anchors. Unwanted anchored feelings can make life difficult and extremely unpleasant. What neural, linguistic and psychological research shows is that, although on average anchors occur outside the realm of consciousness, they can also be self directed or intentionally put into place through specific human performance techniques. Let me give you an example of how unwanted anchors develop. When I was in grade school, the men in this picture reminds me in demeanor of my principal. So when I was in, I think second grade I had committed some infraction of the classroom rules, and the principal was called to the classroom to intervene As his large body entered the classroom. It commanded my attention. Then his hands slammed down on the teacher's desk, and he pointed his large Harry Index finger in my direction. Now remember, I was about seven years old. This is a terrifying experience for a second grader Now. In truth, I don't recall what took place after that. What I do know is that during my grade school years, anytime the principal would enter the classroom for me or not, I would experience an intense rush of fear. Now I could see the principle in the hallway or on the playground, and it wouldn't create any significant feelings. The stimulus that I was anchored to was specific. My fear, anchor or response was triggered by the act of him walking into the classroom. Now, just to be clear, Anchored feelings take on many forms, and those feelings can be triggered by any one of your senses. For example, the visual trigger of seeing the lights of a police car in your rear view mirror. This may trigger or invoke anchored feelings of nervousness, anxiety or maybe even guilt or the auditory trigger of hearing a parent love one or authority figure. Call out your name with a particular tone of voice. How about the olfactory? Were sense of smell trigger that may overwhelm you when you get a whiff of homemade pie, just like Mom or Grandma used to make? And it suddenly transports you back in time. And it's as if you were experiencing those pleasant days of yesteryear in the here and now . Okay, now that you understand anchors, But before you take on an intentional anchoring exercise, let's answer the question. Why are self directed anchors so empowering? Self directed anchors can enable you to break disempowering frames of mind. You can use anchors to shift your experience from one that is anxiety or fear driven to one that is empowered and confidence driven. Truth is, I don't want this to be a disingenuous exercise for you. So with complete and full disclosure for me to be able to reach through the computer as if you were in one of my life classrooms and effectively set a new anchor of confidence for you would be a bit more challenging. What's more realistic is for me to walk you through the steps of anchoring and then to encourage you to go ahead and find a partner, a friend, a family member, someone that you can work with in a mutually beneficial way. Then, with this person, you can begin your practice and anchoring by helping them said, a desired anchor that will move them towards their goals. The reason I recommend solidifying you're learning about anchors by helping someone else, said an anchor, is because in going through the steps of practice in this fashion, not only will you see first hand the impact it has on someone else, but you'll also open yourself up to ah ha moments where you'll gain insight into exactly how the anchoring process works. Once you've taught the process to someone else, you'll be perched and ready to consistently set self directed anchors in your own life, and I get that question a lot from students. You may want to know, Can you set your own anchors? And the answer is absolutely yes again. The reason for doing it with a partner first is that it will help you to flush out the entire process and make it crystal clear in the resource section of this lecture, there is a print off exercise. Please download it or print it off now because in the next lecture, I'm going toe walk you through step by step, the entire anchoring process. 3. Practice Anchors with Script Skillshare : In the previous lecture, you learned all about anchors that are set into motion because of triggers that are outside of your control for this particular exercise. However, in intentional, self directed anchoring, you'll need to manufacture a trigger, and this trigger that you manufacture or create needs to be easily replicable. So the trigger that I recommend that you use during the beginning stages of anchoring is simply to press the tip of your index finger and your thumb together very tightly. Because this is very innocuous. It's not obvious. It's probably not something that you do very often, and it's a really simple trigger that you can use anywhere, any time, and no one will notice. What you want to do with your partner is you want your partner to identify the resource state that they want to achieve meaning. How do they want to feel? Perhaps they want to feel more confident. Maybe they want to feel more energized. Maybe they want to feel more calm. And once you have the resource state identified, then we're gonna use this script and I'm gonna fill in the blanks with confidence. For this case is a placeholder. You're gonna ask your partner. Can you remember a time when you felt totally confident? Can you recall a specific time as you go back to that time? Go right back to that time, Float down into your body and see what you saw. Hear what you heard and feel the feelings of feeling totally confident one more time. Can you remember a time when you felt totally confident? Can you recall a specific time as you go back to that time? Go right back to that time, float down in your body and see what you saw. Hear what you heard and feel the feelings of feeling totally confident. And usually what will happen about now is you'll start to see a difference in the partners physiology because if they are associating with this recall time and they're right in the moment you're going to see shoulders pull back. You're going to see a different look on their face, and what you want to do is you want to instruct them that while they're at the height of this recalled experience is when they want to introduce the stimulus, they want to squeeze the tip of their index finger and their thumb together very tightly, and they want to hold it for about 3 to 5 seconds. Step four is where you, as the leader in this process, break the state. So once your partner has completed the experience performed that physical gesture, press their index finger and thumb together, you should interrupt their concentration. We refer to this is breaking the state, and you can accomplish it by asking them something that's totally unrelated. Like what did you have for breakfast this morning? Step five is where you're going. Tohave your partner. Test the strength of the anchor to ensure that it is indeed set. You want to ask them now to just squeeze the tip of their fingers together. And do they feel any of their chosen feeling? If so, then the self imposed anchor has been set. If not, then you want a double back and make sure that the keys to anchoring success, which are located on page one of this document are being implemented. The very first key is intensity, the degree of connection that the partner is making to the desired state, the seeing, the hearing, the feeling the associating right with a past previous time when they felt that way before , when they felt that confidence before intensity is hugely important in setting any anchor. Because theme or emotionally attached we are to it, the more likely it is that the anchor will really grab. Timing is also important. So applying the stimulus at the height of the relived experience right here at the tip, it's almost like a roller coaster. We don't want to do it on the ride up. We don't want to do it on the ride down. We want to do it right at the tip before we come down right at the height of the roller coaster peak, while the thrill is the highest, and that's where we want to squeeze the index finger and the thumb together. We also want the anchor of the stimulus to be unique, And that's why we're choosing the index finger and the thumb squeezing together. It's probably not something that you dio replication is also important. Can you repeat it? Can it be something that could be done in public? And the answer to this is yes and then numbers of times, meaning that we want to repeat this process, the more often that we walked the person through it. So if we do it two or three times, then we start to create these new neurological pathways. Now again, this is work for your partner in the script is here, as you can see. And as I mentioned before these air, the same exact steps that you would use to set your own anchor. There is nothing different. You just want to take yourself back to remembering a time when you felt totally confident and be calling it very specifically and then floating back down into your body and again seeing what you saw, hearing what you heard and feeling those past feelings of feeling totally confident and when you're at the roller coaster peak is where you want to introduce your stimulus. So go ahead and give this a try with a partner. Try it two or three times. You can even use different resource states. So if it's confidence one time and then maybe calmness or energy the next time and see how it works. If you would post to the discussion board any successes that you're having with this any challenges and any questions